Rabbi Yosef Simon speaking at Mishmar Bais Medrash Ohr Chaim

thank you for having me for it's always good to be here I always enjoy speaking here Dr Charles over here thank you good over here for having having me I want to speak about a topic it's called sh you know I uh I get a lot of questions about in Mya I run and G and F and everything and was big thing I'm going to give you guys four scenarios and you guys have to figure out the common denominator between them okay it's gonna be a different type of D starting off okay four scenarios true stories one happened this week I had a student many students apply to Yesa soon we're accepting more students because we just built a dormatory or now finishing M best M and uh one of the students we called he I zoomed him and he's B cha went to a little bit modern schools growing up but he M doesn't know much at all and I asked him what's your why do you want to come to Yesa so he said to me one thing because I'm scared of carus I was like whoa is said I said anything else like skilled B you know we want to you want to get I'm scared of car car rebi and that's why I he said I left my's girlfriend because of it I'm so scared of carus I want to come to Yeshiva second scenario there's was a high school student a good friend of mine who was in high school and he had a mus there every week and the uh one day they brought in a bom muser who talked about gam and this is a r actually but he told me this story that this literally the whole Dr of this R was about how one minut is worst or equal to murder he said literally it destroyed the rest of his year he couldn't even learn everything else case number two case number three we know about theim theim Accord to theim were people who converted right but the the G right because of they're scared of the lines they're scared of the lines and therefore they converted Etc to the point where their their conversion According to some was not real conversion the question is why why is it not you know what's the problem why can't they serve that's is a big thing right the lies come to eat you you get you get some sort of fear what's the problem to the point that even writes that if a says you say to his what's scenario number three scenario number four I have a student who told me he was learning art Israel he he had a very traumatic experience what was the experience he was in a very he was one of the top students in the school and one day he was playing basketball and the rebi caught him playing basketball wearing uh shorts and sneakers basically the next the next week he they went sh's office and three told you made you'll never be forgiven you can't do CH true story he said that dragged him down the but we will keep you because you were one of the better students from then on he couldn't learning was not the same for okay those huh four scenarios I want you guys that's the question for you this I'm going to go over the now the topic of I'm going to go into into the okay so let's start with kurban P right we know that this week's par we speak about kurban P but we there's so much you know we know that uh it talks about not to break the bones not to not to leave anything over Etc but we know the primary reason is we always hear that and there's so much always talk it's always already what's the point of always everything's connected what's he says one thing Theus it's very important point the external Behavior a person when you constantly repeat It ultimately it's G to bring in you're going to better yourself you're going to better your character traits by by doing things over and over again so right if a good nature person he said it could be negative a good natured person for example was uh point to be person who appointed by the king to kill people right to eventually you you won't appreciate life because you're so used to doing something that that's not good for for your for your Midas right but same thing the opposite says by the way I have students who told me re one time I had a student last he was couple years ago couldn't wake up sh he said re I'm just I'm naturally lazy I'm naturally lazy I said what good he said nothing you can do about I'm so lazy my father always tell I I ask me in my family so I said that's not true says that if you anybody who practices the alacrity isus right anybody's to do that through this concept right sorry that anybody can overcome any Mida whether it's laziness whether it's not not having proper cavanas whatever it is in life huh days 30 days correct if you repeat something and have going over that's really the concept mus by the way if you want to develop anything true sh for example is only through constant repetition and having and and going through that Meer over and over again so question is the following how do you have proper and I I saw I heard uh somebody speak about this and I was very impressed forget name right now is a kinsky I think his name is so he says the following the Torah tells us where where's the mentioned first time in in where do it mentioned you know anybody know Dr always got the ANW unbelievable so sh we know that power is trying to convince sh to what what they try to do kill the babies kill the the baby boys the P tells us they didn't listen and they feared and his reward hasem gives him houses so what's houses WR very the following it's a weird btim everything else he says that the nature of a fear of hem when D prop is completely different than other fears how is that right when a person is afraid of of something right afraid of heights you ever seen the guy afraid of heights he's shaking he's guy he's anxious anything in this world if a person is scared of in this world he's feeling anxiety he's feeling he's breathing heavily he's feeling very uncomfortable right but says how however says is when someone has proper right Fe all of a sudden they feel calm they feel at ease it's very different type of it's fear fear one fear anxiety one fear leads is supposed to lead to feeling at ease and comfortable says they feared theem as a reward that received houses why houses because the house makes you feel secure right it makes you feel at home the Torah is teaching us that the fear of Heaven has a direct cure to feeling at at ease it's M's direct feeling secure almost the opposite of what we fear when we have fears in this world the question is though often we we find that yid fears hem and they get overwhelmed right I see it all the time they with the details and and all kinds of things it doesn't make them feel at ease insecure actually for care they sometimes they get overwhelmed by the process and am I doing everything right could also lead to anxiet so what's so and if this is saying that true leads to security right so adherence to this tor also should lead to that more calm so what's missing how do we transform ourselves to have proper and that we when we're following to the more we do the more we feel secure and the opposite so is a story of the the that uh there there's some somebody's weighing a line go the and the gab goes and says hi to the person and he says to the to the person we l said I want you to write a question to to the rabit a question I don't know no no the RAB said you have to do it okay he wrote the questions so he wrote on it in English he wrote If Hashem is so great if God is so great why does he get caught up with all the details that was his question so he he goes into the rebi and rebbi looks at the question question and Reb is like I don't understand so he thought oh maybe the rebi doesn't know how to read English you know so he says listen hem is so great great why does he care about details FL spoon mil pot so Reb interrupts him he said no no no no I don't understand your premise meaning it's not for God it's it's for you it's for you so explained it's not that K who's the vengeful God he's waiting for you to make a mistake it's it's it's for your own self for your own mentality right that it shouldn't be scary and overwhelming it should be that you want the CER with him and that's the key point it's not for God it's for you because Hashem wants to connect to us he wants us to have relationship ship with him and the same way when you speak to someone you dial someone on the phone right you you tried you're reaching him you're getting closer to him right you soem it's it's the same thing over here you're when you're when you the more you call AEM the more you're getting the more we do the more we follow the more we follow the Torah MIT properly then according to your level obviously that's how much we get that that's very important thing it's not for the and and by the way this is a big thing for us because in my Yesa at least that uh we have so many guys that come through the process of fear and taka it works it works you know it really does work and it's that I think it's necessary because sometimes in this world there's such a shell so the only way to get him out is get a give him a shock right give him a little shock awake and it wakes him up we teach our students you can't live like this forever if you live like this forever where you're gonna teach your children that you got everything you do oh disrespect g g g right you can't live like that it's overwhelming right and that's G that's the key point is a proper should lead us to closeness and security with the abisher and not the opposite so if we go back to what we said before the four cases and back to the Kim case as well what's the why can't they be accepted as proper gar everywhere it's because they miss this point is that if they you used it as a catalyst to connect to the abish more say wow look what's going on with the Lions and therefore I'm I'm something's happening here let me see why I can do more but if you just stays at the fear of the anxiety level of being overwhelmed you're never going to get closer to the a properly and that's the key point that a lot of people Miss I had a I have a friend who told me his grandfather never cried because he went through the Holocaust and everything else and one day they found you know his house in Poland and they decided they bring him to Poland he's raised in his 90s and the whole family go and he's looking and everything else he starts all a sudden he starts to cry starts to cry like crazy and all everybody all the grandkids are scared like wow we never saw sabba cry before this is he never showed emotions like this he was crying and crying and crying and he said that everybody said must be all the pain and all the suffering and going through it again and he said to him no it's exactly for he says you understand children all my life I've been scared now I'm not scared of the Nazis anymore I'm not scared of them there now that I came to visit I saw a place and I'm here and I'm stronger and I built all these Generations I'm not scared anymore I'm not anxious anymore the only thing the only being I'm scared of is the abish I won this is a the tears I'm crying is a tear of sim of Happiness this is something that we have to be when we are serving the with we have to be very careful because it's a fine line between getting close using to get closer to which is the long term and using to get overwhelmed and anxious and this and a lot of the guys that they come to us begin they come with that fear and anxiety and we have to try to get him off in Yesa from that path and lead him to the long term where you're not being met on your household that's what the means when you're being somebody you comes and brings fear to his household and he's every you can't live like that the whole family is living in that fear and that shakiness and overwhelm that's the fear of nature fear of nature of everything in this world that's the improper that's not going to get you the long-term fear the true that we have to focus on is is God is God how we we're so precious to I don't want to lose that ker and the more I do and the more I follow the closer I get to him and so I can't teach this Bak now who's Scar the Caris maybe it's good he scared the Caris right now but if he comes to Yeshiva and we accept him to Yeshiva we're gonna have to get go get onto the path of no that's not your focus I'm scared of CH and therefore I serve hem I love hem I want to get closer to them I don't don't want to ruin the relationship and if we can live like that with the proper I think it's going to help us in a lot of our areas in life and serving we should have that Clarity and all the time