3 Kinds of Problems

age 35 volume 2 of the my mother mulch in the my mercy mosaic rabbi dolphin yes good question does anybody have a problem right now with not not seeing rabbit dolphin no why sam you say okay so i don't know why i don't know i'm having a nice problem with him okay all right never mind go ahead go ahead okay so we towards the end of yesterday's uh the rebbe really uh made it very uh down to earth and the rebber was said that he asked the question the beginning of the mimer that the second segment of the mimer uh please turn off your mutes if you haven't yet the second segment of the mimero seems to be superfluous why because in the first segment it says already hashem forgives you for all of your iniquities why the second segment we call it it seems redundant and unnecessary he answers this question already at the end of the first chapter and he says that this doesn't refer to what you would call hardcore sins no and there ever says let's take a person who darvens three times a day who has set times for learning in the morning and the evening who fulfills mitzvahs and who even sometimes governs with soul with kavanaugh and he has good needles too and he's careful with what he speaks what he says and he has even words of torah memorized and wherever he goes he reviews those words of torah yet oh so he feels knucky remember the rather brought very important teaching that's relevant to all of torah throughout the year the word hate which we translate commonly as sin has two meanings one from meaning lacking missing when you do a sin you're causing hashem energy to be lacking from the place and time where it's supposed to be vis-a-vis your sin and number two hate means comes with hite to purify vegeta cleanse the house so the rabbit then says that the second interpretation of hate to cleanse yourself is because you feel one may feel after doing everything that's so good and so correct that he or she is pure what else do you want from me the rebels languages by doing all of the above that i just repeated who nokie being ayats but he's pure and clean in his own eyes meaning there is an ego attached to everything he's doing therefore says this is considered really a hate or sin but wait a minute rebbe i'm not sitting i'm going to show them learning and daffing and all that yes but there's something deeper that expressing and living with which is ego and that's the mako the addition of is this type of flaw and this type of law can only be eradicated if with hashem if you have a face-to-face engagement an appointment with hakadosh baruch because then you know to the deputy you can tell your story to the gabba and shamish you could tell your story but when you're face to face with hashem two eyes looking into two eyes standing in close proximity you tell a story and you will just get it right back shot down and you'll be embarrassed so therefore you don't tell a story and make up you know if you're living with ego that's behind everything you're doing or some of what you're doing that needs to be corrected so that's purify that young that sense of i'm better than the other because i do this and that purify it vis-a-vis be standing and facing hashem with nation let's continue now on 35. to understand this better the hate loss now he goes back to the first interpretation of the word hate which means lacking so he says there are two levels you know in hebrew we have two words for sin says that the implication of the word is is more uh is less is more lenient not as bad as the word avoids and surely there's a third word the cinnamon for sin which is pisa yonasan right so we had hate avon and pesha and by the way you're going to read those three words during the david and young kipper so pay attention are even worse than avoirs there is a person who does a lightweight sin you know there's a person who does even a heavy sin but it's their own you know they're not doing it because they want to but they can't control themselves then there is pesha pesha is marita i'm doing it because i don't care god forbid about you and i'm rebelling against you i'm going to show you that i am kipper not only will i eat but i'll eat ham and crave i'll make my sins so bad like driving not only will i drive over the speed limit but i'll drive over speed limit speeding speed is speaking on my phone right let me see you catch me i'll do all the violations at one time yes okay this is not modern hebrew this is biblical hebrew this is based on the and it's also based on the ghazal's interpretation it's not you know yes i think increases from the of the guy who meets trey from kipper and all these uh corey knew very well who ribena is who his master is and nevertheless he intended mchaven limerick body to rebel against his master noise why do i do the sin by a person who's this type of person or this at least thinking this way it's i want to rebel everything is driven by rebellion my son after alzheimer's and he has miserables nephesh to rebel behind them the lies look at the rabbit's place the lizard in the versailles side not only isn't it moisture for his betterment and his pleasure yo in other words by him doing the sin the way he's doing it he's making himself very uncomfortable and whose rival time is there not only is he uncomfortable he's suffering pain when he does it but he's driven by rebellion there's a psychological term to express this type of behavior it's all at all it's all driven by merida jonasson even if i'm hurting myself i still have to rebel yes i just want to comment that when i did was doing a lot of addictions counseling one of the things i i would say is that all relapse begins with the same three words which are i don't care yes but but but hillel here we're not saying we're not saying just i don't care we're saying i care to rebel wouldn't that be different than i don't care is like you know apathy whatever but rebellion what well the the reason i said it is that that often there a um often there's an element of that of rebellion when when somebody who has established their abil their recovery uh their ability to kind of um live without some kind of compulsive or addictive activity and then they relapse back to the end it begins with that kind of rebellious i don't care i'm just not going to keep the the restriction on me anymore uh i have whatever grievance i have and i'm going to go other to go for it and and and even and even in the face of making it painful and to myself even if i'm going you know [Music] which one meaning means he happened to meet you on the way out right but also kirkland means the word car cold martial lambachia it's no one can go into this hot bath it's too hot probably comes along one no good person one person was look a troublemaker and he jumps into it although he burns himself in the process he could ice up but meanwhile the fact that he jumps into the hot boiling bath he has cooled it off or being a drop a little but he still has cooled it off let's now hate him for other people right so he's doing something that's painful to himself for the purpose of which is to make other people also in this case benefit from hot bath in our in our moral in in a negative way okay this is very common you have for example an asp aspartame is a person with huts a disrespectful person who has azoth may is regardless there's someone who's really a goggle i don't mean a god someone who really is a quality person and all of a sudden this nothing stands up to him and you know speaks disrespectfully i just had such a case yesterday in true i mean i'm not going to say that i'm the gurdle and he's the low one but you know it had definitely those feelings although the godot knows of his great qualities and no sorry although the the person who has the chutzpah knows about this person that he's having the khutspatu's great qualities [Music] so if you know who you're talking to why are you doing that you know why you're innocent because her face limbridge he has to rebel he has to do this to show that he doesn't care like like hill said all of this ends the discussion of what pocheja is in these terms now comes valvoyne [Music] purposeful sins knowing full well what you're doing behind the idea is turn the page page 36 [Music] he knows that what he's doing is god forbid against hashem's will for limited and he does not want to god forbid rebelle but because the corporeality the coarseness of his indulgences overpower him an addiction who ain't a yocho island he can't control himself sometimes he even has pain that he can't control himself the first guy the pochaya he has no pain he's very happy to rebel the one we're talking about now that does the avonos he might be in great pain because of what he's doing and because he can't control himself and especially when it comes to thoughts and inappropriate bad thoughts which lead him to doing an action that is bad he can't control his thinking and these are called sins of the youth referring to masturbation [Music] it comes from the boiling of the blood youthful energy they say that has been acid and that he's very aroused you know although he knows that this behavior destroys his body um and it hurts your soul because the locksmith can't control himself they i'm not talking here about an accidental uh omission we're talking about intentional masturbation knowing for what you're doing but you cannot control yourself that's why it's called zodin is plural are also called avinus what is the actual word of all mean is a yiddish word which means crooked take for example the nature of people we see there are people who have are very talented they have great creative ideas they have very good comprehension they understand everything very well um they understand it thoroughly it's not like a superficial understanding they really understand the intricacies of what they're studying and learning and reading about the image that nevertheless together with this understanding they have some kind of crookedness to what they understand and it expressed itself that the bottom line the result and and the and the um and the condensing of their entire elaborate understanding by the galapagos when it comes to bottom line does not fit at all on the good as a scholar to the consent for to the point of thought shabbat within that idea in other words they can philosophize and philosophize and give you the best arguments and it comes to bottom line they do just the opposite of what they they understood or if they don't do just the opposite they do it in a way that's crooked and it's because of this crookedness that's called in the yiddish language and there's a beauty akrumer and you see that we had this we used to learn to learn to learn and then the guy would come up with a bottom line and you would hear someone say your cup how do you come to that conclusion from this elaborate understanding it's because somehow you have some evils vikum as a result of that elaborate thought or we say a crooked brain or in yiddish we would say in the yeshiva acromer cup someone says what do you think about this and this oh yeah crew makeup doesn't mean that he doesn't study he could study a lot but all this somehow when it comes to the implementation it's a crummy cup his head goes crooked so the question is how from understanding something elaborately do you get to crookedness says that ever it's because there is some crookedness in what we call the clear cycle it doesn't elaborate here but there is the orgasejo the energy the light the idea and there is the receptacle for the idea and it could be that in in the in the in the thought youngest in the thought he's very straight in the r but in the cle in the way he he uh interprets and brings it into his own vessel his intellectual vessel that's where there's a crookedness that's what he alludes to here i think he's buying what he buy it yeah [Music] he was talking about a crookedness that comes bottom line moshe right the response the result now he says even sometimes there's a crookedness in the head itself before even we talk about the the goof the deployable mama she says the evil who because [Music] since the person knows that it's relevant to your soul and your body it's hurting in other words he's talking about masturbation before but it's true for all our various you know the damage that it does spiritually and physically to you then yet he cannot control himself to prevent himself from this behavior ain't the ella evils vehicle there ever says this is a crookedness i know i understand you can't control yourself but it doesn't equal it doesn't it doesn't come if you understand that you're hurting yourself and you're a normal person you want to be normal then how can you do it the answer is because there's a crookedness there how and so this may be i don't know how this maybe you know goes against the psychological understanding of addictions you know but the hasidis [Music] it's not just that the brain the mind over matter in training but genetically hashem gave a person a moa and by its very inherent core it can't control the lathe from birth it's not something you have to be trained and taught yeah you have to be trained and taught if you messed it up so you have to go to rehabilitation how to relearn and experience but say bar that experience it's natural says the balatonian chapter 12 and 17 of tanya for the maya to naturally dominate over the heart stop here ends the reba's explanation of what avoy noise are so we explained already what you are and now we concluded he concluded explaining what avenues are and now he goes on to the third category which of the type of transgressions that are accidental what is the what is the transgression joining of a showgig it's that a person hasn't trained themself to be holy to sanctify themselves even with matters that are permissible i'm so used to doing things the way i've been doing him that i just continued doing him in yiddish look what he says famous khabad saying what a person must have he needs and wants dos and dos this and this that he wants he does so in other words you must have food to survive right you must sleep to function but you don't have have to indulge in it in a way that is considered taiwan practice makes perfect my friends right well it works also regarding our mishigasu practice makes perfect if you practice a certain behavior and this is your norm what happens that that leads to total disregard for rules and regulations and you end up doing something that is issue hello you want to say something i just i was thinking when you're saying that that in the cycle of learning something you know that you start out that you start out with having to to do something to do all the steps consciously and then and then as you integrate them you'll be you're able to perform the actions more and more unconsciously or more and more reflexively so it's really fascinating to think that that's also uh how it goes with the veyron that uh you know we've got we that we that we're not we uh it sort of bypasses the thinking right the the laxity the the the the cut the customizing laxity in one's life leads to all kinds of um loose behaviors and core including uh forbidden ones there's two things right half is forbidden schumann fat is permissible i want to eat truman but when i want to eat truman boy i want to have that steak in those lab checks with gravy thanksgiving dinner is 25 gravies and i have to have all the different right well guess what you're taivo of just indulging it's kosher and it has 65 ashrae remember dots and the dots and bells and some safer and khabad and the lit fox and basket here the old man god blessed me he passed away this year from covered it was 92. i knew he was a very special jew a russian yield of barbecue in his office here on on 14th avenue borough park you know downstairs was this the store it didn't even have a sign on it i mean it was the certain stores in bar about that they're the same way they were 60 years ago you know no sign big eliza doesn't have a computer in the front it has he doesn't even have a regular um you know they used to have the the registers he doesn't have a register has a little calculator and the mat sells i'm sure the most foreign in the world the world and you walk in there it is so backwards yet so braboskin store was another example you know here he is in his heyday he was the king of meat iowa before the fiasco and that and there isn't even a sign finally some put on a little sign with bashkins in the window so you go up to his office mr abashin senior the father the zadie at the time and his office was upstairs and also that you know it was like our home office you know i'm sure most of you have a nicer office than he does and he anyway so you go to this office and you see on the wall hexarim margaretten the yakus sophmer obavich lichfish so people ask them mr obaskin why they're all good have shayrim what do you and oh you know you what do you have he says i want to make everyone happy i want everyone he might meet i don't want a yucca to say i'm not in the meat because it doesn't have the yeti and the sacrament to say doesn't have the sacrament etc etc so here it is the whole idea of accustoming ourselves with all their sharing and we live in such a time in a way it's kevaldic it really is the problem is if you get stuck in the rut and you forget where it's coming from then you end up eating not schumann but the hussain and that's an accident i meant to eat i meant to eat uh schumann oven what do we see from this by that the concept of hate is more lenient than the concept of othering um and surely it's more lenient than pesha which is rebellion finished so now the rebels finished explaining the three categories of sin i think this is something that we should we can and should work with on yom kippur and even up to yom kippur with our family you take such a piece of mimer it's so explainable to children and grandchildren wives and friends and use it okay now he says oh the truth when it comes to truth it says hashem says even those that stoop so low to be in the category of rebellious ones if they do true says i erase their pisha their pesha their crimes as yoni said earlier says mr says and guess what happens there's doing this their intention of sin not only they become considered accidental they're actually considered meritorious could you imagine from an intentional act of evil of bed of rebellion going from there i'm sorry uh not yeah not rebel yeah yeah even rebellion it becomes not just accidental which is more lightweight but it becomes meritorious this is because as yaakov still said yesterday referring to god's mercy he said the god have mercy and god says i'm going to have mercy because i am mr mercy asks essential mercy coming from the very core and essence of a kurdish borough shalom islam you given this which is way greater than the 13 attributes of mercy shameful nation abandoned will show them that moshe's ruined brought into the world why that did give him those 13 attributes next page 37 make their intentional sins considered accidental that's that's what meisha requested god [Music] he erases completely the rebellion and he doesn't mention at all even their accidental availables in other words my listen to this myself didn't request an entire clean slate he said listen take what they did that's intentional and make it accidental give them a less of a penalty hashem says no i'm going to erase what they did completely why because he's balarachamin is able to go from one extreme to another extreme very important lesson about the idea of mercy mercifulness is complete um complete atonement the average person cannot come to that you know if someone hurts you and you know jim kipper and he's going to ask for forgiveness and you're going to forgive him the average one of us we forgive them but we still you know they still hurt us i'm gonna forgive you i don't want your bed i don't want i don't want you but you know could you imagine the feeling i love you so much even though you hurt me because i forgive you now and it's like you never hurt me that's that's an accomplishment that's a real [Music] that your intentional sins are turned over converted trans form to merits [Music] but when it comes to sins that are actual accidental sleeping now you know why because you don't know why is it moshe that's dinos they become through but chicago's don't because if it's an accident that you don't know your sense of truth is not as not as powerful because either you don't know and if you know you said it was a mistake so if it's a mistake you don't have as much remorse yes moshe what about what about the middle category said [Music] so so avenues would go into the the the the zedinites which are intentional what's the difference the difference is whether i know what i'm doing intentionally or not shy gig is accidental either i didn't know i'm not allowed to do it or i forgot i knew but i forgot tragic accident so what's the difference between [Music] zedonis means i knew i i i know exactly what i'm doing i know what i'm doing but i can't control myself there's three again the shy gate the zodiac and there's poche means my intent is to rebel even if that's not your intent but if you know what you're doing and you want to do it because you not you want to do it you can't control yourself as he allowed that's that's still a sudden it's not an accident the fact that you can't control yourself does not mean that you don't know what shabbos i know it's shabbos and i learned tahala but i can't control myself i need to use my cell phone shabbos that's azada straight is i don't know that you're not allowed to do this and this activity play with silverware on your table if you're not using it because i don't know the halakha that that's forbidden that's considered muktsu i don't know i didn't learn that a lot shy gig so the the position i want to conclude the position of needs true verb this is regretting what you did in the past with kabbalah but accepting to separate yourself from things that are permissible and sanctify yourself with things permissible what the rep is getting at here is basically that it's much harder it's much harder to do trufa for skull guys that's diners because dino is you know exactly what you're doing so i have to do truth i couldn't control myself to the truth but shay gay so the the rabbit it takes the shray gig in in in in one's service he says it's like i'm allowed to eat it it has all that what's your problem the problem is that you're you indulge or you become that indulgence to the point where it leads to to it even leads to forbidden issues so that is much harder it's much harder to eat something kosher for the sake of hashem than to just say this is trace and i have no connection to it and this is what every fruit jew struggles with the from jew what yeah the question is though what we said the three categories where does onus isn't on us another category it is but it it it's not included because illness is oldness it's it's a it's it's not halal it's not a sin it's it's it's it's not an accident you were forced so it's not considered us in halal terms of sin and other sperm talk about a stain that's on the soul because the bottom line is something that was done was was still done and needs to be cleansed but halal it's not not considered that okay we'll learn tomorrow mr sham have a great day zai gazoon shalom bye