The Narrative we tell around our dysfunction

[Music] if you put a rat inside a box with four long tunnels so the rat goes into tunnel one looking for cheese no cheese tunnel two no cheese tunnel three no chase tunnel four and it finds the cheese at the end of tunnel four so if you put the wrap back inside the box it's gonna go straight to tunnel four and at the end of tunnel four there's the cheese over and over again tunnel four there's the cheese tunnel four there's the chase now if you move the cheese to tunnel one so the rat goes into the tunnel and goes across goes to tunnel four goes to the end no chase comes back out of four goes to three no cheese comes to two no cheese goes to one there's the cheese you put the rat back inside the box where does it go that's right tunnel number one because that's where the cheese was the last time now a human being you put him inside the box and you send him down there so number one no cheese tunnel two no cheese tunnel three no cheese tunnel four there's the cheese now you keep putting the cheese and tunnel forward put the cheese down for put the cheese and tunnel for and it'll just keep the human being will just keep getting in the box and going straight to tunnel four to get his delicious cheese and what happens in the end if you move the cheese to tunnel one you know what a human being does well he gets inside the box and just like the rat he goes straight to tunnel four because that's where the cheese was but what happens is it gets to the end of tunnel four there's no cheese there now you know what he does from then he actually sets up a tent for the next 40 years telling everybody about the cheese that was once at the end of tunnel four in fact he puts up a plaque for eternal memories of the cheese that was once in the at the end of tunnel four in fact his great-grandkids still have customs that will be about the cheese that was at the end of tunnel four you see we're all at the end of tunnel four meaning each one of us has a certain level of dysfunction from our upbringing from our communities from our parents from ourselves from the things that happen to us and we just get to know each other we get to know ourselves that way and then what happens is however you know yourself is how the world looks the world comes out to how you know yourself that's the world you live in it all comes out how you know yourself and so there's a problem with that because then it keeps proving that that's what is that must be reality and so this is what we call self-deception self-deception is when you have a dysfunction i.e your worldview that gets constantly proven because you know you see your world will look exactly as you see it and so what happens in the end is that we deceive ourselves so the possibility is coming to new york once again new york and new jersey starting muncie this coming week on uh april 11th and then april uh 17th or 18th it starts in lakewood for men and then the next day it starts the women's seminar also in muncie on the 11th the 12th will start the women's seminar so go online to rabbahyomtev.com and get signed up to join this seminar it is amazing because finally you can go there and realize there's no cheese there's no cheese there and you can finally discover a life you love see you there