Are you an on-time or late type? limited vs. expansion Igeres HaKodesh 13a- Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

we're learning T we're starting today chapter 13 Ines on page T just a brief introduction this letter was written in approximately 1792 1792 travel in those days was very difficult as you can imagine for a Jew Aid to go see his rebi it wasn't like getting on a Spirit flight or a Jet Blue flight and going from Florida New York or to La wherever it was a major event and usually if you got to your Reby once a year you were a very happy camper now as travel became easier 100 years later some people got there twice a year but until really the the travel boom traveling to a sadik was not an easy Endeavor and in fact many times you would walk part of the way or most of the way and then you would hitch a ride on a wagon and this was the way people did it my father-in-law told me he remembers when he was a little boy in kov Ukraine um he remembers going on a wagon with his father uh I don't know if he was he was going to to Reit them but he remembers the scene you know and and he described it to me just it was like so real here's my father-in-law you know here in America and he's telling me about something from 1932 or 3 three you know so imagine in 1792 now finally when you got to the to the Rebus h h means the courtyard right where did you stay whether you were there a day two or three or a week two or three whatever where did you stay well you stayed with people who hosted you but they hosted you and you paid them usually a few cupus a few pennies so it was a good partnership because they needed the money and they were able to put you up and trust me it wasn't uh even a two star hotel accommodations whatever and they gave you a little food but some of them didn't have food to give you they maybe can give you some straw to lay your head down and sleep at night so what the AL did is he he he created what's called a fund for visitors who come to him to have food like a soup kitchen that needed money this letter is about the Shah the the messenger that the sent to various communities throughout Russia and Ukraine to raise money for this fund as well as Pig the other it the other item that was very prevalent an issue that was very prevalent at time was non-jewish land owners if the Jewish owner Jewish owners of businesses didn't have the rent on time they would punish them by throwing them into jail into dungeons you know we read about it in the these cidic stories like fables but it's true p means the Redemption of the captives so why were they captives why were they CU they couldn't pay their rent just giving you a generality a general idea so you needed funds to to get them out of jail so the AL made this fund which he which this letter is alluding to as well to raise money for this fund so that people should be able to if they don't have the rent either pay their rent to begin with OR get them out of jail so this is a letter that was written early on in a sense before the AL formalized in a in a public massive way the philosophy of kabad cuz that started after UT 1798 right and this is 1792 but nevertheless he he was in charge of people of this of who came and he wanted to take care of them so this is what this letter is about now the end of the letter there's another part that's not printed here but it's printed in his letters which we have in the book of letters of the balat and the rebba has a remark at the end of this chapter telling us about that and we'll talk about it when we get this so let's start now on page which is opposite page you this is a verse in Psalms inim 31 chapter 31 I believe how abundant is your goodness King David is praising God the author of The and so good so abundant is your goodness that you have hidden it you've HIIT it put it aside and hit it let for those that fear you what does that mean that means that there's such goodness that Hashem grants a person for doing certain things that it's too good to just have available every day there'll be a time when it'll be revealed the next part one second one second the next part of the vers is whoever Shields himself and you God hopes and God and Ne it will be words man it'll be revealed so the balan's question is there's a contradiction between the first part of the verse and the second part of the verse the first part of the verse says it'll be hidden and the second part of the verse that he doesn't actually site here he just he alludes to it with the wordsim stands for V Etc so but the qu the why DBA doesn't bring it I don't know but that's the question the question that he's at he's he's he's looking to answer his here we have kind of a contradiction between the first part and the second part although he doesn't bring the explicitly the second part he alludes to it yes what do you want to say isn't it that it's the or sorry isn't it this is the or no it's not it's not put put away for the sadik in the time to come it's hidden but it will be revealed yes only yeah but but iser you know that cuz you learned in in Rashia beginning of in Braes and other places but when you read the verse tell him it doesn't say that you know you know comment so you're saying it's p no doesn't read the and interpret it you read the there's in one verse he says how abundant is your kindness that you've hidden it hid it away and then the next part is means it's it's whoever shields in you so that simple text what you know is is an explanation and a good explanation I'm going to see if Al goes on this way and he doesn't Okay so that shows no no it doesn't contradict it it's two different explanations but I'm just showing for the fact that the Al has entirely an entire chapter when entirely different explanation that what you just said that shows that it's not the simple text okay so Moshe is that clear we have a contradiction in the verse between the first part and the second part is the is God's goodness revealed or is hidden which one make up your mind David David is praising God so of course what is a Jew answer it's both how that's what that's what he's here to explain let's go further says now that do you know that he he he's answering the question already he's saying basically there's two levels but he but what what what he comes to introduced now is you know why there's two levels because there's also two types of people and there's two types of experiences and it begins in God and a manifest self in man and because there's two therefore David King David when he Praises God he refers to both so let's see what he says when it comes to people who servicing God and the the Servants of God there are two levels separate completely separate levels [Music] one is from the perspective of their soul sorry from the perspective of the Soul above and and we say that these souls are associated with the right the what do the left represents concealment contraction control the right represents giving so the the there's a soul that manifests itself more in the giving in the and there's a soul that manifests itself more in the restricting holding back yeah it says you shall be modest in your walking and you're going with God modesty representing quietness and humility holding back another verse it brings three verses in the hiding you shall cry in other words the expression of crying of emotions but do it privately be Ming such a verse and finally whoever studies Torah quietly is praiseworthy so there's three verses that he brings here to support the concept of the left this quality of the left is the source for contraction and limitation in service of and he says for example when it comes to giving charity a person is gives what he has but he doesn't have he can't he doesn't give number two we learned earlier someone who splurges shouldn't shouldn't Splurge more than 20% one second so what do we see what do we see we find support in Torah writings to giving a limited amount and don't give more than 20% give what you can we find such a concept so to in regard to the study of all other MIT it is adequate to fulfill the obligation that the obligates a person to study Torah by setting aside times do you know that it says you're supposed to learn Torah day and night M says this we don't have a chance sorry got to do business I got live I got to eat so how what how do you reconcile it to so the answer is set times to learn like this is called setting a time we have a time from Quarter Two to quarter after to set times that's called for you those times that you set that you're able to come you set a time to learn every time those two three days a week you're able to come that's set it's a in your your inner clock so we find that that exempts you from learning Torah the rest of the day now you hear that amazing thought in other words let's say you're going to say tonight I'm going to see shalom shalom is a mutual friend of ours right we're going to learn very nice but it's not set if it's set it's set but let's say it's not said or tonight I'm going to go to fa tonight I'm going to listen to Rabbi Gordon or today I'm going to listen to Rabbi Gordon while I'm sitting and and and and relaxing whatever right if it's a set thing that is called your set Torah study daily which exempts you from learning all day Torah and doing business and everything else you need to do so what do we see yes sir we see that within study itself the sages and and and Hashem says I'm giving you a mechanism to limit yourself yes you want to ask something M you have your hand up no okay the right side what is you mean it's the attribute of kindness with expansiveness in service of God Cloud such broadness without limitation to give and to learn and to do and not to and not to worry what's my wife going to say what's my boss going to say what's my kids going to say and what's just do and give that's called hisus expansive without any limitations and without any concealments as it says you shall walk in a broad way walk upright meaning don't allow don't allow yourself to be limited just go and do and from this attitude comes forth what the sages say kind of throw put a fear into students what does it mean of fear it means that I'm the teacher and you're a student and there needs to be disciplined like the doctor was telling me comes to Medicine he's the doctor I'm the patient you want to you want to you need to listen you don't want to listen don't go to a doctor so when when does the tal when does the student feel more of the I use the word fear but means you know the reverence for the teacher when the when the student sees this teacher is really broad expansive knowledgeable it's Etc today is the yard site of the the second do bear so there's a story there not a story there's that that in his desk there was always lots of coins you know money lots of money and the question was why so the answer was because when a person would come into him and ask for advice and ask for What's called the to correct certain things that the person did that wasn't right and all that the M felt that the the the the expansiveness that the money the coins cause a person that you don't have to worry about where your food's coming from and where your rent's coming from added to the overall Clarity of mind and Clarity of Soul so that he can administer the right soul advice for the part the the particular the the Jew who comes to seek his advice right and and and you know if I may say so you know I I tell when when schim and rabbis they ask me to come speak for them and and you know and they're and they're going to pay me for for for what I what I what I do and all that so I say do me a favor take care of it before I arrive I don't want to think about money when I come and do my when I when I do my service when I do my service I don't want to think about money at all so if we clear it up before and it's behind us I give you full 100% now you'll say well you got to give you should give full 100% even if not you're right but we're humans we have a Yahara and you know and most people you know they're somewhere in their psyche where they'll say well uh you know did I get paid did I get paid when am I getting paid how am I getting you know what I'm saying you don't want that so the having the money on his table it wasn't because he was hoarding money and he needed money but it brought an expansion to his Consciousness okay to use I don't know contemporary psychological or uh you know terms an expansion to his Consciousness so the AL says here that when you go with the attitude of expansion of and there's no Gul and there's no limitation then the recipient the students feel it and they see it and they have more respect basically when you come in Weak you're perceived as weak when you come in strong but really strong not a faker and not a boaster and not a bluff but you really are strong and you really are refined and you really are a master the the recipients hear it see it smell it feel it and they grow from it okay and and I'm not talking about in in in a bragging Way I Am the teacher I am the professor and you know but you have to listen to me I'm the doctor I'm the rabbi that's arrogance let's continue he says and this attitude leads to having no contraction and limitation at all and there is no prevention to the spirit of his generosity whether it be regarding giving charity whether it be regarding studying and such a person it is not sufficient for them to fulfill their obligation by saying I met my quot believe it's a verse and I will give you blessing I'll pour to you blessing what kind of blessing believe die b b die die die die Adam for item no end no measurement now is saying over here we have two types of servants Servants of God some people live their life in a measured way now think about it you know a time is a time and it's like everything is saying figure it out you know and what happens when it's not you know punked punked means exact and figure it out you flip out you freak out and you get nervous and you get upset you told me you're going to be here at 8:00 and it's 8:10 it's one type this is not an excuse to come 8:10 we supposed to come 8:00 but we're talking about the internal clock of man some people their internal clock is very midak midak means precise and punctual because they're limited they they're limited and it's not and by the way it's not a it's not a deficiency that's who they are but that's who they are some people a clock to them is a black hole some of us with with the wives and the husbands and the kids you know a Sim Sim is called for 8:00 an engagement a and you show up 9:00 why I your internal clock says to yourself if you come eight you're out of your mind people are not going to be there I'm going to be there too long it's like I can't come on time now where does that come from so sometimes it comes from a balagan a balagan meaning confusion and Chaos like you don't have your life together sometimes it comes from a deep place inside that's expansive Broad and he you see it's very important to know this when you pick a spouse when you pick an employer when when you have a choice to pick not when you don't have a choice to pick your kids you don't have a choice to pick whatever God gives you that's what they are but there too it's important to focus in what type of s what type of person is this child versus this child and you'll find such differences from night to day and you need to understand it and work with it accept it and go right so the AL over here opens up the door and says that in general before we can talk about the hidden good and the revealed good and what's going on let's talk about the overall concept of being limited versus being expansive this is what he did in this section so far tomorrow we will learn the continuation everyone have a great day a third re there's a third option and that is when it talks about time right it's cultural it's Jewish time you can't be at the at 7 o'clock because 7 o'clock is regular time but 9 o'clock is Jewish time well Yi I'm a Jew and I come on time and I'm sure others do too so but I know what you're saying but y it's it's not I disagree it's not Jewish time that's what people like saying there are Jews that come what more like the I heard somebody went to M shabas went to his sh and they were seeing kibon and this fellow was from says I don't remember my father my uncle ever singing Kon and Sh shis and they said the re's holding shabas he just made KES he's mock with to make KES before shabas okay but that that but yeah that that's that's a certain exactly but that that's that's a certain service that's not you know it's not because I I don't believe I don't think it's because his he's that type of person it's it has to do I think with a certain style in a that the option of this option of you know chooses okay have a great day see everyone tomorrow M take care bye bye thank you thank you you're welcome byebye shalom