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Rambam Mishnah Torah: Hilchos De'os Chapter 1
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Cultivating the Right Temperament This class, in Rambam the Laws of De'os, chapter one, was presented on Tuesday Parshas Va'eschanan, 7 Av, 5780, July 28, 2020, streaming live from Rabbi Jacobson's home in Monsey, NY Dedicated in honor of the birthday of Reb Eliyahu Goldsmith shlita, on 7 Av, for many long, happy, and healthy years.
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we begin today the second section of
halachus of the rambam's mission of
torah
the laws of ethics or of character
development
the first section of halal
in which articulates the fundamentals
the foundations
of tyra and halacha over 10 chapters
the second section immediately after
that quite interestingly
is hilca's deus the laws that have to do
with deis
and day is here means the mindset of the
person
and therefore the character of the
person it's about personal development
character development
the rambam will outline here his
halachic system
of personal development personal growth
how a person ought to live their values
their ethics
their behaviors their schedule including
his system of
psychology briefly and his system of
health
physical health emotional health
spiritual health
nutrition the daily schedule he'll just
davis includes
seven chapters and we begin the first
chapter today
so please open up hilah's deus
includes all the mitzvahs of the 630
midterms of terror that he will be
covering and exploring
in this section
if you remember he introduced it with
ten mitzvahs then he covered over the
ten chapters
here he says
his day is we have included 11 mitzvahs
that we're going to be covering
five of them are positive ones active
ones six of them are things that we
abstain from and here they go here we go
alef to imitate
the ways of hashem to align
our pathways in life to the pathways of
the divine which you will explain base
another mitzvah interiors
to cleave to be connected to those who
know hashem
gimmel lehigh to love your fellow
dalai lama to love the stranger
the foreigner the convert hey shalom
never to loathe to hate brothers
brothers it means again your fellow jew
to be able to rebuke and communicate
with somebody who has done or you feel
has done something wrong
zion shalom how big never to shame
anybody
never to oppress those who are
misfortune
the misfortunate those who are
struggling in life
to be sensitive to them never to oppress
them and
manipulate their weaknesses for your
advantage
tests not to be a tailbearer
going around you know telling stories
about people which well durable will
explain what that means
you chilling lincoln not to take revenge
you'd aleph shalom tire not to harbor
garages toxics not to harbor toxicity
the toxicity of grudges in your hearts
okay quite a uh list of mitzvahs
to implement to be a mitzvah's a little
bit practical
the elucidation of all these 11 mitzvahs
are going to be presented
in the subsequent chapters which are
seven chapters aleph penguin creation
the first chapter of hilha's days
day is hard yes
very interestingly there are many
character traits
that every single person has visual
and one is very different than another
one and often very
distant different and distant from each
other
people in other words around them are
saying are complex
they're not made out of you know one
fabric
one material every person balances and
contains
so many different traits and
characteristics and temperaments
and very different types yes
is a person who's full of wrath he's
always angry
people by temperament they get angry
very fast
yash adam the person in the opposite
extreme
should die to him you shave
he'll get a little angry once in a few
years yeah we like this guy
as they say in english once in the blue
moon generally he's a very very calm
relaxed serene person he's not
hot temper doesn't lose his temper
yes adam person who's very
full of pride you know
self-aggrandizement
somebody who's exceedingly humble
it's just a very different attitude
yeshua baltimore to somebody who's full
of cravings full of appetites
he could never satiate his soul by
satisfying its appetite
he wants more and more and more just
filled with
with cravings for yeshua tahir
and there's somebody who has a very pure
you know very sensitive very delicate
avalanche
filled with
he will often not even crave for small
things that actually the body needs
you know the types of people who could
forget to eat lunch
there's people who have a few lunches
and then the types of people they're
just
very pure hearts very delicate hearts
yes baldness recovers places
there is a greedy person whose soul is
so
wide literally wide it will never be
satiated from all the money in the world
there's always more for me to take
nephesh recovers i have the ambition to
swallow and
get more and more and more kenyan
this is described in a possible in
chapter five of ecclesiastes oh you've
kissed if we use because
someone who loves money will never be
satiated with money
as much as you give there's always more
to take
the yesh makatsuna shine into somebody
the opposite the constant option means
he restricts his soul his soul has a
doesn't have such a uh desire such a
union should die
it's enough for him even a small thing
shallows because
even that is often not even enough for
him valerie
he won't even pursue to get all of his
needs
mamish the other extreme yeah
somebody who's stingy on himself he will
actually remain hungry
with kovitz he will collect more money
and more money and more money
he is so stingy even on himself it's
hard for him to squander his money even
in his own needs
he will literally says he will not spend
a dime
that was one of the smallest currencies
he will not spend a pruta
of his own only with a lot of pain but
he's forced
it's really hard for him to separate
from his money
the actual mom would call my mind to be
a dilight and then you have an opposite
type of person he'll just squander all
of his money
consciously you know he's just
completely free-handed he'll squander it
and spend it all
without any meditation or plan valdra
melo shy coladaes and in the same
experience you have in so many different
temperaments and shrinks
kegoin you have maholo voila model is
somebody who is
always elated in a very dramatic and
exaggerated way
and oin is somebody who's miserable and
depressed
opposites
really is a very stingy person
just digi cannot handle giving or
sharing with somebody else
earlier that emerald spoke about
misogynist member of somebody who's
stingy for himself also he will remain
or she will remain
hungry not to spend here the person
is actually not stitching on themselves
but with other people they are so stingy
and then you have sure
sure is the contrast of kili somebody
who
who's free-handed who's a spender and
perhaps for good causes also
you know very like before i'm gonna talk
about somebody who just will
abid call my money he'll squander he'll
throw out all of his money
here it's a person who's actually an
extremely extremely generous person
they'll share with everybody you have a
hazari somebody who's cruel
just a cruel person or somebody who's
compassionate
you have rach levo somebody who has a
very soft heart
a lot of fear coward amid slave i'm
enslaved as somebody who's like a
warrior
very strong heart a very powerful person
their temperament is just very powerful
and the list goes on of the extremes
that so many people have one extreme or
another extreme and the ramen continues
between one temperament one trait and
another trait that's on the other
extreme
there are also deus vedanese there are
temperaments that are intermediate
you know somewhere in the middle and
also so many different types
where do all these temperaments come
from where do these traits come from you
spoke about cruel people
and compassionate people the list of the
rambam you know he
he gave us a list he spoke about
people are always angry people are
always serene people who are very proud
that arrogant
pompous people are extremely humble
people who are great ballet typists
their appetite knows no rest
and people who are you know their needs
are very very small
people who always want more money and
people who
even for their needs they're not so
particular people who are stingy on
themselves and people who squander
everything
people who are always elated
always you know exuberant and people who
are miserable and depressed
stingy people free-handed people cruel
people compassionate people
courageous people cowards where does all
this come from
says fascinating
all these character traits
some character traits the person has
from the beginning of his creation and
it's based on
the nature of his body as we would say
today
it's the genetic makeup the dna the
genetic code
of this particular organism which
basically
creates these types of character traits
these types of dispositions
proclivities yeshua and deus
there are other character traits that a
person is predisposed to they're not
born with it
but their nature makes them such that
they are much more open
they're much more sensitive and open to
absorb
these types of character traits and
certain
traits will become integra ingrained in
them
faster than other ones this says i have
certain predisposition
certain sensitivities where i become
i'm very conducive and open to absorb
certain tricks vias mentioned
then we come to the whole world of
nurture things that are not part of the
human nature they're not paramount but i
learned them from others
either actively consciously or you could
say unconsciously but i learned a lot i
absorb them from others
or perhaps i acquired them because of a
certain thought pattern or a certain
idea
that developed in me that
caused me in other words it's not
necessarily that people actually taught
it to me
i was an environment of people and this
is what i learned this is how i was
educated or this is the
school or the community or the home i
grew up with the family i grew up with
but it's actually a thought that the
person developed which of course that
thought can also be influenced
by others but it's a result of a thought
that i developed and as there's
therefore
these character traits become part of my
life
it could be a mahava that i developed in
my own heart
or actually i heard it i heard that this
is the right way to live
and i actually implemented it in my life
i decided to act on it until it became
part of my art
these are the different ways in which
people operate and how they acquire
and become the people they are says
the two extremes distant from each other
in extremes and each one of these above
character traits
is not the good path
it's not appropriate it's inappropriate
for the person to follow them
or to teach them to them to teach them
to himself
in other words to follow them emulating
others
or to teach them to myself and become
that person
oh this is all good if you come to the
rambam
and you have a free slate that nothing
happened yet and you're starting your
life a new
and you're one day old and you know
you're impressionable so yes
what happens if i find that my nature
gravitates there
this is part of who i am it's part of my
dna or
even if it's not part of my dna i'm
predisposed to it
it's just so easy for me to ingrain this
type of attitude
or i already learned this it's part of
my nurture
maybe not my nature but it's part of my
nurture i'm already living this way what
happens now
says you're never ever a victim
you can turn yourself to the proper
way of living the good life the yellow
and follow the good path and this is
the appropriate path and the rambam says
what do we mean by
the right path or the correct path let
me see how he translates
the straight path this is the straight
path says the rambam what is the
straight path he
bananas
this involves discovering the midpoint
temperament of
each and every trait that a person
possesses within
his or her personality he
without being close to either of them
this
is the straight path which is the middle
babiness of the whole day of the day
to be able to discover the midpoint the
center point
the midpoint temperament of all of the
above and so many other
character traits and as he said it's
equidistant from either of the extremes
the early sages have instructed us
that a person should always
evaluate himself or herself a person
should be introspective
shun the ice means i want to always
evaluate
examine scrutinize my character traits
how i'm living
calculating them evaluating them and
directing them along
the middle path that the rampant
described and he says kadeshi
in order that the person should be
healthy in their body
some manuscripts take out the word the
goofy because he's not only talking
about the body he's talking about
the body and the mind and the soul so
the rama was saying today
the person should be wholesome the
person should be a wholesome human being
and shlamos wholesomeness comes from
cultivating the derek so is the middle
path
what does this mean practically says
shouldn't be wrathful who gets easily
angry it's just so easy for me to lose
my temper and i
literally lose it that's not the way to
live
the lord can make shane and irish share
which is subscribe the opposite reaction
you know maybe if somebody grew up in a
situation where they saw
so much intense anger and so much
intense emotion
they go to the other extreme they don't
feel anything the person around them
calls them dead
dead person walking in marcus i don't
feel anything i'm never angry it's great
i never raise my voice i never scream i
never holler i never lose my temper but
there's a price to pay
price to pay is dead people also don't
scream person is dead there's no
feelings
alebanonite is the intermediate path
don't get angry only if it's a major
issue
that is really worthwhile to get angry
and there's a reason for that cadential
you have to display hurt and pain and
feel hurt and pain because
you really do not want that such a thing
should happen again
the person whose cravings are incessant
they know no end
so the rambam says can you cultivate a
lifestyle in which you do crave things
that the body needs
that the body needs in order to live in
order to exist i can't live without
it he says this you want the craving for
you want the yearning for king and
shannema like deposit says in michelle
proverbs 13
which means the righteous person the
person who's living according to the
derek
yeshara the straight path eats in order
to satiate their soul
he eats to safety in his soul he doesn't
live
to eat he eats to live
there's a very big difference i want my
souls to be satiated so i should be able
to live
and that's why i'm going to eat vegan
he spoke about the nephew that
stingy person uh that person whose soul
just wants more and more and more money
and will never stop as oyev
right he called him a nephesh the greedy
person who cannot be satisfied with all
the money in the world says
that's not the way to live do not toil
do not become
completely immersed in your business
in order to acquire those things that
you need now in order to live
king and successful 37
you know there are people they are so
excessively
indulgent in their work to make another
they don't know what their children look
like
so the rambam says it's important for
the person to want to be able to have
what they need
but perspective what i want to is i want
to work in order to be able to have what
i need now
don't let it overtake your life you work
to live you don't live to work
the lawyer fights don't be very stingy
the lawyer fazen on my name the opposite
don't squander and just scatter all your
money
and then i said to doctor you give to
duke if he misses the other according to
what you can afford
or malva karaoke and you lend in an
appropriate fashion to the person who
needs and what does it mean
appropriately again
it should be in a way that is measured
below a high level don't be this
frivolous exuberant person who's just
elated in a very dramatic way i'd say
but not
melancholy depressed foreign and
miserable
eponymous a person all the days of his
or her life
should be basement should be joyous with
serenity tranquility
and with a pleasant face and a pleasant
countenance but
they are the same is true with all other
character traits you want to
try to find and discover and cultivate
what he called the intermediate path
which is equidistant from both extremes
the derek how you shutter the straight
path with derek zoohi derek
this path is the path of the wise
somebody asked the question what does it
mean the middle path is just a little
bit from this and a little bit from this
you know there's going all the way right
it's going all the way left you know
imagine a light line one is one extreme
and they're always saying you know just
like not too hot not too cold
is this just a mix is it a challenge of
one extreme in another extreme or is it
a third quality
it's a third quality so it's a good
question but it will become clear soon
i want to quote a extraordinary teaching
from thomas
chapter 2 and i'm going to say it in
hebrew because it's an incredible quote
which may be one of the sources of the
rambam
one is a path of snow and one is a path
of fire
and basically you're walking it's it's
as though
you're saying you're walking on a very
very uh tight bridge
on one side you have snow a fire i
should say
and on the other side you have snow hit
the bazaar if you gravitate this way
he says you fall into the fire and if
you gravitate this way
you fall into the snow and yourself says
if i gravitate this way
i die i get burnt in the fire and the
other way i freeze to death in the snow
mayasa so i have to walk mamas in the
middle
between these two extremes of fire and
snow
and your xiaomi is basically telling us
here there's one extreme of fire
where you get burnt up from the heat and
there's the other
stream of snow where you don't get burnt
up but you freeze to death
from the coldness these are the two
extremes the iran mum is
describing and i have to find the derek
that perfect equilibrium the balance hey
call
a person whose character traits are um
our intermediate are centered this
person is called
wives maybe he is
somebody who works on himself and is
very meticulous with himself
and he decides that he wants to distance
himself from the intermediate path
either to one side or the other side
this
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somebody
somebody who decides that he's going to
distant himself
from pride to the other extreme and he's
going to be extremely humble
he's not following here the derek bainen
is the intermediate path he actually
gravitates to one extreme
this is called he's called a chaser this
is midas hasidis
the attribute of piety a life of piety
vimnes
if he distances himself from arrogance
pompousness
self-aggrandizement to the center point
this person is called wise
a wise person this is the attribute of
wisdom versus
hasid is the attribute of piety valdere
zu sharqa day is the same is true with
all the other
temperaments and traits
the early hasidim the early pious jews
would indeed intentionally
gravitate and cultivate temperaments and
character traits
that were not always in the middle but
rather to one side or the other
yesterday
some character traits they would
gravitate
to one side and the other one
to the other side in other words
sometimes they would go more to one
extreme and that some days they would go
to the other extreme this is called
le fenim which means going beyond the
letter of the law
um
this is not just interesting
discussions about people's nature this
is this is a book of
we are instructed to follow these
paths which are intermediate
they are the good life they are the
pathways of goodness and righteousness
and straightness shannemar the possib
you should follow you should walk in his
ways in hashem's ways
parshas kisaway deuteronomy 28.
this is what our sages taught about the
commentary what is this mitzvah what
does it mean to follow in hashem's ways
to walk in his ways
what does it mean i'm following his path
so our sages said
just as he's called gracious you should
be gracious
just as he is called compassionate you
should be compassionate
just as he's called sacred you should be
sacred holy father
and indeed this is why the prophets
called hashem with all of these
descriptions descriptive names erecha
payan
slow to anger easy to forgive rav khasid
abundant kindness he has abundant
kindness sadiq righteous yahshua
straight
tamim wholesome gibber mighty powerful
khazak strong
the kayatsuman all of these descriptive
names of hashem discussed earlier in
chapter six of yasaya torah
to teach us
that these are the good ways to live
ibrahim and a person is obligated to
cultivate them in his life to live this
way
and to imitate to become aligned to
become a reflection of hashem
according to the capacity of the human
being so all of these descriptions
that the sages defined hashem by giber
and khanon and rachel and kadoish and
sadiq and yashar and tamman
is what is in order to help us fulfill
this mitzvah of
imitating hashem of aligning ourselves
with hashem
telling us that these are the ways in
which we become a manifestation
of the kedusa of the energy of the
divine energy in our lives
which i think the rambam is telling us
here that the intermediate path then
is not just you know a challenge taking
a little bit of this and taking a little
bit of this
how is it what what people are robots
what i could get to the point the
midpoint
there's the midpoint between arrogance
and humility there's the midpoint
between
exuberance elation where i'm delirious
and then and depression and misery
people are not computers what's this
midpoint
midpoint and then the cassette says i'm
not going to do midpoint i'm going to go
a little bit that way
there is really a very powerful idea the
midpoint the center
right of course there's no such a thing
physically as the center either you're
on this side or you're on this side so
the rambam says it has to be equidistant
equally distant from this extreme and
this extreme
what it really means is it's not just a
challenge a mixture of one minute
another i mean this is the way i
understand it
what the rambam is really teaching us
here is that there is a mitzvah
there is a mitzvah that when i can align
myself with hashem i became become
a manifestation of divine energy in this
world
and when i could become a manifestation
of divine energy in this world
then even if i have certain genetic
dispositions and even if i have certain
character traits that i was born with
and things that i acquired through
education or through nurture
things that i taught myself or things
that others influenced me and they may
be very deeply ingrained in me
but a human being nonetheless has an
element of infinity within them
so the person now is not defined and
stuck
in any particular modality ramen doesn't
acknowledge
the statement this is who i am this is
why i must remain for the rest of my
life
not because we deny nature and we deny
nurture he did not do that do that
but because we appreciate the
extraordinary
resources and gifts and power and
potential
that every single human being has to
become a manifestation
of divine love of divine compassion of
divine graciousness
of divine confidence of divine power in
this world
and then what what type of person are
you you're not the person who has to go
to extremes
extremes basically means i'm lost in it
rather the person actually becomes an
extraordinary
synthesis of the best and the most
beautiful in life
because you're a manifestation of the
divine in life
which is the goodness in every single
situation the truth of every single
situation
zion the kate
easier said than done how does a person
begin to live according to these
character traits until they become part
of him
i was born differently these are my
struggles these are my challenges
there's only one way you do it and you
do it again
and you do it a third time three times
you basically understand what these
character traits
are and they become habits that you do
you don't talk about them you don't only
think about them you actually do them
you practice
them constantly tum it perpetually you
know what happens
every time these actions become easier
and at some point they're not even a
burden anymore because they become part
of your song now it's fascinating these
words because today we know
that when we do things over and over and
over again
we create what we today we call neural
pathways literally new highways in the
brain new wires in the brain
connecting cells and it becomes part of
our nature it becomes part of how my
brain responds to things
and maybe this is one of the reasons the
rambam calls this hill his deus somebody
said why is it called
it's talking about midos talking about
dispositions emotions temperament
because by the rambam your das
is so critical and so vital here
and since these names are the names by
which the yoitser
the creator is called as he said before
hashem is called all these names
khanon and eric
sadiq in other words these pathways
these temperaments
are names that we use for the ribbon of
shalayalam and here i'm going to leave
you with a question
the word yoitzer the rambam does not use
in mishna toyota ever again
he only used it once in hil terra
and this is the second and last time he
will call hashem yitzer
he could have said nick barron he uses
the word the eight so why does he choose
this
phrase to describe hashem this is the
second
and last time in the whole mishnah
question so since these are the names
with which hashem is called
and this is the intermediate path by
which we are obligated
to live and follow nikras derek zhu
derek hashem
this path is called the path of hashem
this is the divine path because these
are the names that hashem was given
and this is the path that he wants us to
live this is called the divine path in
life
the he shall limit of rama it's the path
that avraham avinu taught his children
shannema the passage says in valeria
hashem says kia daity
because he's going to teach his
household and his family and his
children
to observe the path of hashem which path
is he talking about
the shamroot there which path is he
talking about he says this is the path
that avraham
who taught his children living a divine
life being a manifestation of the divine
qualities in your own life
and when you follow this path
this is not just a path i'm telling you
to do it
because it's the path that we say you
have to live the rambam says
the reason you have to live this path is
hashem wants us to live this path is
realize
that this is the path that brings the
greatest goodness and the greatest
blessing to your life
shannen as the pastor continues
in order for hashem to bring to avram
that which he promised him
this derek hashem allows you to become a
vessel and a conduit for an
extraordinary
great life of goodness and of blessing
this concludes the first chapter of
rambam
hillchris so it's interesting that
calls hashem the former the way i
understand it is
what the rambam is telling us here is
these are the names in which the yoytzer
was called
the former was given these names what
does it mean the former the one who
formed the life the one who formed the
physique
of every person and every organism and
everything
and the one who formed my mind the one
who formed my dna
the one who formed every cell
the one who formed every neuron
the one who formed every nerve cell
the one who formed me who formed my life
physically
psychologically emotionally spiritually
chemically atomically the one who formed
the on a cellular level
the one who formed me genetically he
formed me
if these are the names by which the
yoitzer is called
this is how he formed he formed me by
these names
in other words he gave me the potential
to be able to become a reflection of
these names
i was formed by the one who has these
names
so i can become a manifestation an
embodiment of the one who formed me of
the youtu
there's a beautiful expression
also brings us
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i think that's the key you want that
that surah
should become aligned with the yaitzer
that surah is the form
the yoyo is the one who formed it when i
live a certain way that
surah becomes a mirror of the yetzer
it becomes a reflection of the former of
the creator
what he created becomes a manifestation
and the human being
due to his or her power of choice and
soul
could become that surah that reflects
the uh sir and that's the middle
hampshires he's talking about
sometimes there's also midas hasidis
which means i manifest
something of the divine in even a more
intense and powerful way that's called
midas hasidis versus midas
that's how i understand it does he mean
middle because it means that you have to
keep balanced and not
go to extremes about anything yeah of
course that's what he says clearly
that the middle means there's a balance
you're not this extreme
that's basically what he means there's
the middle path you're not extreme
my point was can you really pinpoint the
middle
the middle is really the essence it's
the essence that perfectly combines both
why does it combine both because it
transcends both because it's not fixed
in one or the other
and that's what he calls the derek
hashem
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