Constructive Criticism - 14 of 31

and that's the way I was for years but then about 20 years ago when I was learning a kiss a visa for these subjects of reincarnation and I learned that I said I don't want to be reincarnated water now you think it's a joke it sounds like you know very that's whatever he's all right and I can show you many other things that he writes and if you believe in the Ariza on this you believe I'm in this you can't play around they say my reason writes it why cuz you need a tick on foreshock on the air but Varro because you were leaning if the shock on the air but Varro so the ticking is that you need someone to make a process or I could even far away he drink water my hands the result says your nation will be reincarnated into water it's metaphysical what we understand about reincarnation that's not the point but I'm well I'm saying is that ever says here you have to know what the English is so I'm telling you I'm Sharon if you're practical in my life something that made an impact am i perfect no but I'm much better because that's what their reason says so you either wash or you do that or don't eat it you know now you know a real hustle and a real even a real it's like a really affirming eat a real from a yield let's put it simply has the year assume I am to to explore the hollow huh disgusted with a rough if he doesn't have an answer and then live that way but there are times when you know we're not calling the rabbi in the Rev and we don't know and and you just it's a mitzvah sherry look it says employer a Kurdish man you step on it with you ill so that's why three decrepit says here that when you give Meserve you must inform the person who are you giving Musa what the Irish what the punishment for that particular act that he or she are doing what the punishment for that is they should be informed and then let them decide it's a now again does that mean to say you have to go and put it on a big pedal sign and announce it and then no remember remember what he said that to embarrass a person is the worst thing so we're not talking about Casa schellenberg to them but it but in private and I think you if you think about it you you remember for your own life those times when we spoke to someone and in a lot in a loving way okay you know I use the word loving way with concern and we and we say do you realize what you're doing you know realize what you're doing what's the different saying Center to Selma look if you abuse alcohol you're gonna be an alcoholic you abuse drugs you don't say what's the difference that were comfortable saying to someone but we're uncomfortable saying to someone who's a good friend of ours if your views not coming to a minyan it's it makes an impact that your neshama and your family and it's it's not good it's it's it's setting a very bad pattern for your family your children and also for you spiritually the holidays you should I want a minyan say so that kind of sometimes like fearful of saying and touching and you know and if you're a hypocrite then you have no business saying it that that's for sure well there's a practical answer and there's a philosophical answer okay you know what he's gonna talk about what were you saying of you exactly let's see that the Rebbe is gonna tackle your your issue maybe the next year but he is going to talk about that and I think you'll you'll have what to think about you know ivy was just saying you know practically just you know it's not gonna work you smoking a cigarette you talkin to him I'm not smoking I mean I'm I'm could you see it working right no no because the person general you mean the person was constantly talking to revenue you know we're going off I mean III think every one of us has something to say about your your issue it's not if I had to respond to you I would say it's it's not in the way I see it it's not as straightforward as the way you're presenting it hypocrisy is is hypocrisy causes the person on the other side not to want to listen to you and doesn't feel good about it so what are people saying I think is put yourself with the shoes if I tell them put yourself in the shoes of the person listening to you telling him about smoking and it doesn't add up what you're saying is that you the the smoker admits I'm doing wrong and I can't help myself and I would like I'm suggesting to you don't go down my road I can hear that from you where you're coming from but we're talking about what about with a person who you're giving it to I don't think he can hear it he comes here that he doesn't he doesn't get it it doesn't resonate and only makes him more upset and distance distance himself from you ie he looks at you as a hypocrite and and he walks away saying you know right but the criticism the way he says it here yeah have you wait where the person's given to you you meet you because most of this tons of reasons why you know if someone's giving you some right was Acharya but scar you he's not yet I think he agrees with that he when he's saying tell me what love it is saying is that even if he's doing the violation he's still in a position of giving the criticism to the person [Music]