Rabbi YY Jacobson: Can You Make Space for the Desires and Drives of Your Spouse and Children?

good morning everybody and welcome thank you all for joining us and gracing us with your presence on this wonderful morning thursday in the 23rd of seven five seven eighty one tough aleph june 3rd 2021 7 is the day when sends the second letters the second letters the igris hashniyos that allow the jewish people to stand up to their foes after the first letters which called for their genocide of gimel sivan is the day that the magilla records when the melech the king the gomorrah says as a metaphor for malcolm sends the second letters to be able to allow the jewish people to implement their freedom and their liberty to be able to reverse the plots of their enemies let's continue the mimer please open your source sheets if you go to the yeshiva.net and you go to the mimer you'll be able to see the source sheets i see the new one from today they forgot to load the source sheets but you can go to the previous ones in the series one or two and over there you have the source sheets so you can open it from there [Music] okay unzoomed you could see me and hear me okay wonderful thank you okay we're holding the middle of if gimbal of the mimer in your source sheets would be page 143 close to the bottom of the page hmm what did we learn in the previous classes in this mimer about the spies from shabbos parishes slacked option test of 1955. we began exploring the difference between is basically associated with our cognitive abilities our abilities to understand to reason to discern to comprehend things from a cerebral fashion and to think about them that way medici are usually translated as emotions or probably in this case would probably be the best to translate them as profound emotional drives of a person and the rabbi said that there's a big difference between these two realms in life mychin is all about growth and change and transformation that's what the true intellectual seeks different perspectives different angles where did i go wrong where can you prove me wrong there are questions there are answers today i think about it this way and tomorrow i may reverse my stand because as he said you grab every idea by the edges and it's all about details and nuances every idea is like a mansion made up of so many different parts and you may notice different parts and accentuate different parts and as a result of that reveal new layers or maybe even regret the previous idea and come up with a new one but it's always in a state of change and flux somebody who's stuck in a certain idea and they can't get out of it by definition it undermines the very motive and the very objective of true intellectual pursuit me dicey says is very different in the words of the mime yes our deepest emotional primal drives don't change and as he said in the beginning of chapter 3 in the source sheets it's page 1 43 on the bottom that the real reason for this is because the media is really reflect who the person is in the language of siddhas what my soul looks like it's the color of my soul middays are the color of myself and this is really a exceptional and a fascinating idea and this is what he's going to be explaining you see the uh gimmel we really began but uh i will say it again [Music] the reason that meters don't change what do you mean they don't change we learned in last year we say that the whole avoid of life is to work on your middles he says yeah that's to work on how your middays are expressed how they're channeled how they're harnessed how they're manifested and he went through different different stages within that a person could rechannel their media from one direction into another direction that yeah a person can even change the way the media is being experienced but the core media the the chip of the meda the corey central primal drive says this is who i am it's a reflection of something that is rooted hashrash it's rooted in the core of your soul and the core of your soul is not changing and that's why my real primal drives are not going to go through a change for you from schwarzenegger one of the differences between desire and sexual intellect is gravitating it's directed it's yearning it's longing it's running towards something that's what russia is he says yes it's not the soul itself at its core it's the drawing of the soul it's the fact that the soul wants i want it's the way my eye stands in a motion of desire of longing of yearning but it's not separate from that it doesn't get compartmentalized in details by design it wants some reality and it may have a lot of details and a lot of specific desires of what i want but the intensity of the desire can be in all of those details in an identical fashion action to do something another person has a desire to comprehend something to understand something the world of sale the world of intellect is obviously much deeper much higher much more rooted in the soul of a person than a physical action but the ruxin is the same the desire is the same you don't say hey this is a small thing don't want it i didn't understand your sign for me ah you don't hear the sound is not good it's good it's good you don't say this roxanne it's a school thing if i want something i want it and i want it with the same intensity like somebody who wants something grand very important and very great it's not about the objectivity and the value of that which you want it's this is what i want so you may call it insignificant you may call it valuable you may see it as grand or as small but this is what i want the tamadova because desire is the yearning of the soul in some chakras my eye is gravitating to this so therefore it doesn't matter what the ruxin is expressed in ah the mic fell off now it's better now it's better sorry okay remind me is explaining here the difference between watson and psycho there's a person's this is my desire and there's something i understand rodza and he says the definition of rutsen is i want it doesn't make a difference therefore what i want what i want the objective value of what i want does not reflect the intensity of the rotsim it's such a small thing it's so insignificant why do you want it great questions those are questions in sale but this is what i want as he says because this is what i want it's about i wanting it it's not about how big or small the thing is it's something independent we even after a person stops thinking about something and analyzing the idea remains the idea can remain years after this person is even alive because sechel is something that is a reality independent of the i mashinkan biryat-san in the moment i don't want it anymore there's nothing left of it because the whole definition and value of it was that i wanted it we should call muhusa i'm because the entire definition of rats and desire is that my soul is gravitating to it in other words we have here two components of the human identity one is calling watson and one is calling sega serkel are the ideas that i develop every one of us has our way of looking at things the way we understand things the way we comprehend things so let's say i really you know tune into something and i develop a certain idea even after i stop thinking about it it's there it's present i can go back to it in a year i can write it down on a piece of paper or even publish it in a book and it may be studied hundreds of years later maybe even thousands of years later because sacral is already something that has its own concrete identity and its value is based on the value of intellectual truth you say this is a true cycle this is not a true circle by wrought sign it's a whole different it's a whole different way of looking at it the moment i stopped wanting it there's nothing left to this rothschild the def the value of that which i want is that i want it in other words it's my soul is right now involved in this this is what i want now here we're talking about real ratson which means my deepest primal drives my deepest primal drives you may even call them sometimes primitive drives but i think a better word is primal drives this is my rudson this is what i want so you say yeah but it's a small thing it's not valuable it's not significant if i wanted it because of a certain intellectual justification so then you could tell me objectively this is good this is really good why are you so why why are you so insistent on this but if rodson is this is who i am this is what my soul wants that is the value of it you don't need anything else and this is so important in relationships a spouse tells the other spouse this is what i want so you start arguing but you shouldn't want it but it's not really worth anything but why do you want it and you missed the point of what ruxin is if you're having people that don't distinguish between a sachel dicker conversation and a rats indicate conversation it's two completely different conversations a secret conversation is conversation about ideas and over there the definition of the conversation is do these ideas have merit or don't they have merit which ideas have more merit than others that's the definition of a sacral conversation the definition of a rotten conversation is this is what i want this is what i'm experiencing this is this is as we'll soon see this is what i'm feeling but you shouldn't feel but you shouldn't feel this way you shouldn't want it's worthless it's petty you should want what i want you missed the point rutson is what my soul is gravitating to the these are these the beautiful words very profoundly and very profound and eloquent the value of ratzing the value in that which i desire is not objectively about that which i desire it's based on the fact that i want it and therefore the smallest thing objectively and the biggest things especially objectively in terms of rutsen could be identical i want it with the same intensity because it's not about the objective of value or merit of the thing i want it's about the fact that this is where my nephesh is pulling me this is rodzin is called merutza sannefesh it's i want it's the eye in a state of motion the moment there's no eye there's no rotten so that's why when i stop wanting right and move away from that the whole experience is over seiko you don't say when there is no i there's no sekhal anymore no the definition of sakhal is not i want the definition of sakhal is the cert a certain truth in reality that i'm trying to grasp on the contrary i want to go away from the eye right bribery blind cycle and bribery doesn't only mean money bribery means confirmation bias bribery means i i want if my primal drives are defining and informing the truth of the reality then that reality is truth my ideas of it may be seriously compromised even if it's hard to escape confirmation bias that's why it's so important to appreciate this the definition of cycle is not i want it's not even i understand it's a certain truth it's a certain idea that i'm trying to incorporate so even though it's also one of the faculties of my soul the soul has an ability to reason to understand to comprehend just like the soul wants the soul also has the faculties of sekhel like in the spheres we speak about the soul has the faculty of wrought sign and the soul has the faculty of khachma of bina of das these are all various faculties of the soul but don't compare the two the definition of ratson is the soul in motion the definition of sequel is not that i understand definition that is safe that the soul has the ability to step away from itself and create a structure and create and develop and tune in and try to grasp and and comprehend and analyze and dissect and categorize and delve into ideas yet deeper and deeper and even when the i is not present i stopped being involved in this those ideas that i came up with right or wrong remain and sometimes they may be very powerful and beautiful and enduring ideas that can you know affect so many other people comes deb and he says vegine what rotsain is in a deeper primal space midos is in the space of emotions just like it's not its own reality its definition is i want the soul is yearning the soul is gravitating this this gives us an understanding of how midos work how our primal drives work this is very heavy at the core midais is not about the individual thing i want it looks like it's that it's not that elohim is reveal that which is rooted in an undefined way in the core of the soul shazam the soul is sculptured every soul has an identity based on its own root on its own source every soul has a unique source for example there are souls that the general persona of the soul is rooted in the line of hassan that's the nature of the soul other souls that are primarily rooted in the world of in the in hashem's energy of guru now every soul has both because there's always integration there's always connection but the question is what is generally or predominantly the nature the fabric or the color of the song so my meda if i have very strongly a predisposition to casserole this is not just a detail a detailed feature in the soul elohim it's similar to desire this is who i am these are primal drives that really reflect me so you'll tell me but it doesn't make sense maybe you're right maybe you're wrong it's it's mama's almost irrelevant in fact as we'll see later it reaches into a place that's deeper than sense it's it's deeper than logic it's i can't explain why why i have these drives it's true meadows and rutzen are not exactly the same thing because rats are in interesting rat sign is the i want in the core of the person midais already becomes a matias it becomes a reality and it has many details for example there's hesed and there's gura and there's other details in the middle but the core of the media yes there is the whole manifestation of the meda and it comes with a lot of packaging and it comes with a lot of thoughts and it can result ultimately in emotional and visceral reactions in my body he says but if you go back to the core if you go back to the chords like ratson it's basically a reflection of who i am there is a certain nature of the soul my soul is rooted in your souls your soul is rooted in deference you say why be like me i'm not this is this is who i am midos are a reflection of who i am in my deepest place and it's beyond the why so it's true that midos already are manifested in a more concrete way than watson rutson is i just say i want i want mido is already become very elaborate and expressive and they develop ideas and thoughts and reactions that's all true but the root of middle is if you want to go deeper s in a way this idea that middles are rooted in the essence of the person is even deeper than desire why is my soul wants i want my soul is gravitating it's pulling towards something it's gravitating towards something it's longing to something it's not the core of the soul it's the fact that the soul is already gravitating it's in a state of motion and that's why ratson something else could be mixed in it's called reasoning sometimes i say why do you want this you say because yeah anything if i say the mendel the baden yeah whoever it is i'm just mentioning some of the the great souls that we have joining us among other great souls if i say this is what you want why do you want this you're an intelligent person you'll give me a reason you give me a reason what you say but but why this why this so you'll give a deeper reason right why why do you want to go to work today i don't know i just i just i just assumed that but i don't know if that's true any why you'll a person says this is what i want to do now why there's a reason for it so say but why is this reason important so you'll go back there's a deeper reason for it right i want to go to work because i want to get my paycheck why do you want to get my paycheck because i'd like to have some money in the bank why do you have some money in the bank because i would like to be able to support my wife and children and myself you know i would like to have food and like to have a home why is that important for you so you'll say well what do you mean what do you mean why is it important for me to feed my yeah why is it important for you you we'll we'll go deeper and deeper and deeper and there's there there are moral explanations well i should not feed my children you're going to feed them right i mean so in other words i i am a father these are good good reasons good reasons and in life any desire that you have very often there's going to be a time for the ratson there's going to be a reason for the ruts however however if you go back deeper and deeper and deeper and you'll go back to the core the rudson has no time the time of ratson is something that gets mixed in he says can get mixed into and cover up the rats and with a rational reason which is fine the reason it can do that the reason that tam can cover up ratson is because uratsun is not the core of the soul it's the gravitation of the song they reflect a mirror that which is rooted in the core of my soul um we're calling it the word the word is russia from the word shirish rooted ingrained engraved embedded we don't mean that there is the soul and there's something outside of the soul and this is rooted in the salt well you have the earth and you have the roots that develop inside the earth so yes the roots are in the earth they're buried in the earth but the roots and the earth are two separate things there's soil and there's roots that's not what we mean which we keep on saying that middles reflect that which is rooted means it's it's rooted but it's push it it's divested from any definition or description in the core of the soul because the soul is so to speak sculptured spiritually in one form or another form we're calling it rooted why because this is so to speak giving the soul of form like a picture and really at the core core core the soul can't be defined there's no picture of what a soul is looks like that's why we're calling it rooted like roots in the ground but really when we're saying rooted after realize that it's rooted mamish in the core of the soul the we're calling it because it sounds like we're giving a picture of the soul a certain form and the soul really at its core is undefined but we're calling it hash that's why we're calling it like roots in the ground but he says realize the words that this is a hashrat it's embedded it's rooted in the core of the soul the whole core of the soul is expressed in these roots he says in yiddish it's so to speak it embraces it encompasses the whole essence and since reflect this rootedness in the essence of the soul now we'll understand very well why they're not subject to change i cannot change your primal drives and you have to respect that about me and you have to respect it about yourself have to know which parts in you you could change and you should change and you should work on and which parts you have to really respect and embrace and honor in yourself and in others this is so important in relationships it's so important in parenting it's so important in parenting can you really accept the medici of your children can you really accept the medias of your spouse and now here comes a harder one can you really accept your own middles you say yeah but i'm getting angry and she's getting angry and anger is not a good thing that's true that's where i have to work on my middays i have to work on how my middles are being channeled how they're being expressed how they're being manifested and we're going to see soon about a lot of that work but you have to also realize that the primal drives the deepest core of the middays like everything down here in a person it's all a reflection of the ribbing shall i say man is my image so now he's going to use kabbalistic language fascinating language by hashem transcend now you're going to say really we always thought you have been a das and then you have midas right great question but as we're going to see in this mind mirror it's not so simple midos essentially are much higher than mike mother alive of aleph is mother is his father and mother is bina like it's explained in tanya chapter 3 and chapter 18 in many places that represents the seminal idea it's like the sperm of life the seed the source that comes from tati from the husband and then there's the imabina which takes the seed and develops it into a full-fledged fetus over nine months and that's the power of bina of the development of an idea there's the epiphany the core of the idea the seminal and then there's development of there that's called bina so that result says it comes from i said from that reason comes from zoyah that rizzo disgusts us are included in mazel what does mazel mean she says in parentheses masala societies i'll explain in a moment the masalas and the ears that come from the inner brain the rampant is unified and dependent on attic what does this mean so we're not when the subject of the minor is not to discuss these these terms so that's why i'm not going to delve in on it because a long and hard mimer and i want to get to the main points but just to explain simply the words in kabbalah there's an explanation there's different states of consciousness and they're represented in different parts of the body there's something called abba and ima that's something called zaz the air amp in the small face and that's basically the midos that we're discussing about the primal drives cassettes those are known as the air amp and the small face they're called a small face why they're called small face you know how sometimes you look in the mirror and your face is small but it's a reflection of your face because the a-rampant is a reflection of arihant aracamp it means the long face and arikampen in kabbalah and exodus is basically roxanne and that's what this miami is saying that midais are a manifestation of rotsen in a more concrete and condensed way so it's the small face reflecting the long face arakamp you would think abba and ima are rooted in a deeper place in hashem so it comes as iron says no aben ima rooted in mazel za is rooted in attic now what is attic you have in in in you have been as abba ima then you have what's called is the unconscious brain or the hidden brain which means the source from which we get our conscious ideas where is it that suddenly i have an epiphany ah where did that come from you knew it before but it was unconscious you didn't have access to it everything is inside already everything is inside but to get it from the unconscious brain to the conscious brain that's called getting it from sometimes it's called hamas i got it where did it come from where did it come from where did this idea come from came from deep inside myself but i didn't have access to it in a conscious way that's called the hidden sauce it's hidden it's plugged it's it's uh it's protected it i don't have access to it that's also called mazel then there's something called arikampen that's uratsu and then there's something called attic attic in kabbalah this this is what's called or the core of the soul so he says isaiah says i guess they come from masala they come from they get their nurture from the hidden brain but zombie dies goes all the way to attic it comes from attic which is which is the pyramid yes and even from there it's only like nurses it gets nurtured he says it nurtures from it sometimes is manifested in the bishops and kabbalah would say that dress up the arms of arik vital the source of za this is already attic and in this itself desire uses two expressions zoba tikka it's unified and talia it's dependent on it it like hangs from it so what we spoke about down here about me is it's a reflection of the way it's by hashem that za zakir yachal is the the emotions or the drives of the divine energy these are rooted in attic an attic is like he says here the hash now this is so critical in life so critical life i know we don't have the full picture yet there's going to be a lot more because there's a lot of questions on what it means and which emotions are part of this which emotions i'm not part of this there's this there's a lot to learn here and it's it's it's very this is very very heavy mime and i'm just telling you this is i mean every mimer is very heavy but this is uh this is very this is extra heavy i don't know the word is heavy i would say very rich very very deep very deep very keen very penetrating okay so things will become clearer but let's just understand the key point that we're learning here about and it's application to life i have to be able to know that which i could change and that which i cannot change in me and in the people i try to influence even with the most positive intentions trying to change your media is at their core he's saying is not a feat it's not it's not a goal it's it's not it's not a dream don't get frustrated i have to be able to make peace with your primal drives this doesn't mean that every way i channel my neither is holy and to be glorified no that's what we learned in the previous year i have to be able to rechannel things i have to be able to harness them in different ways i sometimes have to be able to express the whole media in a completely different fashion but at the core the media is reflecting my real real my real primal drive of something i really need like something i desire this is not about an intellectual reason that you'll convince me out of it if it's about a reason so you'll convince me out of it you'll explain to me that my reasoning is futile that's what people think sometimes and in psychology they used to think this that the deepest part of a person is intellect so if i could convince you out of your irish kite you'll stop wanting it right if you tell me this is what i want and this is what i feel like i'll show i'll show you how petty it is how foolish it is how primitive it is how irrational it is and what happens abracadabra could do you don't want it yeah good luck doesn't work that way why doesn't it work that way because when it come there are sometimes things in life yeah i could show you the futility of wanting this and then it's over but the primal drive if we're dealing with something that's really a primal drive in a person that is not about logic so therefore if you just prove it to me and you explain to me why it's not needed it's not going to take it away this is who i am you want me to be who i am not this this is who i am that's what midos are in their core just like this is what rutsen is at its core he said mid is in a way it's even deeper than us now um in if this is the case we have to understand how is it that ideas intellect do affect middles midnight we know and this is explained in many safari especially in kabbalah and exit is that maichin gives birth it gives birth to and it rules the middles what's going on here this is very this is very confusing this mimer is saying that midis are deeper than mike they come from a deeper place they're rooted in a deeper space in the soul and therefore and will not change them are subjected to change me those are not fine granted but then we often talk about media is being born from awareness cognition gives birth to emotions to emotional reactions and mayhem can rule medicine is a famous expression from desire right the brain rules the heart what is going on there the he name is we have been explaining sacralism it sees within the soul medici is the soul ex incredible expression sacral is a reality in the soul my soul has an ability to cultivate and reveal ideas midos is the soul that is the soul for me and this explains why media is existing every person gambesh even somebody who may be lacking all forms of intellect somebody you may call a shaita is somebody unfortunately whose behavior is insane a shite is like an imbecile somebody who's husserdas there's no way of reasoning with them there's completely no cycle there or at least no organized no systemized cycle but you'll see that they have midos galore there's no person in the world who doesn't have me this is furthermore it's from the moment you're born you have me this is it's not like intellect it takes time to develop and there's a lot of conditions to get there venom is gala bakula and you know what even though every snefish has the faculties it's not revealed by everybody sometimes you have somebody really throughout their life you don't see any revelation any systematic revelation of the power of intellect of reason of discernment he calls it a shaytan heaven forbid but nobody is lacking me this you never met a person who's lacking me dice on the contrary sometimes the person who is intellectually completely who and who is complete into who you may call a sheiter the middles are much much stronger they're not eclipsed they're not repressed they completely come out they may be wild they may be chaotic they may sometimes seem dangerous but they're there now he says even a child the day you're born there are very deep drives the midday you're not going to say oh my one-year-old yeah my one-year-old doesn't have medics really their middles are more expressed than adults middays you know we learn the art of repression or suppression the middles are they the moment you're born is a reality in the soul the soul needs to develop it and acquire it and work on it and the soul exists in every person from the moment you're born sacral is something that the soul acquires it's something that the soul needs to cultivate needs to develop it's not the definition of the soul medici is a mirror of the soul somebody who has a soul has meters and every person has a soul you don't have a soul when you become bar mitzvah you don't have a soul when you're 25 years old and you graduate they used to say the joke the jewish women you know they were discussing when a fetus is called viable what's the definition when a fetus is viable and you know it all bored it so the question is one mother said when he graduates medical school and the other one says when he graduates law school but you don't have to wait for this to have a soul a soul you have the moment you're born you have a nephesh and you don't say oh he's not shy unfortunately this guy is an imbecile he doesn't has no deity it is insane it's completely insane but a soul he has if you have a soul you have middles if this is the case it brings us to this question why is it that we talk about me that is being born from maiden a child is born from a father and a mother because my father and mother precede me they come from a previous generation therefore the antecedent can produce the result you're telling me that media has come from the etsa manafort versus muslim so why is it that we often discuss the birth of media is being birthed offspring or children of mike we said before making it called offspring told us this question has to be qualified now the truth is that when we speak about the effect of this it's not in the core of the media it's only in their revelation their expression because the core media has never come from my sin they never come from your ideas to have their own source in the soul above nisqually like we said before but the middles come from arctic they don't come from seijo only achieves the revelation of the middles for hainu let's explain what we mean here come a few lines that are critical in a person there is embedded a desire a yearning a longing for good for good stuff embedded in me is also the repulsion i want to distance myself i have a drive to distance myself and escape something that's toxic something that's not good but if i don't know where this good thing is i don't even know if there is a good thing behelem then this drive that i long for a good thing is going to remain dormant it's going to remain concealed it shows the place sechel is the ways that tells you oh you wanna you want you want such and such in place this is where it is it's mara makkah means it shows the place it's like it hangs up a sign and says there is the treasure chest talks to the media and says i know you have these drives for this good thing let me show you number one it exists and let me tell you where it exists by hide and then the media comes out from concealment into revelation this was an example of something good let's go the opposite direction puts up a sign and says hey that place not good stuff there not good stuff that person that home that situation not good not good negative what happens without that the media is there the media doesn't need the cycle to exist but it's not going to be expressed the sacral brings it out with uh with a fire with our drama with fury remarkable so the second coming of means it shows you the place it's like a footnote midais is the reality and sechel is the footnotes you know what footnotes are in a book you'll have a you have a safe and then the footnote will say go here look here look there look there you want it in this mission look there so seiko tells the middle go go look there look there that's the place to be or or don't go there and then the media comes out but the bottom line is that the medias do listen to the guidance to the directives of your secret if any move on and this itself needs explanation they completely come from a whole different a whole different reality how does sahil even have this power to serve as amara malcolm wow okay we're going to take a break here take some questions you can unmute yourself if you want or ask a question i see on chat 17 questions already hashem in the next year which is going to be monday morning 7 30 we will we will explain more this question and how cecil and midday's work and the relationship will become clearer but let me see what some what the questions are so please review what we learned till now we already had three shiurim in this mimer and monday morning we're gonna have the fourth year and it's important to be able to study it and review it and understand it well and you will see and this is uh this is something that i uh i want to share with you that this mimer is really a tremendous tremendous it opens doors of so much profound awareness into our own inner workings even though every person is complex and every person has got their own soul and every person got their own life and every person got their own traumas i don't know every person but some of us but this miami really opens us up to very profound truths about ourselves about people around us and it's really a tremendous tool for a deeper relationship with yourself and with the people around you okay question how deep does this individuality of middles go does it really go deep isn't individuality lost at a certain point that's a good question and here he says no here he says it goes very deep that that's my soul is in cavagura yeah now the truth is at at this point your question is the answer to your question is that your individuality is not lost that you go deeper and deeper and deeper and you find that this is who i am this is who i am and i can't escape that now you want to know there's something even deeper than that that's what you want to know okay so this is really already touching on very the profound conclusions of the mimer what moishen brings to the table that can even have an impact on midos so we'll get to that we'll get to that and it that it relates directly to your question is it correct to say that a person has a soul or is it better to say that a person is a soul yet they used to say it's not that a person has a soul it's a pers a person is a soul that has a body we often look at this soul it gets tucked inside into the body but really the soul inc is inside the butt also encompasses the body so we actually have a body that's inside a soul we have a body that's inside a soul that's a much deeper way of saying it because as it says in this that there's parts of the soul that don't go into the body they're makith they're above the body they encompass the body so instead of saying the soul is in the body you could say i have a body inside my soul yeah that's a beautiful way a beautiful way of putting it okay next question how is this part why is this my why was this my way set on schlock well you have to go to the first class and you'll see the connection and at the last class you'll also see the connection it's about the spies how does the rabbit know all of this we're what's the source for all of these statements and observations what is this based on is this based on studying people is this based on other sources you're saying this from the debt but does it go back to the balatanya does it go back to the bolshemitiv is this all entire i'm just trying to understand what's the source of all these ideas i like the question it's a very good question so the truth is that uh that these ideas that we're learning here in this mind map i said in the first class this this mine was actually based on a mimer of the rebel rashaba the fifth laboratory rebel passed away in 1920 that he said parishes 1914. that's right before the first world war broke out and those my martyrdom that he said are based on my maryam of the mittal arab the second chabad rebel bear who passed away 1828 1827 and based on the maimarum of his father the altareb of the balatanya who passed away in 1812. he based his teachings on the margaret of ms rich and the bolshemative based their teachings a lot on tyra in general particularly kabbalah especially from the ariza rabbits who based his teachings on the entire spectrum of torah and on all of the teachings of kabbalah before him so everything ultimately is part of the development of toyota that goes back all the way to moses however just like in all of torah it gets developed throughout the generations with more insight and more explanation and more elaboration and more examples so you have these ideas in kabbalah but they're much more abstract and more transcendent and more uh allegorical you know very very very like he speaks about attack and za it's much more we have to uh what's called the mythologized abstractions so that's what the balshemptiv came to do to really bring it down in a way that is relatable to the person's soul and then the altered and his successors in a way that can really be understood to some degree and assimilated and integrated and dissected but all of these ideas can be traced back through other generations but especially this genre this genre of conversation is uniquely in the discourses of chabad siddhas you know there's different branches of how yiddishkai develops and as different ideas are expressed in different ways right you have books of philosophy and books of halacha and books and books of moosa and books of kabbalah books of hasidis and books of madrish and each one is very very important and very powerful but this genre of conversation is usually the language of khabar siddhas who took these ideas and really developed them in very i would say psychological slash emotional slash spiritual terms that's the answer to your question question isn't supposing that individual neshamas go all the way down isn't that a version of polytheism that there are multiple individual powers don't you always say that and the source were one instead of the fundamental unity of hashem of which then individual in the summers might be thought of as modes or sorts yours keep you seem to be saying that there's polytheism at the core great question but my friend why don't you ask a bigger question if you say hashem kivura tiferes netzach isn't that polytheism what happened to one god the answer of course is that hassan virta fairies don't contradict god's oneness as the rambam says in hilkhasy say the hater and hill history he is the knower he is the knowledge and he is the known he is one with his wisdom and as it says in tanya sharif chapters 7 8 9 that what the rambam says about him is true about all the middles of hashem he is completely one with his middle so it says in zaihar garma he's one with his lights he's one with his vessels so you'll say how could you be one and i've said guru rita ferris not sarcastic great question the answer is that in hashem all of these midis are just manifestations of oneness each medium manifest manifest the oneness in a particular mode the way but individuality becomes important because from these from this diversity come different types of souls and those souls have different desires and those souls have different medias and just like just like god's oneness doesn't contradict the fact that each of us has our own unique imprint of dna which is god's signature in you and in me and in me i we come from one god the answer is that the oneness is manifested in different sequences of dna because you express the light in your unique way with your dna sequence with your unique soul your unique body and i do it in my way and he and she does it in their own way you understand so that's why real individuality real individuation i should say individuation is not a contradiction to the oneness the oneness is manifested in individuation now the truth is you're touching on something very profound and that is we'll see at the end of the mimer that the relationship between merchant and middles and the reason moisen can impact midairs is not because maison are higher than meters mediums are much higher than but mike can have access to something on akuda that even the midais are deeply affected by as we will see i don't want to spoil i don't want to spoil the you know the i don't want to give away the ending and spoil it for you question maybe we could say that if the term multiplicity refers to any concept at all then the all which contains all possible concept and its concepts in its unity likewise includes the concepts of multiplicity yes that is very well said the term multiplicity the term multiplicity if the term multiplicity refers to any concept at all then the all which contains all possible concepts in its unity likewise includes the concept of multiplicity that is very well said and true and i think the ultimate answer to what you've been asking my dear friends i wish you all a beautiful and meaningful and inspiring day