Rabbi YY Jacobson With Teenagers #4: Ask Tough Questions; Get Real Answers

the yeshiva dotnet I want to welcome everybody who's here with us this evening all of the teenagers for our special program in which you can ask your real questions tough questions and we'll try to give real answers let me begin with a story it's a story about the Sevilla River his name was Gedaliah Moshe Goldman he was a son of the famous slam Eclipse taps link as Villa Seville is a city in the Ukraine and Gedaliah moisture goldman was a rabbi in the city of seville in ukraine under the communist regime because he was accused of counter-revolutionary activities as they were called against the Communist Soviet Union he was given a sentence of seven years in the gulag seven years of hard slave labor in Siberia for millions of people that spelled a death sentence because of the harsh conditions the unbearable conditions the cold and the frost of Siberia is indescribable some places it can get 70 below zero and seven years there with not much food than nutrition and accommodations and the constant endless labor and the horrible treatment that you got as a prisoner in Siberia plus the diseases and the epidemics that spread in those places made sure that most of the prisoners did not come out alive and thus Joseph Stalin the infamous leader of the Soviet Union managed in the 30 years of his reign of terror from 1923 till 1953 though I purim around poram 1953 March 1953 he managed to kill anywhere between 20 and 5 the million people they don't even know the exact numbers were you dealing with tens of millions of people rabbi Goldman this Villa Rama was exiled to Siberia for seven years and finally the great day arrived he and another Jew on elderly Jew who was also in Siberia were summoned to the natural mechanics Alec was like the the one who the overseer the boss in his makeshift office in the gulag he was in charge on what's happening with the prisoners and the man turned the notch Alec this officer this Russian officer turned to these two Jews does Valeri Bure he wasn't then this villa Rebbe but his father was still alive but he was the ROVs will and the other elderly Jew who was a secular Jew and he says I have good news for you the day of your liberation has arrived you're free to leave Siberia and go home imagine here here are the papers sign the papers so you can leave and have Gedaliah moisture goldman from seville says to the officer he says i'm sorry but i can't sign Shabbos Shabbos today I can't sign he's thinking to himself you're allowed to violate Shabbos to save a life but I'm more or less fine I'm not sick I survived seven years I'll be able to survive one way I'm not going to violate the Shabbos he was a holy very holy Jew the man was perplexed and shocked what you could leave this place he says I know and I thank you but today is Shabbos and I do not write on Shabbos I'll stay here won't where he says if you don't sign now you will not get out of this place this is your day of liberation he thinks to himself can get himself to write on Shabbos he's whenever God wants to happen to me will happen to me but I'm not violating the shoppers I'm not breaking shoppers even in superior he felt he doesn't want to break a shop this doesn't want to lose his identity in that sense he remained a free man now the knock sound they gave the papers to the second Jew who wasn't a very religious Jew and certainly had every excuse in the world to be able to sign in on Shabbos and get out of that Siberian purgatory but this Jew seeing the sacrifice of the ROVs will replicate dahlia moisture goldman he he couldn't get himself to sign like he felt it would be a spit in the face of the rubber ville if he signs and leaves he just couldn't get himself to sign so out of respect despite the crazy circumstances this elderly drew said oh I also can sign today it's our holy day of Shabbos God said that on Shabbos we rest we don't sign as this officer is looking at both of these people though they fell off from the moon they robbed of a Sevilla of Goldman turns to the officer and says I can sign for myself because I don't think it's a matter of life and death and we're only a lot of violate job as if it's a matter of life and death I can survive here longer but this June I don't think he can survive here I will sign the papers for him for him I could sign the papers and let him go free I will do his signature in front of him so he can go free the officer was so taken aback by this he looks at both of them and he says you know what I will sign for both of you and you can go free and that's indeed what happened years later he came Terry to stroll he came to the Holy Land and after his father passing in 1945 I think often hey he succeeded his father as the fifth I think the fifth raba of of seville there was a late 1940s when his father passed away story number one i want to share with you another story my dearest friends teenagers from all over the world who are with us i heard this story from a man named rabbi JJ chapter xi shooters with me directly personally he heard it from the man had happened with a fellow in israel by the name of rea l dot R al that has an interesting job he travels as you know in Israel most high schools after the graduating year most of the students move on and have to go to the army and serve in the Army in the IDF sau for three years and it's not easy it's not an easy transition you just graduated high school you know it's still a young pretty pretty young guy so in America you move on but in Israel most of the high schools you go you get drafted to the army re al Dodd has a very interesting job he goes from high school to high school and he spends time with the seniors with the graduating class to help prepare them for this major emotional and practical and psychological transition from a life you know in their homes more or less burden free and stress-free good teenagers and off to the army it's not an easy transition and this is what he's been doing for years he speaks to the students and he for brings with them and he answers their questions and he he takes them out and they visit different places this is his job his vocation Eldad are Yale that shared his story with Rabbi Jay Jay shefte who shared it with yours truly this is one particular class in a particular high school I was having a very difficult time these kids were just very very not interested and I couldn't blame them they were tough they were oblivious they were apathetic they were indifferent and it was just a very difficult situation and I couldn't get that couldn't get anywhere you know his job is to inspire within these children mostly from secular Jewish families the historic rights of the Jewish people to the Land of Israel the fact that today there are millions of Jews they don't need to be protected the fact that it's protected through Jewish children who put their life on the line you know he speaks about previous soldiers and their sacrifices and the life that they're going to live for the next three years now the last day he usually takes the kids out you know they go different places he shows them things the last day usually he takes them to Mount Herzl Herzl New Jerusalem we're so many soldiers who died in the previous wars in Israel are buried he said I'm this particular class which was very difficult and he took them around different places in Israel and then the last day to go to Mount Herzl and over there there's a section for soldiers who were killed during each war there was the war of 1948 there's the war of 1956 there was a six-day war of 1967 the Kippur War of 1973 Lebanon War the first Lebanon war of 1982 and so on and so forth including the recent Gaza conflict during the last few years and it has a sign over there the soldiers of this battle that battle that battle and the first group is 1948 option tests this was known as the war of independence which began after the United Nations allowed the Jews to create a state the Arabs began a war against the Jewish people in Israel and later when they established a state the war accelerated 6,000 Jews were killed in that war which was a huge number there were only 600,000 Jews living in Israel at the time most of people who were killed were Holocaust survivors this went on through the end of 47 1948 and part of 1949 told the war of independence there were I think seven or eight Arab armies who besieged Israel and promised that it would be completely obliterated and annihilated but great miracles happen despite the terrible terrible loss the fact is that the Jewish people can emerge from this absolute decree of annihilation they wanted another Ash was there and could continue living the semi-normal there and allow all the refugees to come and all the Holocaust survivors to settle and Jews who had to leave all the other Arab countries could find the home they're going through the graves of the soldiers buried in 1948 and of course every tombstone has you know the name the first name the last name the day he was killed sometimes details where the war happened the platoon the name of the group that fought it brings them to a grave and on the grave on them at save on a tombstone you have the date of the battle the date the York side the day that this particular soldier was killed it also specifies at the location where he was killed and the name of the platoon the name of the group of soldiers which he belonged to but there's no first lemon there's no last name instead it says plain it man L my knee here is buried the anonymous figure and the boy is look at Rea and say what's going on they won't have a name and he tells them the story this kid the soldier was a survivor of the Holocaust he was in the death camps he lost his entire family after the Holocaust somehow he made illegal alia to Eretz Israel to Israel it was then called Palestine under the British Mandate he way made one of these illegal ships he got up to the country and and when he landed the war has began the war was already the war of independence was already raging you know what happened they gave this young man a gun and they said we meet you to fight and he joined a platoon that was fighting near Jerusalem and the neck is day he and 69 other young soldiers fell in battle and they performed the funerals and they buried them when they came to his they realized a tragedy they didn't know was me there's no records of him they didn't know his first in the nose lastly there was no family or friends to escort him his family was murdered in the Holocaust the only ones who probably would have known his name were the group of soldiers he was serving with but they were all killed 69 of them were killed and that happens to be that nobody was present who knew this boy's name so they knew the date that he died they knew where he died and they knew the battle in which he died and the name of the platoon but that's it so therefore the tombstone it says point Littman al merini the anonymous one and these kids erases were visibly moved the story penetrated them and they turned to re l down and they said who says Kaddish for this boy who gives charity for him who remembers him who says yes cure for him whoever mentions his name in re l dot says nobody mentions his name nobody knows his name nobody says his cure for him nobody remembers him nobody does anything for him we don't know who he is but today we come to his grave they were very very moved and are you used this opportunity to share with them the story of the Jewish people who emerged from the holocaust literally from the ashes and an an incredible experience rebuilt Jewish life rebuilt the Jewish homeland and rebuilt Jewish life all over the world and about these people these young people who sacrifice everything they have to protect their brothers and sisters millions of them living in their eternal promised land the children there weren't children they were teenagers I'm calling them children I guess everything is relative we're very very affected this was the last day and life moved on and soon they graduated and they were drafted into the Israeli army our real dad says almost a year passes he gets a call from one of the boys in this group said ah remember us yeah of course this was the group then he took last year around Israel trying to inspire them wasn't as easy job but he took it about Herzl and they say you know IRA we have unbelievable news for you this is what's the news did you remember the grave of that kid of that soldier who we visited last year and it said on there are many anonymous of course I remember it's not the first time I went I go there very very often with the boys of my school I want to show them what's happening they says you know what hey today is the earth set on the tombstone you have the earth said today is his yard site he says wow I didn't realize what's going on while you calling me and they say in Hebrew matzah no Himesh bhai shallow we found his family he thought they were crazy they were in the army but they maybe lost their mind what didn't you found his family how do you search for his family when you don't have a name you don't have a picture you don't have ID papers you have nothing you have a grave they couldn't even do today you have DNA testing but they couldn't even do DNA testing cuz who are they supposed to match it up with you have the DNA who do you match it up with every single Jew in Israel every single drew in America every single Jew in England the South would imagine up with he says what are you talking with a said we found his family we found mots an Amish Makhachkala and because today's the Yard said the family is going to the grave to say Kaddish to learn Mathias for his memory to give sadaqa for his memory and to davon for his soul for his neshama on this special day and if you want you're welcome to come and join the family he was so curious he was perplexed this did not make sense to him gets into the car drives to Mount Herzl to go visit the family of mr. anonymous wandering in his mind it's been 70 years since this young man was buried as this young man was killed while kiddush Hashem protecting the Jewish people in areas so 70 years whether you find family after 70 years of course as it comes to the grave who's there he sees all the boys all the boys are year before they were all there as he looked at them with tears in their eyes they said Rea what's a new Hamish bahasa law I'm not no Hamish Behar Shalom we found this family we are his family a man we are his family he said they continued to commemorate this young soldiers yard site every single year both these stories left such a profound impact on me different circumstances different people different situations but the words of those young teenagers who said are not no Hamish Manjula we found his family we are his family Wow and I say this to you because you are same age of these young men a little older a little younger and one of the most powerful resources we have is each other I'm not new Hamish mahashiv oh we are all family yes we may be physically distant but spiritually we're one yes some of us are actually family biologically and some of us are not family but first of all if you go back long enough we're all family and even if you don't go by long enough spiritually emotionally historically culturally religiously we're family miss fauna and I want you to remember that we're not just isolated people you know living on the surface as a blimp on on surface of infinity everybody struggling to survive and be happy and find your own comfort that's part of it but as Hillel said it may not mean leave melee if I'm not here for me who will be here for me but to a shiny lots me mommy but if I'm only for myself then Who am I you are part of a golden chain that continues thousands of years and these are not only words it's so vital to be able to experience this to be able to breathe this to be able to appreciate in your bones with every fiber of your being how you are part of this grand cosmic symphony called kanessa sister all that we are all family a family that has dedicated its entire mission to change the world to make it a world that's worthy of redemption to transform the landscape of planet Earth to make it a place of goodness of kindness of holiness of purity a nation that has been dedicated and defined itself and was chosen to be ambassadors ambassadors of light and love and hope and healing and truth and honesty and redemption and each and every single one of you is part of this Mischka ha I'm not Amish pahala we're family and I want you always to know that that connection is real and that connection is authentic and you can rely and trust that connection and you become that connection for other people because it's this unity that allows us to sustain every hardship and every obstacle our resilience our courage our resolve and our strength come so much from the fact that we are all family we are all here for each other we're part of each other we may not always agree with each other family members don't always agree with each other in fact there's no fight like a family feud Oh yo yo yo yo that's why when Jews fight that's pretty nasty because when a family gets into a fight oh you don't want to be part of it but on the other hand we love each other like family we trust each other like family we have to support each other like family and it's not just with the Jews of this generation it's every Jew who lived from Ramallah Natoma Shia it's all one unit it's all one Misha it's all one family as the Gemara says in her ears I think that hey dub of Sybil I'm ace an individual can die the community never dies kilala Cyril doesn't die an individual person finishes his or her mission and passes away but the entity of the Jewish people the entity called I'm you sir L kanessa see stroke and they you saw that entity doesn't die how does a time as long as there's one Jew continues either kind of doesn't die so that means the same cloudiest role that was present at the feet of how Sina is the same cloudiest role present today tough shinpei 2020 amidst coronavirus is the same Jewish people the same Claudia storm it has her logic ramifications in terms of a carbon as the Gemara explains them but it's beyond the realm of this year so understand your power you're not just approaching life as an individual even though you're also an individual but you also approaching life as an agent as an ambassador as a representative and as one who perpetuates the body called the mesh bucker the family of Claudia saw from a Roma vino until mushiya that's who you are always remember that and maximize that potential see this identity in yourself my dearest friends and now let us go to the questions of you guys as usual there are quite a lot of questions and I think we have somebody from a Vienna let's start hi rabbi Jacobsen my name is avi Unga and from Vienna and my question is I wanted to ask everybody the physics to them but I mean I know but I don't know myself how do I know and that's that's a deep question that's a very deep question I'm gonna tell you a little story too to begin my answer the story I heard from the rabbi at Duke University his name is rabbi Zalman blooming and he shared with me that a professor in Duke University began his his lecture his semester he was a teacher of Hawaii is a teacher of philosophy so a number of years ago was like I think four or five years ago he opened up his philosophy lectures to all the students in Duke in his classroom he opened it up with a story about a hostel in Russia now this is Duke University an Ivy League university a very secular University and a liberal University and but this professor opens up the story the story of accosted in Russia and the story he says goes like this he says there was once a constant in Russia who was walking and a policeman stops and the policeman says okay man in Russian of course I want you to tell me number one who are you number two where are you coming from number three where are you going number four what is your vocation what do you do with your life these questions were normal questions a policeman could stop you anywhere in the Soviet Union and the man then answers in these questions and yeah the answer and also show documentation to prove it then if not you can end up not in a place where you want to end up these are the questions the cost of looks at the policeman he was a very sincere person authentic person and maybe you know his head was very very much of the heavens as well and he looks the policeman he says Wow Wow Wow I want to make a deal with you I'm gonna give you five ruble every day if you can come and ask me these questions on a daily basis Who am I where I come from where am I going and what am I doing with my life this is how the professor and Duke chose to begin his semester what a good question avi what a beautiful question Who am I where I come from where am I going what is my occupation in life and the answer of course is who are you you're a child of Hashem you're God's manifestation in this world you're a Haley Kelly commie mom you're a piece of beauty you're a piece of holiness you're a piece of goodness your soul is on a journey your body is a manifestation of your godliness and you're here to light up the world that's who you are where are you going you're going to that destination now you have to figure out how to get from point A to point B and what I would suggest to you is two things first of all listen to yourself spend time with yourself especially in Davin but components of quiet of meditation of reflection just allow yourself to listen to your innermost voice this is very important number to speak to some people who you trust maybe parents maybe relatives maybe a teacher maybe a therapist speak to one or two people or it could be a few people people who are a little older than you who are a little more experienced than you who can help you crystallize to you and identify more with help you identify more qualities about yourself and how you should cultivate your resources your gifts your talents and how to create a schedule for yourself that will help you get to the places you want to get a very important thing in this question my dear Alvey is this there's no Mitzvah to overanalyze yourself there was once a professor of anatomy and he was talking to his students for two hours about all of the muscles and the bones and the limbs and the arteries and the sinews and the digital and the nerves in the leg and at the end of the lecture nobody could stand up to walk because suddenly they realized how much effort it takes simply to stand up and take a single step when we become so aware of all of the details we sometimes get paralyzed so that's why Abbey it's important to answer this question but don't get overwhelmed with this question the most important thing is to live your life to walk not to sit and analyze the leg unless you go into medical school to figure out how the leg works and even then you have to still walk the most important thing in life is throw yourself into life it's not healthy to sit all day on the couch and analyze myself Who am I why am i when are my those questions are important address them you need time to address them but most of our lives must be occupied with walking with moving with doing the greatest experience of life comes through experiencing life and how do you experience life when you throw yourself into life throw yourself into projects that are important throw yourself into study that is productive hang out with people have friends reach out cultivate relationships get involved in life because the experience of life is the greatest teacher of what life is about avi thank you let's go to the next question if anybody wants to come on live feel free you can come to the yeshiva that net and you'll see on the video page you can ask a question and indicate that you want to go live and you can come live you can also email live at the yeshiva dotnet if you want to come live on the video or you can just text your questions on the page you see ask your question you can write your question on the page and we get it immediately or if you're on the phone you can text your questions to eight four five seven seven seven forty seven forty seven let me go now to the next question thank you very very much I see dozens and dozens and dozens of questions came in so let's try to do this okay hi asks I suffer from anxiety I have many fears and worries that I must confront on a daily basis during this virus these worries are obviously much greater is my worrying a lack of trust in Hashem how do I differentiate between anxiety as a result of mental illness and anxiety as a lack of trust in God Wow great great question hiya and here comes another question when the coronavirus started I felt so unsettled this is a question from Hannah everyone around me was nervous the government's were at a loss every single person in the world displayed their lack of security and vulnerability it was being absorbed by me the first thing I needed to do was watch a class of Rabbi why why Jacobson in my mind I thought if rabbi why displays any emotion of stress or anxiety then that's it I won't be able to handle it I will also be anxious I watched your class and you sat there radiating happiness and joy and I felt so relieved I was now assured that it was good and I was able to continue with serenity and tranquility please answer my question tell me what is the secret to your strength to your faith to your trust I also want to feel it all the time I desperately want to have tranquility Minahasa nefesh I want to be able to live a truly happy life can you recommend something practical that I could start to do to enable myself to genuinely be at peace with everything that happens in life complete and unwavering trust thank you for each one of your classes they have helped me so so much Wow Hana that's very moving very very moving and I thank you so so much and thank you tyre for your question and thank you all of the young men and young women who asked about this anxiety issue this is a very common question coming in and I would love to address it for a few moments I want to say this I don't think it's fear to tell somebody or to tell yourself that anxiety represents a lack of trust in God I don't think that's the case there is a concept called a person has anxiety despite their faith in God yes is it possible that some people's faith in God eliminates all over their anxiety of course that's the case but to feel guilty and to accuse yourself or to allow others to accuse you of lacking faith and trust in Hashem and muninn be talkin and that's why you have anxiety only comes from somebody who either doesn't understand what anxiety is or doesn't understand what trust in Hashem is and that's why I completely disagree with such an observation again trust in Hashem can help anxiety tremendous for some people that can eliminate anxiety but not necessarily sometimes anxiety is a very very serious condition a person has it despite their Emunah despite their trust despite their faith it does not eliminate all of the anxiety and it's very important to stop accusing yourself of not having faith because you have anxiety sometimes a person needs a therapist to deal with anxiety sometimes a person needs a different schedule to deal with anxiety sometimes a person needs somebody very good to talk to understands about anxiety to help them with their anxiety sometimes a person needs maybe vitamins or medicine to deal with their anxiety these are options that have to be explored and dealt with but only with a top top expert in this area and sometimes a person cannot eliminate their anxiety you know a trust in Hashem does trust in Hashem for some people can eliminate anxiety but for other people that does something else it means that Hashem is with you despite things already amidst anxiety that's what it means and the key truth about anxiety what I find is this at least one of the key truths about anxiety is you are not your anxiety you are not your anxiety you are larger than your anxiety you can notice your anxiety there is always an eye that can observe your anxiety because you are not synonymous with your anxiety my eye can contain my anxiety because it's larger than my anxiety my eye is divine my eye is infinite my eye is wholesome confident happy I can look at my anxiety I can observe it I can learn from it I once heard somebody speak about anxiety and he said something very powerful which was helpful he said you know when you're experiencing anxiety make sure that you create a time when you're gonna go meet your anxiety make an appointment with your anxiety maybe right now I can't I have to do something I have to meet somebody I have a project to do I have to finish something but make it time three o'clock tomorrow I'm going to have an appointment with my anxiety go meet it and sit down with it and don't blame it and don't get upset at it have a conversation with it ask your anxiety what are you telling me why are you anxious and let the conversation be very calm listen to your anxiety listen to it don't judge it don't repress it don't scream at it just listen to it in a very very calm and non-judgmental way and sometimes it's gonna be a process somebody even told me that they wrote down the conversation the anxiety answered and they answered back and the anxiety went a little deeper and they went a little deeper and anxiety went a little deeper and they went a little deeper and the anxiety went a little deeper and after an hour the anxiety told them you are just frightened of what people are going to think about you you're just frightened of what people are going to think about you Wow why am i frightened about what people are going to think about me and this person who did this told me I realized then that the anxiety was my friend the anxiety was really a message that was communicating to me love the anxiety was a Schieffer that was sounding an alarm and saying there's something misaligned about you there's something not wholesome about you you're involved in your life but there's something there's some belief that you're caring there is some story that you're telling yourself that is causing you not to be able to live life to the fullest not to be able to celebrate life not to be able to live life in the moment that anxiety is really it sounds like your enemy but it's really your friend it's your body telling you my dearest friend I love you so much and I want to alert you I literally want to alert you an alarm clock I want to wake you up to the fact that there's something at your core that's eating up with you and you know what you should deal with it and in that sense your anxiety can become a tremendous source of awareness of Education of self-development and of self-actualization can you always do this by yourself no but this is the message of anxiety in all of its manifestations so I repeat again it has nothing to do with your lack of trust in God it's important to notice your anxiety and not to identify with it as it being you make an appointment with your anxiety and learn from it and yes a relationship with God means that you know that you are not your anxiety and that the voice of anxiety does not capture your essence because my essence is wholesome and confident and powerful and invincible you know why because it's a manifestation of our Shem in this world so it's not anxious God is not anxious my core is not anxious what do we say every morning and daven inc °o° is versed verbum claimed in god's space to his confidence and there is joy when you're in a Shem space there is confidence and there is joy but we have other voices in us and those are the voices in us take us out of that space and tell us and put us in another space it's fine it's normal notice it learn from it grow from it and cut yourself some slack because sometimes it's not easy to get rid of that's at least part of a perspective to a pretty loaded and heavy question let's go to the next question if again anybody could write in their questions you could come to the Shiva net to our video ask a question if you want to go live as well you are welcome if you have a vada Livadia is asking this question if you have a not yet religious family member how can you try to bring them closer to Judaism if it's a family member it's very very important to develop a good and war relationship and the situation really varies about who this person is their nature your relationship with them usually when it comes to family it can get a little sticky because family is so close so it gets a little sticky depends how close you are to them I don't know you didn't specify but just a few things I'll mention the greatest thing is when you are a living example when you are a living example of what you describe can do for a person that can become a tremendous source of inspiration another idea is to invite this person to experience a shoppers with you and your family maybe to learn with somebody maybe invite them to a class or a lot of class or lecture maybe send them a book if they're interested in or a nice video that can inspire them you know try to engage them but from a place of non-judgmental ism and from a place of love do not get into arguments and fighting and who's gonna win and I'm right because usually especially with family even not with family that leads nowhere rabbi you have explained in many classes that ad our essence each one of us is a piece of God this is called an ephah shall I kiss you also explain that we have an animal soul that naturally pulls us away from doing the will of God because it's an animal my question is what do we call the I who experiences life who is listening to the class right now my godly soul oh my animal soul who is the one that chooses to be in flow with their godly soul with their animal saw who chooses who chooses the dates are it doesn't take control of the wheel in your famous example of the steering wheel who is the observer of both of them and who is the one that chooses another question is you often teach in your classes that everything is a manifestation of divine unity so that means there's no difference between the divine soul and the animal soul because everything is part of God's oneness even the animal so that is an absolutely great question excellent excellent question the answer to your question is given is the answer to a question is given by the some ascetic the grandson of the ballot Anja and he says that it's the conscious and perhaps also the unconscious mind which can observe distinct voices and emotions and vibrations in your psyche it's your conscious and unconscious mind which can observe the conflict going on in you one voice which maintains that I am separate from our son I am animalistic and another voice that maintains the idea and the awareness that I am part of infinity so if I remain open and inquisitive I can clearly hear the two voices and it then allows me to choose how to define my behavior my thoughts my words my actions minute by minute hour by hour day by day one day at a time choice can only come when there's an awareness of various alternatives so there is that I which he calls the nefesh a signal as the conscious or unconscious mind which can observe both and then make a choice between the two everything is ultimately part of God's unity but then animal soul is often called in Hasidic and cabbalistic texts and texts of Mooser a soul that comes from clipper which means a husk everything is part of God's unity the difference between the divine soul and animal soul is not if they are part of God's unity but how they experience themselves from their perspective the divine soul consciously experiences itself as an ambassador of a Shem in this world as a conduit for Hashem light love and compassion in this world and the animal so like an animal this clueless of that identity it's the truth of that identity but it has to be worked with you have to educate it and refine it and elevate it and sublimate it and that's what the Mishnah means in their ninth chapter of machetes brothers the hamsters are similar calibers olive oil missionaries I reckon you should love God with your entire heart with both of your inclinations how creates our love God I thought it's a bad inclination because it's not essentially bad and evil it's called an animal consciousness it can become a monster an animal if it's not tame they can really really become undomesticated and pretty aggressive and wild but essentially it's about education and when we educate the animal soul we can even sublimate it and elevate it and refine it like you elevate then you're refining you inspire a child if a child is uneducated you don't teach a child right from wrong if you don't teach your child values if you don't teach a child into certain things you don't do you have to discipline yourself he can grow up to be a monster that's why she milk is so important but education is not here to destroy the child it's here to cultivate the values the the diamond at the core of the child sometimes the child will follow you begrudging lee at some point the child will follow you with enthusiasm eagerly and passion and these are the processes in which we can elevate our animals soul I love love loved your question that's that's a great question let's go to the next question I always heard and learnt a girl from London a girl from London welcomed Europe I always heard and learned that God only gives challenges to a person if he can overcome them but if this is true what about will the people who go away from the Jewish path they were obviously in so much pain and they have so much anger and they couldn't overcome their challenges this means that God gave them a challenge that they could not deal with the pain was overbearing and therefore they ran away from Judaism so it's not true that everybody could overcome the challenge it's certainly not black and white and another young woman another girl says I also don't relate to this obviously there are people who cannot deal with what they're given and this is a very important question that this has been on my mind since seventh grade when my teacher taught this to me wow you guys are asking great great questions I love you wonderful questions all of you so let me share this with you you know Bill Phillips famous words to the Jewish people he says my type we say it every morning my toy AVO oil FA Yaakov right Michigan s at least oh how good are the tents of Yaakov member trockie says shame pissed and Mozgov on and zenigata's air bill um observed there interesting fact that the opening to Jewish tents never paralleled each other which means when I looked out from my opening from my door I can never see what's going on inside inside your opening because they were not parallel to each other so from my tent I couldn't see what's going on in yours on one level it's about modesty about sensitivity about respect about the fact that there's something called privacy but there is also another message here and that is statements like this God gives a person only what he or she can handle are designated for you to say to yourself and for me to say to myself not to figure out what is happening in somebody else's life every person has their own journey you and I will never never be able to experience what other people are going through in their life I must tell myself if I'm having a challenge if God gave me the challenge he also gave me the resources to be able to confront the challenge and allow me to emerge from it wiser deeper and more blessed if you're going through a challenge my job is not to come to you and say oh by the way let me just tell you something you can go through this challenge my job is to be here for you to support you in any way I can and not to be there and share with you objectively by the way don't be so spoiled you can go through this challenge yes I believe in it and I want to support you in this but my job is to help you in your journey help you in your process in the best way that I can do that's number one number two we never understand as I said the journey of other people and what they're going through and why they have to go through what they're going through it's very very mysterious I'm going to quote to you a gray Jewish philosopher who lived in the 11th century in Spain as name was a rich Lima he'd been Kabir oh he was a great poet and he has a beautiful poem and he says I'm quoting one line he says we run away from you towards you we run away from you going towards you what did he mean he means that a Jew even when he or she runs away from a sham is really running towards Usha it's like when your children when children are running away from their parents only for one purpose right so that he should chase after him or her they're running away from a son but they're really running towards Hashem it's a very very deep statement or let me call the great Sadiq the holier beast role of religion if we stole the vision once said this is quite a daring statement he said when I eat to the Nevaeh when a Jew does ascend really what he's doing he's creating a new a new path Tasha I'm off the beaten track meaning there is a certain path where we go to a Shem there's a path it's called the path of tyre in the path of mitzvahs it's like the highway sometimes a Jew says I'm not going on the highway I'm going into the forest right and it's not actually you can't get through this is when a Jew sins he's really creating a new unprecedented path fashion of the beaten track why because the gomorrah says in yuma page 86 stuff pave over midbass that when a drew dust rover out of love the sins become mitzvos so the sin is the beginning of a process that's going to lead him or her to chuhwa and then the very sin gonna retro actively be transformed into a mitzvah what is my point my point is we never understand the journey of a soul our job is to be here for every soul to the best we can sometimes they make unbelievable decisions that seem wonderful sometimes they make very painful decisions and they're going off the beaten track but remember their soul is on a journey and softest of ultimately lead a human who neither no soul is forever cast away it may go through many winding roads and pathways some of them very painful some of them very difficult but remember you read it sir Holly ultimately every descent becomes the springboard for an ascent and every journey even if it's over the beaten track a Jewish soul ultimately turned that journey into a new path for God questions let us go back to the questions and there are many many of them if you want to go live as you come in and ask your question you can indicate that you want to go live on the issue with that net if you come into the page and you see ask a question you can go to the Shiva that net the home page and over there there is the program with teenagers rabbi why why with teens and you'll see ask a question and over there you could check off the option that you want to come live and you can come live on video if you wish we have now dozens and dozens and dozens of questions it seems to me that there are around 150 questions here even though I didn't count but approximately okay so let's move on with more questions while these are these are good questions whoopsie whoopsie okay that was a mistake fine okay this is a question from Benjamin thank you being Ullman there is so much I don't know welcome to the club and so much to learn welcome to the club I know that there are basics I have to know that I just never get around to learning one day I'll hear a rabbi say it's important to review what you learn in class the next Dale here is speech about the importance to know all of the Tanakh and then I'll hear that you need to know ha ha ha then I'll hear that a certain book is a classic you have to learn it and so on and so on and so on if I do everything I and others feel I should know I'm gonna cover very very little how is it possible to probably prioritize and know what to spend my extra time learning that's a very very good question and the answer to your question is don't get overwhelmed remember the words of the Mishnah Loy Aleph are Malakal Edom are the lieth have been currently about the lament your job is not to finish everything on the other don't use that as an excuse not to begin whatever you learn the most important thing is that it should become part of their learning and the next day you're on to something else you already forgot what you learned yesterday the challenge I find is that a lot of people learn but because they never really mastered the material and understood it it doesn't stay with them so it's not a foundation it's a command you're building a foundation of the house but the foundation itself is weak you can't build on it you want to build on your learning the way you build on your learning is that whatever you learn you learn you make sure you understand it if you have to go slow go slow better to learn a little bit that you really get then to learn a lot that is just superficial and you just believe what it says in the texts so much better to be honest with who you are and learn a little bit based on your level of standing you know I'll be very frank with you there are boys in yeshiva they're learning tomorrow all day but really they never learned how to learn Matthias they don't know a Mishnah they're learning amore the learning Arashi they're learning toys Fister learning Marshawn my ram chief Rebecca Vega a battalion they don't know how to read the Mishnah they don't know the basics they don't know how to develop an idea from the beginning from the bottom all the way up some of them don't know how to read a pulse accomplished with Rashi so and I feel bad because they're deceiving themselves they want to fit into the culture but there's no success and the reason there's no success is like piss and my ramesses right but whatever they were building rashes is the Gemara says inside to whatever they were building was just crumbling so it's very important whatever you learn to learn in a slow way that you can internalize it and then you build on it and then slowly slowly you read us say for you learn another safer maybe you want to learn tomash every day you can also make times you could do 10 minutes a day this you can do a half an hour with this it's good to have diversity in your learning what I would suggest is you should always do the parsha of hummus with Rashi during the week so throughout the year you know how mission hopes shattered with Rashi that takes not a long time every day sunday due for mission to Shanee monday Shanee - lishi Tuesday sleazy - ravine that's a very good limb would you master Commission Rashi every single day it's very very important to learn spend a little time and I'll offset to know how low the Gemara that you learn make sure you understand it you internalize it if you have to go a little slower go slower and then others farm you want to learn some math you can make a time to learn come back but make times don't get overwhelmed what you learn learn slowly review it it's oh so important I would suggest to learn a safer that's inspirational that explores the spiritual and emotional relevance of Yiddish guides that I think is very important to make time every day to learn these are some suggestions I would give you my dear friend bin youngin all people have free will but we are kind of forced to try our best because otherwise were punished aren't how is it fear that God put us in the world without a choice okay very good question and now there's a question from Bret family this has been bothering me now I asked many people I never got an answer that satisfied me I was always told that we humans were created with the nature of making mistakes and there was no way to get around that Hashem doesn't want us to be perfect and he created us that way for a reason not to be perfect it sounds very nice but at the end of the day we are punished for the mistakes that we make how can I some accuse us of a nature that he put us in the nature of not being perfect yes we're trying to become better but we do fall on the way and we get punished for that I feel that it's unfair why are we punished for things that we don't choose to do because imperfection is part of who we are it's a great question Roselli and it's a great question to the other person who asked the question I think also be Naaman and the answer is I really don't see it that way I think you have to really change your paradigm of how you're looking at the relationship you have with Hashem Hashem loves you unlimitedly with out limits the Baal Shem Tov says that assemble loves every Jew more than a parent loves an only child who was born when they were older and they didn't expect to have a child you can imagine how deep the love is the love of our Shem to every single Jew is infinitely greater than that don't think of our Shemin terms Oh I created them and made them imperfect I gave them eh Zohar and now when they act out that imperfection I punish them what's the point unless you deal it dealing with a sadistic barbaric guard god forbid it how can anybody think of it in such terms the whole idea doesn't make sense you have to appreciate that all of you disguise is about Hashem infinite love for you God giving you an opportunity to live life to the fullest the gift to maximize your life physically emotionally psychologically socially and spiritually of course imperfection is part of the human condition and who's punished for imperfection that concept is doesn't completely not exist of course you're not punished for imperfection in fact its imperfection that makes you so beautiful that's exactly why a chef loves you because your imperfection not despite your imperfection remember God is perfect he's not looking for perfection he got himself for perfection before the world was created there was all profession and even after the world is created you have all the angel screaming kadosh kadosh kadosh they're perfect they're impeccable they're pre-programmed spiritual saintly computers they're called hayasaka - holy animals - scream kadosh kadosh kadosh you know I have sham loves you because of your imperfection because of my imperfection because the fact that we are the manifestation of God in finiteness so there is room for growth infinity absolute perfection can grow it's just perfect it's perfect that's wonderful there's no growth how does Hashem experience growth Shem experiences growth through you through me through us because we are the peace of God that's manifested in a body in a physical world we have conflict with conflicts we have various cravings and habits and addictions we deal with trauma we deal with issues and yet we confront our darkness and we transform it into light that's called transformation that's old growth this is why God loves you so I want you to look at your imperfections completely differently don't look at your imperfections as a reason that God is going to punish you that does not exist that does not even make sense on any level it's your imperfections that make you so special it's what makes you unique it's why Hashem wants a relationship with you that you could look at your imperfections and grow from them and learn from them and that's why the meddler says that chuva proceed the universe Truvada mama eylem in the beginning of various why doesn't sugar come for sin how can sugar proceed the universe the answer is Hashem made the world in a way that people can make mistakes why would he do this I make you in a way that you could make mistakes Oh wonderful is this how even a normal mother would think about her child imagine you tell your child to do a chore in the kitchen a task and you know that probably 90% they won't be able to do it and then you could punish them you can take away all their privileges you could take away all their treats what would you call such a mother you know what you would call such a mother why are you attributing such qualities - who conceived you in love it's completely different Hashem knows that we fail and failure is essential to the journey of growth next time you fail look at your failure as what makes you special when you learn from it when you grow from it raelly this is very very important thank you for your question Martha side of from Manchester welcome Manchester can we have a brief explanation what was the sin of the students of herby Akiva the Gomora says in the obamas that the students of her bacteria died between paces and slowest and because the death was because they didn't respect each other obviously wasn't a simple case of disrespect how did there be Akiva not pick up on their behavior and educate them accordingly wonderful question I saw a few teenagers asked this question which means we should address it so let me address this question and I'll do it briefly you know the interesting thing of course is right that the students of rebecky had died from a pandemic and the name of this pandemic is called Oskar oh it's mentioned in my Cetacea Varma's page 62 I think that some of basil midbass twenty four thousand students died from a terrible terrible epidemic Amadeu which we call a pandemic a disease that traveled from person to person and it was so infectious and it traveled so swiftly that it claimed the life of 24,000 students rabbi akiva unfortunately this year we hear such a story of my mmm yes in six weeks in six weeks 24,000 students died from this pandemic Oskar which we call in English diphtheria diphtheria and it's a bacteria which enters into the body it affects the brain it could create swelling in the brain it affects the heart it creates the to affect the glands in the neck it's like blows up it becomes inflated diphtheria a scar and they all died and the gomorrha says that the spiritual reason was because they didn't respect each other and of course you're right they were great men they were students of every achiever the terror calls them students were B Akiva obviously they were great men and they were worthy of that title so the point being is as follows because they were students of herby Akiva they were extremely sensitive and zealous about the teachings of Rabbi Akiva what does it make you teach for half dollar Africa maahes exile Garbo betrayer loving your fellow Jew is the great principle of terrorists how could it be that his students should stumble in this stitching which their own rubber embodied and taught something does make sense here if I'm your student and I'm so loyal to your teachings how could twenty four thousand of us violate one of your most cardinal principles that every Jewish child knows and the answer my dear friend rumored that I know you from Manchester and other get Kevin who asked this question is it's precisely that point you see and I want you to understand this very well because they were such a cell the students of Rabbi Akiva therefore they knew that what's their main responsibility to love somebody because that's the main principle of Torah of terror now when they saw a friend who had a different path in the way the session he did things differently because you know every soul has its own path and avoider Sasaki and this addresses another bunch of questions that people asked every soul has its own map of course there are things we all do the same way we all keep shall we all celebrate Shabbos and all the men or the boys put on tefillin and the girls like Shabbos candles or the women like Shabbos candles and we eat kosher and we celebrate basic and we eat cheesecake introduced and we do spirits Homer and the 613 mitzvahs include all of the Jewish people although there are some it's worse for Chi mm and some it's just full of vehement some it's just for Kings but there are the mitzvahs that bind all of us were all in the same boat but then there is the individual path and yet this fact that is unique to every single neshama Aaron haquyen lid I'm in the era of seven branches you know why because there are seven types of souls there are souls that are rooted in the world of hessin and variety Farris and that's a hemorrhoid you saw it Malthus and Aaron a clan was kindling the flame and each one of those seven types of soul but each one of those seven branches often so many other categories it's like the human body there is one body but how many cells are there in your body you know how many cells there are in your body there's one body look one body Bo dy but how many cells around 50 trillion cells or some people say a hundred trillion cells and you know the difference between 50 and 100 trillion cells is pretty big but I wouldn't know it because I don't know what 50 trillion is either I never saw 50 trillion things there are fifty or a hundred trillion cells in your body and each cell has its unique function there are 37 trillion red blood cells and hundreds of billions white blood cells and other trillions of cells and each cell has its unique function even though we're all in one living organism and the student the rebbi akiva I'm looking at my friend and he has a different way of looking at things or a different way of serving a sham or a different attribute or a different characteristic he brings to the table and I say to him this is not the way to do it and because I'm a student of rebbi akiva I am passionate a half dollar after camisa and when he disagrees with me what happens I can't respect them anymore I'm not a lawyer I'm not going to be a con artist I'm not going to smile on the outside and internally feel negatively towards him I'm going to tell him what I think and they stopped respecting each other they stopped trusting each other they became alien from each other because they were students of rebbi akiva what a fascinating profound idea and it's something that we struggle with it's very hard for many of us not only to tolerate but to celebrate the diversity of Jewish life somehow if you are not doing it my way somehow if you have a little bit of a different angle a different perspective a different experience a different emotion instead of celebrating our diversity am i getting annoyed with you and I like feel that in order for me to be holy I have to knock you and that's and that's a pandemic you know there are physical pandemics and there are spiritual pandemics and the to the Gomorrah is saying are connected so the important thing to learn from this whole story is differences are never a reason to create this respect and you are the future leaders of the Jewish people I am speaking now to the best and the brightest bunch of the Jewish people you are young you are idealists that you are energetic by now we have just tonight I think more than 200 questions that came in they are brilliant questions they are beautiful questions they're amazing questions I'd love to sit here with you for a few nights and go through all the questions we try as best as we can I'm gonna go through another few questions and I'm looking at you you are our future leaders remember this lesson remember this lesson every one of us is an ambassador of love an ambassador of love doesn't mean I always agree with you I may have a different path I may have a different perspective we may have disagreements that's fine because avoid us Hashem is not generic every person is a different personality if you have a different personality you're supposed to serve God differently than me because if you would serve God just like me then why did God create you different than me you have your own mind your own soul your own heart your own consciousness every soul has its own color its own flavor its own fabric you have to service them the way you service I mean it's not the way intercession and together we create the beautiful concept called kanessa sees role that what I spoke in the beginning mesh picasa a National Amish McCallum were all cells in one organism we are all musicians in one symphony not all musicians are playing the same instrument and we are all notes in one divine balland not all notes are uniform if every single note would sound the same you know what this one would sound like there is the diversity of notes that then come together to create an exquisite song you have an indispensable note to play in God's cosmic symphony as you and you and you and you and you and you and you I'm not gonna go through every single one who's watching or listening but every single one of you is enough play that note beautifully and by playing your note you help me play my note because we then create together this amazing amazing ballot let me do another few questions Wow I love these questions can follow them I just well there's so many hundreds of questions are okay beautiful beautiful beautiful I do want to say one more thing before I take the last questions on this a lot of you are asking questions that I already addressed in previous weeks a lot of you so I'm just gonna ask you if you could listen to the programs of the previous week's we already did three programs with teenagers the last Thursday nights and they're all on our website the values Shiva dotnet and you'll hear a lot of not all of your questions but a lot of a lot of your questions will be answered and also I want to tell you that next Sunday Sunday at 2 o'clock we have a program for children and Yiddish and Sunday at 4:00 we have a children a program for children in English Sunday at 1:00 we have a program for adults it's a zoo chat with the community in Arizona Scottsdale Arizona the world has changed have we changed that Sunday 1:00 p.m. New York time on the Shiva Dannette Sunday at 2:00 children a year there Sunday at 4:00 children in English and next Thursday were gonna take a break we're not going to have our teenage session next Thursday God willing we will resume afterwards let's take another few beautiful questions my dearest dearest friends okay this is a big one came in from quite a lot of people and already a few weeks and because it came in for a few weeks I'm going to address it I want to find there were a few of them okay I would really I would really love if you can explain the role of a woman in Judaism including a girl including the life a wife I really don't understand it can you really address it I feel like the Toyota was created for men and we are basically like the slacks amish slacks amish is we're behind the scenes we do the laundry we do the cleaning we do the cooking we do the serving and i feel like a second-class citizen i feel unappreciated i feel used the religion is around men it revolves men it's for men and it's completely not for women and I really feel use and it makes me frustrated and it makes my friends very very frustrated excellent question excellent question and a few other girls sent in this question let me let me read another question I am a girl a graduate of Bais Yaakov Bais Yaakov recently and I always feel that they're patronizing us oh we are also important yes Binoche Mela we're daughters of the king and we're gonna build families and we're going to be mothers and we're gonna be sneers dick but bottom line all over the action of Judaism happens by the boys and by the men they have the mitzvah to learn they learn all the interesting things and we are subservient to them we are told that our husbands have to learn and we just have to be in the kitchen and make good food and do the laundry and clean the house and raise the kids who Wow okay it's a great question number one I'm going to ask you to listen to our Kids program we did on Sunday and some girls addressed this and it was a very interesting conversation with younger children I think would be interesting for you but let me address this when we try to address this briefly now you may feel that I'm being apologetic in other words I'm just saying the right thing to be nice but it's not really truthful you may feel that way and I understand and I understand why you feel that way but I want to let you know that if you can really explore this with people who are in the know and with texts that address this in a real way you will be able to see a much larger picture and I really feel that your paradigm your reference point is erroneous and I'm not blaming you I understand why this is very very common question I get this all the time but I really really feel your reference point is mistake and it's really not your fault and it's also not your teachers fault it's the fault of a lot of factors together but it's important really to go back to the core it could be very very honest about this and to ask what is the foundation of Judaism what is the essence of your dish right not the details of inter-site what is the essence what does you describe based on what is it based on what is the essence of your despair is it getting on our leader and soul is it being the chasm is it being the rabbi ever shown is it being in a Shiva what is the essence of of Judaism is it putting on fill-in is it putting on census is ad a burning chakras man come on now these are all part of fundamental aspects of Judaism but I want to go back to the beginning to the Genesis to the foundation there's no question that there are two foundations for all of Judaism two foundations parsa's voracious and perishes creation and revelation number one that the reminder shillelagh created the world where Asia's berola Kim assertion I invest arts Hashem conceived the world and love he created the entire cosmos planet earth and of course humanity Hashem created the world he cares for the world he is responsible for the world he is the ruler of the universe that's foundation number one of Judaism called pre asylum there's a second foundation of Judaism anoche assemble the catfish ACC chimera trauma base of autumn my madhouse scene I that Hashem communicated to the Jewish people and through them to humanity a blueprint for life how to live not just a friend created the world and then moved on and went on vacation but there's a blueprint for life in other words there is purpose and meaning and creation for us to live according to the divine blueprint in order to turn our lives and the whole world into the space that was imagined by God or in simple words to reveal the oneness in the diversity of creation to reveal the infinity within the finite two foundations of Judaism voracious and history that is Yiddish sky everything else derives from that as we always say in every mitzvah or many myths possession Leticia Smith's rang it is mysterion which followed Martin Terrier paisa has always followed by Luis 50 days later when you look at those two foundations of Judaism now you have to ask a question look at those two foundations and answer this honestly our men superior to women in those two pillars of Judaism and when you look in both portions it's very clear with a third assess when it comes to the creation of the world what does it say but Selim la Kim bara I saw a Visa Corona cava bara Ison by heat rush mom Adama other men cava were created as one as the Gomorrah says in a Romanian test they were created as Siamese twins in the image of God together they are defined as Adam meaning in terms of a human being and the dignity of a human being created in the image of God is there a difference between men and women absolutely not somebody halilov takes the life of woman are they guilty any less than they take a life of a man absolutely not same sentence and when it says in the Mishnah that one soul is like the whole world if you save once all you save the world which soul is that a man and a woman and when it says a person is supposed to say from me the world was created for me it's man and woman alike the woman has to say for me the world was created what about Matt and Tyra clay so mother base Yakko this Agatha Bonet saw chantels Mancha speak to the house of Yaakov and then speak to the sons of his Rome whose the house of Yaakov because some of them may SANCCOB what does rashly say well do cuz I'll say Hashem told Turner to teach Hashem told Mike said to teach Toyota first to show him our lot basically before Bonet so that's why when Suresh never had to create the girls institutions the girls school she named it base Yaakov your alma mater okay Simon Levay second one second but I thought tyre is men men men men Sam tells Maya who's a man you're gonna teach Toyota the first thing makes sure you teach it to women so I completely think we have to appreciate the truth to say that women are second-class citizens and that your purpose is to do the laundry for the men and the cook and to serve and to be a schlocky Amish and to be a schlep afore the men is a complete erroneous distortion of Judaism in the truest and most authentic manner different but equal men and women are different we're different biologically yes despite any but what anybody likes to say we are different in many ways emotionally psychologically spiritually the biological differences between the genders is a reflection of differences between men and women on every level different but equal different roles different missions different ways of operating in life different experiences different mitzvos but equal force equal and if you'll ask me what is the most important thing in the Jewish were it's creating a new generation so now answer me a question if I'm the CEO of a company that produces pencils I'm considered a very prominent man but if I'm the woman who gives birth to the future of civilization and in the earliest formidable years is the most responsible for creating a new generation of humanity and a new generation of Jewish people that is absolutely the most significant mission and role in the world that surpasses everything else and you to go to any psychologists or therapists from any demographic and group and they'll tell you that so much of life is dependent on what happened during childhood and not when you were 17 during your earliest earliest years which we see then how impactful mommy is and now go to the turn itself and look through safe operations and Toby who makes the most important decisions that change history men or women who decided that other Mauritian should eat from the tree of knowledge a man or a woman you know the answer go through the story who decided that you smile should be expelled from a Rama V news home a man or a woman you know the answer a woman Sarah who decided to go to God and figure out what is happening in her womb a man or a woman a woman rifka and who decided that Yaakov not a so should get the blessings a man or a woman a woman and who ultimately the silent Yaakov should marry a different woman lay instead of Rahula two women together Rahul and Leia and who decided that you heard her Shh go and have a relationship with Tom or who decided you who taught amar and ultimately from there came Malthus based over nine who decided that Joseph should be cast into prison which ultimately changed and saved the whole world again unintentionally but it was a woman her name was Patty for his wife and who this find that money sell a baby Mozilla should be retrieved from the Nile Delta and saved a woman and not even a Jewish woman her name was back to you the daughter of Perry the Gemara says insert the she converted to monotheism and because of that woman we have moisture urbane which means we have turned around we have you see this and we have men and we have ETS betrayin and we have Martin theater because of a woman and non-jewish woman and who decided to perform the act of civil disobedience the first time in history and not kill the Jewish males in Egypt which allowed the foundation of Klara to women Shiphrah and puah some even say they weren't Jewish it's an argument in the Martian although Rashi from assess the site that says it was your heaven and Miriam you just read through safe aberration she said what do you see the most important historic events that changed history happened through women thank God all these women all the way pastor Homolka didn't look at themselves a /am washing map they understood who they were they were the ambassadors of our Shem who were responsible for the future of civilization and the future of the Jewish people they understood that they have the greatest and most sacred mission which is to keep their eye on eternity and to create a foundation with in a Jewish home a foundation of a Jewish life that allows all of the spiritual growth and all of the mitzvahs of men that is the truth about how Judaism perceived and perceives and will perceive women my dear is there is teens the hour is late there are more than a lot a lot of questions left but the hour is late so therefore we're gonna cut it here reminder next Thursday we're taking a break we will resume the class we're not stop it we're taking a break for next Thursday so you'll have a little break from me and Sunday too can give this four children four o'clock for children in English one o'clock Sunday for adults the title is the world has changed have we changed all on the yeshiva dotnet please enjoy your week enjoy your Shabbos live life to the fullest I love you so so much and send you my love and blessings thank you very much good night this class is brought to you by the achieve Annette please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at triple w dot they ueshiba net / donate