Rabbi Yossi Bensoussan - Finding Your Inner Power

[Music] alright first off let's let's explain what we're doing here we're going on a tour through a good part of the tri-state area trying to inspire certain very specific ideas having a very specific goal our series is called discover your inner power this is something that I find that is my pet passion this is something that I'm going around with in Israel for a long time and we decided to bring it over here we revised it a little bit many many hours and many many people have been put into this in order to bring it to you so we'd like to thank mrs. Ruby Valley for setting up all the all the events tirelessly working so much and so hard to set up all the events I'd like to obviously thank the cosmic organization if you ever want to feel like you're not doing anything with your life here's a tip I don't know why you would want that I have no idea but just in case you had at some point decided that you want to feel like you were doing nothing with your life go to the hazaki offices I had one of the most depressing days ever today and I don't get depressed easily I went to the cosmic offices and they took me around this this CIA were the operation that they have going on over there these guys know everything they know traffic light patterns and queens they know everything that is going to help them in the slightest to bring people closer touch them they could make a fortune just with the information they have yet every ounce of it is put into helping people and bringing kids close to fashion and as I'm standing over there and they had one of these whiteboards with their numbers on it that I've seen before I've seen these types of numbers on white birds whiteboards before in sales offices you ever been in one of these sales offices where they're all roaring each other on they're all yelling yeah come on one more sale three more sales lunch dollar have another sale day and they're just talking about another few dollars making another few dollars for themselves you have everyone sitting there in the hizaki office like somebody is paying them a million dollars to do this they're eyeing each other on and I didn't know I was coming to random Tuesday in the summer their air conditioning was broken it was it was hot you would not be able to tell on anyone over there that there was a slight as discomfort there rying each other on and they have this this whiteboard with numbers on it with we're their numbers of sales are holding right then when instead of selling money or product these people are buying Nashawn mulk by the by the boatload I have know these numbers were mind-blowing and as I'm standing in front of this whiteboard the rabbi says to me the one right there I buy there I was meaning for the first time says to me so what do you do and I said nothing I do nothing I'm embarrassed of anything I've ever done and I'm gonna leave now because I really feel small I've never felt so insignificant before it was unbelievable you guys are surrounded in a community that is incredible really I I was blown away by the massara I don't know I I still to the point and I've met great people I'm still hush out of the whole thing I feel like somebody's pulling a con here somewhere I just don't know how I feel like someone in there has to be making millions of dollars or it makes no sense none of this makes any sense people like this haven't been around for hundreds of years and colleges for help it's incredible it's truly truly incredible and then when you come when you combine when you combine things like the Haziq organization with their met organization the aid Zahara starts to palpitate he starts to cry these are the times that the entire Russia there was twice the entire I came to a Shem all the way in beginning creation and he asked him how can you give the Jews Shabbat you can't give the juice shop but it's not fair to holy it's too awesome it's gonna inspire too many people you can't give them Shabbat what am I going to use soshim said don't worry about it I you'll have yours the second time in history that that happened was when cosmic decided they're getting together with him it the entire I came up was like I can't I can't they're like no but they're only central he's like no they're not no they're they had Arizona written on their book I didn't know they were Jews out there I have no idea they're these numbers are unbelievable unbelievable the ameno organization reaching out to the people that no one wants to go near college campus kids it is the hardest see with the younger kids you bring them in you give them a can you give them a good time every wants to come back the college guys come in and the old think that they're being brainwashed true or not the old thing I was no brainwashing his own or all I just want to be clear here I'm here for the stick so I'm promises take I'm here for the stakes don't promise me five down all going home right and then it comes and says that buddy we're giving you I meant true I meant what are you gonna do and and you see the fruits in our labor it's incredible what is going on over here is incredible it's such an honor to be even a small part of it I I literally was crying in the hizaki office today just reading the things that was on the walls over there just things that kids have said there was a girl I wasn't going to but I can't not there was a girl who [ __ ] up there no that's not it there's there's a girl here I'm not gonna say our name but this is our line I can't I don't think I could say it okay okay a positive impact on my life I grew so much as a person and the Kazakh teachers became my extended family I was taught you have no idea in my line of work what this means for a kid to say this this is groundbreaking I was taught the true value the true value of a Jewish woman that is so big that is so tremendous I there's no words for that 90 something percent of the reason why so many of our kids are off the derrick and overdosing and all these things happening is because they don't they were never given they didn't they don't understand the true value of being a Jew they don't understand that really this is for the the Thursday night portion of this sheer I think tomorrow night there's I don't know one of the portions that I shared this is for them but the the concept that we have there would be life would be so much easier as a non Jew like we so much easier as a non Jew and we're so wrong and we give this idea over to our children and it's so bad so we've been going around we've been in Queens for about a week now trying to find parking and it was it does the first free time it was supposed to be I missed the other three because hydrant hydrant hydrant it's the biggest tease on earth you pull up and you're and it's a tremendous leveling up Muno you pull up and you're like aw hi Jeff hi is a hydrant do you really think that that was a spot like after a while do you think you were the guy that found this spot or that eight people drove by there before 800 people job I there before you and also saw the hydrant just keep driving you know what's about to happen 40 cars one brake 40 cars it's a hydrant genius but this guy no I pulled into every single one of them and I'm like okay I guess it's a hydrant so I'll oh wait there's another 800 cars behind me so I'm gonna wait here for the next 45 minutes it's been a long day the point is is that the parking wasn't a problem because I get to spend the night around these great people so thank you so much of a Kazakh organization thank you so much they met organization shop Syrah being there or not I'm a row of all of them thank you to Tora anytime obviously the as you said last night the biggest achieve on the entire world that has ever probably has ever even existed the biggest yeshiva ever is is tore any time putting out these these videos these things for a 24-hour access the access that we have to turin nowadays is mind-blowing if you have and I'm gonna say this okay we're gonna do it like a cut I don't know how to action action alright or any time guys action we're gonna start here if you have a Netflix account and you do not have it or anytime account I don't care if you use either of them but if you have a Netflix account and you do not have a tour anytime account after 120 you're gonna come up and they're gonna say seriously ours was free seriously are you kidding we couldn't chew this up more for you not only that there's a bunch of Rabbis on there there were equal any so you're gonna see how Netflix go be entertained no I couldn't sit there for an hour okay so do the half-hour ones half hour is so five minutes a minute 30 seconds just read the title nothing you're gonna do anything you got this tonight during our shoe or normally we know that during the Shuar our phones are off tonight our phones are on and they're in our hands and next to us though next speaker that gets up totally turn your phone's off for this year you have to have your phone on it has to be on and next to you and ready to go we're gonna need it later on final thank you mister Natalia chick off none of you know who she is but my little girl knows who she is okay to recap just a couple of things so that you know we're not jumping in in the middle of nowhere over here we had the first thing we we discussed was the idea of how we get into so much trouble how we fall so deep out in full so far is that we we buy into fear so quickly now this is and not only a idea in the world in general but in Western societies moved here from Israel and in Western culture were very afraid we're very scared people every time I take my kids to a park in America people think that people all want to call Child Protective Services on me it's because I'm not like holding their heads with me like okay I don't look slow that no steps no steps not no not until your 11th birthday next week you could go up steps this week No right they're very they get very start palpitating when they see that my kids are running around the park by themselves it's it's very very scary for them maybe I'm wrong I don't know but the point is is that we let fear run our lives it's not just that we buy a car we see a brand-new car we got a beautiful new car pulling into our driveway so first thing we start to think to ourselves oh that's gonna get hit by somebody I mean I live in Queens this is my bumper is gonna be gone right we start we start to uh something's gonna happen for sure something's gonna happen we're wearing a new suit kid comes up to us when an ice-cream like you're gonna spill that on me we live in fear we know bad things are gonna happen we're positive this is the worst possible way a human being can live it takes us over it controls us so as we said you can find an Atari anytime as we said the way we counteract fear is with shallow m'as with peace not just peace among each other that for sure but peace of ourselves and we discussed how we work on peace but peace is the only thing that we can use to fight fear fear is the basis of jealousy fear is the basis of anger fears the basis of disputes in a marriage fear is a basis of everything that we do wrong is that the gate Zahara loves to control our fear so that was our first step our second step was the six hammer blows that we don't have time to go into right now the six hammer blows are the six hammer blows of freedom these are six criterias that you need before you change your life forever you need to have these six steps they're also rajim they're also on on tour any time last night's was don't fight inspire I was very tired when I wrote that time i stuff don't know what it means but it's the idea basically that in order to become great we don't make ourselves known as great we don't try to fight other people or debate other people all we need to do all we have to do is inspire other people through that inspiration we create greatness and that was our that was our concept yesterday today is one of the crops ones this is one of the main ones today is discovering your inner power tonight is the one that really sums up a very large portion of what we've discussed till now and we're gonna go from here because from here tomorrow night and the next night those are the levels of really just change in our lives for forever this tonight is going to be how to keep that change going how to have lasting change okay there's a extremely common concept among Jews the [ __ ] even know about it I've had [ __ ] tell this to me it's called Jewish guilt it's the idea of Jewish guilt probably going around giving these classes probably the most asked question I get afterwards is I give a whole XI or on how and you'll see how amazing we are and how incredible each and every one of us is and it's true and it's amazing the most common question I get afterwards is [ __ ] Robby you understand I'm not a good person like what didn't you the past hour I've been yelling at you about how that's not J like no no but you don't know I'm not this Jewish guilt that we carry around all these bad things that I do I should do this and I should do this and I should do that and I don't do it I don't do any of those things so I'm a bad person this thing that we carry around with us that were positive about by the way every single person in here just about every person here is gonna be the same exact look right now every single one of you I know you're so right it's just that you don't know me by the way I'm the exception to this rule I'm really bad I'm really about because I sleep in and I that and and they go through their whole list of why they're the worst so remember Kuwait's once said my river ever Berkowitz he once said that when we take on ourselves to do husband huh nephesh hush Bona nefesh is writing down everything that we do in a day now classically such born on that page is writing down everything that we do we have done wrong in a day every time that we messed up in a day and it's taking it and working on it Berkowitz says nobody nowadays needs any more help feeling like our [ __ ] everyone knows what they've done wrong they represent through what they've done wrong everybody nowadays desmona nephesh is writing down what we've done right what did you accomplish today and I'll tell you we don't just do this with ourselves it comes from other people you ever have a friend that's your friend for years and years and years and years and then they mess up the mission and our vote says that when two when two people are having a dispute in court you view both of them when they come to court it's talking to the Diane the Mishnah a vote is talking to Diane in it says when you come to court you view both sides as if they're guilty both sides are viewed as they're guilty so that you can get to the truth but when they leave from in front of you when they leave from in front of you if they were makka beloved in that debate then sent when they leave from in front of you you have to view as if both of them are innocent what are we doing here Torres is Annette we're playing games what kind of state is this that when they call you name as as were born they leave to switch your brain off they're they're innocent says the morale an unbelievable idea an unbelievable concept it says what does it mean view them as guilty view them as guilty is interrogate them as if you know they're guilty you know they're guilty interrogate them like that like you're looking for something specific and what does it mean that when they leave from in front of you view them as they're innocent this is geyser Torah is the greatest thing ever it's amazing the my law says what does it mean that when they leave from in front of you view them as they're innocent he says don't think that just because of what you saw in that courtroom that's who those people are let me explain this idea because it's so big you have two people sitting in a court you're about to see the worst of both of those people I've had to be involved in a lot of things like that and whether you're dealing with I had to deal with the aftermath of a lot of divorces that happen like this and a lot of money disputes that happen like this when you're dealing with this you will see the ugliest side of humanity the ugliest side says the Mishnah that's not them they are in a very bad situation that's not their true colors we always say oh I guess they show their true colors no that's not their true colors that was an extremely high intensity situation that drugged them says tomorrow and this is amazing to a temporary insanity you're gonna judge them on a temporary insanity that's like saying that an epileptic likes to dance because he has seizures it makes no sense you completely missed the point that's not what it is they were going through hell and therefore acted a certain way that's understandable you who says I'm gonna judge them on those eight minutes that they were standing in court and not on the rest of a life of virtue that's crazy that's bad but we do it to ourselves all the time and that's why we're so free to do with other people we do it to ourselves all the time and all the time we'll have an amazing day the eights are are so keen on this he loves it and and if you were to think logically about it from five minutes he makes no sense he's only playing on your emotions look at the bottom algorithm don't believe what you're seeing don't believe what you're seeing I call because Scott Zuma says the Gemara everyone is on a Kazakh of being blind we're all a bunch of blind people until Hashem opens up our eyes and lets us see things every one of us is a blind person now if you ever close your eyes you can walk through a completely empty room you know it's empty close your eyes and walk through that room you know what you're gonna do okay okay I got a look right we you knock the rooms empty what are you doing why not something I something's definitely gonna be in front of me and then what you're gonna stub your toe yeah I'm gonna stop my toe the scariest thing ever no I've done very bad things after stubbing my toe so I can't really minimize stubbing each other that much I have children that like to leave very sharp Legos pointed up always now after a while you start to realize there's no way this is an accident they are building little pyramids and leaving them in middle of floors there was no point to that thing other than me the the first time it was left on my slipper next to my bed is when I started realizing someone's out for me here but so and I said show these things when these things happen so I can't minimize something at oh but I'm talking myself more than anyone in here all these things that I'm discussing are things that I'm working on these are not things that I think I'm I'm surpassed in any way at all I only speak about the things that I stink at it's why I'm so passionate about it I'm not yelling at you I'm yelling at this idiot it said so and if anyone was looking away just now I pointed at myself and I said that's a DIY fine I want you to think I just randomly pointing some guy in the ground was like okay you don't even know me you're an idiot not again okay and cut we paste all right here we go so we feel bad about who we are much mana nefesh nowadays as we said is that my daughter Aliannah is Luna is I don't forget her name she switched it it's not we didn't switch it that I did not misspeak she decided that her name is Luna instead of Eliana and it happens to be the person she's named after my grandmother was a very holy person her name is Luna we just this is this is a great this is a great illustration actually of what we're talking about when we were talking about fear is that I was afraid to name my daughter Luna after one of the greatest woman I've ever known that ever existed because um because I was a preacher we made fun of I was certain I'm sorry I was certain she was gonna make fun of now do not use this parents out there and everyone do not use this as a think to name your kids whatever you want right I called up my Rebbe when I was debating it and he told me not anymore that also so it's not you know he said it was like you know I also had a grandmother her name was Coco Milkha do you want that name and I said that's not a real name and then last week this is a true story last week I'm at a bank in Ohio in the middle of nowhere with my wife the only place around I could go to get a loan not in the middle of nowhere my wife and we it was a chase bank because we work like that and we and the lady behind the counter believe it or not why not not Jewish lady just our name was milk up on her thing I was blown away I was like you got a name that's my rabbis grandmother said no I didn't I probably right that's awesome anyway so Luna we were in Israel would just move to the States when we're living in Israel my kids were having dinner one night and we have this thing or my wife has this thing any positive that my kids have came from her despite my best efforts to try to mess them up she somehow triumphs every single time and they end up really cute and good and they have this thing that anytime somebody says I love something right oh I love french fries or oh I love they always say no you don't you love mommy you love Papa and you love you know I can't remember all my kids names I'm saying you know you love Yonatan and I'm joking guys I love it and you'll have your time and get stuck and I see and yeah and that's it okay I was gonna go on for another 14 kids it's just stuff and and you love and you love Bobby is easy whatever and and I Shama so at one time there was to seminary girls at my house that that you know there were Hudson girls I think they're called not that where has a case okay it's difficult to explain but they show up they play with our kids and they leave out of that day no they were like they were like children thoughts they they actually from this community over here unbelievable girls and I would name them but I I'm scared and and they know my kids names and where I live and they were sitting there with them oh wow they were sitting there with them and in the kitchen giving them dinner and somebody said I love french fries someone said the magic the magic phrase I don't know who was maybe one of my kids had a friend over or something maybe was one of my kids maybe it was this guy I have no idea get him and I just yelled it out from the living room but somebody said I love french fries and my son started and he says he says no you don't love french fries you love papa and then the other son was like you love ionut any other sound was like okay I wasn't in there like you love mommy you love the only time you love that you love and it got to my daughter now the seminary girls took a turn and then they ended up on my daughter and she was left with nothing to say and everyone's quiet for a second and she's not one to she's not one to to miss an opportunity or not have something to say she's brilliant she stops she looks over and she says but the most important thing the most important thing is to love yourself and she even she was blown away by the awesomeness of the line SEMA she was like just wait a second did you hear that the Papa I'm coming with you next time I got this this is and she was right the most important thing is to start there is to start saying I love myself not just because not not out of this like sweet thing I love myself not it's not that's not what it's for it's here to say I love myself because I appreciate what I am I appreciate what I am this isn't a single ladies moment it's it's a real thing as I appreciate what I am I appreciate where I'm coming from I appreciate Who I am so now there are three we call them three I tweet like there's a team working on this and I call them the the the three MS these are the three MS to getting to know yourself because one thing I've learned after doing this taking all the questions is that which by the way we're interactive anyone who wants can yell out you'll be messing up the whole shearer and on tour anytime no I'm joking I don't know what's good yell out and ask questions but one thing I found from all the questions from these Furion is that people keep asking me now I met them ten seconds before that they keep asking me but how do I know who I am how do I know what I'm supposed to do now this is still fear talking by the way but the answer is I have no idea I'm not you not only that even if I was your BFF I still wouldn't know the answer even if I was your mom I wouldn't know the answer I have no idea that's what we call your journey that's your journey and it's a go it's amazing it is the most lightning thing you will ever have in your life it's finding out who you are and the real trick here is realizing you're nobody until you make yourself something you're a blank canvas what you have on you right now what we have on us right now for the most part is so much of what other people have thrown on us but so little of that is actually Who I am so little of it is anything that I've worked on becoming and that's what we need a break free up so we use the 3m s let's see if I get this right the 3m s is even with it written down I can't read my own handwriting and there's only two words M s up so I got it now I think I'm joking meditation moments of motivation meditation moments of motivation the way this works is like this the first thing we need to do to find out who we are it's a two-step process we need to negate who we're not and then we need to do the GPS model the GPS model works like this you can't put into a GPS where you don't want to go you can't try to go to Queens you're in Brooklyn and say I don't want to go to Muncie it won't work try it won't work the GPS will be like I don't know I don't know what to do with that so now you chose one location you don't want to go to now there's everything else in the world saying what I'm not is not helpful so we need to get rid of that aspect of us we're gonna come back to this idea we need to get rid of that aspect of us of defining who we are than what we're not and if you ever if you've ever been asked all right singles go through this all the time there as well what type of person are you well I'm not this and I'm not this and I'm not why don't you come out for a cup of coffee with me it'll be so much easier if you could just see me talk to another person you'll get to know who I am I agree with them it's a silly question what type of person are you and if I don't fit into a type that you've heard of before I'm time to go fast man that's the time that I belong to have you never heard of it it's a different dialect it's a it's it's my own they're like well I don't think I know anyone like ok well great so we never have to talk again so we're perfect we're good to go right it's getting rid of who the concept of who we're not getting rid of that concept and deciding to marry and communicate and attach ourselves to the idea of who we actually are because that's so much more important the way to do this is and this is gonna be scary I know but it's super important without this step you're always gonna be questioning yourself number one is the meditation aspect of it meditation doesn't mean sitting cross-legged on a beach somewhere you know chanting incantations my definition of might mean that actually I don't know but in this context it doesn't mean that in this context meditation means what meditation really is which is a hyper focus but what that means is is that we put on our blinders we have nothing to distract us it's an unbelievable thing that people say all the time around more men I think the woman here but people say all the time you know I can't wait to get five minutes alone just five minutes to myself if I could just spend five minutes to myself be amazing finally gets the five minutes to himself takes out his phone turns on YouTube and goes yeah that's it's not yourself by the way you know spending five nights by yourself no you're not you're literally doing the opposite here's Benny five minutes completely distracting yourself from who you are you don't want five minutes alone you went to five minutes to stop thinking you want the five minutes to stop having to talk to people which is fine and the truth is you probably didn't want the five minutes alone but you messed it up five minutes alone is just that the first level here is the meditation you get rid of your distractions now this is 4x I don't know how often you need to do this everyone is different once a day but whatever that whatever number pops into your head usually that's the right one there give me once a day give me once a week it can't be more than one so it can't be a you know more spread-out more sporadic than once a week once a week is the bare minimum where you sit and you leave your phone in a different room now I'm gonna tell you what's gonna happen because it always happens the same you leave your phone in a different room no one's a lot of bother you then if you have a house phone you live in the Stone Age know if you have a house phone unplug it yeah if you have a house phone unplug it I know this guy's had it as mine if you if you have children get rid of them let them play in traffic no I don't do it when they're around I don't know make sure you're alone and you will not be disturbed by anybody and just sit there just sit there and wait because it's gonna come it's gonna happen [Music] for most people it starts in the hand it's not too itchy a little bit it's usually their phone hand they say this is stupid this is so stupid I don't need it nothing's happening something's happening you're freaking out that's something what this is it's detoxing from the fact that we've been trying to distract ourselves for god knows how many years now the entire eyes gonna creep in over here and try to kill us like I said before the entire never really makes any logical sense he shows up on Yom Kippur and he says really you feel so bad you feel so bad for without they wrote that you did really what about last night you're crying over here now saying that yeah what about the thoughts you had yesterday you think God's stupid you think he doesn't know that you were thinking bad things yesterday you think he doesn't know that you were jealous ten minutes ago anything he doesn't know these things he knows so what are you lying to this is what he convinces us off Anyang keyboard now think about it logically for a second Yom Kippur is a day for atonement we can call it a day set aside for sinners now when a day is set aside for sinners the bigger the center the more this day's for him and your logic to me attire is that I'm too big of a sinner for the day for sinners it makes no sense the logic would dictate that I belong here and no one else in this room maybe but it makes no sense but this is the logic that the Asri uses if I'm a lawyer and I'm trying to trick God I'm the worst type of sinner ever I need to know more than anyone else here they'll come in in this moment of meditation and he's gonna try to rob you of it he's gonna tell you stupid oh there's that we fight them through meditation moments we start small we take a few moments and this is gonna apply to everything else we're gonna say this is gonna apply to everything else we're gonna say also the idea had the power of the moment guys it is probably the most important thing I'm gonna say tonight the power of a moment the power of doing things by the moment for the moment is one of the most impactful things you'll do your entire life to be able to learn one miss na day will change your life we don't do it because we say algo it's just it's just a couple of minutes it's night that's not really come on give me the real stuff tell me how to really change there's no such thing living for tomorrow never really matters it's what's happening right now right now you're doing your moment you showed up tonight you I assumed walk there because I took the last parking spot witness I think I might have gotten towed at this point I have no idea but I it's I assume you walked through the heat to get here and you're doing your moment right now don't let him take that from you he's got it he's in your head right now trying to take it no I only showed up cuz my friend and then I felt back is this one mate no you're here you did it you're still doing it stop it stop it you're not right I promise you you're not right take it out of your hand you're here because you thought to be here to become a better person how you not so happy about yourself right now proud of yourself let that moment sit in that moment for one second I am proud of myself we're not gonna start chanting in here it's not that type of meeting that's later tonight for me is my name the knee that's not that's not what we're here for we're not here to feel bad we're here to build ourselves if every time we try to build ourselves we show up with a wrecking ball it's not gonna work you told me to bring tools owns a tool yeah it's not gonna work building ourselves starts by acknowledging that we're amazing because we are you've done wrong things join the club of everyone ever in existence everyone has messed up it's why we are who we are I shall want you to have messed up because if you don't mess up then you'll never feel great about doing well it's the way we operate so meditation moments and then the last part is the motivation so like this we take our meditation time you start off with a few minutes and we try building it's just a few minutes of us alone our minds will wander a little bit bring it back and demand of what Ericsson many other psychologists prominent psychologists have called demand of your subconscious a motivational moment my email address is not or anytime I really hope you guys reach out and tell me what does it to you because of any student I've ever had that I told him to do this every single one of them has ended up in tears way too often I only have talk guys way too often and have said I never felt so free and I'll tell you guys anytime I do this it's amazing you sit by yourself with no other distraction in the world because you don't need it because you're amazing you said you do the meditation for a few minutes and you demand of your subconscious motivation it will start telling you you are amazing by the way you really are you really really are and that's how we start to build now the Restonic vote says la ilaha mala holic mark it's not on you to finish the work of a low have been whoring layabout el momento but it is not your right to walk away you have to start you have to do something if you don't want to do the meditation moments of motivation nailed it then that's fine but do something do something start something that is going to inspire you we're in a very special time right now the three weeks that we have right now are here for one thing and one thing only to completely flip around how we relate to other people through ourselves what does that mean for every person was never thought that you can inspire another person I invite you to go give your mom a hug go give your mom a hug if you don't have a mom go get someone else's mom a hug preferably someone you know because I don't anyone getting arrested in blaming me here and go give your kids a random hug that's when you see it that's when you really start to see it show up to your kids school ten minutes early and take him out and tell me that the look on that face you didn't make a difference in anyone's life call the younger brother and see how he's doing general reach out to people over these next three weeks the best way to do this is by working on ourselves creating in ourselves this ability because there is an unbelievable by-product to the ideas that we're giving over the unbelievable by-product on the find the ideas that we're giving over is that you are going to not be able to control yourself anymore you are going to love people jealousy is gonna be a thing you don't just don't have time for anymore the ROM House says in in Mesilla to Skyrim the difference between Aniki and azure is this result is one tarik the next parrot is Nicky ute in three zooty describes what it is that a person fights against his Yates ur he fights he fights he fights in Zions result ends result in the cute the one who brings down the next level of that the next level of that is somebody who is proud of his fight if somebody was risen up to a level that he no longer feels that way anymore he no longer feels the pull to do that thing anymore he feels foreign from it the reason he feels foreign from it is because he is above it but says the ROM howl he now has a new feeling and that feeling is to go around getting other people to feel amazing like that and that's how he knows he reached nakute this is an unbelievable idea mr. Nye now vote says hey Zugibe or who's this strong person I want time with sitting with a group of guys sorry we have to cut a couple things up I don't know if the story's good enough it is so probably not funny there's no other story no so miss na Na's what I'm sitting with a group of guys and I asked them we're learning to pick a vote we came to this Mishnah a zoo keyboard who's a strong person these are 18 year old boys not the brightest bulbs I don't mean these guys I mean all 18 year old fogies know these guys was ever good not bad that's why I was a teacher because it was a group of us that was and and I asked him what is a keyboard what is a strong person and I got these three guys and looks like looked like they just walked out of the Jersey Shore sitting in front of me and the one that I was like big guy I liked okay thank you clearly your mother never told you not to use the definition that's the same word in the definition right they I know you just you didn't do anything what what does that mean and he goes you know big guy the horns you know big guy I was like you could have just pointed at me I would have understood no yeah yeah okay fine next guy I was like okay so we found the shallow guy yeah let's move along next guy who's what is a big person to you he's like you guys got a lot of money like well sorry without the shadow guy you can take a break third guy what's a big guy this is guys this is a true story these are 18 year old kids who have went through our systems these were their answers the third guy I said what's a big guy he says anyone over six foot three [Music] I set them again you could just point that I mean I was like what you know like what would you want to say over a boy I don't know anything I want you to say anything literally anything else other than what you said I could ask you what's a big person you could have said to me no and always been like okay that's better that's better than the insanity you were spewing beforehand at least now I know that there's just something that doesn't click upstairs the other way it makes it sound like you are very confident in your answer no a zookeeper says the Mishnah coefficients you throw the one who beats himself the one who conquers himself the one who now I'm gonna add a caveat to this because of people the time cinema snob weren't amazing we're not that big I'm not that big so I'm gonna add a little I think I'm saying the word wrong a caveat to this which is it's not a person who conquers his Yates er it's a person who knows he's fighting his Yates there it's not a person who conquers himself it's a person who realizes he's fighting himself if the person who realizes it's no one else I'm not battling anybody I'm battling me only my own self is the only one I need to impress and beat so how do we fight ourselves the only way to fight ourselves is to have a conversation at least debate ourselves about things when was the last time we were able to really reach inside and talk to ourselves in our power in our power only comes from inner searching the second we look anywhere else in the world we don't find it inner power only comes when we look inside of ourselves that's it it is impossible to find your motivation to find your inner strength to find your greatness outside of yourself it is impossible everything you have right now in your life is set up perfectly for you to become great everything you have in your life is sent up perfectly by the orchestrator of the entire cosmos for you to become great he set it up it's all there you literally don't need one more dollar you do not need a car you do not need a friend you do not need a wife you do not need a husband no you do not you need what you have and that's it and the only way you're gonna get more than that is when you make do with what you have sensing my mom and I hooked we're gonna end with this sensing Rama and I hugged a wealthy person a person who has wealth you know about them now how we understand his Kamara is a little bit difficult but it's a certain point it doesn't mean that every wealthy person is like this but a person who has wealth you can be rest assured that at some point he may do with what he had she used what he had now the wealth that the Gemara is talking about is a wealth that actually makes a person happy that he's using properly this is a self-made man we're talking about here result made woman this is a self-made person I apologize but still Israeli you know proper pronouns is a foreign thing to me so it's a self-made person what does that mean then was at some point they didn't have this how did they get it by making do with what they did have by using what they did have we believe in the rabona shah alone we believe that it created us and we believe he created us awesome he created us exactly the way we're supposed to be not one iota better or worse than we're supposed to be the greatest personal trainer ever he knows the exact amount of weight to put on there on the exact day at the exact time he knows exactly what we need we can't define ourselves by what we don't have we can't define ourselves by who we're not we have to look inside nothing in the outside is going to do it for us we have to look inside Hashem is doing his responsibilities the final thought over here is that responsibility when we feel that we're in a fight with somebody we feel we're gonna in a strife with another person our wife our husband our a brother-sister whatever it is think to yourself what's my responsibility here not theirs that's not that's a de my responsibility what's my responsibility is to be loving and compassionate and talk to that person now I want them to behave back to me a certain way but that's not my responsibility if they don't it makes no difference on how I act that's my responsibility we take our responsibilities to ourselves seriously and we take our responsibilities to other people even more serious so the way I behave to people the way I talk to people is the way I know I should talk regardless of how they treat me when we start doing things like that we start building up this inner person we start giving them a name we start giving them an identity my inner self is someone who does good we start giving them that identity through that identity we start becoming amazing the reason I told her I want to take out their phones and hold it next to them was this we're on an initiative right now to try to get 200 people no I'm asking for my Norma 200 people to sign up to Torah any times daily dose what we're gonna do is I'm gonna give you guys the number it's 200 people were trying to get we I think we might like we're literally you know last night I know we were really really close and I think we're like pushing over this limit right now so I'm gonna give you guys the number take out your phones the last pickins ever gonna tell you to do it might as well enjoy it let's go take out your phones let's say it kumbaya my lord there we go okay I'm gonna give you the number you text you whatsapp this number the words add me a DD and me I just came up with that chunk now thank you very much I'll be really not at you text them add me and you and they're gonna and they're gonna start sending you clips every clip you get every clip you get you watch you don't have and you could forward it and whatever you want I don't care but after you understand the point of that clip they're very short clips after you understand the point that I clip every day you either call the same person or a different person and you just tell them over that idea have a human moment with another person where you're doing something positive for them for no reason you call them and you tell them what you heard you tell them what you heard for no reason don't choose the right person when they start talking oh when is that clip about overbearing parents and you know you know leaving their children a little bit more room like well it happens to me I decided to go mom today and no you don't have a purpose to it just call another person to inspire them the number is plus 1 9 to 9 3 5 5 4 to 6 8 s plus 1 9 to 9 3 5 5 4 to 6 8 bezu Fache em through this initiative through these ideas through these things we're going to be able to find this inner power and we're gonna blow it up thank you very much for coming guys you [Music]