#6 False Modesty - Know Your Virtues - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

okay so uh good day we're learning Tanya we're in the introduction to have double page dalid about 10 lines from the bottom the line it's the last word on the line it starts with the word or me omisha die take soda the altareba in this very important letter that sets the tone for the importance of Tanya and how Tanya is a safer a book that has all the answers that's what he says it has called a truvis has all the answers for all the questions that all of you have been asking me for many many years remember the outer ever from tough cuff mem gimbal which is 1783. till 1793 approximately was guiding hasidim not just but everyone in that area by La Russia was called at the time white Russia he was appointed by remember to lead them okay and they came and spoke to him about their spiritual issues had a diamond better how to learn better how to get rid of flowering thoughts and everything else had a complaint when Dr never told him I could no longer see you personally because it just overwhelming and he made was called taconis lozner once the altareba moved to London he made a comments that you can you can't come up more than once a year and on the other I'm Shabbos would work him and it's in a group of mamish you know mama she wasn't a free-for-all anymore because he couldn't he couldn't uh accommodate everyone's personal needs so he said instead of that I'm gonna write for you a savior a book The Tanya so he asks in this introduction he says how can a book be a substitute for meeting you meeting you face to face please stand mute yourself someone has himself not muted please so he said that um how could it be an intro a substitute when you meet someone face to face even if the person is walking in darkness the person is in trouble spiritually the the rabbit inside they can guide him directly but if you have to take it out of a safer and you don't see the light that's in the safe for the the the the advice you don't see it because you're what because your Darkness you can have the best book it won't help you number two he argued on behalf of them that even if I'm not walking the darkness my My Eyes Are Open each safer is different each book is different and you won't find in it to the particular advice for your particular problem so how can a book be a substitute for your readers when you come into yehudas you tell the rabbi this is my problem today this is my issue next year this is my issue and the rabbi each time gives you tailored main advice that was the the question that was on the first page of the hakadama and on page dollid the paragraph that begins with which we learned last year drama basically said I know each and every one of you because you for 10 years you've been coming to see me and I know I know the issues we've been in constant touch what's bothering you so therefore I have included in here the specific advice for your particular issues so the fact that you argue that you need me to talk to face to face and my book won't address your issue it does address your issue because I know you I also shared with you what the Messiah the traditional Chabad is that that doesn't apply only to those at the out that ever knew at the time it applies to all people regardless who will learn the Tanya too mashir said Canaan even much after machines again I explained that last time at length I think it's very important for you to hear that and understand that because otherwise some will say to you you understand in a shoe you know listen the Tanya Dr ever wrote for people 250 200 years ago people he knew personally it doesn't apply to me today and if if that's the argument and that's the position you can close the book you don't you shouldn't even look at it you can look at it it's meaningless because he's telling you this is a book of advice the first section of Tanya all the 53 chapters is to guide you now for this Hashem like he did with the people that he saw face to face so I explained that last year and I I'm not going to repeat it now we're left with the first question how can this say for this book that Tanya be a book for each and every one of us if we're walking in darkness and walking to doctors doesn't mean to necessarily you're a transgressor and a sinner and a bad person you woke up on the wrong side in the morning or you have to pay your bills and you're worried and you're fine your head's all over the place or might she has to drive to Big Tire to get parchment then he has to drive to take his parents and then he has to go here he has to go there you know how how do you have the mindset at the same time to be able to think about you know this morning when I stopped and I said Ashley I thought about the hot dogs I'm going to have for dinner or something else it's like how's that you know it disturbs my darling and the alternative in the Tanya will give you advice will give us advice how to deal with those issues chapters 26-34 he deals with all kinds of thoughts at particular times and he says when do you have the thoughts what are the thoughts and and he analyzes them right so even if I'm if if I'm not a bad person then I'm I'm a from person and I'm across it and everything else but nevertheless the the the the the the Islam has it the worldly matters that that we all encounter schlep us down and that's appropriate because as I say has told you the United States so I just came from the oil which I also wrote for all of you without your names but I wrote for all my talbidden they should have in their personal lives and their family lives and communal lives so um I'm coming you're welcome I'm coming I'm coming fresh from the oil um at five in the morning thinking I'd be back uh much earlier but the traffic on the Belt Parkway at six in the morning is awful so I I'll know next year I have to get there at four in the morning anyway so happy birthday thank you Jessica so the the today yeah on me so the point is that the the a person's and a person who go you know goshenius kashmi slaps a person down as much as you want to be you want to be you know living as fast in the clouds you got to pay your bills otherwise you gotta snort it I mean you know what I'm saying dude you have a family you got to bring panosa to them so this is the question how does the Tanya address these issues so this is what we're going to learn now says you know what I hear you you're confounded because of various reasons therefore I have in each Community I have older older people wiser people people have gone through life experienced people go to them and I think this is a very important thing for for people the idea of going to to Elders you know we live in a society we us we're considered old folks already anyone that has any tinge of white you know is it is an old geezer as they say and people like young people it's this way in the Yeshiva World you know I the older person has 30 years experience and understands the student much better nevertheless the outer trimmings of how he or she looks and the seniority is not respected enough today it was different it used to be different but unfortunately there's a loss of respect for zigna and and the title says you should respect the face of the Elder doesn't mean you're your older father only take care of your older father your older mother that's for sure but it it means that the whole realm of respect for someone who who was experienced you know it's a dentist you know if there's a doctor you know I had an issue a few months ago and I went to a 75 year old doctor the head of the the department over here and a Yale graduate and you know I felt great I'm going to an expert what he's 75 years old he has 40 50 years under his belt I'm just saying Dr ever here what we're going to learn now says the same thing you got to go to the seniors you got to go to the elders when you find that you're not finding an answer to your problems go to them and let them show you how in this and this section and Tanya there's an answer for your particular problem and this is true today what the Elton ever writes applies today that when a person seeks we're not talking now about a rabbi a rough giving up sock that that's another discussion talking about on a spiritual matter counselor a mentor a guide in Hebrew about the sense of caring for your spiritual side the people who are older they have more of that information there's always an exception but by and large that's the case and that's what he says in today's in what we're going to learn now so let's read that inside now and uh we'll go from there oh me so around 10 lines to the bottom Paige dollar the last word on the line or me or me should I take soda someone whose mind is it's short it doesn't can't pick up the information in the saferatonya for his per or her particular problem foreign the person's mind can't find the answer the advice from these pamphlets that I'm publishing Jose the individuals should share expand his conversation before the elders within his City knew they should explain it to him when I talk we're talking about people who will Who know that who learn Tanya know the Tanya if you're going to a lit track would never learn to Tanya if he didn't then he won't be able to explain it to you talking about the hang of what you knew those Elders that do understand the Tanya and and and and can guide you in your particular problem from the words of Tanya those are the people you should go to it's so important and they never said this many times you go to what you're doing now yeah you go to a dentist for dental problems you don't go to a psych dentist with psychological problems and if you do you're in deep trouble although they saved of it right that that um when the dentist opens your mouth and looks in the sometimes you can see other issues in the body that you know that you need to be aware of but yeah okay true the difference between dental health and mental health is only one letter very good that's very good so anyway the point is you go to a shoe man for the shoes you don't go to a shoe still for your Eternal organs so after that is saying here you have to go to the right people not saying oh I went to the rabbi and the rabbit couldn't explain to me the spiritual the rabbi never said that he knows he knows Tanya there or that he deals with these matters and by the way over the years we had other rabbits who told some of their hasidim I think above now in Crown Heights when he lived there he they you know they came my son my daughter is a you know is a hippie you know is repelling and the Bible ever said to that you got to go on Eastern Parkway to 770. go barbecue Debbie he could deal with that I can't you know and I'm sure they never said about certain things I can't deal with certain issues go to the problem it's not it's not the end of the world everyone has to know what they're good at and it's a very important lesson in life when you start giving advice from what you don't know and not good at you're doing a terrible thing you're messing up the person the honest thing to do is send them to the right address and they're really a good rough a good Rabbi that's a good rubbing Rabbi that they know in this field they don't know for whatever reason they can study it with it I didn't Master it with who lives Etc but they send them to the right address that's a good route that's a good must be so Dr Rebecca says here going back to the text they hang you bring a new home they will explain it to you valhallian now the altareb is giving them a jab valet my request to you Elders actually don't put your hand over your mouth to conduct yourself with modesty but what type of modesty look at the next three words the shiftless shall checker modesty that is a lie you're the biggest egomaniac you are the world's been world's greatest pianist the show comes to you says we're having a fundraiser and do us a favor play you say no no I do not play the piano go to him go to her that's gaiva that's kaifa if you know if you say look I'd love to play but I have a fee that's my panosa which there are many performers like that okay and you negotiate you work it out but to say I don't have the talent well you're known worldwide that you are the man so the shiflu shall check it and by the way this happens often not even on a grandiose way even a small way where people will say nah not me go somewhere else yeah sure much is a guy it's nice to have different Bali Fila not every shop is to have the same one right because you get pretty bored the congregation right unless you have a hired husband I'm not talking about that they go over to someone who you know has a nice voice and he knows that no sir and people like him it's not that he's someone that people don't like and he's sick would you could you dive him for the armor then he says no no no I I don't know that's people other people this happens every every time it happens so often his shoes you know in a way it's full so check it you're not being modest it's false modesty so that's Delta Nemesis here you Elders no particular example no not not in that sense not in that way no that not not not you could maybe refuse the first time but but it sure needs what maybe they refused so we shouldn't we shouldn't have about no one should go to the Ahmed no the I've always has been confused by this uh by this uh bid no there's an idea not to run to the elements but they say some people they the word Yiddish for The Omelette is bretel brittle means a board that used to be that the cosmic stand was aboard a piece of wood so the expression is he loves the board he loves running over every time that that's also not you know you know modest yes Malaysia yeah I was just going to say uh in cover love a lesson forgiveness I know I I'm aware of what hill is talking about I think there isn't a local concept of um a person let's say refusing like up to three times you know to to go up to the onward because they don't want to appear as being a guy but they don't want to appear like they're like running to the umud but uh I just want to say that um there's no question that this is definitely in terms of goodbyes and I mean I'm not I'm sure other people doubled this before this falls into the fifth chapter of um but you have to know who you're dealing with and you know you know there's definitely a time when you know you need to put the top and that's happened and there's so many times you're going around ask some of the Dublin and you know like this one says no distance is no this one says no you know it's like you know meanwhile you as a Gaba you're not governing because you have to take your time take time out of your out of your entire morning to have some of the Daven so there's a it's a balance obviously right right I I I want to finish but I I have more to say at another point that I you know you know people who who use this Dr never saying over here when you use this as an excuse It's kaiva there's a difference between between a modest dancer and a guy to answer and trust me it's it's recognizable okay let's go on let's go on so I I understand and agree with what you're saying but I don't agree that that that it should be used and and flaunted and really it's really all guidance that's what he's talking about here you know what I'm saying you you're looking for it Hashem and you have an issue with this particular issue you go over to someone who can help you and they'll say no no I I don't know go to someone else that's a cop-out okay let's go on says to these Elders don't act with shiftles shall second or false modesty has to show them and after that but this is very very tough on them and he has to be tough on them because otherwise they don't get it listen what he says as is known the bitter punishment that's very heavy language someone who prevents food meaning to say sustenance who withholds the answers and simultaneously the opposite it's known how the great reward for someone who shares with others out from the saying the sages Apostle on the first main Hashem God illuminates both people the person who all who explains the person who listens it shines his countenance on them the light of the living King and from the life is one will not have to learn to teach the other because everyone will have will know it we'll have the information why because we all know God will come everything will be revealed so we won't have to ask someone else for the meeting yes yes you're shy I think I don't remember brings this of course the the Earth will be filled with the knowledge of God I'm a king nuts the ashes of this past that could trace him another kind of conditional after now addressed other issue okay so we have the pamphlets disseminated why do we have to print in the safer that's what he tells you now I spoke it out already in previous urine but here it's in the Abdullah by purpose rabbits we decide from China uh the pamphlets were publicized all over by various scribes but look at the worrying shining um strange is referring to the the false the forgery that was made especially by the standard of Captain make mistakes in the Tanya and pamphlets in in as they copied it so that to get the ultimately see them with the trouble so therefore it's been brought to my attention in the Alia day next page I'm not familiar with that story can you explain it sure uh it's a short story basically the uh there were two legs and they were somewhere in the city and they take the pamphlets of the Tanya who came to the shoes over there and someone said that they printed uh 1500 copies I think fine let us see it oh and and they didn't know that they're that who they're talking to them in great and they took a look and they saw mistakes late mistakes Forge forgery so they understood already this was done purposely if they said you know what here we want to buy all the Thousand copies that were left or whatever and they bought it all and they told the out to them and that's not that episode it's time to put it into a safer that once it's in a safer you can't recopy it on you know this is the book that's the story so he alludes to it healed with the words right side frame showing him various scribes um means like weird strange meaning those that made the copies in a way that created forgery in a day deeper next page page eight is they came out many copies they didn't become anybody I passed away from him so because of all these copies that came out mistakes including print you know printing mistakes copies mistakes but my annoyed many of them therefore through the generosity of of of of uh special people that he mentioned earlier in in the approbation those that have shown in the other one Mabel adaf from the other on the other page they exerted their their bodies and and their Spirit meaning that you know they they invested into this project the Hobbies could trace them but now the base at first to bring the pamphlets to print I mean no chemical seek the toy Cipher test Sabbath is an acronym to us safer you are from any uh you know Schmutz any mistakes and mistakes and very well checked says stop I say for this Good Deed it's an open verse that says someone who steals the person's border will be cursed to the Torah Auto Body the color by Dido and the hazal Ed three different types of curses excommunications called error clalla and nidori God forbid in other words someone who goes and opens a butcher shop right next to an existing butcher shop it's called hasagasgow but the word massive over here on the fourth fifth line the last word masikvu stealing the Border a lot of our love is about this is a lot of them didn't tell us about this two shows next to each other is their initial probably not because it's Tyra but on and on this is a a very big issue but the alternative is saying here hey this is a safer that we printed and I printers have the right to print it and those that will will will take it and reprint it it's you you you you're starting up and and the Toyota have very strict words about that alkane therefore and in addition to the to the verse in other words saying I don't have to tell you that you're not allowed to reprint it but I'm going to anyway because the Titan Hassan already have warned you of doing stealing the Border reprinting okay so therefore cause you know Yahoo divided I come to add to the existing information about that you're not um you know not doing it reprinting it that means the good Arab I'm throwing a large fence I'm making a large fence it's it's a poetic kind of I'll call him a threesome for all the printers in the region now you have no permission to reprint the contrition someone that you hire and hire and you hide behind the scenes no Building without explicit permission of those two individuals who printed the Tanya that we mentioned at the earlier page and the other person they give you permission you got permission if they don't give you permission I don't care if it's indirect and it's already you broken it out and all the stuff that people unfortunately do you're not gonna do measure Commission in five years I asked some of my friends if they know why five years so one of my friends was a big time but he says that at that time the late 1790s that period a a it was a five-year ban that that printers put on this forum that that's the way it was at that time I think later it became more because so many people but at that time one second heal those fighting let me just finish the two lines and I'll take a question me so don't reprint it's not a lot of printers for five years I mean you're in place at first from the day when it's when this time is printed well as shining your mom those that will listen to this they'll have sweetness for topic but it was Tafe and to have good blessing creatively I will like it so is the words and again he doesn't mention his name the compiler who's the compiler the compiler the compiler writes this compiled sayings collection of sayings no I just want to ask about that five-year point that you're making was that like the industry standard at the time if you published a safer you had like a Kabul for five years yes sort of idea yes yes yes yes okay why they chose five years I don't know and I I have I think that there was a change in that aft after that it even went for for more years but at the time um it was five years it wasn't only for khasides for it was the whole industry of of printing this this is the end of the and this now will start learning in next year Monday Tanya yes if you call Father my spear who's old enough find somebody who's just got a paper before yes yes yes not just more yirushimaim but that's the main thing but also has the knowledge to we're talking about the knowledge to guide you for your particular issues someone can have great gift of Samaya but he never learn to Tanya doesn't know the time in this case he's not the right person we're talking about someone who knows the Tanya and he has even if it's younger years 100 I'm not I'm not taking that away I'm not taking that away but you know but life experience is valuable you should we we should be paying for life experience and today we dump out life experience you know you're over the hill right severance pay right it it the whole hill will use the word the industry the whole industry has changed the story with the rabbit a shop the river shop one of the must be him when he opened the Yeshiva was because let me hold their Elder one why because he was yet accustomed and he was blind and the rabbi rashaba pointed him as one of them so the the the the at a certain point the some of the staff said to that but you know we barely have money to pay the the regular mashpium in Russia even people and and he's you know blind I mean yeah he's a very Hasidic Jew and the Revelation said just to see such a person is worth his salary just to see him and that set the tone for temperature and I would hope and pray it continues to mashiachenu you know abuel card was already I was learning but he was much younger but in his 80s 85 86 88 89 90. you know it was hard for him to move but but just to see such an individual was inspirational for you know even and even those that didn't understand either because you spoke on the Yiddish just to see him and we have to train our children and grandchildren that's very very important I try putting on my books many times pictures of older hasidim my book who's who in the Babbage my series of books for a long time I had Robert Keane who lived in the craftabad you know wearing a casket with a Long White Beard carrying this thousand trillion in a satchel over his like like 150 years ago Russia and I said to myself that's the picture that I want to represent who's who in the Bible I want my children and grandchildren great-grandchildren a future to know that this is the way it's supposed to look and be you know anyway thank you for your wishes I wish everyone to have only good health and only simplest and we should only meet at happy occasions and um I said some of you weren't there it was by the oil this morning I thought I put you all in my in my saddle and you should know I wrote about my writing work and teaching work and I when Anna came out from the oil and went into the video room to have a video playing the first thing I see is there someone giving the rabbit two books and the rep is smiling at him and the rabbit says thank you and he says for a book you have to pay and then his wife passes with with her child that the rabbit gives an extra dollar for the child he is also part of the writing of books and that's part of what I wrote about so to me you know you know it's just that's it that's it you know you don't need to in an awesome experiences and just tell you what happened you know and believe me if I would have not had that I'd tell you today this is what happened so they're able to help that the feeling should be the Scarborough and received and everyone should be benched and everyone will be benched but we should see it see it by ourselves our children and grandchildren Community because they are the future you know that we're learning Tanya together we have a nice cup Buddha and all that it's givaldi beautiful but we need our kids and grandkids to continue this with others then then you know we're really really connecting zagazone have a great Shabbos everyone we'll see everyone so Monday we're starting Tanya chapter one Monday Tanya chapter one bye bye good Shabbos thank you thank you hey the guy what's up