#3 Birthday should be like a calf not a cow, R Shlomo Chaim's message - RC Dalfin

it's right right right thank you it's uh why am I here re Roosevelt didn't invite me RAB rum didn't invite me no one invited me in fact no one invited me wait a second what are you doing here what am I doing here as long as you hear you know every year he makes a so the last few years he asked me to be on the zoom so I decided even before I knew that he's ultimately moving away at least temporarily um that I I want to be in person I decided you coming that's it that's it and I was supposed to be in his house the next thing he says it's in the Sho with with with publicity the St so M please but this was supposed to be a homie faan where I can bang him over the head so I'm going to do that now want there's a button that shuts the camer down yeah I'm GNA do that now but I'll do it reminds me your father told me once many years ago there was a in is name came from Rush his name was they called him and he was a very sharp sharp they say he knew by heart he was a big to and this as we say you know what is he had a tongue it doesn't in English or we say he was sharp wited and he let you have it and sometimes he would add add prives as well which we're not going to do at this faing and it's online anyway but he was so sharp at the some of the faans over there in Tel Aviv your father told him this the wrote letters to the and probably Simpson read you know whatever I mean somehow they said we cannot sit with them and curses you know and by the way his son-in-law is who who said that okay that's another discussion I'm not going to go into it now in other words you think he was into the nibble P he wasn't into the nibble pen he was talking to so he was really giving it to it okay name I'm not going to go into it bottom line is that the wrote to the this is 1940s you got to tell him to stop guess what that WR him thee him and his father told me that when he got the letter he stopped cold using such language at so we're not going to lay it in that heavy to you okay but my father maybe well was 17 18 years old a little younger than you and I in the yes by the famous so he had a like you and it happened to be a was a as you probably read in the in his saer in his book about him that he demanded two things pretty much to hold yourself back from from from eating and indulging of foods and daving and to DAV at length with kav those were two of his things no many of the boys there were not from leab Russian homes like my own my father and others and it took them quite a while to get to get to get with it you know to understand what you know my f we come my father comes from Vision going to Vision zinc chain they sing beautifully gab gab gab 4,000 people singing get and you're flying High Friday night when you sink a chabus about different learning thinking ding it's something completely different so would get to the boys he was a master where is Penny Herman he a psychologist was a master psychologist BS if he went to school like you he would not just be a psychologist he would be the top from Harvard and Columbia whatever bottom line is he truly understood a so at this faan this is one of the things that he would do he would use the faan to work on a b or two that he want he wanted him to D longer D more to eat less or to sleep less to be you know the Yesa there that time in Lord my father tells me you know not no sad him but there was a lot of going on and serious so it tells my father this for he was sitting next to like you're sitting there and he says he called him by his first name I don't he said I have a question for you what's the difference between a calf and a cow no smart guys here what's the difference between a calf and a cow what's the difference between a calf and a cow what do you think C is a baby and the cow was grown up oh P it said something different ma no the C can become a cow cow no all true Everything everyone said is true it's not what he said you know what he said a calf can jump around a lot a calf can spring in jumping a cow can spring in a cow doesn't jump why come on why calf has a lot of energy no lighter a calf and this is the this is the a lesson for all of us but you're the scapegoat tonight a calf I have to say it in a clean way a CF has a small backside and a cow has a big backside and buta the calf can't can jump a lot it doesn't have a lot of meat on itself and the cow is this big beh so it can't jump and he turns to my father and he says if a birthday means another year stuffing your face with food and growing your belly and your backside and everything else and your ego then you then then you're a cow you can't jump around you can't you can't explore Etc but if you're a calf if you're if you'll stay in Yeshiva and you'll and you'll refine yourself in all these areas you can jump around and accomplish I think this is a brilliant insight into what a birthday is about regardless of how old a person is you have to always be a calf similar to a calf not a cow in other words never lose your energy and there's a lot of white beards and some I know you're not over there Hill we're not over the hill you can write you can play an instrument you can paint you can be an artist in other words let's learn from our they sayik gnik came to the I think he was 75 years old and he retired from his synagogue in Melbourne he became the ameritus rabbi so he used the word to the re I'm retired oh the give it to him the said I'm older than you and I have plans for the next 20 years something like that g says that Elders SC their mind becomes sharper and sharper because of the TAA because of the knowledge and because of the interest yes sometimes the body doesn't cooperate or we make it not cooperate so we have to know that and be careful so it's it's a great time for restitution reorganizing refocusing and truly and truly work on being able to say next year ah I look back and and there's so much more to do that is Health that is growth that is excitement that is accomplishment and that keeps you young uh uh raal you remember we had a fellow actually he learned here in Pittsburgh when there was a Yesa here in the 1950s when shim was here and Sh and shom leov kin and one of them was a buer named y Mosel does anyone know the Mosel family in in of laage with us and he was the Elder even even older than rafo quite older and I said to him you want to stay young hang out with us the young guys and he did he did stay around young people young people get you to move a ver an argument a nigan you know so anyway that's my that's all I have to say about your that you should you should take it seriously and and really and really people will see you and they say I want to stay young I want to stay active I want to stay involved and I want to help all the the laish institutions continue Mish because the rebba needs everyone and the rebba needs people who support institutions this is the this isim this is not just another institution this is the this is it we're not talking about the fact that you had here goes all and this continues through the youth and we'll talk a little bit about that later so help M you should stay young always stay young and be a a light to to illuminate a candle to illuminate others and remember you're a be like a calf not like a cow before weing you mention yeah