Breathwork, Therapy, Medicinal Cannabis do we need it? Does Chasidus, Farbrengen do it? RC Dalfin

I saw that um there's a discussion about therapy, psychology, breath work, and other types of modernday therapies that are being used by our community as well as the greater Jewish world. I'm not a therapist. I am not a individual who has dabbled in these fields to give an honest opinion. However, I have learned I've learned by teachers. I spent 25 years with the Reba and I've written extensively particularly my book the Reba's advice. So I share that with you and again my intent and purpose is positive not to tell you you can't do this you can't do that I could tell you that when you not just learn when you live with and particularly you fulfill the dictim of pure purchase for yourself a friend. Now people do that by paying a therapist and and at times that's needed. I'm not from those that say that it's forbidden. No. However, the beauty of the famous saying and teaching of the teaching says when you have a worry divert it. How do you divert it? Says the by talking it out. I've seen in my 40 plus years of doing this work that when you sit together, you work together, you talk together, you frame together, you laugh together, you cry together, it's cathartic. What does cathartic mean? You feel a heavy stone being lifted from your personality. Recently I was somewhere and met a young man about the church and I met two young men. Two young men. One like 22, 23, one maybe 24 whatever young. And both told me they never really spoke about what they spoke to me about to anyone. Why is that? How do we change it? The answer is you need to find this is what the Reb meant. I say you need to find someone who becomes a confidant because that's what a therapist is even the best therapist. And by being aid and practicing this and implementing this, I promise you it's as good as a therapist and if not better. I'm not talking about someone who has severe, you know, bipolar or schizophrenia. You know, there are conditions uh postpartum. Those things require either medicine or professional therapy. I'm not denying that. But the average person who's struggling with something inside, you need to find someone you could talk to. Now, it would be wonderful if you're a married person that a husband or wife should be able to talk to each other about THESE THINGS. BUT GUESS WHAT? Sometimes it doesn't work. I don't want to say many times, BUT SOMETIMES IT JUST DOESN'T WORK. For whatever reason, they can have great shias. It's two different worlds. So find yourself someone, a friend, but not a friend's going to tell you you're the best. No, a friend that's going to when you need to hear a little muser, a little scolding, he's going to tell you cuz he means you're your best by saying, "Hey, you're on the wrong track." Or a teacher, a ready, an older girl for for the girls. This system has been developed by kabad for centuries and our rebba writes it in the egress kesh. I'm telling you I went through all the kesh it's full of it there of this advice. So when he come when the Reb came up came out with a campaign of he's been saying this and writing this for 40 years 50 years. So that's that's the bottom line. The bottom line is what I want you to do. Ask yourself an honest question to yourself. Do you have one person in your life that you're comfortable talking to about anything [clears throat] and everything? And if you don't, you have to find someone. And we do. All of us have, most of us have a person. Get a hold of that person. And guess what? Sometimes you have to pay him for it. Yeah. People are limited with time. Pay him. WHY SHOULD YOU PAY only a therapist? Why not pay a friend, pay a mashpia, pay a rabbi? There's been discussions online about this, too. And I I I do I do agree with that. And do small sessions, small small conversations, a half an hour. Don't do a half an hour, a half an hour once a week, twice a week, a half an hour. And keep it on going for two, three months. And I think you'll see great improvement. You'll feel better. And of course, you have to go in with this with with the attitude is I want to change. I I I want to I want to I want to be happier. I want to feel better. And this is true for everyone. I don't care if you're a rabbi, a mashia, a businessman, successful, not successful, makes no difference. Everyone has an issue. So breath work, I don't know about breath work. I know about his abundance. classic meditation. I know about learning. I know about the beauty of a I know about a hug between aid and another. I know about a tear. I saw and lived this with the Reb is active and teaching and wants this today. So now you know the recipe. The rest is up to you. Keep me informed. If I can be helpful, let me know. All the best. And of should be tremendous with great joy and and and connection. [clears throat] And we know that this is all part of the Msiah experience. May we feel and see it because of Mameish. Amen.