The relationship between CHAOS and ORDER

and and this is where life is the most magical and it's a highly vulnerable place there are a lot of people who don't go anywhere near it in life and those are generally the people who don't seem very inspired [Music] so they've already proven that there's parts of your actual DNA that only get unlocked when you're faced with the unknown and vulnerability it only gets unlocked there and then it does its job like once you're there then it starts doing things and and it creates structures that now are yours and your and obviously take away the vulnerability because now you have a structure to deal with that but there's we actually will be we could actually return our bodies not having fully been born because of this this thing and there there's something magical about it but before I go on I just want to mention that you go there all the time I mean you do like it like for example meaning in your own little safe way you like chaos for example did you ever go dancing you ever dance yeah it's not a very ordered way to be having moving your body you understand you like to actually imagine someone walked up to you while you're dancing and said what's your first name hope command just a friend your walk up to you who doesn't dance and never saw you dance and they're like hope what is wrong with your body and you're just like and you're like I'm you know and she's like we'll stop you're like no it's like why not and you're like cuz it feels good I like it you know I love dancing you understand like you go chaos sometimes with that body of yours and give you another example this lady you married by any chance you ever been yeah did you notice in your married days that that sometimes you would sabotage the relationship and sometimes he would what she's gonna cry really well anyway I'll help you your when you were married to your great husband sometimes you would sabotage things and like make him like kind of have to beg for for love and whatever because of whatever he came home late or whatever he did you know he he it's part of the job of a man is to do stupid things once in a while like totally forget to call and wind up in the town next door by accident and say oh I'm sorry you know why don't you call yeah whatever but the we create chaos we create casts there's something about us that creates will create casts and what could have been total order anyone here ever done business they don't have ever been in a business owned a business worked in a business anyone here been responsible for business nobody you've been yeah okay great and did you ever get to a point where the business was running well and did you take another risk to build it bigger yeah you did and then did you sleep as well as a night before once you know you don't sleep well and why did you electively create that chaos in your life so that's what I want to say is that is that we all go there we all go there we're all willing to take a risk and and we like that now we do it on our terms you know we do it on our terms and and we you know we're we take the risks and calculated ways and we sabotage like when husbands sabotage the closeness women do it too by the way when when when spouses sabotage their closeness it's calculated they're not doing something so stupid that like the whole thing's gonna fall apart they do it in a way that it's gonna shake the ground a bit and and often make them closer afterwards they'll often be closer as a result maybe that was deep down their dream was was that I'd like to be closer and maybe if I get you angry enough that I'll wake up to the fact that I'm I'm not as close as I could be and so maybe I'll get you upset and you'll say to me hey you know you were inconsiderate and and then I'll say wow I'm in the doghouse now for being inconsiderate and causing a little bit of introspection about about myself and my relationship to my wife and so maybe it's gonna get me closer as a result so so maybe that as an unconscious closeness we're looking for but we don't like too much order we don't like too much order you see people sabotage all the time all the time people are sabotaging their order kids with school like those of us who raise kids in school you know like you've got a schedule keep it you know but there's your kid you know at the house two hours after they left for school and you're like what are you doing home and they're like well long story and it's like your jobs to be in school every day okay like you don't do stuff that makes them send you home you know and but they just they can't take the monotony of the order it's too much order so we like chaos we just like it and we're we're kind of addicted to it and and we like and now let's bring the edge up we like running up to the edge of things a lot in certain aspects we like to run up to the edge so just that my two favorite sports are very edgy sports so here when I'm mountain biking so I'm coming down a trail and it's steep and but it's a trail I mean it's where the tires should go now there's the sides which are like boulders and and cliffs and all kinds of stuff where the tire should not go and for some reason I I'm you know it's a little immature but I'm fascinated with this work of keeping it on the trail which is late I guess it's about as dumb as getting a basketball through a hoop which is like not that exciting but you know the ball does fit it fits through that poke so like I don't know why everyone has to gather themselves all around this sport to watch you know basically illiterate people run up and down the court trying to prevent each other from putting the ball why don't you just let the guy put the ball note like what's the big deal so let him do it and be anyway but I'm kind of busy doing the same thing really when I'm focusing down the trail and if I'm and as I micro adjust the brakes and my weight and keep my center of gravity as low as possible I'm I'm on the edge of order like I'm keeping total order here and I'm right on the edge of chaos because if I lose my grip and you and and unless I'm reading the reading the ground cuz ground looks different when it's looser and it looks different when it's tighter and so if you pull that back brake a little too tight when it's starting to look looser you're backed I was gonna start fishtailing and you've lost control of this situation so that's like oh I saw I saw two feet of looser ground which you can't see is loose it's just got a different tint in the light of that time of day I need to release my back brake at just a hair's breadth to make sure I'm not gonna slide on that stuff make sure the tire is gonna grip in and then the second I'm on the other side of that I got to pull a lot more of it because I just took I start going too fast for the to keep in control in the of that trail so you understand it's a total ride between chaos on the sides and order down the middle but in surfing the best example in surfing of orderin counts is when you're inside the tube of a wave and your micro adjusting your body position both to the size of the tube because that does undulate big and small and but also your you know your just because the waves not just going sideways it's kind of going forward towards the beach at the same time so you're you're you're you're going sideways but you're also allowing for some lateral movement all at the same time and and you have to have that orderly because if you don't if you lose the order in that chaos and you get picked off by the lip of the wave you're going in the full washing machine mode I mean you're you're you're having it you're having a you know a 400 pound enema enema you know in seawater in every orifice you're gonna be totally disoriented you're not even know which ways up by the time that wave lets you go yeah you literally have to look at the bubbles to see which way they're going you're so disoriented and if the waves are really big you could be 2030 feet under the water after you've been pummeled to smithereens which means you have to ragdoll your body the whole time because if you use any energy you could not have enough energy to float to the top afterwards so you have to ragdoll the whole body and let the whitewater washing machine just do its thing until it lets you go and so here you are in perfect order with total chaos all around you and and this is where life is the most magical and it's a highly vulnerable place there are a lot of people who don't go anywhere near it in life and those are generally the people who don't seem very inspired so no me if you enjoyed watching this well watch some more send it click it forward it join it subscribe to it you know keep coming on in joining me in this amazing movement to make a big difference in the world and the biggest thing you can do of all is to join the yom tov media club calm please go in line yom to immediate club.com