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Constructive Criticism Lecture by Rabbi Chaim Dalfin in Hollywood, Fl Eckstein home - 12-30-19
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Leadership Abuse - Humility by Leaders - Greatness of Governing
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may she rest in peace figures passed
away I wanted to do something
miss Emma should of course go up is
higher and the best thing you could
possibly do is Tara mitzvahs you know
learning Torah doing this fuss in the
shame and the name the deceased gives
the Shama the possibility in Chabad
there's something called if I bring you
now I'm sure you're all familiar with
the word
for Brendan
sorry cold conquer
context of a brain game is back in in
Russia and by the way I'm coming from
Russia I was in Poland and in Moscow I
was in Warsaw Moscow two weeks ago and
it was there until 1915 1916 when the
fifth Rebbe of the Bravo chip so
embarrassed that arfa bring in a real a
real for bringing I don't mean just a
speech but you know I'm giving now a
class of pork this is not a for Brendan
it's a very nice event itself of Reagan
gather four two three four five six
seven hours and you don't look at the
watch you don't even
you don't care about kind you care about
can I find it inside naturally when you
do that it lends itself to Krita ingen
is the culmination of learning the
Dominique I had a great uncle's name was
remember for the fossa known and he
would say the following he said then
give it up and it could be that when you
hear the problem and the issue and you
know that person and you say you're a
real
and if you don't say it you think you
say I know who you are
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giving it to the person with
all of a sudden you lose the visa Sarah
t-that in Hebrew that we would write me
must me mote sincerity and you're now in
the cloak of a citizen in the closing
and went over tower my sphere of blessed
memory that male feeble was a very
special Jew
said you know I'm learning and I'm
doubling and after bringing but I feel
all right now it's aye-aye-aye
and again I
I don't like that I would and all that
well your character is lacking this year
and in this area we get I should cut
myself she was a kebab if I brain as
well anyway
committee was
and the other half Russa and a friend
and they were learning Thursday night
and they were learning late into the
night the next morning when you go to
sleep 3:00 4:00 in the morning it's
difficult to get up at 7:00 right
especially for you I'm sure
he's gonna you know but eight o'clock or
so at 7 o'clock his father comes into
the room and he's thought and he's
giving it to him and he walks out of the
room the friend who was woken up by the
October in County California as a sphere
for the Reverend Northern California
across the Golden Gate Bridge let's go
and the main person who asked me to come
to be the rabbi there is a doctor a
pediatrician a gynecologist at Kaiser
the califor California you know medical
system hospital system a good Brooklyn
boy who study after Brooklyn what am I
doing with my life
if I school we met the same girls we
went to the same movies and you know I
know you're not Orthodox but still what
does
can't you eat something else that's one
neutral so he asks me do I give him
permission to curse out his friends to
chastise them to give them criticism if
you are playing golf with him that you
don't have a relationship the fact that
you guys are both kind of color which
was offered by Salomon Kalou Mohammed in
Brewer commercial Talarico
if the spirit of dominion of governing
of control comes upon you MacLean Corral
Conahan don't forsake your place
Kmart a young young Italian Godiva
because healing inclination referring to
the age of her will not boomers
Gabriella mystical or it won't dominate
a multiple is there and that the cure to
the a terrorist
Pisco me the horizon means verses and
phrases of Torah book madness over Metis
rabbity help reclaim my mom bro now he
brings another interpretation
the Midrash the Midrash are versed in Co
helis right the first interpretation
comes from something called Carrigan
Jonason the second Butte a new successor
comes with a Nava of modesty be humble
you were putting the language Ella or L
asked McGirt on the cola ham it means
that he saw himself
he's the leader he's the rabbi he's the
scholar he's the prophet show her you
can have mana look at this he was four
things he had four things going for him
look at the ceaseless
hustle MLF he was this son-in-law he's a
real of a big matter because the spirit
of Dominion and governing and control
that comes to a person was given that
position in the claim a are your knee
off don't forsake your place and please
remember to be humble yes you are the
CEO of the company you are the
entrepreneur you're the one that's the
shaker the baker and the shaker
that's great remember who gave you the
who gave you this talent be a part of it
the position of authority you see it you
know not understand that but you under
you'll relate to it and it's a very
important point because this touches
upon the whole idea of authority and
Rubinius and rabbi and leaders which is
in every congregation in every community
who I have you ever asked yourself a
question why do I kosher or not we're
talking about a path of life a path of
life who can tell you what your path it
there it's way beyond just rabbinic s--
it's a soul experience so his question
here is and what he's what he's alluding
to is that if the Torah
if King Solomon according to the second
interpretation of the Midrash about a
person who is on that level
Anna thought tomorrow according she
explained
a contradiction between the first part
of the verse of the second part of the
verse right the compare and contrast is
a essential part
contrast understanding both sides and
telling you that Alabama should happen
that I saw it I'm not saying no one
else's this way but what I saw because I
was his student and his closet what I
saw was an individual who took
responsibility for the entire generation
and were thousands of people listening
to
but he can have what wants which he
never never you know because it wasn't
that type of Tory you knowing how much
information you have and how charismatic
you are and how
Olsson how many degrees you have after
your name to PhD in the MS and the MA
and all the different
amounts to one big ego and at the end of
it there you don't want to be with that
person you're not comfortable you're not
interested but he knows Omar he come in
to hear a lecture leaders you hear that
he speaking to the rabbi's and the CEOs
and the big mockers and they're really
doing something that's incredible howl
of Judaism says only ten percent might
say you're obligated more than that you
want to be real Froome you want to be
really just gift what about some of this
40 percent 50 percent but dr. once is
already in Alabama she passed on comes
over to me once he asks me who's also in
California when I was there as a student
older study says broker from the right
gazettes from the left guess coming from
there
it's a mess he had a nicer design
designers suit tonight and I said to
myself if this guy cannot dress me he's
worth money
now that's Lucy fainting a part of this
this fellow right but nevertheless
what's the point the point is that the
back of the line between doing something
to be asked them tatius versus doing
something to be genuine as if you're
smiling what's the answer you know the
answer is part of it when you think
about yourself
you will be not as happy I walked into a
lawyer
team 81 or 82 I will show Boulevard in
Los Angeles
I would ask him to put on film this was
Friday I'm proud of Who I am but this
week I asked you to closer though I said
yeah I'm actually wondering why this was
very interesting that you did that and
my chef says fella you need to be
humbled
so if the right way I could humble you
and be careful but is that the only way
and is that
months No
there are other reasons why a person has
to go through whatever they go through
reincarnation to that aspect tonight
Hashem God Almighty says to the person
if you think about yourself
the kitchen there 24/7 so if you want a
coffee and a piece of cake you got it if
you want it now
no milk you got it too and if you want
jolt you got it too
that's not why I go there I go there cuz
I love to begin my day with broken
people people are homeless youth Jews
ice that here are nothing your
everything and at the same time you're
nothing because it's all about a Shem
and what you can do for interior which
we'll discuss at another time but this
is the I think a very important point is
to stop and think and ask yourself I'm
about to be you know and you know about
to give criticism to my spouse to my
employer to my son to my to my rabbi to
my student what have you done to give
yourself criticism you know the famous
saying moonship buff I'll tell him in La
Habra your own blemish that you have
don't say it to your friend you're
guilty so how can you your hypocrite so
saying to his own Hassidim let's bring
it back to the head yum yum that we
began with you know what he said Brett
if I bring it and you're doing consider
group therapy and you of the deserves
mother and it's also the end of Hanukkah
they the eighth day is the culmination
of the lights of Hanukkah and were
entering the month of a vase we are in a
vase what has tables come from Tove good
it's a month of you know to internalize
it not just not cursory superficial you
know experiences the whole idea of Casa
de stat the Baal Shem Tov to Judaism 300
years ago and going strong and stronger
is to experience God and Torah in an
internalized way with happiness and with
excitement but that also includes tough
questions after my grandfather was
murdered by the Nazis and I went to his
town where he was murdered mock old
Massa gets 45 minutes outside of
Brussels and I went to my grandmother's
town and found her marriage records
married in 1935 with her father to a
synagogue so you know and give us we say
there's an expression about how good
coffee cup is ahead right how can you
stir hole you have to hold your head
where's me to help the cup you have to
be strong you have to be focused don't
lose yourself to all the whims and
issues at the anti-semitism that's
happening now all around us for right
and the goal Oh some clothes never again
grandchildren my little grandchildren
have to escape 8 o'clock in the morning
before the parade starts so they don't
see older mishegoss but someone comes
into the shul my daughter says to me Tom
if she gives me her hand I'm not shaking
her hand so I say Sarah Sarah neighbours
daughter Sarah why not of course he's
not a she she's a he