Rabbi Yossi Bensoussan - Living with The Eye of Your Creator - (Part 4).

hello tour anytime hello kazakh hello everybody everyone who's joining in everyone who's tuning in to join us for this final installment of the of our summer series of the living with the eye of your creator series i'm tired it was an unbelievable whirlwind that we had the uh going over here you know traveling in doing this with the guys and my own you know running around that we had to do and i just want to say before we begin you know anytime i do these uh kazakh um summer tours or really ever speak for them it always takes me so long to get to the speech i'm gonna try to cut it down this time a little bit but it always takes me so long to get to the speech because it's so difficult to not make half of it about hazak it's unreal i had the honor of visiting the offices again and just sitting over here watching ravi watching rabbi merov watching what they're doing the intricacies the devils and the details the intricacies and the details that they pay attention to in all for hashem you would think that running some multinational company over here or for the reminder not for selfish probably not for greed not for gain all further by initial it's unbelievable when you sit with rabbi rubinov and i i i dare i challenge anyone i don't care what you do i challenge anyone to sit with rabbi rubino for a few minutes and not feel like you're not doing enough for claudius throw it's unbelievable it's so inspirational the again down to a science down to the details whereby rubinoff i i i was sitting with him today and out of nowhere he goes you know and the kid and we have this kid in 500 200 give me all the numbers all the things about how many children they have going from public schools to to to yeshivat and and like a fool i thought they were working with in queens he's showing me arizona he's showing me uh uh uh colorado he's showing me los angeles he's showing all over the place this far reaching just unbelievable program that they have of these kids going from public schools to yeshivat it's unreal really unreal and he says to me he goes for instance this kid and he points to some random name and he goes you know uh uh he wasn't then he went back to public school then he went back because you know he gets motion second to go all the way from you know his home to the shiva was a little bit by the way i'm like of these hundreds of kids you know that this random kid gets motion sickness it says yeah it's down it's down to the finest of details whatever it takes whatever it takes to save these jewishness whatever it takes you walk through the hazak offices all you can think of to yourself is whatever it takes they will do whatever it takes in order to save these jewish amount and they work directly for the rabbana shalala it is inspirational to say the least it is incredible and i'm honored to have even played a small role in doing it over here if you know someone if you have someone a relative a co-worker a neighbor a friend whose child goes to public school realize realize what we're doing over here realize what's happening these children's lives are being lost whereby ruben off today was showing me the uh the stats of american jewry how in some states it's 90 percent intermarriage rate and others it's 60. we're still not doing that great how does that start that starts with the schools and if you're talking about more of an inner city place you're talking about the greater new york area you're talking about you know any big city basically you're not just sending them to public school you're sending them on a death sentence the amount of these children on drugs the amount of these children on story after story about rubinoff was sharing with me unbelievable if you know someone if you have somebody who you can hook up with hazako you can give them this gift of being able to go to a yeshiva of being able to to experience what that is to be able to be in the yeshiva to be able to be raised that way then you have the responsibility i'll never forget by the levaya of gibs kissinger our behind my body got up and he said now that we all know everything that kissinger has done now it's all of our responsibility if ever you think to yourself oh i wish rob kissinger was here right now because he would be great at taking care of this know that this is your responsibility now to take care of it cause i can't do this alone they need your help if you know someone if you know of anyone whose children are going to public schools who children are all you need to do all you need to do is email their information petit to psty that's public school 2 yeshiva pst himself will probably be calling you someone will be in contact with in contact with you to get the information and they will pursue the family they will pursue the kid they'll arrange the fund they'll arrange whatever they need to in order to make sure that this child goes to yeshiva and isn't shaman gets saved okay our sponsor for uh the share today is an unbelievable unbelievable organization that i just had the honor of meeting the incredible is such an understatement the ball of fire the unbelievable unbelievable rabbi hurt me for saying rabbi robbie newman who runs the uh the organization of chickens for shabbos it's it's truly truly truly incredible what uh what chickens for chavez does all over the place it's it's everywhere it's everywhere what they i i honestly couldn't even keep with most of what he's saying if you see i don't know if it's in the shot you see all these papers over here this is all these are all the papers that rabbi newman was just throwing at me to show me letter after letter after letter after letter of people saying and thinking chickens were shabbos for friend and ramen for saving their lives right they they help out about right for everyone who wants to stand up on a uh you know on a soapbox now and yell about how agun so do something about it help out also the forgotten he told me he told me a story about a mechanic about hater redmi note 2 that was also the janitor because he had to make more money and then unfortunately he felt sick they still didn't ask for help then unfortunately he felt sick and they had to ask for help how are we not here for these people how are we allowing these people in class style to to fall to the wayside he's showing me lists and lists and lists with the person's initials and the suffering story they're going through i'll tell you guys i'm beside myself right now from these stories that i just had to listen to reach out the littlest amount helps every single penny that they get goes directly to these people's pockets not one penny missing from your wallet to these people's pockets the full amount being helped the full amount being given okay let's jump in over here guys only what was that three minutes five minutes not so bad okay by way of introduction we're done now let's jump in so i want to put together all the ideas that we spoke about all the concepts we've spoken about and really solidify the final stage of this so the first our first cheer we discussed the idea the idea of the individual of you going first we have to be the ones to go first we have to be the ones to decide it's going to come from me the light is going to come out of me all of us are a light guys every single one of us is a light through bone put into this world he didn't put us into this world for us to be swallowed up by the darkness we're a light we're a light that exists in a lantern and the lantern is a little smudged but if you just clean the glass a little bit you can see we have so much light that can come from us it's why the ramana shalom put us here hashem said i created you but salam elokim we said hashem said we i created you but selah melo kim i created you in my image why because you're able to do what i did you're able to give life you're able to breathe life into people's lives you just have to let the light shine out from you and as i was speaking to rabbi mirov today we were saying the concept of being of of of the fear or the loss of what happens when a person dies with their music inside of them we don't want to die with our music inside of us we want to shine out to the world and make a difference but now what happens is that the atari gets involved the satan gets involved their job is to make sure our music stays hidden our music stays in it remember raven and i were saying today what would have happened if my red bee probably berkowitz what would have happened if years ago if years ago ravkomanovich decided you know what jews in morocco are not my business jews and morocco which is not my business i i don't need to worry about that i don't need to concern myself with that i have plenty to do over here in my hometown we'll take where we are right now what if kazakh would have decided kid wants to go to public school it's not my issue it's not my issue why should i care it's not my problem it's his parents it's this is that i don't want to be nosy i'm going to mind my own business he even makes us you know trying to convince us that we're at sadiq what if what if people would have done that their music would have died with them [Music] their song would never have lived on every single one of us has music inside of us if there is if there is no greater truth than that every single person that was put into this world has a light inside of them we get distracted where the itzara tells us you have to find your light you can't give it before you find it you have to know what you are you have to know who you are these are all tricks and games you don't have to know anything you just have to do do the thing in front of you right now you're doing it right now you're listening to a share you're you're gaining wisdom in torah you're gaining within who you are you have to be able to turn them off and just pursue that greatness we can't die with that music inside of us so we said what does it mean what does it mean to see things through the eye of our creator so this goes in every single aspect of life and we're going to give we gave already last night we're going to give again last night a few nights ago last year we're going to give again a few of the steps that we could take in order to do this so number one step one share one was you go first it has to be you that goes first and it has to be you that goes first no one is going to be taking responsibility for you other than you no one can be you other than you no one can tell you what you're good at or what you can do no one can give you the insight into who you are you know people are always constantly trying to find out from someone else what they should be doing trying to validate who they are and what they do and what they believe in they do that for a reason it's because other people control what they believe about themselves we have to make that mental decision step one i am me i am me what who i am i have no idea but i know i exist and i know i'm me i know they're going to show them as a plan for me once i know that once i know that not only has a plan for me but wants me to succeed he's rooting me on i'm the only one getting in my way if it means that it's because i'm listening to other people and they're bad advice then fine but that's still me getting in my way if it means because i'm crumbling under stress i'm coming under pressure i'm coming on they're crumbling on their difficulties of life that's still me getting in my way [Music] guy said to me the other week rabbi it's all nice and dandy what you're saying but at the end of the day all right this person i know is sick next to me i have to take care of this one i have to do this one for this i have to do no time no my life is very difficult it really is so so how does hashem ever want me to become great if i i i can't even breathe so we said to him you know the marines in the military they go through training i remember hearing in navy seal one time say there was nothing i faced in combat that was worse than training but that's where my my confidence came from in combat is that i knew there is no way there is no way the enemy is going to throw anything at me that's going to be worse than what my friends threw at me and trained that's going to be worse than the the gangnam i had to go through back then now i can handle anything we're going through training every single day all these things have a rhyme and reason to it we don't know why our job isn't to know why our job is to experience and feel to ride our journeys when we look at our lives through hashem's eyes we see the next step step one is that we have to be present we have to dedicate ourselves we need to go first no one else is gonna make us feel or be a certain way we need to go first step one step two we need to honor respect and accept the journey class two was about the journey experiencing the fact that this is the journey this is part of the journey when we take a journey there are rough roads there are easy roads but it's all part of the journey so part of the the the movie it's all part of the experience of what i'm facing in life if things were just flat and easy why wouldn't everybody do that what separates the weak from the strong what separates the great from the small what separates the music from the silence what separates the music from the silence are those who learn to play you ever you know a musician that that the greatest prodigy that picked up a violin that picked up the piano that picked up a guitar and just played perfectly it never happened it never happened and as we said in the second shiour as we said in that second show it bothers me so much when people won't give a person a chance you want a speaker for your i'm ruining my own my own uh my own bank account there you want a speaker for a job get the guy that all those people know get get that guy no no get the guy no one knows you know one of my biggest i was speaking to rabbi merov on his podcast so one of the biggest akarata tops i have is is to an organization like hazak hazak mrs veli a a few people that brought me in rabbi brickman rabbi weissman from brooklyn that brought me in when i was a nobody that brought me in when i was nobody like i'm somebody now but brought me in when i was a nobody and gave me a chance i want to tell you why they gave me a chance they did not give me a chance because i was a good speaker because i'm going to tell you something i wasn't if you scroll down on tour anytime scroll down a tour anytime you'll see that there is a speech there and you might assume it's either not me or me uh during some sort of sick time in my life um and i've always wanted to take it down um it's not that the speech is bad it's just it's not mine um it's it's things i've learned and probably speech i put together um but i feel like a different human being than i was when i gave that speech um you know growth wise maturity wise um so much wise and i feel like a different human being being just open and vulnerable here and that speech really makes me cringe now i can't listen to myself speak to begin with i can't assume myself speak i can't listen to but i can't listen to my podcast i can't listen to any of it it the sound of my voice is very very it drives my wife crazy that i can't do it because if she wants to listen to like uh one of the meaningful minutes or one of the daily doses from torah anytime or any of these things i and and i'm commenting on it or i'm there i'm i'm on the video i i i have to leave the room because i'm not that good of a husband i ask her to leave the room but no i try to leave the room actually i probably just tell her please turn that off but the reason i can't i can't but definitely i can't stand the sound of my own voice when we're talking about years and years and years ago um i wasn't a good speaker i'll tell you that right now i definitely wasn't i don't even know if i am right now to be honest but i think that's the point is that i stopped caring if i was a good speaker or not the truth is to the untrained eye maybe that guy was a better speaker now that i think about it you guys are you guys are witnessing my process right now it actually could be that that guy would have been considered a better speaker better public speaker however he definitely wasn't real i say that with a whole heart he definitely wasn't real it's not that i have anything against who i was back then it's that i was younger and and i had a lot of work to do i still have a lot of work to do and making sure the speech ring well was more important than working for the ramona show or or being there for kaiser all and so on and so forth so so so i guess i look back at it but i keep it up i keep that speech up and i never ask them to take it down and the reason being is that it's a reminder to me it's a reminder of who i actually am versus who i was complete candidly candid miss i don't know that's a word but but completely candid air i wanted i wanted something to remind myself that growth is real but who you are is real and that there are bonus one put here put you here for a reason that reason is so important that reason is so important but you need to understand something it's a journey the guy who spoke back then i honestly don't think anyone learned anything in that crowd that night i can't imagine how they would have i'm not i'm not trying to badmouth myself or not be self-compassionate i understand why i was the way i was i totally accept myself as i was back then i do and i needed to be that guy to become who i am right now and i need to be the small-minded person i am right now so i could become the yes evan shushan of 30 years from now yeah here my point is is that you need to honor the journey you have to honor the journey if you don't honor the journey you're always constantly demanding something some sort of perfectionism of yourself right now as opposed to accepting who you are right now part of the journey is that there are people who who pay thousands of dollars more in in on airlines in order to have a more comfortable journey and have a better experience while they're flying the journey is so important but life is not like an airline that's not how it works life is not get from point a to point b that's not what it is in life we're not passengers on a plane we're the pilots what does that mean bonishawn designed the plane the engineer designed the plane he gave us the manual he trained us he taught us what to do and what not to do but our whole life exists in that journey that's all we know is that journey what was before that journey and what comes after we we we have what we know but we don't understand it fully we don't we don't live like that if you were to ask a passenger how was the flight the passenger would be like oh it's long it was tiring i'm exhausted you asked a pilot how was the flight it was like fantastic took off not a single hiccup not a single issue i flew that plane we got here 20 minutes early i landed smooth as cream they're on the same plane how did they have such different opinions what happened because one of them was active one of them was actively involved in that in that flight the other one was just a bystander so of course it was whatever it was [Music] who enjoys a plane ride that's not a captain a guy in first class he's able to distract himself from the fact that he's doing nothing but when he lands he's not proud no one's handing him a check as a matter of fact he pays for big he pays more than the guy who's suffering in the in in in coach he pays a lot more why to make it feel a little bit more comfortable a lot more comfortable to get better food but the guy who's flying the plane the pilot he's the one who can really appreciate the journey he knows how everything worked he understood the miracle that his flight he's the one who flew them there he feels accomplished afterwards his destination didn't matter he was on when he was up in the air during the journeys when he was on that's why when the journey ends he reaps the rewards it doesn't matter where he landed we have to stop letting goals and and expectations get in the way of our lives live for right now experience the journey that was the second part i want to tie it all together right now with you guys for just a few minutes just to just uh and where we need to end [Music] after the recap and after all is said and done we spoke a little bit about how these things affect those around us but this is the real point we're coming off of we're coming off of the three weeks we're coming into the rest of our summer we're coming into beauty right now what is the point of being a light what is the point of having all this shine through me what is the point of having all of this come out of me if i'm doing nothing with it if i'm not affecting the way this idea started in my head for this series before i did the research for it and putting it together way the way the the concept came to me was i was once dropping my son off i think it was the first time i think was in israel it wasn't israel but i think it was the first time he was going to school um i dropped him off and i remember thinking to myself oh my gosh i hope i hope they love him i hope they appreciate him i hope they they they take him seriously i hope they hope they're not annoyed by him i hope they're not as i'm leaving the school i just said a little feeling i said we're going to shalom please allow all the rebellion and the teachers in this school to see my child the way i do to see that beauty to him to see that untapped potential that he has to see that world of a human it's a beauty of his smile please remarshall allow them to see that and then it hit me hashem sees all of us like that every single one of us the mishnah says it's not a single thing definitely the mishnah says not a person that hashem has put into this world is not definite it's not a thing not one inanimate object and definitely he says the michelle there's no person that the ramona shawn put into this world without a purpose without a beautiful purpose you know while i was here i got to meet a few different people by reuben from my uh we mentioned before by newman when i see people let's do this the other way when you see a person who is on fire in life who is always jumping up and down is always running and doing and is so full of vibrance and life you could be almost guaranteed one thing about that person he is involved with other people he is helping other people he is there as a backbone and has a support for other people you could almost be guaranteed that and the other way when you see a person who shrinks when you see a person who's down when you see a person who is who isn't confident when you see a person who who's sad who's depressed you can almost be guaranteed they they're not involved with other people what does that mean not involved with other people i've heard this line so many times we've all heard this first let me take care of my issues let me get my issues done and then i'll help someone else that's not how this works that's not how this works you're a light you're a light lights need to shine we're like engines if we don't get turned on and used we we we just die we rust over and die the whole point of all of this of seeing ourselves and seeing our lives seeing all the things around us through the lens and through the eye of our creator is to see other people through the lens and eye of our creator because if we don't see other people in that way we can never truly love them because what's love it starts with acceptance who am i to say that that person is worthless you know how many times i've heard from people people who suffer sometimes sometimes tend to get on a very high horse i've been through so much in my life i'm so deep right now i'm so well-rounded right now i'm so healthy right now i've i've come to such a place that when i look at other people all i can say is um they're so shallow they're so small and shallow who am i to call someone else shallow who am i to call someone else small who am i to decide what someone else is going through in their life they're so beautiful they're so wonderful let's start seeing them that same way and then once we're able to see them in that way we're able to give to them in that way we're able to give to them with purpose we're supposed to emulate who the rabbi shalom is the way the way avraham avinu found hashem was through he looked around at the world and he said it can't be it can't be that this place is so perfect so beautiful so wonderful and no one made it it's like it's like showing up to your house and there's a beautiful gift on your front on your front steps wrapped and bow tied and beautiful and there's a little note on it a little note says your name your name and it says your name and you're awesome and you have no idea who left this for you you're not going to say ah it's probably an accident probably a mistake probably just happened by itself no no then you open it up it's the perfect gift the perfect gift exactly what you needed exactly what you needed who in the world left this for me that's how ava mavino viewed the world and guys that's not an exaggeration that says the rambam is how avraham avinu viewed the world imagine looking at the world like that imagine looking at the world that when you look around you're like i i i i feel so overwhelmed with gratitude right now i feel so overwhelmed i feel so loved i feel so cared for who did this but now who in the world when we get a gift like that and we look at it we get a little annoyed we're like why are they playing a game with me i want to thank whoever sent this to me why didn't they sign their name you know why they didn't sign their name imagine someone says this to you that perfect gift that that person left for you that perfect thing that that person left for you you know why they didn't sign their name they love you so much they forgot because it didn't matter to them that you know they gave it to you what mattered to them is that they really wanted you to have this they were so consumed with what you needed and what they can give you they forgot to sign their name how beautiful is that have we ever given to another person that much that they'll never know have we ever been snilled ever but snoot given to another person that they'll never know we need to learn to give the way god gives hashem gives us everything in our lives and we complain and we complain and he still gives and we thank him sometimes and we notice it sometimes and sometimes we don't and there are things that we can't notice because he hides it he saves us every single day and he hides it from us you know why because when you're god you don't need anyone to know what you're doing you're doing it out of love you're doing it when you because you love them so much you're doing it because what are you losing your god you only want to give to those that you love your god we have to learn to give with the confidence of god we have to learn to give with the confidence of god realizing i'm not losing anything by giving to others i don't need any any recognition i don't need any accolades i don't need any awards so big and confident in who i am i realize i have so much light inside of me i just want to give i remember one time and mama after i saw this happen i never shared this story yet after i i repeat stories a lot mainly because it's a working on myself process two repeat stories you know to come up with new stories is difficult to repeat stories and do it with confident that's not so easy you feel silly sometimes but like my russia shiva was used to say i repeat because you didn't listen well enough the first time so this story i've never said before though i came into the office in yeshiva it doesn't matter where when i will leave all details out but i came into office the office of yeshiva i was working in and there was a rabbi sitting over there i could tell he was just it looked like he was just crying or something so i walked in i said okay is everything okay he's like yeah i'm fine he's like i just i just saw one of the most beautiful things ever and i just don't cry it's just it's something very personal to me and it just it just made me cry and i said wow he can't do that you can't just say that and except i'm not gonna write what happened say yes i'll tell you he goes did you see we'll call him rabbi smith he goes did you see her by smith like running around this morning on the phone in the basement out of basement on the phone afterward so i said yeah you know i was gonna ask him is everything okay because usually he's you know he doesn't make his phone even in with him usually and so he said i i saw so he's like so i asked him what's up so he said he got a phone call from his credit card company and they said that a taxi driver had found his credit card and wallet and that the taxi driver wants his number so he said okay so he said give the taxi driver my my uh my number so give him the number and he said the taxi driver is coming and is uh is delivering it thing the tax driver kept delaying and the laying in the lane i said i'll be there soon i'll be there i'll be there so he said to this rabbi that was in the office he said listen if you're going to be here he's going to come right to the front he said i just have to give she or do you mind running out and getting it for me she said for sure of course no problem he said he gave him money to pay the driver he said for sure of course my mom was like please tell him i'm sorry i was in shior and i said no no issue so this rabbi who was in the office so the taxi came and i went out and i paid the driver and sure enough the guy hands me a purse it's a little purse and i say i don't think this is the only thing i don't know how many wallets you have in there but i don't think this is it it's a wallet so you said no no it's like that's it she said so i open up the purse just to see what's going on maybe it's rabbi smith carries a purse i don't know he opens it up and he sees it's rabbi smith's wife it was it was her purse so the first thing he said he was like i just i thought it was beautiful rabbi smith said his wallet and not his wife's purse because he didn't ask me yet to go get it he wasn't balahats yet he was still trying to cover up that his wife lost something like like it's an embarrassing thing or whatever but it's not anyone's business that my wife made a mistake you know it's not he said and if you know or raise another you'll know that like he is sensitive to stuff like that a little bit okay closes up the the purse fine he uh he comes into the comes into the thing where smith walks into the office he's the person he's like oh he's like yeah i figured it out so he goes uh he goes um so the rabbi in the office so i never gave a name to but i keep getting confusing since travis smith he's like but you know i paid him everything's fine he said thank you isn't it he said okay great he picks up the thing he said and he's like okay it's like i have to actually go meet my wife you know it was lunch time it's like i got to go with my wife call fine he said that was about five minutes ago i stood up to go over there to make copies by our copier machine was by a window he said i look outside i see here by smith's wife he's waiting with the stroller in front of the uh in front of the building smith walks out he walks up to his wife and he points across the street at something his wife looks he said smith reaches behind his jacket pulls out the wallet and throws it underneath the uh the stroller and his wife turns back around and she's like oh he's like oh no no it's nothing i i i made a mistake it's nothing he's like he never told her about the whole thing he never told her he never i don't know her business situation i don't know why he did that but you can assume that maybe his wife would have felt very guilty that she took him out of yeshiva to do that that he had to be balahats about finding it that he had a value maybe she would have felt i i don't know their situation but that beautiful giving very very unbelievable ravi smith's wife's till today i guarantee you has no idea she lost her wallet has no idea she has no idea what her husband went through to get it she has no idea there was a whole story how he getting a hold of the guy it was the whole thing he had to cancel the credit guy it was a whole thing he didn't want to cancel it was i remember his whole story but this rabbi in the office was just sitting there just balling up and he said i just there was something so beautiful about it and the most beautiful part was no one's ever gonna know no one's ever gonna know i happen to be by the copier so i saw it happen but no one's ever going to know that's love that's real giving gloria real giving is not just done secretly so that amazonic real giving is for me real giving is it's a level that i know who i am i love who i am so much i love what i am so much i don't need anyone to know what i'm giving because it's not my focus it's not even what i'm thinking about i'm not even trying to think about it i'm just trying to arrange the idea that i can give because what i am is a giver what we spoke about last night about give her a last last share about get rid of takers guys to sum up uh we have to change this concept in ourselves we have to not change i'm sorry we have to work on this concept in ourselves because change is a bad idea we're not one or the other we have giver and taker in us it's in there we need to work on it we need to nurture it we need to grow we can do this this is what they're about to put us here for and it's what we need all of our distractions for is to take us away from the thought that i'm not a giver be a giver look at yourself point a look at the world point b and point three look see look at other people through the eyes of god be able to feel the way that abortion alone feels unfiltered just feel be able to accept the way the rubric accepts unconditional acceptance unconditionally love and lastly be able to give the way the rabona shalom gives for yourself for your growth for who are you going to become [Music] there's no end to how great you can be from doing this because the end of how great you can be is hashem that's what he's saying be like me because i'm telling you there's no greater feeling than being like me says our sponsor tonight is chickens for chavez to start we can do that going on honestly donate to chickens for showers go anonymously gift to them go go go to khazak and give them some names of people who are in public school anonymously don't forget and as far as the growth in the go to tour anytime sign up for that daily dose right we add it here whatsapp group 929-355-4268-929-3555 the daily dose 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