Benefit in older age educator in yeshiva or girls school- Story w R' Michoel Bliner - Rabbi C Dalfin

so it's also customary at a to say a story but not just the story for the sake of a story story time press the button Story Time the point of the story of the m is growth what I said before I didn't mean it as a joke that a faan isic group therapy the point of the faan is to grow really everyone in in our own way but we have to grow I if if if you're not growing you're falling if you're not growing both in aoid hasem both in your profession also in your profession and your relationships you start becoming stale there's a Yiddish word farit you know farit means means like new when something becomes rusty rusty you become Rusty stale old what's the solution Ellie what's the solution to stay young let's hear Let me hear you're a bit besides being a dentist you're a big how do you keep your teeth young Le that you're next so what do you think is the solution for staying young what's your opinion buter flossing brushing you want a long answer yeah no no I want a one line answer the wrong person I one of the things if I bring is if I bringer cuts off people anyway no so what what do you think is the answer the answer is come in come in the answer is at least may there's many answers it's a rhetorical question it's hook what's the answer what's my you want to stay young hang out with young people I'm not joking we had an our Shool in burrow Park I live in B Park my wife is right there and we live in B park for the last 27 28 years and in our sh we had a we had a person he's already but he was the senior the Z of the Sho NE he he lost his wife like 20 25 years before he passed on and I'm telling you he didn't remarry for whatever reason but he stayed fresh and young till the end even smoking till the end anyway he was around young people when you hang out with young people it's refreshing go these Bim here right Ellie your son the this this B all the the energy of the youth is galic the rebba has a letter where a parent writes to the rebba the parent says what should I do about my wayward te is not going is not following you know the script and the re says you're not FOC focusing on the Mila on the advantage of the youth on the on the sit sit down over here bring your son this place you're not you're not focusing on the on on on the on the energy you're fetching what are you fetching about he's not doing this he's not doing this and I want it to be like this way the says the first thing you have to focus on is that there there's a positivity to youthful energy and Youthful energy it gets to gets the person and the place riled up with activity and excitement you know we talk about I'm sure you have it here in in in EK in the schools in the yeshivas and the girls schools you know teachers who are already you know seniors versus the young teachers I'm sure it's an issue in every community what do you do oh well we can't have him and her teach these new teenagers of the internet age now it's getting to the AI age this world is just going bonkers I mean like what's the world going to look like look like in an AI age who knows so we're going to have a teacher a MOA from 1955 1965 they're outdated and the answer is in certain things they are outdated but nevertheless a person with experience is you can't buy such a person and I'll tell you a story I told you I want to tell you a story so this is the story to support the idea in the town where laich comes from it's there was a little town called luich luichi Lui you know there were different shoes many of you were probably from other areas and they didn't call it Lich they called Lich C Lich but it was all lbich so in this lbich they had a Yeshiva in fact they're rebuilding now the exact replica of the the building in Lich as it's already up most of it but the original of course was decimated anyway what was the the k ofab Yesa what did the rashab the fifth laab shom be he started the laaba together with his son what was their you know father and his uncles and his family they came they were learning in the laaba underground in the 1920s and 30s 30s primarily right but I'm going back 1897 to 1916 Yesa was founded in 1897 laaba in laich so you're gonna ask who is the Russa was it [Applause] raim or um another great rashash Shiva and if I told you the beginning they didn't have a rashash Shiva you wouldn't believe it they didn't because the B that the rash started the students that rashab started the with each one was a great they didn't need of course they could benefit but they themselves were they were already developed 20 year olds who had learned but you know what they didn't have they didn't have they didn't know what it meant to D now what do you mean you didn't know to D you take a and if you know and you need to know pet I know pet of the words no no we're talking about attachment Soul stirring experience daving that was the of the in called one of the Mas that the rashab chose was yet a of the third L the first AKA theed child Tred famous going theed the third reab so this his name was m b b got two other names he was known as alter the old guy and M Nev M from the a city called Neville in Ukraine altered because he still came from theed so the time of the he was the senior Mash and his family name was B so we'll call him M okay just for the record I want you ever here M Alina Nev it's all the same person like it makes a difference to us right who cares I do anyway so M was a was a who was dedicated to Hashem and daving and learning and he was appointed to mashia the problem was he was blind now who which director of a school would appoint a blind rebi in this case a blind mashia it doesn't add up doesn't make any sense guess what you think today it's only today we have boys breaking into the kitchen and doing all kinds of things in Yesa in those day they did the same thing so what happened the and the students of came to the and they said to the they came first who was the the administrator the spiritual administrator who brought it to his father's attention to and said the B saying what are you giving us a Masia who who's blind and old and Antiquated right an AK right okay so listen to what the rash said and you're paying him a salary a meager salary but you're still paying a salary so the same money you're paying to this this m you can give to a younger mashia right that's the way we think today the old people are for The Boondocks AR asab said no I hear your argument and this is what listen to his answer and then asab said even if he doesn't teach you the bakar in one word even if you don't right you go to Yeshiva and even if this old Rabbi there rebi but when you look at this rebi when you look at m al and you see a person who comes from yet for theed the 1860s and 70s and he lived through the 1880s the pgs and everything else and you see a genuine individual who's committed to hasem 101 legami to completely it's worth his salary and I'm keeping him okay okay as much as youth is such a galaz the energy and we need it there's something to be said about experience ell's a dentist right you can get a new dentist he's an experienced dentist you go to an experienced person for your health could there be a new out of college out of a medical school yeah there are gaval kept and the gaval ability I knew someone he was out in Cherry Hill Cherry Hill up right all the way at the end over there um and he had gaval hands and a former Tas talid who was his professor said to came we made a a daving by him in his basement he lived in Cher not next door and for I forget now he asked me to come to to help out with the minion and all that and uh his Professor came so he introduced me to Professor T boy wasn't religious at the time and fr to me you know this doctor that's hosting this uh this the service he has Golden Hands you know that he was deaf on one air that on one air he's such a galic surgeon that he he he did eight hospitals in the area from Philly and Cher Hill cuz he has Golden Hands you know so the idea of of of experience is very very important and after the next nigan I will get to the next idea in experience which is that a fa needs to be an experimental an experience it's not a lecture it's not a shear you want a Shear go to your Rabbi go to your R she himang is not a sheer my wife has a had a great uncle named aalas you might have heard of this he was a Jew that doesn't didn't just give lip service he sat in jail in Siberia in the nine years for helping other Jews get out of Russia with false falsifying the passports it's a whole story for itself and he could have got he had he was one of the the ring leaders so he could have gotten out right away it didn't it's he waited for everyone else to get out and by then he was the last one of the last ones they caught him and he was penalized so that mendle with God's mercy was saved you know he he he survived and he told over so many things from his what do you learned from the people who he was with which weren't exactly you know uh your Noble Citizen and amendo amendo he came to his son maybe well he lives in K height his name is b b FAS my f father and was cousin so when he got to England and he heard that the you know encourages people to put on Fillin you should go and put on filling with yeden so he takes it at face value without questions there's one problem what language do you speak in in in London user English where did that metal come from Russia he knows russan Ukrainian but English what English what English he don't know any English so how's he supposed to communicate and he goes out to The Streets of London over there and he sees a ye not yet a from ye and he stops him but he says Jew he he he found out that the word for is Jew Jew the guy says yeah Jew dreww Jew Jew Jew and he takes his arm and he rolls it up and he puts on the fing and if you think that's a story just of 6 1962 or 63 in England I had the same thing in Marin County in Northern California my wife and I were sent by theim in 1984 the first shabas does anyone know about Marine County some of us who were a little older in the 1970s there was a documentary and it it document it was it became famous because Marine County was became known as the hot tub capital of the United States except what do you do in the Hat Capital you smoke wheat and you grow your hair with a ponytail and you raise pigs California yeah in California you come from the better places in California you come from Woodland Hills I told you you're a except you're not a a princess you're a a Jewish American Prince but uh in my in my territory where I was sent to by the re we had such Jews New York Jews escaping you know New York New Jersey Connecticut and and and he was saying you Z some best of me they know better than I so this became a a famous thing in in this in this documentary anyway so the first shabas that we came I believe B was July right July I think after you Bas I don't remember was July August no I'm 23 she's 22 or so young a young couple that ever sends out young couples to be marar people to bring to a to a place is it y y Place wasn't there was no there was no Orthodoxy there was no frite at all there was one reformed Temple One conser ative place and then a Reconstructionist place and then kabad 19,000 Jews according to the Federation demographics and we my wife and I are sent there we don't have children yet we married just four months earlier and uh our job is to to to make some yish kite no first shabas oh so the way we got there is because there was a group of Bali Chua there who wanted a Minion for sh Kipper I'm not it's a long story so I don't want to go through all the details but basically they contacted me as a a b as a single when I come to help them make a minion I said sure this is this is aab is a 23 years 22 23's dream he's going out to a fertile territory and they said they liked I was there I took another b as about so between him him and I we led the services the Dinger and they really enjoyed it and they said we want to hire you I said there's one problem I'm not married in kabat the way was and I think probably still is you're not married you're not yet you you you need a wife you need a companion in fact you could be whoever you are without a wife you know you're a nothing I'm just saying I'm saying as far as the as far as the aspect everyone is an individual everyone's important or single or married but I'm saying as far as the is the couple needs to you know it's a couple the women you know learn from the the the rebbit said and on and on and on anyway so so with there we come out the first shabas it's literally 95 Dees outside it's a July chabas in Northern California it's boiling hot and I'm walking with this black thing in 95 no shorts people are jogging if there's anyone on the street you know and so the few that brought me out and a few others we had nine people and I say to myself hi am d the re sent you to bring yish kite here you're going to let the first shabas not be a minion it shouldn't be a minion it's a kened z can't be so what does Kim D do he goes out with his Talis he leaves the n in the in our they rented us a four-bedroom house the balab him cuz that was theab house my wife and I we you know that's our house but it's the kabad house too four bedrooms big living room beautiful kitchen it was it was great I go out and I start looking for a 10th person there isn't anyone to be found in in the streets it's 11 11:30 no one's around I start walking and I walk and I walk four or five houses down I see someone under his car and I go over to him he was changing his oil and I go over to him I say Excuse me sir may I speak to you for a moment he comes out schut dirty you know greas and all that and he says yes how can I help you I said I'm your neighbor I just moved in here last week I'm your neighbor and I'm Jewish and we have a a small synagogue here here and we need a 10th Man to help us make a help us make a quorum a minion you don't know what I'm talking about so I say to him what is your name I remember his name Mr Andy Brown not BR Brown Andy Brown and you you see Ellie you make believe you're Andy and I'm Kim dolphin I Amin right and face to face you're under the car schik is standing up and then I say to him are you Jewish and he says yes I say good I go like this I start walking he says where are you taking me just relax Andy I'm not going to hurt you he walks with four houses down and he helps make the minion I never saw him again at a minion I probably he he didn't know anything but the is not going to go into now proofs if someone tells you they're Jewish and you don't have a a reason to believe they're not Jewish you you you have to accept their testimony and I believe if he said he's Jewish because there was no he he's so far from Judaism why would he say he's Jewish the man didn't know anything so I he became a 10 man what's my point that menal foot says you drew I drew now just for another moment then then we sing another supposed to do that 15 minutes ago what is the nuda here what is the the common denominator between the rashab in 189 with biner m futas in 1963 and kimin in 1984 you know the common nominator is submitting to the higher power submitting to the to the will of God I always say why is rashash two days y why is r two days and your Kipper is only one day the answer is because the the brings over there that the they didn't know was your father will explain it I don't want to go into it right now go take more I have another explanation that's of course true very simple rashash is about submitting to God no one wants to submit you're going to tell me what to do you wish it husband and wife really you me I I have it my way you have it your way way your teacher your Reby oh I want this no I want this to submit to give away to give up is so difficult compared to rash is easy forget bang a little harder I'll one I'll two cry a little more St a little more you're in the ballpark you're in but to submit and spends a lot of time in fact this connects it to the road you listen to there's some tapes online of Sal I love the way heish is real yish you want to hear real yish you listen to Sal you know the the word for carination is that's the real yish word with the Russian accent so R Sal says it's the coronation of the king and he had his mamed in in kavich in 1913 who taught him what it what R is all about to submit it's a it's a hard job that's why you need two days J it's not enough one day to submit takes a long time it takes 48 Hours you can't do it in 24 hours hopefully we do it in 48 hours so what's the the what's the common denominator between all the three stories that I mentioned before is the submission to a higher power and that's it that's it that's it that's it there's there there you know this interpretation and that interpretation are all gravy but the the thing itself is the submission to AES and when you and when you come to a point in your life really that you're ready and willing to submit things will fall into place everything will fall into place you won't have questions on God you want to have questions on your teachers and you want to have questions on your parents today there's a big issue with the parents my father my mother I need therapy for that submit to God and you won't have any issues doesn't mean doesn't mean it doesn't mean that every everything your father did or your mother did was exactly a okay but nevertheless nevertheless the the submission of man of the ye to a higher CA of the ab that will will direct you in the right way wherever you are wherever you go wherever you end up and that includes your children and your grandchildren it all falls into [Applause] place