Birthday HaRav Yoel Kahan, 16 Shevat - Stories abt his sensitivity & attitudes - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

today is the the birthday of the of the of 770 the one who put the encyclopedia Hab encyclopedia say for erim together and many other things I want to share a few stories he would have been 94 years old today he was born in Moscow I believe in 1930 someone came to to be a he was aen to be a for p so um it says come to me here at this this and this time when he came there with the baby the person came with the baby he came into the bu and he was ready to do the ceremony AB says one moment and asks him to step out and ab walks out and they do the ceremony outside and he didn't say why but it was discovered that there was someone else in in the room where he was that was childless and he didn't want to hurt his feelings and the amazing thing is that a didn't have any children either so about himself he didn't he wasn't you know he he didn't think about himself he's doing a Mitzvah he's a it's an honor but the other person who doesn't have children he didn't want to got forbid to he should feel insulted and hurt in any way one story a personal thing that I had with him many when I was a b in Yesa this was when we came back from in the probably 1983 so he he was teaching us I think we were learning at that's where we had is that's where he gave us the classes so he asked me if I could wake him up I said what what does that mean he says you call my house at 7:00 or 7:30 I forget now the she I think was 8 call and my wife will pick up and uh she'll tell me that uh it's time now to to go to the shear trust me he was up all night uh learning and counseling and teaching whatever he did you know and he probably got a few hours sleep so and I was you know and I did it I remember sometimes going to the public phone those days still we still had public phones and waking him up and he came came on time you know so just uh another personal thing another thing I was once walking with him and there was something that I didn't understand in a MIM and he explained it to me very well but the way he he didn't explain it to me in in 770 he said come means a walk and we walk not down Kingston but we walked down Eastern Parkway to Brooklyn up Brooklyn till Montgomery and then Montgomery to his house which was between Kingston and Albany at the time and you know as a again I was 22 at the time I felt elated you know walking with this uh you know my Mas and this special ye andb and someone who was with the Reb from day one from you know from theb became Reb and the way he was M of me as a 22 year year old man and you know not a baby was very very um Royal I recall then I I asked him also about something in the my and I said that I listen to the mimer and then I I learned the M I have the MIM and the way the mimer came out at the time when it was said I think it was the last MIM it was like two pages back you know front and back that the theim put together and and now it's a 10 a 10 a 10 page to me is everything that that that he wrote prepared for the rebba to to edit the 10 pages was really Incorporated in the two pages and he said that he even asked greenblood who was um one of the old and and he had he really respected his understanding of he says it's exactly the the way it was elaborated and prepared in 10 pages is exactly what the E had a mind a third thing he told me then I said to him uh secretary did said this and secretary said this and seemingly they have more of they know more of the Reb's opinion than others and he took he was became very stir and he said to me like basically it's it's not it's not it's not that way no one has more and I was said like I said to him and you also being with the rebba from the early years you also you know have understand and know that Reb's opinion better than we something to that effect and he and he dismissed it completely he dismissed it I remember the the was there's no one that has more than anyone else and and that was also very eye open message you know don't try to don't think that that he's Holier you're Holier you know I heard more my I was with many more years I had I'm a secretary you know that whole he he he dismiss the whole thing because it's not kabad you know the kabad the kabad approach is not kabad that's a second thing another thing that he said and finally and his wife Le well the way they had their for each other is something that every couple and every new couple should learn from I I saw with my own eyes I'm telling you in my days when I ate with him I ate with him many many times and many times alone not with other you know Shas afternoon 2 3:00 and he would call me to come with him and he wouldn't start eating till his wife came in she would put down the food but he would not start until until she came in now you'll say what's the big deal well it's not it isn't isn't a big deal the and also the way he spoke to her and the way he said over and asked her what she thought it was very very uh it was the best lesson in sh bias you know they talk about coaching you know coaching and marriage coaching this was these two people just sitting at their table was the best coaching benah alah it's his birthday do something special today tomorrow you a little extra extra should help we should be should come and only good things good ch