The BIGGEST secret on BEING PRESENT NOW!

this torah class is brought to you by torahanytime.com shalom everyone what we're going to learn right now is how to live in the now and when you learn how to live in the now you're going to have an amazing surprise so get ready also for a surprise this class comes with a special surprise at the end okay let's go she are you ready okay finish that mission let's go okay you got to be present for this here we go future present past future present past future hasn't happened yet it's coming into the present though present happening past gone future it's like blank paper and a printer still hasn't been you know we don't know he knows we don't know what's going to be on that paper it comes into the printer present is the inkjet hitting the paper past the present goes out a shredder can you open the door all the way please do you open it all the way bring a chair or something it's making too much noise we're in a good part of the hall because there's no uh people don't mingle at the end of this hall past so future blank paper present inkjet hitting the paper past goes out of shredder right show me a year ago show me a month ago show me a week ago show me a day ago show me an hour ago show me a minute ago show me a second ago gone show me a year from now show me an hour from now show me a minute from now show me a second from now not here yet the only experience you've ever had in this world is now think about it that's all you've ever had the only moment you've ever experienced is now tell me have you ever experienced time you ever experienced time never and isn't that interesting you believe in something you've never experienced which makes you kind of cuckoo you're a little crazy because you believe in something that doesn't exist because why do you believe in something you've never experienced because the only thing you've ever experienced is now and if i asked you a year ago and ask you what time it is you'd say now by the way you can't even tell someone what time it really is accurately because by the time you tell them what it's gone the time they ask you is over you can't even think about time sorry you can't even think about now because if you think about it where is it it's gone you can't even think about now your brain is useless for thinking about now the only thing you can do with now is experience it which means i'm distinguishing thinking from experiencing because you have thoughts and you have awareness your awareness can ride the wave of now you can ride the wave of now with your awareness let's all take a moment and ride the wave okay well what we'll do is uh everyone get your snappers ready we're gonna do a double snap on four just meaning i'm gonna say four and we'll do two hand we're just gonna i'll be one two three like that ready one two three ride the wave take a breath and just feel the wave of now like if you've ever seen a recording studio you know you can see the music that was played and then you see this line where the music you know the musicians recording in so it's like it's like now is coming with a trail of the music that's been recorded write it let's do it again one two three you'll start to feel something interesting with your eyes open or closed you'll start to feel something kind of interesting a bit of a buzz inside your body that's not the surprise that's just the bonus but as you learn to ride the now you get access to something that'll be the surprise the access you get but we're already starting to access it right now now it works like this future blank paper present is coming in and then the past the shredder the future and the past are conceptual and they're important because you can learn from the past and you can plan for the future and that's wonderful now the sad part and the reason why so many of us don't get to experience the now is because listen carefully is that everything that's ever gone wrong in our past to us especially as kids could happen to us in the future so like let's say i was embarrassed as a kid i could be embarrassed in the future if i felt rejected as a kid well i can be rejected now in the meaning in the future we have a part of our brain whose job it's called the default mode network it's between the right lobe and the left lobe right in the middle it's called the default mode network and that default mode network's job is to keep your brain quiet so you can stay on task with whatever's going on so for example if you're driving up the palisades parkway at no more than 65 miles per hour you're driving on palisades parkway so you think there's a view of the hudson you think there's trees you think there's deer you don't see any of them your passengers may you don't because ninety 90 of what you say 90 of what you see and it's been proven scientifically 90 of what you see is a what's called a predictive model it's predictive models of everything you saw in the past so you're driving in to the future and ninety percent of what's going on around you your brain is constructing from every other time you've driven that's why who would you prefer drives you to muncie a 16 year old or a 35 year old and the answer is the 35 year old he's got more past to shoot into the future so he's going to be really much more on task 90 of what they s what they see is just predictive models the brain produces because 10 that remaining 10 is on the bumpers of the cars in front of them because because who wants to die who wants to get in a car wreck so because we're afraid of that car wreck we're on task 10 but everyone in the passenger seat you know i get to be a passenger a lot and because hungarians their language of love is is uh gifts and service so there's actually three um there's three i have three mobile services i have uber lyft and whatsapp status hey everybody anyone can give me a ride from borough park to muncie and then it's just a matter of time as the thing lights up i'll take you i'll take you out because hungarians love to do for you it's their language of love and so i'll be in the passenger seat we're driving up to muncie i see like 15 deer on the side of the road a couple of them have giant horns and i always ask the driver did you see those deer and he always says every single time what dear he thinks i'm his wife what dear every single time he how can you not see 15 giant animals on the side of the road some of them with huge horns because we simply don't see it now listen carefully your brain that that network that shuts down the networking of your brain so that you cannot crash cannot distinguish 65 miles per hour down a highway and walking into a hasanah because though just like we're scared of being killed or maimed in a car crash we're scared of rejection we're scared of failure scared of being being exposed is not in control meaning being exposed as weak small lost victim like not in control we're scared of the unknown the unknown which is like i mean when's the last time you didn't have to deal with the unknown how's never and the last ones were scared of pain and suffering which is how we drive carefully so when i go into hasana i've got every time i've ever been embarrassed in my life at the khasna and literally like do you know do you know what um that rich people who walk their dogs you've seen people probably walk their dogs in brooklyn they're carrying around a little bag and i don't know how people do that i mean do people have no coverage for themselves you know it's ridiculous but rich people have a little more covet you know what they have they have this um they have a long stick with a little like you know like uh like a dustpan at the bottom and it's like that's the wealthy person's cleanup that after the dog it's called that if you go on amazon it's called a pooper scooper and so and so what you've been doing listen carefully what you have been doing your whole life is you've been taking listen carefully you've been taking your pooper scooper because all that stuff that happened to us in the past rejections failures being controlled by others things that happened that surprised us out of the unknown and other times we got hurt you know any booboo we got as a kid we've been taking our pooper scooper digging it into the past and flinging it onto the future and so what comes into the present is just the past in some new form why get out of bed when you can write the story yourself our lives have become so predictable because when you got your past wrapped up in your future you can guess exactly how that wedding's gonna go you can guess exactly how everything's gonna go there are ways of getting the default mode network to be quiet one of the ways that we get it to be quiet is is the is the work the work i'm doing in the possibly you that's one of the ways is that you drill into listen kevin i'm giving away something that a lot of people have never said this to the way the possibility works is we drill into the you might not understand but i'm gonna say we drill into the content that the default mode network is protecting you from and what happens is the default mode network has never had you look at that stuff directly because the way you what you're vigilant for in the future what you're protecting for in the future is different what he is and what you are is different what he is so what we do the first two days is just identify what you've been protecting for but it goes even deeper is that the personality our very personality that we've created that we've been putting forward since we're kids not since the beautiful toddler meaning we took that beautiful toddler and went that beautiful toddler was like a liability to us because when you turn three or four and you start looking around and like everybody's somebody except for you so you start to cut and paste from your mama from your tattoo from the red from the this from the teachers from the and you start you become somebody when really that beautiful child was the happiest most powerful most expressed most connected you ever were and so we kicked that little kid out and then we become somebody that somebody is how we interact with the future as the future comes in and all we do is our brain knocks out 90 of the people at tahasana so we can like find somebody that we know so we can feel safe to survive the khasna so some poor fools paying like 50 000 dollars for this khasana and everyone of the hassan is just trying to survive everyone's just trying to get through it i've met people who came to my seminar just because they were making a hasanah and they're like i'm investing in this seminar time because i want to be at the hasanah because people who do the seminar always are the people at this hasanah meaning when they make hastna they're always the people who have the most fun of the house you're there you're present now when you put the past in the past where it belongs where's the past belong everyone say in the past where's the past belong say in the past where's the past belong when you put the past where it belongs where does it belong in the past guess what happens to the future what happens to the future when the past is gone clean clear clean clear empty you have an empty future you know what your problem's been all these years your problem's been that your future has been full what's it been full of the past and when you empty out the future of the past now the future is empty but there's something even more powerful is that who am i going into the future who am i because if i'm not all the boo-boos i got and i'm not the personality that i created to protect myself from the booboos i got well i think you can all ask this question i think let's all ask it together on three ready if i'm not really all the things that happen to me when i you know the rejections the failures that's not really who i am and i'm not the personality i created to cover it up so what's the question who am i what you mean i got an empty future with a who am i for me talk about fun talk about fun i mean you mean you mean i just get to like i grew up surfing i get to actually surfing waves i get to actually surf into the future like the world's my playground you mean hashem now finally has me how many times do people ask you to do something like a tattoo mama figure a brother or something and you're like oh man that's that's that's going to be really hard and then you call a friend yeah my sister you know and it's really you know i'm really stressed why because what you got to do is outside your job description of what you how you see yourself and so now it's a hassle and you get exhausted i mean even in the things you do do the things the things you do sorry to use the word dudu again the things you do do where does your energy come from so if what you do is actually covering up who you who you feel you are which is not so positive how exhausting is doing how exhausting is it to do so it's very exhausting but when i'm it when i'm in the who am i mode so what's the answer of who am i and when i'm in that who am i mode so then well let's answer there's four steps and i want you to hear this carefully and for people who are graduates of the seminar this will be new for you because i've just added this in the last year when i no longer know who i am because i put the past in the past and now i'm just riding the wave and let's ride it one more time let's snap them forward ready we're going to ride the wave into an empty future and i don't even know who i am because if some kid embarrassed me in school during during havesake is that who i am is that who i am no you know but the problem is none of us went home that night to our parents to say guess who i found out i am i'm a loser you know parents are like you're not a loser you just got embarrassed in front of the kids but none of us said it we all went home with these big eyes sitting at the table eating our soup going like oh my gosh how will i survive the rest of my life as a loser and then within literally 24 hours you already created who you're gonna be and all of that is a major departure from the beautiful child that hashem made you to begin with the beautiful child it's all just one big divorce it's a hat meaning meaning if this is a microphone if this is the beautiful child so believing negative things about yourself is clearly ahazitza covering that up with a personality is a double khatsitsa and then what are you going to do you're just going to do because that's all the stuff you do to let everyone know you're so smart or so capable or whatever and so you do and you do and you do and you do and at the end of most people's lives they'll put on the medseva done and there will be a lot of people they'll be sad they'll cry and grief is grief but a lot of people will be like whew because of all the circus hoops that everyone has to jump through to get close to you because it's it's heavy to be close to you you make anyone who's close to you you let them know real well how to how to interact with you you've made the rules real strong you don't tell them it's a vibration don't mess with me and so we we all interact with our loved ones with all these rules that are bunch that are garbage and exhausting and that's why ladies you have that so much drama in your life i've just all i've done right now you could call this class is i've explained why there's so much drama in your life because everyone's walking around with this image of themselves bumping into everyone else's image and it gets dramatic there is no drama when you live based on the shama so we're going to snap on for you ready and we're going to ride the now one two three now ride it can't think about it if you think about it you're not there already let's do it again on four one two three feel it i'll help you feel it when you get really good at it you can give it to others well again one two three feel the energy right here in your forehead by the feeling close your eyes a sec and look up at it ride it open your eyes and do it again one two three right to an empty future with who am i here's the new material there are four answers to who am i four answers each one of them is a nuclear power plant answer one who am i a piece of god a sticker well that means certain things because once you're once you're in the summer that means that a god wanted you here so i'm wanted everyone say i'm wanted okay make sure you cooperate it's hard to say i'm wanted without your lips okay you got to move your lips once again i'm wanted um he put you here for a purpose so i'm important i'm important um he also gave you the ability to fulfill the purpose you were here so i am uniquely capable i'm uniquely he also gave you the brains to pull it off i'm uniquely brilliant okay he also manages every last little detail of your life now who would manage every detail of your life if not someone who loves you okay so say the word i'm loved okay he's also giving you like incredible creative power incredible creative power i mean if i could hook up like like if i could hook up like two jumper cables on your earlobes you could power like all of new york city okay so but but he's the power through you so everyone say i'm i'm humbly powerful okay and let's since all this is true so that makes you pretty amazing so say i'm amazing and now say i'm awesome and now after you said you're amazing and awesome i want you to imagine a giant exclamation point coming down from heaven and just landing on earth and just going bam i wouldn't say bam say say say i'm i'm amazing i'm awesome that's who i am bam that's the exclamation point okay let's try it again i'm amazing i'm awesome that's who i am one more time a little stronger i'm amazing i'm awesome that's who i am bam should watch you guys doing that you should really flip the camera that would have been great okay now we're gonna snap on four snap on four with that so now we have empty future empty future because we're riding it we're riding the wave of now and that's who i am and that's step one that was only step one of four okay number one was in the shama of who we are okay so on four on four we're gonna snap one two three feel the difference but that's who i am riding into an empty future how awesome is that totally it's a little different you sense the difference because that's who i who am i that no that's in the past that's a pretty powerful way to go in so that was number one number two is the beautiful child each person has a unique personality now you know that except where to go where is it where's your unique personality you know oh there's a good crowd any of you guys ever worked with uh hey there like three-year-olds four-year-olds five-year-olds raise your hand if you ever worked yeah you did okay great how old what five excellent and how many kids was your biggest class what four-year-olds how many kids 32 four-year-olds you're huge bro we got 50 girls watching 50 kids in this place all we needed was you so so you watched 32 for four years this guy's got broad shoulders but here's the question listen up listen up i want to try this before i ask you was anyone here ever a rabbit of of kita kitajes yes good excellent i was glad i got a big crowd um how many kids okay 20. fine you ready for this okay what's your name mother i knew that and you're dope okay ready were any of those two kids the same was there even overlap like one kid was even a little the same there's no overlap the uh oh you didn't hear his answer sorry he went can you say no and said were any of those two kids the same okay now david you ready for this were any of those two kids different yes that's because you're a good mechanic but you know what i'm talking about is that at that age girls do it too at that age you do everything you can to be like all the other kids in fact if you even have one bit of uniqueness sticking out you'll amputate it you're self-amputating at that age the beautiful child is who mordre had in his classes over there before they lost it it's your special unique personality now once again is there any greater example than me meaning did you notice that my beautiful child's always playing who knows me pretty well you know me pretty well what do you say rabbi sable would you say my beautiful child's playing always have you ever seen me not have my beautiful child playing my beautiful child is always playing always playing by the way he was not playing for like 30 years i only when i was 33 years old i had to go back and get him and believe me i cried bitter tears and it was not easy to retrieve my beautiful child but then i started playing when i was 20 i read in a book to look in a mirror it was just an exercise in a book it it to look in a mirror and say i love you i really love you at yourself in the mirror it said if you break the mirror spit on the mirror can't say it or you said it but you didn't mean it then you have to say i'm willing to learn to love you it to i had to say the second one obviously it took me five weeks twice a day to say i'm willing to learn to love you before i could get the words out to say i love you i really love you i left that kid so in the dust you have no idea all of us did that little kid was a liability to us in a world of people who were somebody which is crazy because every time you open up any book from bereishis till all the way through every safer maksha the whole point of the book is bittel to get you back to your beautiful child hashem created your personality it's so gorgeous but sadly many of us have to go back and do the work to go get it we got to retrieve it it's like if you were going for shabbos but the town you got to get to is up this big mountain and you got to get over the mountain and you see there's not enough gas we're like we're not going to get over the mountain we're not going to make it for shabbos so what do you do your wife's like i got an idea keep driving i'll start throwing heavy things out the window the car will be lighter you're like there goes your strainer there goes the suitcases there goes this there goes that she's not throwing the child we did and now we're on the other side of the hill trying to figure out what happened to the beautiful child in us do you know you know what it's like to have employees who have their child intact do you know what it's like to be married to someone whose child's intact do you know what it's like to be a to have a boss whose child's intact you know what pleasure that is it's their actual personality it's like authentic it's like being authentic like how awesome is it to be authentic because when you've got some like you know personality you created so no one should know something that wasn't even true there's nothing authentic it's like it takes a lot of energy just to get close to you and even then it's not even you stage stage one sec stage one is nishama stage two is the beautiful child stage three is your choice every person has different characters your questions and nephesh come from the esther spheros hashem created the world with the esther spheros so every person has this has a sphere that's unique to them and it's very easy to find your sphere super easy because you're either flow or structure certain people are flow a certain people are structure i'm flow that's why when every time uh one of the rap roomie ringgold keeps coming to the door to tell me what time it is he knows me he knows i have no idea what time it is so everyone so i come to the door tell me how many minutes because i'm flow but there are structure types so that's that's the whole right kav which is and then there's the whole left which is structure beena gevora and haute you're one or the other that's all they got now the other thing is your usb cable interface to the world you're either one intellectual or you're like me two interpersonal or you're like you know the guard over there ayal is uh the israeli security guard you're three which is instinctual you're more physical instinctual intellectual interpersonal instinctual chabad or nahi that's your options now we have all three so i'm a two three one brochure am i married to two three one so we both mostly like to connect talking we both love to do you know hikes together do yoga together like we love doing things together physical and the last is intellectual she's more intellectual than me but whatever your settings are is your and i'm flow so if i'm flo and i'm a two three one that means i'm hesed that's my mida so i'm surprised and once you know it there's certain jobs someone who's made us a visit there's certain jobs that you take all those wealthy guys in wall street those guys are all hoed meaning they're instinctual guys they got their finger on the pulse of the markets and their structure they understand numbers they're all hoed guys you try to talk to them about something intellectual they're just like who cares it means nothing to them and it's so funny because those guys have been funding the balchuva movement all these years and the rabbis the baltimore movement think that their service to do for the for the donors is to learn with them when you're learning with a wall street guy who's hoed meaning he's he's just an instinct guy he's not interested in all the makshava that some rabbi wants to teach them now number three is your koi khasanah fish so again who am i number one nishama number two the beautiful child number three you're called chris nefish now i have videos on tour anytime that you can just listen to that are are it's a whole questionnaire experience to figure out your question fish so that you can get it dialed in and again it comes with specific jobs specific likes and interests and how to work it out with a spouse who might have different numbers meaning they're another or another one they're not your same spirit and number four is to be a cli for hashem is that whoever you call me into being i am hashem always has us i mean you know you're being asked to do things all the time either by people or you're always got to like be doing something we're hidden we're not sitting in the top of mountain meditating on now we're busy and so whatever task you ever go into there's always a being you can create for that task so whoever god calls me into being i am as opposed to you having to do some tasks that's exhausting you and you're complaining to your best friend that you're so exhausted oh you must be so exhausted but no whatever you get called into being whatever god calls me into being i am i have a resource state for everything oh i got to go speak to my minha hell so for most people he's called he's not calling me to help for nothing min ha hell he's from hell he's the guy from hell but i have a being that i can declare for the 15 minutes with the minute hell of who i am as a resource state for that meeting oh i got a business meeting whoever you call me into being i am and i can declare who i am into that business meeting and do an amazing job even if it's the opposite of my spheros of my personality i'm sorry my cochlear so i'm just going to review them real quick the nishama the beautiful child the cochasana fish and then the i'm just a cleat in the hand of god and whoever he calls me into being i am i could be a janitor i could be the guy who dries the dishes while my wife does them yeah i can be a melek for my family i it's just whoever he calls me into being he's got me mosher bainu was the ultimate klee he can shepherd sheep or he could shepherd a whole nation for 40 years whoever you call me into being i am okay so we're gonna stamp on four one two three close your eyes a moment and whisper the words whoever you call me into being i am whisper the words say it louder whoever you call me into being i am keep your eyes closed snap on four one two three whoever you call me into being i am open your palms a little bit like towards schmeim you know rest them on your legs wherever you want and say the words whoever you call me into being i am at your service ride the now as you do this last time eyes open one two three let's do it together on four one two three the surprise is that this is to vacus take a moment and realize that when people talk about devecus you're experiencing it right now stop waiting for it and start experiencing it stop postponing it one two three doesn't get better than this doesn't get better than this like what's missing in your life right now nothing just like the beautiful child beautiful child doesn't get bored just present nothing that was the whole point i don't know if you were here when we started we're catching our brain from hijacking our presence by getting it to be quiet so we're not thinking anything well you probably weren't either yeah you weren't supposed to be thinking last time one two i three want to give everyone a bracha to live very rich and highly empowered gorgeous lives and don't complain whatever complains remains anything you're complaining about is going to keep going whatever you resist persists the opposite when you just be present and be real and authentic your life's such a process may we all be blessed to live mamish life abroad you've just experienced another torah class brought to you by torahanytime.com