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Do I have a Right to say No? - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin
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Practical Chasidus w Rabbi Chaim Dalfin - Maamar Rabi 1942 #8
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okay but we have to continue let's go
page
286.
i may have to leave story robin i have
to leave early okay
okay i i i'm thinking moshe
that you know we need to maybe make this
year a little earlier because people are
getting busy in the afternoon and i
understand
that it's the middle of the work day i i
i don't know what to do whatever
whatever it works i mean i'm
somewhat flexible right now it may
change but i think moisture mushroom
didn't you want it at this time
myself prefers it now hilo prefers it
now
um okay yoni usually comes he's dealing
with
father whatever i'm not i haven't
decided but
rabbi it just uh it seems
it just seems to me that when we had it
which it seems to me that when we had it
earlier
um more people attended uh
you know i because as the day goes on i
know shmuel said this to me
uh you know that as the day goes on
you know the work day begins even though
in america it's
still seven in the morning um
yeah i don't know i don't know other
people people that work evenings
generally don't start work till about
four three thirty four that people do
night shift but
um you know the other thing is that the
other learning's going on with some of
the guys with rabbi
um which i've been attending robert
epstein from 11 30 to 1
30. yeah that's also
yeah but he yeah but he but he he and i
have spoken and
he could change it he just he just did
that time because
um i asked that this year be later so
that i don't have to get up four in the
morning
and get up a little later so uh he
accommodated that
he told me that he's flexible he can go
back i mean
i mean from the time you finish davening
at 9 30 or 10
or whenever um you know i mean until 11
30 is an hour and a half
so even if we made it a half an hour a
half an hour earlier or 45 minutes
earlier maybe it's worth
i don't know sure i i don't want to let
us know
okay we'll we'll see we'll see but right
now
um we're explaining apostate in the
torah and it's very interesting
how this mimer the reb explains it in a
very different way than
than we translate it and we look into
the commentaries
the possibility is in partial it's the
opening passage
you shall do them and number four the
result will be when asathi and i will
give gishmachim
rain i'll give you rain so
your produce will will grow and you'll
have what to eat etc
so the rep explains these four clauses
in the scent in the sentence of
siddhas and he said
and he taught us already in the last few
classes that bakugai sai
is plural and means besides laws
statutes
it also is associated with the word
kakika to engrave
and we spoke about this idea how to
needs to be engraved in a jew
and he and that's the fir and if you
will accomplish to engrave
tata in yourself then teleko you will
you shall go
you will become a mahalik and if you're
not if you're lacking
you're like crawling you're not walking
you're crawling
that was the first thing yesterday we
learned about the concept of his esme
site and he asked a very very simple
question why do you have to guard
and watch mitzvahs you do a mitzvah what
do you have to
tish me to guard it watch it protect it
so the rebbe explained
that this refers to
doing the mitzvah with heischeck and
raza
kaiser can russian means with pleasure
and delight
and schmuck so it doesn't mean you have
to
you know it doesn't mean guard it
when you do it guarding over here means
doing it with a real pleasure and
delight a real dishmak
and the hebrew word for that that he
used this
which is contrary to doing a mitzvah
as much as yesterday be a diamond face
with weak hands derek mitchell
with apathy and the rabbit then said
those
powerful strong words
you draw down no energy of hashem
means anything
so this is the second idea that the
hashem says in the toyota the s with
voice i tishmaru
when you do mitzvahs guard them watching
watch that meaning do them with
heisek with this desire and real geshmaq
and pleasure
which then he goes to the the third
point
you shall make them you shall do them
now of course
we just said this it's what's right
so it seems like vasis is repetitious
so the rabbit says no it's not
repetitious
because here we're referring to simcha
mitzvah
mitzvah means that not only are you
doing them
with with pleasure simply you have
joy a person
has joy from something that brings them
joy and
when you have simcha you have simcha so
the taylor is saying
the doing of the mitzvah should be done
in such a way
that it brings you mitzvah so each time
you put on trillion you're totally
electrified it totally
is ecstatic so that's
the third nakuda and now today we begin
learning
on the sixth line from the top of 286
the fourth part and of the sentence the
final part of the sentence
okay the line begins with the words the
ozil and kula yeoman and we're at the
word vanasati
will give you a special gift especially
for the sati and i shall give
you some
in the right time
and explains and that that means that
shambles has
blessed us with sustenance
water makes grow
all kinds of delicacies
right you you plant you need water
to make things grow oh my email your
there's something called the upper
waters coming from heaven it's a
spiritual concept
and it's also a physical concept where
it reigns
in this means that this water
coming from hashem
makes grow spiritual delicacies
someone who has delight
in singing a hasidic tune
someone that has the light in meditating
ungodliness
someone who has the light
something spiritual is is so pleasurable
to him
more so than anything physical
that's called the tai no okay remember
those words
here is just using the plural thai new
game
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plural so
who gives a yid
the ability
we are not we aren't able to create
this taino gluchni
to feel the taino grouchni
it needs to come after you've done aleph
beijing gimmel
right and then you get a a big
a reward what's the reward you have a
tiny group
of something it's a fallacy
when people say usually it's a fallacy
oh i'm in love with god
i feel god in my bones i have pleasure
from god
ask the person who says that ask
them if you really feel god and you
really have pleasure from godliness
how can you simultaneously enjoy
a good steak
how could you sign the paper i'm very
surprised at that example
meaning forgive me for it i mean
i would think i would
i would think that the question would be
something like uh
i would think the question is the
question is like if you really love god
so then how come you're not
internalizing what god wants from you
when you don't have the good steak
right in other words the good steak is
just enjoying
like that's like that's like that's like
the cream right that's like
why not enjoy your steak hashem gave you
the steak enjoy the steak
but if you really love god so then what
is maybe ask
what does god what else does god want
from you
besides the steaks i i understand but i
let me not i don't i i don't believe you
understood what i said because
you didn't let me finish but let me
finish
if you're eating the steak for hashem's
purposes
of course then the stake becomes part of
the the godly pleasure
we're not the whole approach of the
belgian is to embrace kashmir's
and elevate gosh means not to exclude
kashmiris that's what you're talking
about
what i'm saying but but the volceptiv is
not saying
embrace kashmir and be stuck in the
gospels
that that's and that's what i was
referring to
where you embrace the gospels and you're
fooling yourself
and you you you think you're you're
you're at a higher level and you're not
because when you showing him and this
goes be before the balshampton
that you showing him have a rule
you cannot bet you cannot have
simultaneous pleasure of gosh
it is an impossible and
impossible experience in the physical
world we live in that's what they say
now what do they mean if you have
tainou of that's what you have
you might you of course you're tasting
the steak but when you taste the steak
is the godly energy
so what is your taino not the physical
taste
it's the godly taste as it expresses
itself in the taste of the food
that's a different thing no one was
talking about that
i wasn't talking about that i'm talking
about
someone who tastes
the steak or the gas mias whatever it is
and is taken and moved
by the gospels outside of
the godly association
and that that is an oxymoron that's a
contradiction
who do you love you love hashem or you
love
the basmius if the goshmius becomes a
let me yes if the gospels becomes a tool
for hashem
and that's the way it should be then
it's a different story but
but what i was addressing is the
assessment the assessment
to know ourselves very well
and to really and to really believe
that what we're that what we're
experiencing is godliness
yes motion yeah
i maybe just answered it but were you
just saying that someone is attributing
the
gush mess to something other than hashem
in other words
he's he's experiencing that kashmiris
but not attributing it to god
correct correct all right correct
it's not it's it's a danger but that's a
danger
yeah but i i i was really
addressing the fallacy
of believing
that we have we love hashem
we love god and at the same time we love
goshmias
it doesn't the two don't go together it
just doesn't go together
that doesn't mean to say that you sh you
shouldn't use gosh means for hashem
but before a person
can can say with surety
i love god and that's all i love
and everything that i do is an
expression of god's love
you have to really be refined
you have to work on yourself so when the
rabbit says here in the my mirror look
at the words
this is when spiritual delicacies
are are grown
and the physical water rain
makes physical delicacies
grow
um going back to the positive and i
will place and i will give this
your reign the etham in its time in its
appropriate time
influence will be given to the person
who has already engaged in the one two
three conditions
of number three then will come
the gift the rain the blessing
where where where is this rain coming
from
it's coming from very on high so it
accomplishes something that is
totally removed from the physical
experience and yet
that is what is given to the avid hashem
the one who
fulfills the fir the three details of
the passage
in boho what is water
the maya mignon
it's idea is the study the learning of
taylor
calls them as the verse says hi whoa
cult sammy whoever is thirsty
the hula mayan go to water and take a
drink
what does it mean when you're thirsty go
take a drink of water
the koi it refers to
and what are the lower waters who gol
you should potato that's the revealed
part of toyota
so now we have an interesting
practical idea
the lower waters meaning the waters that
are here on earth
that refers to the observable water
which is the revealed part of taylor
the gemara the missionaries
everything that's observable and
understood and all that
maya mel the upper waters
it's the esoteric
the inner aspect of tata
that is not experienced
properly until you experience
the galia sheba toyota and then the
plenus
is given to you as a gift one second i
know what you're gonna ask probably but
wait
please
now does this mean to say
that we shouldn't learn paninis
as some want to argue and position
absolutely not what we're saying is
that when will the ultimate of panimiya
satora
be mastered and and experienced
when you have prepped yourself with gay
shabbat
so when you learn halacha and you learn
the basic food afterwards you can
appreciate a good dessert
if you jump to a dessert without the
left and beforehand
it's not as pleasurable
so the ultimate of preemie satyara
of what he called earlier in the mimer
tainagni
is given to you after you have the
preparation of the first three steps
moshe what you want to say
i just want to ask a technical question
a word
i see in the mind
these notes on the bottom translate many
of the words that are
unfamiliar so
the kaii it refers to
so he gives you the hebrew translation
so it's just you follow or not
okay yeah
it means it's just helping us to
understand the sentence right
meaning that
however
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in order to experience the esoteric
the inner aspect of tito who are you
they
avoid
and this is what i said to you earlier
maisha this is through
refining the your your goof
and your animal drive the nephesh
obama's and here comes the answer to the
question that he asked
in the beginning of the mime in the
first chapter
this is the proper path that one has to
choose
mashi one that is beautiful for
the creator and as well this ephedra
slay minnow
i'm beautiful for mankind and the
question we asked is
what other what else is there besides
torah mitzvahs
that rabbi yehuda nasi rabbi oymer
giving us this brilliant advice
and the ants and he calls the dead
yeshua
in other words you could learn tata and
not without refining your gosummies
you can do mitzvahs without refining
your gospels
the activity of taking the
the the ugly nepheshabamas and its
and its and its practices and behavior
and refining it makes you
not only beautiful to hashem because
you've taken
the uh the inappropriate and unhealthy
cravings and drives and all that and
made it godly
but it also makes you a better mensch
and people like you better now that ebb
is going to
focus on the word to ferris because peer
keepers the mystery says
to ferris right robbie says
master hit the fairest with the fairest
loyal
so now let's see what he says about the
word the ferrous
hemisphere
is the balanced medium
with the fattest laminar organ
this balanced approach
makes you beautiful amongst men amongst
people
as it says we in the in the naval of
that we just read schwarz
about the appearance that was on the
throne
the most it appears to be the image of
of a man all of mild milo that's up on
the throne
through all them this refers to
supernova man
there you
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your body and bodily needs and
everything else
we draw we draw down we bring into the
world and enter our lives
prince hatiferez the ottoman
the beautiful charismatic
supernova man
the source and the root the root and the
source
of the intellect and the emotions
the adam of lower man
of man on earth what is he saying
beauty what is beauty
beauty is the messing
of opposites
if a person is very strong in in
intellect but not in emotions or vice
versa
or a person strong in kindness but not
in control
that's not beauty
beauty is and beauty the hebrew for
beauty is to fetus
beautiful what is the fattest and
moisture you as an artist know
when you mix together colors
and when you mix together colors the
composition
is such that it's rich beyond richness
and it's such richness that
that each color in in its own
independent right
cannot create and psychologically if you
think about it then you'll read about
this more in the book
10 keys to understanding moshe that you
started to read
charisma we use the word charismatic
charisma
what what what does that consist of it
consists of someone
who knows how to blend and has a good
blend
of intellect and emotions if it's just
intellect it's not charismatic and if
it's just emotions it's not charismatic
but the interface of the do as
applied in our daily lives makes that
individual that experience a charismatic
person and a charismatic experience
so when pierkie of his talk
what's the path you should choose says
robbie
you know what the path is work with your
gospels
don't exclude your gospels
if you exclude your gospels it's like a
one
color experience
working with your goshmeas and refining
your gospels
is a to ferris are meshing a mixing of
the colors
and that's the nicest experience
because you succeed in combining
the other elyon and the and other
matakin
upper man and lower man the other
allah say in kabbalistic terminology
man that sits on the throne
and then there is lower man man on earth
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and this is the idea that although it
says if in my statutes you shall
follow and we explained that in does not
mean if but rather
i wish
[Music]
is opening himself up and giving us an
inner peak into his wishes
normally you know we don't share our
wishes
just just with someone who's close to us
so hashem here says i'm going to share
with you a wish that i have
what is that wish
[Music]
these statutes that's
where i mean i'm interested in them i'm
very interested in them
pursue it and you have to be smart
when you when you hear someone who you
care for
that has a certain wish you need to know
that that's where it's at
they won't say much you know they'll
just say a word or two
a hint but the person who is
tuned in plugged in understands
ah that's where it's at halawa
so the halifaya experience
is the ultimate experience
i think i told you that the hasidim of
the samasedik
would say what's the difference between
the time of mashiach and now now we're
learning about atsila's brie
is feeders everything that we learn in
siddhis and when mashiach will come
we'll also learn about those things so
barack what's the difference
so the sydney said the difference is in
the
aha
will come they'll say aha
this is what i learned is that silas now
i smell it
now i see it now i eat it now it's my
reality
aha
here he doesn't use the word aha uses
the word
it's the halawai that's where it's at
let's continue
and when you relate to the halifay
your neshama becomes
goers walkers travelers movers and
shakers
in simple english they aim
in the positive sense not in the
negative sense
the emily cain for if this wasn't the
case
why has the soul descended below
because the purpose for the descent of
the soul of the neshama
hibishville aliyah is for the purpose of
the ascent
that's infinite that's limitless
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that feeling of limitless love
it touches the infinite essence of god
known as acts was either yourself
when there is and so how do i get this
like i always say it doesn't come from
eating popcorn
and pizza and playing golf
and surfing the internet it comes from
schwitz
yesterday we spoke about switzerland for
a mitzvah
it comes from harevanya from effort and
diligence
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it comes through the service the
activity of refining
and correcting the animal drive
because then you have yes
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when is light significant when it comes
from the darkness itself
you know motion when you have both
motions when you have a
a dark room and you put a candle into
the room or you
turn on the switch that's light that's
great
but imagine taking the darkness itself
transforming the darkness and the
darkness becomes
the springboard for
light it becomes light
that's the greatest achievement
and it's a very hard achievement but if
you
succeed in one area
in doing that in your life you are a
real avid hashem
you really and and i and i and and by
the way i don't mean just
darkening and learning remember what are
we talking about here azalea derek
should you ever lawyer or dumb
we're not talking about darkening and
learning doing misses and studying today
that we don't need to give it to give us
the advice that he gives us
that we know from from the torah
the holy thyroid
to be in the physical world dealing with
gospels
and transforming gospels and for that
you needed
because without an ebber
you get lost and many and you fall into
the trap of gas mias
shows you the balance how much is
how much is the requisite amount to be
there
and not to be there if you're there too
much
it gets sucked in if you had too little
you're not there at all
or very little so what's the balance
rabbit
and that's why arabic tells you
go here or go there or work here or work
there
only arabic and tell you that because
arabic sees your neshama
unless you see the neshama you can't
advise a person to make their a choice
in their life this isn't a college
advisor
telling a student i think you would be
good in this area
this isn't a psychologist or a rabbi
or a lawyer or any other professional
advising someone
a rebbe is
a soul maven a maven of the neshama
and it's a very different experience so
in order
to take darkness and transform darkness
to light
which is a very risky business because
you're walking into darkness
and you know when you walk in the dark
you've been i think guys sometimes
through a blackout
you know it's very very um
uncomfortable and scary
and to take that darkness and not only
make bring light into the darkness but
actually use the darkness for light
that's a that's a a very hard avada
but through having a rabbit a robbie
anime
then you succeed what's the time fellas
it's 47-46
okay any any questions or comments and
we'll stop here and tomorrow we'll
finish the my memory letter
well um yeah there are some questions
but maybe i should
text you because i don't have time now
uh just two questions i guess
we can answer them later if you want uh
one is
uh is an example of this darkness going
through this darkness
when fighting ones meet us uh trying to
correct amita
that's what you're talking about yes
that's one aspect the other question is
yeah yeah go ahead but
the question is how do we fix the media
how do we correct the meter
so one way is one second one way
is bringing overpowering the
negative media the ugly trait
with light with positivity
that's one the first step
the second step is taking
the meter itself and using first sham so
for example
a person who has anger who suffers from
anger
gets very angry many times
they work on themselves where they don't
get angry anymore at
and they use their anger when it's
appropriate
in in anything that is contrary to god
they get angry at that and they get
angry at themselves
they don't they get angry when they act
inappropriate so they
they don't eliminate the anger
they harness the anger to focus on
themselves they're focusing on others
you understand so they've been yeah
yeah go ahead
what's your second question i know
you're saying
it can be also but if you get angry with
yourself that's also they say can be
damaging right
you know if you all you failed at
something like messed up again
so are you fooled okay so we'll we'll
substitute the word anger with
frustration frustration
is very healthy and important
okay anger is not anger is should be
eliminated
frustration gets you to
grow and it doesn't lead
to a depression but it leads to a
motivation
of what can i do to make a change
but i i don't want to you know that was
the first question the second question
you had was about robbie what's your
question
certain ways to go review this is to
consult the rebbe right
so that's more of having having a good
remedy to consult with that's
you're talking about alright but but no
one on that level today
someone on that level today sorry it's
not so always readily or is it
you feel it's really available i feel
that if a person is seeking
arabic and really wants a rabbit they
can
find the rebel and they should find the
rebel
but they need to find the right rabbit
not
you know convince themselves that they
like this person
and therefore it becomes your rebbe it
doesn't work that way
it's not it's not choosing a picking
apples in an orchard
yes wouldn't you say we have a dolphin
though that the whole point of our
learning
is everything we're learning is to
look at the unique
guidance of the ban especially the
rabbit
even though he's not with us here
physically
right but by us learning
and connecting that is
that is of course accessing
you know accessing a rabbit that would
be
more powerful a more powerful of an
experience
a growth experience an ongoing growth
experience
than we could i mean that anybody else
perhaps could provide
i mean you know you know i'll i'll i'll
speak more about this on thursday mr sam
because i have another share in a few
minutes but
basically what what you said and i i
believe i think i
believe i understand what you're saying
it's not
that way meaning to say if
you come to a point in your
in your life in your essence and your
feeling
and it comes through learning but but
the feeling that you walk away with is
that this
person be it physical or through his
forearm
is the rabbit that understands your
neshama
and sees yoneshamma then you identify
with him
the learning is a tool an instrument to
get
to the objective the objective is
that i bel i i believe and feel
that his learning and teaching is such
that it talks to me and and it talks to
me that it's it's identifying
my summer
so whether the rebbe a rebbe is
physically alive
or spiritually alive and by the way
i think i've told you this isn't only
with the rebbe with the breslau
they feel that way those that are real
blessed because i see them repenchment
of breast lift
and i told you i was once born by
someone who had candles and swarm
of visit the trevor you know and he had
a seat
and you know i told you that story and
he felt
that the reb of 150 years ago is his
rapper
i saw it and he wasn't alabama he's a
friend you know
the point is so it's not just exclusive
to chabad and
it's anyone that comes through learning
the
safari so maisha the learning of the
swarm of the rebels foreign the
the the ability to make a choice
is this person that i've learned about
and learned his torah and his teachings
is he the individual that talks to my
soul
and if someone and if someone concludes
it's not
let him find himself another rabbit if
he can
that will talk to his neshama and guess
what some people do
and and and kolakovart has strolling
to diminish another person's path
but as long as you're being honest so
that's why i said to you moshe myers
that the idea but because people make
they say oh i choose him as my rabbit
i was speaking to an 80-plus year old
man in lakewood
a week ago or so who's an author for art
scroll
and a talmud and and a very respectable
person
and he moved teresa's role to russia and
somehow i don't know how i didn't get a
chance to dialogue enough
he met the toner um the
the toner i think what one of the rep is
hiroshima
and he's he said he's now his cousin
and you know he although it comes from
galicia
you know his ancestry but he he was
trained in literature yeshivas
and he's talking to me like he's a like
not like like and there's a hostage and
i was like
very surprised and
and and he told me that's that you know
he became enamored
in jerusalem with this individual and he
says i can't you have to
hear him and learn his thing so
god forbid to say oh he's found the
wrong heaven no
for him this rabbit talks to him for
another person another rabbit talks to
him
but the point being this isn't a it
isn't a game
it's nishama so you you know
when you when you when you reflect and
you and you think about the greater
you know being that's being experienced
here
that's when you will identify
a real reader for you
might not be from me it might not be for
him
but it's for you and
that's why that's so and that's why what
moshe said before
learning the tita of
the that obey him you know
you know frankly there might be a person
who's learning he's my modern with us
and walks away saying the previous
rabbis might have
now you know in the dynasty of lobavich
all the six rabbis go through the our
our river
but if one person doesn't have that
feeling
you can't force it on him it's not it's
not forcible
and he identifies so then
if someone were to you know talking with
him and say let me show you how
the rebbe the last the today's rebel
is the one that takes the previous
rebbe's
messages of the maimurim and brings it
to us today hence it
filters through but if he still says no
is no
guys maybe thursday hopefully we'll talk
a little more
have a great day it's good conversations
i deserve bye bye
i couldn't hide this good a good
fightish subscribers tom has a good high
dish
afraid
we've got to change the paradigm
new paradigm sagas