Antidote to Israel enemies is loving a Jew unconditionally - Soul Power - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

we're here we learning p on page me of L right but let me give you a brief introduction because it's necessary this chapter in Tanya in the original version of Tanya which is called Madura I don't know if you know but the Al wrote a first version of Tanya what we're studying is not the first version we're studying the second version the final version the first version we have a copy of it and was the Reb instructed it be printed I believe in 1981 or so and they actually published it and it's available and there are differences in in in words in paragraphs and things like that another major difference is that in that chap what's called Madura K first edition there's no P Bas this chapter that we're going to learn today begin studying doesn't exist then and the reason this chapter is all about a which in our present situation is very appropo but regardless as far as the flow of Tanya from chapter 31 continuing to chapter 33 this chapter really shouldn't be here because if you recall I told you that the nine chapters in Tanya from chapter 26 through 34 are one Continuum and the theme isim how to live a life of sim how to be to serve god with even in a situation as we have it today and when we have personal situations right and the AL discuss this at length so if that's the case where is there room to talk about it's just not the appropriate context and that's why in the first edition of the Tanya it wasn't there but the AL for some reason which maybe we'll talk a little about soon the AL saw it fit that the final version of Tanya the final Edition which we study and we've been studying since the the Tanya came out is it does have 32 so the already said that happens to be the Which chapter was inserted between 31 and 33 naturally 32 but the word 32 in Hebrew is Le right l b equals the acronym the the Gat of lamad B is 32 now this isn't just a play on words remember I've taught you many times that the whole system of gatria isn't Abracadabra it it it's it's it's false and it's foolish to think that it's a little game here oh it happens to be 32 equals the heart no it's it's a lot it it has for it to have Torah value it has to have intrinsic value that makes sense and that's what the AL is going to do here is going to show us how this idea of is of Le of the heart is relevant to helping a Jew have and if it weren't relevant to our service of God of have of of being Anem and a better person a better ye and a all that it's meaningless you know many people have hearts you know you know what I think what was the c one of the foundations the Heart Foundation is like a heart we're not just talking about having a heart we're talking about here a Jewish heart and we're talking about a heart that's predicated on God not just because it feels good to do humanitarian care but it has to be predicated on Hashem so this is what we're going to learn now that's one thing I want to tell you number two the last chapters chapters 29 30 and 31 were like heavy muser chapters of the Tanya where the AL in order to talk about Sim and attaining Sim you have to know the flip side if you live in fantasy world it's a nice world but it it doesn't go anywhere and the and and the flip side is that the world we live in the world we live in has problems has issues has evil has bed right our personal life has struggles so the Al and therefore these things become blockages more so where do these things emerge from so the Ala brings the zes with the Z the Holy zor says it comes from the Clipper from the negative extren husk and shell that con conceals God called Kiper and this kipa caused is a blockage so you D in the morning you D with kavana and you go down you go to work you go to eat you go to work and all of a sudden you don't feel what you D there's a blockage the Clipper was created by God for the purpose of challenging the man a man the Jew and creates a blockage so the ALB in chapters 29 and 30 gave us meditation th ideas to think about how to break this blockage that's what he did in 29 and 30 and some of it involved our lon l loneliness how we are Shuffle not Shuffle in the sense of humility but how we are coarse and how we are governed by our bodily needs and the AL spoke a lot about it remember I told you on one page in chap 29 he says the words he he this this is man himself referring to the that man is NE so this is part of the discussion then came chapter 31 and the AL says that you might now be very depressed and you might say how can I ever come to sim if you're telling me that I am a a grub is I'm a coarse animal okay all I want is food and sleep and Tyas and everything else everyone on their own level how am I going to be with how can I truly you know chapter 31 says an amazing thing he says make the focus of your soul which is in your body primary and realize that it is the most precious thing in your life in other words put the focus on the spiritual not on the physical and yes your physicality is grub we know that he says but let that not be M let that not confuse the goal and the mission the goal and the mission is to be spiritual to be holy to elevate ourselves and in other words when you're Ding and you're learning and you're shedding a tear for Hashem in your hasem that's the truth that's who you really are the fact that your body sleps you right afterwards to to know good stuff and all that that's not the real you and Al says another thought in chapter 31 a phenomenal thought he says the fact that your soul your Nish is slept into the narish to the nonsense of the T of the of the it should evoke within you Greater Mercy for your soul because this is who you are if you know this is who you are and now you realize that who you are he in darkness you have more Mercy I want to get out of here not to say I'm a gonner I'm finished really I'm a behmer I'm grub I'm course and and my soul and my neish is ancillary once in a while it it it wakes up it pops up and says hey let me do something for hasem no just the opposite so the more you focus and understand that a and as the Reb would say the the nature of a Jew is Transcendence not the nature of a Jew is humanity and there's something an adjunct within Humanity called Transcendence totally wrong the teaches us this is the this isn't just the B teaching is just the opposite we are Transcendent and we struggle to put our Transcendence into the world of gmas which ultimately we need to do because if you're remain Transcendent not a mountain you're going into the clouds and you don't you have no reality you have to bring Transcendence in the physical world but the fact is we are so therefore a Jew can cannot not cannot say and I say cannot I don't mean you can say whatever you want but the truth is a a Jew is not normal not normal and that's why the goam have a problem with us because the world of G is the world of normality a 1 + 1 equal 2 1 + 1 does not equal three we are 1 + 1 equals 3 and that's how that's how it it it comes out sometimes for whatever reason Hashem makes it come out through events that happened shabis which is very you know catastrophic and and and negative and bad and everything else but that's the way it comes out there's different ways throughout our history brings about the in but that's the fact the fact is that we are Transcendent so therefore we are not normal and that's why the guy does not understand us at the end of the day okay okay so therefore what is say chapter 31 if you know that this is who you are as a je and now you're telling me that you are slept into tiis have more Mercy on who you are it's like your talent who your your your your whatever you are is is is like buried have mercy on yourself G get out of there you you can get out of there cuz that's not who you are you're in a foreign field this is what he said in chapter 31 now he comes along in chapter 32 and he said say based on this theme that you are to make the focus of your life the soul the N over the body this makes it possible to have true a is and when you have true love for another like yourself that reveals that your Mand for all of life and all of Torah is about God being primary and Humanity being second or worldliness being secondary in other words the over here that we're going to learn soon is that is not just another Mitzvah love your neighbor as yourself so when you learn that in when you learn that in the what do a Jew walk away with M after learning that in the T the Jew walks away with there's another mitvah and the mitz when you count Mitzvah according to the and according to the r and others you count that as one of the Mitzvah soon will teach us here it's not just another Mitzvah it is the essence of every Mitzvah how is the essence ofin is bind your hand bind yourself to Hashem what does it have to do with soon we're going to find out how and the the the nutshell of it the explanation is that the essence of every Mitzvah is God being primary and gash's materiality being ancillary so in a in the Mitzvah of loving another Jew as yourself it comes it's revealed in Fillin when you put F on you don't you don't see that I'm binding myself to Hashem right right but when you when you love another Jew as yourself even though that Jew seems to be much lower than you or not as observant and is not as involved not as normal and all that and yet you love him and not just you love him you love him or her as yourself that shows that you're not focusing on the yak and the p and the clothing you know just the shabas I'm here the shabas I was here in in by my son right so so I during the weekend I saw someone someone bring bring someone else in someone else comes along he had tattoos all over his body written in Hebrew even onto his farhead Mish you can read you can read Torah from his body at tattoos right a he's aish boy right now you tell me in Mayar or in Bur Park you know or you know if they would have a to such a ye you know it's like it's like probably many people wouldn't want to get close to him it's like they're disgusted you know not that they hate him but it's like and and and from the outside it does look you know for a person who's not doesn't have tattoos all over his body in Hebrew it's it's pretty weird it's pretty strange and this to such a as well not even to such a to such a because guess what the is the tattoos the the essence is the Nish so the essence of every every ye is the Nish Thea has no tattoos the the Nish is not fathomed by tattoos and this was the Reb you talk about the Reba's breakthrough when he started with with sending out the schim to college campuses in the 60s and and and everything else this was uh this was a big thing I think I told you when Rabbi cunan came to California 1965 so he you know he just was new from New York he didn't have fun so he went and he he parked himself somewhere in Fairfax which is a section of Los Angeles um where the from yeden started to uh migrate too from from boil Heights it was called which was the old Jewish section of the 40s and 50s anyway and his work was to he opened up the first kabad house on campus at UCLA no it was the 60s everyone's wearing you know the ponytails and and everything else that you you all know about so it's it's you know it's pretty wild shabas he needs a Sho he's a he's a FR guy cin and he has guests all these hippies all these so he brings he brings them with him to sh Los Angeles at the time was was really Hungarian Jews who survived Hungarian polish Jews primarily hungaryan Jews when he came into Sho with these hippies they they they were very upset and they didn't want them you know their odor wasn't a great odor to put it mildly the look was as I described before and here these are people you know who are uh you know from Hungary you know they didn't they were beardless they weren't you know with beards but nevertheless they were put together and they were trying to make their life and they made their life and they did very well and they established families and they did tremendous SED and and everything else and so they went over to RAB raichik who was the superior of RAB kunun because he came as a for the reab Rayas the sixth re the freed Reb in 1949 and cudan first came in 65 so he had uh 16 years on him you know and they said to RAB raichik if you don't tell him to stop bringing these people here we're going to run you out of town this is and and they were friends with RAB raichik and they thought and they consider RAB raichik a reab was very holy they gave him to they gave him petition notes to bring to the Reb to bring to the oil he was by them the re of Los Angeles was because he was a very very refined person but nevertheless you don't bring these guys a tower shoe and RAB raichi told runan you know you got to make your own shoe I I I understand where you're coming from you know cuz I'm in the same work in a way but these people don't relate to it and cunan ultimately moved from Fairfax to UCLA that's reopened the kabad house and gay Avenue which some of you I'm sure have seen that's the trajectory and the story of how kabad moved to Westwood other words before he was living in Fairfax doing activities at UCLA but he wasn't living there you know but it became unbearable because the people couldn't relate to them and and and at the end it worked out meaning to say that they became supporters of Rabbi cunan many of those hungarians and Rabbi cunan helped them with their kids cuz these people not all of them had kids that stayed from or were on the way of becoming not from and and and other issues with G and there were issues don't think the issues didn't exist by the by the by the fies in the 60s in in Los Angeles or in Chicago or New York we have plenty of issues plenty of issues and kunan help them okay but nevertheless there's a time and place so I'm just giving this uh story that this real what that really happened that's just the story that that the idea of of breaking through and and putting the focus on the Nish versus the Goof is not an easy one in other words in a way the Hungarian Jews were saying normality is first be a mench be dressed nicely come to Sho like a mench right what what are we saying what What's d is saying yes if someone has that sensitivity that's the way it should be and if not they no less of a so the kid that comes in here I bet you if it continues coming in a year or now I don't know how those tattoos will come off I'm not a maven and tattoo removal but there'll be a change change in this boy's view okay and he had a big afro of hair with AA so I I don't know what's going on over here but it was very interesting you know right trust me if he stays with a program for a year with these kabad Niks I believe in a year from now he'll probably won't have his afro and and and somehow he'll be covered up more so if he you know those tattoos aren't seen as much you know the point being that put the focus under this show don't put the focus on the Goof that's what the AL is going to teach us now so it is a connection to chapter 31 again I repeat just like in 31 it tells us the way to have SIM in your life is to focus on the good on the Nish not on the low L loneliness of of the body so to so and in which Mitzvah is that seen more than any other the Mitzvah of is if you can love another ye like yourself with that same you accept yourself right when is the last time you saw someone say I don't accept myself I mean it's it's it's you know it's not it's not awful we say that oh what I do is right what I do is right the way I look is right you know we all just justify our Behavior if you can justify your behavior justify another's Behavior meaning to say that you find an excuse we find an excuse for our Behavior find an excuse for his behavior where was he raised where was this boy raised do you know his background do you know about his parents you know about his community no you don't know all you know is you see today that he comes in dressed the way way he is and everything else I described before well that's very shallow that's very shallow that's such a shallow approach to another ye so the AL says that if you are if you're able to fulfill the that shows that your your your thinking your Paradigm is soul over body Soul over y Soul over NE and if that and and and if you if that's who you are then what it says in chapter 31 will be much easier that you won't become morbid and depressed from the F from the negative and your goof but you'll put your focus on your soul and you'll have SIM in your life that's the I I spoke out pretty much what it says now let's learn inside a few lines B chapter 32 through fulfilling the words that we said before in chapter 31 which is that your body be despicable and disgusting in your own eyes the body in the sense of the Tyas of the indulgences and the Cravings that are unhealthy they should be disgusting and Despicable rather only your happiness your should be from the happiness of the Soul alone right H not happiness of the Soul together just a the only thing that turns you on that makes you really is soul is n nothing else turns you on turns you on in the sense of Holiness I don't mean you know sexually Etc Holiness the the only thing in your life that gives you is is okay so says look the next line is is is is a CH is grounding this is the the proper yashar the the right path path number two and the easy path to come to fulfill to the mitvah of love loving your friend as yourself not just to everyone to every Jewish soul and then from the the great one to the cut to the small one now why does he have to add these words he doesn't suffice with saying those words he says and the reason is the following because there's two types of AA this is a general idea there's what we call a natural love love love for yourself does someone have to tell us to love ourselves no I mean at times we beat ourselves up and you know that's not good but we're talking about it's natural for us to have love love on our on ourselves like I said before we justify everything about ourselves then because it's you it's me it's you then there's AA there's a love that comes with a and a a reason I love you I care for you because you do this and this for me or you compliment this and this for me I am weak in in organization and you help me organize my life therefore I love you I care for you that's an AA with a time with a reason guess what when when an AA when a love is predicated on a reason which means when the effect is nullified is a n is no longer there the cause is is an old and my dear therefore today what do we see what the world call I fell out of love it's because to begin with your love was based on a siba if the love is not based on a Sia but it's based on a belief that this is from Heaven it's a whole different experience of course there is a concept of a get and there reasons for divorce I'm not going I'm not saying that but what I'm saying is that when a love is based on a siba then when the siba no longer exists I find someone else you you were good for me for 20 30 40 years but now I have no feelings and blah blah BL blah blah and therefore but what if you have the attitude which is the attitude of the that I've told you in the past but I'll remind you the story he was daving shabas with his Talus over his head it was 2:00 in the afternoon and the wife comes in and she says come home the kids are hungry I have to make kidish and he does just continues Ding and he doens he's ding to Hashem she sees he doesn't listen to her he walks she walks into the Sho no one else everyone left she schaps the Talis off but there was one fellow in the back Bar's friend his name was famous and he sees this and he goes over to his friend and he says you know I think you need to divorce her because there's a here when you when you purchase something and it's a it's a it's a mistake in the purchase it's an invalid purchase you were K you acquired through kushin your wife right she did not understand that you are such a Jew that you D for hours and when you finish you finish and you didn't understand that she wants you home at 2:00 you're both good people but it's not a sh because this is your focus and this is her Focus so he turned to his and this is talking big big you know and he says you're right Hally you know a divorce is Justified but what should I do that the gave my wife and I and he made a the that will be in vain if I divorce her and therefore I'm not divorcing her now think about this answer think about the answer you know we're adults we we're we're already grandparents you know what I'm saying some of us the what he told what he told this is you're looking at the situation on the ground right on the ground it's a mistake and on the ground I don't have feelings for you there's something that's Transcendent in a he said in the words of the rebba but the abish sanctioned this you know so from on high it it it's the way it is and again there's don't don't I know you're probably thinking well but the Torah says there's a time for a get and there's we know that but we're talking about from your perspective from your perspective on the ground there's something higher that creates the bond that creates the bond and and from your persp perspective and if the other partner doesn't have that feeling yeah this is going to be a get I I I think I told you I I heard in my house you know we were a a holocaust house you know my parents grandparents theyve went through the Holocaust you know so there was was a lot of issues you know just like RL now you guys went through a we you guys we all went through a holocaust Le a shabas you know the trauma tremendous the effects for Generations will continue it's just not even a question right from everything well you grow up in such a house there's a lot the stress there's all kind there's issues There's issues on the other hand there's a lot of togetherness and you feel like you're all in one room and a lot of warmth and a lot of love you know it's not this cold cold house you know what I'm saying it's very intimate and very together and the same time there's noise and there's quarreling get know you know what I'm saying and all that so there were times when you know someone in the family made the other person nuts you know what I'm saying at least they felt that way and and they said I'm going to divorce you and they didn't mean it so my grandmother Le would say I don't want to hear that God RI rises from his chair when he hears those words and you are not to say that and that's you know that was a typical European response especially out of the Holocaust but if if if you if you take it on a on a higher level you know it's like this is sanctioned this is it they tell the story with the AL who had a miserable marriage and he wanted out and he came to the ALB he said Reb I can't anymore the ALB says go back another few months try again he goes back three months he says Reb I tried for three months you got to give me a get I I can't anymore Al saw that he had to to now tell him the truth at this point revealed to him so he says you know that your comes from the time of the second of ofi and during that time there was a lot of idolatry each time you worship idols you get stone it's an AA stoning whatever right each time St says each time your wife nudes you and makes you crazy it takes away one of the a it's a take one of the a one time of aora and if you worship aora 750 times she needs to nud you 750 times the man walked out he accepted it and he lived happily ever after you understand what's the point there is the Transcendence there is something greater happening and and I just want to conclude you know the same thing to day we do not understand hashem's ways and yes as Nash and I were kind of disagreeing but agreeing that you know we have a problem right we have a problem now with these enemies but never forget that who is the one that let this happen okay and if anyone cannot say that they need to really ask themselves if they really believe in God you know you know if you believe in hem and you believe in t you understand that everything is from the including this catastrophe which is another Holocaust in right but that's what it is and therefore not to accept not to accept what AB did in the sense of that it's not from God is heresy I'm sorry it's it's it's heretical it's like saying there's no God after the Holocaust and look 70 years later look at yishai today as a result of the Holocaust so you know not I and not anyone will tell you there had to be a holocaust for to be yish of 70 years later that's I I don't know what had to be not to be but the fact is that that did happen and we have this situation and there was a rebuilding and an is and a return and a boua movement all coming out of the Holocaust it me there's going to be this way and more now where there'll be greater chuva and greater and greater commitment and more love and unity and I'm not from those that will say you know why this came this came because the right and the left were fighting cats and dogs and protesting in Tel Aviv and and Mish they wanted to kill each other and we're beating each other and the and and the and all that you're not GNA get that out of a laer if if you do something's wrong with him as a laer a real we don't know those but one thing's for sure that needs to be there needs to be real love between what even if you disagree it's normal so when we're learning now that we end up learning chapter 32 in these days it's it's gives us the to have to to each other and Hashem Tak will protect us will protect our sons our daughters our grandkids and relatives who are on the front and fighting and all over and protect everyone and trust me gam y but hopefully with A's help we won't mess up you know what it says in where the Prophet says your your worst enemies are yourself the no said it two three thou 2,000 years ago let's hope that that doesn't happen now where we become our worst enemies and what the rebba said you know I I remember in the 70s after the Yum Kipper war with the Reb spoke about going and taking Damascus and theba said even just for a day theba didn't mean they should all of a sudden conquer damasus and and and stay there no it's not Syria it's not ER is but show them whose boss we could we can if we want become your boss so stop and watch yourself and if that can come out of this whole this whole Fiasco over here that that we that that that the enemies know that we mean business that will be a galing accomplishment and and and we will have better results but we have to stand strong and not capitulate and not be neing they knew like grasshoppers or you know Fallen oh because on one hand there's a great busher how can this happen the aish to made it happen what do you think you think and I was very proud of nanyu his first speech after you know he said we thank hasem and then he said to he said with the help of God the he said it listen to and then he says the before the he said it came out of his mouth whether he meant it or they prepared it I I don't know but that came out of his mouth and and that re made this point over and over the war of the the The Six Day War that you know it's not my strength it's the so we need to ask to give us the the G to give us the Yeshua in a that there there's no more killing and no more and and and invalids and and everything else and that those that are ATT captured should come out and and us it's it's it's you know this is a call from Heaven I you know I don't know I don't know I think you all agree this a call from Heaven this isn't this isn't something that makes sense on you know oh they went man how could how could they breach the wall in so many places oh they bombed the the the Drone hit the reactor no where are your guards over there so I don't know the story I don't need to know the story what I need to know is that the loves us and is is the's people and we have to have to each and every one of us we'll continue tomorrow have a great day Z bye