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Shabu welcome everyone to tonight's very
special major event tonight where being
presented by fazakria where we have two
amazing speakers Raonim followed by the
amazing by all the amazing singers and
musicians tonight we want to thank all
the sponsors Mr.
Yay, Shul Yankee, Dennis Shalamov for
the parasa
[Music]
Benella
Rafel
Nishma
Tamar Liu Nishmat Rafael.
We want to give a special shout out to
Eph and Milan Yiva. Let's do a round of
applause. our efforts for tonight
and um to to um to introduce tonight
um I thought we could have this right
now we're a few days before the
right now we're a few days before Yum
Kipper so person might say okay fine so
we we had el we had rash on yum kipper
what's the difference so Charlie once
said a famous mushy story he said once
there was um someone he went down to the
west coast in order to to to get a
parnasa to because he heard there's
going to be a b big business over there.
So what does he do? He goes there for 3
months 6 months a year and what happens?
He's not making any money but he but he
misses his home. So he says I'm going to
come home. So what happens 30 days
before he calls up a travel agent and
and and he says I want to get a ticket.
How much does it cost? They say $2,000.
He said, "Okay, I'm not sure if I want
to get the ticket. I'll call you back."
So, what happens? One week, one week
before the before the before the the
train back, he says, "Okay." He calls
back the the the the
person who's raised the ticket. And they
and they say, "Okay, do you want the
ticket?" "Nah, I'm not sure. I'll I'll
I'll wait till the day before." Day
before it comes and what happens? He
says, "Okay, I'll I'll I'll buy it on
the spot." And what happens? The day
comes. He's running late and he has his
bags and he's running up and he's and
what happens? He hears the train going
away and and and and the conductor sees
him and it's actually leaving and he
says, "Drop your bags and jump." And and
and what happens? He jumps his bag. He
drops his bags and he jumps on the
train. And that's and that that's what
we just what we just um experienced.
which had the the days of ro el the 30
days of el and a person says to
themselves nah I don't want to be better
I'll I'll be better when he gets closer
to rashash shana rashashana comes for
that week and the people say nah okay I
okay I don't know if I want to be better
and what happens right now we're 4 days
before yam kipper and and hashem says
drop your bags drop your limitations the
person says I'm too young I'm too old
how the will be better what my
environment is going to my family is
going to say and hashem says drop your
limitations and jump to become the
person you're meant to be and hashem um
to introduce our first rabbi rabbi to
zeno hashem he's inspired so many in the
community roashm for so many years he's
one of the rabbis right here let's rise
and give a round of applause for rabbi
want to welcome everyone to Bet
Gabrielle
after many many years finally were able
to host
in the new banquet hallm
as we are approaching Yum Kipur
the last few days of Sihot.
How beautiful it is to get everybody
together
for a wonderful
but
when it comes to mind yamipur
when it comes to mindsot
we do this every year Right?
How are we going to approach it this
time?
How are we going to come to Hashem in a
few days from now and cry to Hashem to
ask for forgiveness
and to finally get sealed for that year
that we always wanted.
There's always that famous mashal
where the guy got married.
The next morning after the beautiful
wedding,
he tells the wife, "What are we going to
eat for breakfast?"
She says, "We're going to have choki."
She says, "Wonderful.
Problem is I don't have any toki.
He goes and he says, "No problem. I'll
go get us some toki."
5 minutes, 10 minutes, an hour, 2 hours,
5 hours, he's gone.
Where's my husband? Where's my husband?
A day, 6 months,
husband's gone.
She sends a search party. All she has is
a picture left of him. A year later,
she's sitting in the anniversary of her
wedding without a husband.
She gets a knock on the door
and she sees
her husband after a year,
flowers, chocolates
and noni.
He says,
is this.
Let's have some breakfast. Let's have
some
good time together. Like good old times.
His wife says, "What are you crazy?
Where were you? What are you doing?"
He says, "Kai, let's forget about the
past and let's move on."
They sit, they eat, they enjoy.
The next morning, they wake up.
They want to make breakfast.
Says, "So, what are we making for
breakfast?"
He said, "Let's make pancakes.
We'll make some uh some nice pancakes,
but I don't have any batter." "Okay,
don't worry. I'll get you some flour."
Said, "No, no, no. Don't go nowhere. You
remember what happened last time?"
He said, "Don't worry. It's 2 minutes.
What's the big deal?
He leaves. He goes 5 minutes, 10
minutes, an hour, 6 hours, he's gone.
A day, 6 months, 7 months.
The disappearing husband,
she's sitting on the anniversary,
looking at the picture, crying.
She gets a knock on the door.
Her husband is standing there.
with chocolates, flowers, and pancakes.
Says, "I'm sorry. Let's make up. Let's
do it again. Let's try again."
The wife says, "You think I'm an idiot?
You think I'm going to do this again
with you?" She shuts the door in his
face.
We all have to ask ourselves
are we like this husband
rash.
We come to Hashem with this
with the chauffar with the
chocolates flowers.
We say hashem this I'm here
and then rashana is over. We disappear
for a little bit.
Then we come Roshana, knock on the door.
Hashem, I'm here. I have chocolates. I
have flowers. I'm going to buy.
I'm going to go and cry today.
But this tishua that we do on Yumipur
and
has to be a real tishua.
Not one day and disappear.
every single day continuously it's a
relationship with
and this relationship
has to be real
there's a famous mash
where the guy was traveling
and he had a bunch of friends but we
always see him stopping by certain
places
so they saw him eating lunch one time
they saw he took some cheese. He cut
some cheese. He made himself a sandwich.
Later that day they saw him take out the
same knife and he was cutting some
salami.
So his friend said to him, "Hey, you
used the same knife for dairy this
morning. How are you using this knife
for meat in the afternoon?"
He says, "Don't worry.
This side is for dairy and this side of
the knife is meat.
We laugh,
but this is who we are.
One second. We can be so holy. We'll be
have tears crying down, rolling down our
cheeks. We'll be screaming.
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We'll feel it. And the next day or day
after a week after
we we'll say to ourselves or we'll tell
ourselves back to business, back to
usual programming.
And this is where we have to make that
change.
And the yeshivas, they used to tell us a
story
where there was a guy who was a little
bit not 100% there.
His his whole thing was he loved to find
random furniture in the street and bring
it to the yeshiva. He used to collect a
bunch of stuff.
So one day he brings he finds this huge
scarf
and then he comes to the yeshiva and
everyone sees him struggling, huffing
and puffing, sweating, bringing this
closet to the dorm
and they see the everyone's looking at
him. Where is he going to go with this
thing? So he finally, I don't know,
somehow gets up the stairs. He gets to
his hallway where he's about to enter to
his room.
All of a sudden everybody stops. What
are they doing here? Boom, boom, boom.
What is this noise? Everybody is
standing. The holy yeshiva is standing
in the hall. Look at this guy.
And he keeps trying. Boom, boom, boom.
And they're all telling himo,
you got to put it down and then you
could push it in. He's yelling, "What?"
And he keeps trying to push it in the
door and he keeps hitting the top of the
door. Boom. Boom. Boom.
And the masak in that time he said I
learned a huge lesson. He says we're all
like Schlommo.
How are we all like Schlommo? We think
we can get to the next part of our life,
the next step. We want to go through the
next door to get to the next part of our
life and we're bringing all the same
closets and all the same garbage that we
have from the past.
We think we can stay the same but go
through a new door. And it can't be that
way.
We have to get rid of some things.
The the the writes the first mitzvah a
Jew has to go through as a boy is a
you have to cut a part of yourself off.
He says that's what you have to do to
your in you come in one way
you have to change the way you are
throughout your life. But what do we do
a lot of times?
How many miracle stories I hear every
day? Unbelievable.
Just the other day, I heard about a
person
his wife had to have a surgery and there
was huge repercussions of what's going
to happen to her and if she would be
able to have kids or not. He prayed and
they added a name to his name
and he she went in for the surgery and
the doctor said, "Why are you here? I
don't even know why you're here. I just
did another scan for you. Nothing's
wrong with you. Go home.
We hear crazy stories like this every
other day.
So, how do we not make the shashma?
So, I'll tell you a story.
There's a rabbi in Israel, famous
mashia. He goes into the taxi
and the taxi driver tells the rabbi,
"Rabbi,
I want to tell you a crazy miracle
story. My friend became super religious
after this story. You're going to like
the story. You're going to say it to
your people.
He says, "Wonderful. What's the story?"
He says, "We were in the army in the
bunk in the in in the barracks
in the middle of the night. We hear
screaming.
We turn on the light. We see a cobra
standing right in front of my friend's
bed about to bite him.
We didn't know what to do.
My friend in the other corner, he's a
sniper. He takes out his sniper. He's
aiming for the snake.
And he says, "Don't move. I'm going to
shoot. If you move an inch, I might
shoot you. I'm going to shoot the snake.
Don't move." He says, "Don't do it."
Everybody says, "Yeah, do it. He's going
to die any second." "No, don't do it. A
big bagan."
Confusion.
All of a sudden, my bread, my friend
who's on that bed with the cobra over
him, he screams.
All of a sudden, everything's over. The
snake goes away, goes wherever it goes.
Everything calm down. That guy woke up
the next day. He put on til. He said,
"From now on, I'm religious. Hashem gave
me another another lease on my life." He
said, "Rabbi, you see how unbelievable
that is?" said the how Hashem was right
there in front of us. He put his finger
and he made a miracle happen.
And the rabbi asked him, "I understand.
You saw it. So why are you not
religious?"
He says, "Rabbi, it happened to my
friend. It didn't happen to me."
We laugh, but we hear this every other
day.
But you know when we change sadly,
we change sadly when the bad story
happens to us and we wish it didn't
happen to me.
Every year we say in the
who will live and who will die
who will be healthy and who will be
sick,
who will be successful and who will not.
And all of Hashem asks of us as the
Rambam tells us
ask for Hashem when he is near. If you
do, Hashem writes you in the book of
life. If you don't do
shalom in the other book, but why do
just do another mitzvah and Hashem will
write you in the book of life
says, "No,
all we have to do now is tou
whatever that means for you, whatever
you have to work on, whatever you're
missing,
and if you don't do, how could you not
do? Hashem is coming to us. How can we
not open our hands, open our heart and
do to shaman?
But a lot of times, you know, we thought
to do mitzvot, we thought to pray, we
thought to learn, we thought to come and
do a mitzvah,
but we think, I can't. It's not for me.
I don't know how to read. I don't know
how to wake up on time. I'm not an
orderly person. I'm not so smart. I
don't have the skills. that didn't
learn.
That's not an excuse.
You know, in the circus, they have
elephants,
two-tonon elephants,
and they have them controlled how? By a
string, to a stick.
How in the world do they do that?
They explain that when he's a baby, they
tie him to a string, to a stick, and
he's a baby. He can't break the string.
He's fighting it. But since in his mind
he knows he can't break it. Even when
he's an adult, he still thinks he can't
break it. So he doesn't even try.
He sees the string like chains, like
it's impossible. I can't do it.
How many of us try to learn? How many of
us try to have a serious schedule every
day to wake up on time? How many of us
try to say tim every day? How many times
somebody forwarded us join this yomi
this join this yomi that
and we said ah I tried I fell off I
tried it's not for me we wrote it off
like I will never get there
we're like the elephant tied to a string
and Hashem says all you have to do is
push yourself a little bit more and
you'll snap the string but you think
it's chains and that's the biggest
mistake.
But we have to be serious with our
commitments.
We all know the that guy who's looking
for parking for his important business
meeting. He's looking for parking.
Looking for parking.
All of a sudden, he starts praying to
Hashem. Hashem, if you help me find
parking, I'm going to go to netan every
single day. Hashem, if you help me find
parking, I'm going to keep Israel.
That's it. No more. Okay. Okay. Okay,
you know what? If I'm going to do
if you please help me find a parking.
All of a sudden, the parking opens up.
He's Oh, Hashem, it's okay. I found it.
I found it. It's okay.
You know many times somebody suggests
us, I found this crazy sigula.
If you hop on one foot, rub your belly,
tap your head, and send 40 days, you
know what's going to happen.
Wow, man.
Let's do it.
But to do our basic obligations
to be a good person to learn in the
morning to learn in the evening to pray
to give sodaka to do to smile to another
person
somebody who is a guest who walks in
doesn't have a place to stay doesn't
doesn't know where to sit you come and
you open your hands you open your arms
to him
this is where the are guests this where
you have to make the
I want to end with This
we know one of the first people who did
as
son the Torah says that he made a big
mistake.
He did a big mistake that he went and he
switched his father's beds.
He was his bed, his father's bed was
supposed to be in the tent of zila and
he took it out and put it in the tent of
the Rama writes explanation to this
whole passage in the Torah.
He says that Bilha
Zil sorry was supposed to have two more
tribes within
but got involved. He said, "What do you
mean Rael passed away now the bed has to
be in my mother's tent?"
Saw that it's not working out that all
of a sudden his bed is getting switched
from Shamim somewhere else. He says,
"You know what? I'm not supposed to have
these tribes. I guess not." And he
didn't have them. Ended up being his son
Ysef had the two more tribes he was
supposed to have. But the Torah
considers it as if Ruven slept with his
father's wife
because he got involved and he stuck his
nose in his father's business.
All his life Ruven was doing to Shuva.
Then the first person who accepted to
Shua
for the sale of Ysef was Ruven.
But what happened in the sale of Ysef?
The Balto say that really Ysef wasn't
sold by the brothers. There was Mitim,
there was Midianim, there was
the Balto say that they went to the pit
after and convinced them to change their
ways and to do the shan.
They went to the pit to take out Ysef
and what did they see? Ysef was gone.
The goim took him out of the pit and
they sold him. They took possession of
him already.
We see from here two things are bai.
The main touva we have to do the shuva
for is being too smart for our own good.
[Music]
Being a smarty pants
ruven thought he knew better.
You know many times I convinced somebody
to say
what did I tell them? I said, "Come say
Rabbi, I'm busy right now. I don't have
time." I said, "Kabibi, it's gula."
Oh,
he came to me afterwards. He said,
"Rabbi, if I say it twice, it's bigger
as gula."
We think that we know how to run our
lives and how to get success and wealth
and health and happiness,
but all we really needed is a mitzvot
and to be close to Hashem.
How many times I said to somebody,
"Listen, if I would have a prayer
written by the Baba Ali, would you read
it every day for 40 days?" Of course,
Rabbi. I said, "Even better. If I have a
goula from the Rambam, my man Rambam, he
writes usually he doesn't write school.
He wrote a school. Rabbi, I'll pay money
for this."
I say, "Even better. I have a special
prayer written by Abraham Ainu in the
back of over there. a special prayer you
say
wey
rabbi say no more
so how I said how come
you don't drop everything and do this
goolah hashem asks us it's called a
mitzvot
himself tells us a very powerful called
and mitzvot
we have to recap ourselves reconfigurate
ourselves.
But what do we see from the sale of
Ysef? According to the Balot,
they wanted to do
but they missed the opportunity to when
they came to the pit, Ysef was not there
anymore.
Mashenu, he didn't want to look by the
burning bush. And later the says when
Mosherenu asked Hashem, "Let me see your
face."
Hashem says when I wanted you didn't
want to look now when you want I don't
want
[Music]
shalom. We have to answer why we didn't
do tusha yesterday. Why only today?
We have to ask ourselves that question.
I'll end with a story from of Nissim
Gaon.
There's a story of Niss Gaon.
He wasn't so known in this area that he
was staying by. He was hosted by
somebody.
They hosted him. He thought he was a
nice rabbi visiting from, you know.
So he stayed Shabbat. He stayed at the
he beautiful
Shabbat
all over students came to the place
and they were kissing his hand and
serving the rabbi bringing him whatever
he needs.
And this guy who hosted him was shocked.
He says, "Who is this rabbi?" He says,
"You should be embarrassed. You don't
know what this is.
Who is he?" Oh, he's the door. You don't
understand.
The guy turned white. He went on the
floor. He was kissing the rabbi's feet.
He's saying
and go and started crying.
He said, "I made the rabbi so upset.
Look, he's crying. He's so upset." He
says, "No." He picked him up. He kissed
him on his head and he told him, "No,
no, no. I I'm not upset at you at all.
You don't have to ask me." So, why is
the rabbi crying? He says, "Cuz you gave
me the biggest mous in my life." He
says, "Which mous I gave you, Rabbi? I
offended you."
He says, "You didn't know who I was, and
now you know who I am. You feel bad how
you treated me.
I should ask myself compared to how I
know Hashem today and how I used to know
him yesterday. How much does Shiva have
to do? How much I know Hashem now and
how I didn't serve him like how I serve
him today. All these years with
everything I know now. How did I not
serve him better before?
I'm so religious now. I know more Torah,
more mitzvot. I have so much to make up.
Let us come
and this in yumipur.
Hashem is giving us a no-brainer called
to shuva. Let us take it. Let us embrace
it
that lasts not just till the yonipur in
the day after from this.
What do we say?
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Hashem will see our tishua. He'll write
us in the book of life, in the book of
health, in the book of wealth.
He will accept our tishua and bring us
the
Amen.
[Applause]
Thank you Hazakura Bazino for your
powerful powerful words. Of course once
again I want to thank Beth Capri for
partnering together on this beautiful
beautiful Kush Hashem or Hashem in the
new banquet hall right here at Beth
Capriel. And we're our next speaker is
Rabbi Elamrov. And um I think to give
introductory remarks. Um we could say
that always around this time of year we
always read
and par
it says that standing before you today
are
your heads of of the tribes. So it says
um your heads your tribes. So Ra Mosha
Feinste has a famous question. He said
really it should say the heads of your
tribes. Why does it say your heads your
tribes? He says that cuz usually a
person thinks that in order to make a
difference in the community they have to
have a certain position in the
community. They have to be the CEO. They
have to be a rabbi. They have to have a
certain title in the community in the
sh. But of course the the the Torah is
Hashem is telling us that that every
single person has to say what are they
going to do for the new year to take
upon himself to do something more in
their organization in the community and
Rohashem a rabbi is doing so much in the
community director of Kazak one of the
rabbis over over here at Bethra You
allow me up seat though.
Wow.
I always tell people
that when you're doing something good,
the puts up a good fight. You know, be
has been doing so much for the community
from the sh to the mikvah for men, for
women, the dishes mikvah, the yeshivot
and the was interfering at the new
building.
Today we're sitting here. We're getting
a little bit of the feeling of what
we're going to have very very soon.
And when we have the new building, we'll
get a little bit of what is going to be
like.
I want to thank obviously the organizers
tonight.
You know, you got to have an engine
behind every cause. So, obviously,
Robbie, God bless you. Milana, you and
your brother Frian, God bless you. Very
much.
The three of you should find your this
year. I meant,
>> you know, I'll be honest with you.
Anytime I see a flyer that says
concert
or a flyer that says
a musical,
it really gets me very nervous.
It gets me very agitated sometimes. And
I'll tell you why.
You know means that we ask for
forgiveness.
We do introspection.
And sometimes what happens is instead of
doing we have like a form of
entertainment.
The only thing that's missing is some
popcorn and a large uh bottle of Coke
for every single person.
And people are sitting, they're
chilling, they're having a good time.
When we put this together, I said,
"Listen,
we got to have with
we got to make sure we have a lot of
And we got to make sure that the
audience understands we're not here for
entertainment. We're here to change.
So I'm going to share with you a few
minutes
and then we're going to all be inspired
by this. Inspired, not entertained,
inspired by this.
First things first,
you know it says,
what does that mean? When a lion roars,
who's not scared? Who's not in awe?
A lion, the king of the jungle is
roaring. Everyone is scared.
There's a message behind this puk, a
secret message. What's that message? You
look at the word. How do you spell it?
>> Alf.
What? The guys don't know how to spell.
What's going on over here? Hey. The
women are saying it correctly. Alf. Yud.
Hey.
Says alf stands for
alul.
race is what
you is what
and
the message is when you reach this time
of year
who's not scared who's not in awe
this is what the rabbis tell us so
ladies and gentlemen I have a question
for you the rabbis are telling is who's
not scared of
I'm asking you who is scared
honestly all the guys sitting here when
you got to sh
and you went
put on your suit you look in the mirror
what are you thinking about
you know if there's two more guys like
me would have been here already
you know is anyone thinking wow I'm
about to be judged is anyone in awe is
anyone sitting there saying wow life and
Death is in front of us. I'm telling you
very little people.
The question is why are we not in fear?
If everything that happened last year
was determined last year,
why are we not a little bit worried
about the upcoming year? Why are we so
chilled?
So, I want to share with you an idea
that many rabbis talk about, but I'm
going to try to make it as simple as
possible.
Anyone
here has been to a zoo recently?
I don't mean that you visit your in-laws
for a real zoo. You've been to the zoo
Shiman anytime.
I used to love going to zoo as a child
and even as an adult I like going to the
zoo. You see the creation of Hashem.
It's beautiful. Unbelievable. All the
animals.
Now let me ask you a question.
When you see the lion in the zoo, are
you scared? Imagine
a lion is walking around roaring. Are
you shivering? Are you are you
trembling?
>> No.
>> What do most of us do? We take a nice
selfie. We send it to our friends. So
there's zero fear. Why are we not scared
of? You know why?
Because
there's a cage
that is separating you from that lion.
As long as there's a cage, you feel very
chilled.
You're not worried.
But what happens if you're standing
there and suddenly the cage starts going
up?
>> Now what are you doing?
Now suddenly you're running for your
life. You realize that something serious
is happening here.
Ladies and gentlemen, I want you to
understand
we're in the month of already finished
already started almost
who's not scared. Tell us. You know why
we're not scared? Cuz every single one
of us has a cage separating us from that
reality that we're being judged.
>> There's a distraction. There's something
telling us, "Don't worry, nothing's
happening.
And everyone has his own distraction.
Some people it's money, some people it's
honor, some people it's pleasures. But
I'll tell you what most people have as a
distraction.
I'm going to ask if anyone in the
audience has a phone. Anyone has a phone
over here?
>> If you could take out your phone for a
minute, please. I know Rabbi usually
doesn't say take out a phone during
Listen, take out your phone for a
moment. You have it out. I'm going to
use you as an example, please. If you
don't mind,
>> you sure? You sure you want to be the
guy in the
>> Quran?
Listen, take out your phone, go to
settings,
go to settings for a second,
go to screen time,
and let us know what you see over there.
>> You want to come to the front?
>> Anyone wants to volunteer? Let's go.
What do you see over there?
>> Not Shabbat. Okay. Shabbat. You're
>> listen. You're about to change it in 30
seconds.
>> Oh, no. I'm saying which one is it?
>> Screen mode.
>> Screen sit screen time.
>> Screen.
>> Okay. Any other volunteers here that
have more simple phones over here?
>> Yes. What do you have? Anybody else? Who
wants to volunteer? Let's go. What's
your screen time an average day?
>> Abutai. I did this with someone. Oh, you
have it. Sadik. Very good. Where does it
say?
>> Where's the screen time?
>> Right there. This is for the week.
>> How much?
>> 5 hours a day.
>> 5 hours and 28 minutes a day. How much
do you sleep a day?
>> Seven.
>> Seven. That means we 12 hours 20. Half
the day is already gone
>> from sleeping in his phone.
>> And we had two days yum last week.
>> Two days yto. Helped keep the number a
little lower. the average
>> and Shabbat.
>> Yeah.
>> Okay. So, it's much more than 5 hours
and 28 minutes.
[Applause]
>> I'll give you credit for being a man
about this.
>> But I'll tell you one thing, ladies and
gentlemen,
I want you to realize
all of us
don't realize how much time we are
wasting on the phone.
If you want to know what the cage is
between you and judgment day, between
you and your husband, you and your wife,
you and your children, you and your
parents,
it's your phone.
Most of the people don't realize how
they're losing life
because they feel like they have to
follow every news story because it'll
make a difference and watch every video.
We're we're losing our life. The phone
is connecting us to the whole world.
But we're not connected to the people
closest to us.
You know, they say there's a husband and
wife sitting on their couch.
The wife sneezes and the husband text
her, "Bless you."
It's a joke, but it's a reality. How
many times things take place in your
house, you don't even realize it.
Your wife needs help, the husband needs
help, the kids are this, your parents
are that, but you don't realize. You
know why? because we're glued to the
phone.
So if I would give you one suggestion
tonight,
it would be to take upon yourself
that
I'm going to be in control of my phone,
not my phone in control of me.
One more time, take upon yourself that
you will be in control of your phone and
the phone will not be in control of you.
If you do this, you're going to have a
beautiful year ahead of you. So now,
with that being said, Rauai,
with that being said, I'll give you a
small tip.
Just to get rid of your phone is very
difficult.
I told the guys here at Big Gabriel and
Shabbat,
the following parable.
We'll end off with this.
You know, anyone still in school over
here?
>> Yes. You're still in school, Sadik. What
grade are you in?
>> 10th. 10th grade.
>> You know, in every school, you have the
class genius,
you had the class bully, you had the
class nerd, the class this, class that,
right? So, one time there was a story of
a young boy that mis everyone used to
bully him.
That was like the mean. Everyone bully
this boy.
So one time the bully comes over to the
boy with two other kids and he puts in
front of him, listen carefully, he puts
in front of him a $100 bill,
two $50 bills and five $1 bills.
And the bully and his two friends tell
that other kid, "No, what do you
choose?"
And the kid looks at the 100. He starts
analyzing. He puts it down. He looks at
the 250s, puts it down. He looks at the
five singles like, "I want the five
singles, and everyone starts laughing at
him."
The next day, you do the same exact
thing. $100 bill, 250s, five ones. No.
What do you want with a different group
of kids? He takes the $5 again. He does
this for a week, for a month, for two
months. Basically, the whole class is
laughing at him. Every day it's a new
group of kids doing the same same trick
on him in front of new friends.
Someone comes to him and says, "Tammy,
don't you realize they're embarrassing
you? Don't you realize they're making a
mockery out of you? Take the $100 bill.
Why do you keep taking the five
singles?"
Listen what the boy said.
He said, "You know, if I take that $100
bill, you know what they're going to do?
They'll take it right away. They won't
let me keep it. So every day I take that
$5 from them. They're laughing at me,
but they don't realize three months I'm
doing this, I already made $450.
So who's laughing at who?
You know, when you try to do too much in
life, you're going to lose it. So if I
could give you one tip when it comes to
your phone,
accept upon yourself tonight. You know,
some people their phone is attached to
their hand. I think it it grew into
their hand. They wake up in the morning,
first thing they do is what? Check the
status, check their email, check their
stocks. Tell yourself from now on, you
will not check your phone until after
Rabbi, it's too much until after
the morning blessings.
Tell yourself from now on
when I sit with my spouse, with my kids,
with my family, with my parents, no
phone for the first 30 minutes.
30 minutes, put it away. From now on,
you walk into shul.
I'm not going to have my phone period
during shul. You're talking to Hashem.
And lastly, you're making yourself a
deadline of when you have to turn it off
every night. You know, the phone is so
powerful. You don't you say, "Let me
watch 10-minute 10-minute video." That's
it. This happens at 10:42 p.m. Then when
you finish at 10:52, a new video pops
up. Oh, this is good. This is good.
Another 14 minutes. You're done with
that. Another 32 minutes. Next thing you
know, it's 2:17 a.m.
It happens to hundreds upon hundreds of
people in our community every single
night. Not just single guys and girls,
married people as well.
We've become addicted. It's separating
us from Hashem, separating us from our
families. It's destroying our lives.
One message I tell you,
take control of your life. Starting now,
starting tonight, we're going to have in
a few minutes. Pay attention to the
words. Pray this. Don't be busy with
your phones. Connect to
learn how to connect. When you're
connected, you're going to see
tremendous. I want to end off
to every single person of year. Hashem
should bless you with
it should be a year of tremendous
success, physical health, spiritual
health and should grant all of us all
our
very very soon to be in
a
Tonight of course
our families of
I want to first take this opportunity to
say thank you for
I want to take this opportunity to say
thank you to Kazak to Rabbi
Rabino
Thank you to to the vice president.
This should be they start home and they
start all over.
I'm very proud to say that my wife is
here, my daughter
is here with all that beloved.
You know
is a day of appeal. We appeal to
and what we say
people say 12 times.
We ask Hashem please all the look they
should stay upstairs. They should not
come down and unbelievable
the tilot and the prayers that everybody
came on behalf of myself, my wife, my
daughter. Thank you. Thank you, Hashem.
Thank you.
You know
when we met when I met the president of
Armenia I told him I'm going to teach
you three Hebrew letters.
He speaks very well.
So he asked me
so I tell him this is the
I told him something else. You see you
see how I came. I told them I need
Bkari. I am proud Bkari.
We're not ashamed. We should not be
ashamed. We should be proud. We should
be very proud that we have such a
outpour. And this is the testament to
us. May Hashem write all of us in the
life of
the
everybody should come home. foreign.
Amen.