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Constructive Criticism - 14 of 31
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and that's the way I was for years but
then about 20 years ago when I was
learning a kiss a visa for these
subjects of reincarnation and I learned
that I said I don't want to be
reincarnated water now you think it's a
joke it sounds like you know very that's
whatever he's all right and I can show
you many other things that he writes and
if you believe in the Ariza on this you
believe I'm in this you can't play
around they say my reason writes it why
cuz you need a tick on foreshock on the
air but Varro because you were leaning
if the shock on the air but Varro
so the ticking is that you need someone
to make a process or I could even far
away he drink water my hands the result
says your nation will be reincarnated
into water it's metaphysical what we
understand about reincarnation that's
not the point but I'm well I'm saying is
that ever says here you have to know
what the English is so I'm telling you
I'm Sharon if you're practical in my
life something that made an impact am i
perfect no but I'm much better because
that's what their reason says so you
either wash or you do that or don't eat
it you know now you know a real hustle
and a real even a real it's like a
really affirming eat a real from a yield
let's put it simply has the year assume
I am to to explore the hollow huh
disgusted with a rough if he doesn't
have an answer and then live that way
but there are times when you know we're
not calling the rabbi in the Rev and we
don't know and and you just it's a
mitzvah sherry look it says employer a
Kurdish man you step on it with you ill
so that's why three decrepit says here
that when you give Meserve you must
inform the person who are you giving
Musa what the Irish what the punishment
for that particular act that he or she
are doing
what the punishment for that is they
should be informed and then let them
decide it's a now again does that mean
to say you have to go and put it on a
big pedal sign and announce it and then
no remember remember what he said that
to embarrass a person is the worst thing
so we're not talking about Casa
schellenberg to them but it but in
private and I think you if you think
about it you you remember for your own
life those times when we spoke to
someone and in a lot in a loving way
okay you know I use the word loving way
with concern and we and we say do you
realize what you're doing you know
realize what you're doing what's the
different saying Center to Selma look if
you abuse alcohol you're gonna be an
alcoholic you abuse drugs you don't say
what's the difference that were
comfortable saying to someone but we're
uncomfortable saying to someone who's a
good friend of ours if your views not
coming to a minyan it's it makes an
impact that your neshama and your family
and it's it's not good it's it's it's
setting a very bad pattern for your
family your children and also for you
spiritually the holidays you should I
want a minyan say so that kind of
sometimes like fearful of saying and
touching and you know and if you're a
hypocrite then you have no business
saying it that that's for sure well
there's a practical answer and there's a
philosophical answer
okay you know what he's gonna talk about
what were you saying of you exactly
let's see that the Rebbe is gonna tackle
your your issue maybe the next year but
he is going to talk about that and I
think you'll you'll have what to think
about you know ivy was just saying you
know practically just you know it's not
gonna work you smoking a cigarette you
talkin to him I'm not smoking I mean I'm
I'm could you see it working right
no no because the person general you
mean the person was constantly talking
to revenue
you know we're going off I mean III
think every one of us has something to
say about your your issue it's not if I
had to respond to you I would say it's
it's not in the way I see it it's not as
straightforward as the way you're
presenting it hypocrisy is is hypocrisy
causes the person on the other side not
to want to listen to you and doesn't
feel good about it so what are people
saying I think is put yourself with the
shoes if I tell them put yourself in the
shoes of the person listening to you
telling him about smoking and it doesn't
add up what you're saying is that you
the the smoker admits I'm doing wrong
and I can't help myself and I would like
I'm suggesting to you don't go down my
road I can hear that from you where
you're coming from but we're talking
about what about with a person who
you're giving it to I don't think he can
hear it he comes here that he doesn't he
doesn't get it it doesn't resonate and
only makes him more upset and distance
distance himself from you ie he looks at
you as a hypocrite and and he walks away
saying you know right but the criticism
the way he says it here yeah have you
wait where the person's given to you you
meet you because most of this tons of
reasons why you know if someone's giving
you some right was Acharya but scar you
he's not yet
I think he agrees with that he when he's
saying tell me what love it is saying is
that even if he's doing the violation
he's still in a position of giving the
criticism to the person
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