A Frog or an Elephant?

The matzah says, "I want you to get back to the core. I want you to get back to the source before putting in other ingredients." You know, to inflate it. What often happens is when I don't understand the beauty of my essence, I have to inflate myself. And that's what means psychologically. Most of our coping mechanisms happens when people don't understand the power of their essence of who they really are. And therefore, I need to create a personality that's going to be accepted in the universe. And I want you to think about this because we don't do this consciously but maybe at three or four or five if I didn't feel that I could really be loved. So I replaced the need for love for the need for validation. Love I may not get validation. I may become the best kid in school. I may be the greatest people's pleaser in all of my become the greatest student in yeshiva. I may be the most obedient child at home because I know how to keep my father in check, how to keep my mother in check. And children are brilliant. So I create this whole personality to keep me safe. And now when I'm 30, 40 years old, I don't even know who I am. I think I need to please people in order to be able to be accepted, to be loved in the world. I never know. I don't know my matzah. I became this beautiful. You ever see these sour kalas how gushmak and beautiful they are, right? I love them. But you have to make believe there's a lot of things that started really blew them up. You know, I once said one of the most brilliant. He said, "Do you know that frogs, I don't know if you ever studied frogs, but frogs know how to inflate themselves? You know that like frogs are small but they can suddenly the frog becomes a okay you know that elephants don't have that ability and Rabendo said why not he said I'll tell you why because a frog is a very very little tiny creature and when the frog sees a predator so part of its mechanism is I'm a big frog don't start up with me right an elephant for some reason doesn't have to do that doesn't have to do that you get the picture right if I felt very young age that I was a frog so I learned how to become become this and I do it very cleverly and now I'm 52 years old and I'm still walking around like this frog you know whenever there's people the social anxiety whatever it is matzah it's like the elephant doesn't have to do that the elephant is like I'm an elephant I like being an elephant nobody starts up with an elephant it's like really going back to the core and the essence without other ingredients and then there's an incredible beauty in each person you're you're literally a divine flow of consciousness. The most important thing we have to do is nothing. We have to let go of blockages. You don't have to create yourself. I have to let go of everything that has been added to me and just go back to that essential essential essence and source. The yeshiva.net Net.