When Your Drives Are in Their Prime, No Ideas Exist | Maamer Meraglim Shlach #6

good morning everybody thank you all for gracing us on this special morning and i hope you're all doing well it's monday morning dallas thomas atop shin payal of the fourth of thomas 57-81 june 14 2021. if you open your source sheets we are on page 147. see if hey if hey you see the third line from the top page 147. chevron zoom give me a thumbs up that you could see me and hear me beautiful okay so we are in the middle of the mimer le have an indian tightness amiragalum to understand the deeper dialogue between the spies the ten spies and the two other spies from shabbos parishes 57 15 1955 presented by the la bhava cherebo whose yard site was commemorated yesterday gimmel thomas iii of thomas and let's continue inside we're going to continue inside today so if you didn't open your source sheet please do that and you can do that by going to as usual by going to valueshiva.net t-h-e-y-e-s-h-i-v-a dot net and you'll see the top video it says monday class and you have on top of the video view source sheets are below the video you can download your source sheets again page 147 see if hey so let's recall we have been left we left off last time with a question after all the explanations we left off with a question in this mimer of slach intesvolved by the lubavitcher rabbit schleich 1955 what was the question that we were left off with there was a long explanation about the nature and the relationship with what we call seiko and middles seiko means my ideas even my perspectives even my values these are ideas that i consider to be true is thought my thoughts me dies what are made eyes so the mind may explain that me dies are really deeper than all ideas because ideas are what my mind discovers realizes discerns explores dissects and reaches certain conclusions so this is something in the in the terminology of accidents that my soul possesses he says me does is not what my mind possesses or cultivates or dis or discovers it's rather what my mind is or in the language of siddhas it's not what my soul possesses it is my soul and that's why we translated it as primal drives primal drives are the medici these are not these are pre-verbal these are pre-thought this is me if you remember the language that was used i hope i hope you had a chance to review it if you didn't have a chance it would still be a very good idea to review it he said that middays are his galas words words are very potent very powerful middles are a mirror of characteristics of drives that are embedded that are rooted in the core of my soul and he said you you have to respect them you can't change them ideas you always want to open them up to growth you always want to open your brain to to new information to new data to new angles to new perspectives to a new layer of depth a mind that remains stuck and says the truth of yesterday remains the truth for eternity is a mind that is paralyzed that is not doing its function the whole idea of seche i'm talking here the mind in terms of its capacity to to learn about reality whatever that reality is it could be science it can be physics it could be psychology it could be philosophy it could be cosmology it could be astrophysics it could be geology botany being about yourself about your life about your job about your marriage about your children about your your emotions the job of cycle is always to discover and explore more and you may discover like columbus you may discover one day the americas it's always a path of self-discovery discovery of reality i always want to look to go one step deeper to maybe focus on a detail that i haven't realized to to discover new things to rediscover old things but cast a new light on them it's full of it's full of changes that's the vitality and the beauty of cecil of learning the intellectual pursuit of mankind collectively and individually the lowest the worst the the greatest enemy of learning is as the posix says in shaytan bribery blinds and the rebbe used to say he once did a whole talk about this in paris 23 that the bribery that blind says bribery blind blinds the eyes of the of the wise of the sages and it distorts the words of the righteous but if i'm taking bribery what what what righteous person am i what sadduce therefore rashi and others struggle with these words and one of the explanations in this that bribery here is referring not only to money to monetary bribery of course that bribery is forbidden but the terror is cautioning us against a much deeper and more subtle and in some ways because it's more subtle it's also more lethal and more dangerous bribery and that's the bribery of what we call today confirmation bias you know with confirmation biases i'm looking not for truth i'm looking to get a confirmation on my previous beliefs or my previous ideas and we do this unconsciously it's not necessarily i'm doing it because i'm a bad guy no these are the beliefs i grew up with it's beliefs about yourself about your spouse that you've had maybe for 30 years for 20 years so when i'm looking and examining a situation i just want to fit it into my old bias and my bias i want it to be confirmed so therefore my views are by definition tainted my lenses are already affected and not that i'm trying to distort truth it's just my mind is inclined towards a certain direction and i'm going to choose to see certain things and overlook other things and we we do this constantly confirmation bias is so deeply embedded in human nature as we know today and this for the territory warns against this some even want to argue that there's no way of getting out of it how do you get out of confirmation bias or to put it in the language of siddhis when the midos are involved in seiko doesn't that affect the circle it becomes about a subjective search rather than an objective search and is there even such a thing as an objective search so therefore when somebody becomes aware of this at least you're aware of it that the role of seikel and maichen is to always discover and rediscover and rediscover and dismiss the old for the sake of the new in the good sense that i want to always find a deeper level and another angle and another detail etc that's all the world of seiko the world of me does oh this is pre-verbal prima [Music] you're talking about my primal drives there's no change he says you could change you can change how it's expressed you could change the software you can't change the hardware even if you could change the hardware you can't change the chip and you have to be able to respect that in yourself if you're able to respect that in your spouse you have to be able to respect it in your children you have to be able to respect it in other people these are not small changes or persons oh you have these middles change them if you're really in touch with your middays this is who i am and that's ultimately what we mean by meters and that's why they're called meters but this means sizes a media is a size it's basically you know they say suits come in different sizes soles come in different sizes you could size up the soul through the meda this sizes up the soul as he puts it he says it represents claudius this was page 144. it represents the the you could size up the salt the color of the soul and some souls are rooted deeply in hesed some souls are rooted deeply some souls are rooted deeply into ferrous and natsuki this is not a detail it's not a nuance this is he says so and that's why every person has made this the day you're born because you have a soul and that's why midos is not something that belongs to a certain type of people it's not like intelligence or education or certain skills with ability to reason these are all things that you know we're different and you can't expect it from a one one month old baby me she says every person even from the day you're born because you're dealing here with i and the i is there the soul is there and are the primal drivers of the soul and it's deeper than any ideas i have the question now that the mimer has been developing was don't we see that there's a whole element of middles which we talk about as being guided mentored influenced furthermore being birthed coming to ex coming into existence through segal and we have been explaining in the previous classes that there are those meteors which we call today emotions which we call emotions heregation or a person gets excited about something and it's often very visceral it's often very palpable very revealed it's like oh you're emotional now yes i'm emotional i'm feeling an emotion feeling as i'm and i mean feeling as feeling it feeling it in my body and these are always preceded by thoughts and by ideas the thoughts are preceded by ideas the ideas of course produce thoughts and every emotion could be traced back and cycle has a lot what to say there and he started to explain that number one seiko doesn't create the media but segal is what allows the media to come out to be birthed to emerge in its full glory and full power seijl and marshava ideas and thoughts bring out the media they birth it like a mother birthers a baby but what's the role of the midwife the midwife doesn't create the baby the midwife helps the baby come out he says that's the role of sechel sheikh doesn't create the baby is like the midwife that brings out the baby seiko is often compared to a mother not a midwife but even then the mother doesn't create the soul of the baby the mother facilitates it the mother makes the arrangements no no small feet the embryo gets developed in her but there's factors outside of mommy and tati especially the soul the gemara says person has three partners right every person is the tati and mommy and god kim say hello so he says it's like somebody who points out to you that in this in this room in this in this cellar there exists an itzer gevaldika treasure that's going to change your life and you run there with excitement this person didn't create your desire for the treasure this person didn't create the excitement yes they did they said it's there and you started to run it's like you'll tell the child the cotton candy is there and the kid gets excited and starts running you didn't create the desire for the cotton candy the sweet tooth did but you pointed it out as long as he did not know that there's cotton candy there or the adult did not know that there's a great treasure there that excitement would have remained dormant but because you pointed out you labeled that place and you said hey there's a lot of good stuff that you think are good so now my medias emerge in their full glory i'm getting excited either in the positive or the negative you could point out about danger and then suddenly i'm experiencing repulsion or fear sadness i retreat i want to go away from it that's like vura quesada is getting close guru is getting far so the sacral and the channel the primal drives and apply it to certain realities in certain situations and allow it to emerge in a person's reality then there is deeper impact that sechel has on midos and he went through the three stages of how our midos develop ibur yinika state we call pregnancy estate we call nursing a state we call full mature development i connected it to what i think is connected to the three dimensions of the amygdala the limbic brain the prefrontal cortex and the bottom line is after everything how does seiko have any effect on medici when ultimately we're saying that medici are rooted in a much deeper and more authentic and real place in the soul than might than seiko even the fact that the fact that seiko as he says creates a development in the media is that certainly is strange he says even the fact that sekhal is like a maramakam because there's a few different aspects of this mimer about how cycle effects or influences or guards or mentors media is it's very intricate but any step of the way any way you look at it even the most basic idea that segal can point the finger and say there and the media is respond my primal drives ultimately are affected by that affected in the sense that they know where and how to be expressed as a result of seiko seikel is the one that labels things and categorizing categorize things that itself is strange why does midairs have that allegiance how does segher get this capacity to own anything of the middles now we continue if hey page 147 please open your source cheats if you didn't do that yet you can go to the yeshiva.net and this class on the miragulum you could if you're going to watch it later you can do a search of recent classes we have recent classes if you come in a few days or if you come later it's going to be in in in the mirage you could search miragla and it's page 147 but now if you go to the home page you'll see class monday and you open it up and on top there's view source sheets on top of the video and below the video there's download source sheets explanation and all of this is the first explanation are so much deeper and higher than mike and me those represent my primal internal pre-verbal primary pre-cycle drives so therefore really cycle cannot have any effect no ideas can affect me this this is so so important to understand this means that all the explanations in the world all the rationalizations in the world all the justifications in the world all the proofs in the world will not affect me those comes from an earlier version of me and what i mean by an earlier version i don't mean an earlier version literally an earlier version of me you know the way i was in a different reincarnation earlier version of me means it comes from a deeper version of me a much deeper place in me seikel doesn't have access to it again sequel is what the soul possesses medius is what the soul is it's very different very different creatures so seikil is great but it's a different world the whole previous section in the miami and our previous classes explained how segal has an impact on me does the indian in terms of birthing them and revealing them every meter every emotion that you have which can always be traced back to a primal drive is ultimately emerging into the world into your body into your system into your consciousness through ideas and thoughts that's the fact so true the medias and their sources are beyonce but yet we see that cycle impacts their flow impacts even the way they're expressed impacts what emerges and as we learned before also impacts the nature of the media itself if it's going to be a state of ibr a state of unique a state of mind that's all true he says but angel bahamut is never touch or tamper or affect the meda the way it is in its full intensity are in their own primal state it's impossible that seiko will have an impact on them sekhal has nothing to say they can't seiju can't mitigate it or compromise it or dilute it only after the media is go through a process of weakening only when middles are our experience of hellishes galicious in hebrew means a weakness they're not anymore shining in their full intensity they're weak then sahil can kick in and affect them effect them in what sense is responsible for birthing the medias from a place of concealment into a place of revelation and even for developing them this is important to understand and it's it's an obvious truth also for another reason say hello a light that affects a person in an internalized fashion and because it's a type of energy what's called an erp enemy one that enters into you in an internalized way it's going to be explained it's going to become clear in a moment so this means this this brings us to the conclusion that the way sacral affects things and a person is by becoming enclothed and manifested but when your primal drives are so intense they are primal they are in their primal state seikel cannot become enclosed in them to become their very identity but the way sahil affects things is by by it becoming the identity of that which it affects that's what our epinemia is can affect is by going in by becoming part of that which it wants to affect and when we do sabotage if there's no way sekhar can do that so when can seiko do that one can say he'll have a relationship with me there's it's only the same when there's been this week then can affect them from the middle intense the fact is that seychelles simply doesn't have the capacity to affect them and they have the expression in yiddish because the rabbit said in my mario mania they're so they're written in hebrew but there's some yiddish expressions that you cannot avoid you cannot ignore the episode is not a bella boss on the middle middles don't show their allegiance they're not subservient to the circle on the contrary they'll teach seiko they're not going to allow to teach them there's another point it's not just seiko doesn't have what to say because you're not my boss me those my primal drives don't will not surrender to seijo they come from a deeper place you're not my boss it's like i was in this office before you were born you come in now sergeant comes in now you came too late my dear i lost track of um which one i lost track of uh safehold medos right now i just lost track of safeland meters which are the primal drives of a person yeah so he says so so here we have two things number one is not a bala bus you're not my beloved you're not middle east is saying you're not my master you're not my boss i'm not listening i don't have to listen to you i was in the i was in this i've been running this company in the office you know before you were born he's a big shot he's a very big analyst he understands things looks and says you ain't the boss in this area when it comes to me but the person i mean this is me that says you know i i predate you i'm i'm an earlier version if anything i'll i'll i'll tell you how to think you won't tell me how to feel right so that's number one number two here he adds to something deeper it's not only that sekhal is not a bala boss on the middle is the way they are in their primal form it's that the sequel is not even present in them because comes out only in a way of pneumous which means in a way that the recipient actually absorbs it within its identity therefore only when the medias are not in their primal state and therefore they are not in their original intensity they have been mitigated they have been diluted they have been compromised they have become weakened now segal can impact them now can actually be present in them find expression through them and not just be present but affect them what he's saying here is as follows midos in their primal state seiko can't do anything sorry there's nothing you can do for two reasons first of all midos originate in a deeper space of the eye and therefore sequel so to speak is a runner-up he came in second he didn't come in first number two can't tell number one what to do number the midos come from a deeper place in the eye and therefore they have the staying power they own they own my life much in a much more real way so seiko could come and try to give opinions and give perspectives and sound very eloquent but it's not going to reach the place of the media what is even more he said it's not just in the real world of me does there's no such a thing as doesn't exist it's not like we're we're competing who's the owner and you're saying you've got to listen to me and i'm saying i don't got to listen to you it's much deeper than that in the world of primal media she says sale doesn't exist it's not just you're not a bella boss you're a nobody you don't even exist your reality has never reached me it's so much more rich it's not just the primal drives tell say hilsari i was here before i run the show i run this guy's life this is me right don't mess with my genes this is this is who you are i'm here before you no it's much more than that that's true but it's much deeper than that the meters don't even know that there's such a thing as say in the world of real medici he says doesn't even exist not only does not have a say you know sometimes you'll have an argument between people there'll be a court and you have different jurors different judges everyone has different perspectives you may be proven wrong you know you may have a board meeting and different people have different opinions different perspectives you may be proven wrong or they may reject your opinion but they listen to your opinion here he says mitos doesn't even listen to say it doesn't exist in its world what's the proof of this so it's a very it's very subtle very very deep idea the way seikel influences is what's called in the language of khabad khasid is erp nimi urbanimi means there's two ways of influencing one is called power and one is called influence power is the idea that for whatever reason i have a mastery over another person let's say a commander-in-chief and the soldiers and i say go so you go i'm right i'm wrong you agree with me you don't agree with me in an army if you're going to wait until every soldier agrees with every commandment of the commander during the war during the war khalillah you're not going to be able to run an army there's a hierarchy yeah the same is true in every institution every company there's the person who makes the decisions the people under may agree they may not agree that's not what sekhal is that's called rutsen that's how ratson works this is what i want this is what you're going to do the idea of cycle is you can't command your students to understand what you're saying i told you to understand i could command a soldier to go to go from move from this picture into this position to go to this in this place and try to fulfill this in this task but if i'm using seiko the idea of segal as i'm trying to make you understand that you should go because of you not because of me that's what seychelles that's called urbanime there's a mac of an earpnemy there's an energy that i give to you but it's one that is above you it doesn't become part of you urpnemy means a type of energy where i'm not here to instruct i'm here to explain they tell a story that herman wook you remember the late herman wu passed away not long ago i think at the age of 106. he authored this is my god kane's mutiny many many classic works was one of the great literary figures of the united states of america in the 20th century in the beginning of the 21st century so herman will exodus yeah exodus hermann woke was he lived the palm springs and he just passed away it was 106. he was a yidd who was a torah observant jew you know one of and he's really one of the pioneers in the 50s where he wrote a book this is my god he really introduced you know authentic torah judaism to an audience that was that was really very it was a very unique effort those days so herb and wook had a relationship with the lobavit and i saw once or i heard from him once i remember many years ago that he once asked the rebbe in the 1950s he says lubavitch when he was realizing the vision and the dream of the rabbit to to change america and to change the world he said lubavitch this is the 50s you have to remember that judaism especially orthodox judaism was completely on the defense mamish on the defense and and not very successful you know it was losing its adherence daily and assimilation was growing then i mean it's it's important to understand you know 1950s intermarriage in america was very very small numbers but in 1960s everything changed and then certainly the 70s never mind the 80s position in the 50s he says do you really think you can tell the american youth what to do you think you're going to tell them what to do the rebel looked at him and he said the american youth you can't tell to do anything you can explain to them to do everything you can't tell them to do anything you can explain to them to do everything or you can show them that's the difference sahel works in a way that i'm not gonna i'm not here to force you i'm here to explain and that's what a real class is what's what's the idea of transmitting ideas transmitting ideas means if it's my idea and it's not your idea i didn't transmit it sahel is something if i explain something and you got it you agree with me now it's yours as much as it's mine now you can become a teacher of it that's how sekhal works sakura doesn't work by commanding you by nullifying you by disregarding you know sekhal works in a way this is called arab it's an earth that goes into your epineus it becomes malubish in you in other words it becomes part of your identity see that the only way sekha works so he said it's not just that secret is not a balabasa this it's not even present in the world of middles because the only way is an influence is when it becomes part of that thing that it impacts and the middays are completely in a different world they're opposite of the sec so the sacral is not becoming the meda so the shaykh doesn't even show up in the life of the media so the same doesn't even show up sometimes the sacral is not a master cycle doesn't even exist in the world of primal drives of primal drives in the world of real medias seiko not only doesn't have a say because it's weak it doesn't even show up doesn't even exist and that's why when people start negotiating themselves or other people out of their primal drives it's so futile because it's a complete lack of respect and understanding of what your primal drives are like and people try to do this they do try to do it with themselves they do it with their spouses they do it with their kids i'm gonna negotiate with you to get rid of your things that are a part of who you are so therefore whenever we speak about the impact of middle says there ever it's only when the midos are in a weaker state when they are in their prime prime grill when they are in their prime grill in their prime intensity in their primal state you know you say a person in his prime and her prime when the medias are in their prime but taketh jesus seiko can't get close everything we talk about cycle affecting midness it's in a stage where middays are much weaker when the middles are weak in other words that intensity is not there there it's not there that primal sense of this is who i am has become weakened now they're vulnerable to the impact of medus to the impact of secrets which brings us to a much deeper deeper question granted zolzin you're not touching me this in their prime okay when they're weaker and they're more vulnerable now they allow cecil now could yield its influence and can arrive in their space and so to speak impact them affect their maturity affect their development affect their birthing in all the ways that sacral effect made us but we now come to a much more primal kind of question that's 147 the last paragraph we're still now with a major question you explained to me that when my meadows are weakened then sacral can affect them and impact them but i want to understand this itself how do media is go through this process of becoming weakened what happens what happens to this primal state of my drives that it goes through a process where it loses its intensity it loses its originality it loses its connection with the source it's much weaker and therefore more vulnerable the e f shall ima you can't say shakalishi that maybe this is also part of the impact of your mind as the mind develops intellectually it weakens the middle shade establishment we just explained in this whole mind that when we discover in their prime say hill can't enclose itself in them and therefore can't affect them. so how do middles become weak that sale could impact them you can't tell me that itself comes from cycle because as we said for me that is in their prime to be affected by cycle is impossible so how does what creates this weakness in that the sale could now come in and influence them and here the miner comes to its final idea this next piece we come to the final idea of understanding what sahil does to midness how is there a weakness amid this and with this everything comes full circle beijing hashem and we'll be able to appreciate the full picture which will then allow us to understand the deeper conflict between the ten spies and the two spies if you can go and touch the soul you can't go and text israel which was really a fight not just about geography and not just about the physical story of going into the land but really a question about the future of civilization in the terms of what we can expect and not expect in human development um is three stages in the cognitive experience and then there is midos which are associated with khasid guru teverus and that's a high decide question right the explanations rationalizations will never affect original individual middles or general human medias right that's correct that's what we're saying any idea then how to negotiate with middays when they are in first gear great question so the point that we're learning now till now till now there's still going to be another major point in this mimer you have to respect your meadows in their primal state you have to respect them these are my primal drives i cannot change them i could learn about them i could see how they're being channeled i can learn about my needs my yearnings my longings my desires i could see right what those needs are and how they i and how in my experience they're being met that's a very important process because what often happens is let's go back to that idea we discussed i think two classes ago every time you have an interaction with somebody and you're feeling as a result emotionally emotional in the positive or in the negative i'll give an example from the negative because just unfortunately that people relate to immediately say your wife tells you something or your husband tells you something and you're feeling a reaction you're upset you're angry you're very uncomfortable there was a thought that preceded it there was an idea that preceded it why did that idea and that thought get you so angry so you'll say well i feel that the wife will tell you i feel that i'm i'm married to somebody that it limits my life it really limits my life and as a result of that it makes it very difficult for me what is it that limits what is it and if the person goes into it they'll be able to see what that mahashava told them what that thought told them that produced such an intense emotion but why does it produce such an intense negative emotion what's causing that thought to produce such a negative emotion why can't you just say okay this is what the person is doing to my life and you know what i'll enjoy it and the answer is the marshava is getting fed from a meda from a primal drive i need something this is who i am in this marshava is manifested my media my primal drive that's telling the machava that it's being compromised and the mashable is trying to facilitate and trying to bring to the fore that this is a danger zone this person your husband your wife whoever it is stranger is really compromising your primal drive your primal drive is in danger now it can't be that's what's happening and that's why there's such an intense reaction so it came through segal it came through but it's really fueling its channeling your ultimate midos which are deeper than say there's an expression in tanya and shah rayhood chapter 9 i think that every thought that we have has a primal drive that's feeding it every makshava that you have has a primal drive that's in it when i'm thinking something about another person when i'm thinking something about an experience when i'm thinking even about myself certainly about myself or another person and those thoughts are going to lead to certain emotional reactions there is in that shovel there is a meter a primal drive that's fueling it that's the engine behind it so when i become aware of that i suddenly start realizing what is it that i'm looking for what is it that i'm trying to avoid what is it that i'm afraid of most what is it that i want most and then i could say is this person really the contradiction to that is this person really going to help that the moment i become self-aware of all that i can do so many things to make life much better but you have to become aware of it so at this stage you're not trying to change your primal drives you're trying to respect them and see how they're impacting your life on a day-to-day basis and how to create a much more seamless flow like the alternate explains in the mind god opens the yods the you there's the smallest letter which represents condensing the energy gets condensed or masbio he opens the yod he opens the restrictions because the youth is the energy is is becomes contracted and restricted simpson um and he satiates every living being with his or her own right side in other words he allows your right side to flow and he allows you to experience your actual rating in other words to allow your thoughts to become aligned to become channels of what you really want of what your inner inner drives are so you can see it and you could see the connection and then you could be you could be wholesome because my primal drugs i can't change i can't alter not supposed to alter next question are our middays the same thing as our core wants in this minor he explains that the medias are those core wants in a way he said it's even deeper than want earlier what determines a primal a person's primal media is to begin with is it genetics is it your soul's journey is it your soul's nature also where does nurture come in environment education life experience parental influence do they only have an impact on the level of machiaver influencing thought patterns and subsequent expression of those middles does that mean that we can only change our awareness thoughts and behavior but never our essential instinctive character good question good question very good question nice beautiful question so the answer is let's go through your questions what determines a person's primal medicine earlier in the memory he said it's the nature of your soul it's your soul and therefore your soul's journey you say is it genetics yes it's going to become expressed in genetics as well remember this is the key rule biology and spirituality are not separated the body and the soul are not two distinct realities that happen to make this weird shidduch the body is a mirror of the soul the soul is the soul the engine the life of the body so my genetics your genetics your dna sequence and your genes are really simply formed in the pattern of your soul the color of your jeans i'm using the word color just as an allegory the color of your jeans reflects the color of your soul because our genes are the divine personal imprint of our individual identity your dna sequence is god's choice to create you and that's why there's no two people alike and it's one of the great wonders of creation you have two people grew up in the same family same parents you have two twins twins mama's twins they're still different sometimes their personalities are so different even if they look almost the same and strangers won't recognize the difference but we know there's always a difference that is a mirror of your soul so yes it's genetics but the genetics begins with the deeper place of genetics it's your spiritual genetics that determines it it says in zaya that bashamai whoever june joined the school of shama their souls came from the chamber of gura those who joined the soul of the house of hilla basil their their souls came from khasit you know it says in kabbalah there's a lot of different customs between spiderman ashkenazim it has to do with their souls it's not just i grew up in the mediterranean country i grew up in an ashkenazi country they came from spain they come from germany they came from france they came from portugal they came from greece they came from ukraine yes that's the geography of it but there's also the spirituality of it my soul is rooted in a space that needs this custom you know i gotta eat rice on pesach i'm not saying you have to eat rice and pasta even as fried it doesn't have to eat rice and pesto but the point is that the different customs and traditions don't only begin with geography they begin with soul differences so now you're asking a question what about nurture what about life experiences what about environment what about education what about schooling what about community what about siblings what about the house you grew up in what about parenting the answer is the way we're learning the mimer now again we're still going to have to get to the last inning they have an impact on the level of machava they influence my thought patterns and therefore they influence the subsequent expression of those meters as you put it yes so i can change my awareness i can change my thoughts i can change my behaviors can i change my essential media it's my essential instinctive characters what we're calling primal drives no isn't it true that a person is fully able to control media is through rationality no like somebody no when it says in tanya that the bane and he has control over the midos it's talking about that the bananee is in control of thoughts and words and actions that's but here we're talking about me dice as a person's as as a person's how do we say it innermost primal drives they're not bad those meters are not bad on the contrary they're very good they're very special but they need to be channeled yeah they have to be channeled and as you said in the beginning of the mimer you have to go back to the beginning then when we speak about the fact that a person is created to work on their middles it's working on how they're channeled how they're expressed how they're being manifested the primal meadows are not they're never bad they're never bad they can come out they can come out in ways that can be destructive that's where i have to work on the channeling two people could have the same core strength of say um galore expressed as anger let's say exactly one can become very very physically violent and go crazy like that and the other one can have the same strength inside of them but they look completely calm they their body is completely calm but yet they're either through writing or speaking or doing something they're expressing that same power of anger and devorah it's a very good example you have a soul that's very much rooted in vura right and the way it's channeled the way my machave is channeling it and what i'm experiencing could be a lot of anger or aggression or resentment or a lot of negative energy maybe hatred maybe animosity you know i'm angry at the world i'm angry at people i i hate people it could be channeled through meanness i'm mean i'm rude i'm obnoxious it could be channeled through selfishness you know we learned about yitzhak and itself both were gura but yitzhak was a very gentle soul hitsuke was not an angry angry man what did what did he do with his intensity what did he do with his guru it could be expressed in a very very different way the person could be extremely kind and quiet and you don't see that aggression and meanness why not because they're not gura they are gura but actually because they're aware of what their primal drive is and the way it's fed and the way it's it's nurtured and the way it's facilitated is through means that are actually much more healing and much more productive and much more meaningful to the person but they still didn't change the core i would like doing something ah at times very confusing the learning here that satan has no influence on the needles but for the needles to express themselves it seems to also need safer this is where i am uh so when we say that the media's effect is affected by sexualities it's only the way the medois already go through a process of becoming weak media is in their prime the seche won't touch the way the media is already not in their primal state in a weaker state here sahil can indeed have a tremendous impact as you said seiko brings it out saeko reveals gives birth to it not birth to it that it creates it doesn't create it but gives birth to it as we said seiko points out hey you see that danger zone you see that good zone and the middle suddenly emerge there in other words they're listening to they're listening to but that's only the way the middles went through a weakening process the way there when you're in touch with me in their prime prime state he says sekhal has no say so now the question is so how does sahel get ever a say how do meters go through this process how do middles ever open themselves up to become weaker if seiko has no influence on them that's going to be the last piece of the mimer that we're going to continue beijing hashem thursday morning 7 30 a.m and tomorrow i'm away so tomorrow there's no usually we have tuesday a women's class but tomorrow tuesday 9 45 there's no women's class we're going to resume the next year on this hashem thursday 7 30 a.m question aren't there some medias that find very specific expression such are found in marital reactions but the bananee manages to fully and directly control the meters okay if you can unmute oh you mean mute you mean mute mute the problem is you can't control the middles if the meters are unmuted there's no way to mute the meters okay everybody have a beautiful day and a meaningful day and a great day thank you for joining us