Constructive Criticism - 18 of 31

point one was you need to educate the person who you're scolding about the severity of the issue because many times the rebus says the person is uninformed of what what what the sin causes the gravity of the transgression the person makes light of it that was one point that we learnt our page on page ratio tests of course he added that criticism must not be done in public which is you know of course we know from show Leonora and that's a tremendous sin and it's totally wrong and there's no there's no there's no you know even know it's even when you when you do the midst of a semicircle a sculpture is called your friend and you're obligated to give Mooser you're gonna share with him the gravity of the avera it should be done in private now Casa Sholem in public he went on to say that that the person who is being scolded at times why is the person not being moved it's because of the person's hoc Shama what does Akshara mean it comes to the word Geshem which is gosh yes but there is gosh miss and there is guess what humbly is what's the difference in gosh basic obvious physicality versus corporeality what does Kippur reality mean corporeal what does it mean grubbé yiddish course in other words there is gosh yes you need to eat you need to sleep you need to joke a little bit you know you need to be a mensch right but then there's indulging indulging where you get pleasure the whole idea of pleasure or today there's a nice word that we all use or we here which is fun I gotta have fun do I have fun if you don't have fun that's action that's not just - yes that's hungriest we're not saying you shouldn't go on a vacation but why must it be with with all the trimmings you know with all the trimmings and how much you indulge and how much money you invested how much energy you invest in in making the gosh means that you have to be coarse grub you know so that ever said that this causes a person who allows themselves into this mode the person becomes cleanness apathy apathy apathy means it doesn't bother me why doesn't it bother me because you don't feel it it totally you don't feel it why don't you feel it because you totally grub you told me grub she have no sensitivity to ruthless to spirituality and by the way that's that's a major cause and reason why Tucker were not at times we're not rookies we know this because we don't have a sensitivity to the subject matter to the issue at hand because we grab and this is by the way not just a theme in Cassidy's it's Athena Musser any system of character development the most local cities deals with this issue of of shaving away cutting away removing the grub kite that's a word that's thrown around a lot in in the world of Mooser and considers grub tight grub means course grub kite horseless yeah you need to eat fine but why why must it be with all the truth all the additional the additional stuff okay listen you know me it's important not to fool ourselves you know you want to have some ketchup have ketchup and mustard but you know put things in perspective if you don't have you catch up but you don't have your mustard don't make a big deal about it you know there was a spear in Chabad he's actually rabbi den Berghe I think reign uncle his name was missin em enough and he was he was a type of mush spear that was a very serious / - em servant and one of his main activities was scoff you scoff he is the word used in Chabad to denote controlling yourself to subjugate yourself not to give into your tightest hold yourself back and he put a lot of effort into this avoid himself for sure and also when he demanded of his students so they say that he came to the Rebbe oh you know in the in the 60s I think and he had you see this with the red Burmese except it seems to me he said - what I wants demanded of stuff Babbage's students in Russia he was my father and was much beer and some account you going back to the 9th early 40s and he was my superior earlier so he said those type of avoidance those type of activities of character refinement and it's Coffea that he demanded of students and in Russia and even later in Paris is not he doesn't see that as you know as something he can demand today of his students so he asked the river if that's the case what is today's is kaffir I'm telling you saying the story because you mention ketchup ok in other words kebab sauce it hasn't changed the teachings of the outer Reverend and the 200 years ago are still authentic and the teaching so it does talk about is coffee in town yeah etc soap but if I can't expect that of today's students then how do we apply it stuff here rather close to things right the rebels office is faces Eastern Parkway in Brooklyn right synchronize so the rabbit said one thing is that at 252 15 or 220 that that's when the first say that the first order of learning tomorrow finishes in in the Habad yeshiva system and then you go to lunch the rabbit said listen he said when it's 2:15 and even a pouch is given on the Beamer or bell rings and it's time to finish the buffer and shouldn't run to the kitchen they shouldn't run to the kitchen they should still continue learning another few minutes not in other words just because the bell rang doesn't mean you have to close you go morrow that's one thing the Rebbe is sitting and to do that you're hungry you're hungry you want to eat lunch time you want to lay down wait a few minutes why are you waiting your force you're going against