Children's Minyanim, Learning, Changed in Chinuch, Knowing more Torah - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

foreign [Music] series with Rabbi Yankovic I'll say veteran mohanas educator in globality Yeshiva assistant for the last 58 years from 1965 and die myself for my dolphin have been aged I was a student of his and have wonderful memories and I would like to continue now with a question there's a lot of Children's Museum that's become very very popular not only here in Crown Heights but also in Los Angeles or Chicago but in Florida and my own son takes care of a children's minion with 100 children and with other helpers um what do you what what do you think about this um what's your opinion generally I think that the uh the say de basidum was that the parents had the children next to them children saw how parents diamond and there's nothing to compare when you see life something live uh whether it's whatever place it is right even if it's Miss nagbishop place in the snuggish minion right the parents are the ones who set the tone I mean they should be the ones that you look up to see how you're supposed to Diamond children have to double next to their parents as far as they they'll see how apparent oven I myself when my father took us to shul my brother was on one side I was on the other side and my father would point out to me this was roshania and kippa about this is and this is but this part that part and there was another part of the dobening of where the father showed the child had what what is happening and I learned different things from him as far as diamonding the places where the dominating is very loud and warm obviously the child has a lot to learn he can't copy somebody that's just contemporary because he hasn't hasn't didn't get the chance to see what the said to me he says buses buses there what's the greatness of the previous generation it's one generation closer to harsinai that's the Mila one generation before you have something to learn from them you know and if a child should see how the parents of that mean that obviously is superb that's the best thing that there is unfortunately there are places where the shores are not the most proper place them and there's a place where talking goes on and it's not such a very good image for the child to see how talking about obviously as I said the child is going to learn from what he sees and later on and say oh my father also wants talking middle of bombing what's wrong with it you know so in a case like that obviously there's no question about it have a a minion where the you know the children are going to be guided by somebody who is somebody who knows how to run the minion and shows varum kite shows wanted happening obviously yes that's that's the answer but generally if you take a look at the residition groups you see that the there is no such thing as a separate minion for children right but what I did see I saw this in breslive of Maya Sharon um that within the shul with all the fathers the children at some point sit all together on benches and they have someone who gives them you know a prize a prize or something or a satatsuka candy and they're Dominic but coil Ram so that's not you're not talking about that's in the shoe setting at a certain time I saw that with my own eyes okay but again that is why does that have to be obviously there's something failing or missing over there in that room I don't think in the best anything was failing so why should they do that why shouldn't the child maybe they don't have place for the people in the show yeah the children maybe that could be they shouldn't I mean that I've been in other citizenship places and I've seen that the children always sit next to the father and the Square open in until children always sit next to the father I grew up that way every father had his child next to me yeah yeah the train family a famous drink family father and the children are sat together I mean the father was not such a uh you know uh but still you know they the together with that was always to say there that was always a savior so I feel of course in a walk into a show we're unfortunately unfortunately it's not the way it's supposed to be then of course if the child can have a better atmosphere why not I mean make the atmosphere for the child why should he lose that because of that so that's my feeling as far as that goes I mean I don't think it's such a I think it's a very understandable thing it makes sense now what would you say was it is the most rewarding thing of of being Arabian and a teacher and this is important because people a lot of times especially in the world of Chabad and schliches you know where schliches is so um admirable you know so rewarding oh I have a chance to put up a big building than to have a lot of balabatin you know um what would you say would be something that you could give and leave to the young new Educators that this is in addition to what you shared before with the rep is Words which I don't think there's anything more important than greater for us than that but you know just logically what would you say is most rewarding that you you've seen in your life and what you can share with people uh in my view this is my view Sleepless is what they're ever wanted is uh no question about it that's one of the greatest things bringing another two closer the abuses children closer to him there's nothing greater than that it's the highest thing that a person can the highest Madre you can you can you can Aspire it to get to there's no question about that and but there's also something called maintaining maintenance you have to maintain I mean you don't want kids people to fall away from me this guy just like you don't want you want to bring people to closer to this guide what is the difference if a child what's the difference of a person bringing in closer to either Skype or making sure that this kid doesn't fall away from me in the sky enrich we call that energy what's the difference I don't see the difference there the difference is true truthfully speaking that the schlier has a serious definition he goes out to a place where it's a mid Bush mama and he has to give up his rookness and his goshmias that they they don't have either one uh gosh means and Nora rochnius they give up their children also to the point which is mysterious nephish at the highest level and they're doing that Union of bringing the shellness closer but think to yourself what are you when you take care of a child and you give him you give him a feeling for Learning and giving a feeling for hiroshimaim you are doing the same thing that he's doing instead of bringing the guy back the kid back from when he went already out so you have to wait for him to go out and then bring him back this kid over here your whole you you're bringing him up to be uh uh uh so you're doing the same thing in a way it's also it's also sticks I think the rebel said this that's also because when it came to write to say fresh said yeah put them alumn them in there because they're in and I think that I feel that I know uh I will mention names but there was one rebbe in the Yeshiva very very special rebbe in ayeshiva and he wanted very much to stay here and this was and he would have been a while because I think I won't mention his name but uh I'm sure you would agree with me and he was uh felt that this is also and especially if you have a feeling you are you now I have to say one very important thing though uh I didn't mention before that when you want to teach children you also have to be someone who wants to learn yes if you're not into learning you're not going to impart any feeling of that feeling to the children if you don't have that feeling if you're there for the job and you think that you can go like this and like that and make the child and you don't have it inside of you you're doing it just clap exciting yeah it's not going to work it's a you're going to get double tibo and and and not necessarily will a catch on it won't catch on you know PA kids pick up you know what comes the Rama yes and so therefore you gotta be into it also so it's also a form of Schleich it's a form of stone I don't say that you're you're going to be standing you know uh uh on How I Met regas You know but you will but you you are Ashley and and as far as I just wanted to end up with this and say that the greatest joy you can have when you see that you produced a child you produce kids that have a learning is my greatest joy when a kid that had one kid this year he was so he was so he was so he needed so much work and he had a very hard head and and at the end of the year he had this kishmak and learning he wanted to learn he wanted them now his father just called me up just now and he he wants to know where he can which class he should go into and he the kid really he was I mean I don't know for the last I hope it will last but the the the change over from this kid from the beginning of the year was nothing and now to to the point I'm not trying to brag about myself I'm not trying to say what the joy that it gives me that this kid I brought it's it's you're not going to get into this anywhere you may you make people for life that's right people and I have I can tell that's Sleepless well I'm saying besides the Schlage right the joy that you can have from it is satisfaction I can say I know kids okay thank you very much Robert eckhouse for this four-part series seasoned Seasons educated 58 years Yeshiva and I want to encourage all the parents watching and the Educators grandparents um we have a gold mine here in Crown Heights use them talk to him take advice he's gone he's seen everything from 65 1965 to now in Hashem shatake bench you with and and good health your wife your family and only and ultimately we should marry to the messiah's coming and we'll all see only good things and we'll sail Haim together thank you very much [Music] thank you [Music]