Charity for Family: Yes or no? Igeres HaKodesh 9a - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

we're learning uh we'll start learning nowes the fourth section of T page 226 in the regular Tanya all Hebrew Tanya chapter n and let me give you a little introduction to what we're going to learn here and what we're learning these letters these 32 letters ofes I are primarily focused on I would say two themes one is giving Seda particularly to people in the importance with sources from kazal from Caba Etc and number two the importance of daving and that that's the thrust ofes if someone asks you what is about and originally yes yes yes sir turn myself up new so I was thinking about this this morning you can look at it two ways that there's there's a there's a a a theme to the letter and then there's the meat of the letter the theme of the letter may be given to Daka but the alter goes into kind of kind of deep cabalistic things to explain it so the question I have is is one the which is the V vehicle and which is the which is the E car so meaning is the E car he wants us just to give it to he wants to give Saka or is thear that telling us to give Saka is a vehicle by which to transmit Lance in same thing with daving is because we have a vehicle for communication you want to tell somebody something but you have to package it in a certain way so what's the packaging and what's the Ence okay good question one more question which I don't know if there is such a thing but I know there's like a a map of Tanya that goes through and explains the as is there such a thing for the for the igus that no because it does seem like there is a development throughout the letters and how they were placed in I know it's not chronological but it seems like there is some development of theme as it goes along yeah so okay the map you're talking about was not made by one of the rim it was made by Rabbi sha and he did a good job at it and God bless him but um there is no map from one of the rim so that that's the first thing that you need to know um so the map does not have what we call in in in in Torah literature Gan de you've heard of the word spanka the Seal of the king that's a reference used in Torah literature that it was substantiated by so whether you're it makes no difference everyone has their gank you know so uh a who writes an interpretation or or clarification of Tanya did a wonderful job but unless the re or even let's say a man like would give him aank Mal you know would have more Credence so I just want to I'm not saying this Toom you know put down what the work he did he did a fantastic job but it's not K that's you have to know that right away so you know it's important to know that cuz for example I'm not going to go into it now cuz we're getting off topic right even before I had a chance to talk I don't want to say who I don't want to say who you'll figure it out but I don't want to say who someone who who wrote uh uh who wrote or taught Tanya and and it was written up I I took it out years ago when I was teaching you know people who weren't yet from Tanya and wanted to use more psychology psychological ideas and words that they can relate to self-improvement you know so that was the angle I was coming at when I was teaching them Tanya so I used this I I start I took out this book safer and looked how this person which I thought would would teach Tanya that way cuz he was also dealing with a group of such people maybe on a higher level but and he saidat he wrote Pat according to what they wrote down again he didn't write it but I think that you know the person who wrote it um translated did a fine job so contrary to the way I was taught by and the way were taught by the rash and the rashab the opposite and it left a very bad taste on me and I've discussed it with others in other words brilliant mind excellent mind no problem but the m is not there means you follow a m a tradition that that is so important for us in yish kite in kite and the M for is different than the m we we know all that but everyone has their M but you need a m if you just have a brilliant mind and you give interpretation God bless you but it could be contrary to the Messiah I'm not interested I'm interested in following my M if I became a and I want to know I want to know and I had a discussion with a tan that was being given I believe at is KES I don't know if it's still going on and and it's galic and I and asked him a few things you know and the m and and you know the Messiah is not there which is fine he doesn't claim to be a kabik giving over the M of Tanya you know and Tanya just like a m and just like sham or whatever saor you're learning it's it's an open saor for anyone to learn I I I don't want we should walk away saying oh you're not allow to all to learn another a safer with not I'm not saying that I'm saying me as a teacher who feels very committed to this m i want to communicate as much as I can this and when when I read some something fromn who's bright who's knowledgeable but it goes against the M because he he doesn't have that M for whatever reason okay that's another discussion not for now now it's fine but it's not that's not what I want to teach okay so so what so I'm saying when you talk about the map on I want to make it very clear that's not from the and it's not doesn't have the approval of the or even a person like who was a funnel of for the because he received from his teacher and his teacher received from the rash there's a m we have a clear M so that's number one but regarding there isn't as far as I know I haven't seen that and there's a reason for it the first section of Tanya the 53 chapters is very organized it's very thematic and systematic first it talks about who we are what do we have within ourselves what do we need to do about it I mean there's a m is a clear system right get is about the unity of God the reconciling you know God and the universe one one pretty much one topic divided into 12 chapters but it's one topic geta is another topic the topic is called chuva right getes is is a very different uh baby okay it's a compilation of letters from different years out of not in chronological order at all okay not in chronological order at all which was not originally chosen by the balat to be part of Tanya do you hear that he did not have it as part of Tanya but his sons decided for the situation at hand at the time which is which is is that there were brothers and sisters in Israel who starved and have what to eat and we need to get our Russian Brethren to give them Seda and not just give Seda one time but yearly and as we learn these letters we see clearly there is this theme hey guys you gave Sedaka last year to the people n is why' you stop why aren't you giving as much and and the AL really uses and see in this letter that we're going to learn start learning today very very sharp lines I mean and you see the sharpness is because it's relevant Mish this is not theoretical these letters this is not a study of Capas philosophy you know sitting in a basement sitting in a COO this is real life I don't have they don't have what to eat they need money that's what these letters are about even the second aspect of the letters that I mentioned the idea of it's very real as far as how do you DAV what do you DAV with you're daving three times a day so even that is more in a way more real than just theoretical reconciliation of God's Unity so that's why the sons of the AL felt that we need we we we we should make this the fourth section of Tanya to show its importance because the sa T kadisha has been accepted by clly is okay pretty much Etc um and therefore if we uh append these letters to the Tanya it'll it it'll become as accepted by the readers and the Learners and the bottom line is they're going to give to people that's what we're learning now now as far as your one second one second I want to just finish answering his first his his question as far as what is thear your question if I if I understand it correctly is similar to this it says in the okay to put on why do we need where there speaks about the details of filling what do we need it for just it's the answer is because how do you know what are kind of what bind something to your hand what should I bind an apple an orange what should I bind so you must have interpretation of the gamor which we believe as from Jews we believe is T is God's will it's called T the oral tradition which interprets the verses in the shma which are in the T so now ask me the question what's the the bottom line to put on or the what's the answer you don't know what the Torah means unless you ex learn and understand and accept what the gar says and the same is true here just to say to give Seda listen I know this I know this business I know this field just to say give Saka don't work for most people why should I give TOA who should I give TOA you know what's the the need people want to know and people it's not just today people want to know from beginning of mankind people want to know why should I help what's going on yes once in a while you'll find this genuine person who who who is called a beloved of godem who jumps at a Mitzvah before he knows that's that's an exception it's a big darer and galic but most people the average person is not that way so the AL please mute yourself the AL in in in in these in these chapters which and you're right it's very good that you asked this because you identified he doesn't just say give t to the starving Jews in AR Ro he gives he goes into the whole psychology methodology um philosophy of what sedu is as we're learning over here and it's actually a deep Li it's not a in fact the way I you know heard from my teachers it's a very hard Li it get us a in way is is a harder liud is a more difficult study than the other three chap sections cu the other three sections like I said are very defined you know the theme you know what the alter is generally out out to accomplish well there's 32 chapters and a lot of pages and it goes into all kinds of details and I want to correct you um um iser because this it's important you express yourself Caba this isn't Caba this isus is not teaching cab and he uses Cab's ideas and words but it's he's a student of the B and the holy mag and therefore it's yes he implores he employs the words and and and on and on but it's not Caba and this is an important thing what I'm telling you now because frankly most kasic groups think that t and andab is cab and they say we don't cabola I'll tell you a story I was just sitting this shabas Upstate New York there's a place called Sharon Springs it's next to Saratoga New York and they have Springs there there were people there was always hotels there Jews owned hotels people came to vacation and and went to the springs the hot springs this person who told me this his parents owned a hotel there in the 1960s so this is coming from the Sun just told me this fresh off fresh off the press the story this shabas so he says the not but the the next one mha title bam who was known as the seet he came from a city called seet right and after the passed away in 1979 in 1980 he became the Reb and today two of his sons rman and rarin each one became a rebba they split and you know they pretty much live in a cold war type of Peace you know each one has 10 20,000 with buildings of people so the show goes on and everyone is happy um but their father was the and he was known as the SE the SE from seet right so he was in Sharon Springs the the the the the mother of the person telling you this was a good friend with his wife and every day at a certain time they would take a walk a stroll you know was it good air it was you know vacationing to so once this person's telling me he overheard telling someone else he says in Frank after the war they all they came to France and they were in France for a few years before they came to to America he says glaz Brin they drank entire cups of VOD Scot okay and and he's like saying this like you know wow I mean like I've never seen you he's Hungarian from se you know I never saw such a a of of of drinking not just drink say not just taking a toast but drinking quite a bit and then he says and the vice and you know what in other words a m they he didn't hungry he didn't use the word a mimer you use the word to tus Tyra tyus you know teachings so he says and with with bewilderment in his in his in his voice in his face you know what they actually study the T that the rebba says why because by the hungarians even if a rebba says a few words during a Tish it used to be that no one paid attention no one wrote it down and no one studed sted it it was kind of part of the Tish you know like H you have a shabas table you say is anyone writing down what you said is anyone taking you seriously yeah they shake their head nice V thank you very much and that next portion okay where's the soup where's the meat right so what what Thea saw by the that they sat down to review what the had said years before that and they learned it seriously their Mish learning that isus he never saw such a thing right that's the end of the story The whole idea ofus is such a different such a in particular it is completely different than most other group especially the Hungarian where there wasn't a serious given to the tias of today there is kind of this by the and other groups and God you know it all is a you know a copy of the which some of you learn which is fine so there is now more attention being paid to the tyus of of of of of their Rebus so what what I'm saying is is not and I told you the story that I sat down with some wanted to learn he didn't want to learn T no T no you're forbidden to learn Tanya I said no but he wants to learn I said okay what do you want to learn he says because that's what he learned in yes no problem we start learning all of a sudden there's some ideas and Caba words he says oh we have to skip this I say why skipped this he says I was taught in Yeshiva when you come in is safer when you come to some cabalistic word you skip it okay more cabalistic words we skip it basically we skipped most of what of the chapter I said to him I love you but I can't learn with you anymore what do you mean if is brought in in a safer it's part of that which is part of it's not cab so therefore I hope that this is will will will will will will get you to understand to to think about this that is not Caba so the AL is not teaching Caba here he uses ideas and words that are used in Caba now TOA to your question maybe it's over a quick question one of the things I've noticed is that when we look at different perim on when I mean per I'm Talk's say from sources um of Stein Sals um even Miller um I don't maybe Etc they they they they give their explanations and so forth for uh on the first three parts of of after that it seems like the only one that I could find that gives perim is the lessons in Tanya correct the classic so I so I'm wondering why why is that almost feels like when you start when you start you start going into garak kodes it's like it's like it's like the frontier it's like the it's like uncharted waters almost yeah AI ai's back and welcome AI wonderful to have you AI to see well ABI wrote to me this morning before the shear about that um you have to ask them I don't know why but I I think it's probably because of some of what I said it's it's a much diff it's a more difficult study it's it's it's it's not as uh clear and not confined and not or organized and um that's probably one reason even by he never really he never taught us Kesh he taught it here in B park because they they twisted his hand and and he agreed but he did it very fast in other words it it seems like kind of learned on their own they didn't have teachers in thees and um again what I think the the the reason is because it's not as clearly structured in a way that they they they could say that they're using their you understand it's it's a different type of a a li but it's a necessary Li and our our didn't accept all that to him it's a you got to learn it you know but nevertheless the you know it's like you ask a question why in theas some of your kids or grandkids or friends why do they learn certain right and other and why not why don't they delve into brus they don't why not cuz that's the easy stuff or really meanwhile RAB salic there gave a Shear every Tuesday night in Manhattan for years on those masas so if you want to learn deeply those you can but that's the way it is you know in the what they call the if you say you're learning bras they laugh at you you're a laughing stock you really want to know gar you got to learn the brisker learn Kim the others learn the you know what I'm saying all these Concepts you know Mig these are all from ideas that's called that's called learning hello hello hello hello mute yourself mute yourself anyway y mute yourself please so all I'm saying is in a similar wayes was look was was wasn't wasn't seen as the Deep learning like you get the first part let's learn a little bit inside cuz a Will will give it to me after the year if I don't learn anything inside pic test ABI we love you we love you and we know what you want page 226 my beloved brothers and friends I come to you with My Soul Kim as a memory to remind you and to awaken you Slumber ones you're asleep with the anxiety and worrisome stuff of not kite of nonsense you hear this this is the way begins this letter could you imagine um a you're writing a letter and you want people to give Seda and how do you start hey brothers I love you all but you're all in the dark if you think people are going to give you money from such a letter ain't happening but this is the way he tells us he loves us like his own Brothers like his own friends a deeper his soul is neish but I come to remind you to wake up from your Slumber of being involved in nonsense what does it mean it means as I'll say in a moment if you look after yourself and your family because because it's selfish it's stupidity excuse me it's it's it's Nish inish nonsense and let's continue I come to Open the Eyes of the blind very very heavy language y so that you will look and see three words that your entire um turn interest and desire and yearning three l words to imply your strong yearning and longing should be to be incorporated the spirit of your the life of your spirit should be incorporated in the source of Living Water life within life all the years of your life from Soul to flesh stop so this is all kind of these four lines are an introduction says my dear friends I'm writing you a letter a letter to wake you up from your Slumber and and and the Slumber is as we'll see soon that you're only worried about yourself and your families and if that's the purpose of you giving youra you're in dark but I'm coming here to wake you up and to have you realize that you need to do the MIT to your own family as well not as not as a selfish gesture but as a Godly experience which is everyone is alike let's look further theu so theu the last line on page 226 begins his what he wants let's see what he wants theu all worldly matters and ideas of sustenance of livelihood should not be like those top of page next page the that do it forsel for the selfish self for themselves and the Jewish Home the Jewish Nation should not be but means Idol worshippers but this was this was was really the word go the sensor of T during the time was printed had to change it because if it would write go they could be in big trouble because it means everyone so that's why they they wrote the Jewish Nation should not be like idolators right but really means like all that what that support and and give and give sustenance and assistance this is Aramaic to their wives and their children may Maya out of love hey wait a minute what's wrong to support your family AI because you love them so here you are a grandfather you work you make some money and you want to give the money to your grandkids galic you should get a medal instead of hoarding the money you're giving it away says the AL yeah right but if it's just because it's family and it's just because it's like doing it for your own it's like all other goam now go are fine but the selfish aspect is there and we are is we need to do things for God not for ourselves just for ourselves that's what he says here so don't take this as a put down to I'm sure those there are those that will say oh here again the alam's right no he means what is the norm the norm is for yourself you think about yourself you think about your wife think about your children think about your family what that's the norm says I know I understand but we're not the norm you know I've always said right we Jews are not normal we're not normal the norm is a Jew is beyond the norm and the AL says who is like you Jews One Nation see it says and Al explains look look at his explanation means that even in Earthly matters in earthliness you should find there the specialty of the Jewish people is that even in Ute in materiality in corporality you should find God so even when you're giving money to family to support your wife and family which is is the norm earthliness material it has to be imbued with go with in other words it should be Godly and Heavenly and this he will develop tomorrow more but that's what he he's coming here and by the way important just to end he's writing this to his his people in Russia to support Rael and of kalis who made Alan 1788 going to teria as you know and and with other with I think 300 a community was being developed and they don't have what to eat and the people of Russia had more so the AL says you're going to tell me that you're worried about your own skin here in Russia says the AL if that's the case you're not doing it for God you're doing it for yourself the next Point that he's going to mention which we'll learn tomorrow mem is that the pre the the the order of Precedence in giving s which is part of is another another aspect and an important aspect but the the general idea that he's teaching here in this getus nine letter nine is that anything even the good that you do if it's if it's just self and self means not necessarily only you your wife your family your community in other words there's a strings attached it's not godly it's Earthly it's Gant that's why he I'm a good Jew I'm a good good Jew a good we don't want you to be a good Jew only a good Jew we need you to be a holy Jew I think of used to always say that right holy holy the holy the kades the kadus it's not enough just to be good there's a lot of good people and we need more good people but we we are am a holy nation K will continue tomorrow I hope you enjoyed welcome back everyone please don't let this be don't let this be a onetime thing this is great stuff and trust me our sh will be listened to for years to come because there's nothing so far there's very little on so we're all making history 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