A Rebbe isn't a good advisor rather a soul geologist - Igeres HaKodesh 22a #2 - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

so DBA had a technical problem he was overwhelmed with people coming to see him he couldn't no any longer do see so many people inas and in fact it says over there in that letter in the intro in the beginning of this letter that's not printed here he said if you don't stop coming I'm going to leave the country he just I'm overwhelmed so yeah have to put that into context when you H I'm I'm answering you particularly addressing your point when you read this letter he was simply overwhelmed and and and he couldn't any longer and he says this is not what you needed ever for if you're coming to know how to D and learn better andem I'm here from you and even there he put limits it was called Tak the rules the for coming to LNA where he was at the time and and and it was very organized you know how many once a year and what month and and he had certain coming this month certain coming the other month it was a very detailed description of when you could come to see him forus and he said if you don't follow that I'm out of here so now with that with this in mind we we go we go about to learn the text inside but at the end of the day it's like you said H um always came to Reb to ask them for gmas so what exactly he really wanted to accomplish with this uh was not done I mean it at least not in the period that we know and from what I'm told by my teachers and their teachers it's been this way not just in kabad but in other in other kic movements as well but again I don't know if they I don't think that they left a a a will a written document don't come to see me I'm overwhelmed I don't believe that other rebas did that not that I know of at least at this point but Al we have it here and this is the famous 22 I just want to say one last thing some acad MCS who are not you know observant and religious and and you know Jewish but you know have taken this and they the the conclude that this is where went wrong and that the that the Reb himself is telling you I'm not made to give you goshas answers material advice go to a lawyer and a doctor and a therapist for for those issues right so they they they do take what what he says literally and again it's hard to argue because it says what it says it says what it says so you could you could philosophize but again what what that's why I'm pointing out and so for whatever reason I don't know why they didn't the sons didn't include it if they would have included the first the the first part of this letter here I think it would have helped a lot but for whatever reason it wasn't included then I don't know why so one one takes us at face value and you basically say you guys are not listening to your rebba and more so your rebba is telling you he's not made for that and the and some in the academic world go off on that where they where they come up with a a philosophy which is that a rebba is is not made for this and the whole idea of going to a rebba for gmas is is a mistake so I I I'm just pointing out to you that there is that out there although it's not mual by from in general yes H would you say it's fair to say that this is like an expression of the Divergence between the emphasis andad on kind of the and the uh you know and the relationship with the re and the kind of the doctrine of the sadic that became so defining of like theas from the from the no melet and and those other schools the I I I you touch upon a very good thing it's been spoken about written about about a great length your your point and I would say yes I I would say there is there that is um I would say a true analysis definitely but but again it has to be handled with with golden gloves but yes yes in in in Polish in Polish Hungarian you know basically the the primary aspect of a is advising on gmas there's no question about that you know but in in the kab ethos just learning a safer like Tanya you know it's all about um a not that they're not about a every and every is but the way the is is like is is like you said it's more on the you know be more concerned about the this I'll tell you simple and I really want to learn the text when when I grew up you know what I saw was like from the here again in America I don't know n might be different but in America like like the poorest would growing up it's changed today lots of young people are making nice money but you know the the the bells of here were all in they were all in business they were all working people you know by us we had people who were Mas so and by us a Mas is a big thing and it takes hours then even those that are not M are supposed to D each day for for a few hours and for many hour in other words the emphasis of in is like you said it's it's very much a main state it is thear and the gashi is is is tough is ancillary well and that boils down to that you know you're not into making money and you don't have as much okay and and and and it goes It goes along the lines by the way with the albas different than the other sadik where he vot he sided with with the Russians over Napoleon right and what was his philosophy Napoleon emancipation he said yeah very nice emancipation but emancipation means you're going to drop Torah and Mitzvah Freedom right so so they they they sided with with um with with Napoleon because the we'll be free we've been oppressed Al said no and so you could see that the AL in in his in and his pure and his approach was very much so yes I would say that you're correct in in in in your observation but but nonetheless as we say that still you know when they needed an I'm not talking about a now not talking about a talking about an ADV they went into the rebba and and and it's not just with our rebba like I printed you know 400 pages of the Reb's advice I have a book with on practical things from from medical things to financial things right but even the there's testimony from the closest people of theba that people came to him in in Poland notot in v notot and he was helping the re wasn't his grandfather wasn't so well and and and he heard from the behind the curtain cuz he you know was Private kind of of course he heard how people crying their heart out they don't have what to eat rebba help me you know do do that and just saying that there there was no now she can say well that was in Poland because there was polish mostly not kabik but I'm I'm telling you that you know also uh you know again not as much I will agree I don't think as much much not not even a question you know because let's say the Reb rash from from what I heard from the Reb rashab it was even hard to get into him and it was and even you got into him he was very brief you know so I mean he was so much involved in either communal things for Jewish people or teaching and learning you know in other words how many you think you think that the average laaber student in laaba saw the rashab um constantly only when he was in laage only when he came out to say Friday night or and maybe shabas day I think he daved in his room you know what I'm saying it wasn't like here in America when the Reb DAV towards the last 10 20 years of his life or so with a minion three times a day and you got to S him and there before that there wasas three times a week you know what I'm saying there was a lot of access to him but from M it doesn't seem that there was you know as much access to to to a so therefore subsequently the the the amount of time you had to ask for GM was less okay let's see what he says inside 22 P my beloved brothers and Friends it is from hidden love Laten love that I reveal my my my muser kind of I'm going to scold you but you should know it's coming from a good place place okay verse remember the days of old the years of old the generations in other words um I have a message to share with you that's that's based on our history as as yeen Etc here's this question and and the way it's supposed to read the next words of is it's a question has ever from from time from beginning of time has there ever been such a situation where do you guys find this custom find find it for me where do you find even in just one book of this of the white wise people of is the early ones the latter ones a custom that is that you what you do is you come to a and you ask him for advice for material matter where where have you ever seen such a thing to know what to do in worldly matters the physical stop and even if you look says at the early wise people of the early generations of the sages the there was nothing that was hidden from them and and the and the paths it's a beautiful expression the paths of Heaven were open and clear to these great Scholars keep stop so we don't find that you should go to these and ask him for advice who do we find you did go to rather came to prophets when itut for example the story with was called The Seer right because he saw to ask about God regarding the the the Sheep over there was the whole story that were lost to his father and he asks the prophet where are they in other words he's asking advice of so Dr says that's right prophets give you give you advice calling he says for in truth all matters of and fear of go Heaven are not comprehended only through prophecy and he quotes and don't have bread meaning they don't give you bread bread come you know for for that you need if you want go to everything's from Heaven except from the fear of Heaven there are seven things that are concealed a person doesn't know how he makes his and a person doesn't know when his when the M will come so so we see that there's a comparison between parosa not knowing how you're going to make parosa and and what and mashia so the only ones that can tell you that is a Nai right but going to a regular a regular that's not his venue that's his point here now it's a rhetorical question says over there that he's advice and he's and and to the to the deaf ones say that we benefit from a from his advice says you're you're learning in that wrong it's not referring to gash to material matter it's the advice that he gives for the study of t which is called in the verse in Salvation who is called right like you have the word in in in in in you know women who are like in the advisor say who is a who is a y the one who knows how to uh calculate the months and and to make leap years they know exactly when right so you're talking about different and to set the right time for when the new month is and all that the secret of of of making a leap year is is called advice and secret in the terminology it says over there but the truth is I'll tell you those that want to listen to me love uh ruins the the straight path in other words you're blinded loving yourself is it covers the eyes turn the page to 268 to not to see the truth and this is like some heavy mus says you know why you guys continue to ask me about because you have too much love for GM you can imagine he's talking to yeden in Russia 200 years ago had barely what to eat and he says you have too much a too much love for gmas and therefore your self love for gmas conceals the truth and you don't want to recognize the truth come to ask me for let's continue says I know you guys are not spending money on on Mercedes and and and and and um vacations in the Bahamas I know that you you're talking about gsh that you need for your family but nevertheless it's with a burning fire passion of fire from love na of their soul asem they love God therefore the pain that you the body has from not having enough food and not enough sleep and not the basic GM is very painful you have God have mercy and and you can't hack it anymore very hard words until like you become cucko you know you you you go over your knowledge of knowing that you shouldn't be asking for you you you move your feet kind you chop your feet from City to city and you go around to ask advice from this person and that person from distance and you don't turn to to do with a a low Spirit meaning a humble Spirit and the subjugation of the body to accept hashem's scolding if hasem punishes you Hashem makes it hard in a certain physical material way that means he's giving you a message to wake up and do CH because Hashem the one who he loves the more he loves you you hear that it's very hard to hear these words the more he the GM is is less by you the more he loves you so the AL the AL makes a drastic uh remark and he says you know why you keep on asking for advice in gash is because you are too concerned about your he gives an example a father who's wise and righteous who hits his son sh because he needs to get a patch the son doesn't turn his back to the father to get help to stop him from the PCH or an advocate in in to advocate for him and before his father the merciful one the righteous one and the he turns his face face to face and he accepts and tolerates the patch be with love that he does him all his days the previous re has a beautiful word here you see in the beginning of the mus a it doesn't it says if you go further down it says the father is RA and why does he add the word the the says a wouldn't patch so when he talks about the father giving a patch he doesn't say the word when he talks about the son responding the son responds that my father is and he cuz he's taking it in the right way but that but when he when when when when he uses the mus doesn't use doesn't use the word when he's giving the patch it's a very very important insight into human psychology and into you know you work H and us as parents you know the patch it depends where it's coming from it's if it's coming from know a father doesn't patch even if he patches if he's a real father it's not a patch if he's a you understand if it's a real I'm sorry if it's a real I don't mean in the classic sense of aidic Jew I mean a is's very Pious so he he he doesn't the PCH is not a PCH okay we'll stop here and tomorrow we'll continue the rest of the chapter Z take it good stuff yeah