Three Parts of You Walk Into a Marriage - Likkutei Torah Mizmor Shir #12

the yeshiva dotnet one starts which aren't we're holding the end of the line of Allah fame Baha Luca Sbisa mikdash like 10-15 lines from the bottom you see we're looking for charge to the line starts of assertion and in level of can become Luca Sbisa mukesh the last point Bala Tonya made in this minor was that Malthus true leadership is one of those things that is in the realm of what we what he associated with the Mitzvah of shiksa that the gomorrah says has all say cholera de Vaca recovered her covered whereas momento the collaboration when are covered covered maria occur of writer father of somebody who pursues covered honor glory it runs away from him and conversely the definition of real malice for the person to be able to be worthy of true leadership of true royalty by definition if the person is so eager for it it will ultimately it's it's it's human it's nor father it's not people want it but that Malthus will be flawed or put it this way there'll be a lot of challenges to overcome in terms of the person growing into the position and that's why you see that throughout history the greatest leaders were reluctant it was often imposed upon them more by force than by will the first example of course was my shinobi know who tried every way to avoid it which at first glance it's strange you're getting here an opportunity of a lifetime from a physical level from a spiritual level I mean the creator of the world it was not elections of a state or a city or country and what the position is and the Shem is telling you to do it in your table they can you refuse and the answer is but that was his way of doing the Mitzvah if it's like chica they're not wanting it is the only way that you can ultimately access it you can ultimately embrace it just because it's rooted in that place in the soul that we call attic that is beyond the conscious so if the person is preparing for it and wanting it and their whole life in arms I'm Lee I'm going into that position ultimately it's not that ultimate maltose it's not that real mouth host and over time Allah Himself as we will see later in the Mimer he himself was the last choice he didn't expect that he didn't want it he didn't think he's worthy of it which mul Hanavi came to coronate one of the children of that family nobody even thought there would be dove in the Tanakh says there were another seven boys would have been one of the other seven there was no nobody else so they brought out of it and it sent his own consciousness himself as we as he as he brought from tehilim the velum allah says in leg of a glug of allah be with the imam in malaysia VC now Shiva Dammam Tinashe kagama la la ma as he explained what type of soul he had and as a result of that he can actually experience the gift and the position and the responsibility and the privilege of what we call mouth yeah so the first of it the first of all in each I understand the once it goes to a son it's already it's part of the education this part of the education well that's unless that's exactly he's trying to be more issue that same power of the original mullahs that we should the first professor right yeah in other words the real ear the real ear will usually have at least something similar to the father in that sense as well and you see it many times did for some straight line advanced' of it had to have a hole something in place to make sure who's gonna be at the mouth listen should be smaller than right because there was there wasn't a Ben Yakut yeah wasn't a vinyasa yeah so now he continues the Lehane and therefore based on everything that was explained Lucas a base emitter when the base of mikdash was built and dedicated and this is the emphasis here is based on mikdash the home the home of the mikdash shanem solution McInnis mac if the makeevka motion is by Lal the bias the physical home we explained is a physical manifestation not of the pinna me which is represented by food not even the Mac of Hakka roof represented by garments but was calling the Maki Farakka core the market lemak if that is what comes out in the home so the base are mikta which acts as the mock-up of Mac have shown the my lumina Autzen which is beyond desire beyond conscious will and desire it's a mock if even the Gabi Rutzen rod so and leg a beep enemy is already a mock off' and this is leaving the Gabi rod saying it's a mock if he says penis Kassar it's beyond Rutzen beyond casa the ain't Shia from Santa claw and therefore generally you wouldn't think that joy could be connected to that place could maybe mitzvahs for example by mitzvah the Schubert Sana'a Dom a mitzvah which is fulfilled with the desire and the passion of a person deceive the posix as impartial ski sovereign Takashimaya vahdat assertion Ulukaya the simcha hula depositors Basim hope to believe of me Rafe Kyle you haven't served our Shem with sim cooked of LAIV of so some of them are far shun like the Rambam and helices lulav and they're easily explained the meaning of the parsec is that you may have done everything but you didn't do it with a similar you weren't interested there was no passion there was no there was no real desire there was no enthusiasm on the contrary we want that the service the relationship should be one with joy with agasshi back with our Autzen with a will that's the fuel the oxygen the gas that fuels the mitzvot so the over there it's you could be simcha I plan it I'm looking forward to it I'm anticipating it it's the nature of the relationship the level of the relationship that can be accompanied with a sense of joy because there is a ruts in there there's a passion there however and that's why we say I sure could the Shona beam it's myself before him it's for the Collinson today to make abraca and say I could the Sun emits voice of he sanctified us or he betrothed us conditiona was a from the word conditioned through the mitzvah map nature sure sure - roxanna alien commissioners barley' the source the root of every Mitzvah that we perform is hash Em's rots on your arsenal you know that's what a mitzvah is and therefore it becomes aligned with a person's Rutzen and it's something that can be performed with that sense of of simcha which comes with Rutzen with with desire with volition with a conscious passion anticipation and eagerness and enthusiasm simple curly well if there's ruts and it could be a simcha in other words I want it I want this I'm looking forward to it shengcún cam Lucas Abbess hi mo when we're dealing with the concept of a canoe Casa based crime of a dedication of celebrating a new home that was built a base Jaime's as a house with a climber made of stones and the walls are made of stones which is penis diamond Varnum stones are the lowest in the hierarchy of creation what we call diamond the life was the silent like da da da Malik said a Malaysia VC Vin de Monte sure sure Shimla Milam in our Datsun Commission is by a loyal that which comes down in the lowest it comes down at the diamond because it's rooted in a place beyond return look I know stents ibly in China call simcha over there the reality the experience of simcha doesn't relate there because simcha you would think can only be not you would think similar can only be on something that I'm experience what is simcha simply is an experience of joy so it has to be something that is manifested in my experience and my consciousness but when we're dealing with that which we spoke about you can't be excited to be Micaiah Mitzvah stricture for example I'll be Basilica make a Brock are shaking the shinobi my choice of it Silvano lastest Mitzvah sticker if you make a bracha you'll ever be doing the Mitzvah the type of Mitzvah that's coming from a place that is deeper than a conscious experience from a place of forgetfulness from a super conscious space from benami circus in hashem caballo that's rooted in a place that's deeper than the rut saw in that can be manifested and experienced so over there the experience of simcha is in applicators not applicable what is simcha some cares I'm excited I'm happy I'm joyous okay no you too nice Rock'em my hamster some cleaner simpler and that's why they had to bring in they had to communicate to be mom sure to draw into that that place to that realm simcha after the parenthesis vis el mismo shear Han Lucas abayas that's the deeper meaning behind this capital into hilum on which the moment began with this passage from tehilim capital lammott mismo it's a song of a balance shear a song of Hanukkah a bias of the dedication of the home load of 'add la Hampshire's Bakken Lucas a buyer's premium to bring in simcha into the haouka into the dedication and to destruct the construction and the complete of the destruction of the home the la Haine a submission service simcha basically cosa bias and that's the deeper reason why we make a Mista feast and a simcard joy when these are moving into a new omaha lucas abayas like he started the Miami la havana Tom choice in mischievous simcha Veronica Sebelius and he started to say that there's three dimensions there's muslin and there's lavash him and there's bat and his food his garment in his home and he went off on the whole discussion of these three things and now he's coming back now we can understand by a Hanukkah sibelius there's a special meaning a special tradition to make a mischievous simcha by Hanukkah Saba is Duff missile campaign Indian Miss Mel Shear that's why in this capital tell them it says mismo and Shoshone Iroquois Fellini and caifa lenient it seems like we're done and commercial castle by alpha as the Alshon says that ms Machir it seems like redundant there's many capital film that start Mesmer Miss Maryland Ovid you have a capital starts shear here you have MS MIT and so there's a few capitals like that and you have to understand what's the redundancy Mesmer is a song like tzemre Zim's Mira's right Sookie does Imre and shear is a song like Oz Yasha sheera is a song behind no but now we can understand behind all Denikin album ice in the closet that it's similar to what we learned before from the taste after mrs. pee-pee game the might of the Carson that had the story of the pious person who forgot a sheave of grain in his field and when he discovered it he told his son to bring a special offering and the base of ignorance acts for an island max furnish lemon his son said why and what did he answer he said to in response to his son's question why did this mitzvah generate more join you than any other Mitzvah so what did he say that all mitzvahs Hashem gave us to do lead at a new with our das and zoom Cholula dot I knew this without a - because if we would have done it with our - with our rats or in my boss of its Rosalia day no this mister could have never come to us this is the quote from Tess after him earlier so he now says but just like in that story the son said Marysol is my home it's resumed at home it's was holy etc a commercial is baila el sofá culture came back on lucas base HaMikdash shares our clothes pin is certainly when it wasn't just an individual midst of shaker but the whole bias of the base on McNish is being dedicated which company represents this very idea this very pin of this very dimension of Markieff LaMacchia so it's not only a miss Mayer it's a Ms Machir in other words there is even a deeper level of miss mushy because of its greatness and on the other hand it needs more it needs more of how I'm shocked off simcha zero in the previous parentheses I skipped beef right before this the line started it's also parentheses I just didn't want to interrupt the flow but take a look there for I'm not sure cassava or pasta crush after - awesome it's connected to the mind mer in sukhasana Shafter - Austin jellyfish and this Hawaii mobile initial myeloma penis lister feiiow shyaa'n miss Amaya Julio Kane sir - La Habra in penis simcha there's el English after my and avocado sauce it's an interesting thing that I base on Victor's they used to pour water pour wine every single day right when we did the car bonus Sybil we always talk about VMs a possession like Muslim nation its minium Shanaya sternum salesmen kobalava chemin vinny sky every carbon sabor a communal offering came and sometimes individuals depends which ones came with a wine libation the Korea no support there was a company poured wine onto the altar this was part of the experience on suka s-- there was a separate Mitzvah called missile amyum every morning when they were marketed commercial Shaka they'll together with the wine they o support a goblet of water and they went and they used to draw the water in the early dawn in the dawn from the Shailaja spring and bring it up to the base of english and pour it and in fact for this the passage says of shaft and Maya miss Osen you should draw water with joy and the whole reality of simplest what we call Simkins basic ever revolved around the drawing of the water the simcha so interesting it's called base now we can understand why it's called base Simba's base a shaver the simpler that's connected to the drawing of the water and a whole night they used to dance in preparation for it to the point of hazael tell us Irma Sokka Sokka Misha Larry awesome cos mrs. Cheveley awesome Kamiyama and what was it all connected to pouring water now ask a regular person what's more joyous wine or water what makes people more happy you don't hear people saying I'm really stressed out I'm gonna go drink a cup of water to cheer me to cheer me up on the contrary wine and it's not just by humans the passage says yeah I am Miss Sameach it's a posture can shape that in safer chef to me I'm mr. mayor hillock in Venetian the wide the beverage of wine brings joy that's what the puzzle says to God and to people however you want explain what it means mr. mayor he'll like it but you see by sook is that the focus of simcha revolved around the Mayan which after Miami sauce and this became the greatest even a regular sub it's a very similar thing yayan on its own is connected to simcha my him on its own doesn't seem connected to simcha at all it's like just a staple of life you know it's a cup of water you drink a cup of water you don't start dancing there was the special avoidance circus to bring simcha into the Nissa Kamiya similar to the idea saying here that an abayas regularly there's no simcha there was a special Indian of mismas Chicano Kasab I used to bring something to the bias will you make a canoe casaba is a special focus on silk as will be explained there's a structure you know we think of simple easy or simple you Sucher volumes of our simplest oppressor simcha Sara so now we're saying the real simpler is where there is no you know would not be simply based on fishers of bias so therefore don't gave it the most simple so whether or not there's no simple you always have simply either because there is part of the nature today obviously you have to add it because it's lacking we don't say the sharpest because unlike shabbos a young Tibbs Chaves doesn't have simply shop it's not the bottle of a loss we don't say chefs okay before we add simpler because Shabbos doesn't have simpler I mean you start can't wait wait if you don't have some good that you do have some okay it's a good question my the base--emitter shambles of stone and he doesn't make soup nobody gets especially excited about stone but they say the sum total is much more than this is some of the coins you say when people move into a new house they feel good they're excited there's simcha it's not just planks of water or rocks it's it's the summation of it all it's not two rocks together it's a whole it's a whole home okay good question good questions let's continue a little more I have to look up what the house of answers he's just referencing the ultras as a source for the question why it says mismo sure twice so the ballot Anya's answering the jars like my the son tells the father Mara is still the smallest person Christmas resume become why are you more happy and he's saying I'm more happy because it's something deeper and greater so here - he's saying not only misery but ms mothers share in other words there's a much greater dosage of something yeah which is rooted in a place that's beyond us as he will explain Rahzel when this is the meaning of another posture and here we come to the Megillah of ruse the end of the book of ruse which is also read of course on shrews or learn to Lewis and even those don't have read it in the tickle mouth know as they say McGillis ruse and the connection of ruse the story of ruse we all know is the story of ultimately the great-grandmother of Davi ramela because Ruis who was a Moabite woman who comes from the genealogy of light because light as we mentioned in an earlier share had relations with his to door and one son that was born was named a mine and one son that was born was named Maya right which means may our from the father that's cuz I'll point out and Maya of ultimately he father's a dynasty which settles in a country called my of as well andres will be one of those women who come from that genealogy of my of meaning her great-great-great great-great-grandfather is light and lights daughter is her great-great-grandmother Roose marries a Jewish man the pasa Fenris tells us this truth tells us a story how a man named le Mela who came from a very distinguished dynasty and ultimately traced his roots to the tribe of Yehuda which was the tribe of royalty which would become the tribe of David hemella later at a later point in history le Malik leaves the region of registro where he lived base left and he moves out to Maya and his two sons MacLean and Killian marry to Moabite women to motivate women ruse and arpa and the story of ruse takes us from that point because a lame Ellis passed away and the two boys passed away and ruse and arpa are two widows with a third survivor Nami Naomi the wife of Elimelech the mother-in-law of these two daughters of these two daughters-in-law our party tells our poor go home you have nothing to be here unfortunately your husband died wanting you just go back to your roots and rebuild your life which árpád us and Ruis who she also beseeches to return back to her roots refuses to go back to my of and she says no I'm going to remain here with you in the famous words that we also spoke about a few days ago about a convert that she says I'm going to be with you by Chatel C Eilat o bartolini all in omikami allah kiya kalakeya Bashar to Musa almost when you die I know we die where you go I go we used while I do all your people as my people your God as my god it says we're oozed of Kaaba but tisha carp ilaha my Severus Duff carpet her mother-in-law Bruce cleaved her and then the rest of the story how they come back they're too strong and now Naomi has to worry of course about Asha death for for ruse and what happens after a long and surprising evolution of events who does Roose marry Roose actually marries a relative of her first husband of her deceased husband a relative of Alamelu of Alamelu her her father-in-law a man named bias boyars as we know is a grandson a great great grandson of parrots who is one of the twins that Tom Marr gave birth to when you hood was with her I assume you know the story of you hood then Tom are so you hood and Tom were when they were together tom has twins parrots and Zara and parrots will ultimately become a father as well and his great great grandson is bias so Baez marries Roose they have a baby named evade evade is the father of each eye Ayesha is the father of Dove it sewed ovens grandfather was I heard the ovens great-grandfather was buyers and ovens great-grandmother was ruse this is not just for the story of ruse which is good to know but it's also relevant to the discussion that's going to come soon so the when the when the prosecutors describes the marriage of ruse and bias so the people bless her and they say Tobias this is ruse chapter for you Tinashe miss Aisha ball basica kiraku chalet abolished a.m. as basis wrong may God give that the woman that you're bringing into your house should be like Raqqa land layer who built the house of Israel by say Hail Marys or cross shame the base left him but he base her to base parrots your home should be like the home of parrots a sure yo the Tom Marley Hooda parrots is one of the boys who Tom Moore gave birth from from you who did with the father I mean Zehra Heaton are shameless abandon our asses from the children from the seed that a sham gives you from this young woman from this woman ruse the home should be like the house of parrots and by as marriage loose and she has a son and the son's name is evade who become the father of Aisha and the waitress concludes is with the genealogy it starts with you Hooda and Tamar the child is parrots so parrots is the child of you Hooda and parrots is the father of a boy named Catherine Catherine is a father of a boy named rum rum is the father of amminadab who was the father of knock shine the famous knock shine ben-ami nod of an action is the father of Salma and Salma is the father of bias so that's how it goes boy--is Salma all the way up I mean odd of excuse me nationally not of rum Katrin and parrots and then as we said boyars is Ovid and Yishai and of it ich I heard there's no way that's how loose ends yes I Helen does nothing she says vis lov he base Huckabee's parrots this is the deeper meaning when they blessed by us your home should be like the house of parrots ashay kina he led this have lard Latinas bias really their blessing that you should have a child they say clearly but they're saying that the lovers have LOD the way they're describing the birth of a child is not just you should it should be a child from this marriage there should be a home rahib a scar kina he'll others have one Latinas bias the way they're describing the euphemism tequila for the birth of the child is a home what's the meaning of this key Bona love disgust Italian Elsa Alabama's alwah because when it comes to children it's now doesn't depend on source it depends on Mazel I'm gonna read a few lines here and then we'll explain source who penis is fastest youths finish that sillas when you say source it represents the expansion expression of the ten divine qualities of our zilla's chamber penis our enemy which represent an oil that is internalized Haskalah it starts off with seho and there's always say hello so slowly there's a sacral there's a mindset that gravitates to merit and he doesn't want to finish there's a matter of mine that gravitates the five horses merit and hive is guilty holy over there begins the concept of sauce i have all bonnie children charge from the my lumina cycle they rooted in a place beyond say Oh penis Missoula this is what we call Mazel shrew penis Machiavellian which is the highest market wiser called Mazel keep Irish Muslim the word Mazel hi new Hamacher Shama Pia amazing Leah Iselle maíam Medallia in Balaam's and bilham's poetry in Paris Bullock yossel maíam but the water flow noisily means when water trickles when water falls when water flows it's called nozzle it flows Mazel in Hebrew is the source Mazel is the mouthful that which causes the flow Leah sermon or another passage even noisily mean LaVon night it flows from Lebanon for Lehane ich liebe shame bias that's why children are called bias shesh are shy Gamgee McKenna's Machiavellian because it's rooted not in soos but in Mazel market value no no no mrs. Shekhar mhmm that's what we say in Sheva brachot when you get married what's the definition of marriage I should add sir I saw them but Salma but Solomon was toughness so the hisskill I mean Manu Binion are they at risk in Lima Meno he built from Adam a Binion a structure an edifice that is eternal again Binion are they our opinion this is very very brief and compact there's a lot here so let's try to decipher it but a CRM is bar this begins with a chimera mastectomy cotton that the ballot Anya assumes the reader of the learner knows like all the pursue command my America zahlen barley or chamois Kabbalah etc but I brought a Gomorrah so we could actually see it inside the end of my ed cotton DAF cough guess I'm an Aleph it's uh it's quite a loaded piece of Gomorrah and all the more awesome you know talk about this Raschi ties with other vagina on my Ravi Ravi said kya Bonner OMA Xena while viscose Italian Ilsa Alabama's old Italian nose Ravi said when it comes to Calle Calle is life how long a person is gonna live a person's health etc Barnet a person's children everything connected to their children how many children the nature of the toil the quality of the child experience with the child and the third thing is mizuna Parnassus sustenance as did it first says basically got everything here kya bono mazzani's as all the blessings in the world either connected to children family or it's connected to health and life what's connected to partner SATA livelihood I mean one over the two when you say life it's not just a person is alive it's health so that's physical health and of course emotional health and mental health etc it said it first says this is basically all the tables all the time with Jabbar so Robert says these three things but this was higher bono Medina love biscuits Italian Elsa might cotton cough has a model of 28a these are big words it does not depend on a person's source on a person's merit Ellerbee Maas l'italiano so it depends on Mazel now the way you read it literally is nothing to do you're a good guy you're not a good guy you have merit it it's called Mazel that's how you read it Missoula thallium is it's a Mazel flick this one has this child so there's this child of this partners Wow mr. Thomas was all the time us now right away when you read this it's like so why is the territory about you know reward for this week's price in Baku case a tale a who when eSATA Gish maker meet them I mean sky of mitzvahs and so forth how would you reconcile he's just he's like saying nothing to do it just has to do with Mazel yeah now what does really Mazel even mean what does the word mouth bite in the human vocabulary my soul just means like you know just a lot of the jackpot guy has musles guy as luck what what does that mean what is that a real thing that his rubbish saying it's all random robbers not saying it's all random he's saying the Missoula thalamus and then Robert illustrates he says I'll tell you how I know he doesn't see this is how I nobody says I'm gonna show it to you he says there were two people his teachers he knew that Robert and refused a traveler abundant sadhika Hafiz I could tell you about both of them they were sages and they would say they kill when there was famine Robert davon for rain and it rained his 2004 rain and it rained the piece de lives 92 years and robber lives forty years so that robber says why why why what's the fairness he gets to live 92 years he gets to live for yes it was there's another horse they're both subjects Missoula thalamus and as a whole tips to different calculation says the prisoner observed 60 marriage festivities in his family 60 marriage festivities shishun BAE Lola he observed of children and grandchildren and all that 60 marriages 92 years 92 years so he said I robber throughout his lifetime experience 60 events of grief 60 events of mourning grab in his life he says reproduce de they used to serve in a prison they used to serve the most expensive bread from fine flour even to the dogs that's how much richness there was even the dogs had the greatest delicacies and the dogs didn't even eat up the bread that's how much abundance there was the dog shouldn't finish a meal and robber even barley bread which was considered a cheap bread animal fodder at the time or they also couldn't find enough that was robbers house so he says if you looked at both of them said they can if you look at source and you want say oh he did this Internet robber said you're barking up the wrong tree now this in itself is a very powerful idea you know sometimes people look must have been us like a rapper says you really do not have this life figure it out if you think you understand why this person is experiencing this in life in this person loves Italian mills LMS or autonomous I mean other centers that the calculations that people naturally give you know moral calculations what SLUSA me says it's completely you're completely off the mark and then rabbit says about Robert says about himself there were three things that I asked from heaven I wanted to they gave me a number three they didn't give me I asked for the wisdom of Ramona and the wealth of represent we spoke about the prisoners wealth and I also asked for the humility of a robber the son of rabona he says the first two they gave me they gave me the wisdom of Ramona and the wealth of represent the humility of robber Ivana that I couldn't get quite interesting huh he said that I never got I couldn't get that you know and he wanted it but he couldn't get it yeah the Tony says that Theresa st. mark what about a Mzoli's so that's the question but that's what Robert says and then the camera goes off to all continue asougi about these these concepts this is what the ballantine is quoting it when he says Borna lavish italian aloo masala Thalia Mo's he's quoting rava from the Gemara Moyet cotton tough tough customer olive and almost at the end of might cotton oh mama shut the end yeah Paige before the end now before we get to into what the mind mayor is saying because he's saying something very intense here to put it mildly let's just do with the traditional what they explain the bush to get the full picture of it so the Muharram struggle with this does rover really mean that a person's behavior will never impact his life nothing so person said I want to give sadaqa I want to learn more right etcetera etcetera does it ever really say that would be very hard to think that Rover actually says that then there's the famous Gemara there's a much locust in my sector Shabbos a very famous Michael acres of convenient rebuking Rabkin Nina says yesh mausoleum and reputation and says a mausoleum in other words the concept of Mazel aide mazels not is rava arguing with rebuking and and saying this absolutely a Mazel not only is absolutely Amazo the most important things are based on the Mazel is he pushing arguing with that or he agrees with them what does the word even Mazel mean so Rashi discussed as this and toys first discusses this and other is showing him disgust us I would I would say that even though there's variations in this one but the consensus is as follows that the concept of Mazel is also a famous essay by revelry Ali aho Destler of Desilu a famous ball mostly as as far a mist of Mela Yahoo I think in one of the volumes over there the layer of volume for one of the later volumes he has a long discussion on this Gomorrah what does the word Mazel mean generally Mazel has to do with the constellations the constellations what we call the zodiac the way the Rambam describes in Auckland chakra dishes that are ready thousands of years ago they the astronomers who started to map out the sky noticed that in the perceived orbit of the Sun around the earth there is a backdrop that one can perceive in different months of the year a backdrop of stars the month of Nissen April is associated with the zodiac that we call clef which is the Sheep the month of May ear is associated with a zodiac called Shire Arius and Paris a bull 7 June is associated with Gemini twins it was shapes of the stars that had different images and it goes through all the twelve this is completely irrelevant in the question of the earth orbiting around the moon of the Sun the earth orbiting around the Sun of the Sun orbiting around the earth no matter what however you want to define it it's completely irrelevant that discussion as this war but happen every month behind the backdrop of the Sun we can't see by day the stars but if you would be able to see by day the Stars and by night you do you'd notice that the Sun is being is so to speak orbiting in front of this backdrop of stars that have this image which they saw in a tremendous significance ah yeah yeah yeah even though it's a little different because of the amount of years but it still though flashier Toman Sartain re Suleiman I am a crew of caches good'd lead dog and those are the names in Hebrew for the muscles yeah yeah yeah yeah northern hemisphere they sworn a tremendous significance yeah known as astrology Hawk moussaka coven then there's another in Yin and that has to do with the hours of the day they also associated with different masalas so therefore when a person was day which day you were born which month you were born which hour you were born and that's associated with a certain star with a certain constellation with a certain shape that's how they used to touch my zealous Missoula's were those constellations of stars so rep Hanina said yes Mozilla is wrong these Missoula's affect the Jewish people peoples nature's people's dispositions people's experiences in life your be a human says not ain't Mozilla so all these Missoula's have nothing on the Jewish people come over here and says that bonnet hyomezo me don't think it has to do with your exclusive it has to do with your Mazel and he proves it from robbing a prisoner and then he speaks about what he asked for but here there's something strange if you really believe that bonnet I Amazon is all Mazel why asking for it why asking for wisdom why asking for wealth wealth has to do with Hyatt with Mozilla so you are asking for it so it's not Mama's Mazel so they means you could believe that you could think that there could be change there could be change what's the connection I don't know how to answer that question I wouldn't call it science he said why would anybody associate the constellation of the stars with a person's Mazal here on the world what's the relationship at Ernst it's not hard science but they were identifying is certain people's dispositions characters we can assist rings etc so they tried to make these connections it's very very elaborate and detailed and the gomorian Shabbos def come from involve goes to a whole thing if you're born on Sunday into this and if you're born on Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday this hour that hour it's like a whole my son okay so the way it's understood generally is that it's not it's a random thing of luck rather it means that it's all by Providence I'm talking from a Jewish perspective I'm not talking about secular astrology it's by divine providence what do we mean by divine providence every person and this sort of daesil explains I think at length and mr. melih yo every person has a certain mission in this world when you say Mazel it doesn't mean stamps like we say Mazel yet Mazel Mazel means that there's certain dimensions of a person's life that are based on the particular mission that this person has because it's based on a particular Michener's person has so therefore everything in their life is associated with that mission so they have certain strengths to have certain vices certain gifts certain challenges in order to be able to do what you have to do in the world so the Mosel really just represents the person's being born in that time and in that place just like you're born to a certain family and you're born in a certain period of history you're also born in a certain month and in a certain day and in a certain hour and in a certain place and it's all somehow connected to who you are in this world and to who you have to become in this world and much of these things we don't choose because they're there you know it's Korea it's pre making any choices you don't choose who your mother isn't you don't choose where you're born and you don't choose if you're born a male or a female and that's why it's called Mazel Mazel is basically the source of the flow it's almost like you have a flow that's given to you like the Gemara says forty days before the vlog I buy a meal in the beginning of site i buy makhachev lot they announce baa supply nila plainy yeah this daughter boast all these types of things the Gomorrah says in NIDA that Amala Hama Moon Allah tipper brings the sperm to God and says this tipper this embryo this fetus should it be wives should it be a foolish to be strong shouldn't be weak shouldn't be rich and it be poor all these types of things it's basically like the trickle the Mazel the flow that is designated for this particular soul for this particular body what is the flow that comes to you and that's basically a person's life's experience and so forth now weirdest feel a commitment true ver my symptom we say Rosh Hashanah we scream with shoo votes villains doctor my witness Roxanna so there is showing them explain the rich trashy and tells us about your other that it's not chart yeah it's not chart that Mazal is absolute God is in charge of the Mosel in other words God shows it and therefore a person's behavior persist Phillip IRS's my symptom can sometimes change things alter things enhance it make it this way make it that way so that's what they say they said even in a minute when evidence says yes mozilla is wrong he means there is Mazal but it's not fixed and permanent and entrenched and you remain a victim to it the mozilla doesn't have its own independent reality like we learned in the my movie Edyta in garden be able sites if it's the axe in the hand of the of the the chopper the garden so maybe yes the tool is this Mazal and the influence that this star represents but it's all basically just it's an axe in the hand of the chopper the chopper is deciding it in every single moment and therefore the Mosel is never fixed there's a flow yet to flow it's not just your victim to it and that's it so that's why even those who say yes mozilla is right the positives tom mt mr schima la queja person is going to start living their whole lives by astrological signs and driving themselves crazy it means they turn the astrology itself into a nevada czar the Mosel itself is like responsible for life's events and that's completely antithetical to judaism however one wonder if one embraces the view of repkin in a yash mausoleum sector shoppers go for involve with the view of roberto in mozilla there are even those who say I'm looking here in the Horus Rashi holds that Rebbe Rabbi Shannon even if - and who says a mausoleum Rashi holds the bjurman doesn't mean there's no Mazel he means that through Tefila and source miss Panama's dollars shall you huddle it over you can change the Mazel you can expand the Mazel you can alter the Mazel comes tourists and toys for says don't think twice miss asks how can draw is same as all Italian Mills para Marlon be safe Shabbos ain't mausoleums rava argue with rebuking on the Ashley Meyer the lip mmm mashed Anna a lead a horse coddle rather knows that a source can change that's fat ain't mausoleum but generally there's a certain Mazel that's what Rove is telling us that's how choiceless learns the Gemara Seamus tan and sometimes it doesn't change sometimes it doesn't change the bellossom impede us was very very poor and he asks god what's going on and God says for me to make you rich the whole world has to be destroyed so it's like somehow this is essential to the whole plan to the whole process ah he was a big topic sometimes it doesn't change and that's your of his point that there were people who had great wholesome but something does about the he said this is generally having a forum deal with it Raschi tight-fisted tsugi and Shabbos and asougi here Shabbos come from a roommate cut enough call for us the ballot Anya is now bringing us to a deeper layer in this so to understand what this really means so what is rather really telling us what's the feeling what's the what's the conclusion of what we learned from rather basically yeah rob is a Ella feed distiller as toaster says there's a source things could be changed it's not etched in stone immutable for eternity nothing will ever change this is the Mosel person has call it a bad or unfortunate Mazel and that's it it doesn't work that way even according to your offer even if you say yes Maithili is wrong and the Burien Rosa says ain't Mazel at least according to now she doesn't mean it's completely no Mazel it means what it means that it's not fixed you don't have to be afraid of it and Rover doesn't necessarily argue but he's saying it doesn't always work sometimes it could work sometimes it doesn't work so what does this leave us with a sense of optimism a pessimist excuse me I just have a little call the words that we say he has good Marley as bad Mazel that's already that's just vocabulary what does it really mean what makes you have good Mazel you say nothing nothing it's just it's called fate old friend you won the lottery so the ballot Anya is saying here give all the cavorts it's much deeper Mazal refers to the mock of LaMarcus that's what Mazel refers to its back to the whole discussion we're talking about lamella manaslu Milam in our arson snapshot Mazel is nephew fell into some to some trap you were born what do they say they say sometimes on the news you know a tree fell on a car he was in the wrong time in the wrong place okay bad Mazel it's called it's not for the muzzle of some random thing a person fell into devar it is Mazel represents where I belong that which is connected to my soul but not necessarily in a conscious way that is associated with my doubts it's rooted in a place that is completely deeper than the I that I'm conscious of it's rooted in the quintessence which means in the core of the core of the eye not just your Upson but in a place that's deeper they're not sand not because it's less me but because it's actually the core of me that which I cannot process consciously and that's the difference between source and Mazel source you have a Bezdek those beamers Zakhar will be mikheyev that's always a conscious process there's a way of looking at something in a positive way it's a way of looking at something in a different way and the question is which prevails like for example you have a plaintiff where you have somebody in court a defendant a plaintiff and then the question is is he zakah is he innocent or is he guilty so there'll be a safe homeless source there'll be a safe hole here there'll be a judge who will say innocent the judge will say guilty and then they'll have to vote actually apparatus sometimes they'll have a debate internally and what some judges will convince the other ones and the verdict will be perhaps unanimous or not unanimous whatever the situation is source spiritually speaking now that's how it is down here spiritually speaking is a source relates to the way the divine energy this process through the Spheeris and here it is Heston and his Gura and the facet can prevail over the Guara the hakama can prevail over the bina this already begins the process where there is what we call consciousness Talos Mazal is that which is Mosel it's the source from where everything trickles down from what is that that's the mucker the ultimate source which we call Mackie failure and which is Beyonce in other words I don't always have an explanation not because it's not connected to me and it's random because it's so deeply connected to me it's connected to the eye that is rooted in God's eye that transcends any form of manifestation into any form of consciousness even not a level of ruts in which we call save of kawaman which is the lower level of Marcus that's what Mazel means so rob is teaching something very very profound in life you look at your children he was talking about children it's also trouble other aspects of life and so much of our children's lives could be somehow predictable and that's what education is education means an art of communication how do you educate how do you mentor and education has rules education is a sugus leymah in halacha in Terra enig ler in the world will have the education as a big sugar rules of Education models of Education how to deal with different types of children how to understand your children great educators great pedagogues require tremendous training and tremendous skills and tremendous sensitivity and understanding the souls of children most importantly the diversity of children what works for this child will be ineffective for this child maybe what is constructive or this totally destructive or the strong one of our greatest challenges in the world of Education is somehow sometimes one-size-fits-all either you fit in or you don't fit in this is the cookie cutter you fit into the cookie cutter you don't fit into the cookie cutter and if you don't fit into the cookie cutter or evolve oh but we all know real education must always be highest Clemmy must I have to feed you I can't feed me feed you means I have to know your body if I have to teach you tired after know your soul have to feed you mubarak Kalama that's one dimension of children comes yerevan teaches us but there's a dimension you have to understand that is not connected to source not your school set on anybody else's cause it's connected to Mazzoli italian mos whee-hee base car can base parrots and what is Mazel Mazel has to do with that which islam eylem in hadass although my lumina said what does this mean in a person's life then what does this mean in a person's life it begins with marriage children come from marriage how do you define marriage the hisskill I'm a man o Binion a day out when they're talking about marriage they keep on talking about building a home the Gemara says in Shabbos Rebbe is he said I never called my wife wife what did I call her I called him my home why what's wrong with calling your wife wife such a bad word beso zuy story when the trader wants to describe the Kohen Gadol dilutes a worshipper bad though you buy this toy he atoned for him and for his wife what's wrong he said confessions himself he sent in his wife said no the tip about the about they say says the Mishnah base a zoo Easter and from here we know that a kind God has to be married camp can do that void and Kippur if you're not married it's part of the qualities of marriage it's part of the qualifications of the kind god limit it's not part of the qualifications of marriage final calculations of being a kangaroo on yom kippur basis you wish - what does this what does this all bring us to the same thing as in marriage yeah a person how do you get married you choose right the math smitten cup okay or hopefully okay I know some places your parents choose but what but if it's healthy good loving parents what's their choice based on what would be good for my daughter what would be good for my son hopefully they'll be right in many cases they're right we know there knows that none doesn't work in all situations but that's not our discussion today but the basis is you have to find a suitable partner so which means personality most important values me guys Somalian you're looking for a person whom you could walk with and hold hands through the journeys of life which are fluctuating life is a journey it's a complex journey it's an exciting journey and you want that person yeah as youngsters when we choose do we always know everything we usually know very little but hopefully if you were in somewhat of a healthy place and a functional place and you know yourself at least you got some of the basics right or many of the basics right cosmos on them sometimes not but the point is a person anticipates what are you functioning with when you're making this choice you're functioning with your identity what works for me what I like what I appreciate what type of spouse do I want what type of parent for my children do I want what type of relationship they're on what type of home do we want these are the very important things how do I feel about the other person is there a sense of attraction as your camaraderie can they be trust here is this the person you want to build your life with there's no way that in dating even if you date for a long time you know everything about the other person that's that's fictional doesn't happen even if you married twenty years you barely start getting to know your spouse right maybe after a half a century you get to know a couple of things I don't know I'm not there yet but we have to speak to the to those who are more experienced how much you get to really understand huh he's laughing you say nothing you almost there no no no still many surprises okay Marisa okay well this is some of it some time has made there be many more surprises okay so and this is the normal thing who am i what am i gonna decide with your mind I have to decide with my mind I remember I was dating my wife said the shopkin calls me up and says new new new time to make a decision so with an aunt of Mines I said you know if you want you could marry her don't tell me to make a decision on my expense when I have to deal with it if you want to make a decision make a decision you can't tell other people to make a decision but they have to deal with it it's not fair to put pressure on people you know a person has to come to it you have to realize if this is that's all true but there's another element and that's the element of Maca flaw mark if there's an element in a choice that you can't choice you're not gonna choose consciously and if you try to choose it consciously it's gonna be limited to your consciousness but there's an element in the relationship that completely transcends your conscious yeah that's the mind may the ballot Anja taught us we learned last two years ago I think impartial I ate say right Yakov chooses Rocco but who does he marry he marries Leia it's not a mistake mistake Nemec it's the story of life it's the story of life I choose Rocco Rocco Lucy fast toy if I smarter watching you can choose Rocco she's beautiful on every level but who does Yakov end up marrying he marries Leia what this represents spiritually there there's two elements in marriage with the same woman I'm talking about there's the element that I consciously chose there's another element back to Shikha I also chose but how do I choose it I choose it without knowing that I choose it it's connected to girdle in fact me idea I can't know that I chose it because if I know that I'm choosing it it's a choice that's limited and filtered through my limited Dass which is not really who I am it's just a finite aspect of who I am because what I know about me is never me because the core of the me is never what I know because what I know about me is the way my me is being processed consciously through my mind how much of you is that do you think not because of Freudian the Freudian idea of repression that we really repress and if you would just do enough therapy you would really find that who you are that's true in life that there's a lot of things that I don't know because I'm not ready to know cuz I don't want to know I once asked somebody for advice he says do you want me to tell you the truth or do you want me to tell you what you want to hear so usually most people we ask them this question of course I want to hear the truth but try telling it to them and you just created an enemy I don't want to hear the truth I wonder what I want to hear if I would want to hear the truth sometimes you know the truth I came for advice because I knew the truth but I don't want to hear it maybe you'll maybe you'll tell me something else so that's push it if I'll be a little more open to myself and do some work I'll find out who I am that's true but there's a deeper truth that which is unconscious not because I repressed it because it's beyond consciousness Panama is a cancer is not repressed it's not repressed it's beyond dishtowels the Gomorra says a megillah' daf gimel a fog of the evil Lacaze Mazal a cozy the Kumari speaks today about the kneel that people were trembling they didn't see says he didn't see his Mazal saw what does that mean my Mazal saw what I didn't see my mother saw so who's in therapy me or my Mazel I so there's two parts of me now so what do we believe in everybody is schizophrenic it's a very deep concept I forgot that you look awesome as Lacaze I forgot the evil or the muslin or the means on one level I don't know that I saw but who did I see it I saw it in a way that is even deeper than if I would have seen it and that's why I couldn't see it I couldn't see it because just like we all know within physical sight for you to be able to see something the lave weighing will believe the the wavelength the frequency of the light has to be one that can be absorbed by retina and interpreted by the brain in a particular way there are certain things we can't see not because they're not there but because our calum are limited there are animals that see things we don't see there are colors that we can't see not because they're not there because we don't have the vessels the instruments to be able to absorb it but they're fully present the good morning Baba kama all the muesli missoula you say so marriage with Scalia men opinion that marriage has three levels there's a level of marriage Mazzone the food that's one level that's the level of marriage that you can digest like you can actually eat it I don't mean you should eat this spouse I mean you can eat the marriage it's that which is me it's my choice because it suits me like a hand in a glove in easy this couple in via Gavin in via Gavin though Namaskar perfect match like the callous like to say I could he could finish my sentences no wow you could manage to each other sentences all women finish sentences but as if there was a sentence that he actually wanted to say loved Africa then there's a level of marriage that has to do with Raza lavash sovath that's even a deeper level that's the mock-up of marriage your desires are in the same place not your personalities but your desires in a way it's less internalized but it's more powerful because that's really the key that's called size of Kalama the size of of the house the market what we call the garments the blanket encompasses both of they're under the same blanket they're under the same lavash and it's an a locket oh the Gemara says in service it's very deep how the halacha and the mr. fit here who big Davey Heba Vigna hcve think silver if he insists to remain in his cloak and she insists to remain in her cloak we know what it means physically but spiritually what does it mean I will remain in my low voice and my mock off' and you'll remain in your mock if it can't be a marriage hcv thinks over there has to be one market which is what a Hooper's a marriage is created through a hopper miss soohyun you need the Marcus what's the Markov the Markov is there is something that transcends both of you and but you're both committed to it that's what keeps a marriage that's what keeps a marriage as long jet longevity what's the issue with most many secular marriages what are they missing they're missing love they dated for seven years six years four years they claimed there's a lot of love so what happens uh uh what happens is you get bored of people's personalities do his disagreements people change financial situations change psychology changes physique changes circumstances change it's very tough life is tough he wants this she wants this he wants to climb the corporate ladder she wants to be domesticated he's travelling he wants to make money she has her agendas he wants met what there's so many disagreements that can happen all the women who can come into the picture other men can come into the picture I don't have to elaborate it was who leave a who leave a what was missing they only had the muslin the muslin means it worked for me it worked for you five years later doesn't work for me doesn't work for you as people always say I uh I evolved or devolved sometimes what's the mark if the Markov is very deep Markov means there's an over [Music] overarching purpose yeah or to put it in simple English there's a commitment that is unwavering to the institution of marriage that's what we call while commitment that's unwavering now it can't it doesn't always work unfortunately there are situations some of us know well that different different situations that are that even with great commitments unfortunately sometimes things don't work but in many cases the majority of cases this is what secures it why food depletes after a few hours the more mark if the less internal but the more enduring in a relationship to there's a commitment to a certain plan to certain values in simple Jewish language it's a commitment to the rots and Hashem it sounds for some people very boring religious and archaic but it's it's the stuff of a relationship it's it's its commitment to your children to the value of family to the value of marriage to the holiness of a family if you don't have that if you don't believe that a family is a holy entity that marriage is a holy entity how much are you gonna sacrifice for it I can't blame a lot of people they say what do you want why should I be miserable like it's not working we're fighting all day let's just move out yeah but there's kids fine so the kids will have to figure it out to actually be miserable for my kids what does Judy is and let them grow up yeah you know the old joke right a guy's a hundred and four and his wife is 98 and they come to the rough for a divorce how long were you married 89 years 89 years you're getting devoted to the last of the kids diet okay very sensitive very sensitive couple fine it's a joke but but what's the point here the point here is when there is a very deep commitment to a market right it will bring out a relationship that is deeper it's something you're supposed to stay miserable for the sake of your family know when the commitment to marriage is so deep it allows you to find ways in which you're connected again there are exceptions I'm not talking about when there's abuse and there's sometimes it's terrible mental ill I'm not talking about situations that are very very unfortunate and sad I'm not now discussing every marriage you have to be very sensitive here every cases is a case but this is a concept you understand mark if it's not play me but I'm not in the mood so you're not in the mood so hawks so what's another good joke it comes to revenue says if will I get I can't do it will I get these Kim knows just very vanished you scream you know you when Columbus discovered America you're the only one and I'm the only one fine I'm glad that not all of you were laughing in other words some of you can't relate to this baroque Russia you're you're the romantic ones should always be that way should always be that way yeah but that's all conscious Marcus Rutzen is conscious simcha there's something else the Binion are there okay well we'll continue bearish um tomorrow I went beyond my limits I didn't forget your question about the Suhani I didn't forget your question about devanam in terms of simply I say all the ideas which is those and then I just spoke once about God and the terrific great about that five love languages in terminal marriage the brochure bushland this really lends itself to its own here in terms of marriage as Mac if muscle it's just is the the mock-up and the macro for myself you know yeah they tango but what you said about simply the simpler doesn't come from the highest place come something which doesn't have sin but simply is fro is and therefore you need to invite my bias Kosovo is yes so I just wonder if he says anywhere that idea about Chavez I'm still worried about their on buns on the chops plays couple weeks by in terms of job is not intrinsically having simply its connection beats someplace i you know ii guess they're to articulate their i don't know i just wonder if he says that if it comes left any mom or me he does he does yeah he does and that's why it doesn't have a natural simpler because yom tov it says it's rough some campuses are so partial yeah yeah it's clearly clearly the idea is gonna be not that there's no some stuff that you have to discover this sumption in other words naturally it can be divorced from simcha but really there's more simcha but it has to be discovered in other words it's not just a easy easy route that's gonna be the point it's like the me idea you understand me a day unless causes this there's deep simcha but you have to discover it it's not you have to go through a transformation of paradigms that's gonna be the point sometimes to experience this simply you have to transform all your paradigms you have to open yourself up to something that you were not ready to be open to because if you were ready to be open to it there wouldn't have been that that's a whole different regarde oh yeah it's all connected yeah so come on sir language I get second in taller discovering yourself as we mentioned the Neil the whole thing we talked about the relationship get stuck with a sub we spoke with OSA maka that the market of Asaph was very holy but not to pinning me to buy a tomb in Greenburgh nice to meet you how are you a lot spend a lot of time listening so you know me but I don't know you you do know me oh thank you yes I know your work so you're related come on Doc come on - how about what it means but how - how to understand it the six these are the six myths those two meteos yeah having to do with the heart by hand signals there is one no other love aw and not to stray the brackets on the side of the heart even the heroes are 6-0 schmuck these are the mug and evidence three men mmm mmm Wow so Mamma Mia is betraying the Miriam saw question ahora vamos remain oh and then you have nobelium and I'm mulling Cena in Chaves I in Somnath and chin and then he of the 39 moments give all look you live in Minnesota where do you live so you're visiting yeah your brother-in-law speaks very highly of you what is your profession what field of medicine gentlemen we're gonna ask but I started out in surgery but I work in a hospice and Paul moisture yeah and I saw no so yeah caval dick shove a lot of hots locker okay and I hear they have time to learn oh so you have to learn to learn also come on dick a lot of us lockers pleasure to meet you Mazal superconscious let's call it superconscious if it you really don't want to change it if it's John it's a good image but imagine a she is Maki that's why it floats that's why that's all we're saying anything is imagination very good like if I found another pair them that works for me I don't have a bias that's true that's a good it's that the core is at ease the corners and ears good the bias is your core and when you have a home that that ease there's a safety there's a security whether it's as a child or as a marriage or family tears then you can imagine experience your knowledge you can have the other two beautiful I think that's powerful yeah yes yes yeah thank you very good beautiful beautiful sometimes you got a split to come together somebody said that sometimes it takes a divorce to come back to real solving sometimes two sometimes a divorce is the prerequisite unfortunately but sometimes it's that way sometimes couples have to be close to a divorce to get back together they have to be able to experience separateness in order to come back you know what I mean they have to be able to choose the relationship sometimes in some couples they're like in it but they're like stuck when they could both feel not stuck and actually imagine life without the other then they can choose you know what I mean it's it's it's it's a serious thing so now they have to be able to imagine life without the other which is painful because it speaks about separation but it allows them then to say hmm Wow so there is a me without the marriage do I want that me and maybe I want the meat of the marriage so but then it's a healthier choice because you're not stuck and that's a blessing if you could do that without the actual separation yeah well if if a marriage is so forced then you can never experience the Bliss because you like you just like stuck and there's no other option when the tailor were the traitor legislates the options for divorce it's for a reason even if a person doesn't get divorced it's part of the equation that marriage has to be a choice if you can terminate it how logically it means that you have to choose it because you can also unchoose it and that's part of marriage if marriage is not by choice it's not going to be a marriage it's gonna be a different type of relationship the choice is part of what makes it a marriage and an ongoing choice yeah and the interesting is that biblically the option is on men not on women ravi nagesh room changed it so rabbi leo Hokie type so men who don't understand Judaism think it's male chauvinistic it's really the opposite men need the option traditionally more than women because women it's easier for them emotion I'm not now mixing it with today's culture the way it was that Rabanne aggression changed it for practical reasons but the way it wearable iake toi writes this in his book issue baser men naturally are loners they could be very easily loners and they give up marriage relationships don't come always natural to them for women it's much more natural their uterus is also prepared to have babies every month so they're in a relationship always the word the rectum mum comes from Iraq from Raqqa Mona's compassion so when you tell a man you could choose otherwise if you want even a divorce today you can give her a get that allows them then to make a good choice a healthy choice a productive choice the woman usually doesn't need that choice to choose the relationship men need that choice to be able to say okay is that what you want fine get divorced and you can consider it then you can talk about it and you can bring it up and then you can decide ah tov l'm a service for the woman with the mace of Armel or she wants to be together now this doesn't mean we're not talking about in a case where the man is abusive and she can't handle it then the best and will force him to give again that's called quite we're talking now biblically - oh sorry merits and we're not talking about that in other words if it's a dangerous marriage or a crazy marriage but the guy is not fulfilling his obligations it's a different system than the hazaa will force them the dysfunction that we have today with gettin right people are blaming Judaism but it's not really the fault of Judaism the system of Judaism was a system that was supposed to work we're just not implementing it based on our limitations and based on sociological pressures and based on corruption that men get away with murder especially they give money to this Shore they get away with murder you understand what I'm saying in an ideal system that follows you know the guy the guy is is torturing his wife 20 years he doesn't give a get but he's getting alius and he's a upstanding member in the community and nobody utters a pip Pips that's oh that's a terrible travesty that's a horrible travesty that's not good a problem right to save them and go to prison because one more yeah I'm saying that my point is that that's biblically in such a situation they would force to give a get or time on a regular situation the woman will work it out and he needs the choice that's why he has the choice now Boehner garam changed it he said that you can't just divorce a wife she has to agree unless it's a real serious law she's abusive or he's abusive you didn't you don't need your wife's agreement you could just give her again and move on the question is why and then series Abellio ketosis cause a tear understood yeah thereby giving him that option you already neutralized most of the problems I think it's an interesting insight again you have to understand the culture of the day today it's a very different culture if she's a Bab that's called battered woman syndrome battered woman syndrome right so that's the idea I've been in garrison you can't divorce a woman without her consent just like you need the consent of the man you equally need the consent of the woman you can't ask why cuz he saw people who took her Walker and they misconstrued it and manipulated it for their narcissistic benefits now they played games with it just like hillo made a prose book why her Walker says you now that Adam and loans after sabbatical all the loans get cancelled in the ideal society God wanted that every seven years everybody could restart but he realized nobody's doing loans anymore I'm not gonna lend you money I'm not gonna lend you money so it's over so that's it so people are not ready for that state of consciousness so what do you do he made a provable you get the point cuz in the that's where the trader wanted you should cancel the one with the seventh year if you have the money the other person doesn't have the money can't pay you back cancel it let them start over again sit resting on your on your credit rating you don't pay something it only stays for seven years seven years credit rating maybe it's connected but Hillel realized that we're we're not we're not gonna get anywhere you're abusing the system Ravenna garum saw people are just divorcing their wives because I'm mana I don't want to get married anymore I want to be married I divorce her because they're in a place where they're manipulating the halacha the halacha and Toyota was written for a very ideal society of people who are working on themselves and people who want to do the best and they need this option but when it's being abused he got to change it so he said you have to have the woman's consent if not every guy wakes up I want a divorce no she has to agree if they both agree fine again if she's abusing him or conversely then the authorities have to come in that's a whole different picture but we're talking about if there's not that abuse he wants to get the force she doesn't want I don't care we're getting divorced doesn't work that way she has to agree if it's a miserable marriage fine you can both get divorced that was a vinegar shams institution but biblically it's not that way marriage you need her consent divorced not why why is the tears change you can't marry a woman without her consent but you can't devote you could divorce her without her consent before every interaction what's the logic so this is this is a very interesting explanation marriage you need her consent because she's getting married it's not a relationship without her consent if you're forcing her to get married it's not a marriage it's a slave right but divorce is a whole different idea it's not that you want to force her to get divorce is that the terror felt that by giving him an option he'll be able to choose marriage and he'll be good he'll be able to work on the marriage because he'll feel the sense of separateness and independence to be able to choose it which in 90% of cases or in 100 she doesn't need and again if she does need then you don't need his consent then Besner will mix if she really needs a divorce because of abuse right then best in has to Mixon but in a case where it's not that it's just work she doesn't need the option of divorce and it's a very interesting insight with women unless they're traumatized or mentally unstable a woman often is very sensitive to what has needs to be done to be worked on a marriage I'm not talking about in extreme situations they they sense the value of relationships very deeply and instinctively I know it's not politically correct to say this but it's the truth women instinctively are more in tune with relationships there's more empathy you see how they deal with babies and with children today you're not want to say anything about men and women there's no differences but when your notes true you could shrink the driller you could compare how a mother takes care of her babies to our father takes care of babies I'm not making a generalization some mothers are irresponsible and some fathers are amazingly responsible for generally speaking the gift of empathy and connection and relationships is a feminine gift was there more divorces before with a negation was this what listen divorce in Judaism was always legislated unlike the Christians who are at a time prohibited divorce in Judaism it was always permissible because there were men who were manipulating the halacha just like today there are men who manipulate the halacha with divorce they keep there they keep their wives suspended in limbo and uncertainty for 10 15 20 years it's a travesty ah he instituted monogamy well there's the whole story but I think on Iran Iran a Princeton who did the principle behind it is there I mean a Gershon I think so again a very deep reality that you know even one marriage will be hard to sustain and having a few marriages is just a yeah but all that's provided in the Mormons they ain't no the issue is this men are compartmentalized creatures women are not we have ever seen in the box men are compartments of fact when a man when when a man goes on a business trip yeah in his own mind I'm not gonna say he's divorced but every day a man goes to work like he goes to work now I'm at work his wife calls him and he has to remember that he's married you know baby ah women are always connected they're never disconnected not compartmentalized creatures that's why how logically bibley a woman can't marry two men why not he can marry two wives let her marry two men it won't work the woman's whole soul is connected to the man it's not half-and-half that's what that's the biblical perspective there be no games through that in reality it's not going to be sustainable this class is brought to you by the achieve Annette please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at triple w dot they ueshiba net slash donate