Rabbi Yosef Viener speaking at Yeshivas Bein Hazmanim at Scheiner's Shul

Okay. Hashem got here obviously weren't coming from overseas and because of the particular schedule. So the Shilas were sent in about 5 minutes ago besides the ones that I still had left over. So I looked them over briefly. They're all good. Some of them we won't get to and we save them. Some of them are not. They're so good might not be fit for a video recording. Uh so we'll have to decide that which means the show could uh ask me afterwards or try to push till we get it in next time. uh the first two of them are actually na to what we're going to talk about in the uh part at the end. So we'll save that for then and we'll begin with something that is very na now and I uh gave a shear in it just about a month or two ago. Somebody's writing it up and supposed to look over what he wrote and it's going to appear I think somewhere in a kami kayeno publication or something like that. So we'll give the short version and that is as follows AI puskin chilus. So bam shouldn't be on AI it shouldn't be on computers if they don't have to and adults uh shouldn't be overusing it either. With that said, the very brief answer which really doesn't need a whole lot of commentary is that in order to pass a Shila, you need a few basic things. Uh you have to be a Yid, which presupposes you're human. That's um first thing. And then you have to be learning Yama Vala for many decades. And you have to be a person who understands the mats and understands that you can have the same shila asked 20 times. And sometimes it's basic and it's the same answer. And often it depends on the mat and there is and the mat of itself creates a different den even when it's not where it would have been user in a different situation or a mitzvah in a different situation. That's quite a gap. So in order to figure all that out you have to be a human you have to be a yid. You have to be from you have to have be working on your shamayim and you have to have a lot of yadas and be learning all the time and obviously AI no matter how good they might get later right now u in preparation about a year ago when it first came out and I know I'm sure it got better but a few guys in the sh asked me can I just take a look I said maybe at 2 in the morning we'll have a chance if you want to show me a dugma And uh it must have gotten better because this was uh so ridiculous. So I said just uh ask it uh tell me something about Ramosa. That should be easy enough. No. And I I couldn't believe it. I was amazed. I never knew that Ramosa was related to the Benish and the film and everybody in between and uh gave me a whole long settle on metava rabbi rabbi. I guess he was related to every uh every G. I mean that dis hallucinations and hallucinations that one was quite peladic. See he said yeah it got better since then and maybe yeah maybe not but uh for Ping Shila's any slight detail can change which is why AI despite its uh upcoming brilliance can't do it because you need emotion and you need to know the matzov and you all it's doing is uh googling something to doing quicker and trying to add some of the artificial intelligence to analyze and um It's a very dangerous thing. The better it gets, the more dangerous it is because when it completely hallucinates, then you know this is like Namatsu. The better it gets, the might start thinking that uh this is really good. And if it's 99% good, it's more dangerous, not less dangerous. Because the is only promised in the even if a mistake is made, but if it was done and it was clearly a mistake, then they undo it. But the assumption is based on the fact that you're human have shayim and have a right to pasin and then you have theataya and the uh computer obviously doesn't have any of that and that's that's very basic. So that sort of uh cuts through all the noise about how good it is and it's hallucinating elucidating that they're getting better. It's irrelevant. is never going to be a yid, never going to be human and never going to have the emotion to be able to deal with it. So that is u that is very important to keep in mind and the followup question was is it wrong to use it for school work? The guy are struggling with this because um nobody wants to do any work bal and if you're supposed to be writing papers I don't the person sent in the shila 10 minutes ago obviously is in yeshiva it's one of you so I don't know how many papers they're asking you to write but it's pretty clear that for the amount of English we're learning and for the amount of writing you're trying to uh get a handle on they want you actually uh now to do it and of if the rules are you can do whatever you want and they shouldn't be sending bulk onto computers. If your parents aren't there anyway and they're using AI and you ask them, can you write a paper or just put this in and spit it out and my teacher's fine with it, then maybe I should replace the teacher. But if that's okay with them, it's not going to obviously it's not going to be okay and it shouldn't be okay and no one's ever going to get anything done. They're that we should just create more and more gadgets to be able to do less and less and think less and less. And um the damage that that has caused and that they themselves realize it's causing is um lum and ky super what how many categories is touching and what it's going to do and no one was working that hard in the first place and now everybody wants to do less and less. That's the purpose of it. Just sit in a couch and don't move and um we'll do all the doing thinking computing for you. So this is not a sh how much English you should be doing in yeshiva is a sh of whatever small amount you're doing you should probably learn something and uh even the guy admit this is a bad way to learn it so I don't know whoever sent him the sh can volunteer but is it wrong to use it for school work if the teacher didn't say maybe it didn't say yeshiva because no one's going to be using a computer AI but if it's obvious that it's going to be das and they want you to do work whatever small amount of work that's being done as do push that's going to be geneva das. So, somebody asked me this a few weeks ago and I told him this and he said, "Yeah, if it's not, everybody knows everybody's cheating." That was never a good spur when they were cheating on various things and it's still not a good spur now. And um if you think it's a good so why don't you ask the teacher is this says that it's really even though you don't like it. If they say sure, then okay, that's not gas. they don't then we're back to the gene das and it's uh das not good for you if you're already spending some time doing it. So the follow up on that was well I don't want to be spending time doing it. I think it's a waste of time. I said okay you have to talk to your parents and the manal about uh but if you're already doing it you can't present something that doesn't uh doesn't exist. Next. Is it true that you can listen to a lady singing through a recording? The short answer is no. Uh the longer answer is as he said he thought he heard Vaj has a chuva on it. You can argue which he does in the chuva. He wouldn't advise it that it's you don't know what she looks like and it's not uh it's a recording and it's not the actual voice and it's not what they and it's uh nobody is going to say that's good for your even if it's mut and it's quite clear that it's going to be a what we're trying to guard us from and when And I say it might be they call it not it's a hedge against and whether you actually see the person if you if you know what she looks like and you see her then it's going to be worse and if you don't you probably will find out sooner or later and then laafa is going to be awesome anyway even according to the milin it's a little hard to understand plug but if you want to argue not so it's not good for and the few times that people ask this I tried to drill down figure out like what do you want to listen to and what so a couple of them made up a story they got it from AI about no it's just my sister and it's just she needs self-confidence she just wants her brother's house okay a sister is a is a dean but that's not so bad but I had a feeling that's not what it was about and uh if you get into an area like this that you're probably listening to things uh you shouldn't be listening to and even if it all happens to be a yisha tom Um, if it's based on the fact that you don't know what she looks like, you're not going to find out. So, uh, people think there's a header. If I don't know who the guy is, it's Mut. It's very hard to figure out. You don't know who the guy is. How much do you have to know about him? His name, his social security number. How do you figure out what's your deal? And even if you figure that out and you don't know the guy bakl and it's just you didn't hear a name or you heard and what happens you meet him in a month from now or a year from now then old lashar you heard is going to be it's a little dangerous and it's really not clear what the uh what together is in the first place of yad of a person it's quite clear you don't have to know him well and I've heard this in Um and those who are looking for to listen to general raid that involves lash because you don't really know the people well. It's lashhara is dinda many times over many lavin and it's not a good idea to look for coolers in these things over here. There's certainly here and even if there's really no picture in the mind at the moment and you don't know who it is, you don't think you're going to find out. It's a even according to the it's a very risky proposition should not be done. I said that I am everyone in tila zaka. This is only a couple of weeks ago. It's an excellent shila. We touched upon this once last couple years where the fellow was saying and par before all the they were doing and the uh Shila then if you remember presented was what if I'm not really should I say that paragraph anyway it's a good question and the answer is you should say it Because first of all saying it accord or not really is and the which is good good for you good for him from anybody owes you money. we'll get to in a moment that we say in tila zaka people remember the parenthesis there was your money you have a right to collect zaka talks about because it's yum we've all been working on that but we do say it every night so like the is that is then it's a for you for him the shita is a hold that's not it's not a sha of gene das if you're working on it if you tell him beish somebody asks you are you really and it's not true that's but here you're saying a general so the follow-up question on that is what is with the money so I just like to put put out the following this is very to adults as well on a different level but it's all the same you and that is if somebody owes you money you have a right to get your money and Rashi says clearly based on kazal A dter that's a sharpa is just as valuable as a dter shove a million dollars and you have a right to be ta with that said nobody does that. No one's going to inter for an amount of money that takes more time to get it than it's going to cost them more money and you have a right to ask and if he owes you a quart owes you a dollar owes you $5 you have a right to ask for it with that said and that's you can't erase that and don't forget that in the following few paragraphs we're going to mention and that is I've seen personally situations where they were arguing about I'm not still not sure what they were arguing about But somebody had an issue. And of course he when I pointed it out, he said, "No, it's not the money. It's taka. Small amount of money." I asked him why he's like creating World War II over this amount of money. And of course, he says, "Not the money. It's the principle." Of course, it's always the principle. It's never the money. So even if that's true, it didn't make sense. The amount of money a recent thing. If it's not the money, it just didn't both both parties were comfortable. And so you say, "Well, why not?" He owes the money. You have the right to. That's not the discussion over here. Discussion is in life there's x amount of hours in the day and you got to learn and you also have to not get into fights and not get valara and s and it's very hard to afterwards and he kept hiding. It says in except for anybody else I said I know that you're asking me advice what you should do. You didn't ask me you have right to be of course you do. So what's the advice? The answer is life is short. Hopefully 150 years plus. There's only x amount of money around that you're going to be using and it's going to make a difference in your life. And the $1 you own so many yeshiva on the $5 and the $10. And this case it was um working people. So it was $100 $500. He has a right $500 money. $100 is money. You know put's money to start a mikas like that that's going to go on and on and on. I said just have ramonus on your learning his learning just the amount of lash is going to be spoken. So it was a real discussion. They said, "Well, doesn't it say you are allowed on and the basin has to take seriously sharp Ka?" The answer is, "Yeah, but you also have to look at the collateral damage of what's going on." I can't tell you how many times I've seen this. It's just not and they always regret it afterwards that that wasn't worth it. That whole m gets an old lash and invol. It's not like you know you're going to stay clear that's not tailless and it's going to just get out of hand and it's not going to end and then you have to for all the other things they said in anger. So in life you have to think about that and um there's no titkus in this mis but uh when I was a your age you could still buy something for maybe a quarter or two or three or four and um yeah people buying quarters they're buying dollars besides the sia of writing aar which is a real den and their truth is written why does anybody do it you can write a little with yourad There are those who ta the truth from the priak he says it's only the says it most pas like it and the prius himself knew that and was trying to write a tr many people weren't writing happens of all times government borrow $5 $10 and nobody has a pen nobody has a paper and they're writing out but when it's in the hallway nobody has paper they should get a paper they should write it out because the starting position is after a while somebody wants his five or $10 back or $20 back or quarterback and he's a right to it and go prove it. I paid you back. I didn't pay you back. That's exactly why there's a takana. You got to write it down. When you get it back there you spend hundreds of hours on. He starts to give back and thear and he starts saying told me he says I finally did the din I had aar. I said great what happened. I presented it to him. So what happened? He says mazuyf. I said was that in first or was that real? So but he did the right thing. Okay. Yeah, it's like the other guy's a clown and he says it was his. How do you say it was m? He said he has a pretty bad handwriting. Okay, so you have to make sure it's legible, but it's a real den. And after a while, I told him to let it go and we're not here to make enemies and uh it's not worth your time. Money is valuable and we don't do bash. But again, the sin of the kind gets out of control. So an asa even though the zaka you said you might everybody except for the people owe you money if this comes up just give it a thought or two at what price are you going to get your quarter dollar back often it's because you don't want the guy to get away with something and you want your dollar and every dollar counts and right to it is it worth your time and is it worth so they start quoting every rashi if a guy's giving a rough time when I give him the eight I said the Dinner is you can ask for whatever you want. I'm giving you an eightas. He said I just have one cash. I know the next thing's coming. No way. He's going to quote Rashish in braces. What is he going to quote? No, you didn't get there yet. It's not in parcan. And sure enough, uh he says katanam right back in the middle of the night. So you have to learn that para over there. Yakavin is wealthy and tak to go back and it was yakinu. So I told him when you get to the madrega and all the other areas uh we'll talk about it and there was something very deep about those pakatanim it doesn't make sense if yakavinu is a gir already and he can make $1,000 an hour and he's wasting 10 hours to get something worth $5 that taka is losing money in the process and putting himself in danger. So obviously there's something going on. So guy's staying on the on the phone with the phone company and he spends five hours getting back the $7 error in his bill. It doesn't uh doesn't necessarily make sense. And usually the answer is but I don't want them to get away with it. Now it's $7. Next time it's going to be $7 million. You can't let people get away with things. Okay. Does he want to spend your time on getting into a fight with Verizon? At least it doesn't involve straight lush and sin on kin and mikas in the community. You got to think about it. And this does come up quite often and especially the Baham who are borrowing on the fly not writing it down the which might not exist and then afterwards when they want the money back a they can't prove it and then when they do he says and then you get into a whole fight the fellow who insists on ting muyf and he's not joking and it's not perm he doesn't have to be your best friend either it doesn't sound like such an honest ber but that's all different than keeping a fight going on for a lot longer than it has to. So I had to keep it in mind and I told B asked me that I'm happy he really took Tila Zaka seriously and uh that's why it's written very carefully obviously. Next, this is uh you can hear this happening in yeshiva possibly, but it's noa throughout life. And what's interesting here is that there is a whosa it's a very important sh but it's not to other cases as well. When you have a do it's not somebody calls you for and it needs real information that is valuable not things that aren't going to change anything. So then you have to say so call it a mitzvah has a lot on this and he says that if you do it you have to do it really believe in terms of focusing on the and you have to do it not because you don't like the guy anyway and you've been waiting to talk for all these years and now's your opportunity where you could take is not at all sure that it's in that case answer is it's but if you're doing it notem Shayim then maybe there's no for you and the of the is very concerned about this. I saw ask say from I asked quite a few if you're if you remember from seventh eighth grade whenever you learned it and you did it since then there should be something all of Makus about this. Um, do you remember I asked you the other Shiloh? You remember Makus? How long ago did you learn Makus? 3 years ago, two years ago it should. It's not anywhere to my knowledge, but he mentions it and he says the Gadam has a to whether it's a mitzvah or a mitzvah. Remember, there's a mitzvah over here. So why is there a maybe a mitzvah? Heov can't control himself. He's very angry at the guy. What happens if it's a neighbor? Probably happened around the corner. He never liked the guy anyway and he has ters on him besides this and now he finally has a to kill him not just which is also. So why does it say anywhere in the ma that when you have a or it's a mitzvah then you have to make sure first you don't have any other agenda you have no time on him you do it that the says and it's a mitzvah here or it's a but you only have a because he killed your curve not because from before it's the same just it's talking is also but it doesn't say anywhere. So it's a mitzvah that you should have to go through this process to make sure you don't know the guy from before and if you do you don't have any ters on him you're not enjoying it in any other way wants to know why is that or or is that maybe it's the same rule let's just say that somewhere in the just there's not so much on the interesting it says sentong to try to talk him out of it that's not a mitzvah it's a mitzvah why would you talk him out of So is but still even you have to do it without prior and it doesn't say that. So what am I getting at? We'll take a and we'll make it in a yeshiva context. You see a bak getting bullied. Bullied could mean physically. It can mean they're leaving him out of things and he's uh being muza and they're assaulting him and they're bullying can take many forms in many grades. It doesn't always stop at fifth grade, 8th grade, 11th grade. It can happen with adults in various forms. So you notice this and you feel bad for the guy and you want to help him out. So first thing you try is give a little suggestion or which normally you have to try sometimes it works to try and tell the bully maybe leave him alone and that he really feels bad and you're being or you're hitting him and it's an like what are you doing try that a couple times if it doesn't work and often with bullies who have their own issues it doesn't work so now what's your next step so if you think back I hope This wouldn't happen past uh seventh grade but um can happen even later. Boys will be boys. What happens if you have a bully most of the time it's in verbal abuse or other forms of an arm or psychological terror. It could be physical also. Let's take the physical example as the t talks about ruin is it's in the dorm late at night and he heard a schmoo the bully that one of told him it's important to exercise. So he's going to decide he's going to exercise. So instead of exercising during hakuffus, which the bam here did a very fine job of, even though you're a little Charlie horse and they made sure I got exercise also. So besides uh that exercise, he decided he's going to practice his muscles and flex his muscles just on the other guy in the next bed. He starts like physically and he's uh doesn't plan on really hurting anybody, but he's beating him up. You never heard I'm I'm getting a lot of blank faces. You never heard I I guess you never heard of this seen this never happened to Yeshiva Hashem. Okay, I must have phased it out. No. What? Never heard of this thing. The verbal psychological I know you heard of even by just the conscious omission that means for the AI paper you're supposed to write that means uh just like leaving him out but is you want to show that this is your and he doesn't belong that happens. That's also bullying. So the taza's case is somebody's getting hurt. It's not not necessarily sak but uh he's pushing him around. So after a couple of warnings and little mus which didn't work unfortunately. So what's your option? I should say what's your so brings down that you have to stop him because best thing is to go tell Rashiva the rebi let's say no that worked it's in the dorm it's in the dra it's late at night and nobody around but you and you are not afraid of this bullying you can handle it and you're going to physically remove him from the um from the mus and from the brawl and maybe even from the dra. So um what's the den? So the din is you have to do it because besides saving the guy you have to hitting somebody even if he's not getting hurt is already the taz brings the says something to the effect that that's only if you don't have other ters on them. the same thing like the or you're not just looking for a good fight or to get your own exercise. You're not looking for action. You have no other agenda and you like the guy or don't know the guy but you're not doing this for any other reasons. Noama and your mom is doing Shayim then it's okay and the TA brings us down and you here quite fascinating. If you have to use force to get him off of him, what does it make? If you had prior has an issue with it, which is more understandable, you have to do with and the T says the guy's getting beaten up. Well, you're going to start claring whether you're doing 100% or not. You have to get them off of What's interesting is yeah, it is and you have no right to do it. What's the calls you for a business partner or if you don't say something, he's going to fall in. That's also a and is not sure whether you can volunteer the information unless you're doing it. So the T seems to hold it's a very nice thing to do and try to be mat and if you don't or didn't or can't you got to do the right thing and save him. So I had somebody actually asked me the Shila. He asked me at the Shil about 30 years after it happened and the guy he removed from the premises. Um I'm talking to the guy face to face. He came to see me. Good good from Ben and he said he thinks the guy that he removed from the dorm room has tasers on him which he did. He said am I responsible? I said what happened? Why'd you why'd you hit him? He said I didn't hit him. I just He's a big guy. I just like after a couple warnings picked him up and threw him aside so he wouldn't do any more damage. So I started asking him but did you do it? He was telling me from decades ago he says I did it to correct the problem and to save the other guy. It wasn't the con but he has no to be getting beaten up and and the same thing would apply if he's getting insulted and somebody's screaming out of vasin. So why does the guy have tinus? He says uh why does the bully have tinus? The same reason he was a bully in the first place but this is decades later was very interesting. He said I'd be happy to apologize to him. Did I do something wrong? I said you know what even you didn't do something wrong you could still apologize just to make shalom. That's an idea just to get which he ended up doing. very nice guy worked in his mid and he says I don't he just wanted to know in the apology like does he have to do chuv for himself said based on what you're telling me doesn't sound like you had a choice but he asked well what if I didn't do it 100% I said it sounds like you did why should you get involved otherwise you had nothing personal against the guy and even if you did the taz holds you have to get involved with agree and what's with the keep in mind though that Um does say it by might say it over here is certainly should be getting involved if somebody needs help. You shouldn't be getting involved if somebody better to do it who could do it more and this does come up. I've uh witnessed because after they fighting for a while usually they come for in various areas and I've witnessed things go on by the time it gets to me for a long time and I if it's a dollar or $5 I try to like tell them what the den is and I tell them you just dropped the whole thing is not worth your time but if they want to pursue it they can pursue it over here you have to figure out who the best person to give the muser is. Nobody likes to get involved. And the one time he got involved, he actually helped the the other and that's a mitzvah. You try to do a lash. Maybe the holds. You have to be sure you're doing a lash. But there is a way to do it. It's not always you're looking at somebody and you have an agenda. You don't like the guy anyway. There's certain people you like. The Shil does come up. And what was scary is this was still going on for 30 years. And the guy's tina was you had no reason to do it. I would have stopped and you you don't like me and you you you ruined me and you uh you roughed me up and you didn't. I said, "What happened?" He said, "I physically took him and sort of tossed him aside. Did you throw him too hard?" He says, "No, I threw him a safe enough distance that he would understand. Please don't try this at home. Not with your siblings, not with other but it happened one late night and all normal people and boys will be boys." But the other guy wasn't he was nice of him to go and really he ended up writing a letter. It's a beautiful thing and he asked for something that he probably wasn't to do. But hopefully he made shalom and sometimes you do that even the time is it's not so honest. I I really shouldn't be asking. I said you could be a little dishonest to make shalom. Not a not a kasha. Okay. If that comes up during the next man, please tell me about it five minutes before this year next pa. We'll revisit it. But uh it's um I've seen in you know the younger grades raam tell me that it gets a little rougher when they're out of recess. And I guess the older grades don't have u don't have recess. They just have a late night uh dormatz. Next. [Music] Okay. It's a general shil and it's an excellent one um for hashkaf and I I sort of understand I think I know the particular shil where he was coming from this wasn't from here somebody spoke to me a few days about go about this is there a situation is there a matzov where you think after asking the shas you had an opinion you asked and you were right there's nothing wrong with doing what you'd like to do not going to go into the specific case. He told me what it was and taco wasn't a he wants to know. It's bothering him a little bit. It doesn't seem to be hashem. Interesting. Shila. So, what do you mean by that? He says, "Do I have to always look to see is item besides it not being user?" No. Over here. Of course you do. Well, if it's not user, then why do you have to invent? You never have to invent. You have to use to know that it's push that there might be a situation where it doesn't say it's because it didn't have to because it's obvious or it's not exactly but it's not a mitzvah and in this situation it would be note. There are a lot of things in that category and it's often overlooked. You don't want to live your life as what does it say? answer because you don't have to invent either but you have to be growing and you have to figure out every point in life you could be doing what does Hashem want you to be doing Hashem wants you to be in this mashem wants you to be over here wants you to be with these people nothing wrong with being his friend maybe it's not good for your growth this takes on so many different important decision making processes in every mat even though you look to ask and it doesn't say doesn't say it's there exists this category and this might be for from people the biggest category that's over here you haven't thought about this during for you're not looking to do is you're looking to do mitzvah you basically know what's not and when you don't you ask and they could be a serious of that you could be doing a lot better and you're not because you didn't see anywhere it's user and you think you're checking the boxes doing you won't go to gehenn and you'll get some of deep in the bleachers um if there exists bleachers but you understand what I'm saying I said this over in recently people didn't know what I was talking about said bleachers is the top seating in the semas is that a good description otherwise you're not going to know what the word means right you got it right the top the very uh the less expensive seats so no you're in alab you're in the stadium Abdul, nobody's going to be happy with that. We're here to figure out don't run away with this because you can't make up your own religion, your own mitzvah. If you just do the mitzvah, wake up in the morning and 24/7 except when you have the term and when you got to relax and get some sleep. So there isn't a scenario every day if you're in yeshiva and you're gainfully uh learning where you're gainfully employed and you're learning as much as you can. You shouldn't have this come up every day but it comes up more than you think. And as a general mahalim you can trick yourself into thinking that I'm not doing I'm trying to do mitzvah. I even run after certain mitzvah and I'm doing what's ine. And often that's true to a degree what yam is all about. You have to think of uh when you talk about the cabalas and think about the cabalas you made and everybody keeps telling me they were told you supposed to make tiny little cabalas and that's all true but there's also general kabala mahal that's not so tiny and people hide behind whatever gadellum stories they want to hide behind. I had people invited me tell me about a kabala and he tell me oh from daily mus and it's all true it just didn't apply to him and he said no I I was gonna take on something bigger but I had to I was told that they divided in half and in quarters you you know always you take very tiny cabalas and uh his tiny cabala at the end of the whole thing was he's going to have a bigger rug for that's after all his thinking and whittling it down I said I think you could do a little better than that although that's very you know that get all the you don't want to But it can't be all about. So, you know, it's people hear what they want to hear and uh we're talking about General Mahal and it's all about trying to figure out what the Koshu really want. So there is a um plenty of gray area in between and I just want to give an example which needs more hees and um matter of fact if you guys are hear the shabas pas I'm not and but if you're here next shabas isn't off shabas the first shabas man no they're not going to let you out okay so um catch me later but there's a very basic sha bracious get The answer to that question is not so simple. Everybody thinks yeah of course she got all the of affects her and then she got an extra set of so why talks about he says there were two different issues she was and but he has to prove she was if you look at the original is given to other it's not so she got that why not she didn't exist the was given before whatever you're taking subus she did exist but she was She didn't exist. He doesn't mention that, but it's part of that suggest did she get it? The assumption is she did a medish that other said I I I ate and he said I'll eat more because that is better to take the and getar a lot of ra on that. Then she but she said as me said she said it also it sounds like she admitted she had the a and the is ask her why'd you do it made me do it that means she was m more than that she had the it's unclear why because gave her over the is that make it and forget the part that he was says if you're you got to got to let them know you're because that's how the tricked her that she didn't die when she touched it. Whatever mahal you take. So if she was a she was certainly a mi, right? She had the and she knew about the and she is let's say she wasn't. Did she know had an is so she's so let me ask you a simple question. Is there an isser from aid to a guy? A lot of people think there isn't pett there is the example given is one of the classic examples in the gar is there an for a pious says not there's no anything after the don't have an issi if there's no is good question. What's the answer? There's no answer. There is no pos because of the strength of this one that must be have even a and which others say to answer other kashes. There's a and then there's bad advice. Giving bad advice is only from to yen and not a good idea to do either. the official is and don't have the PK. But when you're somebody in a you get a that have without a PK don't need a PK for it. What's the other answer? The other answer is there's no Pik and there's no official. So why why is Kava getting punished? The answer is she should have known it's not Hashem. Ah there's no Pik doesn't have to be a Pik. You have to know I don't need a p for that. If whether I have an isser, my husband has an isser, there's an isser to give him something that's so it's posit just a an example from the para there is a category that you have to figure out yourself that it's notem and if you're not sure and you prove it then it should be based on either an issue you didn't know about or that is obvious that you didn't figure out yet. But there is such a category. Let me go to the one that was sent in right now which needs a little bit of a hakama because uh okay we'll go few minutes over time when we get there. We started 5 minutes late. This is um a shila and [Music] we'll start with there are two of them. I don't know if we'll get to both. We'll start with the heavier one. You're all familiar because you've been saying for the last 40 days is chosen for L because they have in here each one needs a few hours basic but basic so we're going to pick uh one maybe two to bring this out before we get to the shum uh if I had to ask you what's the most famous probably the most famous they made a song out of What? You would say that even without the song, right? Says, "I just have one to boil down to one request." So the immediate issue in this is I only have one request and goes on to ask two or three. So if you think I noticed that and that's not really true and it's all one request you could dash in that possibly but there's a medish on the gonna sound like a it's not just to bring out a pointem And this one question was and then following that is a different you have to figure out what it is but it's a different one and is a third one. So says to first you ask only one ask and then you ask Two and three. So why'd you do that? You only asked for one and then you put in three. Ready for the answer has an answer. The reason he did it he says I have a good rebi talking to and I learned it from you. >> No. Where do you learn it from the political the point the shakaya here is delivering a statement it's not that difficult only wants one thing you at the end of the doesn't end there. It's a parag look it up afterwards. It starts off is not a small thing. Okay. So that was but it needs work on understanding even the ask about but ask one thing. Then it goes on sounds like all the mitzvah and then it adds doesn't end there. The next part of Mrs. So it starts off. Hashem said I only have one request just have and then added was and misses. So David said I would have thought that you can't do that either but I learned from you. You start off with one and then you pile more on. So I figured if that works we're in the receiving end of the it's good for us says the he wasn't questioning that. Then if I'm dominating, I can ask for things. I'll start off I'm only asking for one thing, but then you're going to add on. What's the site over here? Asite over here is it's important when the Sahara as soon as you get back for the Nisman starts trying to convince you out of um learning as much as you want to and being nizer and not getting into fights in the dorm and all the other things we spoke about used to talk about this a lot. He said the way to deal with this is not to talk to the and take it head on and say no I made kabalas I just hadis I have and I don't do any of these things I'm to declare yoursum for the next five months is not a good idea it's a great idea but it's not going to work as well the mal is teaching us which you learned from koshu is deal with one thing at at a time what's in front of you said the blot in front of you the tus in front of you the kasha in front of you the terror in front of you is the only thing that matters now the is here for from people not he's not going to tell you do a maid good morning doing a ver it's not going to work so he's going to try to overwhelm you and say I can't the sugi is too complicated and uh I don't know why they learning your vas this year it's not just your vas it's any sug if you learn it well and I can't handle this and it's overwhelming And there are too many kashes and too many. And I don't even understand what the first line here means. This not going to work. You say this all the time. You have one thing in front of you. Peel it away. One tis, one kasha, one terret, one minute of salash or of controlling your anger. Said what are you going to do the next minute? When we get to the next minute, we're going to deal with it. So that works when comes and asks us I'm only asking for and once you work there's going to be an ask about which is and all the all but that's an increment and when it comes to your own personal so you have to he said I have a law he had a lot of but he said and he had a works the same way I want to be in Bashem whether I am or not I want to be there as much as possible I'm speaking to an is now this time of your life to be in Bashem your entire day and night all the time and you're in sh all day and you're on to learn in the morning and come to a so you know this says the is be in the right place in a good environment problem is doesn't want you to be that much from masid and he wants you to spend a little more time sleeping a little more time in the in the dra a little more time going back in the hak and and some of it is needed to relax and some of it is pretty um costic and causes damage. So starts off my bash is so I shouldn't be overwhelmed. I just I want to be in the right place. I want to be what I want after that next step is going to be that I learn and I understand and I have from it. What how did you learn? He said this pik I hope at least 80 times plus last month or so. What's the vak? He asked to be there the whole time. Biker means you're visiting the bikur that's a ste. So rashi addresses that I'm sure you all asked yourself this kasha as you were saying this slowly. If you didn't, you can say it now. It's not Balt and remember it for next L Rashi brings down two mahim two very different mahal. What is a problem? So first shot is I want to be there every morning fresh and early. I can't spend 24 hours in the Bish 24 hours. That's the first shot. The second shot is what does that mean? Anybody remember that pussing? Last time you're on a farm, you have messer behs one at a time. We described this in David. They go by, everybody gets done. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 you have your red stick. The 10th cattle comes out. That's myer. That might be the animal. And the guy's a good guy. He says, I'm gonna bring that as a curb. So you have to switching it. Tamura is about this. You want to upgrade sometimes you want to downgrade. You can't switch. This is the 10th of means don't start making an inquiry which one's better, which one's worse. So means I should not be sitting and analyze the analyze my motives, analyze my be honest where can I grow means as that's the second shot. to each other. Rashi brings down from two earlier rishim amazing we can go you can go your whole life and sing this song and say that's trying to answer our is to keep in mind that we're doing it in increments and you're not for the next kasha or for the next blot for the next day for the next hour wants you to feel everything on your shoulder weighing you're down so you get completely discombobulated and you figure I can't do all this and as soon as you feel like that that thing pops into the head of most people most 10 times a day just you got to know how to push back so the answer is don't even address it it's not nea you want to know what am I going to do when I get to the second terrorist of you were told by somebody already who heard Shia in the last mer that that you're never going to get out of that terrorist we're going to be on it for three month yep I'm in the first terrorist now we'll worry about it when we get there. You know, any static interference is all from the Sahara. Sounds very firmed. No, no. I I I'm worried. I want to get the whole mahalya. You do. And maybe you will, maybe you won't. It's one at a time. And when you're trying to be Z not to get involved in the hawk that you hear at 11:30 at night, some of it's kosher hawk. You'll say that's a steer in terms. Okay. I hope it's kosher. You walk in and you hear something, you say, you know, I don't know. I don't like where this is going. So what? I'm going to stay out of the room and I want my friends and I got to go to sleep and I got to hang around. So I'm going to this could take a half hour. I use all my examples from real sh in case you haven't noticed. So I stay away for a half hour. So what's the answer? Still says, "No, no, no. Don't talk about a half hour. Maybe just stay out for five minutes. What's going to be I'll catch up as I'll walk in five minutes. that I'm going to be up to speed on all the hawk from the it says good in the dorm and they're going to they'll let me know what's going on. First of all, you save yourself five minutes. Could have been costic. I'm not saying all the conversations in the dorm are bad. Hopefully, most of them are good. But you save yourself five minutes. And after five minutes, you know what? That five minutes wasn't that hard. Maybe I'll go back to best measure. It's not going to take 20 minutes and I'll uh I'll miss the whole thing. But you got to break it down to increments because we're not set up for that we can't handle an isan that's five minutes down the line a day down the line is not neg that's the speaking of hak so we're just going to introduce this point maybe it's good we we're going to run out of time in the next six minutes that came in as I'm driving printed it out right before I got in the car and I'm trying to look at it in the car and Um the question is it seems the excitement of at least the hostages is higher in certain areas and I didn't yet discuss it much and it's not being discussed like to know where you live but I understand what he's asking sh um how do we what's the dash over here and how to approach it and it's a very complex kasha but it's very simplistic also if aid is nebulan captivity and now he's alive or not alive and he gets heavily that's a cause for and that's galdic. If a war ended and there people in harm's way that's also galdic has nothing to do with politics nothing to do with that's the good news whether or not we were saying to the sh we also had a say that people should be safe I said extended at least one more week they're having a summit now somewhere in Mitsim uh you'll go back if you have a meeting with somebody otherwise you can't move there since the couple yidden involved matter of fact the people running it are yidden and they're trying to do their best we hope and no reason to assume not so and um it's saving lives of course now we have a matzah where everybody one wouldn't imagine three years ago I'm not saying it's good or bad is running the world and always is and always will be our job is to learn and dive in and not be too involved in this but it is important to know what alp this a simple mahalas it's a very complex suga our view is that the y is a tenishba uh who might be in the army and was captured and was there even the guy somebody asked me should we obviously for the go he should get back yeah it's a it's a gather and is like this doesn't mean the same bas means you uh to what the is it should be so it's definitely definitely good news they got back definitely good news that there's no active fighting could it be we're still in golas and a lot problems that came up again because the war has used the kard like drafting yeshiva which is the worst thing they could do just off the danger and that's an old agenda and that's very worrisome and that's not going away and it got worse and they're cannoting the people and they're throwing them in jail and they're taking away whatever money they had for pitha and hummus now they only have money for pitha there are a lot of problems we're still in gullis and we have to be aware of that but we have to do what we're doing to help out the effort and that is the lisa Even what they're talking about now as we sit here is that they now everybody's Mosim. We should have a two-state solution. If you're not aware of that, then stay in your vomit. Don't worry about it. But the two states the problem or the perceived possible problem was that the one's in Gaza and one's over here and Nebuchadne. So what was fought against for a while, I'm not saying rightfully wrongfully so. They're two sides of the story. All of a sudden now that's the starting point. That might be Islam more dangerous than it was to begin with. We just spoke about breaking down breaking down things and taking one day at a time and it's a very complicated world and it's a very dangerous mat and that is gul conditions and uh people here in America should be dinging learning and sending a lot of money to that's our job. And yes, it looks like it could be more toxic than what they're trying to do now, which is why not a bad idea to keep saying to Hillm for a while. Lisa, the question was how do we view this? And we don't want to make it into a separate religion that it's all about the politics and all about the hostages should be home. They are home. Whoever made it through again that's a cause for Simka to get too much in the politics and the hawk loses sight of the fact that the people doing this know they don't have a solution either and there's no solution in Gul's conditions and what they're putting on the table now which I'll be cheering about on paper is worse just from a strategic p point of view answer is if we were focused just on strategy and how is this going to work we wouldn't be here as cla we're here because with the and with and that's the biggest difference we can make and in the two minutes we have left or we don't have left I'll leave you with a shila and uh it's important to think about I might even suggest in one line where the terrorists might be did you notice that the kumish ends you have to pick something to sign off. So the suk toward the end the biggest navies and all theis and we see the last two because the last part is surprising upon him and that is how we think the ter should end. Recount flows what made the process of no. So what does it end with the last days that ends? This has got to be a tremendous because we're ending like this. We're ending with it and it can get lost. And you all saw the rashi. What is it teaching us? So first one long is that's all about 40 years. So far it's expected the last thing the last broke the and brings from the why is ending off with this that's one off never done again. And saw that he had to break the which is normally in the says did three things. The other two were also good. This one he got in for. Okay. But why is that the last thing we're leaving with in this is the lesson to remember good kasha? I'm sure you just finished being myella. This is the le what are we leaving with before braces borrow? What's the answer? So futner beitser this needs to be treated more to remind me pesner the mimer says I didn't find the mime in print. Mash told me he was there. Now Futna says that the over here is that and can't be watered down and if they're dancing around at a whatever excuse they had understood I have to break the lus because they're just going to water down and think of excuses why this is not and we're communicating we're nervous if we're going to water it down there's no chance. So you said number one we're leaving we're here to uphold the entire it can't be watered down we don't compromise the second part which is not a to what we just quoted from is that also did it in defense of famous medish that he wanted to rip up the because it would be a bigger kit they just had a kaducian and now they already being misan it's terrible so he rips up the he breaks the lus that was gura that on the one hand if they're not worthy and they're not capable of keeping me don't give it over and the other hand you have to have who don't know and you need to and you need to them so they can get there for a second it's the same message I'll break the now but then I'll go back for 40 days and fast again and help you do and beg for and it's gonna take I'm gonna do it because there's a pint So the only thing we have to take out of the matzah right now is there are a lot of people still with some pintid you see a lot of the people in this matzah the last two years did chuva pella and they were at the beginning of it a festival that wasn't uh let's say yeshiva shamatas let's put it that way now would that be a good description how much don't know but there and some already recognized it and some didn't our job is to do them and help them but not at the expense of any kud of our miss. There a lot more to be said on that, but we're out of time. Uh there are USBs on braces available over here. Can help yourself. It's on the entire braces. Took seven years. You can listen to it probably unless [Music]