3 Meditations for Success in life, business, marriage, children & Judaism - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

you validated me okay let's go on I want to go back Z pointed out and I'm very happy I told my wife this morning I have now a real interested student in where he realized that I left out about 10 lines I forgot to uh uh teach so thank you Z we have to go back to page 112 and it's um the second line after the end of those 12 lines that I told you about that the rebba suggest that we memorize the second line says so I want to learn that quickly till the till where we learned yesterday and one should de delve deeply into this thought that God stands upon everyone and looks at you and knows what you're thinking that's the meditation delve deeply into it number two two is already spend time lengthy time long now the says two things right and means delve deeply into it it can take you five minutes but spend you know what's called you know Focus your thought so that's is more of a qu quantitative thing so let's say that yamik is qu quality more quality like the is more uh quantity like and there and therefore he says the next line that's a description for based on the capacity of your mind and your thought based on the brains God gave you every every one of usem gave us a different typ type of a brain based on your that's how much you should be yamik just for a moment some people you know they they think they're being mamic and it's they're not being mamic at all because they cannot go deeper their brain cannot go deeper so you could spend time as we say yish means to how do you say uh like force yourself you know what what is it it's suppos to complain no no no no no no not not yeah sometimes we use KET as complaint over here we mean like to force yourself you know like to strain yourself to strain yourself hey if the brain that you got is not able it's gshi is not able to go that deep you can fetch to today to tomorrow you're not going to understand the deeper and this is important a person needs to know after as they grow and develop and learn the brain capacity it doesn't mean to say you shouldn't try but you know I've been you know meditating for years many years and I realized a certain point that I don't have the brain capacity like another friend of mine who's able to go deeper so so you know you try but then you have to know also your limitations SOI again if you use this as an excuse not to try you're guilty what I'm saying is you try and you Endeavor but you need to know and if you're wondering how do I know only a person can know or not know in other words and I've seen I'm sure you've seen students in in school that when they were younger they were weak and all of a sudden later they become and they become these not Geniuses but they become so knowledgeable right so that there was potential for more depth in a certain area and it wasn't explored in their youth later when they explored it they they developed it but then there's certain things that you just it's not the type of brain you get that's that's what it means and I also want to point out that the AL employs this type of wording and idea in several places of in Tanya in the 53 chapters uh so it's not just a one time thing it seems to me that the AL understands the human mind I'm saying to say he understands this the human brain cuz there's several times that we've learned it already I can't pinpoint now the chapters but we've learned it and probably will'll learn it again where he he says this word how much okay then he says number two is the quantitative description of the word right is has to be at at the office to help people he can't sit in D 7 hours to 4:00 every day cuz he has to help patients everyone has a certain amount of time those that are fully retired can can spend more time in daving learn those that are not spend less so that's a quantitative thing not a qualitative let's continue when is the time I look look at this when is the time you should think about this thought that God stands over you before you learn to you do a mitvah can you imagine put you put it we put on this morning so next tomorrow morning before you put on before no that's going to speak about later doing a Mitzvah whatever the Mitzvah you think about God stands over me I'm about to do a Mitzvah God knows what's in my heart that's what he says he gives an example before putting on tal fil the question is why does he choose this much I mean he says you should think about God standing over you every every every time every right every every time why does he choose the Mitzvah of tal so possibly heard possibly it's because it's the beginning of the day so since he's talking about cab accepting God's yoke as the beginning of service ra so he also applies that to the beginning of one's day which is before T in the morning that's possibly the reason here ends the first meditation now comes a second meditation and how do we know it's a second one because just and you should also reflect and meditate on what how the infinite God that that surrounds all worlds and pervades all worlds who this is the will of the superal is invested in the words and wisdom of or the that you put on the and and when you learn the word when you read the words of when you put on the tal in the he draws AEM upon him the on his Godly part his Godly Soul that's in his body and the result of which is to make the person be absorbed and included and and an old to the light of God here and ends the second meditation what's the difference between the first and the second the first one is God stands upon you in a way it's very it's personal but it's not personal anytime everywhere so therefore he adds the second meditation it's not just God stands over you when you're you know waiting for the at the street corner but in your ta learning and in your Mitzvah doing God is there you're you're you're not just studying a good book and you're not just doing a good deed you know you ask someone I do a good deed it's not about a good deed it's God it's a Mitzvah that's the second meditation so the second meditation Y is much deeper in a way than the first meditation now comes the third meditation please look inside and so those words means specifically is already the key to know that it's a third meditation because even the second meditation it's a general one for all of Torah mitv so that's why he says and more specifically when you put on this is what you should have a mind okay tomorrow morning try it to an and to absor be absorbed in with God's within your soul Godly Soul your and your of your Godly Soul should be absorbed and uned to the h of the infinite God which is invested specifically so those of us that put on two pairs of Fillin well everyone knows that there are four portions of thein in the in the right now so two of the partions arees so he says the first how does one show that their and that their understanding that their Godly Soul has is dedicated to God by not using it only for things that are not godly that are just mundane but rather to in invest your own in Godly thoughts so again you see here it's interesting doesn't say you shouldn't if if if you shouldn't use your for for the work M's work art even if even if he wasn't doing Jewish art right whatever it's art is is Art but that that doesn't get make it that the used for the art becomes Godly Godly it becomes when through your you're expressing a certain of Torah so can you imagine so mha learned something in in Tanya in one of the sh and then he says Ah I want to I want to I want to express this idea through the art that's an example of the of the in his that goes from just being you know now it becomes absorbed in godliness let's use the word it becomes Divine Divinity Divinity is a different level people ask me what's so I quote Emanuel emel I saw once in one of his books a great line I like it I think it's a great oneline answer is the stud of divinity in other words Tyra is the study of divinity of course but Tyra talks about one ax scoring another ax a get a marriage so it's disguised right when you learn a pie of when you learn Yesa right you didn't come home saying d t dad uh we we learned about God you said we learned about one Ox goinging another ax or which was now who pays if you're sleeping and you knock over the the jugs with your feet at the end of the bed you have hear someone say oh I learned about the godliness in The Jug no I learned right so soid is the type of Li all the is the study of God the the conspicuous study of God when you talk about B NE all these things it's like hey what are you studying God and that's why there was initially a a reluctance an ambivalence and an attack and opposition what do you mean studying God that's like dangerous territory we don't go there you might become a heretic right you won't become heretic from reading the New York Times or other magazines of much worse content but you might got for to become a heretic from it reminds me I'm writing about why you so Rabbi Al was AAL of the and he got in the early 50s then he became a professor at Stern in college the most amazing person I hope to write a little bit about him in the book cuz he did so much over his career he already I think over n anyway so in the early 50s he already he somehow he went to he start he liked what he heard and he was a big tal and a great genius mind and he and he uh accepted that one of the 770 B would come to to Wu to give a sheir and Tanya but of course not in the Bas medish that they wouldn't allow so he had it in his dormatory room and even that some famous person who was already passed on gave him a hard time and made a big deal about it and it and it came to the attention of Rabbi salvic who was a student of T but yet you know he has a board and he has others and it's a lure place you know on and on more on the literature orientation so RAB Sal said in his German you know German English yish all the aices we don't have a problem with that we teach here and why you and with Tanya we have a problem you understand and that salv was a professor of philosophy in addition to being the Russ she he knew the score a lot of the stuff is borderline up in courses you know what I'm saying but yet the curriculum calls for it it's a university it's not only Yesa which you know that was a big M as you know it was there was strikes the students salved with the students against when they wanted to you know originally was a yes wasn't a college and then when you know as the years went on they decided to to mix the two there was a protest by the more right-wing students and RAB salic sided with them but he lost because the um his Superior wanted it to be that way my point being is that this is about see this is godliness this Divinity and and divinity is something that's obvious it's like conspicuous godliness and study and and people are like this is anyway so so says here I want to finish this thought not only does your andina within your soul need to be absorbed and aned to the godliness but also you know Das we learned in chapter three has Offspring all and love believe with your heart which includes so we have foures okay let's review so so kades kades kades and the is are the two pares for and the two other par correspond to das but Das is two prongs and ie through the four portions of thein that are in thein there's a um an inclusion and an an an enement to the higher godliness in all aspects of of one's and which and which divides itself into two which basically is so when we put on Fillin in the morning then what should be the kav that my mind and that's what it says by the way it says what what's the purpose of the to dedicate your your your heart and your mind so here just breaks it up how do you are how do you your how do you the and this he says this concept in is what it says you have it in in in in itical terms and in you have it in its terms and when you wrap yourself with in the morning so so okay so this this piece is the meditation to think about before you put on your Fillin but we also put on a Talis those they're married those are not tias so what should be the Cav is and we put on we should have in mind to draw God he into us God is the king K of all the world to for God to unite himself with us through this Mitzvah and this concept is similar to what it says in the place shall you place shall you put upon yourself a king stop what's the and and by the way I correct myself y yesterday I said that he talks about mza here it's a mistake I meant sites okay so correction so what's the meditation of the it seems to me that by filling the the kav is my my my should Elevate itself and be absorbed in in Hashem by the kavana is to draw down Hashem to unite with us so one is what we call H and one's called Hal is Hal From Below to above since the cavana is we should Calla the drawing down of of Hashem into to unite with us by us putting on the ties so that's that's a cavana a general kavana be that as it may both of these thoughts is the third meditation these are not two SE this is part of the third meditation the third meditation is not only does God from his perspective stand over us and not not only does all of mitzvas Mitzvah should be absorbed in God and be Express godliness but in the particular way of my putting on ofin and my putting on of Talis ofis it's very individual it it it's it's for the pr for the individual see what the AL is doing here so he's now tackled at every aspect of a of of a ye's a the relationship with Hashem so what's hashem's relationship with us that meditation and God stands over us and he cares and loves about us number one number two that the tah that he wants us to learn and and the mitzah he wants us to do he wants there to be Unity between that so that's you know not just from God's perspective from our perspective and learning the T God is in the T God is in the Mitzvah and then more specifically break it down to your daily activity and and so would be not just by the way for Talis Talis but in every MIT there is that thing and that's why many people say to say once a day before the reason is it goes on everything throughout the day everything else but many others as you know say right that's their minut they want to bring to specifically but the concept is the concept is that the is specific it's it's it's not like you know um when I'm going to do you're going to do if we we don't say I don't think people say but the concept is there what is it about that triggers the godliness what is it about fasting on a fast day that triggers the godliness so the AL here gave us two examples of something that we do every day and because the beginning of the day T but the same notion is true for throughout every other Mitzvah I hope this was helpful and uh and satisfied you because we Tak missed it and it was good that we spoke very much thank you you're welcome have a great day everyone we'll see everyone tomorrow Z Shalom take good day bye-bye okay good