Do I have a Right to say No? - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

okay but we have to continue let's go page 286. i may have to leave story robin i have to leave early okay okay i i i'm thinking moshe that you know we need to maybe make this year a little earlier because people are getting busy in the afternoon and i understand that it's the middle of the work day i i i don't know what to do whatever whatever it works i mean i'm somewhat flexible right now it may change but i think moisture mushroom didn't you want it at this time myself prefers it now hilo prefers it now um okay yoni usually comes he's dealing with father whatever i'm not i haven't decided but rabbi it just uh it seems it just seems to me that when we had it which it seems to me that when we had it earlier um more people attended uh you know i because as the day goes on i know shmuel said this to me uh you know that as the day goes on you know the work day begins even though in america it's still seven in the morning um yeah i don't know i don't know other people people that work evenings generally don't start work till about four three thirty four that people do night shift but um you know the other thing is that the other learning's going on with some of the guys with rabbi um which i've been attending robert epstein from 11 30 to 1 30. yeah that's also yeah but he yeah but he but he he and i have spoken and he could change it he just he just did that time because um i asked that this year be later so that i don't have to get up four in the morning and get up a little later so uh he accommodated that he told me that he's flexible he can go back i mean i mean from the time you finish davening at 9 30 or 10 or whenever um you know i mean until 11 30 is an hour and a half so even if we made it a half an hour a half an hour earlier or 45 minutes earlier maybe it's worth i don't know sure i i don't want to let us know okay we'll we'll see we'll see but right now um we're explaining apostate in the torah and it's very interesting how this mimer the reb explains it in a very different way than than we translate it and we look into the commentaries the possibility is in partial it's the opening passage you shall do them and number four the result will be when asathi and i will give gishmachim rain i'll give you rain so your produce will will grow and you'll have what to eat etc so the rep explains these four clauses in the scent in the sentence of siddhas and he said and he taught us already in the last few classes that bakugai sai is plural and means besides laws statutes it also is associated with the word kakika to engrave and we spoke about this idea how to needs to be engraved in a jew and he and that's the fir and if you will accomplish to engrave tata in yourself then teleko you will you shall go you will become a mahalik and if you're not if you're lacking you're like crawling you're not walking you're crawling that was the first thing yesterday we learned about the concept of his esme site and he asked a very very simple question why do you have to guard and watch mitzvahs you do a mitzvah what do you have to tish me to guard it watch it protect it so the rebbe explained that this refers to doing the mitzvah with heischeck and raza kaiser can russian means with pleasure and delight and schmuck so it doesn't mean you have to you know it doesn't mean guard it when you do it guarding over here means doing it with a real pleasure and delight a real dishmak and the hebrew word for that that he used this which is contrary to doing a mitzvah as much as yesterday be a diamond face with weak hands derek mitchell with apathy and the rabbit then said those powerful strong words you draw down no energy of hashem means anything so this is the second idea that the hashem says in the toyota the s with voice i tishmaru when you do mitzvahs guard them watching watch that meaning do them with heisek with this desire and real geshmaq and pleasure which then he goes to the the third point you shall make them you shall do them now of course we just said this it's what's right so it seems like vasis is repetitious so the rabbit says no it's not repetitious because here we're referring to simcha mitzvah mitzvah means that not only are you doing them with with pleasure simply you have joy a person has joy from something that brings them joy and when you have simcha you have simcha so the taylor is saying the doing of the mitzvah should be done in such a way that it brings you mitzvah so each time you put on trillion you're totally electrified it totally is ecstatic so that's the third nakuda and now today we begin learning on the sixth line from the top of 286 the fourth part and of the sentence the final part of the sentence okay the line begins with the words the ozil and kula yeoman and we're at the word vanasati will give you a special gift especially for the sati and i shall give you some in the right time and explains and that that means that shambles has blessed us with sustenance water makes grow all kinds of delicacies right you you plant you need water to make things grow oh my email your there's something called the upper waters coming from heaven it's a spiritual concept and it's also a physical concept where it reigns in this means that this water coming from hashem makes grow spiritual delicacies someone who has delight in singing a hasidic tune someone that has the light in meditating ungodliness someone who has the light something spiritual is is so pleasurable to him more so than anything physical that's called the tai no okay remember those words here is just using the plural thai new game [Music] plural so who gives a yid the ability we are not we aren't able to create this taino gluchni to feel the taino grouchni it needs to come after you've done aleph beijing gimmel right and then you get a a big a reward what's the reward you have a tiny group of something it's a fallacy when people say usually it's a fallacy oh i'm in love with god i feel god in my bones i have pleasure from god ask the person who says that ask them if you really feel god and you really have pleasure from godliness how can you simultaneously enjoy a good steak how could you sign the paper i'm very surprised at that example meaning forgive me for it i mean i would think i would i would think that the question would be something like uh i would think the question is the question is like if you really love god so then how come you're not internalizing what god wants from you when you don't have the good steak right in other words the good steak is just enjoying like that's like that's like that's like the cream right that's like why not enjoy your steak hashem gave you the steak enjoy the steak but if you really love god so then what is maybe ask what does god what else does god want from you besides the steaks i i understand but i let me not i don't i i don't believe you understood what i said because you didn't let me finish but let me finish if you're eating the steak for hashem's purposes of course then the stake becomes part of the the godly pleasure we're not the whole approach of the belgian is to embrace kashmir's and elevate gosh means not to exclude kashmiris that's what you're talking about what i'm saying but but the volceptiv is not saying embrace kashmir and be stuck in the gospels that that's and that's what i was referring to where you embrace the gospels and you're fooling yourself and you you you think you're you're you're at a higher level and you're not because when you showing him and this goes be before the balshampton that you showing him have a rule you cannot bet you cannot have simultaneous pleasure of gosh it is an impossible and impossible experience in the physical world we live in that's what they say now what do they mean if you have tainou of that's what you have you might you of course you're tasting the steak but when you taste the steak is the godly energy so what is your taino not the physical taste it's the godly taste as it expresses itself in the taste of the food that's a different thing no one was talking about that i wasn't talking about that i'm talking about someone who tastes the steak or the gas mias whatever it is and is taken and moved by the gospels outside of the godly association and that that is an oxymoron that's a contradiction who do you love you love hashem or you love the basmius if the goshmius becomes a let me yes if the gospels becomes a tool for hashem and that's the way it should be then it's a different story but but what i was addressing is the assessment the assessment to know ourselves very well and to really and to really believe that what we're that what we're experiencing is godliness yes motion yeah i maybe just answered it but were you just saying that someone is attributing the gush mess to something other than hashem in other words he's he's experiencing that kashmiris but not attributing it to god correct correct all right correct it's not it's it's a danger but that's a danger yeah but i i i was really addressing the fallacy of believing that we have we love hashem we love god and at the same time we love goshmias it doesn't the two don't go together it just doesn't go together that doesn't mean to say that you sh you shouldn't use gosh means for hashem but before a person can can say with surety i love god and that's all i love and everything that i do is an expression of god's love you have to really be refined you have to work on yourself so when the rabbit says here in the my mirror look at the words this is when spiritual delicacies are are grown and the physical water rain makes physical delicacies grow um going back to the positive and i will place and i will give this your reign the etham in its time in its appropriate time influence will be given to the person who has already engaged in the one two three conditions of number three then will come the gift the rain the blessing where where where is this rain coming from it's coming from very on high so it accomplishes something that is totally removed from the physical experience and yet that is what is given to the avid hashem the one who fulfills the fir the three details of the passage in boho what is water the maya mignon it's idea is the study the learning of taylor calls them as the verse says hi whoa cult sammy whoever is thirsty the hula mayan go to water and take a drink what does it mean when you're thirsty go take a drink of water the koi it refers to and what are the lower waters who gol you should potato that's the revealed part of toyota so now we have an interesting practical idea the lower waters meaning the waters that are here on earth that refers to the observable water which is the revealed part of taylor the gemara the missionaries everything that's observable and understood and all that maya mel the upper waters it's the esoteric the inner aspect of tata that is not experienced properly until you experience the galia sheba toyota and then the plenus is given to you as a gift one second i know what you're gonna ask probably but wait please now does this mean to say that we shouldn't learn paninis as some want to argue and position absolutely not what we're saying is that when will the ultimate of panimiya satora be mastered and and experienced when you have prepped yourself with gay shabbat so when you learn halacha and you learn the basic food afterwards you can appreciate a good dessert if you jump to a dessert without the left and beforehand it's not as pleasurable so the ultimate of preemie satyara of what he called earlier in the mimer tainagni is given to you after you have the preparation of the first three steps moshe what you want to say i just want to ask a technical question a word i see in the mind these notes on the bottom translate many of the words that are unfamiliar so the kaii it refers to so he gives you the hebrew translation so it's just you follow or not okay yeah it means it's just helping us to understand the sentence right meaning that however [Music] in order to experience the esoteric the inner aspect of tito who are you they avoid and this is what i said to you earlier maisha this is through refining the your your goof and your animal drive the nephesh obama's and here comes the answer to the question that he asked in the beginning of the mime in the first chapter this is the proper path that one has to choose mashi one that is beautiful for the creator and as well this ephedra slay minnow i'm beautiful for mankind and the question we asked is what other what else is there besides torah mitzvahs that rabbi yehuda nasi rabbi oymer giving us this brilliant advice and the ants and he calls the dead yeshua in other words you could learn tata and not without refining your gosummies you can do mitzvahs without refining your gospels the activity of taking the the the ugly nepheshabamas and its and its and its practices and behavior and refining it makes you not only beautiful to hashem because you've taken the uh the inappropriate and unhealthy cravings and drives and all that and made it godly but it also makes you a better mensch and people like you better now that ebb is going to focus on the word to ferris because peer keepers the mystery says to ferris right robbie says master hit the fairest with the fairest loyal so now let's see what he says about the word the ferrous hemisphere is the balanced medium with the fattest laminar organ this balanced approach makes you beautiful amongst men amongst people as it says we in the in the naval of that we just read schwarz about the appearance that was on the throne the most it appears to be the image of of a man all of mild milo that's up on the throne through all them this refers to supernova man there you [Music] your body and bodily needs and everything else we draw we draw down we bring into the world and enter our lives prince hatiferez the ottoman the beautiful charismatic supernova man the source and the root the root and the source of the intellect and the emotions the adam of lower man of man on earth what is he saying beauty what is beauty beauty is the messing of opposites if a person is very strong in in intellect but not in emotions or vice versa or a person strong in kindness but not in control that's not beauty beauty is and beauty the hebrew for beauty is to fetus beautiful what is the fattest and moisture you as an artist know when you mix together colors and when you mix together colors the composition is such that it's rich beyond richness and it's such richness that that each color in in its own independent right cannot create and psychologically if you think about it then you'll read about this more in the book 10 keys to understanding moshe that you started to read charisma we use the word charismatic charisma what what what does that consist of it consists of someone who knows how to blend and has a good blend of intellect and emotions if it's just intellect it's not charismatic and if it's just emotions it's not charismatic but the interface of the do as applied in our daily lives makes that individual that experience a charismatic person and a charismatic experience so when pierkie of his talk what's the path you should choose says robbie you know what the path is work with your gospels don't exclude your gospels if you exclude your gospels it's like a one color experience working with your goshmeas and refining your gospels is a to ferris are meshing a mixing of the colors and that's the nicest experience because you succeed in combining the other elyon and the and other matakin upper man and lower man the other allah say in kabbalistic terminology man that sits on the throne and then there is lower man man on earth [Music] and this is the idea that although it says if in my statutes you shall follow and we explained that in does not mean if but rather i wish [Music] is opening himself up and giving us an inner peak into his wishes normally you know we don't share our wishes just just with someone who's close to us so hashem here says i'm going to share with you a wish that i have what is that wish [Music] these statutes that's where i mean i'm interested in them i'm very interested in them pursue it and you have to be smart when you when you hear someone who you care for that has a certain wish you need to know that that's where it's at they won't say much you know they'll just say a word or two a hint but the person who is tuned in plugged in understands ah that's where it's at halawa so the halifaya experience is the ultimate experience i think i told you that the hasidim of the samasedik would say what's the difference between the time of mashiach and now now we're learning about atsila's brie is feeders everything that we learn in siddhis and when mashiach will come we'll also learn about those things so barack what's the difference so the sydney said the difference is in the aha will come they'll say aha this is what i learned is that silas now i smell it now i see it now i eat it now it's my reality aha here he doesn't use the word aha uses the word it's the halawai that's where it's at let's continue and when you relate to the halifay your neshama becomes goers walkers travelers movers and shakers in simple english they aim in the positive sense not in the negative sense the emily cain for if this wasn't the case why has the soul descended below because the purpose for the descent of the soul of the neshama hibishville aliyah is for the purpose of the ascent that's infinite that's limitless [Music] that feeling of limitless love it touches the infinite essence of god known as acts was either yourself when there is and so how do i get this like i always say it doesn't come from eating popcorn and pizza and playing golf and surfing the internet it comes from schwitz yesterday we spoke about switzerland for a mitzvah it comes from harevanya from effort and diligence [Music] it comes through the service the activity of refining and correcting the animal drive because then you have yes [Music] when is light significant when it comes from the darkness itself you know motion when you have both motions when you have a a dark room and you put a candle into the room or you turn on the switch that's light that's great but imagine taking the darkness itself transforming the darkness and the darkness becomes the springboard for light it becomes light that's the greatest achievement and it's a very hard achievement but if you succeed in one area in doing that in your life you are a real avid hashem you really and and i and i and and by the way i don't mean just darkening and learning remember what are we talking about here azalea derek should you ever lawyer or dumb we're not talking about darkening and learning doing misses and studying today that we don't need to give it to give us the advice that he gives us that we know from from the torah the holy thyroid to be in the physical world dealing with gospels and transforming gospels and for that you needed because without an ebber you get lost and many and you fall into the trap of gas mias shows you the balance how much is how much is the requisite amount to be there and not to be there if you're there too much it gets sucked in if you had too little you're not there at all or very little so what's the balance rabbit and that's why arabic tells you go here or go there or work here or work there only arabic and tell you that because arabic sees your neshama unless you see the neshama you can't advise a person to make their a choice in their life this isn't a college advisor telling a student i think you would be good in this area this isn't a psychologist or a rabbi or a lawyer or any other professional advising someone a rebbe is a soul maven a maven of the neshama and it's a very different experience so in order to take darkness and transform darkness to light which is a very risky business because you're walking into darkness and you know when you walk in the dark you've been i think guys sometimes through a blackout you know it's very very um uncomfortable and scary and to take that darkness and not only make bring light into the darkness but actually use the darkness for light that's a that's a a very hard avada but through having a rabbit a robbie anime then you succeed what's the time fellas it's 47-46 okay any any questions or comments and we'll stop here and tomorrow we'll finish the my memory letter well um yeah there are some questions but maybe i should text you because i don't have time now uh just two questions i guess we can answer them later if you want uh one is uh is an example of this darkness going through this darkness when fighting ones meet us uh trying to correct amita that's what you're talking about yes that's one aspect the other question is yeah yeah go ahead but the question is how do we fix the media how do we correct the meter so one way is one second one way is bringing overpowering the negative media the ugly trait with light with positivity that's one the first step the second step is taking the meter itself and using first sham so for example a person who has anger who suffers from anger gets very angry many times they work on themselves where they don't get angry anymore at and they use their anger when it's appropriate in in anything that is contrary to god they get angry at that and they get angry at themselves they don't they get angry when they act inappropriate so they they don't eliminate the anger they harness the anger to focus on themselves they're focusing on others you understand so they've been yeah yeah go ahead what's your second question i know you're saying it can be also but if you get angry with yourself that's also they say can be damaging right you know if you all you failed at something like messed up again so are you fooled okay so we'll we'll substitute the word anger with frustration frustration is very healthy and important okay anger is not anger is should be eliminated frustration gets you to grow and it doesn't lead to a depression but it leads to a motivation of what can i do to make a change but i i don't want to you know that was the first question the second question you had was about robbie what's your question certain ways to go review this is to consult the rebbe right so that's more of having having a good remedy to consult with that's you're talking about alright but but no one on that level today someone on that level today sorry it's not so always readily or is it you feel it's really available i feel that if a person is seeking arabic and really wants a rabbit they can find the rebel and they should find the rebel but they need to find the right rabbit not you know convince themselves that they like this person and therefore it becomes your rebbe it doesn't work that way it's not it's not choosing a picking apples in an orchard yes wouldn't you say we have a dolphin though that the whole point of our learning is everything we're learning is to look at the unique guidance of the ban especially the rabbit even though he's not with us here physically right but by us learning and connecting that is that is of course accessing you know accessing a rabbit that would be more powerful a more powerful of an experience a growth experience an ongoing growth experience than we could i mean that anybody else perhaps could provide i mean you know you know i'll i'll i'll speak more about this on thursday mr sam because i have another share in a few minutes but basically what what you said and i i believe i think i believe i understand what you're saying it's not that way meaning to say if you come to a point in your in your life in your essence and your feeling and it comes through learning but but the feeling that you walk away with is that this person be it physical or through his forearm is the rabbit that understands your neshama and sees yoneshamma then you identify with him the learning is a tool an instrument to get to the objective the objective is that i bel i i believe and feel that his learning and teaching is such that it talks to me and and it talks to me that it's it's identifying my summer so whether the rebbe a rebbe is physically alive or spiritually alive and by the way i think i've told you this isn't only with the rebbe with the breslau they feel that way those that are real blessed because i see them repenchment of breast lift and i told you i was once born by someone who had candles and swarm of visit the trevor you know and he had a seat and you know i told you that story and he felt that the reb of 150 years ago is his rapper i saw it and he wasn't alabama he's a friend you know the point is so it's not just exclusive to chabad and it's anyone that comes through learning the safari so maisha the learning of the swarm of the rebels foreign the the the ability to make a choice is this person that i've learned about and learned his torah and his teachings is he the individual that talks to my soul and if someone and if someone concludes it's not let him find himself another rabbit if he can that will talk to his neshama and guess what some people do and and and kolakovart has strolling to diminish another person's path but as long as you're being honest so that's why i said to you moshe myers that the idea but because people make they say oh i choose him as my rabbit i was speaking to an 80-plus year old man in lakewood a week ago or so who's an author for art scroll and a talmud and and a very respectable person and he moved teresa's role to russia and somehow i don't know how i didn't get a chance to dialogue enough he met the toner um the the toner i think what one of the rep is hiroshima and he's he said he's now his cousin and you know he although it comes from galicia you know his ancestry but he he was trained in literature yeshivas and he's talking to me like he's a like not like like and there's a hostage and i was like very surprised and and and he told me that's that you know he became enamored in jerusalem with this individual and he says i can't you have to hear him and learn his thing so god forbid to say oh he's found the wrong heaven no for him this rabbit talks to him for another person another rabbit talks to him but the point being this isn't a it isn't a game it's nishama so you you know when you when you when you reflect and you and you think about the greater you know being that's being experienced here that's when you will identify a real reader for you might not be from me it might not be for him but it's for you and that's why that's so and that's why what moshe said before learning the tita of the that obey him you know you know frankly there might be a person who's learning he's my modern with us and walks away saying the previous rabbis might have now you know in the dynasty of lobavich all the six rabbis go through the our our river but if one person doesn't have that feeling you can't force it on him it's not it's not forcible and he identifies so then if someone were to you know talking with him and say let me show you how the rebbe the last the today's rebel is the one that takes the previous rebbe's messages of the maimurim and brings it to us today hence it filters through but if he still says no is no guys maybe thursday hopefully we'll talk a little more have a great day it's good conversations i deserve bye bye i couldn't hide this good a good fightish subscribers tom has a good high dish afraid we've got to change the paradigm new paradigm sagas