24 Teves, 2025 Farbrengen, Montreal Anash #1- Reb Yoel, Reb Meilech. Reb Mendel- RC Dalfin

[applause] the present tonight. Firstly, I want to thank the government. You know, I've been to many, many places. Never have it been hosted with such such hnosis and kindness. I once was on a plane. and I met the wife of a very prominent ro of Babach who's in the 70s and we were talking about her family background and she says you know they asked my husband to come to speak here and there in general he doesn't like to do it and when he does it and he gets off the plane They don't offer him food, a little nap. I felt bad for her. Reb is mish. I'm saying this not to boast his ego, just caution to know how to treat a guest. Any guest, [applause] thank you. Where's the >> right over here? >> Okay. Please sing together. This isn't a showing. I told David, if you want a lecture, it's it's a whole different mahal. If you want a seminar, it's another mahal. A faban is we sit together, we sing together, we laugh together, we cry together, we open up our hearts. And you need patience. If you don't have patience, if you have spilis, you ain't going to get the the gist of the and that's your decision. So let's begin with the alter. He knows how to play cold night. [singing] Need thy fing. [singing] Thy faith is still [singing] our voice in our [singing] voice. My voice is I [singing] Yeah, [singing] yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. [singing] Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Let Hey la. Hey. [singing] [singing] [music] Ah yeah. [music] I [music] [singing] >> I just came down. [music] Rabbi told me today that Rabbi Greenass was yesterday was very big on me bal this is what David told me today I didn't No bash is last week talking about the arrangements. So I said I think it would be appropriate if time allotss to say s because it's s because your rabling was the mashia here and therefore you know and then he told me this today so I'm going to mitzer because cuz I know you have a lot of patience to hear of myas. Now that's what you're up to after a good day of snow. And before that I asked Abd if we could have sing the niggan as a prelude to the mimer the niggan the niggan that was sung by the reb and before that let me tell you that I don't see the rebel here but the those that were around in the late 1950s there was a whole viku a whole debate about which niggan in we should sing at which time until the reb made a vadnim a board of kind of of of singers of balagnim some were rapes rapeskid gansburg the three were hesh forward the four were peshk dansburg khan karonov and they were the ones ones who decided and regulated which nigun kind of should be sung when there's a lot more to say about this but it's not tonight's theme. There is actually a tape that was released on the online which is very interesting to hear how they're at a meeting I think is 1960 and they're talking about which neonim and they're going back and forth. It's it's it's not so clear, but you you get the gist of how these were debating with each other and singing and one said to the other, "Let me hear you sing it." And that's how they came and formalized the So in today when aid says, they sing a certain niggin. It'll sing the niggan that was sung before the reb said I should share things I heard from various mashim. So I heard Mendel Futas who happened to be one of an uncle a great uncle of ours and I asked Reendal about which niggan is appropriate to sing today before a mime and Mendle told me you could it's okay it's okay if you sing that. So I'm going on his shoulders. I'm gonna add and sing together now the and then I'll say okay no where's the no abmo [singing and music] [singing] [music] I >> [singing] [music] >> I [singing] >> [singing] >> I la [singing] [music] [singing] [music] higher Yeah. I [music] high. [singing] [singing] I la [singing] I [music] [singing] I [singing] am I [singing] [singing] yeah aha. >> [singing] >> Yeah. Yeah. [singing] La [singing] yeah [singing] I la the Hallel [singing] [singing] I [singing] I [music] am I I [singing] >> [music] [music] >> 50 gates of unity were created. The mother says meas 49 gates were given and the shahan and the 50th gate was not given. asks the Reb in his mind that he said in Gimu 1893 in conjunction with the first time that he told the fleet about print in the back of today in the he asked the question what is the purpose of knowing that there's 50 gates if we only have access to 49. So why tell us there's a 50th gate? And to explain this, he introduces the concept that the word Nu doesn't only mean to create, but it also means to reveal his goal. He bases it on the She regarding the laws of traus with a puncture in the animal. So the go says we're not concerned that that it's it's a puncture a puncture to the point where it's revealed. So that we see that the word bord also means revelation not only creation. And he says that the way to reveal the 50 gates is through the avoid of through the service of studying to and he explains that in learning I'm I'm I'm just giving you a synopsis of the minor and he explains that there's two levels of rain and which is equivalent to the concept of the arousal from above and below which means is the inspiration coming from within you or is the inspiration coming from above imposed on you and the Reb continues in the M and this is also why we say the word sick it's numerical equivalent is 49 and he asks if someone is immersed in why is he and he says this is the he doesn't really explain it at this point but says it's adequate enough the fact that the gatri of the word is it shows something is lacking in He goes on to explain that this is the difference between the which is the concept also of when seeing something the clarity of seeing versus the knowledge coming from hearing something that the obliteration of self is only compared it is to shme there isn't clarity like ria ria leads to what we call the the the non-existence of existence and he goes on to say more this means that there can be a time when a person falls spiritually falls and the says that the falling consists of various different kinds of oneas one illness is the compared to you get a cold another type of illness is which it's much worse and finally there's a which causes complete apathy and the maz that this is all caused caused by what we call indulgences you it's kosher it's permissible it's mut but it's unnecessary so the fact that you make it necessary according to your standards and thoughts that's a title that's an indulgence and what that and what that causes is various kinds of maladies spiritual maladies is the equivalent of a cold and worse. Then he goes on to say that there is this is all when the it's what's called aida a gradual descent where a person gradually descends from their level of kadush to unfortunately a fall a spiritual fall. But then there is what he calls me from a high mountain to a deep valley. It's a very deep fall uncontrollable. What is that in spiritual terms? It's when a person not only indulges in in but he indulges and forbidden matter and the Reb goes into details there. So the question is all this comes from a lack of what he calls in the right way with the be with complete humility and subservience to the aist. So what's the solution? He's identified very well the problem says that this is a very unique in this it might be only in this mime where he says he calls for chuva well chuva we know about but the way that writes in this writes in the m is the chuva is his lushness in today's language it would be a paradigm shift a complete change a mindset change only after having aos clus and saying I don't want to be this way anymore without the details I must vacate I must make a change once you have that paradigm shift at hos that ashab says focus once a year when you have that once a year then you can go on to mitzvah and each one impacts you that premium of mak has explained and he concludes the that the fact that it says and that's 70 that's what the site is but Galia is 49 and he says another tremendous thing at the end of the that even to great sadikim what was revealed to them was only the 49 gates. But with BL through BL, we we then learn we then use the 49 gates in a proper way and gives us the sh. >> Nope. That was a stickle mista. Yeah. >> [music] [music] >> You said you said you said that I shouldn't interrupt [music] you. You said I shouldn't interrupt you. Can I say my happy now? [music] >> For sure. It's not just [music] [singing] I [music] [crying] yeah [music] [music] LA. [singing] You did it in my You did it in my [music] Very nice. Yeah. [music] >> On a snowy night. Yeah. I have to tell you I'm sure my sh is very happy because my share would always ask to my and many young light came over to me and tell me that what made them a man is when gave them the self-confidence that they could learn the and when he used to go to the mikvah him and the bak with them would take 45 minutes to walk and I asked them what did they do during that time so please continue for radio so it's so I want to talk a little about with a few micers and I have a a few is not a time to sailing vote You know what that means? Tomorrow morning you're going to say, "HE SAID THIS, I liked it. I didn't like it." That's not a That's A DASHA. YOU WANT A DRUSSIA? Not me. There's a free exchange of ideas and words and concepts and a faba needs participation. So please participate. So the alterb the alterb began being aid I told I was spoken four places for bring me to the seminary and to the other mistas you might have wonderful misters the alterba The freed writes in the was called the lef but I found in one in the nay that came out that the says he was like nagget he walked across the street kind of when the simple people were walking you could can you imagine think of the alter that way I can As I stated, look it up in the Anyway, >> how does it become a how does it become a so we know the story went to instead of VNA and when he was there he says I came here to learn how what does it mean is better than anyone else before I became He means how do I connect to the through ding and that's a very difficult thing most difficult thing is to attach through it's it's it's it's work of the soul anyway he goes there and he sees that ding to 12 and 1 and two alterba says I came had to learn how to da but not to spend half a day was full of learning. I'm going to GIVE AWAY I'M GIVE AWAY all my time, half of my day. No way. And he leaves parathetically. But I'm telling you now, Rabio wants fab with us all night. Utes in Ocean Parkway in Brooklyn the yeshiva on this story all night and I'm giving you over the consuel started to fab with us 8:00 you kiss of night and he walked out 7 in the morning and I'm not being magaz I'm not exaggerating and was mas this story that the alterb came back for his scarf and then he heard the mag walking an Indian about the kashas of a of a ray of a lung and he saw his galas in niggler he said if so I'm going to stay and asked the like come on that's that's what got the to stay you know when you hear a story you got to analyze the story was Mazba that night and I share it with you. The shawl represents the scarf represents gish gashmas went to get TO GET A SCARF means he came to understand that elus that godliness is found most in gish in the material and that was a re A REVOLUTIONARY IDEA FOR THE alterba because you can learn shas and if you're missing some the study of you don't have this nuda you can't relate to this nuda in other words explains to us especially in the explains to us spoke about I heard the neph And the reb has the on it of course the mile of and again here you have to ask yourself what do you mean the mile of gisha says in a negative way that we will get USED TO GOSH IT'S LIKE AN OLD CAR VERSUS A new car you know it's old it goes a new car it's NEW IT'S VERY NICE BUT you got to learn the are the gashmas is old. It's with us from our youth, from our birth and we become so accustomed to it. I told the I think the the bak I remember the the girls I spoke somewhere today a mush I heard from another mashia of ours in Martown. You invite people to your table. One of the people hasn't eaten a long time. He comes from poverty. The other person comes from a wealthy home, but he doesn't happen to have a meal now. We have a place now in Burough Park. It's what you call a soup kitchen, but it's so far from a soup kitchen. All the the sha the sal borrow park come in to take it to eat. They're hungry. They have a min at a min factory and they go in. So someone coming from a au a wealthy home and David the host gives each one a plate of food. When they start eating, who eats with more gluttony? As we say in good old Giddish, WHO IS FRESSING? THEY'RE FRESH. NO, the poor person, right? He hasn't eaten in a long time. The the person who normally has food and now he's he needs some food and he's eating some food. He sits as a proper with etiquette and he eats. Well, Ben Gaines, you would think that who is more caught by the food. Who is more a slave to the food? The poor person, not the wealthier person. Ba told us just the opposite. It's the What's the proof? Just try pulling away pull away the pull away the plates from each of the people. Who's going to go more bonkers? Who's going to become more upset and more angry? The poor person or the wealthy person? The wealthy person. Why? Because by the poor person he and the food are not one. There is who he is. poor person, a poor a person who comes from poverty, slave mentality. He didn't need fa. But is he the food? No. The his comforts, his food, and he are one. And the next when you take away his plate, you've touched him and you touch him, he's very upset and angry. Dash is such a luring commodity. It encaptures you, you know, to to know how to deal with an enemy, you need to know, you need to know your enemy. Yet alb says in the ghetto that it's the wishes to be the seat of what we call divinity. Elus I don't know how Rabbi Bell would translate this but I always ask give me a oneline definition of what cidus is you got one line so I found it once in Emanuel Shut's one of his books and I loved it and this is it the study of divinity in Hebrew elus is elus H you're dealing with div divinity divine db says the ultimate of gashm is gashm is elikus but you have to use it right all the it's very important as a preparation etc etc but it's all about the gish so when the alterba went back to get his scarf ra exclaimed The scarf is symbolic of of gashmas and the alterb came to understand my entire learning shalom and z and everything but it's not elus as elus is through THE GER OF COURSE IT'S ELUS t is t reminds me you know there's a publication called haka vdusha that the freed gave out in 1944 441 or 45 and and um tell you tell you a little history because I don't think knows this the editor of Hakria Vdusha was an uncle of Rabbud Keller. Heard of Rabut Keller of Plan Heights whose father was a stickle secretary of the Reba our in the 1940s. See, he had an uncle who lived at the time, I think in New Haven, and he was an editor actually of a paper that came out here in Canada. I think it was called the >> Canad. He I believe was the editor of that. So the when he came the freed found out somehow and he called them to come to him and he told him he wants them to to to be the editor of Abdusha but he doesn't want anyone to know etc etc I heard this from Talidim label posim talmid who were there in 770 in 1940s 42, 43, 44. So he he would come and they saw a person they never saw before walking in to 770 and walking up to the field kebab's apartment. One week, a second week, a third week. No one knows who he is. So a few you know they said they go over to say who are you and he says he just keeps on going back into the train to Manhattan to take the from Port Authority or whatever to take the train to the haven and they see they have to go with a heavy hand because he's not speaking They told him, "We see you come here every week, and if you don't tell us who you are and what you're doing, we'll spill the beans." So he told them in the first edition, take a look in a Bush, I think it's November of 1940, my memory serves me well. first edition he writes about what is I'm saying this catch to what I said before and he writes there in Yiddish shows in Yiddish of course he writes there to understand what this is he talks about nigla and he [snorts] quotes the mission kasapur and other mission and the way he writes that one can walk away thinking that it's not IT'S REALLY see this and look in the next two three four editions in the letters you'll see that letters from all over America that they came to Yash Salves, Rab Salvich, who had a great mind, tongue, a pen, and they wanted him to write a letter a protest against this article. I have not found I looked and searched. I have not found it and I do not believe that it was written, but some do say it was written. Anyway, the I think of one of the writes a letter to this editor and he says you have to write a retraction because the way you wrote it you meant well but he was new to and you don't explain the mile ofis with putting down and he wrote a retraction. So I I'm saying this because when we talk about the mile of it's not at all to belittle the etc. in explaining this story added another caveat. The out it doesn't say in the ma that the albber kind of got enamored to the point where he stayed in misvich for 3 years to learn more nigler doesn't say that what triggered him and capped him was the nigler discussion of the maggot but what did he do for three years he immersed himself self in and he became a that's how became appointed. Where's the zer to help sing the the battle messiah's We'll sing a now from the battle. Amen. [music] [singing] La [singing] I [singing] I all I La [singing] [singing] yeah [singing] La [singing] I la [singing] I aha Hey [singing] I Hey I la. Hey [singing] la. I am I [singing] La [singing] [music] time. So I mentioned before that our great uncle was I want to tell you a story that I don't believe the knows and the punchline and the message is very very relevant mother whose name was Maragasha Badana Futas. She was married to Futas [clears throat] and I'm sorry she was married to Manufas because name was because his father died in Nissan while she was pregnant and mend was born 5 months later or so. Anyway, so the mother had four children, two boys, two girls. The oldest was Khandel Faso became later Kahendel Lieberman the kidic artist. He was born on Tavis. I'm sorry. He passed away and then there was gold who became later golden actually before that was bransky that's my wife's baba her grandmother bransky's wife and then there was gold married to benz and the youngest was menus those that remember him or knew him, saw him, he was more of a aat in his youth. He wore a a clean shirt pressed with a jacket. He was tidy. He was put together as they say. Remember and various yeshivas in the underground during the 20s and those that knew him which I believe many of you knew him. He wasn't as tidy. >> Not at all. Not at all. Abram says that's right. There's a picture online of a mendel sleeping on a bench. You know, you see him sleeping on a bench. I think it's a 770 or you know the clothing gets creased. Makes no difference. So listen to this line that his mother Basha said to Mendel and and we'll talk a little bit about the the lesson. She says men do amazing [laughter] talking about in those days you're the real McCoy and your brother Hendle even though he learned in lababage men of did not learn labavich He did have when he was 9 years old which he told me about and maybe I'll tell you later but Hendel went to Odessa to learn art and you know when you go to Odessa uh you don't come out as aim it's hard there's ex you know it's difficult the challenges etc., etc. So she says to the to men, you think you're the real nah. He's not the the real. So she tells him, you know, the difference between you and him is He wears pressed pants and he's immersed in the pants being exactly on the crease and exactly beautiful. That's his title. You're wearing creased pants unselv but not as pressed pants but creased pants. So you aren't any better than your brother. When I heard this line I heard it from men's son. He told me this. This is such a eyeopener. It's such an insight a in humanity in character and also what does it mean to be a you think of aid but someone who is quieter and and and and you know and more put together is that we call him what do we call him inad sometimes IN THE YESHIVA THE BAK A BALA vessel you know what a bala vessel is huh? Abus, a layman who works and eats and sleeps and tomorrow works and eats and sleeps and third three days works, eats and sleeps. But the is he drinks a lot of musings all night my friends you could drink mashka all night and you can learn a lot of and you have the same ty it's called ty of who says that tyashnius is worse than tyus That's what Marasha Baldana was telling her to mend her son. It's the zel ta. It's the same ta just this is the choice here and this is the choice there tonight says when you sit by you learn of the etc. You're bringing opinion to the you know what that means. Every one of us here has a need aid health. everyone >> tonight tomorrow the 24 hours says you you bring a pin to the day which we're doing now and learning is so when you learn is is not just a limud it begins with a limud but it's its objective its modus operande is to be more ghetto, more godly, not just more spiritual and plenty of spiritual people. More godly. What does it mean to be more godly? More godly means that whatever the wants of you, you're right there, which I really hope you walk away with one thing from the is to either learn by heart for us, the first 12 lines or the concepts and then think them every day before you d. Why do I say that? Because my drizzen told me that in Lavich the buffer would think see this before diving they had two tracks. One was they thought over something the same thing every day for months and years. and and not to get bored they also thought a second track a new a new idea a new mimer I don't want to go into all the he says leaves the upper and the lower worlds and he comes to the person and therefore right then he says of love and then makes standing upon you. And how did that how did that section end on this next page? I asked you a question. It's repetitious. He just said etc etc like a servant to a master. Then he adds God stands upon you and therefore you have to stand before the seems to be repetitious. So I was thinking about this and I I what came to me and I asked him in 770 he said he thinks that's the right shot and that is the first time was talking about accepting the yoke of Hashem doing what Hashem wants is is notab it's all it's two different worlds I'm going to allow you mash to to explain that to you at length. The kids are so and by the way so see we always learned in in yeshiva nourish soil just foolish soil soil KABAD ISOLABAD soil is not foolishness it's deep it's very deep I understand I feel I the person and nevertheless you commit beyond feeling and intellect that's called healthy soil so foolish yeah you shake your head like a like a goat yeah yeah yeah okay it's also important it's also [laughter] important it's also important But you don't need kabat for that. Anyway, it's a different topic. No lecture tonight. So is a different thing. Fear, awe, reverence. It's a different ina opens up for us push a gateway to healthy living. And I say this because I heard this from I mean everyone will say well I know from Tanya thank you very much. You've heard of the mel you've heard of the ser the children from the chobler. Tell me these these sides books how are they structured? that's structured on the par primarily as far as I know there are only two that are not structured on the para one is there's a and but it's very capitalistic very and the only other that is a systematic guide from self to world to and all the ideas that the alterba discusses in Tanya you won't find on any other safer in such a structured way right so the safer is a gold mine mamaisha gold mine I don't have my book here but I wrote a book called Tanya on mental health everyone today is talking about mental health like we will mad something here my dear friends mental health is as old as the creation of the world and I took one or two ideas per chapter of the 53im to show a little insight how the alterb would look at let's say schizophrenia or how the alterb would look at guilt loneliness depression melancholy etc. THE IS NOT MADE JUST for is made for every one of the things I have a inves 18 at that time I went back and forth eight times we set it up and they also learn niggler and raam So there was a RV if you look at the art scroll sh you'll see a name there Malenitz Rayim Zev Malinitz I knew Rayim Zev Molino all over he was a open the cup and he was the chief editor of the shops. So he had a sho in when we made the I I thought you know once a week it would be nice to bring a a speaker this something to give the talmid. Now when I talking about I'm talking about middle-aged to older adults. It wasn't a like we're paying you the light. It was people who either were semi-retired retired or they worked American hours so they could learn in the morning. And we learned from 10 to 1. So I invited and happened to be around you and he spoke about you and I I said Rabi Meleninoitz and he's a lifak [laughter] I I'm I'm happily surprised. So he says let me tell you but he didn't tell me that. He told me kimut that same year. And what happened first in the in November December when we had when he spoke for us he also said I want you to give a shir my sh. I said okay not a problem once a week but I want you to prepare a course syllabus. I said what? I said, 'You know, that sounds like a kabat house outreach uh type of program. He said, "No, no, no, no, no. I want people to know what you're going to teach." So, I did it. He paid on his own for a full page ad in the local newspaper for this tany like I I this is a literature. So I'm I'm asking myself what what is it about this man that he's so engaged in publicizing the sheer so when it cameos and I saw that he was so see this I said millennowitz that year was on shabas I said would it be possible to say a few words about the rebba etc. Friday night be between Kabalo Shabas and Ma. He said, "Sure." Now I was by myself there, right? My wife stayed back home and have nas here, you know, how do you do a single man, couple of shabas, whatever. So I asked for and he says to me, "Let me worry about those things. I'll take care of that. You come and speak. And he says, "Not only do I want you to speak at the regular minion, but there's an early minion. I want you to speak then." I said, "But I can't light the candles and shabas and mises. You know, I can you know what I mean?" So I also knew about this issue. >> So he says, "I'll worry about it, not you. You have to speak twice for both And then it came time and this was already shabas day between ma it work the way it works I don't know how it's here in Montreal but by the liter over there in they go home for shall they don't have shall so as the last kesh is said he gives a clap off him table says No one is to leave sh and the way I just said it. That's the way he said it. No smile. No one is to leave sh. And I want to tell you everyone listen. I I saw it. 80 people were there for not one of the people opened the door to go out cuz the said I think it's a lesson for us. We have our here. I'm not joking. It's not a joke says anyway. And then he quotes the he gives the IF YOU WALK OUT NOW you're leaving the world of truth to for temporary life and the says over there in a very sharp I don't want to repeat it a very sharp thing and then he says to them we have someone here who's going to speak about the And then he says, "Why am I letting him speak? Why am I letting him speak? It's not our mean. Why am I letting him speak?" And he says like this, I had three people who were m in was in Gmor was a ban who was a Shanghai town of a gracious town going and Ashkafa he said he didn't say I think he said Ashkafa it was Khan and I'm listening what he says when I was in my would come Thursday nights and give a sh and the simple had a butab didn't allow the talid who wanted to learn with to go at 8:00 because they have say yeshiva till 9:30 so waited and We started a shear at 9:30 10 which went to 12:00 at night and I attended that shear for 4 years. Four years he is my rebel. He is my teacher in I was waiting for the day listen when a student of rebuil would approach me. This is what he said. And I would roll out the red carpet. It happens to be I was that stupid. And that's why Rabbi Dolphin is going to speak about gimm. world is waiting for us to share and teach right here in the yeshiva delhiva and all around. I promise you if the right person and maybe there is a sheer but talking about the union the concept to share with the the jewels of citizim of an organization that's called you know how many people attended 1,500 men and women see this is as we say it's A CURRENT EXCHANGE that everyone's looking for. You just have to be the the is waiting for us. Our Reb is waiting for us to do these things more and more. People are thirsty. Mom is thirsty to learn. And today with all the apps and the schmaps AND THE CELL PHONES, THE ALL THE canal and teaching on the phone on the computer and in so many different ways. You have to want to do it. What have we learned last week? You remember the I remember like it's ringing in my my ears here. THAT WAS SCREAMING ONE SHABAS remembered you're LAZY you can do it but you're lazy in 19 my wife was coming back pregnant with my only and first son, my only son, my first child in California in Marin County north of San Francisco. We were on at the time. She's driving a drunk driver being chased by the police at 90 mph. Goes into our brand new Toyota Corolla. She spins around twice from lane number one to lane number four, takes off her belt, puts her shait on, and looks up. Am I still here? Yeah, I'm still here. The rebels that night, Zion, look it up. I went to Rabbi Raichik, a very good friend of Rabbi Greenlass. I said, "Rabbi Raichik," he was bypicto, "What does this mean? What am I to learn from this? MY WIFE'S A GOOD WOMAN. WE JUST GOT MARRIED. We're having a child. What does God want? You're allowed to ask. And said to me, I can't answer you. So I did. I wrote a letter, put in some seduct, sent it off. And I didn't really expect an answer. But one day in January, I look into my post box, this letter from the letter, you should be well, have a he the letter was to me, but addressing my wife's pregnancy and have a healthy delivery and all that. It was sent out late. Should have came much earlier. And the Reba writes, "Nun," and this is something doesn't know. He writes to me, "PSro, the lesson from what you wrote to me about the car crash, the speed, he doesn't go into details cuz I wrote the about the experience, what happened. He didn't say how great is elacrity in all matters of sw of goodness. And then he quoted not that you beat God for sick and God will heal you but you won't sickness won't come upon you know right the says elacrity kite no cringing WHAT ARE YOU CROUCHING FOR WHAT ARE YOU PUTTING IT OFF for Morgan Hay la today you have to DO IT NOT TOMORROW I'll get to it I'll think about it a member once told me this is in Los Angeles we were buffing him he was there for shabas and he says to face versus the clip in America you know what's the biggest cliper in America mind your own business. I'm going to say something to David. He's going to say, "Mind your own business." But who are you to tell me, "Mind your own business." Says, he says, "By Russia, if someone answers, mind your own business." YOU GOT A FR. You kicked HIM OUT. WHAT? MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS? You're in an army. You're in the army of And you say, "Mind your own business." Shame on you. Shame on you. The whole idea of is brutish. As we wrote in the flyer, togetherness told me in 1972, him, Cunan, Levitansky, and Stillman, three out of the four reads, they had one car in the driveway, 741 Gayley Avenue, Westwood, Kabat House, the first Kabad House on campus. So I asked Schllayma Schllayma, "How did you guys manage? You needed Everyone needs a a car to go here, there." So he said, "I'll tell you." The car was in the basement in the garage. In the garage, the keys never left the ignition. When you didn't need it, he started the ignition. When my dad's going TO NEED IT, HE started the ignition. Right? When I need it, Schwarz says, I started the ignition. And when Stilman needed, he started the ignition. It's not my car. It's our car. meaning Kabad's car the car's car there's so much gashm GASHM AND IS GASHM AND THERE SHOULD BE MORE but we have to use theika if you learn you really take it seriously and you think and you think Jacob, who does he love? He loves he hates Leia. You know, what does it say? Leia is we love to speak and we hate to think. Kabad's all about thinking. They what they would say ruland. How do you know right? You know how they called them formers in Rusand? I heard this from sweets consolmeck. [laughter] I must take it overmeck BECAUSE THESE GUYS WERE SMELL THEY WERE smelling who is a leader in the schul in Muska and in Lenigrad with a baron pis. IF SALONSKY WAS THIS CLOSE to being another victim like Ros and Raskin in 1938 he would have never came back. There was a yen shul DRESSED WITH A LYING kaputer >> and he was neb for and was about to speak to them and his friends said shut your mouth they're there to smell who is aid and to rat on them to the KGB. So the idea of the idea of togetherness to break the kipa to be to use gashmi is the right way and mind you mind you for for the sake of the record the alterba wanted >> gazar to win not Napoleon His contemporaries wanted Napoleon. Why? Emancipation, freedom, gashmas. It was the alter who said no. So you ask yourself a question. What do you mean wanted? We should live in dire poverty. But saw that if it's only it's going to lure you away and there'll be a breakdown. So help us first of all everyone here all of us together say for all the needs and everyone else etc. And those that need better shower them with a soft and see the shakas from children, grandchildren. Today I spoke Rabb invited me to the seminary. So the first house I spoke a little about the alter. Then I saw some of the girls walking out. So I had to MAKE A HAD TO MAKE A QUICK LEFT, you know. I started speak about they all were there and just listening and thinking. I told him about I'm going to say it now even though maybe if not forb but I'll leave it up to the I'm not going to say who with a vice and a real he goes over to his grandson who's a friend of some of us here and he says so and so it's time for you to marry You're looking for a shiddok. I want you to find, and I I'll say it nicely, a pretty woman. And the grandson looks at Zan. He says, "Za virt." Okay. What [laughter] do you know about pretty women? I thought you know how to raise check eggs and and and and salad and and famicis and the za said you're right my dear grandson I don't know about pretty women you know what I know I know you know you and I know a sleek dating cup >> and you need a pretty woman >> everyone has to know themselves You know, YOU HAVE TO KNOW YOURSELF. DON'T FOOL yourself brother in Los Angeles and one of my was smoking. So, it's bad enough that you're smoking out of fab and in those days I guess it was accepted but he's making circles. You know how you make the circles with the smoke? And he's sitting there and making these circles and is fabing and he's a and PL HE CAN'T TAKE IT and he screams out you fool. said to him and he said, "The first thing I was taught after I came from Lakewood in 1944 was get rid of Killing the that niggan from Genel. I like that >> No. No. He the No. Who's here? Ask him. No. Sher. Oh, I can [singing] [singing and music] be >> [singing] >> Sing to salmon. [singing] Ready? may [singing] [music] [singing] get my bottom. Hey, you know, you want to sing this or whatever you want. So I grew up is the tale for that I heard from my father. My father was a col from 1950 to 58 before he came to and then he came to America. Before I forget, I must say hello to my two Denver and I don't know if they're here but and we recognize you and we love you. >> Anyway, listen to the story. So in those days in the yeshiva in those days many buffer were not from the father backgrounds like my father they came from vishnit background vision the vishnit was inra so the senate vishna I think was in Tel Aviv The Bel was between Tel Aviv and right and Berim who didn't come from the background of Labavich wanted to go to a tish. Now the fact is that [clears throat] worked very hard together with the other mashim to instill in the buff. So this was a constant everyone this was a constant discussion at the mile of kabat said he came from his father was not his father was a ken He was a great sad he was known as a sir said that someone came to the mash and the he didn't say it was whoever it was or whoever it and said, "I want to go to the I hear is a big I want to go." So the makia said, "I'll let you know in a few days." Now you know what that means, right? Basically, I don't want you to go. Comes back in another few days. Mashia will gain some tight pushes him off again. A third time he doesn't push him off anymore and he says go tennis game. But listen to this. He says it's a little sharp. Okay. So take it the right way. Don't don't lose your head. Okay. He says, "Mr. D, you're going to [clears throat] go to Kenov and you'll see that and it's notic. Of course, it's no, you'll see that for yourself." Then he says, "You look a little Oh, I'm sorry for tell you. It was a bris." He was the punch line. It was a bris he wanted to go to. I'm sorry. with the >> and the so he says you can go to the place of you know then you'll find out the breeze is a breeze and then you find out that maybe he wasn't even a in English it doesn't I would have to say it in this. But here's the point. We walk around with fantasies. We convince ourselves this is the that's if you're not on the safer that he allowed to publish. He chose the name. He didn't write the savior. He had a great writer and he looked over it and he approved it. But he didn't write every line, every word. But the name he chose, what's the name? We have a Merced. We have a der. >> You find out and it's not a z. In other words, you got it all wrong. You have it all wrong. the young people here, the buff, the future of our people, the misters that David and Abdram brought me to today to look at the future the future that's very important that's the need to share with them our mira when invited me I said I want a fab I want to Russians to talk about the messiah of labich. Rabbi greenlass was a ye that lived with a mess. Rabbi greenlass came from Alexander Cid. My za came from Alexander Sid on your mother's side. He was a aristocratic boy. He played a fetal. He wore a great kapata. Right? He came from a home. He was no slouch. There was no he makes a trans transition his life. He changes completely. Comes opens up a whole world, a new world. The messiah we need to find out what is our messiah. We need to live with that mess. What is our mess? That's our and when we go with the you can't go wrong. You won't go wrong. If not today, tomorrow, it's going to come back in a positive way. There's no question about it. I've seen it. You've seen it over and over. BUT YOU GOT to stick to the tradition. Years ago, they came out with Labage Light. many years ago >> and I said kebab like sorry thank you for the correction I said what is it light may mayonnaise you got regular mayonnaise and light mayonnaise there's one kebab you do a little more do a little less than ever told me when I came to Marin County in 1984 and I saw a flyer that my father Barry Shyman Shyman to Chicago put out his face on a flyer And on top it said I am not reformed. I am not conservative. I am not orthodox. I am kabadat. [clears throat] And then in smaller words this is at the philosophy of kabad abil etc etc. Right? And I saw this I said this is a great way to introduce myself to the 19,000 Jews of Marin County. Most of course hardly any from Jews. Great introduction. I printed up 500 beautiful post cards. I was going to do a mass mailing, but I have a boss. He's called. So I sent it into him as a d. A few hours went by. My young client calls me. Did you send in a flyer to the reb? I said yes. He said wrote 10 lines of an answer to your flyer. I said what? And the kisser that ever wrote to me what you're writing can be old and therefore don't say that. Number two, [snorts] by saying I am not reformed, I am not conservative, I'm not orthodox, you're giving in and saying there are three categories reform or you're not it exists. That itself is already fil division. And the Reb said if you need to talk, if you need to speak about this, do it in talking. Don't write it this way. I took the 5,000 cards. I had a a garbage can. They went right into the garbage. The thro sensitivity the reb shows us one ye there's only one there's no light and colors. We always had some people that were more acidic, less hassidic, etc., etc. But don't formalize kabat into the real kabatics and the lightaded lightweight kabatics. The never ever spoke that way. Never ever thought of that such a thing. What's the story that they just publicized the co uh or one of the member of gem right the says I'm dirty I'm remember gdens the person who brought to the dollars during the week when the gave dollars remember who it was >> Sydney heft shalom heft the youngest brother of the hefts you know how he came in I saw this every he came in with A SWEATER WITH A GARLAND on a sweater and he ran in and he gave the deba crispy new dollars. He had a connection with the bank over there on on colony Island Avenue. Kon come now should you come without a hat and jacket and kaput going to the net? Of course not. >> [snorts] >> But don't let that in the of the connection to the TO THE TOABAD is the same for all of us. And I promise you when our youth will hear this message and see it, they'll come out solid. You know, Hashem benched me with one boy and six girls and at my table we spoke about everything and we dialogued and guess what? We disagreed sometimes strong disagreements but every one of them is true is connected to does everyone have my ideas? ABSOLUTELY NOT. I DON'T WANT them to say the a person has is not up to the parents the manifestation and development of the nish that is that's why etc. But the nish itself Hashem gives a person We have to give hata and teach when you when you show your children and grandchildren and friends and colleagues that there's acceptance. Acceptance doesn't mean you go along for the ride and given to every narish kite. When my daughter came down to shabas in jeans she wants to go out. I SAID YOU'RE NOT GOING OUT. It's mala mon. You're going out. You don't want to wear shabas dress. Okay, we'll compromise. Jeans, months of shabas, >> so let's make a compromise. And it worked. You don't have to give into everything. What do you stand for? We're parents. I always told my kids, "I'm not your friend. I'm your father. I'm not your friend. I'm your father. I love you and I want to die a lot, but I'm a father. I'm not your friend. We we sometimes get very antsy and and and like what is she going to say? What is he going to say? What's the gender? What's going to be all THAT right on the stacking? Right? YOU'RE WALKING OUT WITH A STICK. This will pass. Stand up for your principles. >> YOU'RE not a time to to give up the Messiah. On the contrary, and the Reb teaches us tell you another story. The women over there are going on tin. First time I came back from the for which by the way huge fat night. Those of us that were there know this. Those that weren't hopefully can feel it, understand it. When the came into Maid, he couldn't hear a pin drop. HE TALK ABOUT wow it felt. And I see here and he greets me with a smile like he always did. Sticks out his hand and say shalom to me. And he and after that he becomes very serious and he says to me no but without the smile. No I want to I want to trap standing with 5,000 people in 770 huge fat waiting for the deba to come down and was looking right at me. There's no room to move. And he says, "No." I say to what's what's going what did I do? He says, "No, right button over left." I had my left button over my right. Now, I want you to understand the story because I don't believe many of you understand the story because you didn't know him. Rabio on one hand wasn't someone who like you know he made a big issue of frunkite he never spoke about frunk kite to us in the fabians but he himself was a very frant I'll give you another example I'll go back to this when he came to sheer in ocean parkway love it maybe you remember this he would give a tany Thursday nights We were younger Bakim and the older Bakim were the big the big green and all those were older Bakarim who understood well and he gave deep sh him two hours sh him in Tanya when he would come in in the winter like now he would wear a sweater under his his jacket never his last day did not put on a kapa during the week you know that right >> so he took off his left and then he took off his left sweater and then he did his right etc. like it says and we were cracking up Khan is thinking about left and right like I thought he's supposed to be in the in the in the heavens with aims and his feet and his father was a the here. Abni here from Nosi Abdanki winner who was a son-in-law told me that said means the Y is given. If you think Y was something he was fashion very nice. We talk about and had it anyway. So tells me right over left. So that's why I NEVER THOUGHT THAT KHAN IS WORRIED ABOUT my buttons on my jacket. HE HAS NOTHING BETTER TO THINK ABOUT THAN MY BUTTONS. I THINK SUCH A THING would be posing glass. It was a makum right over left is the left over right is groo over right and stuff like that right the by the way spoke about once and we could do that if you want but it seems like David wants to sing a dal above us he has a seder so we have to concede to the wishes of the host and then maybe continue but in the is point is that'sd it's a it's a special time we need to have real more and more not speeches UNFORTUNATELY HAVE BECOME SPEECHES NO speeches no speeches no speeches speeches etc. Help us and it's going to be now and we will be part of it. How are you? >> So much for coming. [clears throat] Very nice. >> So when you say tomorrow morning, >> we're going to do the nigging of the dollar. It's only appropriate for the sid say that when you sing the ning of the talents first of all why you're not allowed to sing it at any time you want only in specific occasions and when you sing the brothers so whenever anybody needs I want to give a And if I could ask all the and to give him and whoever needs aid should get aid. Whoever needs children in the right way should be children of the right way. Whoever has problems with should have a problem with and should be the form of >> Amen. >> [music] [music] >> Hallelujah. Yeah. [music and singing] >> [music] [singing] >> I [music and singing] yeah. [music] [singing] [music] [singing] Yeah. Yeah. [music] [singing] Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. [music] Yeah. Yeah. [singing] Yeah. Yeah. [singing and music] Yeah. >> [singing] [music] >> Yeah. [singing] Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. [singing] Yeah. 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