Assessing the Situation Properly

we're on page 157 in the mimer country mayan and uh just to review look at 155. you only by the way did you get the saver yet or not no they didn't answer me i asked murders okay i'm going to ask moshe moshe would you mind following up because he's tried a few times with aaron schmidt i'll follow up too i'll follow up too you know he he he he doesn't have the say for it so we it's already two weeks i think he has it he has it i was there already two days ago there's two copies just like this sitting there waiting for people to go pick it up okay so you hear me never answer okay okay so tell them you're ready to pick it up okay let's start peter yody i'm gonna be there this afternoon later for minha oh yeah man please stop and i'll pay you back yeah no problems okay let's go so let's learn the kitzer i'm 155. with the learning about this idea that from the uh the emanation called the sweeter of wisdom of the first which is and below dalit it comes in an organized calculated way for four reasons aleph or me because inherently by definition it's an inner light that orphanemia and an inner light requires order and calculation number two say that it's in a progression in a progressive in a progression atmosphere hence it needs to be organized and calculated you can't be in an accountant's office and expect to be chaotic and wild although many people come into an accountant that way and we don't have ishmael to tell us that because shmuel's probably has handled some very very uh wild people in california uh many of them from people who come in and ask him to solve um you know to say to save the brooklyn bridge even though it's sinking and sinking rapidly and the bar of hashem he's done amazing for them but the point being is when you're in an arena in an atmosphere of seder guilty say that it doesn't work remember that i'm telling you remember this rule and i see it's you know some my daughters in particular they i remember one of my daughters would come home was a little messy she says i can't i can't stay here i'm going crazy i said what are you going crazy what's quiet he says yeah but this is not in this place and this is not in that place in other words by an orderly person when something is not orderly they turn off they're not they're not themselves so we're learning the same thing idea and again you see here how this point in a mimer is an entire ethos of life it's an entire way of life sader so if you don't have seder you you has been won't work if you want husband which the sphere in this case we're talking about a sphere a nomination that is of accountability nature therefore it requires number two say their order number three miss robbies because the fact that if it it invests itself in a particular place means this is its home this is where it feels comfortable like some people they won't go anywhere you know why because they need their bed any other bed being in a hotel be it at a parent being at a child they feel uncomfortable so they say i'd rather stay home you guys are familiar with that so there is the idea of the slavish be clean finally point number four reason number four the owner knows that it's not going to just inspire the level that it's at which is in this case but it's going to continue progressing downward well when you progress downward and you're overwhelming you're going to lose the the customer so you could talk a certain way to a certain customer because you guys grew up together and your buddy buddies or you've done business a long time and you know how to talk to each other you know but imagine you have a new customer who you've never met and you talk and act the same way and you turn them off my wife always tells me you know i've been teaching for years women hear what you say in a very different way than men you cannot talk to women the same way you talk to men and this is true what i think we need i think we need like a week-long shear just on that point i i i have to admit i'm not the one to give a share on it because i'm still working on it it's it's it's it's a skill it really is and you know you take a person like mannis friedman and then certain people who by nature they're you know they're more calm and and different things and you see that their success with teaching women is great but with men it's you know it doesn't compare and i don't mean classification to point out madison friedman because he's a great teacher if anyone listens to him but you understand you know if you compare him to let's say you see jacobs you know someone who's more dynamic i think you'll see that men relate more to that and women relate more to someone who's docile and calm and all that anyway i might be right i might be wrong but the point is there's a difference between men and women in the way they hear things and the way they receive things so the rabbi here says point four mistakes the earth knows you understand i'm not gonna stop in kokuma you're gonna you're going to want me to go be lower than oh lower than i have to plan now how what to say how to say it and what not to say you hear that so the same is with with a spouse with children with congregants with employees you know and and i think about this a lot of times let me say something this way you know or no not like i said i'm gonna say it this way you know like the first flash i'm gonna say this way then i sit back say wait a minute wait a minute if i'm gonna say it this way or write it this way it's going to get to someone in timbuktu and someone who maybe doesn't like this and that i need to write it in a way that even that person who is an opponent should say you know maybe i disagree with him but he has a point if i can accomplish that it's good writing to change someone completely to change their way of thinking and agree with you that's that's a much harder job and of course we as writers and everyone in their own profession wants everyone to agree with them but but um that's wishful thinking and also it's not uh it's not necessarily a godly way of thinking like i told you the terrorist says regarding the temura right you attracted called exchanging an animal if you say i went to my backyard today and i saw this nice cow i would like to bring it to the base of migdash then you start going and you're on the highway on the one and suddenly you see a farm and you go to the farm you see another better cow and you say you know the one that i have i'll bring back to my house i'm going to buy this one i want to bring a nicer cow to the base i make this for a carbon the terrorist says sorry chap sorry you can't do that you know why because you already dedicated and made kodesh made holy the first animal so the terrorist says the first animal us and it's exchanged the second animal that you saw on the farm both are now kodesh and you need to bring your both to the base of mikdash you you thought you would right so this verse da rizal says if you take the first four letters of the verse it spells out the uk that the tether grammation the name of hashem of utk buff k each letter of those words rep is a youth worth kate in uk buff k and arizona says that is the energy of the month of shrok which is in a few months from now there ever once explained i believe i was at the fabregas amazing amazing explanation the rebels said what's the connection between the month of srat and the acronym for the month being and the river said the connection is because the month of shock is associated with utrat his father-in-law's passing his yard sight and his entire being was dedicated to bringing tata to another jew and when he came to america he had everything translated as what you know in english in other words in russia it was for the the jews in russia and poland and jews of poland america for the americans so he based it on the possibility for him hoyle i believe he explained it in 70 languages so that everyone should be able to follow the titus the represent the same thing my father-in-law is objective of the same thing right so the idea of outreach your future disseminating the wells of of torah of hasidis to the outside was the objective of my father-in-law that's the same idea of making an exchange for an animal you see a person who you you know who's not that that you know you need to make an exchange the person is needs needs a tune-up so your job is to make an exchange you make an exchange so you think to yourself okay i'm going to teach the person tell you that i'm going to help him with mitzvahs i'm going to help him out and get him started and make a mention out of him and all that and then the person says thank you very much i want to be on my own now you get very offended and we know this right when you help someone and they then speak in your face or they laugh at you and they say go somewhere right i don't want to go into it now it's because it's for another time or maybe for never but everyone knows when you when when you when you go out of your way to help someone else and then they kind of reject you it's very hurtful you feel very very hurt one second hello so the rebbe said that notice that the acronym of the utk bufke is not the word kodesh shall be shall be holy it's a year it shall be and its exchange shall be that's the end of the acronym the word kodesh which is in the torah the la that word the last word in that verse or whatever in the verse kodesh is not part of the acronym akuff kodesh why and there ever said because whether the person is going to be holy or not is not your business that's hashem's business our business is to make the exchange to do what we have to do what will be don't play god and and and and the reason why we get upset the reason why we get upset is because we had an expectation we should not have had because it's not a real expectation whether someone gravitates to the point where it becomes holy that's between him and hashem what we need to do is provide the opportunity here provide the opportunity and that ever said that was the whole mission of the previous survivor why do i say this now because we're learning about this assessing assessing what they are needs to assess where it will get to and if the r is too much overwhelming is is is fine for hakma but it's not good it's not it's too overwhelming for bina and and das and crested and the levels lower than then to begin with this r has made a mistake in in in this in assessing the situation and it's it's a mistake that he's made that sorry that it's made because on one end you say you only you know made the mistake the receiver you don't want to budge you don't want to move you want to be the same way right that's the way we talk and we think many times i'm doing everything for you here it is i'm giving it to you and you're not so it's about you not about me so whatever says here when we're talking about an aura meaning to say if you if you want to be in a relationship please means relationship you understand market is not relationship panini is relationship if you want to be in a relationship you need to think about how they will receive it and perceive it because it's about them not about you yes hello i wasn't uh i was just making sure my mic was off okay let's continue my high timer the citra akhira the negative side can also get in and benefit me because from the market number two things believe the uke it doesn't give a precise amount it's open-ended it's open for grabs and the amount that's open is burribly a multitude a lot let's turn to page 157 and we'll begin now the 10th mimer peter goddess the zelda received so he goes back to the first mission that we began in chapter five from devarim 29-18 and if you haven't yet looked it up please do so at some point and memorize it because the whole the the all these six chapters are focused on this verse and that is his buddhism [Music] he will bless himself the tata hakadasha the holy titus says that a person will bless himself lamer saying shalom yearly i will have peace keepers libya for i will fee i will fill i will fit i will do what i want you know i'll do my merry my merry way and if i do whatever i want i'll feel great i'll be peaceful that's the end of the of this part of the verse says that but the one who desecrates a transgression he says to himself he blesses himself in his heart few years surely he'll have peace balls he'll get a lot of energy a lot of vitality the whole i thought it would get so much good i did have down the country he won't get a little amount like the other guy his neighbor who's religious he's going to get a lot because he works as shabbos so the people are working on shabbos whatever in that industry so he's going to work on shoppers he's going to make a lot more than a guy who doesn't work on shabbos keepers i'll go on my merry way because he goes because he goes in his merry way shall i appear not according to the dictator he fantasizes and thinks like cabori and that he's getting from the maki philo piazz keshman that has no no no limit kamoyak clips just like the clippers in the situation they get this endless amount of energy that they use and abuse so two he'll be in the same situation [Music] of the verse is a reason why his brother he blesses himself and says he'll have peace because he'll say he says i'll get from the market they say the is not from the organized way and now i have an abundance le mans voice out of us that's mayor and the poster continues and says and thereby [Music] svotes voice the satiated which um with the thirsty we said earlier and repeats it here that the rubber the state of mind called rather in comparison to the thirsty st the thirsty meaning the state of mind of la missing hashem and and feeling i need hashem the one who doesn't who feels that kashmir is he has gushness and that's all he needs therefore he's satiated [Music] more and so he's in a better situation that's what he thinks than the one who's thirsty and says i don't have enough of hashem in my life which refers to the side of holiness because this maya mindset receives the energy from the side of holiness through installations progression through the brain which is limited avalor metabolism is also clear to believe in the judgment but the roughest state of mind receives from beyond satan establish without accountability and then the process continues there in devarim chapter 29 verse 19 one verse later hashem will not forgive him this attitude is a recipe for no forgiveness by hashem god forbid why says the rabbit this is acceptable you know for who forgoing glenn don't have the same responsibility as us eden so for them it's happy-go-lucky and guess what [Music] you know why because we tap into the inner only to the penis of hashem we're we're god's apple of the eye right we're the so what works for a non-jew will not work for us so you're making a miscalculation you're thinking right the thinking is do like the jones my neighbor is doing this why don't i do it do it if it's good for him it's good for me says that he's a non-jew she doesn't have the responsibility he's not tapping into pneumous his energy is a market which is important and good for an andrew but you're from the mias so what's good for him is not good for you very very important insight let's continue then as the titus says even later in the dvaram chapter 32 verse 9 hashem you'd keep fk itself denotes histamines and he explains is k the first k is bino verve is uh which means the small faces meaning the middles the the emotions and ke ochrein and the last k malcolm's is royalty and kingship shame next page shape page 159 and wherever that we have the uk buff k it's premiums youth cave off gate by its very nature is a pneumous checked because yaakov because jacob chose god because since jacob chose hashem hashem chose us so now he talks about the the issue of indianapolis the idea of choice it is the refinement of choosing specifically this and not that that's what choice is if you have yani a red apple and a green apple and you don't like the t the color of red is that a choice no choice hello means there are two identical things and it makes no difference to you and you choose one over the other so the rabbit says here hashem choosing us means that we're in a way two identical things and he chose us jews let's see if he let's see if he develops here or not a king who chose a portion a certain portion of someone got up and said this is a disgrace can this person expect to live the elu is [Music] the message is saying the message is saying you have a portion report he chooses a a portion and it's pathetic and he says from that you could live from that amount of food and that type of food you could live and all that no so the method says they made a choice and he made a choice that he chose the jews to be his gula and he says that says this choice now listen to this this choice is what we call a choice that consists its contents is pneus it's not a choice that doesn't touch him many times we make a choice and it doesn't really touch us it really doesn't it doesn't uh you know trickle you it doesn't let's say you let's use the psychological word that doesn't cause the paradigm shift it's a choice and an important choice and and and yes but it's not making a real difference in who you are says that this choice of akadeshwar who choosing over touched his essence that's what he says real choice is when there is a pneumous change this opens up an entire idea why sometimes we make choices and the choices we make are poor inaccurate sloppy and the answer is because you're not approaching the choice in a inner way in a deep way in a premium way you might think you are but you're really not in other words a choice should be a very serious issue when i say serious i don't mean to stay there stand there crying but i mean it has to touch you you know you have to be focused that's when the choice is coming from panemius that's what it says here next paragraph she a portion of god says my soul my soul in other words a jew soul says hashem hashem is a part of of me that said soul says that obviously it's very deep he says he says like this let's look at the let's look at the message [Music] there was a king who was entering the country and he had high officials government dukes government officials the institution and high officials [Music] mushroom i shall take a duke to myself hadamard another person that was observing this said i will take a government official and the third one agave i'm going to take the um the official high officials three opinions three each one wants another person accommodating the king you know why because they'll get a position like the rebel always said about his crazy politics in the knesset they want the bankhold did you ever hear the rebels they never use that expression they want the seat how many votes can i get how much money will my party get right so these uh the the people observing the king walking behind them with these big mockers each one says you know i'm going to befriend this mocker and therefore betrayment is gonna have better fire hydrants on the street the other one says i'm gonna get him because they'll give me a piece of land i'll be able to build a shoe and everyone is politicking you only look what the magic says further this matters we should memorize this message there was one clicker to get this word a clicker a smart guy pikachu pikea and he was observing the situation and he said i don't want the deputies the officials the dukes i want the king himself why why they couldn't miss half in because all the deputies and mockers they're here today and not tomorrow we just saw it with trump and company it looks like he's out he can beat trump and schmump and pump but politics is politics votes are votes again whatever happens i'm just saying miss kaufman things change the king doesn't change the king never changes so why go for the schlemiels go for the treasure go for the essence yeah the schlemiels are all glitzy cufflings fancy tell teslas big shots everyone has a bottom and a top you're at top one day and the next day you could be on the bottom okay and this is life and it's happened day in day out and everyone knows it whether it be financially whether it be emotionally right but the king never changes so he says i don't want these knockers and big shots i want the king says the medish so to the some worship the son hey no of under somewhere should the moon oh man or if the lights were having some worship to the the trees and and stones i will because each one feels hey if i have a forest i can build lumber [Music] they don't worship the sun they don't worship the moon they don't worship the stones the rocks they worship only to see if this is the meaning of the verse the possible this hashem is my portion everyone else go jump in the lake but you know it's so easy to say it after you learned the medrash and we're hearing our little screen talking to each other right but but to do this in real life is a is is a great challenge and a great accomplishment to be able to to to let go and not be fascinated i like the word fascinations not be attracted by the fascinations that are offered as you go along is very difficult let's continue next paragraph the glitz exactly this is the fact that the trader was given to us specifically to yield not non-jews comes from wisdom you don't put five portions of children in the bottom only four if you have five it's possible right and sharpest is shabbos and not another day it was given specifically to us because of just like the negative energy of forces in the world that receive abundance of influence from the net from the energy top of 161 to yahoo he's making a mistake a toast why because leo is the israel apneas because he didn't come from anemias so your husband won't work it's a good husband it's a good thought for a guy but not for eid meaning whether we're talking about hashem choosing gideon the hein princess israel bill octopus and we choosing hashem is it's a plea music experience it's not a shallow experience so we'll stop here for today mr sham and we'll continue tomorrow as the champions butter and we have a tremendous insight and important lesson that um seek plenius because you are premius you hear that you have to very good question yes i don't know if he's going to get to it maybe he is but maybe he's not i don't know but what what is he what would you think the his his idea is here when you take the the gosh miss and you turn it into the music so like let's say you know uh [Music] that's that's not only fine that's necessary the whole idea of transforming gospels into rookness but that's that's a polymes dick approach yoni that's that's premium so plenius doesn't mean you'll need to exclude gosh miss it means to incorporate gospels and you know i think i told you once this um this person who belonged to a reformed temple in my early days in marin county and i asked him to support chabad and and you know he said i wouldn't really even respond to you because i don't i'm not orthodox i'm not interested in all of that you know i think he grew up in portland maine but he said i'll tell you why i'm responding to you it says when rabbi hayem yitzhak drison was the the the first shliyak in northern california that rabbi akunan appointed in 1972 or 71 72 73 in the early 70s okay that's when they opened up the chabad house in berkeley and um he you know he he needed to raise funds as well so somehow he met this person who gave him an appointment and i think he asked him if he could sponsor the kitchen at the chabad house in berkeley has have any of you been to that chabad house hillel have you been to it yeah yeah in fact i um i learned with uh rabbi ferris uh uh before my wedding very beautiful robbie who the ferris is he's excited wow okay so we have we so you guys will i didn't hear what you know the sun said johannes has said that he live he lived in the cabaret house for two years they had they had a they had rooms it was it was it was really fraternity or something yeah it was all fraternity and it was really it was really you know what house used to be in the 70s you know what i'm saying late 60s and 70s and on the college campuses it it's very different today's chabad houses this was real chabad house nostalgia i remember i i still got the tail end when i came there in 84 and when i was a booker in yeshiva in l.a in 1980 or so i i think i was there too you know so you got a taste of it the whole berkeley scene it was it was very very interesting the guys hanging out on the couch and you know and people taking a smoke here and doing that wait wait was it was leopardic it was real habat house so so anyway so rabbi drison went to this fellow this person and solicited him you know asked him can he sponsor the kitchen he was a welder and um he said to him he'll do it i don't need the 4k but he gave him a nice donation for the kitchen equipment and then and and then so he and i called him that was the 1970s i called him in 1985 or so because one of my congregants was a very good friend of his and he said call him up maybe he'll give a donation to chabad so i did so he took my call and he sent something i forget whatever he but he said let me tell you why i'm even taking your call because i'm i'm still not orthodox and i still belong to reform temple and all that he says when rabbi drison came to see me to solicit me i was blown away here's a rabbi with a beard yes his beard was you know rolled up and it was nice and neat and a tie and he's any and he looked but you know what threw me for a loop his suit he wore a suit that was fancier than my suit and i said if there any rabbi can wear a suit that out does me he's worth his money he told me this and he gave him the money and then 10 years or 250 10 years later he picked up my call and and i didn't get to see him and he well you know i didn't see him i don't know if he would be impressed with the way my beard looks and all that in my dress because i didn't wear such suits but anyway this is all really responding to you so here rabbi drison wore a fancy expensive suit which you would call modern with 770 and and flatbush and borough park and yerushalayim they would say he's a real jew he dresses fancies into his clothing vanity and the answer is that he dressed sharp very sharp why because he needed to make an impression of such eden and he did and the proof is in the pudding and that's an example yoni of taking gosh me that's premiums that's not now if someone doesn't have that in mind and he really is dressing cool because he wants to look cool which is vanity that's between him and hashem and and it needs it needs correction and it's tickle it needs refinement but the whole idea of of of tyra is to take kashmir on any and all level and make it into us i think the story is a good one to remember and to share with others zygason everyone we'll see everyone tomorrow bye bye take care