#9 Write down your memories for the sake of your family - Farbrengen Vav Tishrei 2024- RC Dalfin

and people forget want to talk about memories and I want to encourage all those with the white beards here and I told this R carp when I saw him in Florida a few years ago write down your memories if you can't write it down get your son your daughter your grandson or a writer to write him down everyone has a story there is isn't a person around that doesn't have a story you have a great story Gordon did you write it down is it recorded okay we need to record our memories I'm I'm being serious now whether you come from this background or that background makes no difference everyone has a story and a good story a writer of course knows how to take that story and make it rich and be be for people but even if you don't get to that point do it one of the things that I do is called family oral history I've traveled around in various cities in the United States interviewing people not just schim or rabbis regular people who are not rabbis you know fine people to get their stories to record their stories their life it's not just it's not only about the re Jem does the re my objective is to get your family story including with if you have but a grandfather a grandmother a Family Feud and by the way by the way it's yours it doesn't go out to the public I record it for you and it stays with you if you decide to share it that's your decision I recall doing this with someone and it was amazing we did four I think we did 14 or 15 uh sessions an hour to each thank you we did a lot a lot of was great he was 84 years old at the time 85 84 his memory worked well barem and he said something and after it's after we finished I said to him I think this and this that you said we should take out we shouldn't we shouldn't even have it recorded why because you made with your nose and your pitch of your voice about one child and about another child child you went H doin when he does oral history is intensely involved in listening to the interview e guys please bran we need quiet okay if you want to talk there's a door outside so the interview e and the interviewer are most important because there are nuances that are said that if you're not in tune it might be recorded and you never know who's going to listen to it you got five kids six kids three kids 14 kids right it's going to go out to your kids no if you said about this kid Oh and about this kid it ain't nice you don't want that we have to obliterate it no no no record of it right again it's your decision but I I'm just pointing this out how he feels I don't understand why how can you tell him how to feel that's how he feels about his children once once and and and when I when I brought That's History that's beautiful hello relax I heard your point I heard your point problem is you didn't make aad hello and I didn't I didn't tell him he has to take it out I just brought it to his attention and he said to me you're right and he took it out you're right if someone doesn't care no I don't want such history you don't like no no problem you you want you you want family feuds no problem you just said that you like family feuds no I said I need to hear everything as much as I can including but but but but but if I feel there's sliding one of you know I I'll tell them they can leave it they decision I'm commissioned I'm working for them he didn't say create yeah anyway let's go on let's go on you're picking a fight there's no reason for it so that's ridiculous okay the point is the bottom line is the young people here are still young but the older one of us the older people of us here sitting at the table do youself favor record Another example I went to interview someone NE had a stroke also 85 the quality of that interview with the 10 sessions pulled out as much as I can has so many documents but it's not as fresh he's a stroke patient so don't don't don't wait till it's too late don't wait for that time do it in your 60s and 70s do yourself a favor that's all it's I just wanted to mention it because I feel a a a responsibility that this is not being done it's not being done and and and and it needs to be done for the sake of your you never know a grandson a granddaughter will listen to the Z their Bubba and and what will tickle them what will excite them and they'll be moved they'll be moved you know so it's it's very very important do