19 Kislev Farbi 2021 #1-Hollywood Fl - Health ways of becoming pleasant person - It's time to let go

but before that rabbit korff gave his uh monologue introduction so i'm entitled to one too titled the whole thing rabbit cough and i go back when we were boys bakarim really teenagers i believe in camp ganya's role i think in the 70s i think that's the first i think i'm not sure but sometime the 70s he went to a one la babachi yeshiva shiva i went to another one but we met way way back as you said our parents were very good close friends of fact i don't know if he knows but his parents made a shovel for my parents and his his parents were one of the last or maybe the last to get the rabbit to the rebel married them he officiated his parents i think were officially no no was an exception but the official last one i think with your parents how do i know because my father always told me that he my father's parents were nervous israel my father's from romania and he was by himself in 770 and he asked the i'm by myself i have no one uh please do that please officiate and the rebels said i'd love to but we made a policy and if i change for you i can't change for anyone else it's not fair for anyone else and the rebels said but you know what when you're under the khuppa let rabbi khadak of knows the rebel secretary who should notify me and i will think about you under the hooper there ever said that to my father in yehides and if you if you've learned to will learn hopefully after i bring in hasidic thought more hasidic thought of the balatanya and other rabbi you know that maksha the thought is deep is deeper than speech in action i don't want to right now explain that and elaborate because we want to get to your test kislev so anyway hashem and i was here many years ago now i don't think in this house maybe it's we've been redone but i was in in a property with a rabbit corp about 15 20 years ago and also you know when i was in your in a house in miami i don't know if it was your parents home your mother show them um told to i was a guest speaker and she shared things that the rebbe had spoken to her i think about college the talk that night was about college whether it's appropriate for khabar people to go to college or not and that was the discussion and and and she said some very interesting things that she heard from the reb himself anyway that's the introduction tonight's yucas kislif why are we happy i'll tell you why we're happy we're happy because the altar ever said listen to what he said whoever will rejoice on my day which is today and tomorrow it's your test and huff to go together whoever will be happy and rejoice because of the simcha that i experienced when i was liberated from jail and we'll talk a little bit about that later what that means i will help them get out exit from anxiety stress and narrow problems narrowness and i will not only help them leave that state of being i will actually bring them to a place of expansion in hebrew el hamerhav that's the words of the altar now anyone that thinks about that if you don't become happy when you hear that i don't know what to say if someone tells you tonight tomorrow today you have an opportunity to become to be stress-free even if it's just for 24 hours lose some of that anxiety and be put in a place of expansion hard like a rich man feel like a a big shot you know in a good way not in a bad way feel you know what i'm saying feel great about yourself feel liberated you would be very very happy then the altera added another clause and he said i will also take you out minha geshen el har from the material to the spiritual you know we live in a world today we're all looking for ways to become more spiritual and the truth is that's what the tata is all about the holy tata is about being more more spiritual how do you become more spiritual when you have to think about paying bills paying tuition and and and and children and and and grandchildren and family and friends and community how do you become min says the alternative i have an answer for you just celebrate my day and i the big subject the balatanya i will help you leave the state of geshem material matter material gashness to rochester now that's a cause for celebration years ago it was a period i was traveling very often territory i remember standing uh i think it was israel which is in the ula area of jerusalem at a bus stop waiting for a bus and it dawned on me um i'm standing in yerushalayim and i literally picked my feet up and started to sing and dance i mean not not crazy but i became elated i became pasha freya a yid has an opportunity to stand on the stones in jerusalem that itself is cause for happiness you're sitting here in a base khabad in a shul with a shliyar with a rav with the rep is an institution that itself when you come in from your homes into this facility you should become happy happy europe and the altar the altered us like this that happiness is not an option you hear that happiness is a must where did he tell us this if i asked you where does the altar ebba teach us that happiness is a must and not an option what would you say i'm asking you what is your name do you have any idea exactly where in tanya what uh one not nine chapters before 26 through ramadan those nine chapters are all about one theme how to be happy but in order to be happy the anxieties and worries and concerns both spiritual and material need to dissipate so the alternate spends nine chapters which i call the psychology chapters of tanya if you're allowed to associate you know psychology with tanya but the emotional the characteristic is in those chapters and the objective of those chapters is the mita and this is another important point if you study the tanya and if you haven't yet studied the tanya it behooves you to open up that book and study with the rabbi with the chavru with hayenu online today you know it's it's really mashiach's time everything is open you know so many languages you talk about my books they're translating several books of mine into russian now i mean the world is an open world people want to know years ago they translated a book into portuguese who's they're eden all over that want to know about hasidis they want to know about hasidis so the alternative in those nine chapters says happiness is a must but the question is how do i get the happiness i have an anxiety i have a worry i have stress oh for that in addition to learning those nine chapters you need to make fabregas and that's what we're doing now this innovation of a fabregan is what i call hasidic group therapy if done right and the clock is not an issue and the legayum becomes an important element and then the good and become even more important and the togetherness that we create the energy you will have what's called an english a cathartic experience everyone knows the word cathartic means you'll feel free you'll feel released and when you feel released when you feel free you feel gavaltic there's a word in you there's in english unbelievable you'll be reborn in a yiddish way of course you'll be reborn and fresh and the two ladies there that are jogging together in the morning going for a walk and one thirst the others says hey i don't recognize you what do you mean i just walked with you yesterday i called you today i don't recognize you what happened you learned you learned some of those nine chapters in tanya or you started the night before and you got into it so the rule all of this leads to the following there are three rules for successful fabrian you ready remember the three rules one is you must be a participant not a spectator this is not a spectator sport this is participation like we were singing before the beautiful niggin and we were singing levitic and if we sing more of a meditative song even if you don't know it you come along you try to get into the moment that's participation number two you need to say lechayan now if for some reason you can't say a little alcohol you take some soda you take some water but the concept of legayam is an important ingredient not to abuse the alcohol okay but again the idea is they will hasid them years ago but we heard this in yeshiva many times in russia many times they didn't have any vodka even though it was the drink of the call it was the coca-cola of russia was like you know vodka right those russians know how to good they can take a good drink but if you didn't have any and if i bring in or you if you haven't you ran out what did you do so i heard from sydney they would sit and fa brain with an empty bottle but the bottle had to be on the table the symbolism of the hasidis was part of it was allah again and i emphasize okay not to abuse the alcohol because then it's not holy anymore it's basically a feast for your what your yeshua's your ugly party it's a horror whatever name you want to use anyway number that's number two right participation the chain and i'm not saying there's really any order but just three different elements and the third thing is you gotta sing you need to sing together a good fabrengan requires nagunam and and and really trying to master the goodness because he heard me sing he says i didn't know you you could sing so nicely well i made a a recording with 39 a good name it's called learn understand and sing where i actually sing 39 nagunam and explain to you the history of the negan as much as i was able to find out and what the negan should evoke in you when you sing the based on what i heard from my teachers and others and if you have those three things then the fabregan is gevaldic and that's the way hasidah used the fabric sat together his grandparents and people like that and when they sat together yeah sure they didn't have much to eat and didn't have extravagant lifestyles and they were focused on one thing on hashem on god but the the the togetherness tell your story it's a real knockout story but you got to pay attention and khabab you say mid cup cup means head with your head okay so here's the story there is a town called slanim there are hasidum called but the town of sloanim mostly were not considered you should know mostly were in fact lit fox happens to be that islam and islam yeshiva moved there anyway one day the mayor of sloanim has a guest who is i'm sorry the rabbi of the city of the lichfish's shule the main shul the large has a guest the mayor he's coming to inspect because you know they need funds okay show me what you got so he's coming fine as they're walking around and here's the shul and here's the school and here's this and here's that and he's very impressed he hears oh [Music] and he turns around to the rabbit he says rabbi rav rabbi so-and-so one of those weird noises so the rabbi turns to the mayor and he says look up there all the way on top of a mountain he's he sees a a house and he says yeah that's a house whose house is that he's i'll tell you who's house that house is what we call the damsker steeple a female is a adama where on earth do you find the female stable hey we want a female people around here no let me explain to you what's going on the rabbi says that little house is the smallest house and steeple of jewish worshipers in this city of sloanin and you know who david's there whose stable it is a group of jews called lubavitcher khasidam and they enjoy a good drink and a good for bringing and a good party and when they get all worked up they start making noise with sinking and dancing and that's why it sounds to you how he what an insult to belittle eden anyway the word got back to the laboratories in that little steeple that the lichfisher wrote in town disgraced them belittled them and call them adam skisteeble implying they're you know then please forgive me i don't mean women are weak but the concept you know they're they're women they're female big deal you know when they heard that listen to what they said and this is a retort that you need to train yourself to think when someone gives you a jab and send something bad and negative to you how do you respond one response is you wipe the floor with them the other response is you try to get back at them and then there's the following response so the laboratories of the damskirs people said oh one more thing before and and and the and the rabbi the rov said to the mayor they're michigan you know i'm a suganer they're nuts figuratively but he called him a shikayan for bringing screaming and dancing going to a regular normal orthodox show proper kids run around out you go noise and i don't mean to imply that you know that you should be a chaotic uh oasis you know no but nevertheless a show is a show children are part of a shoe and if someone says something or makes a noise or sings in the game anyway so the the rabbi calls the babies masha gayam so when did the babaji see them heard what they said about the laboratory about their their shoe this is what they said you know what did i say tell me somebody raise your hand okay well let me tell you in english what it means crazy we are but together we are united we are misha means us we are michigan you're right we're nuts but we're all togetherness this vart that moisture reuben all over someone that we knew hasid from sloanin was one of the shanghai bokoram students who survived and came to america and then to montreal he told over the story whether he was there i don't know but this was a tradition in slovenia it's such a powerful idea you know it's so it's so popular and so in to be proper and to be the mocker and if you find someone or somewhere where people are kind of unconventional you're going to have people saying you're meshuggah you're nuts you guys are like what what are you doing mr gleam signing me obviously as philadelphia the city of love lubavitch means a city of love we're together and on that note i'll teach you a [Music] so this i heard from my father when he came into yeshiva and rabbit horse father and his friends it's a springer yeah thank you we're all sitting thursday night my father got off the boat he comes to 770 and they're singing this listen to the then i'll explain we have anyone here from ukraine or russia billiards [Applause] [Laughter] [Applause] [Laughter] i love i really love my work krepkos very much what work are we talking about i once was at a lecture in los angeles and the speaker correct pretty much and the speaker said there was a room they had this thing at this at the sephardic temple on wilshire boulevard in los angeles classes for the masses monday nights where they had guest speakers and they had refreshments you paid five ten bucks whatever and and you came and you had a and you you know people then socialized and mostly were singles boys and girls but everything was you know was respectful and the temp and the place was beautiful at that time they had the famous personality speaker dennis prager so he asked i think there were a thousand young people in the room and he asked them how many you can raise your hand and say i love my job so some hands went up and he said and how many you can say i love my job and i get paid for it as well [Laughter] less hands went up i really love my job what job is referring to our occupation no it's referring to our job in serving hashem now i want to show you how a i want you to hear carefully how these four words and this hasidic tomb embodies an entire conversation so listen okay don't sing along with me now but listen the first part of this is a question listen to my voice that's a question which means do i really love my job when there's a murder in jerusalem of a jewish boy or a jewish girl rahman islam you ask yourself a question god what are you doing do i really love you something is wrong i don't get it lou and then the second time lu again the question gets a little deeper you know the goes one step and then goes further deeper in lubilia [Applause] it's a question not a statement do i really love my job then goes the first set of eye to tdis [Music] what does that mean sometimes i love my job and sometimes i hate my job [Music] and then the second eye to the eye is deeper up and deep listen hey i did [Music] one two and three i really love my job but wait a minute how come how do i come to that conclusion because when you analyze the situation with your seiko with your mind you have a question and a good question and it's a valid question but when you start talking from the inside in the shama there are no questions the neshama is in love with hashem that's the answer so this little niggin that khasiddhim heard over there when the the the czar fell and and then they they took over and they were each group had guerilla warfare and they went into after they did they they purged and they killed and they robbed and killed they went into the tavern at night and they should and they got drunk and intoxicated and they went out saying lupa luba luba that's the origin of the way hasidim told the story the way my father told me that he heard it from i think it's springer for me and his father and those his friends they were a little older than him and they heard of moldova what's the message the message is that if you operate with soul with neshama there's no question you're gonna love your job what does me love your job you're gonna love being god's person you're gonna love serving hashem you're gonna love davening and learning and doing mitzvahs and helping others if you start calculating making we call making bonus you know prove this and prove that argue this way and argue that way and he is this and she is that you end up very sour very upset and you know we're the same age pretty much some of you are a little younger maybe a little older but probably younger you get to a point in your life where you realize oh all this all the stuff all this argument and all this stuff enough and i see it i could tell you personally i see it in my life you know my younger years i gave you a good argument i remember going to what we call mercury to irvine california with a friend of mine in 1982 or 83. when you come into this house and they had about seven cats and i ain't a fan of cats and dogs okay i grew up i grew up in brooklyn you know in an orthodox family in a orthodox family so anyway and the person starts dialoguing with us about the existence of god and when you are a yeshiva student in in khabad yeshiva and you're into it this is this is great you got someone that wants to dialogue with you to prove the existence of god the bala the second part of the tanya the second section is called shara yikade one of the gates of unity and faith that's what he talks about there proving the existence of god he does it in a different way than the rambam but it's really about faith unity of god and here we have two we were at 22 21 22 whatever and and we're right [Music] and the cats are all over us i remember i said i had to force myself not to walk out you know so i was into arguing and debating okay that was when you're 21 22-23 10 years past 20 years pass you realize enough of the arguments sing a good say good luck i am give someone a hug walk up to someone who you had a fight with yesterday and tell him i really like you i really love you i really care about you i just happen to shul now okay for sure right someone who you know said something not nice to me i countered with something so i walked up to him and i said it's your test i love you would you like to have my capacity was happening for the omelette and i broke the ice okay so my friends lubin i taught this to a group of khabar house people from potomac maryland outside of washington dc and they sang it for a year straight at every kidnish if you guys learn this and you sing it to rabbi korff on shabbat shabbashim so let's do it again together and a little quicker and uh we'll learn the negan okay if you don't get the words come along [Applause] a hey [Applause] [Music] my is following story happened also at the altar that ever however repeated the story in 1983 out of haberingen you know it's very hard to paint a picture of a fabrega by the river but rabbit corp and i we had disgust the merit of spending many many shabbosas months weeks months years hours with the rabbit fabregas and i could tell you and i'm sure he would say the same thing that when you would deliver arafa brengan in 770 you felt that you were in gun aid you were in paradise you mentioned my father before so i'll tell you what i remember as a boy we lived in borough park nanakron heights it's a section like 15 minutes from crown heights i still live in borough park that's the hub you know delta has its hub american airline has its own kassidic judaism and america has its hub in borough park its hub is crown heights so i live with the balor and the bell because see them and a hundred different hasidic groups and i've written about it in some of my works and we that this requires a brain in itself to explain the nuances and why and how and where but not for tonight so anyway the the um when the rebel would fabric on a yamcha at the end of junctive right what they call in the world an illusion what we call you know if i bring it at the end of yamtiv in other words you don't just walk out of a yum tiff you leave a yomtiv with a fabregan with torah with nigun and by the way this is important whether you're in shul here whether you're not the women the men the men you have to have the feeling how can i just take off my yump of clothing and just go into the world you know what do they say you got the shabbos blues you got the jumped of blues gotta go back to work tomorrow i gotta deal with the phone with the internet with the calls with the whatever with the social media but hashem we have shabbos i'm talking to myself i'll be the first one to tell you this is an addiction this phone if anyone says otherwise either they're a very very holy person or they're not normal but the average okay oh they're kidding themselves they're not as if we say they're fooling themselves kidding themselves right the shabbos comes when yamcha comes it's an automatic we don't have to struggle with not taking a phone you don't smoke on shabbos you don't take your phone on shabbos anyway when the rebel would fabric at the end of yamtiv he would start at sunset so let's say pesach pesach ends you know 8 30 nine whatever so the rebel will start for bringing eight eight thirty like minutes before sunset and you know how long he would bring foreign and the days that we participate in the seventies and and early eighties four hours five hours and in the earlier on the sixties six hours so if he starts at eight he finishes two and then he would distribute what's called kaiser bracha wine from his cup a cup of blessing after making abdullah and that would take another two three hours okay did he come late to dominate the next morning not at all he came on time right on time to the minute anyway anyway that was good so my father my father is not a rabbi he's a you know he's a froome jew an orthodox jew but he's a working jew he's a businessman textile right he used to be so he would tell me i said my father's father do me a favor my brothers and i we were yeshiva we were at the fabregan we don't have a ride and you're going back in the 70s you know things were very rough out there okay neighborhoods it was it was really a bad situation he was scared to even go the taxi who's the driver it was very very tenuous so i i asked you could you come pick us up you know and he said he would say i want to come to the vibranium because he didn't walk in we stayed over we walked in he said i'll i'll i'll come but i can't stay till two three in the morning i gotta get up six my father was up already six davening and getting into excuse going to work at seven so my mother a blessed memory and i say this taka for an excuse of hurting summer my mother knew rabbit corpse mother as well my mother this this this pose my mother is a survivor she was from poland they escaped early on so she didn't end up in a concentration camp but she mama came from outside poland which i visited in 2018 and phenomenal i found her i found her birth record because we never really knew her birthday and i found it they took out a book that was brown in front of my eyes in an office in a city called makov it's 20 miles out of warsaw and i saw the book it was from before the holocaust the same book hand written and relocated my mother's birth in that book and i have a copy on my phone of it and then i got a record for my grandmother's marriage in 1935 in a village 20 minutes from my club called krasnodar shields and i went there and i drove those roads i had a driver and there's a lot it was once in a lifetime but i do hope with the cove it ends to get back and the airlines open up because and so also in russia i went to rabbi lazar a wedding of one of his children with my friend robert wolanski and i got to moscow and there's tremendous amount of things that i still need to discover and explore there from the cemeteries when you go into a cemetery of these places you can spend no people rabbis hasidim even non-religious people i mean you've heard of the the the language esperanto anyone know what i'm talking about no one what is that it's it's it's a language that he made up to try to make an international language a yiddish a man wasn't religious so someone pointed out to me as i'm walking in the cemetery of warsaw 250 000 people are buried there and the nazis used it as a cross between what they called the aryan area when they put up the ghetto walls and the jewish area and they crossed through this big cemetery and i was there so this this fellow i forget his name now who made the language he's buried there too so it's not just orthodox people as it has everyone so when you go to one of these cemeteries whether it be in russia whether it be in in poland i'm sure the same for germany other places in hungary it's it's a real if you're into history it's tremendous anyway anyway i had a we had we had a friend probably he knew too his name rubbish lemur schwartz we used to call them schwartz is nato members already schwarze would say i don't do funerals i only do marriages and this schwarzenegger knew thousands of people eliot gould all the hollywood actors and stars who were jewish for sure and even non-jews they loved him they left the schwarze and you know his thing was keeping jews married to jews and when they came to him sometimes to say i have a funeral a parent a relative he would say you got the wrong guy i don't do funerals i only do simchas i don't do marriages so i'm talking about a cemetery we shouldn't have to go to a cemetery but anyway getting back to the point of the alternative that's the story i want to tell you story with the altar oh no the free photo story the rebbe the red bat this fabringian which ended two in the morning so one time my father i remember took us back from crown heights to borrow park after the fabregan now you know the bakery start baking right after yumtif and it's even brought down a swarm that if you're able to eat some hummus it's it's appropriate it's fine yeah there's such an idea yeah so what do we do on the way from crown heights to borough park we got it to borrow it's a famous a bakery called corn corn's bakery and it's not just a bakery it's it's an entire production on 15th avenue between 43rd and 44th street for the record anyway so we're driving by and we smelled the the we smelled the bread my father says let's go in and get a piece of bread but in that car ride i remember like yesterday my father said says to me my father speaks you know yiddish i didn't want a wife i didn't want children i didn't want money i didn't want anything just to hang out in garnet that's what the rebbe created with the hasidim at any and every single vibranium so when you see it on a video and you know it's hard but this is what you have to think of that energy that was created in that room it just it shook you to the core of your being in a healthy positive way the altered is standing at his window he sees people running towards him the rapper said this in 1980 theater for brandon and the alternator says oh no what do they want from me again was villains they for me what do they want from me he turns around and his rabbits in her name was stern with a sin not sterner sterner rabbits and sterne the altareby's wife hears her husband saying was villains they for me right so she's a smart lady a smart wife what do you think she answered come on whitman what would you say if your husbands made a comment when a group of heaven a group of guys are running towards them because they know what they got here they got a real special person and they want to hear from him and they want to bug him and they want to nudge him and they want to talk to him and they want to have rain with him and he's been doing that he's tired so you know what she says to him she says because he was about to close the door and not let them in so she says to him they couldn't it's a dear they're not coming to you wait a minute i just looked out the window and i see them coming to me they ain't coming to you who are they coming but listen to her brilliance they're not coming to you for you they're coming to you to hear what you heard from your teachers when the altar ever heard this answer that his wife rabbits and stannah told him that they're coming to him to hear what he heard from his teachers listen to what he said velez i will say i will say and i will say i will teach and i will teach and i won't stop teaching and talking why because it's not me i'm a funnel i'm communicating what i heard from the market of miss rich who's by the way whose yard side was today you test kisliff this story is is a eye-opener you know we look at ourselves each and every one of us here everyone has a message there's something that i i i've been thinking about for 20 30 years and that is there's no one that is indispensable no one and you know and and you know why that is why is that because if god almighty created you and i don't care how he created you that means he wants you here he needs you so how can you say you're into spending you're dispensable impossible there was a girl in bassrivka in one of my daughter's classes in crown heights who was born without feet and she was a star student and she used to crawl the base rift has 2 000 students in that building and this girl crawled on her stomach and she became a star student without feet because no one is in this indispensable hashem needs everybody and if you believe that and you live with it you can reach the heights of all heights regardless of a disability regardless of not getting a chance to learn in yeshiva or a girls school regardless of a situation at home there's no excuse hasidis teaches this if you learn hasidis and you really learn you will find out shortly and very quickly that you have so much to give to the world because what you communicate is what you heard from the alta rebbe and rabbi korf and your teachers and the rebbe and other tadhikim and other rabbis and that's what you share so what do you mean you're dispensable you're not that's the message one message that i take from this govardhan because it's not about me anymore if it's about me we can close up shop really tell you another story so my friends and i group of 10 of us were sent by the rebber from the yeshiva morris town to los angeles as older students for the yeshiva there on fridays we did what's called mifsoyin outreach and we had roots there's a big street in los angeles called wilshire boulevard and my route was on wiltshire and crescent heights that's where it was on that tall buildings one of them the israeli consulate was one of the buildings across the street was another office building a smaller building and i would go there and ask people to put on two in and give them paraphernalia and and and talk to them you know what lubavitcher bahram and girls do each in their own way and all right anyway i come into someone and normally he would if he was there he would put phil on with me he was a lawyer but he but the door remained open he wasn't embarrassed from his secretaries who weren't jewish and he put phil on one time i come in to him and he says rabbi called me rabbi i wasn't a rabbi then yet anyway he says do me a favor close the door okay he tells me to close the door and we and he says let's put film now and i put on film with him then he says rabbi please sit down i say okay he says rabbi he takes his hand and he shows me you see and he had these rings and diamonds it was a wealthy man and he says rabbi i have a yacht i have a home in hawaii and guess what i'm the chauffeur blower at my conservative synagogue and i have a big chauffeur not just a little show for a big one i have it all and guess what in my career i'm a criminal lawyer i'm 19 out of 19. i never lost the case pretty good right and then he says it's all worth nothing and i'm like you know i'm sitting there speechless i'm just listening you gotta listen gotta be a good listener and i'm listening and he says you know why it's nothing because my daughter steals my silver spoons to pawn it off for drugs and i can't trust her in the house i am shattered i am broken i am destroyed with all of my rings and all of my yachts and all of my hawaii houses and the chauffeur blower and the conservative shoe it's not us it's gurnish it's nothing what's life about when you learn to see this when you learn to see this and you really learn to see this not just read words which i call couch potato reading and you need to do some couch potato reading sometime when you're tired but when you really sit down to learn and you study and you analyze and you question you come to a point where a as brother corp said earlier you stop kidding yourself fooling yourself you know who you are you know your situation and then you also know that you're indispensable and that regardless of all the issues and the isms and the problems that you have you say to yourself i'm alive i'm breathing i'm walking i have an opportunity for a new day you see and that is something that we must inculcate in our system in our psyche in psychology they talk about a paradigm shift that's the paradigm shift that you need to work on where you're no longer a loser the defense mechanism is not where it's at you have to put understand that you are a winner and that you have so much to contribute to society and to yiddish kite and the front kite and to kasideskai and if you say yourself but who am i so i have another story for you but for this we gotta say look aya and a hey [Applause] i hey right here uh [Laughter] [Applause] i am hey [Applause] a hey [Applause] hey [Applause] a [Music] foreign so i want to say take it yeshua right again this is a story an anecdote but it's a life lesson [Music] and i heard this from my great uncle that mental foot of us my wife is this uncle yeah is it is a branski and they were my wife's brother her grandmother bracha was a mendel's sister there were four two boys and two girls mandolin handel and brother yeah so that mendel spent quite a bit of time with him and when he spent time with him he was not someone that minced words he said it the way it is especially to hasidim to young khasid he would he would really share with us things that were educational and it bordered on sometimes musser he told you off and you just sat there and listened and listened and the story to that which isn't the story i'm going to tell you in a moment is the holy ghair reverend was a young boy and he had a have russia had a study partner and they would be up every thursday night learning because that's a tradition yes and they're learning they're young the young teenagers and normally you need to get up in the morning like the rabbi said before bright and early to say krishman time etc etc and the clock was ticky and the boys weren't up yet the father comes in and he gets very upset and he says why aren't you up what's going on here what are you goofing off so the rims his his partner was sleeping on the next bed he turns to his friend that he says why don't you tell your father what we were doing last night we weren't playing cards we weren't at a bar and we weren't in south beach how do you know what's up i know everything so so what's it called so it says then if you tell your father the reason you were up because we were learning very late so we overslept a half an hour big deal right yeah so listen to his answer he said i could give my it was i'm sorry his grandfather i could i can give my zay that i can give my grandfather the excuse that you just said but you don't understand something when isaiah chastises me when isaiah says muslim to me and he scolds me i want more and more and more because what i hear is honey words of honey not today huh to me when my grandfather speaks to me and gives it to me over the head and says come on shape up even if i have a legitimate good excuse and i can get out of it i don't want to say that because i'll say i'm sorry for criticizing you oh yeah i made a mistake i didn't say anything please forgive me end the conversation but this way he keeps on giving it to me and i say ah my grandfather's talking to me my savior how we would love to see our zaydis their reading gonadan your grandfather your grandmother your puppy your zadie that mental foot of us was this type of position when he spoke to me and i was already a married man in marin county on schlitz in california in 1988 and he calls me and he says i'd like to come sleep over at your house with rabbi raichik rabbit reichik would normally go with red mendel to raise funds for his yeshiva for yeshiva caslin and they would come for one day because in the bay area they didn't have many customers so you would come in the morning from los angeles on a flight and then even you go back is that the famous youtube video in your house yes with them putting out phyllis yeah it's in my house so he says to me he wants to come i'm i'm overjoyed a mental foot of us right chick want to sleep in my house i'm a newly married man i had i think two little children a boy and a girl that means that it's the greatest the greatest honor to have such even in your house halloween we would have i would have more such juice wanna stay in my house but i say them fetter mendel uncle mendel do you mind telling me why all of a sudden do you want to come to my house fernando is a very sharp shrewd man clue you say clue so that mendel says i have a sister lost his din vibes bubba which is your wife's grandmother brother professor she says and she loses me to come to australia they lived in australia and melbourne it's been an outdate i'm an old man he was in his eighties already gail public money i don't have i'm old and tired and i don't have the funds for that he says so you know what i decided i want to fulfill her request by sleeping over in her granddaughter's house one night that's a smart man so rabbit cough mentioned at that time was that time in the morning i was trying to ride kick myself in i didn't have a minion at the time later we had a meeting so we darvened all three together and you're asking questions let me give you since you mentioned i'll give you the history because it's it's one of a kind video one of a kind at that time i bought at sears a large that so they had these large cameras like you know for my family right i take out this and i put it down on the table and he's sitting over there shooting right at him looking right at him and he wasn't stupid you say how do i know how did that mental know about a video camera and he says in a stern face nemesivec take it away a sydney hated being these cameras these phones photos this was disgusting to consider him it was you're making a big deal about me i'm a nothing so he says to me and i open my mouth and i say uh-huh i ain't taking that away he couldn't believe but he you know he was tough without stuff but he couldn't believe that this little i don't want to say what it says this back to him so then he then finished he says to me why don't you want to take another why is it important to video me and i answered him and i said violet vil kinder in swansea i want my kids from in 20 years from today to see the shaheed so he retorts back and he says and i answered him back and i said the rabbi is the reber and it's a horse so yes we will see that they meet hashem but we need to see hasidim do you know when i produce you'll see that tape that video 20 years later out of the blue one day i'm living in brooklyn i'm living back in brooklyn i decided you know i have this tape and a mental foot of us let me benefit the people let me take it out and i made it into a seed a dvd and then i realized it was 20 years from 2008 and i took it i think in 1988. so it came out of my mouth and mama i'm not just telling you the way it is i said swansea orphanage i could have said senor 10 years dry secure 30 years i said 20 years and somehow hashem made it come out 20 years that's the state so the mendel was a very smart shoe and a jew you know you know the word street smart he was also learned very learning and not only a citizen by the way england the man was a he could learn he could learn gemara he was a it's tom mclaughlin but what he stood out as we see a snapfish if a yiddish you this guy was smart a pika very smart shrewd anyway so listen to this