Rabbi YY Jacobson Kynote RCA Convention: Torah Leadership in the 21st Century

the yeshiva dotnet I want to thank Rabbi musk and chelita for giving me the privilege of addressing there's distinguished and unique conference of establish our bottom of the RCA it's a source and a privilege for me for me to be here with all of you this evening you mentioned three types of dreams of a rabbi I was once present at the sermon of a rabbi who has endured much agony from his community to put it mildly and he stood up and he said that when he thinks about his career he is reminded of the capital and tehilim said by many Shabbos morning capital your tests we're lovin hemella mentions the r of or the rabbi three times Chanukah madam you remember Hannity madam me Zahav Oh me pause Rove that's the first year of more precious than gold and fine gems of pearls then there is Beshara m-- a curve R of and then there is Vinnie Casey me Petrov and he said it's just three stages of his career in the beginning when the community just hired him and her mother resolved me pause every yagna is what's happing about the rug that we just got the board walks around proud of themselves boasting you're heard who we are believable la créme de la créme it is should be this you're a bunch of coal burning oil there's nobody better but then the hundred days of grace pass and suddenly Bashara make of rough they're guarding every step he looked into the pushka he did this he came late he went on vacation how did he afford such a Bar Mitzvah how was he driving such a nice car but some Ramaiya of and then at some point of any kc me pesha rough he hopes to be cleansed of all the accusations of negligence as they bid farewell to him for eternity every person speaks his heart Kaka Maheu amen the famous Vaart holcomb speaks what he is I guess he was describing his experience or experience of his colleagues tonight I would like to to talk about the first or of not the nightmare then half mother mysamma positive and I'll introduce it with a little anecdote they tell the story about a woman who calls up a rabbi and she says to him have a major problem what's the problem my husband won the lottery ticket for three hundred and twenty million dollars he says that's a problem of our eating disorder wonderful she says no no no no no the moment he hears the news he will collapse he can have a heart attack he can expire he can die he's gonna faint it's it's a crisis so the officers don't worry tell them on the way home he should stop in the office and I'll have a snooze with them great comes in to the rabbi's office Reber what gives me the honor episodes I just wanted to say hi see how you're doing how you feeling how are you doing a pair no sir says wherever you know I'm a cops and been cops been binoy so cops and I never made ends meet my father never made ends meet I'm never gonna make ends meet I'm one of the people that when they say over with Phil or doc of my Venus razor it excludes me that way you never know it means people can Muslim can turn around the gal girl could turn around visitor but it's not with me says do you ever buy a lottery ticket by thirty five years I'm buying the ticket every single week but people like me don't win people in Montana win Kentucky with now people like me says you never know one of those numbers one day may just be you he says let's not fantasize and create fiction out of nothing one second some Gentile in Montana could win why can't my ankle my friend win says rapper you know what let me tell you if I win the lottery you get half so the rabbi fainted and passed out and expired completely you have to know how to deal with the good news sometimes we have become experts Jews have become experts on crisis management two thousand years and olives but sometimes we have to be able to know how to deal and embrace positive news and here I introduced you to a very strange in enigmatic story in Gomorrah miss Esther Yuma da flama Testament base the governor says Donner opponent the rabbi's talked shimon hatzadik who was one of the greatest guy named adalynn in the early era of bias Shanee who served for 40 years as a Kohen Gadol the year that he passed away Shana amazed ma he told his students that he's going to pass on this year and they asked him how he knows and he said every single Yom Kippur when I went into the cachaça dasha Miss Domon Lee's Akane I thought somehow an old man accompanied me autoflow vain and love wish levain him he was Baddeck and covered and dressed in white he walked in with me he escorted escorted me out this year his dominantly saw cane lavash this year the old man who encountered me in the Holy of Holies was dressed in black he went in with me didn't come out with me well you've ruined my autumn the gomorrah says after a her a girl after Yom Tov suckas he fell ill and seven days later he returned his soul to its maker and I ask you what is the meaning of this story first of all who was this old man walking in with him walking out with finian kippered who is desert neck doesn't the plastic say read last shop is Bacall autumn law year but I'll Maya nobody was allowed to be there dear Asami says in Yuma a fellow ice song shan mr alayan PA adam even the mawashi hatcheries were not allowed to be present but suddenly shipping outside the cat a different experience there was some old man one time dressed in white and then we're always dressed in one in the one year dressed in black and how did that become a simin for his impending departure and his stylist from this world there was a magazine some of you remember it was called hop our days a torah monthly journal edited in my days by the Pacifica albergue so Journal of raqqa for my goodness are upon him and I once saw I was looking at old how partisan and I saw our pirate days that was published in tough Shin valid 1944 and at the end I saw a little piece of news they would have some pieces of news about the haggis mica of yeshiva Saira Banu its hook Elkanah and its new russia shiva who succeeded his father not long ago was a very cigar abusive Dave Rav salivates exhibits are the glib rocker abhyasa bear and he gave the address at the caucus myth of the rappers and they give their a brief description of the theme of the presentation of the rub rub your Chabert that's all and the point he made was he quoted the story and he asked the above questions and Rev Sullivan chick explained it in his inimitable style thus shimon hatzadik was the spiritual mentor and leader of the Jewish people shimon hatzadik hiya Monsieur a necessary doula he was the last of the Great's of that great institution of 120 people who revitalized cloudiest role after the urban who created a Jewish Renaissance from Ezra Tana semia murderface carrier Malathi and shimon hatzadik the gemara says in the sector humor during his 40 years things were very unique like cover near Hammurabi the age of the Ms BAE earth was never extinguished the right goat was always the hotness and the left goat was always docile there were good signs and omens in the days of shimon hatzadik but he is also the man who encountered alexander Magadan Alexander the great Alexander for Macedonia as Greece began to conquer the world and ultimately Judea role as well in the famous the Gemara and tynus house shimon hatzadik goes out with his brother many prosper items and he greets alexander now as Anna gets off his horse and prostrates himself to this rabbinic Judas tarnishment of his generals shimon hatzadik with his keen vision saw the beginning of what will spell a powerful and colossal struggle undermining the future of kanessa cicero and Tyrus is strong indeed a century and a half later the three Chanukah events brought the close destruction of Judaism because most of the Jews were the Messiah of them with the Helenus if not for the revolt of the handful of hashman oi'm and their supporters under Yehuda under Matisyahu Banyana Coronado and shimon hatzadik had this tinge of pessimism in him now it's bright but just in a generation or two things may change drastically but every year as he went into the holy of holies and this dominantly zaki not hooked he saw an old man representing in the hushka for abhyasa bear Rufus rolls over the spirit of the ancient energy of kanessa sister all of the Jewish people and suddenly he saw kanessa sister all white cash la galbi no he saw it in its full purity brightness splendor holiness and whiteness and he came out from the kadosh kadosh 'i'm recharged with optimism with positivity knowing that made southeaster all lawyer-y Shakur that the Eternity of Israel is indeed intact and it happened again every year when he walked into the Holy of Holies in space and to the Holy of Holies in time and to the Holy of Holies in spirit meaning identifying the kite of shakadou Sherman every Jew he saw whiteness but one year he walks into the Holy of Holies and is dominantly sucking out I saw the same timeless spirit of the Jewish people and it was dark love was carried in the autumn sky I saw blackness and darkness and that is how I know that my time in this world is up why said Ruff's elevator a leader of the Jewish people who cannot see the whiteness the beauty the luminescence the brightness of his constituents is not the person who is capable of sitting on the throne of leadership to be wrong to be a man he to be a muhammad to be revered to be a Raja Shiva to be a true leader of the Jewish people in any form and certainly when you're leading communities there's one prerequisite I can't be naive but despite confronting the reality of the people I always have that conviction and that are scoff asylum that veldt on Shaolin where I look at my people and I see their potentiality for greatness their potentiality for growth I see the bomb in a Tamar Semele Caterham sacred children of the revolution Elohim and if I can't see that if all I can see is like they always used to say the good old days if all I could see is young people who don't care who are not apathetic indifferent all they cares about the Kidder's club or some other irrelevant or disasterous force there is alienation this apathy they once asked to do what's the difference between ignorance and apathy and he said I don't know and I don't care I'm dealing with people who don't know and who don't care and a certain sense of cynicism and the Spear sets in to our heart we may manually and robotic lee do the job we may give a off join me show up 6:30 for Sakura's give the Russia do our counseling show up at every similar we do our duties but inside and only you and I know this and God knows there's a maybe your wife knows it and you should knows deep inside there is a feeling of of cynicism and the cynicism is justified by so many facts said there of this person can't be a kind Gundel he told his students I'm sorry I can't continue with this job my soul belongs to be elsewhere belongs to be in the oil of mahalia in Euler my MS in I love circle I tithe because I can't identify that in the people and perhaps and maybe it's not said often enough drove is it a dream job or not when one wakes up in the morning can I think about it in the sense that I was given the mission and the opportunity from the creator of the world to do one thing to be there for his children if I don't love Jews if I don't see them as God's precious children or as the baal shem tov said i Shem loves every Jew more than a father and a mother lover Ben Yahud who was born an old age where the love is infinite and the Zohar says in Polish boys I'm gonna be hooda if a Jew with know how much to rebind of Shalom loves him or her he would chase God faster and with more passion than a lioness chases her prey I don't know if any of you went to Krueger's National Park and saw a lioness in action at least National Geographic perhaps but you don't want to get in between the lioness and the gazelle for everybody's sake he said you would run faster after our sin knowing that love if I could recognize the preciousness of every single one of my constituents every one of my members every one of my talmidim every child every young man every young woman from all ages and for most spectrums and for no backgrounds from all persuasions I could see the whiteness and their potentiality said thereof then I am in a position to lead to teach to inspire some of you remember the name of Zero Mostel I wondered why would have somebody have a name zero you couldn't find a better name for yourself so I wondered about this Zero Mostel name wasn't zero his name was Smeal yo Shmuel is a pretty Jewish name he grew up in the Bronx with eight from siblings he drifted off from Hitler Scott and ultimately becomes a celebrated actor wins I think three Oscars you could check it up on Wikipedia as I'm talking see if I'm right or wrong but I don't know if they have the story of his name why did he get the name zero and the answer is somehow Smeal Yael did not fly well in Hollywood I'm not sure why but somehow it wasn't taking off so he needed a new name so you chose here that Y zero so when I was young there was somebody in my family it would always tell me these words in Yiddish and then I'll translate Shmi Leo du bist ah garnished undo vest bleiben a garnish SMIL yahoo euro zero FS I know nada and you will remain on nothing he says today I want to show this person that I lived up to his expectations so when I chose the names here I chose a name I chose the name zero and I thought to myself what a lesson in life if you don't make your children feel special somebody else will but it probably will be in a different way not the way you like it and if it's true with my children it's true vision anthem Livonia aluja Tom made him rebel Conan Vasa mana Shamian cub dummy you're Shiva baranovichi Tommen of the coffins hi I'm Alma Deauville Arjun once asked he said if the sea free says that Laverne eka doesn't mean your children your biological children that means your students which may include your biological children but it's a mitzvah on a person to teach students and raschi brings in on the posse why couldn't the posix a machine anthem with Almeida and a bullhorn and said you would miss the point what the turd is trying to say is if you want to be successful with your students it will only happen if you see them as your children if it would have said vision anthem Lata me Decca you would have never got this message you got it message you have to teach you to meet them what the trailer want to say is no you have to teach your children safe house out who are these children I'm talking about a Lua Tommy them when my people feel that I believe in them I see what exists in them in a way that perhaps they don't see it I am capable of leading and they are far more likely to be true recipients to be true students but it's not only the rabbi who has to be able as the Kohen Gadol to see whiteness durov's function and purposes to help people see this whiteness within themselves the way they see themselves rabbi julie bourbon rabbi yehuda berman once shared with me a powerful idea he heard at a convention of Mizrachi a poem is rocky in Atlantic City 1961 or 62 I think Thomson cuff Bay's the end of 61 and rub your Chabert spoke and he shared with me a give all the cavort that he said then I believe it was printed afterwards in Yiddish and feared Russia's and in Hebrew in in homage to Russia's but the Yiddish was the original expressional language that he used them fascinating question we all know the word video he means confession everybody is familiar with the video a voidness this video vm Kippur just had an answer a mice serve a dual of a dual love but there's one exception the Mishnah inciter my sir Shaney mara halacha identifies a v3 called V Dewey my sir and parshas kiss of it what is v3 my sir twice in the Schmidt to the Jew Erev Pesach with the end of Pesach stood up and he confessed you know what he confessed he said as follows BRT are Kurdish men are bias I removed all the sacred food from my home I gave it to the lady to the Guerra to the yo son to the homeowner a cc-could holy shiet TV something I did god I did everything you told me why are healthy be your enemy men who like the active men are becoming well your vitami Mitzvah cetera below Shakopee Assisi coiler said save me something I forgot nothing I did everything impeccable and flawless now our ski from when cars coming our she asks the safari that's video that's confession imagine you come home from the convention and you sit down with your wife when she says new what's going on in your life and you say I have a confession to me and her ears perk up she's been married for 32 years you never said you're making a confession Wow and you know a rabbinic confession is not simple and you look at her and she says what's this confession she's saying the confession I wanted to share with you that I am the most amazing husband father and human being in the world in fact I am impeccable I am flawless I never forget a thing you asked me for and I follow every request and instruction now harsh keifa lovara would you give me a delicious dinner and be here for me the way I need to be I'm not analyzing if you're normal or insane you'll ask your therapist but one thing I know a confession it's not this is a confession well you're vitami Mitzvah circa RCC to call you by sexy be Sonny I did everything to the T I am perfect now bless us this is victory Dawson happy doing how was every do you call a your server said something very powerful extraordinary insight which probably is one of the key vital messages every rabbi every R of every man that probably be parent has to know today especially people in positions of leadership who have the ability and the schools to inspire so many they said as follows confession is based on accountability accountability for it to be sincere and genuine must be based on the recognition of the greatness of a human being in the words of Sahaj areum Kalani the novel I may have darkness in me but whenever I'm also beautiful what this means is as follows if I look at myself and I tell you many people walk around with this inner feeling today I'm not going to psychoanalyze our generation and our youth but from my encounters with hundreds nay thousands of young men and women from all stripes and colors within the Jewish community there is a certain inner very deep sense of worthlessness that many people carry its expressed in one way or another way but the common denominator is I'm a schemata and God certainly loathes me and despised me and now I ask you a question if I'm sitting at a dinner and you're eating chocolate mousse cake and you decide to smear some of the chocolate on my shirt and then somebody else pours a coffee on my shirt at this point getting the shirt a little more dirty will not be very dramatic if I smell and I'm dirty Louie fade it remains that way if I'm clean if my shirt is pressed beautifully and there's a little stain Tomiko shanem say revive i identified in an island getting rid of it when somebody looks in the mirror and what they feel about themselves is I'm dirty I'm filthy I'm uninspired I couldn't care less about anything why should I even notice a stain I am the stain who notices a stain there's no VD there's no sincerity it's like when a husband and a wife are arguing and she says you made a mistake and he gets upset and says I always make mistakes in fact I never did anything right in our entire marriage you're always right I'm always wrong you have seen those couples in your office you're always right I'm always wrong it sounds good but he's not confessing somebody who says you're always right and I'm always wrong is really sink your impossible to please I'm not wrong a real confession means I'm not always wrong I made a mistake and I'm sorry for it it goes even more than this for me to really confess I have to be able to take responsibility for me to be able to take responsibility I have to believe that I am the master of my own life I'm not a victim I can't blame my mother my father my Rebbe my teacher my rabbi my community my shul my counselor my Schrager my share my company Google Trump Hillary North Korea South Korea for all of my problems they say there was once a guy who comes to a bar and he orders a cup of Crown Royal and he downs the cup and he takes the glass and he throws it at the bartender then what's this he says I have this uncontrollable rage my father was an addict my mother was a codependent and I just have this horrible anger I am embarrassed I'm sorry okay he forgives him the next night he orders again cup of blue label finishes it back on the bartenders face what now should I have this uncontrollable anger and I'm so angry and I'm so embarrassed with myself I want to bury myself from shame and it's because of a dysfunctional childhood I was abused and I'm just I'm not a person and I'm very embarrassed the next night there's album ice just listen enough with your shaming and man you go to therapy you don't go to therapy I call the police he disappears he comes back eight months later orders a glass of vodka or liquor finishes the glass and throws it right at the bartender's face he says what now so I went to therapy and I'm not embarrassed anymore for a person to be able to be accountable the person has to be able to feel that they have power they have autonomy they have independence that the divine core within them is capable of transcending the pain and the anguish that I endured this doesn't mean that the person hasn't suffered but it means that the person's soul is more powerful than any other factor in the world if I can't recognize my beauty I can't recognize my mistakes and make a meaningful change nor can I believe that my future will be any different said Ruby or Chabert without V doing my center they can't be any other feeling for person can stand up to God and say I'm good I'm beautiful novel there's holiness in me this infinity in me there's divine splendor in me then there can't be any other meaningful video whither the Rambam put the principles of Pyrrha a free choice he putted them in health is true ver para is the prerequisite for all teriyaki mitzvahs if there's no para there's no point of sarvesh but he put it in Hill has chuhwa why because I know it's late but I'll say a little bit of a brisk of art if I may because with all other mitzvahs the relationship between Kira and the Mitzvah is a prerequisite of the mitzvah but it's not the gather of the Mitzvah together a blowing Schieffer is blowing or hearing Schieffer shaking the love a shaking lulav putting on tefillin are keeping Shabbos is putting on till night keeping job is if there's no free choice these are not meaningful actions because I'm just compelled by pre determinism so here is the prerequisite to the idea that the human being gets credit for his or her choices by Trueba peer is not only a prerequisite here is the definition of what does chuhwa mean truth is the deep acknowledgement that I am a person who makes choices that I am NOT a slave to compulsion that I am NOT a victim to instincts and habits and negativity even if they exist that there's a core in me that remains free it's not just without clearing sugar is not meaningful its robotic the definition of true ver is the recognition of the infinite greatness of man in his words then in the ROVs words realvideo e has two components that are integral Bittle high-ish and godless is the ability to be vulnerable and the ability to acknowledge the true greatness that lay in my core so I can even notice the state that's why it's interesting before we get to the season of Lu and Tishrei of Tishrei when we don't stop with all haste with the confessions first we read key Savoy which is V dream I said if you don't go through the video my sir it's very hard to go to the next video and this is weir the Roth not only sees the whiteness in his community but he can help each person see themselves from this perspective and let me say something that all of you know instinctively but we sometimes don't realize it and that's the power of gestures the power of words and the power of simple enthusiasm warmth and there's get fair love once in a while a hug or an embrace - I got two emails two emails very close proximity to each other a boy grows up in Gateshead he lives today in England and he made he was nine years old and he gave himself or he had himself he grabbed for himself a very interesting haircut he described to me exactly what the nature of the haircut well I didn't understand but it seemed like an interesting cut and he was very proud of his looks and he came to school the next morning a nine-year-old boy they were learning passions by Asaph and the teacher turns them and asks him to read the Rashi on the pasta given IRAs been a villa and translated into English and he reads the Raschi who says that Yosef was oh he said my son IRAs he was behaving like a child massage soba sari was into designing is here and when he finishes the Rashi not realizing what was going on the teacher says you see why I gave you to read this Rashi this Rashi was talking about you you are this little immature baby who's miss also Basara and he writes to me rabbi Jacobsen I stood up I ran out of class ran to the bathroom lock the door stopped for an hour and a half from the public humiliation and ran home to his father he comes into his father's room and he shares with him this story with great horror and grief and his father he tells me instinctively looks at him and says I like this comparison I love it let's take the story till the end this seventeen year old boy who was into his here ultimately rose to save the entire civilized world from a devastating famine including his entire family the only reason Claudius royal lives today is because of that seventeen year old boy who had the courage and the vision and the fortitude to be able to change the world literally and ultimately each of his brothers were jealous and envious of him and yet he had the courage to forgive and he knew that God sent him to change the world son I like the comparator you are Yosef and you will take it to the end and he tells me it's ironic but I am financially extremely successful a great activist to this community says a week doesn't pass that one classmate of his doesn't call him either for a loan or for a gift or for financial advice and they're always asking him how did you make it so big but you can avoid Hoff the wisdom of a father who could have responded differently he could have said I'm gonna sue that school I will close them down I will punch that teacher in the nose or he could have told his son grow up go back to the achiever come on instead he took the very story and he allowed her to become an empowering force but I wish I could tell you the second story ended the same way here's another story a girl who was misbehaving in class ten years old and her teacher comes into the classroom and some people I don't know they're just not pedagogues they're not made for classrooms let's face it some of us had extraordinary teachers and some of us had teachers who should have been playing golf and this teacher turns to her and chastises her for something she did and at some point she says to this girl I have never seen a Yeats ihara as big as URI at Sahara never in my life this girl today seven years later is an addict her life is in shambles and I wanted to know what caused it and the girl says I wanted to prove this teacher right we rabbis will never know the impact of a Voort a kind powerful communicative message to that fifteen-year-old whom you see for three seconds on Shabbos as they say it is Salah VIN it don't be stingy with warmth don't be stingy with encouragement don't be stingy with compliments I may look at myself and say a word of encouragement is meaningless but for that little boy for that girl for that father for that mother for that struggling teenager for this struggling older woman or man you represent the spiritual leadership of this Kela kenosha you represent the chain of Messiah the chain of Tyra so regardless of what I think of myself or what you think of yourself we could never be stingy with a display of warmth affection empowerment of reminding people who they are essentially and what they're capable of of reminding them how God loves them unconditionally the way they are but takes pride in what they are capable of becoming since I'm talking about conventions and Estados are abundant and RCA and the Aurora of salivate 6 features at conventions probably one of the most insightful and moving insights that abhyasa bear communicated on this theme which should serve as a guiding light for every R of was his explanation of the Gemara miss actor Jack Egan tough tests evolved Tony Robin on when le Shabana hooyah the only Tom who became a heretic that we know of is horseback riding on Shabbos and remain his student is following him and he counts the footsteps of the horse as he's giving machine understand the multitasker genius that he was and he says at kongtong Chiapas we left the city mayor hazard bus go back it amazes you go back geographically and existentially and he says me I can't go back far schemata man hurry up I'm good I heard a bicycle from heaven shoe viburnum show love him cuts me a fair return on children who went astray but this one accepts after asked him your said Barry the green prakasha what happened to the axiom of the Randleman who construe the parody mo ain't look hard over him at the snatch over I feel a copper beaker call your mother shove macabre noise Menasha melody stroll reigned 55 years one of the most heinous evil Kings in history of Judea killed his own zeda and you know who his ADA was you shia Hanavi the gomorrah says in your Varmus Memphis much McGillis star him he kills your shy yo I know V his grandfather and he could do truth good morning says in Sanhedrin inhale Akash M built a tunnel under the kitchen I covered was the my welcome didn't want to let him come in I thought in heaven there was no no goblin to enoguh by him but it looks like even in heaven this protects you and God has to build tunnels to be able to take in certain people cuz the government won't let it won't let that happen however we understand that Gomorrah the famous morale on it but the point is suddenly elisha panda who you gets a message everybody yeah you not this is Yiddish kite this is Janos and abhyaas if I asked even more he said if you're telling him he's not welcome why do you have to talk to him why do you have to say subbu Bonham serve of him cuts my answer you just want to tease him what's this point by the way everyone is invited to my fasten that besides you he wasn't planning to come to Johnson what's this tease all about the answer is by looking at the same story in Euro show me miss Africa Giga the same story with one little change it was him kipper it was Shabbos he was horseback riding on the Hara bias would he have a better place to go horseback riding on Yom Kippur on the Temple Mount he reached the place of Kaddish Akkad notion and that's when he heard a voice from Katyusha Kardashian now lay desolate and it said shovel Bonhams I Robin Hood's may Elisha Abhinav Leah asked the row of who got it right the barley of the gyro show me the body says the bicycle was super bone of shivoham' cuts me off here your xiaomi says the basket was shoe viburnum say Robin Hood smelly Shabana via which one was it what was the bus the answer ha logic above me the Pascal was addressed to I Shuvo Bonhams Evolvin puts my heart and what the basket was telling him is Alicia pan of wheel you're my child you're my son the relationship between a father and a son is eternal and unconditional the relationship will never be severed shoe viburnum shave of them it's Yom Kippur you're by the crater 2nd ocean come back my child hoots may I let your self definition of affair remain outside one dark morning you woke up and almost a dybbuk remember that play the D book came into your psyche and told you you're an ass hair you're an alien you're a foreigner you're a stranger you're an outcast you're the black sheep of kanessa see slow oats me I can let go of that self definition of after keep that out you are a child and you will forever be a child look at your life it's Yom Kippur in the morning the streets of register all our empty till today and you decided to go horseback riding and Jews are sitting in shul and they see one man on a horse and they're wondering who's this gasps Ruach who's this arrogant man horseback riding on Yom Kippur which is not a dead man which is not a derisive but it's a ruse bait saddam involved before the times of a leadership novel you ain't remember Shabbos certainly I'm Kippur as well who is this man but you don't care about him kid but you don't care about Chavez but suddenly for more places where do you end up you want to go horseback riding on Yom Kippur go to a lot go to Egypt go to Syria go to Afghanistan okay go to California go to San Francisco go to Santa Cruz well what is bike riding never mind there was a good mountain those days before Adrienne flattened it lowered it by $1,000 by 2,000 feet but somehow your Jewish soul pulled you to try - ekaadasha you know I grew up in the home of a journalist my father's a colonel varaha was the founder and editor of the alga manager Nam and before that he worked for the day morning general the talk American Journal so we always had you'd assisted in our home the real old you desist and it's very hard to find them today and one of them told me the president of the arbiter ring remember the arbiter ring the president of the Workmen's circle told me that they had a yearly ball a big banquet that they would make you know when I am Kippur I asked you a question why couldn't they make the ball and hit him kipper he said because then it's a mitzvah to eat cos Michelin which sorry I'm Kipp was I come mitzvah teased a few days later it's also a mitzvah Teague circus every holiday time it's Mateen they tried to kill us we won we eat that's the system but why couldn't they make it Hobbs I am - who wants to make a party comes on attachment yeah I'm Kippur somehow that is how they observe him Kippur it's an observance of Yom Kippur if a negative one I won't search forever by Einsteins old Robbie I didn't have any so lose walking to shul shop this morning and he meets this liberal arts he left wing israeli professor and you know there's no liberal like an israeli liberal and there's no left winger like an israeli left winger because Jews are Jews are Jews and so he meets so much about Shalom shabbat shalom will you go you're upstate as I'm going to show it was going from the moshav a game I made from the German colony to the outstart to the old city we taverns and it's I'm a sexual and they're over and he tells this man and where are you heading he says Oh Shabbos morning I go to the one place in your schleimann where you could get bacon and eggs recovered sharpest I like to eat bacon eggs as well and what do you do for lunch she says for lunch I go to the one place where you can have the I in Nessa this is Vishal of sugar shoulder so this I go to the place where you can have shrimp and lobster and in between I make sure you go to the beach to be mad a little dollar Thomas on the way there should say rob him on the way with my books and roof stains outs who's a wise man looks at him and says well I'm jealous of you he says of course you jealous of me you go to the boring shoal and I go have fun he says no no no I'm jealous of you because I see how much Shabbos means to you I have to say that for me a religious Jew Shabbos comes and Shabbos goes it doesn't always mean a lot but you Wow you can't just sit on your couch on Sabbath and read some novel by almost Oh kalila kalila to just read an alphabet you're sure you have to go find bacon and lionesses and shrimp and lobster my dear friend I'm afraid that you also observe Shabbos you just observe it a little bit in a different way than unobservant but you're also pretty involved in Shabbos did you became a shameless Shabbos he recognized a truth about the Jewish people so the bascule is telling Alisha you're here you're a child you're not about here but the tragedy was that for Alisha Bonavia the affair became synonymous with Delhi Shabana fuya the affair has penetrated to the very eye to the core of his identity and that's why the Euro Xiaomi says would smelly ship enough where the bicycle said hoods may after what he heard was hood smelly Abhinav Ouya how often does it happen in your life I always I should say this to the women do is what you tell your husband and is what your husband heard you tell him this is what you tell your child and there's what your child heard you say and friends you know the two are usually not the same this is what the bicycle said is what Alisha Panov who you heard may I say to you there are hundreds there are thousands of young and old Jewish women and men who walk around and they feel deep down that they are Affairs they're alien even those who come to show even those who dress up for Shabbos even those who come to Mincha my room and some who wake up and do the Duff join me waha Muse ayan every morning some don't do that but there's a common denominator by so many an inner sense of spiritual and adequacy and never mind we know how to give people guilt we inherited guilt from our parents who inherited from their parents all the way back to the nosh the definition of a Jew is if he doesn't feel guilty he blames himself and the Jewish telegrams used to read start worrying details to follow but I believe that every year of in the Jewish people must resonate Abascal the bicycle that comes from our Father in heaven that says don't identify yourself as an after leave that by the door that's the backseat driver who says I'm an after and after and after and after don't give him the steering wheel of your car the steering wheel of your life Winston Churchill suffered from depression he said what rescued him was identifying his depression as a black dog that lives in his brain and accompanies and where he goes to the bathroom into the bedroom and starts barking every few hours and he looks at the dog and he says brew him I bought him we didn't use those words thank you for the bark and now it's time to move on with life the athlete has a voice in us because we're not perfect this is inherent to the human condition but the actor shouldn't be the one ruling how you perceive yourself how you perceive your potential how you perceive your Judaism how you perceive your identity and your future and I want to say something else you know there's something psychologists love talking about today it's called the imposter syndrome and I found many Rabanne and have shared this with me they feel it very often you know as their of he's always the leader he's always the one who was doing the right thing somehow you can't be the one who loses a whole Dominique you can't be the one who goes out to drink after master one of the disasters and many shows I can't be the one who misbehaved I gotta show up for minister of just because of my job I can't say today's lazy day as they used to having camp lazy day but sometimes the rabbit looks in the mirror and says you know I know myself the other image Monophysite I always have to have the DVAR Torah at the simcha they look at me I always have to have something prepared and we often feel that it's disingenuous we're dis which is dishonest which is why I believe it's important for every rabbi to have a rabbi I say look her of goes also on there of and if I could quote the cops care ever sumela cafeteria the robberies Talmudic are coming and the classic Watzke line is everyone has to fear God the robbers tell me this how come even to me the Cohanim have to fear God well robberies tell me there's a common the rabbi also needs somebody to speak to if therapists need a therapist rabbis need a rabbi or a therapist and it's not embarrassing because only people are humble and vulnerable can grow and let's face it in the rabbinate there are challenges there are psychological challenges social challenges emotional challenges anxiety and we sometimes take things personal sometimes we look at certain members differently than we look at other members because their attitudes are different and we're human beings and we need people in our lives who we can be real with and comfortable with and confidential with we trust their confidentiality but they are armored confidant are a confidence to work through our own I don't want to say dirty laundry but to work through our laundry and let's face it cloudy stroll as blessed as that he does says Sieber is a Russian Tavis of tsadikim bathe in him or shun him Derek I stole his blessed as my grandmother would say schlemeel schlemazel and not Nicks the difference is the schlemiel pours the soup on the schlemazel and the nudnik wants to know what type of soup was it one of the most humorous one of the most I just got it one of the most humorous one of the most humorous rashes well though it doesn't look unit the partials balalaika Rashi says that when Miriam becomes a leper moisture a vein of Davin's right oh no que la reforma Allah why such a shorts Fela our Dominique takes hours why Sir there imagine we could just do on a camera or a funnel and go to the cathedral Messiah skip the sermon so rashly just two reasons why he doesn't so short you remember one reason is if you were down too long everybody would say Oh his sister is sick and he's busy Dominique Dober up here if he would have been long they would say for his sister he Dobbins long for us not thoughts of the Shila distraction you seem schizophrenic is contradicting himself if I dive in sure right now belong there say why's need happening for a sister in the second shot if he'd have been long for a sister II Dobbins longer and the point is the complainers don't need rationality on their side and if you're a rabbi long enough there's always that guy that whatever you do is not good you can ask rabbi Muscat and I'll tell you a few stories it's never good you speak too short on a camera phone a la rabbi we don't pay you for such a short russia so the next week you speak long what do you think you are you think you're Winston Churchill you're a baby but who do you think you are who do you think you are but so that's the dresses we're hungry we're starving two minutes is already too much for you you drive a beautiful car huh huh who's paying for the car so you drive an out to Toronto it's so embarrassing that the rub of our shoulders rhymes in after Toronto you make a beautiful Bar Mitzvah who's paying for this moment so you make a simple Bar Mitzvah marshal zhirov needs to make festive moments you renovate the kitchen with a nice counter interesting it's a euro sure you don't renovate the kitchen and they come to your house they say I can't live in such a house the chronic complainer you will never satisfy whatever you do is not good cuz the problem is not what you're doing the problem is him some people simply are chronic complainers it's a syndrome you know the VAR the Gemara says including lemony karishma raw what's the rod the rod is the IR there anybody knows there on English this is a room of rambles right Roy in English the store right the store care daiya daiya iro Fred Melamed Icarus Morrow a Medes bravo Marillion available to strong above all Iraq is 500 or 600 miles from Israel bagan had to take that into calculations when he dealt with Hussein's reactor she stands in Volvo and she sees a corpse a carcass and register all why does the chimera happen Roy an availability strong and if she has such a good eye vision why is she Trey it's a complementary skill the answer of course is by Methos above all she's in bubble she's looking at air too strong in action so you could see a lot of things but she managers always to see one thing in air to Cyril Roy an availability strong those people who could speak America so the only thing they could say emeritus role is the novela are there in a valence in our chest well of course there are novela Santa Cyril but that's all that's not a description of rarities wrong that's a description of the bird that's a trait for bread sauce Emma Swan says my dick is comets we have the spoon the feather the candle and the bread and we burn everything as the specimen is why do we burn the candle what's the sin of a candle to pour wax candle in a time when candles were precious candle is not comments and he said I have to say this in Yiddish he says a mitzvah Mozang Gansett tough kid in Lebon this took a fin and hum it's OMA tuned is aerelon article comments somebody that his sole function of life is to search for the comments everywhere comments their comment their comments everywhere as the old song probably euro source nickel comments o embed this big bob of orion available to strong now the rabbi could never take these things personal we could never develop a holier than our attitude we can never stoop down to some people mishegoss on but we have to have the mechanisms to deal with it within our own psychological within our own psychological psychological existence and when it comes sometimes when we look at ourselves and we sometimes deep down have this imposter syndrome especially those of us who let's face it the Gemara says some people often tell me in average acres and i always use your rushes i say it's fine a going of manag on of potter at least from chi fel I say but Karen not - but not from Karen and sometimes we look in the mirror and we ask am i essentially that person and I think it sometimes helps to realize they say there was one Saeed who came from Pinsky Pinsky czar shtetl in Belarus and little Luther way Nia and he came over to the Atlantic and in Pinsk he was a poverty-stricken individual he came to America he decided he wants to become a prominent member what they would call a Mizrahi a sheet I don't know if they still have these titles but ie damn is rough person you know a harsh of a mensch a stickler a bunch of kolben Angela so he borrows money buys himself a beautiful suit design beautiful tie beautiful hat nice shoes comes into Sheol doesn't sit in the back he sits in the front near the rough near the present and he carries himself with dignity enough with the stigmas enough with the story about here I'm gonna be a man then he thinks to himself how will he really make it in the show he decides when the GABAA asks if there's a kyon he'll become a coin a coin you get an alley a Monday Thursday Shabbos because I'm Muslim benching Viki - that when you're a Korean automatically or another mahashiv the God by says Chi and Chi yeah I'm a coin oh he gets an alia he's all smiles Khoya Khoya gotta smile did you get a kiss on the right cheek or kissing the left cheek you stop Irish mob of Javert brothers I'm shortest whatever it is I'm a Shia after Davin Inc you go by the rough to give good shabbos and he goes by the rough dude officers Shalom Aleichem good Shabbos looks at him and says Yanko frump it's brew him up boy wow what a mess you're here amazing but I have one shiny ankle I remember you as a kid I remember your father I knew you say that I remember yalta's ADA good news nice jobs but not clean him fine you Salem the pista guevara not coin how'd you become a client and he responds he looks at me I have to say this in addition I'll translate he says Reba this is America it's a new country as it can sign i rove can assign a column this is America you could be around I could be a client it works smartly Mahesh mala - Oleg I'm one deep down the rabbi especially the rabbi who is intelligent perceptive deep psychologically keen Yosef das Yosef mock life there's a lot of self-doubt and for a good reason we're human we have our challenges we have our struggles we have our mental physical financial emotional spiritual social challenges just because we have a certain title or we need a community but between ourselves and ourselves in the intimacy of our bedrooms and of our lives we often identify that and it could become crippling and it could become challenging the challenge is normal the crippling aspect however must be challenged very severely and I have found one of the profoundest I think meditations that are very effective are the words of Shmuel Hanavi to Sheol hemella when he tells him in cotton Otterbein aha Hal Roach la alpha is Serrato by M shikaka Hashem lamella is wrong you may be very small in your eyes and that may be an accurate description but every boy - alloy element you on a mission and schlock I shall Adam come I say when I'm teaching I'm not representing my own ego if I'm representing my ego I am an imposter and I should suffer for them posture syndrome I am representing 3,300 years of divine wisdom of divine integrity if I'm representing me how do I have the right to sit in front of Holocaust survivors in front of people who have been around the block nine times around people some of them who went through tremendous pain in life and I'm giving them guidance I'm giving them perspective but if I know that Schluter shall of them come I say I represent have the sauce to represent Ida to teach Tara to be a channel of Tyra and to be buffle to Tara to surrender to the truth of Tyra and of course I have an ego of course it's much nicer for me to finish a speech and hear a compliment than here rabbi you said that joke already rabbi you did this last year can't you come up with new material rabbi you're completely wrong rabbi you insulted my srividya it's much nicer to have a compliment fine we have egos but the ego again puts me out here I can't let it the truth of what's happening that every Shabbos and every day of my life you and I have the privilege of imbuing jewish souls and minds and hearts with terrorists ms and with Tyra's kyon with the light the depth the truth the splendor and the Eternity of yiddish kite and after a mitzvahs for whatever age and whatever audience and whatever format it is whether it's a joke or a story a sheer odd Russia or sermon or a private conversation a little cute vert or a Shalom Aleichem but that remains ultimately at the core of the communication you probably remember the Vaart it's a beautiful word that once heard that comes I think from one of the old Bali Musa the altar of kalimera Blake Osman he said the Gomorrah says and miss Esther masaf the condition yet Shimon harm Sunni used to expound every s in himesh Kiran cels are similar cafeteria Pyrrhus she quit because every s includes somebody else copied s iveco includes your brother who is SSM allah tala tira who do you fear together with Hashem Pyrrha she quit her shame check about these Scarola drishna cobble sky I told the students I made a mistake in how many S's there are Amish we don't even notice how many yeses are a Hamish constantly the first one raised world hip assets of Miley Cyrus and they're all superfluous and he reached parshas Western and he was almost done I'm with the parish wide support of Akiva but cuba's said as such some of the continually rappers tell me there's a common Shimon home Sunni couldn't figure this out he couldn't say that tell me there's a common deserved or reverence ruff cook writes about rubrics like I can cook that's all rights fascinatingly Shem and ham sunni lived in the generation of I say ho ish of yashka Rabi Akiva lived in the next generation so Shem and ham soon he did not want to take that route we're a boys anybody but this avoid from the ballet Musa a very powerful part and he said us follow Shelby Akiva wasn't arguing with Shimon Holmes so near Machida wasn't adding on to Seminole suddenly Rabbi Akiva was actually inspired by Shimon Homs Sunni and let me try to illustrate this in my own words for 60 years you have been working on the string theory in physics you crack the code and of course you're receiving the next Nobel Prize and the night before you flying off to Sweden to become a world-renowned celebrity and personality and be enshrined in books of history full of eternity three o'clock in the morning you find a slight mathematical error in one of your infinite equations they like whoops do you wake up in the morning and say that Boyce I caught us see Avicii Frusciante I'm a I'm an idiot give the Nobel Prize to anybody else I think most people say first of all let me get the prize let's get the million bucks and then I'm an honest person in my stuff all I'll make sure to include the truth so I don't blemish and taint the integrity of my reputation as a true scientist and physicist that's natural Shimon our SUNY spent 50 60 70 years discovering the secret of every s he found one posture contradicting him what would you do you do whatever you know she Shiva says hasta kasha next we'll come back to it right one of the most repeated phrases we'll get back to it though when you'll get older you'll understand Reba hi I'm Seth nobody died from Akasha Rebecca Vega asks many conscious sorry field sorry theum God Allah Shimon armsan he doesn't do that he says sorry my life career was a mistake and just as God rewarded me for expounding he will reward me for saying it was an error and separating rebbi akiva watched this happen and Rabbi Akiva said to himself if this is a Talmud holcomb if this is a person who lives with taita that the only calculation and his life is truth MS and he's ready to bid farewell to his entire vocation for the sake of truth if this is what pirate can do to a human being then SSM Allah cafeteria the rabbi's told me this ha ha men because such a person you can have all of because it's not about him he is a conduit he is a transparent conduit for the Rutzen and the hokhmah of the reborn a shallow such a person you can trust if your service elevates it used to say that is adria Brian went of illusion and vulajin had some conflicts through this base Haleiwa side and the net sieve side it's not for now you could read about hi I'm Karl in Sookie's book originally shy she'll is brisk and applying shear came with some tension and the London prepared the shear and there were people who were proud of hi against trip client and they had to give the first sear and it was on a sugamice after you've hummus rebel Chabert said the tsuki of I - and he stood up and he gave the shear and I was a cashier his first presentation in valoran and a middle one of the boys who was sharp and compared well contradicted him with a rumba man Pyrrhus Elias which objected which contradicted the foundation to his soidiers I am brisker established and app I am his grandfather told the story then I heard it as a child apply him looked at his boy thought for a few moments and he said dubis Guerra had you're right I made a mistake this shear is bottle of a bottle I'm sorry and he went down from the dimma his supporters were a gust they were trying to defend him they were trying to refute what that you see the book is said Clym said no no no he's right and he stepped down and this was the great victory for his enemy the first senior he failed and they had their the committee of her abundant who was supposed to decide and they said if you have a Russia Shiva who had the first seer when he hears a question he says sorry I made a mistake that's the Russia Shiva you want that's the Rebbe you want that's the teacher you want the one who realizes it's never about me I am a conduit and let's face it I have asked shila's by different people sometimes you ask a question somebody gives you an answer and then when you ask the heretical question what's your source you could see the difference of Rabbis and you'll forgive me for being Frank some will give this look of disdain especially if the person this is what we calling you this ooga come in there they didn't have an intense Jewish education they're not on par with your knowledge it's almost that look who are you to question me when you know that I have been learning this material for a long time you barely know the olive base and I tell people who asked me this question how do you know who to trust see when you ask somebody for the source and they look down at you it's not a good sign when you ask somebody for the source and with humility they say of course let me show it to you let me explain to you how I got here this means this person feels himself as Ashley as an emissary as a conduit as an ambassador caster Toyota says the Rambam is mu not like oil cholera it's a little yog ovejita it's the ultimate source of democracy and equality and Claro you know about the rabbi who was visited by a secular genetically doose's rapper I need to learn Judaism I don't know Judaism mbers has come Monday 8 o'clock I'll teach you so how much do you charge for a lesson he says charge my hoop is he my factor by few time I don't charge Moses didn't charge me I don't charge you wow what a rabbi you're an inspiration they call me comes Monday night 8 o'clock the rabbi takes out of commish puts it in front of him and says no start reading says rabbi I don't know how to read I don't know anything there's a Hebrew lessons three hundred dollars an hour now a rabbis they saying is I meant is not I mentioned I'm Aldous I finished and here I come to a I think what is a very important point and that has to do with the rabbis personal life since we're sitting here between friends and colleagues I want to point out something that many of us realize and it's a little too late and that is our own children you know from yourself and your colleagues not you and your brothers didn't always turn out the same way having a father in a rabbinic position can be the greatest source of confidence and inspiration for a child and sometimes a source of agony and always feeling I'm never good enough my father gives for Sherman Duffy me as a kid once told me 6:00 in the morning 7:00 in the morning 9:00 in the morning 7 o'clock at night so you ready finished shots four times whatever I do will not match up to that whenever people see me what's your name ah you're the son of XYZ now for us he's just a little cute kid what's the big deal but some of our boys experience psychological turmoil consciously and even more unconsciously that's why sometimes rabbis could never learn with their children some children will resist learning with their fathers some of you know this is very very well some will say yes let's learn and some will not get close to it and they feel they have to find success in different ways and different methods and I say to you it's so important for a rabbi to remember you're a rabbi you're of you're at Santa Q soil um you're a Monica straw you're amudha yeoman you're a potential Isaac but first and foremost you're a father you carve out time every night or every other night to spend simple father like fun time with each of those children with each of those children on their terms not on my terms of course I would love if I could turn to my 14 year old and say let's finish Satan as Icahn in a month but I will not be able to bond with that with that boy I have to do something else we're going horseback riding we're going for pizza we're going for ice cream we're hiking up on from Muncie we're gonna hike up the bear mountains for six hours I could lose some weight but whatever it is you know what it is you be there for your child the matter Schreiber says on the pasta wash em Deborah Avram after a pirate like me my deeper is Russian kasha you know what God told us wrong Koha eylem culo you may carry of tacos can finish winner of alloy Ben Aceveda your kilocalories mentor sharaba the gun servants the whole world is micariff his own nephew out of the house how many of us were tested with this the teenager trouble teenager in our show we know how to show love why cuz he's our you dish akin but our own son who came home with a low mark suddenly as Mitch king yudish akin does because he's your son he's not true your wife is not Jewish mainly you fine but your wife is Jewish but it's hard because your child is your child another person so another person job you could be loving to another person strong I say to you my dear senior and junior colleagues we can't afford to make that mistake I want to conclude with two points my dear friends now practical of Bronski once gave a very interesting observation why is it that before you send your loved one to a surgery you don't just call up any dr. Goldberg in the telephone book you do research you find out who is the best doctor for this disease for this challenge and that's when you choose the doctor you interview people who had this surgery and you make sure that he is the best of the best of the best why you don't allow your loved one to go under the knife of a simpleton you need la créme de la créme why is it that I never saw that Jews who are let's face it hypochondriacs paranoid people many of them exhume once told me just because I'm paranoid doesn't mean the whole world is not out to get me I never saw Jew stop abstaining from ascending on an airplane before he discovers who the pilot is why don't you call American why don't you call allow United and ask them where did the pilot go to yeshiva high school college university how many times did he fly I want to see a video of him taking off and landing I want to speak to ten passengers to tell me about their experience with this pilot I never saw any Jew even the greatest fights Macker do this why not and if Catskill Abramski said it's not such a profound answer when the doctor finishes the surgery if kalila it wasn't successful and instead of calling the rehab therapist one has to call the heifer condition the doctor goes home and still sips his iced coffee reading The Wall Street Journal or the Los Angeles Times of the New York Times or the algae manager now and sips his coffee and moves on with life such a doctor you must make sure that he knows what he's doing the pilot is very different if the pilot doesn't know what he's doing if he's not a skilled flier and he's taking me down you know what else is happening he's going down with me I don't have to do research on my pilot because my pilot becomes a co partner in my destiny where I go he goes that's what the ruse told her mother-in-law para shirt elke ælis by shirt Alena Ellen Raboy said there are two types of rabona there are doctors and there are pilots there are also two types of doctors this is the patent the gomorian condition toys ship arrived from the Gehenna the best of doctors belongs in Gehenna now all of us know what that means but it also means something else a good doctor goes lagaa hanim in this world because he empathizes with his patients pain and agony but there are two types of rappers there are rappers who are physicians and there are rabbis who are pilots their rabbis who get up at the pulpit or get up at the meetings and they can give a beautiful speech and presentation how everything has to be maybe in previous days I'm not sure I'm a pretty young fellow the image of the rabbi who was aloof dressed up in those remember those attire of the prominent Arab on demand has on him aloof sublime sitting on top of the Keisei her covered together with the president not on speaking terms the rabbi on this side the president on this side the show quiet everything was organized and orchestrated to the tea from the adone alam to the Animus mirrors from the cottage to the misha Beira everybody knew exactly the moment they're walking into so in a moment they're leaving so and the hazard went one minute longer there were nervous breakdowns everywhere and the rabbi somehow felt the need to carry himself aloof a little bit distinguished a little bit apart from the members of the community there's something to say about that image but I genuinely feel that that era is almost over of our Oh bottle min ha ila what our people need today are pilots not doctors they need the leaders people teachers who get it who could speak to them as we say in Hebrew big of a million right how do you translate that big of an I am face-to-face eye-to-eye a rabbi you doesn't have all the answers a rabbi who could say I'm so sorry and I'm just here with you and for you a rabbi who can appreciate the challenge to struggle the dilemmas the enquiries the journeys of our youth and of our elderly of our young men and of our young women from all backgrounds and all persuasions wherever they are as children of the reminder shillelagh let's face it emotional emotional intelligence today it's far more effective than a very creative and brilliant IQ you can do what do they say nobody knows nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care of course it's important to prepare and it's important to give a message but the most important thing is relevance to carve a letter hard of a might if I can't make Yiddish kite emotionally relevant compelling transformative if all people can hear form I'd Russia's are out to use geek lots divert look like a vagina after you clap at five times and shine Arab people today are looking for creativity they're looking for guidance half of them are in therapy they're looking for empowerment they're looking to feel good about themselves Sholem bias I don't have to tell you about what's going on in Shaolin buyers I don't tell what's going on about addiction what's going on the depression what's going on with teenagers not by everybody but by many many families and they're looking everywhere how many Jews are looking today in Far Eastern disciplines in all forms of spiritual energy they don't even know that in Judaism there's an infinite literature it's the source of all spirituality I don't know if there was one to Russia that they love who wasn't an official Kabbalist or spiritual Hasidic rabbit was not he was the lid through Chicago from the soul of a trick ski in the skein of the Vilna Gunnar of kind of a larger net but I don't know if there was one to Russia that I ever read or heard or saw we didn't quote personalities of Hamas an ester of Cosmos Hermes whether Lakota Turner from the ballot Anya whether in a kind of a large an attack an official ayah where the teachings of the Baal Shem Tov or their reasons why why was it so important you English shylaja I don't know how many of you went through a shylaja well and see his pious in the ballot a nice Marlin as much as in every toy service of Zimmerman 'his and it was fascinating because to be a teacher of EDA skite one has to be able to see the depth of its spiritual relevance and message which can apply emotionally I can't be a technocrat and I think today our students our disciples our urine for the vitality for the meaningful inspiration of Yiddish got rum Kyle had a student rep moistured Ovid Valley Ramat Valley and he quotes a machine a young and boy him fish laughter you know there's gonna be a hunger later Avila left him like some alumni in came leash Maya's Varsham no hunger for bread no thirst for water only for virus em so Ramon Valley says his follow the cameras is left him is tired whoo laughs mobile alchemy Mayan Baba kama is Tyra there'll be a time later all Alaska belay some of the mine people will not be thirsty for tire you know why every possible shear will be available to every conceivable audience through websites and mp3's and CDs and English and etc you could learn you to shout me I'm at your Saba and Gomorrah and we're showing them and I'm throwing them whatever you want you have a shear many of you're sure am i posted online that many people listen to Boracay chef there's no hunger for left them in mind what is the hunger leash Moya as devar hashem the jewish people are looking to feel the reborn a shillelagh Mediterra they want to learn a blood Gomorrah and feel the presence of Hashem feel God's love feel the relationship in a Dominic in Armenia sh'mey raba in a mitzvah in a minute in raising children and Shalom bias emotional relevance and emotional honesty is not the name of the game but I think it's we're our futures that comes with tremendous empathy and connection my dear friends I finished with this last part and a story I know the hour is late the cut Scarabus said the gomorrah says in a ravine when Schley muhammad instituted a ravine and Ottilia co diam Abascal came out and said what in how Hambley Becca you smugly began money for such a wise child my heart reduces why a ravine and the tell Asiya diam your diam our sneer slit oma Ascanio saying our hands move and touch everything there are tummy halakhah Klee Rabbinical II before Nutella said I am washing of the hands makes them pure what does a raven mean a driven from the word tie rubus mix allows Druze to be socially mixed if not I have to stay home I have a native I can come out to the hut sir you could come to my house I could come to your house we could walk in the Marvel the a room today you could walk around you can eat by each other it's social connectiveness cohesion and integration a ravine and the tillis your diam was the brilliance of schlemm amela Mattila co diam represents clean hands clean hands Raina and the combination of a Ervin and Attila stood I am is not easy in life to be able to be socially involved and integrated but to keep those hands clean and saturated by integrity that was the wisdom of schlemm Amala our oath can't afford just to be Makai Umatilla Co diam I wash my hands clean and I sit in an ivory tower in a spiritual cocoon that's not a leader on the other hand to be a leader I have to be a a Riven but when you become an everything you have to be careful to be together with people to be there for people but never to stoop down and to lose recognition of who I am and what I represent not out of agony out of arrogance but as we said before as a conduit and that's why I think every rabbi needs to carve out those little spaces in which you spend time with your God and your soul I once told the yield you have to learn every day said I have no time I'm an Oscar I said you remind me of the Hatzolah guy who was driving a patient to the hospital and his friend says hey you have no gas is I don't have time to fill up gas we have to get to the hospital I can't inspire people you can't inspire people if you don't have gas a few what happens then is we start projecting energy that is false we always have to come up with good stuff but it's not coming from within every rub needs his own relationship with Hashem s are similar cafeteria where our boys tell me they have come your darvany with Hashem you're learning with a chef your own avoidance I said my own about them in my personal personal inner life that none of my congregants will know about it's really not about them it's about my fuel it's about my inspiration it's about my integrity the robe of Netanya today is a Jew named of moshe haim lau remotion hi I'm Lau is a son of harvest roll may allow the former chief rabbi of israel and former chief rabbi of tel aviv former rabbi of Netanya now succeeded by his son with my son I am who's brother of David Lao is - cañazo chief rabbi of Israel if moshe haim lau was called some time ago by a woman a young woman who said RAV lau could you be the Masada condition the rabbi who officiates at my wedding he said when and where she says Arif face up you doll admits in the eve of Erath pacer or the night of you doll admission two hours away from me Tanya remark I'm loud tells the Swami says listen if you could have chosen the worst night for a wedding there's no worst night than this especially for a rabba what is the busiest night for a rough who has a community everybody in host the night before pace is probably the busiest night between the selling of the comments between the shila's about cash during the counter between finding out of ketchup as Karla Pesach and if this year bagels and pizza and bread are mutter and if quinoa kidney is and if we could become silent for a week and all the brilliant shila's that you get as are of and what happens if you want to sleep through the whole peso could you be okay with eating monster I'm Konica or whatever all the other questions that American Jews ask today or for cause Isis has an issue I am NOT Kilis process two minutes or nine minutes or maybe 29 minutes according to some versions etc whatever the shila's are it's all the night of Dicker's comments especially for the crowd says for the procrastinators who hast mashaallah will come to you when you set aside time for selling of the comments because it's below their dignity they have to come to you three o'clock in the morning because you're the rabbi and whoever said that a rabbi is supposed to eat drink sleep entitled to dignity entitled to privacy that's your imagination the flouse us I can't come to a wedding - how was the way it's just half and he has a city's and time the lady says you are queue half to come to my wedding this is why can you get another rabbi who lives nearby no it's you does why me I heard you do the wedding of a friend and I vowed that you're the only rabbi to do my wedding he says could you do it a night earlier she says no this is the only night he calls her back and he says listen if you could promise me that the hope is going to be 4:30 sharp and right after the hope I can go back home I'll do it for you but you have to understand it's the hardest night of the year I'll come to our drive I'll do the Hopa but by five o'clock I really have to leave so I could be home at least by 750 cos comments and for my community she agreed 4:30 he arrived to the hall he walks into the hall he saw that it's not it's not this conventional Toyota type of wedding Jewish girl getting married and he sees an elderly man sitting by the Hopa waiting and the elderly man looks at him and says in Yiddish Shalom Aleichem for van and come to eat where are you from he says come from the Italian I come from the Italian he says I need whom for bonus iris I am from Argentina I am the father of the bride she is my youngest daughter he says boobies took the boy to Nevada where were you born since I was born in a Tonya he says oh it's been good boiling the bottom in Pietra cough I was born in the Polish city of Pietra cough hasta la mole de heads they can peel took up did you ever hear the name Pietra cough never by Lao answers yes I have heard the name Pietra cough and the man says do you know who was the last rabbi of Pietra cough his name was Roy I am now Haas - I'm Olga head making up my second well did you ever hear the name much the time now the last rabbi of petrikov and the rabbi who he was speaking to nonce he says yes I have heard the name he says do you know who was the last couple married by the PIAT recover of he said I don't he says it was me and my wife you know when the night before the robe of Pietro Conrad Murray says I am Lao was taken to Treblinka where he was gassed together with most of the community of the PIAT recovery ghetto and many children of his own family the night before in the ghetto he married me and my wife off a small modest discreet wedding few people were there the next day they were taken in the transport to Treblinka my wife and I survived and this is the wedding of our youngest daughter did you ever hear about this roof rip my Shack I am Lao who married us off the night before he was killed i rep moisture hi I'm out Junior looks at him and says my Naaman is my Shaq I am loud my name is Maya hi I'm wow it's been an a Michael for the PIAT recovery off I am a grandson of their of a period of my father is he strong mayor Lau who was called Bullock the little young boy of the PIAT recover of whose mother at the last moment pushed him out of the line to his brother Naphtali la vie would become the council general of Israel in New York who took him with him to boot involved and had him in a sack which is how he brought him into Buchenwald and he survived the Holocaust probably the youngest survivor five or six years old from the Nazi death camps says he is my father or my son I am was my grandfather murdered in 1944 so this elderly Jew looked at him and said Dynes aid that your grandfather married us off the night before he was killed so tonight you will continue and marry off our daughter the youngest of our family continuing the work that your grandfather began their emotion hi a mouse said it now I understood why this woman needed me at the wedding it was strange she heard me to another Cooper she was pushing me and insisting and she made me do something impossible but it was really not her doing or even her knowledge she was doing what she was doing but somehow the divine providence the hajj gaza wanted me to do this wedding to close up a circle my grandfather who didn't survive but was a sane of rabbis 37 I think generations and now I married off the daughter in Eretz Israel where 7 million Jews were close to 7 million Jews live in our eternal homeland and I thought to myself at this convention it's worth mentioning this which we often forget each of us is in golf than enraptured by the problems of our communities and the challenges and the stress and the good things the virtues and devices filled mushiya comes nothing is complete in this world but I think it also behooves us to remember as they used to say in Yiddish boom estate or 5 mm estate where we stand and in whose presence we stand the rub is not just an individual boss of Adam who was hired by a shoulder by a community to lead to teach to inspire to guide to answer and to be the spiritual leader of the community in the congregation obviously there are also each and every one of us stands in the vortex of Jewish history in the eye of the storm preserving holding on to the Eternity of Tara to the Eternity of the Jewish people to the Eternity of the story of the Jewish people which begins from a from Aveeno and goes all the way to Messiah and we often don't place ourselves in that context we see things sometimes from the smaller picture but when you take the bird's-eye view and you could see the larger picture I think each and every one has to remember the tremendous privilege as history is developing in such a fast pace and science has taken us in the last 50 years toward such developments that we haven't probably experienced in three four thousand years that those people who are Omid are mich Mar who stand guard to inspire guards children towards a visage I'm Ava's atera Ava's sister all ensuring as the Nabi says in the Shia me a lurker off to fennel that Hyori me Mallory boys saying who are these Jews who fly back there to stroll on the clouds and like doves coming back to their coats to their nests sorry bara music accordion Cooke said there's a difference between clouds and doves clouds are moved by the wind they're compelled to go from one place to another place and it's not premed painted the clouds move based on the speed of the winds and the storms doves are not pushed into their nests by mistake they are driven by a yearning for intimacy for love they want to come back to their young and if cook said classically there are two types of Jews who come to Eretz Israel there are Druze who come to register all being driven by the storms of anti-semitism like the clouds and there are Druze who come Tarun sister all kyo mm la roux base am like doves who want to come back home to the sheena to their spouses to their children to their home to their nests two types of jews and in many ways every drew is called to Fanta whether he likes it or not I eat as I eat but the job of the spiritual leader is to take the calf to Afeni and to transform it into human l aruba say him doves driven by vision by love and by passion thank you very much this class is brought to you by the achieve Annette please help us continue the classes make even a small contribution at triple w dot a yeshiva net / donate