The Secret of the Shofar Sob: Searching for Our Lost Children - By Rabbi YY Jacobson

[Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] you I'd like to introduce our keynote speaker who people were asking me how you can introduce them a lot of people came out and said they want to hear him I said let me tell you something you don't want to hear me you want to see him because his essence is much greater anything that comes out of his mouth is because of his penis because who he is and he's much beyond people 24/7 wherever they are whatever walks of life unconditionally and that's why we're here the MacIsaac ourselves before Rosh Hashanah thank you great covered introduce rabbi Jacobsen good morning good morning thank you Ronnie a good good bench dr shana tova Masuka Axia waha simit over to one and all the Gemara MSFT yuma tells a very enigmatic an apparently perplexing story Turner a bond on the gomorrah says in you muhammad a stone or a Bonham the rabbi's taught my said there was a story with shimon hatzadik shimon hatzadik was the Kohen Gadol in the second base emitter in the first period of the second base a mediator the Mishna says in prvc was Monsieur Rick Ness a column from the last remnants of 120 and Sheikh Nasser said Allah who created the Renaissance of the Jewish people with the first error of the second base HaMikdash and he served as a Kohen Gadol for four decades one year he came out from the coitus shakadou shame on Yom Kippur and he told his talmidim he told his students that this year I'm going to die so they said Reber why do you say this so he responded and he said each year when I go in to the Holy of Holies on the day of Yom Kippur I always see an old man dressed in white he walks in with me and he exits with me this year I went into the kadesha Kardashian and I saw that this old man was completely dressed in black Baddeck and covered from head to toe in Skyrim and black when in with me went out with me so I know that this is my final year on this world so the Gemara circus came by circus were passed and shimon hatzadik an awful Amish Cove he fell ill and a week later he returned his soul to its maker that's the end of the story in miss Esther Yuma I asked you today how do we understand this first of all what does it mean that when he went into kadosh kadosh him he saw somebody dressed in white who is dis dressed in white the posix says about the innkeeper in Paris acronym eyes we call autumn law year no man should be there with the Kohen Gadol goes in so the euro shall me says in humor the column is a fellow Iceland Chicot so valet and play autumn even the angels about whom the Haskell's calls them today of them in his Merkava vision in the beginning of safer use Haskell even they shouldn't be there suddenly in the Holy of Holies the Chimera says there's a man and he's dressed up and he's old and he's white and he's black what happened to what year was called Passover halt Amana there's no image there's no statute there's no who's there in the cachaça darshan and what's the idea that every year was wide suddenly he's black and therefore he knows he's going to die that year I want to change the subject for a moment please so those who are a DD we're already off subject don't worry we go to the next subject and probably a disproportionate amount of people who are attracted to your organization or they say what's the rush at Avis of ADHD you know there are should Davis attention-deficit hey donuts so we'll go to topic number two okay a few days gonna be Rosh Hashanah and as the Mishna says mitzvahs hiya Shaffer the crown jewel of Rosh Hashanah is the listening the blowing of the chauffeur but when one studies the rhythm of Kia's chauffeur one cannot help but being perplexed who came up with these sounds of Kia's varam kia kia true at kia kia shortened threw at Kia so the Gomorrah says it my secretary Shoshanna diplomat gimel Amira byah byah explains that the plastic actually says about rosh hashanah the first day of Tishri and pushes mr young true yell ahem it's a day of true but what is true of me so you look in targum onkelos in the aramaic translation of truer it says truer is you Vava au Vova okay great so what does the Evolve Ameen I don't know what truer means now I know it's your vulva but what does the Evolver mean so I buy your references us to a pasta can safer shaped him in the book of Judges and the Tanakh in the via pay Rick hey there's a story there about a king Yavin Mela hut sir one of the Canaanite Kings who had a general a commander-in-chief whose name was Cicero who commanded nine hundred chariots iron sherry it's nine hundred troops of powerful powerful military force sister was an arch enemy of the Jewish people there was a war that took place in amick Israel between sister on one assign and Vera on the other side Vera embark on the Jewish sorry the Jews triumph and Sisera the commander-in-chief of Yavin czar me escapes he escapes and who greets him says the pasa Yael Yael is a woman from the Canaanite tribe sister trusts her because there was peace there was an alliance he goes into your ELLs tent he goes in the else then he tells her he's thirsty she gives him to drink milk he tells us stand by the entrance of the tent if anybody comes by and says IH by ich is any man here make sure tell them I am there's nobody here and he falls asleep deep in sleep and Yael kills Sisera saves the Jewish people when divider sings her Shira to thank the creator for the great victory so the very anivia describes one detail in the story that usually we would not pay note 2 and that is sisters mother in the words of dweller and safety barrier case she says but adhoc alone anishka for a woman stands by a window gazing through the window but to yaver aims sister the mother of Sisera is me Aviv you've over but the abbot she groans she moans she cries she weeps medulla boy she sure is my lover why is my son's chariot procrastinating my duaa a syrup I'm America voice of why are the wheels of his wagon so delayed ah cezzah by avati yahweh vain sister what was she doing by the window worried about her son she wasn't laughing she wasn't compelling she was crashing she was despairing she was upset she was dejected from here we learned what the evolved amines so now we know what Kia Schaefer looks like just copy sisters mother that's it you gotta do but now I have a question what how could that sisters mother do by the window I'll buy your office two opportunities ghanoush a goner you Lulu yellow what are the mothers do when they don't know we're Ronnie's rebels are at 1:00 in the morning they stand by the window or today it's by the cellphone by the iPhone texting and what do they do back to Yahweh but what does about to Yahweh of me does it mean ghanoush a gardener who you Lula Yolo is it a sigh or is it a sob we're not sure either sister's mother was standing by the window and doing one of these oh oh holy God right or now you get it we don't know maybe she did one maybe she did the other maybe she did both either she saw it or she sobbed though she saw it and she sucked and since we're not sure so what a good Jews do we don't want to choose the pancakes or the eggs or the bagels of the salad to do on everything that's the way we do it so therefore we want to grow we want to sob we want to groan and we want to stop so here you have the whole structure of Chios a firmer Shoshana there's always a takea before and after because before and after a true would do sit Kia's the kazow learn out by variety show if it has to be a takea before but what is a true I don't know so I do everything first I assume true is sighing and Sabich sigh do takea chiavari truth kia got it there may be true a means only maybe she only saw it maybe she just stood by the window said o side dude Kia shrugs he is three times but maybe she only saw maybe she was sitting and crying on the couch by the window so I do to you through its key is three times and I fulfill the divine commandment of Kia chef on rosh hashanah so now my dear friends let's understand this Jews come to Sheol enrichers shown at the air show for all around the world Jews who don't show up all year come Russia shop and they listen to show through but a more be here in Paris as a brazier there's a sense of awe and Majesty that enveloped Jewish communities on this great day of the Ummah dinner and if somebody asked rabbi who came up with all of these funny sounds and the answer of course is Cicero's mother interesting we're all trying to copies copy and figure out what Cicero's mother did for heaven's sake he have a sister an archenemy of the Jewish people okay his mother was a mother have nothing against sisters mother I mean usually I don't know the Apple sometimes falls far from the tree sometimes it doesn't fall far from the tree depends if there's a rural Matsuura Matsuya but maybe sister got his education the way his mother gave it to him as the gemara says and suka children tend to express what they hear in the homes of their parents and the hold key of chauffeur is instituted around sisters mothers sobbing or weeping or sobbing and weeping or weeping instead of sobbing or sobbing instead of or sighing instead of weeping for her son what's Prashant how do we understand this oops [Music] okay that's good it's suitable to this yeah except aside this episode then for the picture [Music] a lot has been written and said on the subject but today I want to share with you one insight that has been presented by the cosmic on Easter particularly one of the great macaw Balin who was no and he lived in the 16th century is known 17th centuries on as a banal Menachem Azaria of fauna from Italy there are men me Pam knew he's known as he has a safe a famous safer called asaram amorous and in his asaram amorous he's discusses this as well as the Megillah Lucas the Rizal the she door and some of the other great Hashmi on Easter and they incredibly link up the story with a Gomorrah a mess after Sun had enough samovar Zog the Gomorrah me been a bond of shall see Sarah Lum do terrible a rock there's a sentence of Cicero learned Turner in the city of Bnei Brak I'm not using this as a commentary to what happened in my neighbor class tweak I'm just telling you a Gomorrah and Sanhedrin who was this who is this me been a bond of we don't know but there's a safer called Duke a safe room which has different versions of Gomorrah texts many which were censored throughout the generations and if you open up the Duke Leto from son had no sigh my love you'll see on insert and the insert includes three words umano who was this descendant of Cicero learning Toyota and Bnei Brak and the answer in the gomorian sadness two words Rabi Akiva none other than Rabbi Akiva about whom the Gomorrah says also son hadn't COO who I live with the rabbi akiva the entire Torah shovel pail that we have is all based on the to the lineage the Merkava the harsh gopher the wisdom of Rabbi Akiva he was a descendant of sister comes there are many pärnu and takes it a step further the Gomorrah says in the second nausea of gimel I think de la Vera leash ma me mitzvah shallowness mom sometimes a sin for the sake of God is later than a mitzvah not for the sake of God and who is the example of an avarage leash ma Yael because when you read the sukham carefully and you see how the Terrier there knock the Navi describes it the Chimera says it's obvious that yar wasn't just a simple hostess the way al got Sisera to relax to drink milk to get exhausted was by allowing sister to have relations with them and the gomorrah says in Yama's Sheva be Eli's ball or I say Russia sister at seven there were seven experiences of intimacy between Sisera and Yael and the Gemara goes through the sukham showing intimating each time there was intimacy that evening or that day between your Ellen Sisera no wonder he was so exhausted and he says give me something to drink it's amazing I'm thirsty she gave us a milk instead of water about the house AUB Smith her she covers him up with a blanket the Gemara says really is that really relevant to the story that she covered with a blanket maybe she also put a teddy bear there maybe she gave him a gameboy to go to sleep she really covered in with her mind what if she covered him out with a blanket something tomorrow she misses me coz Smee Smee car that God says my name was here because it was an RV really Sh'ma this is what saved literally the Jewish people from not just an anti-semite from an arch enemy who was who was determined on destroying every last Jew this is called an Ave de leche ma it's interesting stomp I just thought it was a Jewish woman her name was Chrysler and she develops she was a great actress unbelievable beautiful person and she had a relationship with Hitler and as a result of that she got plans that she then gave to the British that helped them defeat defeat Nazism and it's fascinating that such a similar story tal in a different fashion a different happened also in the last generation Chrysler's a fascinating story but it's not for now in any case that's what the castle base Myka doctor I'm Amy Pond ooh the third the third time they had intimacy Sisera impregnated yeah that baby that was born was the ancestry of rebbi akiva that's where the two gamora's connected in a bond of celsus row and that Stamper sister sister with your L in that story comes the makalah moccasin says kid diary everything is with her Emma's with kabali he says that's why sister tells her stand by the door and look I yes police he says yes / you should become a tree rebbi akiva yes boyish does rebbi akiva some way here didn't it suits this I came is here and if somebody asks you yes for you is there Amanda which became a tree rabbi akiva say in not LOI because in an IRA Mayock means yes and that's why what I say you'll be Smith Hashmi cafe because the de Morrison's and brothels yacht so natural to be Akiva when he was doing you know the story was saying SH MA and how many letters are in the first plastic of smack off hey easiest so that the casts a obese missus me her favors every Akiba yachts an option but I thought and when he says I'm thirsty says some may see crosshair Aleph he's missing the echoed because the X belongs to W Akiva and he goes through all of the sukham demonstrating how the tire is referring to Rabbi Akiva and that's why when the mother of Sisera is crying says there are many people knew something extraordinary he says every mother in Tana is a metaphor for the mother of creation makini may offered all my Sevilla carries a bias a ma Bonham Smith the screener is called the mother the mother he Carla phonetic on support and the aim ray vets Ursula Freud from the mother is on the chick - Allah has a eight the aim is the mother the Sheena which is feminine picados Vario which is masculine Dinah's russian the cave is feminine is the mother it's the mother of the Kosmos the mother of the universe the mother of creation the mother of humanity the mother of the Jewish people Rock'em avakov anime anna-lena him Keanu the mother of Sisera represents the mother who consciously or subconsciously knows that her son has within him a priceless gift that is going to impact history who rebbi akiva but he Aviv Eames sister oh you know why she was crying she wasn't only crying in a biological level her son came on way and she wondered what happened and the pasta continues that all of her friends says what are you worried do you know how much booty Sisera fetched today from the Jewish people yet how come so low they're busy divining all the booty from the war that's why it's taking him late dr. Mengele mu cos shallow bergamot rhea sh ass yet how cou shallow you know why what's happening what's happening is rebbi akiva soul which is cooler livid about cuba the whole shots comes from where Akiva is being transmitted but to Yahveh aims Sisera the mother of cicero was worried what was she worried perhaps her son was killed on the battlefield before he had a chance to be with the L and therefore the spark of Rabbi Akiva would be lost for eternity that was the Vettii aviv perhaps the spark that she nurtured and she her son had might be squandered and lost and forfeited that's why she groaned says there are many ponnu you understand why the whole kia Schaeffer is based on this you understand this is t'keyah safe Kia chauffeur is the sheen of the mother and the Jew stopping groaning for what for the spark in Cicero that may be lost and he says further Cicero was a Russia Gummer but in him you had Ruby Aquila and if destiny would not develop the way you did Rabbi Akiva would not be given to the world it would not be cooler while Liberty rebbi akiva rebbi akiva is that individual who after Corbin by his shame he stood up and literally resurrected the Jewish people from the ashes and secure Jewish eternity and this might have been forfeit at that moment but the Yahveh vain sister of idea Schaeffer true as your father is that spark being lost that's why there's ash Warren that's why there's a truer because if you want to get that spark and you think you could remain aloof sublime detached I can't access that's far I need this forum I need a truer which means I have to enter into the consciousness of the person of the spark I'm trying to embrace after feel the brokenness I have to be able to feel the anguish after be able to feel the tears I have to enter into the world of that child of that Rivia Akiva of that potential and be there within their fragmentation because only then I can lift you up in search from the tone wherever those anger zone that a young man came over to him well today he's not so young he was young at one point this is usually the case I think and he told them that I want to tell you a story about yours ADA the told me Reb is a colonel of Russia he says I was learning he lived in by the Fergana he said I was only gonna get even by the Fergana and one evening the Masha gear came into the achiever and he threw me out he threw me out he says packed the Pelican gay you have no place here because of X Y & Z so what do I do it's after the night Seder I've now let us stay in the dormitory I have no place in this you sieve anymore so I knew there was an altitude that only rep who was in his 80s he said I went to the Tommy revin I knocked on his door it was already later at night he says yeah balk at all so he says Margie I flew me out of your Shiva night Seder I come these roots again I can't stay in the dormitory maybe you have an answer for me he says when did he throw you out in the morning while ago three out he says there's no bosses anymore to go out of by the gun where does he expect you to sleep he says I don't know that's my problem he says you mean he threw you out at night and he didn't think were you supposed to sleep that he sponsor a taxi could be able to go to your parents no he just said leave so he said I can't figure this out I have to go speak to the Marquis he's just come it's already 11:30 it's almost 12:00 he puts on his cot is this it took his beccaj then he says Kim McGirt he's a man in his 80s he wasn't a young he was weak and he goes with his buckle to the mogea the Bakr knew where he lived and he not conduits already hot so survive yeah cease tells his name just only River he opens the door he's already in pajamas where's gear was there any in pyjamas so what gives me the source the toner ever comes to my house she says I have a caution this book that tells me that you threw him out tonight the bosses are not running anymore from buyers were gone what was your mother where is he supposed to sleep tonight he says there's a lot less sexually it's not my problem he did what he did he doesn't belong in this receiver he's I'm not discussing if you had a justification to throw him out enough so that the throw him out but where do you want him to sleep tonight and I don't understand something I see you put on pajamas that means you didn't fall asleep on the couch you went to sleep without honey up see honey probably went to the mikveh first you did a long career so I'm it maybe taking cut size maybe you finished you sure you didn't mean you prepare it you prepared to go to sleep right to give back in a summer to the Creator so I want to understand what was going through your mind you prepare to go to sleep when you threw out a boy who doesn't have a better than I just explained to me how you expected to fall asleep that night when this boy doesn't have a bed as I'm a Mossberg I heard from the tone that he says was luckily to the credit of the Mars gear he said you're right I made a mistake he said okay tactless boy he needs a bet where's he supposed to sleep okay let's try to think why was thrown out maybe they started to talk why he was thrown out okay go back you'll find you back in yeshiva so he tells today that telling him I want you to know that what I saw that night from use ADA saved my entire spiritual religious and Jewish life because I cannot remain detached from a person going through Shivaram or true in any way but the Yahweh vain Sisera I you say he's a Sisera you don't know what's contained in a sister sometimes your be Akiva is contained in a Sisera if you allow the potential to emerge however before and after the Shoreham and the truer there has to be a takea because if there's no takea before or after then we equally fail to fulfill our mission here what does it mean there's a takea before and after it means we cannot look at a person at a child at a teenager at one of our boys at one of our girls and ourselves and just see brokenness oh never never never he didn't make it through the system black sheep of the family let's get Ronnie Cohen on the case because nobody can deal with this you're not dealing if that's your attitude you're already lost you're ready lost innocence I have to look at my child and be able to see takea takea is a wholesome sound a sound of chitters were all born with Tia she lured him and through happens later well you emerge from your mother's womb you're at Kia your wholesome you pure you're innocent you're confident you're happy you do cry but you're confident the nose in this small room and through what happens later I have to be able to look at a person and see their essential wholesomeness I can't identify them as a grown and a sob I can't identify them as a broken Kaylie I can't identify them as a tragic Netta case of Ramona's I can't identify them as a lost soul in the wilderness and I need to bring in the trauma the trauma experts to save these Souls I have to be able to look and see that essential goodness and purity and wholesomeness at the core of his or her soul which can never be obliterated or destroyed because Ana Shama is a hale aquel a commie my mama SH and it remains that way and no mistake no sin in the world can obliterate that quality of the soul as a piece of our must like nothing can shatter or destroy Hashem Kiva Yahoo nothing can destroy the core of a hey look Alec I'm Oliver neshama you begin with Tia once you begin with Tia now you can go into the Shoreham and the truer and then produce at the Keokuk doula which comes only after the farm and the true because the takea that comes before this farm and the true is just innocence the innocence and wholesomeness that is created by working with our brokenness and by raising up here soon our imitation by by taking the broken fragments of lucas sneers shivering lucas Menachem bar and that kiyah is a much deeper takea it's the kiya that comes not from denial another innocence that is naive but from a wholesomeness that has to really work through a lot of anger a lot of resentment a lot of pain a lot of agony a lot of depression a lot of challenges a lot of doubts a lot of cynicism and so forth I heard a my sir once and I'll tell you I'll tell you Frank I'm not sure I understand the story but I like the story and sometimes things you don't understand are are actually more clear than things you understand because you realize that you can't wrap your brain around it so there was one Sayid who came to the hailer collusion er there'll be stronger Jinnah and he says that I have an issue with you I see you know the erosion there was mouth once everything was royal aristocratic by the intrusion was Malthus he says people come they give you quick luck they give you money it's a money it's a business your business I don't like this I can't I can't pledge allegiance to you or your system or your courtyard or your tighter version it was a Kaddish Salinas from Sadiki had owned this is what he says it's all money what are you taking money from people so the illusionist says I'm gonna tell you mice will tell you mice there was once a Shannara you know what if snorers guy who has a PhD from Harvard and fundraiser and he was a quintessential snorunt in other words not like Ronnie : he knew how to do it you know it was a guy on 13th Avenue the other day in borrow parkas or the cigarette with his hand down guy Wolves Bart's docket stalker catches a cop and she says go get a job I work hard you should work hard you know what I mean yeah he was a real real snorted and he you know he made a good par no sir you know if you know the right times right places right people because it's not gonna shame upon us you know remember no taxes I'm a high so this guy was a professional snorer and he made a very nice living very nice living he had a gov Alba Camilla and that is he was neba physically was blemished he was missing a few fingers he was hunched back he had a lid his face was deformed so people come on us every child that was born he made sure to deform him episode sets in the nose assets in the eye to pick cotton his hand was just oh so I got a guarantee him a porno so if he's not gonna be deformed be warned I recommend us eight children everyone right when they were born talk before the press after the bris he made sure the kid had a conspicuous blemish to secure a dignified and favorable livelihood as a respected member of the community the last child was born the ninth child a beauty a beauty I'm our hope and he was came with his hammy was about to do that visor of teaching him a trade early on his wife comes to it says it's better come on us such a beautiful kid such an angelic body was him up he says it's gonna be very irresponsible of me he needs a plan awesome I beg you let him find another plan no sir let him become a doctor no that's not a pen no sir you gotta learn you got a deuce it's not a par now it's not respectable do me a favor I need to help my kids I'm a responsible father I'm not like you a half-game AMA she-bears please Manas okay for his wife's sake what don't you do for your wife you love your wife he doesn't hurt his child doesn't deform it kid grows up mama she fate oh yeah you say MA - tickle Yosef asada - laughs solemn I just an unbelievable angelic beauty okay father gets old it's time for him to write his Tavo he feels he's gonna leave the world and you know from all the years of snoring he made the accumulated a very nice partner said he had stacked up in his pillowcases hundreds and thousands of dollars so his savoir he leaves all the money to the youngest son the kids read it so far the guy said I understand we're all deformed we get nothing this kid this perfect kid gets everything what's that surplus you all have upon us of their kin there's a - Mona this is mamas case so therefore after take care of him you I took care of years ago I deformed you look how ugly you are look how horrible you are look how much sugar you look look how never you look you're all taking care of the community what I recommend us on you this guy in their bar is a perfect kid a statement I had to leave in the inertia I'm sorry delusional looked at this man and said that child losses me I'm not sure I understand the story but it made me think it made me think about what he was saying and it made me think about the definition of perfection versus imperfection from the Sivaraman the truer comes that key Abdullah that could never be experienced without that key it's very easy in our community to look at certain children and say let them go they didn't make it through the system they're not gonna graduate yeshiva with honors they're not gonna end up not in brisk and not even in the miron on Impala which are not even in Slovakia and I'm in Severn and they're not gonna have their for three or two years in Lakewood and I don't know about there should they're 16 and things happen seven okay Baruch Hashem it's a family of six kids five of them are success stories right and one of them knew eight of them are successful is one of them new foreign you always have that but on Rosh Hashanah the whole structure of Kia Schaefer was this organization the whole thr was there's an it suits insist on that might be lost and these kids are no cisserus but there's even an its incision that might be lost and the Shema hog noises weeping and sobbing don't allow these sparks to get lost because every Akiva is there and if rebbi akiva is there you're depriving me and the world and history of their light of their depths of their majesty who's there Rabbi Akiva is their wider be Akiva why rebbi akiva Dafa Akiva is a series Yaakov Rebbe Akiva says that Riza was a neat sorts of Yaakov the Gomorrah says in coolin Yaakov had a dream remember the dream he saw a ladder they're going up and they're going down them I walk come on going up and I'm fretting about why are they going up and down they were bored the rabbit was giving a sermon why were they going up and down Jacques the Gemara are you enormous Stockland but you conditionally Alcala my law your Kalamata they were going up and looking at Yaakov's image above they were coming down and looking at Yakov's image below what does that mean what does it mean now covers two images and they're going up and now looking at his image above and below one of the answers my dear friends is very simple and very profound every single person has two images does your image above and is your image below your image above is what you're capable of your image below is what you look like in reality Henry Kissinger writes in his memoirs that the last night of Nixon's presidency the night before he resigned because of Watergate he would have been impeached but Richard Nixon resigned so he stayed in the White House very late and when he left he stood in front of a portrait of John F Kennedy who was Nixon's eternal rival and he starts speaking to Kennedy who was dead ten years and he says John F Kennedy why does America love you and why does America despise me because Kennedy was loved he's still loved for some mysterious reason and Nixon was always hated why do they love you why do they hate me and they said John I'll tell you the reason when they look at you they see what they would like to be when they look at me they see what they are every person has two images there is your image below when dear Byner shel Olam created you what did he have in mind I once heard an educator tell somebody and I'm impressed by you you wake up in the morning you look in the mirror and you still choose to come outside very inspiring now when God created you when he created you what was he thinking some of you are successful people you created companies in your life when you created that company in your mind around paper what were you thinking you were thinking about a tremendous profit about a tremendous success story where there was a yeshiva an organization a company a movement a website or sure a Streamy structure you had in mind success you know it comes with failures and ups and downs but you had something in mind says they were a lot tinier them it cooked up the neshamah for naive I've been cooking of the neshamah V estate in markovia I had to do more the Adam Kadmon forgive the Kabbalistic intimations but I'll tell you what he means simply when you look at a soul of a Jew a soul of a child your child and yourself any child you have to be able to see them from God's perspective what was he thinking when he made this soul what did he see in this person if you cannot see the person from that perspective you and I cannot be there for the person the way we're capable of being for the person I have to be able to see your image above and then your image below my image above is who I was meant to be who I'm capable of being what I was called on to me my image below is what I am in actuality in most people's lives the two images don't match by Yakov avinu they went up and down up and down you know why for the first time they saw somebody whose image above an image below matched they say it was once a camel a baby camel who turned to its mother and said mommy Arabic asha first ask you question says mommy why is it that all these animals are so handsome and we have these three toad feet each one of our feet has three ugly big toes why so Martha says I'll tell you why because we're not regular animals we're made to travel you know that we're capable of trekking thousands of miles through the Sahara Desert we need three big fat ugly toad legs to be able to walk so long for so long Wow fouled it mom have another costume why these weird ugly long eyebrows eyelashes ah ha ha ha ha you think you walk through the Sahara Desert of miles it's simple there are sandstorms you want to be blinded so God created these eyelashes and these eyebrows to protect us from the sandstorms as we track thousands of miles through deserts fouled it mother one more question why this grotesque humps why can't we just have nice flat kazakh backs why do we camels have to have any strange I'm sad my little daughter let me explain to you something when you're trekking thousands of miles on one side of the planet the other side of the planet were you getting water you're gonna dehydrate you're gonna die from thirst sodium by inertial eylem gave us these humps so we can absorb enormous quantities of water store them in our humps and then travel thousands of miles healthy robust wholesome without starvation without the odd ratio scaffolding she's quiet for a few minutes and then she says mama how about feta kasha I have a fourth question we have three told legs to Trek thousands of months we have big eyelashes and eyebrows to protect us from sandstorms as we track thousands of months we have huge harms because we're made to trek thousands of miles and that's our greatness and that's our potential so what in the world are we doing in a zoo in the cage that's the question I have to ask myself that's the question I want my child to be able to ask himself or herself well you know you're the moose do canola milah now look at you two moose de la mota but if I don't know my booster Jochen Allah my Allah if I think I'm garbage if I think I'm a tragedy if I think I'm a s'matter I'm a loser I'm a nerd I'm worthless I'm meaningless I'm inconsequential I didn't make it I was the worst in the class I failed every test throughout elementary school throughout Mississippi I school based Madras I'm a that belonging to dumps if that's my attitude how can I allow rebbi akiva or ACS yok life to emerge I'm gonna lose her Abby Akiva who is Robbie Akiva maybe I team of the gemara says I'm a novice now scoffs tests that more you share at Bain who saw him in the future and he told God why he giving the terrorists through me give it to him because he went for a shear and he couldn't understand when to react even said because the depth in the Gemara says him in office cuffed us though and Moshe came up tyrosine I actually was riding a safe attire and he wrote on the safe return of those tagged him you know that Tagum dacoits n' on seven letters you have those three little Zions on top of them right those little points that look like little thorns like little Zions that go up and Moshe said who is this for who understands these strange signs in a safe attire and he said there's gonna be a man I keep up in your he said I'll call kites with kites us as leaders till they tell him sell her office on every one of these little points from these little thorns he's gonna build up mountains of our lives what's shot so one of the meanings here is kites doesn't only mean a little tag a little wine quoits means what a thorn you know what really was greatnesses I'll call coins McCoy it's all said Linda still a tool in falafels react even lived in a time when the Jewish people were pierced with roman thorns day in and day out he himself fell victim to the execution of Adrian the Caesar barbarically of the Gemara says in brother Sam McAuliffe what was every activist response I'll call coins McCoy's every thorn that pierced that penetrated the body of the Jewish people what did he do with it he built another mountain of a lock that was Ruby achievers response the thorns he used as a catalyst as a springboard to create a rejuvenation on unprecedented Renaissance in the consciousness of his people and of his faith Kulu I'll leave with the rebbi akiva for 40 years he was thrown out of every achiever you know that you know becky-boo tried out every Shiva he was in Flatbush and on your shoes they sent him to Muncie they sent him to borrow Proctor Flatbush Texas drawl to your sh Alliance urban neighborhood they sent him here and there at the age of 40 there's nothing to do he became a shepherd he became a shepherd that's what he did think of Mario's hasn't softened akhmim test rebbi akiva told the students you know what he told them when I was on I Morris if you would give me a Thomas Holcomb you know what I would do I would bite him like a donkey then extend okay come forgive me why like a donkey not like a dog classic a moral question so the Murray says because one bites and doesn't break your bones the other one bites and breaks your bones so I wouldn't buy it like a dog I'm like a donkey like a homeowner recti Smith's right there the Morrises ink supers that cow Bursa vores daughter Rocco saw that he was in a marriage but he was able able of people bite like donkeys they fight like donkeys that evil kind she swaps refinement and he says rabbi akiva didn't hate told me that her coming because he was not an ADA love person ain't her coming because he felt they were obnoxious they were obnoxious and they would deprive him from his potential that's an unbelievable psychological insight of Taurus he didn't hate them because he was a very evil person but if you had kiva had in his psyche their unconscious knowledge that he's the one who's gonna change the Jewish world and nobody ever let him nobody ever let him bring it out imagine frustrated potential is the greatest frustrated potential is probably psychologically that profoundest cause for hatred you got that I heard that's my mother-in-law much frustrated potential especially when you don't know about it if you have potential and you know about it at least you could talk about it to your therapist or to ronique own for free but if you have frustrated potential you don't even know about it so it's simmers in the unconscious layers of your psyche and your clothes but you just know that you're not being you your image above is dying as your image below is such a poor impoverished match I'm locked up in a cage when I'm capable of trekking thousands of miles and having such an impact on the world that was rebbi akiva and there was one girl her name was Erica and raha looked at this separate and she said this is the man he came with no Smith is with Nara probations he had no websites no resumes no coil hawlucha no she did not think he was a shepherd and she identified and she said two words four words you want to marry me and he's like okay Wow she says one condition you got to go Lauren cuz I know who you are you don't know who you are but I know you are why do you think she sent him away 12 years really that's an interesting marriage I mean many of you would wish your wife would do that go learn 12 years in yeshiva sure let's go don't even come back and the governor says in Sumer some other place he came back after 12 years and you know what he heard of telling somebody I wish he would do it another 12 years he doesn't even go in to say hi he goes right back the wish of so many Jewish men today Romaic uses behalf to the record cometh has that cloud God ever tire sure if you're away 24 years why shouldn't you love each other I remember there was no texting then so then when you're coming home when you're coming home you said you'll be home 24 years was 24 years times from a leverage that's how I asked why didn't it be I keep it going to say hi to his wife does that make sense does that make sense go in and say hi to your wife then go back so he classically said the mirror of Shiva suitable for the mirror I see Shiva said I'll have to say it in the literature Yiddish as he said it about same old wealth is NIST finance Rancic in other words learning 12 years twice with a break in the middle is not learning 24 years straight used to say this before bales mama that the break is already redefined the process but there's a deeper e there's another reason I should say and the other reason is because OB Akiva really cherished his wife it wasn't about him it was about her and he knew where does she want him she wants him that night learning and he comes back with 24,000 students she'll leave a shallow hem shallow that's the neat sorts that's the spark of Kia Schaefer in Cicero you're looking at this kid you're looking at this girl nobody has good what to say about them and I want you to know that if you're not by Tia Schaefer going to blow a sound of belief in this child and then go into his or her brokenness and then sob with them and then come out with a tee of dialogue with our awesome wholesomeness sisters mother is crying for this spark that has been forfeited for this yak eye for the domestic no shalya code that has been realized and thus finally we come back to the Gemara with shimon hatzadik you remember remember shimmer nuts are they for the ADHD 'z come back the donuts okay come back shimon hatzadik is the Cayenne gobble he's the leader of the Jewish people the kumara says that 40 years of his tenure a gomorian humor 40 years of his tenure thus mother wind never never extinguished the flames on the MS BAE I never did it happened that the gorillas shame should come up on the left side never did it happen that the scarlet red stream on the goats should not turn white never that had happened that the Western land in a tomorrow we should be extinguished shimon hatzadik represented a spiritual high in jewish history but towards the end of his life what's the expression it's not dark yet but it's getting there he saw that darkness is enveloping the jewish world he is the one who met Alexander the Great Alexander of Macedonia Hellenism was trying starting to take over the Jewish world through Alexander through the Greek Empire a hundred and fifty two hundred years later would be the whole Hanukkah story as a result of the tremendous Hellenism that this almost completely destroyed the Jewish people if not for the harsh Minaya shimon hatzadik saw the clouds coming and he wondered maybe he is the last generation of real the real celebration of Judaism as um Hashem but every year on Yom Kippur he went in to Kadesh a Kardashian there is Kasia Kardashian in space - hi - a Kardashian in time and the sky - a Kardashian and people there is the credit record ashram in space and the Hera bias the sky - Shaka document time a.m. Kippur discoid shakadou Sherman people the part of you that is quite a shock adoption everyone has that on Yom Kippur the three converge and when he went into the Holy of Holies he saw an old man in white who was this old man the Gemara says him saw him you saw sava mister all suffers the ancient man the ancient representative of Jewish history Yaakov Aveeno vehicular Colella case rallies rolls over the ancient spirit of kanessa sister all and shimon hatzadik saw it was completely white and all of his pessimistic thoughts vanished because he realized that when you go into the kadesha kardashian things are white they're not black they're not dark and he came out from the credit record awesome with a new vigor with an invigorated faith in the future of his students in the future of his people in the future of the Amish am I do a pessimistic thoughts true but when he went into the Holy of Holies when he explored and revealed the quintessential neshama of the Jew the coitus chakra documents space time and spirits he saw the whiteness he saw the oil he saw the glow he came out with a fresh new perspective invigorated him inspired one year he walks into the Holy of Holies at him Kippur and he sees that the old man is dressed in black what he now sees is that his people seem so dark so bleak their future their future so impoverished what he looks and when he looks now this time he sees that this Easter all suffer representing ancient Jewish history has a dark future so he turns to his students and he says this year I'm going to die they say how do you know he says because every year I saw white this year so black do you understand what every minute Sonic is saying this is not superstition this is not some mystical abstract connection this is probably one of the most important ideas about parenting about education about what type of home you want to create for your children for your grandchildren for your talmidim for your community members shimon hatzadik was telling the students let me tell you the first rule about being a leader Ariba or of Arusha shiva amar Jia amar spear a father a mother as a de ababa a muhammad a therapist a social worker a community leader the first rule is this if if you walk into the Holy of Holies you look at your Kindle ah and what you see is blackness what you see is darkness what you see is a bleak future then you must know that it's time for you to give up the throne of leadership and give it to somebody else the first the first prerequisite the first quality a teacher a leader must have is I have to be able to look at my generation have to be able to look at my people and see their potential light their potential glow I have to be able to see the most emotional yoke of the Maya if I can't look at my teenager if I can't look at my girl at my boy at my bottle at my child whether he's twenty or thirty or seventeen or fourteen whether he's here or there or she's there there and I can't see in them that essential whiteness that essential light that essential goodness wholesomeness confidence happiness sanctity and Vegas with a sham then I am not capable of being a koi in Gotham I have to tell my tell me then my time is up it's time for somebody else to take my position because I have lost my ability and therefore my rights to be able to educate to be able to inspire this generation the first thing I have to be able to see us Wow look how white look how beautiful look how much goodness look how much depth there is in this neshama then I can go into the schwa rim and then I can go into the truer and I'm not afraid because I know I'm gonna come back with a takea I'm gonna come back with a wholesome takea I am moved to be here this morning because my day beloved friend Ronnie and all of his partners in crime or in positive revolution blow Schaffer not only on Rosh Hashanah every morning they wake up and they take a shower and they blow for sounds Takia varam through it kiya when a child walks in to one of these clubs one of these places he or she is welcomed he is welcomed with a takea a takea means I celebrate you I like you you're good God created you he loves you there's something in you that is awesome that's that's first we're not beyond there we do something in you that is awesome and nothing you have done or you will do can cause our Shem to say you are garbage I hate you I don't like you you're worthless it doesn't work that way that's the first prerequisite and you think children don't know this they don't feel this they are sensitive to this beyond what any of us imagined even we old cynics who are already addicted to food for so many years are sensitive to people who believe in us or people that don't believe in us everyone of you knows people you look at did you get a good feeling you wanna I want to hang around this person this is somebody I want as a mentor this is somebody you know I'll give an $18 check I once read a biography evolving I don't know how many of you are into symphonies there was an Italian conductor his name was Arturo Toscanini he died in 1957 I believe it was a brilliant composer and a brilliant director of symphonies and sensitivity to nuance and music was absolutely incredible and he had a biographer for many years was writing a biography of Toscanini's life and he calls him up one day and he says can I come over to you to interview tonight he says today I'm busy and I can't be disturbed because I have to concentrate for hours he says what are you doing Toscanini he says I used to conduct a symphony overseas and tonight they're playing they're playing a symphony and I couldn't make it there so I gave it over to another director and through shortwave radio I'm going to listen to it I want to see how he does and how they do but I can't be disturbed no question he says may I come and watch you listen to this symphony directed by another conductor he says you can come if you don't say a word and don't ask questions don't make comments like you usually do just listen he says granted I agree and he comes over and they write the time comes and Toscanini puts on the shortwave radio that was arranged before and he listens for a few hours to his symphony overseas directed by another conduct by another director with so much concentration the biographer says with every fiber of his being he was attuned he was a tune there we know that was being played and the symphony finishes and the biographer looks at the skinny knee and innocently says wow that was masterful wasn't it Tuscon and he says not really he what do you mean he says they were supposed to have a hundred and twenty musicians including fifteen violinists and only fourteen showed up [Music] he thirties in gansan machine you will listening to shortwave radio and you know that fourteen violinists showed up instead of fifteen of course he didn't want to argue with Toscanini who was an eccentric as most great artists but the next day it's a pretty good foil he wasn't lazy the next day he takes a telephone he calls up the director overseas and he doesn't have a cache I have a question how many musicians were supposed to show up last night and how many showed up he says a hundred and twenty including fifteen violinists and only fourteen violinists showed up he goes back to Tuscany nice as Yale MIT deiner a banal you got explain something to me how in the world sitting on a couch listening to shortwave radio for heaven's sake a hundred and nineteen musicians instead of one hundred and fourteen snapshot there was no violin and you got it right they will 40 violinist so there was plenty of violin going on there was one violinist missing how did you notice he says that's the difference between you and me you're sitting in the audience I'm the director and in this case the composer I know that every note has to be played we needed 15 violinists to meet every note to play out every note I knew that some notes were missed and I knew that a violin was missing and when I read this story I thought to myself that is kiyah varam true Itsuki sonarak Simon topic of sad that you have a whole thing how long did he has to be how many true salmon is from relay what if you do do do do do do do do and you're not yet sir you know these people they start come on when they listen to get it straight for 200 times Rosh Hashana because nobody's good enough this guy took a breath this guy didn't take a breath this guy did too long too short this cover I know hold on they're miserable they're listening over to the kiyose they go out to the hallways in the shul they go to the basement they run to the bats vase vote but they why you know such people right okay now sometimes you got it if you gotta listen to skier Shaffer again if the guy doesn't really know what he's doing somewhat complicated but what's really going on what's going on is that if you're in the audience you don't get it but if you're the director never mind if you're the composer one note was missed and if one note was missed then Rosh Hashanah didn't happen then key of Shaffer didn't happen and that sorrow does that note that sister is that note in trouble yeah Kiva's no really you're gonna abandon be a kiva and that's why we're privileged to be part today of an organization that when a child comes and they blow the qiam i believe in you and now i want to listen to your size varam and now i'm gonna solve with you true and i'm not afraid of addressing your pain and allowing to look at your wounds honestly because I know that together we will be able to create from your Savarin and from your truer the most beautiful or inspiring universally missing note of the key Abdullah until the great hear dialer of a higher bar Yahoo you talk abou chauffeured god--all what's the next sentence to see if my dresser was right or wrong how do we know it's gonna be I forgot the what's the next sentence oboe I even it's a sure Vani dark embarrass me try him here you have the mission statement of UT a safer over or even demerits after of Annie Duncan Barrett's withdraw you think about it Astro comes from the word ASHRAE are you sure fortune I won't sure miss Ryan comes from the word mates are distress there are those who are lost it's a sure and there are those who are cast away Barrett Smith's Ryan there are those who are lost from ashore and there are those who are lost from its Ryan and together the stock of all a sham bhai recorders bearish al-ayam been hey Rob you may know our main thank you very much thank you you