The proof that heterosexual orientation is the truth.

[Music] okay Sean welcome to practical spirituality here in Asia tour in the old city of jerusalem overlooking the western wall so so the when discussing sexual Liberty meaning that what people are interested in it's you know obviously that's a very hot topic and and all of us are supposed to you know somehow bend over to the left-wing millennial atheist perspective of you know that that were you know that this is what I am you know like this is who I am you know which is a really weird statement to say about one very small part of their body no offense you know cuz that is not you are obviously that is your genitalia but but there are people who you know will somehow like come out of a closet unannounced like this is who I am again it's just really weird thing to be letting everyone know you recommended me letting you maybe letting you know that about my wife and I this is who I am you know it'd just be so ridiculous you know like that's what I'm saying is it's just ridiculous and and in Torah mentions this in no uncertain terms because you can always go back to Hebrew to understand things and Hebrew says that any Hebrew teaches us that from a word that's called it's the word that's used for someone who is doing anything but heterosexual normative interaction anyone who's doing anything but normative heterosexual behavior is called in Hebrew if he's a male he's called the Kadesh and if he's a if she's a female she's called a kadesha now what is the coop Dollard shin what is that roof Kadosh or Kadesh or kanesha what is that well you think holy but it literally means separate because things that are holier separate like the 10th cow when you're counting your cattle is holy you've got to bring it to the temple the 10th one it's it's separate than the others ok then the seventh year is separate than the other six and we have to rest the Land of Israel on the seventh year the Sabbath this holy it's Shabbat kodesh it's separate the Jews are our uncle - or in Goa cathoshea a nation of holy people that are separate lineage to Gentiles so yes it means separate and now why though why people who are involved in anything other than normative sexual interaction why why do I call it normative is because look at the creation you know like that's how the creation works from like literally from insects all the way up to to wild beasts you know they they work this way and you know in normative what's called normative and so what happens is that when your sexuality is normative if you look at yourself on a pie chart so you know you've got lots of slices that make up your interests and stuff and I suppose if you had all your interest together maybe you got a picture of a person maybe but if you look at all the interests of a person you know we're all pretty multi-dimensional and so you've got like you know you got like family we got like friends and you got like money and you got like the arts and you got like that maybe it to music and you make be into sports and you might be into I don't know what you're into you're into cars and you're going to you know we're into a lot of things and might be into philosophy or other kinds of studies or or maybe you're into figure into what are people into you know they've learned a lot of things million different things but anyway let's put here friends can I put friends yeah friends so you're interested in intimacy or you know a relationship etc your drill a lot of things Oh spirituality but okay weird all these things and that's a normal human being now sexuality how big a slice would you put how big a sliced you put for someone whose amount of monogamous a monogamous you know a married monogamous man or woman you know think about your uncles and aunts or think about you know your friend or your local rabbi or something like how much do you spend thinking about your aunt or uncle or grandparents sexually you know it's like I'm just asking you how thick a slice in their whole identity of things they're into cuz they're into it man cuz you see that your grandparents had kids because that's what have you got here you know so they're definitely into it but how big a slice do you give it and the answer is a really small slice I mean Michael I imagine you don't think too much about that when you think of me you know it's like that's just not on the radar you know you know I mean the various things but but whatever happens in my private intimate physical life is not really you probably never thought about it ever have you ever thought about until now which is by the way of very interesting that since we're on that just real quick is is that this is the issue with with sex anonymous the 12-step program for sex addicts it's the problem with it is because you see Alcoholics Anonymous that they don't want to drink alcohol anymore they're done with that they're gonna meet with people to get over right but no one comes to Alcoholics Anonymous with a bottle of vodka in their hand weird a sexuality take place and the answer is mostly in the mind sections most in mine that's why you'll see that someone could have everything lined up perfectly but if the mind gets distracted by baseball scores it's over yeah so it's like instantly gone because sexuality takes place in the mind so getting together with a bunch of sex addicts to hear sex stories his sex that is sex you may not be fornicating right now but you're involved in sexuality right you understand what the issue is there and so what's the answer for that we don't have time right now in our scope now what happens when someone's involved in non-normative ie marriage sexuality what if someone's a non normative married monogamous sexuality which is the norm for almost all of human history it's like go check your science papers like that's been the norm for every civilization in all of history with the exceptions of few that actually disappeared wonder why so so what happens is it starts to take your life you become separated by it sexuality actually starts growing starts gaining more of a picture I once asked a group of college kids who are here on birthright and asked them so how big a slice would you all make sexuality and some girls like the whole pie anyway but we'll put up we'll put over here when when sex is done and here's the weird thing that Torah gets just by the word kadesha or Kadesh is that when sex becomes v when sex becomes other than normative instead of it being that tiny slice that you would never have thought of Michael had it not been brought up all of a sudden it just starts consuming the rest of the pie it just starts like taking over the rest of the pie I mean it's like me trying to speak to the homosexual man sitting next to me on my ll flight to New York tonight you know about God it's like wrong guy understand it's like you know it's like just not probably the best listener but after a while it just seems to take over it just like completely takes over your life until you're announcing to the world this is who I am now something very interesting to note and that is that is that the that women are women are generally attracted to men unless you know things have gone sour that way what generally attracted to men men are generally attracted with it but generally because a more feminine man will be attracted to a more masculine woman a network mask and woman will be attracted to a more feminine man and that's probably a good idea for them to marry someone like that because male likes female and Families male like for example all the emasculated males would you you guys today all you like half men men raised in the last 70 years you probably are excited to have some woman take care of you close that for singers you probably want a woman who is powerful and meaning many taking on masculinity type causal positions and that you price somehow want that which of course is the biggest turnoff ever to he knows at least once they hit their mid-30s and the but anyway the sexual is the important point that I want you to get a sexual proclivity of males is not females and it's not males the sexual proclivity for males is is friction they don't care where it comes from in general it's not a nice thing to say about men obviously but every man in this room knows it's true and now it doesn't mean it doesn't mean for a woman it was just really bad timing closing closing you got it you'll understand in a minute I'll explain just closing no there's never reason so the so again it's not a nice thing but women should know it doesn't mean that a man's not totally crazy if you're married to a man and he's and there's friction going on it's not that he's not experiencing this as the union of the two of your souls forever he is he is experiencing it just like you but the but they but men simply like friction period they just like friction period and I don't really care that much where it comes from and and for this reason men have to be extra careful to you know like do everything they can to maintain their power and that it means to abstain from it so that they can maintain their power now I haven't given the how to do that really here but but they got it but that's how a man's powerful because a man who doesn't have that under control is weak and he feels it and he knows it but once a man knows that that's his sexual proclivity is friction well he can now say well because some of those men saying well how could I ever be married to a woman I wouldn't be turned on and the answer is yes you would yes you would maybe not like some other man that you you like some other man and who's turned on women maybe not like him but for sure you could be for sure you could be because because because once the woman's informed of what's gonna be necessary here she will provide that and everything will be perfectly fine in what is married life they will do just fine and there's so much more to marriage than sexuality it's so much more to it than sexuality I mean just so much more that all of those things can be had by even a man who has spent the last 10 15 20 years if not his whole life feeling that he's homosexual but once he's married and I've got I could the men I know who've done this are happy to speak to you know if you're if you're the man who wants who's always felt like you could never get married you know the ones I know were happily married for many many years and doing amazing they they've been enlightened to the richness of marriage and have finally realized that that that was like they were about to miss out and so much in their lives and and they they managed to pull it all together get married and she was able to provide even in the bedroom exactly oh this class raises money for a family to eat on Shabbos and this rabbi free Shalom if you enjoyed watching this well watch some more send it click it forward it join it subscribe to it you know keep coming on in joining me in this amazing movement to make a big 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