Tell Your Spouse everything?

If a person went through a hard time, was a victim of molestation or abuse, should he share this with his spouse? It depends where he's at in life and depends where she's at. If it's going to create a tremendous trauma in her life, and she's going to become overly suspicious. He has to first discuss it with some people that have experience with this, if to say it, when to say it, how to say it. This is assuming that he dealt with it and he's not suffering from it. If he's still suffering from something and she's going to have to deal with a whole situation supposedly they're suffering for the rest of their lives for this. Okay. No, but they're suffering and suffering. If it's affecting the intimacy, if it's something that he's going to have to be dealing with and it's going to affect her, then before the marriage, she should know about her condition. Just like when there's a medical condition or there's an emotional condition, it's important before to be able to share it because this is an on her. This is about her life. If it's something that's completely of the past or at least 95% of the past and he's not really it's not a struggle that's going to affect her. So then yes and that should be based on personal consultation. And so I think you have to really know the situation.