#10 Comfort Zone is Negative - Who is a Jew? - Rabbi Chaim Dalfin

a good haters to everybody today maybe towards the end of this year we'll talk a few minutes about today's special day but now let's turn to our Tanya shear and we are at the end of chapter one and until now the altareba laid out for us a phenomenal Insight that isn't usually disgust or might known Even In classical Jewish literature from the greatest music academies and that is that the difference between an individual called a chadiq and an individual known as a banyani from the outside you can't tell they both look the same smell the same and even act the same and speak the same and in a sense almost think the same there's only one difference the difference is in the heart the urge and that he's going to discuss at length later is in chapters 12 13 14 15 Etc but actually it was chapter nine on but the what what he ruled out is that to say the difference between exotic and a banana knee is their their outer uh trimmings and and behavior contradicts many many times muted passages and and otherwise as he laid out Atlantic on the first page of chapter one so to understand this which of course is is its purpose and objective is to understand man to understand ourselves because remember to say for atanya was written for us why because people like us came and saw the altered over the years for 20 years and they wanted to know how to serve God better they wanted advice and avoid this Hashem and they were struggling and they came to him and they came to him by the way not on not just not only for those who were Chabad hasidim the outer rabbit was appointed by the medal of viteps in a bathroom of kalisk who's buried in Ferry of course right without the devil was appointed by them as the leaders for the entire area in in in in the area I'm sorry I'm choppy any any better now it's better now it's better nope okay you'll tell me later if it's choppy then tomorrow you won't get the background they'll have to move elsewhere I thought that over here because of the the Chabad houses strong internet that wouldn't have that issue I'm sorry so anyway the alternator was appointed as the as the leader for the entire region for everyone so in a sense the saferatonya is not just for habadniks those that identify with cheetahs but anyone in that area which was Northern related became known as Northern Russia and then ultimately Southern Russia everyone was included okay only later in the 1890s 1893 94 95 you could say that he the the Chabad the Chabad movement kind of um became its own movement outside of of other Hasidic movements in the area something like that so anyway yeah what I'm saying is that the altered was appointed the leader for Hasidic Judaism in that area in 17 in 1777 1783 and for 10 to 15 years he he was the leader of the entire area for everybody not just habotniks not just people who identified with the sheet of Chabad of for that matter the the Catalina and and many others now Carlene I don't want to get up on a tangent because I don't know if I should say Carlina because Karlene is in Lithuania and that's where the brunt of the the attack of them was in Lithuania it wasn't in the outlets area people don't know that and the Alton Abbas area was rather quiet it was in the Flaming carlina's area it spread ultimately to the other to what we call Northern Russia I think the pados capelosk area the region there were two gaboonias they were called gaboonias like but birthplaces one was called Maldives was in the northern side with and which which is not what doubt that ever was he was there at the end of his life from 1801 when he moved to liade liade isn't a Molly but Georgina is in the in the uh padosk I think Cambodia and over there wasn't see them had full Reign Over There there was no issue it must not them over there even at the height of the of the the the the the the grass excommunication etc etc but at a flame I wanted to move over because he was he couldn't take it anymore so he asked permission by the balatanya and this is a fact this is not a Alibaba just saying because this we have a letter and we have it today the letter and in the letter it says and you could read it too I believe it's printed in the letter it says that he's asking permission why because he was told that a mental of intense and about from college who were the Hasidic leaders of entire Russia before they left and even for 10 years after they left they wrote a letter and they said we are now appointing the snare Zalman to take over the leadership of Hasidic Judaism in Russia so therefore the Slimer who was a Carlina and Colleen is very different than the Chabad approach right as you know and we've discussed it over the years the screaming and the shaking the very the tremendous emotions the spirals outward emotionalism is very different so he wanted to move into the region that was technically governed by the altered and gout that ever said you could move here and and he wanted to start his hasidus so the outcome said I have no problem you moving here and doing that but there's three conditions and he agreed on the two conditions and the third condition he said I can't agree and he never ended up moving the third condition was the shita that you have I don't want you to teach that sheep to hear because this sheath in this country for whatever reason is a different than hasidus now that has to be understood what the outer level was Dr never wasn't big enough to have another shita there I mean this this is It's simplified and my but Khan would talk about this at many fabrangians all nights explaining what the outer ever meant what is the sheet of Chabad what's the sheet of General hasidis in this case Carlene as a representative of general khasidis and why doubt it ever felt it wouldn't work in this region and you and you want one more point I was telling someone in school here just yesterday it seems like if not for the the the the wild ways of the kalasca this is about from kalisk who later appointed the altareba in 1770 his hasidim understood from him that the way to serve Hashem is through belittling them to snag them and what they represent belittling Seiko Because by the lit by the lit facts they must not them everything was logic it must make sense so they would make somersaults in the street and they would go into a gross grocery store and ask if you sell a pound of nails they would belittle themselves belittling the you the mind in other words that Seiko is not where it's at and this became very very chaotic and Wild and and the year was tough cook flamat which is 1770 in the English if you take the letters tough conflament then you reverse it you get another Yiddish word talk t-o-l-k but in Hebrew by the stuff instead of the Year tough cool vomit you reverse the letters you get tough which is Coke it's a Yiddish word and it means there's no purpose so they still can't talk there's no purpose to what you're doing somersaulting in the streets and making it so stupid is not the way to to to to to deal with a problem but that's what they did and this caused the must not them to go all out against Sydney so I said to someone imagine if Republican in 1770 would have not done what they did you wouldn't have the first Kratom I think of 1773 that the Vilma going issued in other words from the outer that and and even later the the other hands that came along the in the 1780s and all that it was coming all as a result of what of them has not been perceiving all hasidim including the balatanya and I believe and the others as wild men wild beasts so if it is all caused by the city talk why because the alcohol's approach was a very very Hasidic approach we're together with rationale as you as you know Hebrew from learning Tanya from learning cities you you see that there's a lot of so therefore they must not them related to it and I'm telling you that this is true because a man that could ever celebrate you could have Yasha bear salivation for him I mean he comes from brisk and a prime of bludgeon and for him and his family to kind of embrace is is phenomenal what do I mean it's phenomenal and then and he says I always said I'm a snug it from the house of Legend and I will never forsake that right he was a brisker Tanya the middle of the scissors he himself said I learned the middle of not just the outer ever why because it fit the model of the brisker head so if that was the case it seems to me they would have never issued a hate him against the pelotonia so the balotanya ultimately is the one that that ends up in in in jail with with others but he became kind of the Paradigm of of the problem and with you this kiss live and All Because Of Who because they were from cows in 1770. yes hello everyone 1777. together I I think we're I think tomorrow we're going with rabbi shapira Shapiro's great grandpa yes yes go there and be misspelled so I have one question and one little anecdote to relate it to the somersaulting the question is in Netanya the um caroliners at one point was that a particular era that they were called okay I was waiting for that first of all it's not in the Tanya it's in the interrogation papers okay you won't find that in Tanya but in the interrogation papers which we have today and you could read because it's been translated from Russian it accuses the author reminisces the carliners the accusations against the balotanya and it says you the carliners dance and sing and all that and and again I think there's two there's two reasons for it the primary reason the way I the way I see it then maybe I'm wrong is because they were really the ones who were making the noise and they were a large group you know when you just walked down the street on 16th Avenue Borough Park you don't hear much from our school you don't hear much from other schools but from the stone that carlina's Jewels you can be a block or two away and you hear them clapping and singing and screaming so the Carlina the Carlina you know so what happened was that the grahim well they know the difference between this group and that group and this rabbit no they punch them all into one thing Carlene and number two like I said before Hillel because they were they were where was the where was the first Harem issued in vilna right I believe in vilna yeah and if not and if if it wasn't issue and Vilma was issue this glove but it was it was back by the Vilma going whose region was the the Catalina where it were in the in the Lithuania region so I assumed that that that the the accusation that that the the the the the snack them accused they they probably used the name Carlina you understand that's my point that's my point they didn't it's it's a mistake that was never accepted the cars ourselves never no never never no no never never [Music] and there's an interesting story that uh one time at a wedding uh the president said news that I forget the Yiddish word for it but because it's a new don't remember doing through the summer so and uh the uh so the Oakland had a a grandson of his who was offended that he spoke just respectively to the rabbit and we'll let him do the somersault thank you so much month months later months later apparently there's a knock on discussion store it's on the records there and he says I owe you this you got to cover it doesn't leave okay the whole thing about like the hospital like uh to overcome your ego to where uh the equivalent to stop by the bottom and so on so it would fit with what you're saying about this well that's it but it's interesting that you say that I never heard that before and it really catches me by a little surprise because the tone that we're from the chanubler and it should not blur although not Chabad but nevertheless they were Russian Cedars but I guess Colleen was also a Russian see this that's interesting I I I I I didn't think of of well actually tetona he was a toner rabbit he said yeah yeah the tone that now I understand the story from the 1800s the tone that were pretty wild guys they they yeah the tone that they took they drank a lot of Moscow they yeah it seems like they had a streak of you know of outward this Pilots interesting he told me that okay yeah motion I just want to bring up it's interesting so as as I mentioned sheet of dolphin um yes and he is interesting so he one of the things they spoke about in the series devoted below time he's not done is he gave the difference of approach between the alter River and the kaluna red at the time uh like something that's what we're talking about is just interesting I just want to share that okay I would have to hear carefully you know what he said is the difference or if you pick it up and you want to share it with us at another point please do so probably easier than me listening to the whole here although I did listen to a little bit and I really enjoyed what I heard both from shapira and his son but I didn't hear well enough to to pick up that but maybe I will now that you tell me that I'll be interested in hearing that myself but anyway let's go to the text now page wolf Top Line the second the last two words now terebus says in the name of the arizao in the name says that every Eid has two nisham is and first he speaks about the nephews and he says that the the the ugly meters that come from the nephews I come from the nepheus now he says even the good middles the nice Middle East that are natural to All Ye eaten but tell do some from birth biologically every Jew has this and if not you have to check them out whether they're indeed Jewish Mercy rahmanas benevolent kind now this is I believe you hear and a third one called by shanim bashfulness so the question is why doesn't the outlet ever bring it here and briefly the Reba asked this question and the rep explained gave the answer the Reba said the reason is because if you look into the martial vomis the martial says that Eden are not bashful little uh what would you call the nebs narazim as mighty by Nature a Jew is mighty only when the title was given that the title inserts a sense of humility v i i e bashfulness into a Jew but since we're talking about the tavocaly Israel when any Jew is born pre-apport or after matantara when a Jew is born he's born with with two meters tables that are natural mercy and kabilization but busha was not is not from birth it's inserted vis-a-vis in other words not like I said as a neb Bush was a great quality of being humble in a sense you know but that came because of Martin Titus when the outer Debra speaks about tavako Israel typical you throw on the outer rabbit talks about tobacco Israel he's talking about the natural Midas okay kibis Royal and now the question is I just want to understand um so that's why he leaves the third one out by Sean him that's right okay that's right it's from the Marshall based on the martial now that he says so the question is how is it that middle is come for the Netflix Obama's says the alterability Because by a Jew not by a Glory by a Jew this soul of the called the animal Soul the neposite bomb is the Clipper that has an association to Clipper it comes from him Eclipse now he gets what we call the translucent Clipper it's like a cover on a light and some light shines through she yes it has also some good it isn't all bad and why the he and this nephesh Adas it comes from the esoteric idea of the tree of knowledge which had toy Vera good and bad so Delta Reba's technical answer to the question is David how is it that enough who is so animalistic and and desires only animalism and Indulgence can have good traits like mercy and and as part of its make up its DNA the answer is because in in this Snapfish comes from the clippersnega compared to what we're going to learn soon as the three com the file Clippers which has no good at all and therefore there is some good there but usually it's covered and then you have to reveal it I'm gonna finish first the next three lines and then explain something important shanking conversely in the flesh is um The Souls of Idol worshipers this is the Reba says this is a mistake in the original manuscript it says nepheus um The Souls of all Gentiles not just those Gentiles that worship idols but because of the time of the printing things were very sensitive because of the the sensor the sensor and the government and desire so they they the printer changed the two of the Galilean but in the original it says um in the actual manuscript hey The Souls of non-jews hey Machado Clippers May has come from the other the file Clippers shame for him to have Cloud that has no obvious good Commission because of Bates High apparent good good as it says all the good that they do um again a mistake it should be here um so both everyone shouldn't understand clearly it's not the outcome ever making the statement that's already the Gomorrah making the statement and it states hyam and what does it say in the gamot of verse the kindness of the Nations is sinful meaning that when do when do kindness It's considered a sin should culture um that all kindness that is done by non-jews only done for self-aggrandizement Etc now maybe tomorrow we'll talk a little more about how to explain this piece of Gamora if we needed to explain it but doubted them assessor two it makes the this is the point I want I want I want you to get the flow just first get the flow before we you creep into details the flow is that the Netflix comes from clippersnaiga the net is a bomb is by a Jew comes from Clipper snake and clippersnaiga has moishes some type and some brah so the bed meter is like anger of Rome and conceit and all of that that he mentioned the full from the four elements the four of the all those bad meters they come from the rash of the clippersliga the route of the nephew bomb is and meet the stavis of of what's it called they come from the timesheim so here you have to ask yourself a question that that's obvious why why amitustavus rap it's good is there anything wrong with having Mercy on people no so here Dr Pepper you know like in between the lines sends a very powerful message and this is I think a for us a very important thing the whole theme of Tanya is to change your nature to break your habits anything that's natural is not Kosher you hear that not anything that's natural is not healthy it's not Kosher why isn't it kosher because it contributes to a system and a to a value system that builds ego and Builds an efficient bombers and ultimately it leads to your spiritual destruction and the only way to overcome this is to break the cycle to break the pattern to break the habit so even if you have your innocent good meta is wonderful middays but it's because you were born that way and you haven't worked on yourself to change those middays to be better and guess what they're not good for you they're not what Tanya wants of you so of course if you're going to ask a question is it better to have good me days that are natural or Baden be those of indulgences of course that's a no-brainer of course it's better to have good meters that are natural but the safer that Tanya remember I told you is not just a book of Musser like missiles you shot him good ethics the safer natanya is talking about the premier sonatas what's going inside us what moves Us in order for us to be clean and to be healthy and to be holy which is the idea of Ethics Musser right talks a lot about that you need to First be a Jew who am I and that's what the alterable talks about Italian that's what the balcantov is all about it's such a mistake to think that the belshantive is all about being a better leader another media that's not Titus I'm sorry that's not Titus otherwise you can go back to classical ashkenazic Judaism and the Miss Magnum will write what are you coming up with new Innovations you want to know how to behave better learn to see this is Sharon you want to go back 10 Generations whatever go back to that what do you have to what do you have to what do you have to put on pay is or a beard or whatever whatever a gartel why do you need any of this just be a good Jew the answer is I want to be a good Jew but I want I want to be a Jew who who is it you oh I don't know who a Jew is but you're someone who has a breast meal that's born to a Jewish mother who had a proper Jewish conversion thank you very much we all know that but what does it mean to be a Jew how to identify with it says in these few words the idea is to break the pattern and that's why here we are learning together you know we're a little older already we're not you know young kids right we have to find every day in our avoidance Hashem how we're breaking the convention of yesterday and if we don't it's never shabamis it's not an official or kiss but I went to Daven three times a day yesterday and I said and I went to a sheer and I gave to Taka and I help people did you go the extra mile that's the question break the Teva the previous lever explains this in the words the Shana isov there's two words TVM to change your natural Midas or the Shanice to change the nature of every meter whether the meter is a good meter or a bad meter it has to be broken it shouldn't be Teva and this is tough work and this is the work of a hasid a work of a hasid is to not accept what people say is reality and if you follow you listen to that episode now you see him on gem clips and everything else you see that he lived this way I remember one fabrangin he I think was poor in one year Hillary mentioned banapahu that episodes were not but who turned your hats everyone's wearing hats three thousand people in 770 wearing black hats right the number says turn your hats upside down and he himself takes his hat and puts it upside down then Optical now that's just the middle of a fabrina a man like the laboratory river is sitting conducting of her brain in and he and he makes himself silly yeah it looks silly but what he was doing was he explained we have to break our pattern and we're used to wearing a hat only this way so we're gonna show I'm putting that's the day of breaking the pattern now we can wear a hat another way and who says you can't be a Jew wearing a hat another way now mind you I do want to say as a disclaimer that this can be very very uh this this isn't something that we all decide on our own you know because for that matter anyone can say I'll do this and I'll do I'll do whatever I want I'll come into the basement address you know and dressed inappropriately go up to the Toyota taken Aaliyah and March around that way my friend everyone's dressed with pants and you're you whatever I'm saying if the meaning in there just rolls different I'm just talking about their standards we don't you know but I'm saying in our own Navigator and our own avoid serve Hashem whatever like I've told you the example when people speak about agnosis I saw Jews Jews are invited to the table every Misfit in town and invited them with simcha and and they could come and they can go and they can belittle the hosts and they could smell and they didn't say a word foreign it's pathetic now this Jew that is at the level where he can invite someone even the Misfits of the community and it's it if it becomes natural for him and from his for his wife then he is stuck in a realm called Misfits in other words he thrives on Misfits that also is not for sure bombers [Music] understand it's not about the the outside oh in other words look at look at this guy's table I I remember this in Los Angeles it's such a pert you right or even a boroughbuck I remember some I know someone who invites everyone but I know the person I could tell you he's not breaking his meters it's not breaking news I I can tell you that he enjoys that he has the money for it he becomes known at the community as a House of crested whatever is it better to do that than not to do it of course but in his own afraid this Hashem you have to ask yourself what can I do to break the Habit another example here we are I'm teaching you right right for me to teach Olive base to a child is ritually impossible and it's it's it's a limitation it's a limitation so yeah I enjoy teaching adults and you know I'm pretty good at it and great you see you got to get up a little earlier so what you understand that's what should this valenter came along is stop fooling yourself know the score and the idea is to go further not to become depressed and say oh okay I'm a I'm not a great Jew am I avoid the stinks and no that's not the cover the purpose is fish a happiness a growth oriented a growth-oriented experience not an experience well my Avada is so you know clumsy big deal that's not the purpose of what the out there ever say the purpose of the Galaxy is saying is be a constant Seeker that's what he wants of us don't take for granted that you're already an over the ship because as soon as you become another Hashem you have to go one step further if you don't go one step further you're again not annoyed with Hashem and my friends that's why not many people become habotniks everyone wonders khabar is so wonderful khabar is so welcoming new because if you knew real Chabad you know today we see khabad with palm branches in the background and it's important it's wonderful the son of Florida it's great but if you if you knew real chabotniks who would stand for four or five hours and cry their heart out and not have much to eat and and yet they were happy that they were if they are ashamed I don't mean just they will press liver by the way like this I'm the Hashem then you say wow I have so much more to go and that's what we have to focus on not the negative I'll never get there like Hilo said when we started to learn Tanya and I told him that we'll answer his question in many theorem later in Mr Shem but by the way Hillary you missed the future and I've been answering your question gradually but anyway anyway he was said what's the point Who's ever going to reach being abandon me what's the point of learning Tanya if I'm not if I'm not obeying to me the answer is it's not about the end result ill it's about the progress what direction are you going in and that is is applicable every moment of our life and it's a message that we have to share with our children and our grandchildren in our community that more important than than the end result you know is get do something with your life you don't want to be in Yeshiva okay what what are you going to do with your life let's talk about what how are you going to make your life a rich life a rich life in the sense of being a creator for for World Judaism for mankind and everyone has and and this is something that's anyone with intelligence and everyone has Intelligence and every person Hashem has blessed them could understand this and once you you you have these discussions you'll see you'll you'll you'll get you'll you'll score okay yes yes listen go ahead what no I can't hear you the comfort zone right thank you good words the comfort zone what probably known where the Moon called title there I didn't hear the comfort zone where the what the company oh yeah yeah you summed it up succinctly exactly but that explains stuff and that explains why I doubt that Eva says the guy Midas tivus even the good meter is foreign have a great day we'll see everyone tomorrow Mr Shem Shalom bye bye