Accepting Pain, Suffering w true Joy bc it's G-d'Will - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so we're learning now Tanya today we're at page lamic gimmel we started chapter two days ago and yesterday we learned that a person could be Muslim a complete could refine himself in thought speech in action and additionally properly facilitate their faculties in a way that makes the person develop a true love and awe for Hashem which is what the altered taught for 25 chapters in chapter 26 the altareva begins with the word baram however the implication of the word means that there's something that comes from God from Hashem on a kind of unexpected at times and it interferes with our avoidance Hashem even if we've refined ourselves and that's what it deals with in chapters 26 through 34. life's issues and he he laid the groundwork that in order to succeed in removing sadness and melancholy and laziness and loneliness and egotism and any in all kinds of maladies that plague a person you need to be you need to have simcha without simcha in your life your avoid this Hashem is going to get stuck so of course you can it doesn't mean you shouldn't try but he's he's giving us kind of the secret the secret the key to succeeding is to develop simply in your life I once mentioned that that Tanya is not a safer of Musa someone has their thing on please mute yourself for Musa you learn English and those foreign talk about Meadows refining your middles your character that's not Tanya Tanya is a book of cities a book is about didn't come to replace Piercy of us it's it's it's it's it's simply factually wrong came to inspire a ye to know who the Eid is who the nashama is vis-a-vis his teachings of khasidism to the outer rabbit who was a hasid and hasid and when the lines in the ways of the Magid and the percent of says the same thing nevertheless this middle of simcha is the only one that he tackles and he tackles it for nine chapters and why because simcha is relevant not just to one particular area in your life it's relevant to all areas in your life if you don't have simcha you have ego if you don't have simcha you feel down at times if you don't have simcha you feel lonely at times so that's why in order to deal with the outside interferences as alluded to by the word baram on page 64 the first word of chapter 26. which alludes to those outside interferences that disturb us says for this issue for these issues which are real we need some and today he's about to continue and finish the first part of the chapter which is on the lot the third line of Lama gimmel and it's the last uh ubiquitous last word on the line third line um says we see clearly a specific clear verse that the Torah says quote impartial I believe since since you didn't serve god with simcha therefore the curses come upon you interpretation what's going on here when you when you learn the the the possible the Tita simply speaking why will there be punishment because you didn't serve God that easel says no you did serve God you did you were an avatar you did serve him you worked but you were missing simcha your Aveda was missing simcha so even if you serve Hashem in every detail of Yiddish kite of taina but you're missing simcha says there is Al that's when plagues and maladies and punishments will be upon you simply speaking that's where you'll you'll get you'll get messed up you only please you mute yourself so now that comes and says what is the solution right we have a problem he said we have a problem I'm davening that I'm learning and I'm upset about this or that let's see what this or that is and let's see what his advice is so let's go the word ASA means advice why the double language a I believe it's a it's a quote from sick I don't recall now where or it's based on a posse but more so it means the advice of all advices in other words I'm giving you here very important advice so the way to express it you double the word beginning the advice of all advices to purify your heart call odd safe from any and all iota of anxiety and worries hey Alma from worldly matters that bother you and we don't mean that you got a flat tire because if you get worried that you had a flat tire uh you don't come to the outlet for that it doesn't make any sense you know come on you're a big boy so what type of of room what type of issues are real and real worrisome and anxiety ridden that the altareba does address I feel who even let's continue but Children Health and sustenance those are real right what are the big three the three R's of of yudiskite Shabbos casuals right for a woman casuals Shabbos keeping Shabbos we all know I reflect back to my days in Marin County the hardest thing I felt was to get someone to keep Shabbos casuals was pretty you know was doable the woman with McPherson if you if you explain it well and you have a nice mikra it's doable but to get someone to stop driving and to walk the shoe that was a battle it was it was difficult it wasn't easy because the person doesn't live there and they want to be part of Yeshua and they like you and that you like them and they like the congregants they like the congregation but they live eight miles away what do you do then oh I have a bed for you come for Shabbos I'm sorry you know my wife's not coming and I don't want why I want to be home so Shabbos was always a very difficult thing but nevertheless that's that's real so too so too when it comes to issues of life that are worthy to speak about because they really are Troublesome at time and anxiety ridden and worthy of discussion the altered says we're talking here about children issues with our children higher issues with our health um these are Staples in our life these aren't luxuries so if one has diagram immediately in other words you see the words have the worries me middle of the alma from worldly matters worldly matters can mean you know uh Grace I have to get to to bait and Elite in time and I don't know if you know what I'm saying if I'll get there in time and I'm worried that's not what we're talking about here that that's uh that's not even worthy mentioning you know uh come on either get up earlier or or whatever that disturbs you and avoid this Hashem are issues that touch upon your children your health and your sustenance so the altarebin now says gives us a recipe and I want you to know that this is a very very uh fancy recipe fancy in the sense that it takes a lot okay this recipe is not a segula you know say five times this or read the shallots Fila on Tuesday of parcels this this isn't out there ever this is a real fancy difficult but important and real recipe and let's see what he says it is known to everyone the saying the teaching of the razal gomoran projas quote for just like you're supposed to make a brother when something is good for example a good wine a real good wine you may cut over native says the gamada so too you have to make a brother when something bad happens to you which and the brother is passed away so the question is the gamada seems to imply we should we should we should it's the same shame just as just as you make a broken what's good you make a brother what's bad says you're right you don't make the same broker you make two different Brokers but the attitude in making the bracha when something bad happens which is Diane Ms should be the same attitude when you make a breakfast for something that's good expresses that idea in the words just as when you drink a good wine or you make a broken table native you're happy about it because it's so delicious and so good so too you should have simcha inside your nishama inside your being when you say butter you know because you truly trust God knows what he's doing now of course we don't mean this you should go you know this does to contradict the laws of Shiva and mourning we're talking about an inner content that you know as much as it hurts this is God's will look that one should have in accepting God's judgment should be like one like the simcha that one has when something is openly and apparent good and why because this too is good and everyone else knows that quote and all that however is the only thing is it's not apparent they're not revealed to the physical flesh to the physical items unto the eyes why not he he because this good comes from what we call the alma discussion from the concealed World Shala Milo which is greater May almad is Galia the revealed word world in other words introduces the concept of kabbola here what we see here as bad is really the ultimate of good but it's too great to come into the world so it shatters the world it and and it's revealed in a way that we perceive as negative and the other ends in the the name hashemke there are four letters so UK represents the Judas Bina the valve is me those the six medals and the last K is it says in Kabbalah that the first two letters of Hashem is representative of the two and in comparison to medos and malcols this is the alma discussion the first two letters because it's cons sealed it's hot it's too great to be revealed in the world whereas is lower so that's why we say that youth caves from Alma discussions so for example just for a moment a teacher teaches you and gives you a lecture if the teacher condenses it to a way which you understand guess what you're not getting the essence of the teacher you're getting it because he's speaking but you don't really understand the way he understands it right but in order to communicate he needs to lower his intellect in order to teach it properly foreign he's created light Joseph and creates Darkness now wait a second which World Avi is great higher Bria or yitzira Avi what do you think three is lawyer thank you so if brie is higher it shouldn't say it's a say boy or and it shouldn't say yes has anyone ever thought about this every day you've done every single day of the year we say this is does explain it because it says because like Avi said Priya is a higher world than yet so the revelations of Bria are too high for this world how does it express itself through Darkness it's dark meaning we don't have access to it said the world of yitzito which is lower we have more access to hence we say and that's why which villain do we touch when we say yes when we say Yates we God the yard we do the show Rush which is a logically more caducea has more Holiness The Rush has more conduction than the yard right we have our local Cipher here so that's the shot why do you touch your children by Yates because it's lower why do we touch our children so Rush by Boyer because that's an experience from a higher level but because it's higher therefore the way it comes down is so these are examples that to explain this concept over here in Tanya that the youth came being that it's the the the two first letters of God's tetragramathan the name of yutuke the name equal 86. it's much greater and much higher but because of that the way it manifests itself is through not being seen it's not near the Nicholas the Alton ever since so let's see how he develops the thought further possession caused him back into the text possession it says in the Posse fortunate is man who's been punished to yaselena UK why does it say yes because punishment is Surin torch pain those people that accept their yes upon them the first says when the verse says the following it refers to those that accept their their assurium quote the oi above and those that are beloved to him to beloved to God says Hashem it's similar to when the sun comes out in its potency when it's very hot so in other words when it's very hot it's uncomfortable says the plastic but that's when you have the intensity of the heat from the shamish which alludes to Hashem right so normally there's a there's an Arctic there's a cover on the on the sun and therefore it's a little cooler so there hasida says that's when you experience Elohim covering up YouTube when Hashem takes out the sun in the in its potency meaning without the cover that's the youth cave being experienced over deluke and who gets that the oyavov and the and and the person calls them my beloved Hashem calls them but I have of my lovers why because they love me even in the state of a logical reason in other words he gives us some thought he quotes the verse the verses now he says why do I have simcha Abraham why do I have simcha from pain why am I happy because you have simcha from God's love that he's showing to you kirivas Hashem that that you're the closest to God yes more than all physical matter you can have goshmias and more goshamis and you think God really loves me says the other in chapter 26 you know when he really loves you when and if for whatever reason your macabo your student that show and that shows that you really love him not you love the goshness in other words how do we know when someone loves Hashem because of kashmias how do we know how do you know that's genuine and the answer is we don't we don't the proof is in the pudding you could love it's easy to love God when you have the goshmias you have ulum has it but when you have your suit him and you and you love Hashem what is that show that you love him because you can't say that you love you love the situation the situation excuse me stinks it's terrible it's painful awful so if someone is in that state of your student and he still and he loves what does that show that he's he's his his Ava is because he is Hashem he's with the UK not with the rough cake he'd receive as it says quoting to heal him I think it stays here or whatever not to this year says it is better for me from Life what does that mean I'm alive Maisha I'm alive I have everything going fine I have life says than life based on what we said before it makes sense that you accept Hashem even be assuring even when it's no good that shows that you really love him not you love the situation says and this closeness to God is more or my link case and Adam for thine item greater the alma discussion the concealed world for over there is the strength the potency of his love the Yasha Versace said alien and he sits in the conceit of superno concealed State Volcan and because this is your attitude towards God says Hashem is therefore you will Merit the person who's in this he has this attitude to Merit that the son will come out but with us in its potency law should love him Shia Comes The Sun Will Come Out of its cover of its Shield which is right now covered in the physical world well the answer then in the future tisgale it will be revealed miksuya from its cover that I know [Applause] then will be revealed the concealed world the Israel and it will shine the yard and to illuminate with the great manifestation to all those that Shield themselves in this God in the physical world and they Shield himself in God's shade referring to the the shade of wisdom Supreme sale which is only a shade listen a shade when the sun is baking it creates something is shining it creates a shade so you would think that a shade is is ancillary it's not the sun itself it's a shade that's the point he's making that in the shade which is in the darkness compared to the light of the sun that's what you have the essence of God more that in the in the in the revealed state of the sun well meshiach will come both will come together you'll have the sun coming out without its cover and it'll be it'll have it all now before we go further what what do we understand from this what do we understand from this it's it's a very heavy heavy recipe and I told you it's a heavy recipe because a person a normal person has a hard time accepting accepting sorrows you know and yes people say especially God forbid when someone is ill and you know towards the end of their life you see you see you see sometimes people that are able to accept their yesurim their pain their end of life situation with more simcha and some with lesson but I think and and here I think what what catches me is thou tebra's logic has um where he says that that those words in that line is the philosophy that that gives us the ability to appreciate service if if if if one knows and again we know this because I mean we believe in me you don't believe you don't believe but if you believe that there is a higher world there's a higher layer of of reality and normally we don't tap into that reality what we experience daily and weekly and monthly and yearly is the the doings the makings of of the world everyone in their every every situation and then there's a situation where God so for his infinite wisdom like if you're going to ask me why Dr NEPA doesn't address why you know why because he's not God that he does and you know no one knows why you know you will know Elie wazel you know said and the rep also wrote it in a letter anyone tries to explain and justify god with the with the Holocaust is a fool like you know they say the satma in the 48 49 one of those years he went to see the previous rabbit shortly after he came a few years and the previous step was still alive and he said disparaging words why God brought the helical Holocaust because of the assimilation in Europe and the free the calabas I said again I wasn't there I heard I heard that the Frida Krampus said don't try to justify God just just be quiet don't don't you know but but but so why why this happens that a person who's passing away has to go through suffering pass away you have to suffer and and and you know what we see and what we hear you know of suffering is is terrible is it's really it's it's it's so unbearable and yet other people pass away without suffering but the nakuta is not that the isn't just suffering just Holocaust IC is a mother is shocked I mean any tragedy what did she do that at 42 years old she shot murdered and leaves over three children what did she do was he such a big sinner I'm sure not she was I'm sure he should sedakis a righteous woman we will never understand that and even if we try to understand it where we're just foolish we're going on the wrong trajectory we're going to be very angry you know so the outrepe is one second he said give me one second is not dealing with the why like I always say if I you know I would write a book with a title don't play God don't want to be God just just leave God to be God but nevertheless what happens we have a right and an obligation to to understand in the sense of what can we do with it so the outlet just now tells us when we have anxiety Amazon and Children Health and paranosa which are real not you know everything else which is foolish you know you get anxious about this or that come on for real issues says for whatever reason God is sending you a very high Revelation and opportunity and wants to see if you are in love with him or are you in love with what with what he does for you so this is a very you know it's it's like wow you're telling me if I cannot accept God's punishment and God's throwing me the curveball then my entire Avada really is an expression of my egotism that's in a way what comes from these chat from this these words here and that's why it's very very you know heavy now is Sir go ahead yes sir I just wanted to share and share I shared it with mosha that I think Emmanuel said uh never let a tragedy go to waste and you know it's true in politics but it's true in Jesus Christ too and you know so we have these themes of sneeze and technology and lace shaples and skirt lengths and so every time there's something there's a cold Korra or there's a kinos or there's a and and so Moshe says like what's what's the midst of our generation is uh how about being nice to each other but the there's there seems to be this need for people to say oh this happened because of and so and they use that as a uh as a soapbox to spray whatever message they they want to spread okay the flavor of the day yes whether it's uh shaples or technology or but I I I hear you and and I'm still you're saying but but I want to ask you you know have you have you have you I mean this is not the first time you're learning this how have you processed this how I mean this is this is you know this is a serious it's a very serious piece of Kanye here which which deals with our reality you know this isn't you know I'm not gonna dive them better or not to have them better we can hear about when we have a situation which is very Trump worrisome anxiety reason how do you accept that how do you deal with it says Hashem are you interested in the canvas of Hashem in other words if we don't accept that this is Hashem I can understand why you would reject the argument but if you do accept that there's a UK and a wolfke you know there's another reality another dimension what we're saying here is that when there's trouble this is an expression of of a higher reality that's that's a heavy heavy thought and frankly I'm not sure if anyone before the autorabba said this in the way he says it in other words you might say well we're looking to uh you know the rambam and ramban and he's not just saying it as a Muno I wonder that's why I'm trying to explain over and over this isn't just a Muna is making a logical argument are are you are you in love with God or are you in love with yourself okay Heaven I have to I have to go to another see everyone tomorrow okay have to go bye-bye take care foreign