Be Practical, Don't fly in the sky: Awe, Respect, Fear - 2 kinds - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we're learning Tanya we're a middle of chapter 23 we're on page Huff tests the Hebrew letters on the left side of a regular Tanya and we're about seven lines from the bottom after the brackets with a period the word it's the last word on the line it starts with overzeb so the altered taught us until now the virtue of Mitzvahs and the virtue of Tyra and he said that this explains two statements one in desire I call this one the holy Zar that Hashem Arisa I'm sorry histora God's Terror and God Almighty all one and the other statement in tikkuniv known as there it says the 248th Commandments positive Commandments correspond to the 248 limbs in a human body and the altareb explained and this is the chapter which focuses on the difference between the relationship to Hashem when doing the Mitzvah versus the relationship to Hashem when studying Taylor studying tight and not as a midst of not not emphasizing the midst of studying Torah but rather the intellectual process of learning Thai to understanding with your mind and then with your mouth that expresses what you understand and basically he said that Mitzvahs are compared to limbs of a body where the limbs follow the dictates of the of the of the nephesh of the will of the nephes called the Russian hanepish but nevertheless the limbs are separate are independent from the Russian from the will of the Soul whereas whereas Torah is is one with the person when one person studies Theta the altadapa says about five to seven times on Pace 29 that I 56 and 29 he he this is use the word constantly so what we understand is the aspect of yehud of unity of joining of you being united is the focus in Terrorist study the the emphasis in mistress is the Bittle the subservience the subduing the self and it's two different worlds both are necessary both have an advantage that the other one doesn't have and this is this is what he says here so let's now continue seven lines in the bottom foreign why is the study of theta have an advantage yes [Applause] more than all mistress even over the Mitzvah prayer right the rambam writes that praying doesn't mean necessarily from a sitter he doesn't say those words but we understand that from the rambam prayer means I woke up this morning I have a day ahead of me I need I need God to help me so I say Hashem help me my mother of blessed memory grew up in Costa Rica she was a Child Survivor from Poland and the family made the way after the war to Costa Rica because my grandfather had a brother there who came there before the the war with a whole group of Polish Jews that came there in the early 30s and they did well and they established a Jewish Community with an orthodox although many of them were not Tech fully from Orthodox anyway so my mother there was no there was no Yeshiva there was no Jewish girl school nothing you were taught at home by your parents you came to shul and if they had a visiting Rabbi or in their case they had a sheikhet you know by the way they're saying you know what the Sheikh was leaders if you put the two brothers next to each other you wouldn't recognize them he was from but you know he wasn't accusted at least he wasn't he came for acidic stock but you know I don't know if he had a beard or a trimmed beard then you know he was more of a modern person but he was and he was the Sheikh who shifted um Kosher meat in Costa Rica now again I don't know if this was in in the 40s but you know in the 50s and 60s and 70s he was the Sheikh and he has a daughter who became a laborator married to Ola bavisher anyway so there was no sense of uh of of Education so my mother grew up here going to public school and whenever she got her home she got then Hashem she got the basics of from kite but nevertheless you know being educated is a different different thing and she didn't get that because it wasn't provided later when when she married my father my father was a a laborator buffer from from Yeshiva he learned he learned to pretty much 11 11 12 years in the laboratory system starting an artist's role in 1950 as a bar mitzvah boy through 770 till he married in 1960. well 10 years sorry anyway so he was naturally not you know not only more from but more educated and everything else but I remember there were times you know when we had to bench and dive in different things and you know as we grew up in in Yeshiva you know the children are always more from than the parents you all know that you know you come home and they tell you what to do so so I did the same thing and if I didn't see my mother face a benching or this I would I would make a comment you know I would say ma come on let's bench something like that you know my mother did she she looked up to Hashem Hashem thank you for the food that you gave me because it was hard for her to read the Hebrew That's how little education she had she could read but it was hard guess what according to the rambam she fulfilled her obligation of trila filamentarizer is bakosh praying beseeching God it doesn't say in what language it doesn't say with what words because it's not you don't need that to fulfill your obligation as soon as you have a need pray to Hashem that's it in any language in a new form of course you know we still wanted her to and we encouraged her to to say more of the the benching and whatever else and she did but I'm just saying and you think about it you know can you imagine you're talking about the 1960s and 70s right today which bucker which boy would take a from boy would take a girl that doesn't bench if he knew the girl doesn't and he's from not talking about he's not from or doesn't care he's a cow wouldn't even look at her but in those days you were lucky you found a girl that was willing to go to the Mikvah and in her case was willing to cover her hair when it was like to cover your hair with a Shea tool was outrageous and I would remember the Republic he single-handedly broke through that issue for the babbages and it spilled over to other people it's not that I mean I don't want to you know you go back to the to the Middle River past second Obama should have passed the city of Posen but lived and he writes what he saw there and it's imprinted in the letter and he says that the key of eager wasn't a vikiva a great Taylor scholar who but he said he saw his wife and she wasn't her hair wasn't covered properly or maybe at all let me keep it Acres what you know like I'll be salvation's wife wasn't the hair wasn't covered properly or covered in the house and when they came with a tiger so he said what do you want me what do you want me to do to divorce her I've told her we have to you know it's a different world today but you need to know that this wasn't the world that we came from for whatever reason now there were periods before that probably was there was more from kite but once the pogrom started in Russia in 1880 Etc one second Maisha there was a breakdown I think I told you there's a few writers and uh Brenner and other Israeli you know became known as Israeli writers and Poets and I took you take a look at their picture clean shaven completely bald they looked like the greatest Communists you know coming out of the KGB take a look at their father's picture you can see it with a beard down to their belly button father and son and this was common by everyone there were exceptions but they were exceptions so so we mentioned here three legs I'm saying all this that you know if you have a son or a daughter who said they don't want a bench should you spank them should you punish them she throw them out of the house so she'll say you know what you bench in your own way but but but they'll know they'll walk away with I have a way of benching which is my own way hopefully they'll come to realize that the gazao the way they set up benching is the way it should be but if not it's fine it's fine so that they're connected and according to the rambam they've done the Mitzvah yes Maisha what did you want to say and get this [Music] growing Dolphins you know when approximately did the shape till meaning with actual women actually begins to start to wear shape though well we do find in Europe the the the there were women who wore a shayto you could see pictures you know uh you know I have a picture from probably about 19 in the 1920s of uh a great grandmother and it looks definitely she's wearing a shakeel so so you know they were gear Alexander hasidim you know and um and they probably came from that pre-1880 time so there were shapeless but I would say in America in America it started in the uh late mid to late 50s into the 60s um in in in the Hasidic world and in the modern Orthodox worker I say the Young Israel World probably another 10 years 10 15 years and it's still not you know um it's still not a hundred percent but they've definitely you know they they've come along and that's why you have all these fancy shade look I'm not saying just because of them because the hasidima wearing long shade like it has been as you know a lot of complaints about that you know very um uh you know shapeless that are very uh seductive looks very seductive you know there's a whole controversy about that but that was a way to get more women who were you know very upset that they can't show their hair and you know etc etc so it was a way of kind of compensating for that and it it worked again whether that's the way it should be I let all the rabbis and and rappers argue it out you know um you probably know that till today bells and certain other communities their anti-shakal they're against the shaytal and they say because of this reason because it leaves this you know it's a seductive many times so it's not sneers so they say where the Tigo and with the Koopa you know they um and uh I'm sure you have that all over you know probably mayor sharim and we have it you know Williamsburg for sure and then in Boro Park too so that's my answer did you get the answer yes behind the 1880s which was right in our trips because she married my grandfather was the it was from trust and the family named your family name was hella so when she came to St Louis then her relatives also had those games they opened up a gentle storm um in St Louis and that actually stayed open until maybe about um 10 20 years ago um even though it was in the store was now in an all black community because she told his mother came very popular in the black community wow but how many for but would you know like how many of Orthodox Jew Jewish women wore Shaker in St Louis from 1900 to 1970 I mean just roughly no I was born in 1942 I don't know right but so let's say 1955 1960 were you telling me the women were wearing Shake lock in the street it's hard to believe in St Louis it's hard to believe um I'll have to ask my niece because my niece loves to say hello since she's home and um I know um I don't know if I'm not from the 60s okay whatever ask yeah ask her and let me know be an interesting to start to know and I really think I mean that's very interesting what you told me that you know that it started in in 1880s and trisk and all that okay let's learn Italian myself this is the unity of supernal worlds skip the brackets in other words if you want to accomplish a unity in which the even Superman worlds are united with Hashem it goes to the channel of Torah study and and because of this the intellect can can comprehend and sorry can accomplish to draw upon himself something called avram great or great fear you have to do that Oscar and potato through learning title The Learning title well let me we'll talk about that in a moment because she is born in when the one learning title will contemplate how his soul and its garments within its mind will be fever in the mouth they're actually join the United alien to the supernal will of God to the infinite God turn your page leads to page 58. that's revealed in them in the mind and in your mouth in comparison is Sir to all these supernal World spiritual worlds and the lower spiritual worlds are all like nothing the f is words like not compared to when ayed learns Tyra all the worlds and all the celestial beings the Holy Rollers compare don't compare and are like nothing to when a Eid learns Taylor foreign to the point with those upper worlds and little worlds are not invested in them they're encompassing their peripheral the penis is to unlock give them real highest it's only that there is a certain emanation that invests itself what they could Handles in other words the upper worlds and the lower worlds as holy as they are their amount of energy from Hashem is limited and if there were to be too much energy they would become not you know we think of angels we think of Souls and shamas we think of the celestial beings the star of the Moon the everything else the constellations oh those are real holy I mean those are real they have they have so much they have so much of a relationship with God out that Emma says here compared to one yid learning Tyra they're all nothing and what they have is they have energy but it's periphery compared to when Aid learns Taira he becomes one with God I always say when Aid learns Taylor he is the embodiment of God God is walking God is singing Etc yes yes separate us so how do we contrast that that natural state of being with this which says that in other words just existing so to speak they're still they still have this this connection how is learning Torah different than that okay good question the answer is every Jew essentially their Essence the quintessence is connected but if you don't learn title and when you know you should learn Theta the connection is dormant I mean right connection is dormant and it can be very asleep for a long time but there's still a heat and they have in the shama it's all nice and fine but when you learn tight huh it's like we said the other week it's um what's the word I'm looking for um inconspicable what's the word uh it's you know it's it's it's flashy Judy is it's flashy not flashy it's your Euro you're vibrant you're vibrant you're learning so so the connection Maisha is vibrant so the fact that Aid has an ashama is true but the shama without gas is not moving you need gas you can have a beautiful car whatever you consider a pretty nice good car but if you don't have gas or the you know today the Tesla elect electric connectors it ain't going anywhere but it's a beautiful car in my hour days it was a caddy right a Cadillac or for many was a Mercedes you know on and on but without gas it it didn't go anywhere so what's the what is special about having it in my driveway is for the show now people should walk by say oh wealthy people live here they have a beautiful Cadillac Mercedes or Tesla whatever right the point is when you sit and learn even one time you've make that connection real it's materialized it's actualized and what's the connection says the connection is is that you connect with the essence of a chef let's continue possession this is what the the verse says God commanded us to do all of these statutes Hashem so that we fear God the glamor skip the brackets again Ella the laugh Cole Mike the only thing is that not every brain every person can tolerate this year foreign about a certain era that's kind of too much for the for the actual person but nevertheless is an experience and this is what we spoke about yesterday when um when you asked about here we're going to talk about what's called upper higher or versus yet a tattoo lower or is a sense of reverence and all that's a gift and it comes to a person from time to time but on a daily basis we're not equipped to live with that because we would not be able to function in the world in a way that we know how to function and yet you know be Who We Are one second is Sir in other words it's like you'd be diving and learning and praising Hashem every moment and what's going to be with family what's with business what's with friends yes he said what do you want to say reminds me of the story of the Paramount time begging him to give him a prophet that he should be able to experience Shabbos the way that the the bear mankind did okay so he uh against his will he gave him the bracha and the next Wednesday he started running through the streets screaming Shabbos Chavez by Thursday he was running around screaming more was totally incapacitated he became Monte Chavez he became normal and this went on for one or two weeks and the family said what happened he said I got a brother from the Vermont that I should experience Shabbos the way that he does is what he's not crazy he couldn't handle it he was out of his tailing because to reach those kind of spirits yeah yeah and thank you for the story and unfortunately this happens too often especially in the issue in in yeshivas I I know I know of baharim who cracked up because they just went too far I know someone who he already passed on he had a photographic memory and he decided to do the kleisenberg you know mifflashas I think it's called where they learn Shas by heart you know in three years I think over three years and he did it so you don't sleep much you don't eat much you know I mean you don't have to do it that way but many do and uh he cracked up nope well so you know which is which is better you know and then there are in the Chabad too there's a famous story The hasid who was relatively young and he was a ivad Hashem a servant and he became very ill the doctors told them this is because you didn't indulge in food and sleep throughout and I'm sorry you didn't have normal food and sleep throughout your life you sleep on straw whatever was available then which was a little more comfortable whatever you know he he practiced what we call escafia Extreme forms of subjugating the body the doctor said then you know you're dying and when he took us it said that he said all have listened to this line cover all of my avoida all of my great service to Hashem of subjugating my Yates Sahara and my indulgences my taiva isn't worth one more day living so I could put on film so see them said who can make such a statement and really mean it only someone who dies because of afraida because he he subjugated his body he kind of tortured and painless body only such a person can feel the value of one more day putting onto it so you know it's a perspective so it I believe supports what you were saying you know you have to be have to be uh the Kaylee and you have to know yourself I saw with Rubio you know who when I knew him in his younger years when I was a student you know he didn't take much care of his body he had you know crazy hours of sleeping hours you know he was learning and teaching and running to Lakewood into Philly and to hear and they're giving shurim and I you know and I he asked me when we were studying by him I was studying but he asked me to wake him up in the morning to call his house because he was up most of the night okay I'm just saying when he came the last 10 years 10 15 years of his life it came for shopping came for Shoppers to borrow Park and happened to sit next to him he had his pills all lined up his wife gave it to him and he was so meticulous in taking his pills the same the same to me like no one there you know knew him that well in his youth younger years but to me it was so it was like funny I I had to hold myself back he's taking me a pill at a time I never saw him taking a pill you know but that's it that that's it you know so the sense this idea is the same idea let me just finish although the mind doesn't handle this upper or like me now the limits usually because of the lowliness of this person's soul because it comes from the lower rungs of the ten sweetest um this unit doesn't prevent you from action much because of a comma as Dalton I will talk about later in Tanya and after they're basically saying and this is important the fact that you don't have Yeti law and and I expect and and and it's understood why not because you're not in that level and you had come from a lower place in in in in your soul is not from the highest rung in God's godhead nevertheless you can't use that as an excuse not to act because for Action even the lower level of year is good enough that's an important lesson when it you know some will say I'm not ready to do this and dismissal this and this action because I'm not in that level says here when it comes to myself deed just listen that listening in obedience to Hashem is acceptance so the fact that you don't have with the bear mayank had knew so what so what that's what that's why you can't you shouldn't work towards feeling Shabbos and working with Shabbos yes pull it it's listening to go to Sportacus here is here at a time what then what's your what's your email If I Were a Rich Man title titled title die if I knew what it is I would tell you I mean you know you heard it's a story I mean it's it's you know like you know it's it's it's something that one doesn't usually you know feel but if you had if I had to say it in words and you know kind of make make not make it up but you know it's a sensation like I told you like my father after that's my bringing pesach when he was driving home at two three in the morning and he said to us I don't want anything I just came out of gun Dayton he wasn't if I bring it he just walked out of Dunedin I don't want food I don't want a wife I don't want kids I don't want money I don't want anything I just want to be not Aiden okay it's it's it's it's the sense of you just you're you're happy you're you're you feel good you in other words it's something that you you're taken away by a wave of ruchness you don't have to it sounds like well clay Clayson that this is is has that but in in the ve in in the with the notion of Clayson which is you know another wow in other words yes close on Netflix is generated by a yeti yellow but it doesn't have to always be it doesn't it doesn't have to be is there that clay that Yeti law should lead to to the story you said the guy becomes with sugar it could happen but it doesn't have to happen that way if you refine yourself to a point where you become rebelike uh it's Godlike some alike you could you could you could you could experience it in a uh in a in a proper way again to say that you'll you'll have it constantly definitely not it's the same idea we learned in chapter 14 Tanya if in the original rights that when you do the right thing you're impressed your soul is impregnated it's called Ebor what does it mean soul is impregnated it means you get something that lasts for a while you don't know when it's gonna leave and it gives you such a boost that you you're someone else and then when that finishes you you go back to yourself so um that's it you know but it's it's it's not something that um that was my to answer your question more specifically it's not something that you know do what's right you know Olive Bay is gimmel that's not what we're talking that's Miser that's the last words of this chapter that's Behavior action you know here it's it's a different sensation it's it's a it's a it's it's a feeling that goes Way Beyond the behavioral mode your entire being becomes a different a different being and and and people around you will feel it you know we'll see it yeah yeah sometimes you you see something like that in a person unfortunately it could come sometimes from a tragedy I know I know Yeshiva who didn't have a great head wasn't learning well his father passed on and he started to learn how seriously became so knowledgeable you know again I'm just saying that these shifts these shifts will bring Camp will bring about some changes that are not the expected changes so sometimes it does come from ashrida uh you know a problem a tragic situation an illness Etc and sometimes it comes from a positive and we hope that it comes more from the positive and not not uh what we perceive as negative and you know but the world we live in you know we we see that in other words like we've discussed many times in our classes you know with covid ha I mean the world went through such a change new which was a tragedy which was death right maybe saying observably I'm not saying bepanemius it's all for Hashem No it should have made a paradigm shift in it in us in our communities you know and look we're pretty much back back to the same you know the same old same old you know so sometimes the Paradigm Shift happens and sometimes it doesn't you know um you know it's a certain maturity and seriousness that a person you know there's no more games you know my time is limited here you know I'm just saying that I have access to Kevin speaks about a bustling it's not trying to make us naked if it's a gamara you know ain't nothing yet either a person doesn't know his time right so you take a serious little time to waste well there's no time to waste wherever I am what I'm doing whether even when I'm going on occasion how am I going to make this a hookah stick a place to learn my children and grandchildren people around me to take a walk and talk about something is in other words there's no time to waste here we're here for a purpose okay so when a person you know comes to that spiritual maturity in it's a little a little maybe of this giving you love you know but um regularly we we doubt the rebel teaches us and remember because he's talking to us as potential being in him the average person of RAM is telling you don't worry about either you alone you know the year of your life you get it you know wave your flag you know this ain't great you just worry about that though you know you know doing what's right having obviously thrill to every Jew even when they throw stones at you even when they laugh at you even when they're against you you know don't reciprocate the hatred don't reciprocate the the feelings but just love and and goodness and kindness and this is hard this is hard work I think Easter we've discussed it the class way back it's very hard to to feel that when someone hurts you when someone is out to get you to have a feeling of Ava of love to the person mercy so the mercy doubted in chapter 12 the alternate says to learn from Joseph and his brothers that he had mercy on them we're not talking here about Mercy talking about love ever to an enemy I'm not talking about to to a guy who's trying to Anonymous trying to kill you talking about your brother and sister who who disrespects you family family brothers and sisters fighting over Wills on and on you know you know burial issues it doesn't end it doesn't end because everyone has a different opinion my father wanted this no my father wanted this he should be buried to the right to the left he should be God's will be the cremated or should be buried and everyone has an opinion and I am the signer and I was left as the trustee you know so these are these uh this is where you have to stand back it's very hard hopefully you have a good wife a spouse who who can help you with this and a rabbi and a friend however and um it's an ongoing avoida for the average person it tilt 120 it's an ongoing operator for the best of us for the best of us you know it's just ongoing have a have a great day we'll see everyone tomorrow yeah thank you