Self doubt is completely irrational

[Music] Shh Shalom and welcome to Asia tour practical spirituality here in the old city of jerusalem overlooking the western wall and we're just opening today with a quick thought of the moving to Israel because a gentlemen in this classroom has just moved to Israel officially everything that grated and and so when you when you move to Israel it's it's a there's two ways you can do it because we learn from the 12 spies that came into Israel and a reconnaissance mission that you can come here to see how you're gonna do it and then there's a the way the ten spies that created all kinds of havoc that we're still suffering till this day for was create was figuring out if you can do it if you come to Israel trying to figure out if you can move to Israel Israel gross pointed ears and things it will look so disastrous it will it will look like a place you could never make it literally it'll look like a place where you just will never make it and gee wasn't life easier where I'm from you know and if on the other hand you come like Joshua yoshua and and khaliv who were the other two spies who came to check out the land they were just coming to see how they would do it just see how they would do it it's not like God who just decimated you know forty years ago the biggest civilization in history without one Jew even lifting a finger the biggest civilization of Israel was leveled into rubble by the God of Israel a you think you think you can't handle moving into a land that was promised by that same God like it's not gonna be a big problem it's fine to go in the land and check out how you'll do it but not if you can do it but somehow those ten spies came with the wrong intentions and because they had the wrong intentions as I said the land group pointed ears and thanks and they came back with a bad report saying that well we can't do it we just the the cities are fortified the armies are strong at seven four Nations they're vicious and they are dangerous and and we just cannot do it and the Jewish people cried all night that night and that became the night of tears it's called tisha ba of where the Jewish people cry every year in the summertime on the ninth of of where that year has become a day of crying ever since and the first and second temples were destroyed on that day and it just became this eternal calamity and what was the big deal the big deal was that that all the juice not all the Jews the women didn't by the way gonna leave it for those women the women did not believe the spies only the men believed it and the men got freed I mean I guess and someone explained about white a min because they were the ones who would have to fight but but the but in the end the men cried but throughout the night oh poor us and then and that became like their curse because they are all everyman that cried that night had to die in the desert they were not gonna make it into the Land of Israel and they spent the next you know that's why by the one of the reason we were in the desert from 40 years we had to wait till they died Wednesday at all died that whole generation of men had died so then we could go into the land who were going into land with all the kids who were there at that time all the ladies that were there at that time all the elderly and all the people who didn't cry got to live to see obviously Joshua and Kalle have got to go in the land and they anyone who didn't buy it got to go into the land who didn't buy the you know the this report now by the way it wasn't an inaccurate report it was formidable it was it was probably impossible to conquer the land they pride they probably knew what they were saying and they were right that it would be on any physical level impossible so it wasn't like they were lying they weren't like trying to mess everybody up they were being realists but but but to quote shimon peres which i almost I don't think ever have maybe once or twice in my life so I shouldn't say never but to coach him in Paris he said that anyone who maybe it wasn't shooting Paris whether it is Aviva she's in charge of when things are funny and even and even when they're not anyway but the word the words in one of our prime ministers I remember anyone who doesn't believe in mirror ow anyone in Israel who doesn't believe in miracles is not a realist understand those spies were realists and they didn't come into the land okay the Joshua and Khalid who said yeah it's gonna be rough but God could do this they were they believed in miracles and they were the realists they were the true realist because it true realist knows that by the way you know this in your own life all of us know this in your own life you know have you ever gone hungry and you're alive you ever gonna hungry I don't think you understood that there's being hungry and then there's going hungry you've never gone hungry like four days of hunger like scraping things out of cans and garbage garbage dumpsters and stuff that never happened to you did it okay but none asked you to answer a question honestly you ever worried about your producer like in your life like how it's gonna be and what's gonna happen in there are you gonna be okay yeah yes I have worried about my livelihood well listen if you had been if you had been as a child bit by a cat which I know cats don't bite people but they scratch people but let's just a you got bit by a cat now I asked you are you afraid of cats and you if you were to say yes well that would be understandable because you had an experience of having been bit by a cat so perhaps that would make sense to be a little afraid of cats but for a woman who's never gone hungry to spend any time worrying about her food and where she's her livelihood will come from when it's never ever been a problem so the so that would be called a non realist now who's me you're not real you're you're in your you're partially crazy but don't worry watch this everyone raise your hands if you would have wound up in the same boat crazy if you would've went in the whole room I'm just picking on you everybody else have everyone else you know and I myself I have to admit there are times which is like just if you knew my if you watched my bank account you'd really say that's crazy but but the UM but I myself have wondered how I'm gonna make it I mean and I got any kids so I've already married to off which is amazing six to go I got quite an exit plan now you have that many kids you need an exit plan ya know thirty eight-year-old long-haired guys smoking pot in this baby boy room watching you know playing uh you know kill them videos you know not happening when you have eight kids man you need an exit plan which is very good for the kids because that means because if you're good you're the one marrying them off well if you're marrying off your children so then you must take good care of them so you have good Slayer hey Sakura merchandise they have good merchandise you understand your kids run wild nobody wants them so now you're stuck you got it you got you had a great entry plan you know be fruitful multiply everyone loves that Mitzvah and your entry plan was no big deal but your exit plan stinks so you need to take very good care of those kids keep a strong eye on them that's why that's why the that a son in law and Yiddish is called ad you know why because they're witnesses their testimony what are they testimony their testimony that the father took care of his daughters and made sure they didn't wind up you know throw him to the wolves even that was supposed to be a pregnant pause no yeah I noticed that no no uh-uh maybe uh-oh I'll give it like a trump kind of that you know that'll mean it's not a laugher okay so I just watched my right hand so anyway but they're the the groom of a mini I to men's so far that have joined my family by marrying my daughters and they're they're called testimony literally I thought I'm they're called that like someone will tell me I saw your testimony today here all right said has anyone see my testimony in this shul because you know 500 people in there you know they're called testimony because their testimony that we took care of our daughters both before is the you know the as saleable merchandise that we sell them and and then but meaning they were they were they were kept pure enough that someone would want to marry them and then and then and then the other is the the other is the testimony that we didn't just leave them waiting and hanging around you know like how you supposed to marry yourself up I mean it's basically impossible hey this isn't my next daughter in line how you doing welcome let's find you see sit next to this lady here is that your stuff on the chair yeah you'd be starting to wonder right nine I have three boys and three lies yeah I got a few boys ones in Europe ran out of money he's he's he's really he's singing in a choir for the High Holidays in Budapest but he took a little trip to Vienna and he found it to be cold there and didn't have enough clothes so you send me a little SOS - what's what's happening now you're by the way we're gonna be sending 1/8 money on whatsapp like this year yeah what's that's going cash now yeah so what is it called fast-track venmo whatever zel yeah you need a little dough to buy some woman clothes now he's with this whole gang of boys over there they're quiet the choir boys I don't know if you want to talk about choir boys in Europe right now that's a that's a adverse charge subject you know but these choir boys are all in their 20s and they're just considered kids with rental cars and free food and hotel rooms for the next 10 days so watch out yeah I don't think there's gonna be any beer left in Budapest by the time they're out of there now anyway so the amazing thing is that God's been totally taking care of you all these years and not only you but everyone what do you think you're like some like you're some like setup crowd that I brought in that are like the people who God perfectly took care of every year yeah got them perfectly taking care of everyone ever here and and and and the wild thing is is once you really meet when you meet someone who actually did go hungry you've met a teacher you've been there you've met and you met a teacher now you met a teacher and tell me are you not a teacher that's what I was we got one guy went hungry and now he's a teacher and I'll tell you very nice and you can teach another how to do that and and I'll tell you I these eyes have my own eyes these eyes I know they look a little cat scratched from maybe some sad times but really most of the cat scratches oh my eyes are from staring into the afternoon Sun every single afternoon for 12:00 you're straight cuz when you surf on the west coast the Sun sets on your face for hours and hours cold saltwater and squinting into the Sun just trying to make out the waves you know which you may not think it's a very big deal but when the waves are you know twenty feet I you're really trying to make them out so you don't wind up in trouble and so I did that every day for twelve years straight every single afternoon almost without exception and and that's how by the way I have two brothers older than me when six years older ones three years older me no matter where we went once I had been doing that enough years everywhere we went they were sure I was the oldest of my brothers it's like here I'm 20 years old I got a 26 year old brother and everyone just thinks I'm older than him because of all those years staring into the Sun but the but that also has a little bit to do with his maturity okay he's 56 now and if you invite him to a house party he'll be playing with the kids you know like like throwing them into the swimming pool and stuff and all kinds of other things like that he's he's one of these people that just never grew up and but my kids love them because there's a lot of fun he's here usually every pore which is great hi ladies table for twos is all I can offer you I'm sorry to put you right in front that's just the brakes when you can go around me so anyway where was I at I forget resin I'm not asking you anyway sort of spies yeah our job is never to see if we can make it our jobs just to watch just a watch and be pinched watching shut up watching shut up that's what the time just quote the turret it says you'll see and then it says about ten taka retune and you will be silent well to 2019 what's a better way of saying you'll be silent shut up which doesn't mean just shutting up your mouth you got to shut up your mind that worries the mind that worries you no hear you've been so cared for all these years how dare you worry and and you know it's embarrassing in front of God we all have to be deeply embarrassed in front of God hey doing welcome Shalom there's a seat right there yeah just move your stuff we all have to be embarrassed in front of God because the because here gods like totally got your back all these years but totally and that's embarrassing to have doubt then he's gonna get your back moving forward it's pretty embarrassing and so you know it's a little weird that we even do that maybe it's built it maybe it's not maybe we shouldn't be embarrassed maybe it's built in you know like every animals hardwired for its survival maybe that's just our instinct like we're just hardware for a survival and God won't be so much upset that we worry about our our well-being because we're hardwired to worry about these things could be so then it makes me think about like we're also hardwired for reproduction that you better worry about you know we got it like that you can't just sit down and watch it happen right there it doesn't say shut up there it says go find a spouse and and more important than finding a spouse is making sure you're someone worth marrying because I'm sure most people in this room no offense I mean you all seem like lovely people but anyone who want to marry you should be slapped so now you're just many of you just aren't really marriage material you know you will be but only if you say you're not you know I mean why punish some person with you you know and you know yeah everyone knows their stuff you know your stuff and we got a little girl engaged back here yeah there she goes yeah but you know deep down what are you getting himself into and I happen to know him a lot better and I know you by the way and and you know you know deep down what you're getting him into and and he himself and he himself you know it would bless him for turning a blind eye you know listen for totally ignoring what he may be getting himself in no because he's not sure exactly but uh yeah what's up yeah thank you sorry that got left open yeah minimum requirements okay just not someone K yeah how you doing there's a seat right there and the mix of dude and black so yeah so that the minimum requirements that's funny is asking about minimum requirement does they don't wanna know the minimum crime he said alive did you mean that as a joke yeah stability like emotional or financial stability stability I think that a stability is a good thing I think it's a good thing I don't think it's an absolute requirement like my wife for example she married a very unstable man I'm a more spiritual type which means you know my emotional moves are like it looks a lot like a heartbeat monitor yeah I got move around a lot spiritual people tend to have large fluctuations seriously serious amplitudes what you mean how do I know that and reason why you say what I don't know yeah I studied quite a bit about this stuff and the I've also found that the more spirit I'm here receiving thousands of people here for 28 years I haven't budged for 28 years from this spot if I get to meet a lot a lot of people and there was a time where we're really meeting a lot a lot of people and I always found that the more spiritual the person the bigger the amplitudes that that person would be dealing with anyway so she married a very spiritual person she also married someone who hasn't a clue rabbi this is your seat right here I'm seating good she doesn't have a clue she didn't have a clue I didn't have a clue I was gonna make a living and so we spent our first seven years in we spent our first seven years in two rooms when I say two rooms there was a little room with a table where we could eat and of course put as many guests as possible in there and then we had another little room which bed for us or no and then we had a partition and an accordion partition between us and the kids in that room that you know didn't even have a wall you know it's just an accordion petition about that high and we lived that way for seven years so there was nothing stable the only thing the only thing stable was our faith in God and that was more stable than anything else our faith in God was very stable that was the stability so I would say the minimum requirement is faith in God and the the other thing that'd be really good is is not gonna go on and on about this but the other thing that'd be really good and get married just to take off that back leg there's a guy coming here's the spot for you right here in the middle the other thing that'd be really good is to just careful not to bump the table is to it's to have your stuff in order meaning your your crazy stuff that would be is some worth working on yeah so so maturity is probably an important thing and anyway but you just want your stuff worked out that's all now some of you're looking at me like how am I supposed to get all my stuff worked out so the way you get your stuff worked out is by allowing a professional to introduce great chaos allowing a professional what's up standing room only now you stand if you want you want to allow someone who's at like a world class professional ready for this listen carefully and when allows someone who's a world class professional like our serious professional to introduce such an intense amount of chaos into your life till you're shaken to your very foundations of reality are shaken and when you've been properly shaken what will happen is a lot of your mishegoss a lot of your craziness will shake off and then and you that experience whatever that experience will be you'll be so desperate for order so you've been so badly shaken that you will by the way this is not for anyone who has any slight propensity towards schizophrenia to have this level of intense shakeups but then what after the shake up what will happen you'll be desperate for order out of that chaos because chaos and order like you can only take so much gale but you want to take enough chaos that you've fallen apart entirely and then you'll be desperate to reorder your life and you'll notice is something amazing that way when you reorder your life a lot of your craziness meaning the stupid stuff that that's not fair to marry someone with or race children with will no longer be part of your order you will have shaken it from the order of your life see your issue and why it's why you're a liability to Mary is because you have a lot of your craziness within the order of your life and human beings are very philosophical so you've created a whole a whole world of why it's like that but those Y's are what hold it in place meaning you've created a giant narrative that's a whole mythology around your craziness around what a liability you are but somehow you being crazy and a total liability with a bunch of reasons why makes all the sense in the world to you like it's explainable like as long as you can explain it to a therapist you're off the hook and someone has to marry it someone has to marry it the other option is to have the highly discomfortable experience of having someone who knows what they're doing introduce a tremendous amount of cast into your system shake you to your foundations get you completely lost and once you're totally lost you can now spring back to order because you're just gonna zai said before you'll be desperate to get your order back in your life and you'll notice just during the shake-up that the stuff that store the stories you've been stuck in are no longer worth Talent you just won't be interested in those stories anymore and this is why for example I don't trust people who don't drink alcohol no because they're the ultimate expression of someone who's taken themselves too damn seriously and they're they're probably really rough to be in a family with there to be the child over to be married to or you know they're really in some narrative and they're stuck in there big time and why do you think why do you think God commands us every Shabbat on our holy day that you first quaff a glass of wine before anything happens you know you literally like you come back from synagogue and you quaff a cup of alcohol but I know people who will drink grape juice and think they're somehow getting away with that and then no one gets away with that our our sages did not say drink juice okay as they just said drink wine and learn to laugh at yourself loosen shake off that shake off the this outer crust of garbage that nobody wants or needs and especially you especially you I mean think about it forget the fact that you're a liability to your spouse who are you the biggest liability to yourself like you have to realize you live with yourself all the time you ever notice that like you can't get away from it it's crazy you can't get away from like your spouse you know they could at least go to work you know they at least get out from you you know there is a way out and you good luck getting out of you you know that's why I'm saying I recommend that you know go to a highly trained professional so so the there are substances that shake off unwanted order like that those are the things like like psychedelic plant medicines and other compounds are are considered the the most you know at least something you can ingest that would cause that kind of shake up all those would cause that kind of shake now the I wish I could offer you all a seminar I I myself lead seminars like this that's why I'm talking about it with authority because I've been doing it for 18 years I have 8,000 graduates but my next seminar is in New York I have one in New York City I don't even know when the 10th yeah because someone actually sent me an email just now I won in New York City on the 10th of what some month after this one 10th of November and I have one what's gonna be the following Sunday the 17th if the 10th is Sunday is that make the next one the 17th yes thank you the 17th in a place called Muncie New York up in the woods up there mistakes and then and you know what not a following week which would be the 21st but the 28th of November I have a program for men it'll be men and women in Muncie only men in Brooklyn men and women in Muncie separate obviously and then Jerusalem's gonna be on the 28th is that a Sunday may be sent November 28 how am i doing my math but I've got a men's seminar November 20 thank you very much of me about appreciate that ok back to us so maybe we are off the hook because we're hard we are hard-wired for survival and maybe you do need it for getting married you got to get to work on that for your survival you can just watch there's not much you got to do for your own survival you know you can you can really start no offense but you could start skipping meals you know I don't think you really need to eat as much as you've been eating you can you can already like start skipping them okay I skipped probably at least a meal I don't know my daughter is here how many meals I skip a day you'd be very proud of me I had a tuna fish sandwich today and it was only because the guy I was meeting was late so I said I'm gonna do something to make my wife and daughters proud and I went to our store and bought a tuna fish sandwich so anyway but just eat like do you see what keeps your body alive that's it give your body a break you know starve it of starve your body a little especially some of those stuff things that people are eating today um could be actually causing our home and there are even diets for people who have cancer god forbid that they starve the cancer out I forget what it well there's one food they particularly avoid and I forget what it was sugar and fat water fasting but you can literally you can literally starve those mutant you know rebellious cells in the body and anyways but the good way to maintain your health is just kind of skip meals a bit here and there and drink water and take to keep a good eye on your body that here that you're just giving it the foods at once and also before you eat hold the food a moment and ask yourself the question not how much you want it in your mouth just ask yourself how much do I want this in my body how much I want this taking a little hotel room for the next yeah and you don't I don't just let anyone come over to my house and sleep over you know it's a we're gonna think it through whether you're invited to sleep over you know so so but maybe you should hold food in the future and say what is this how much I want this in my body I'm gonna try that ever raise your right hand pretend this piece of food in there and say together how much do I want this in my body yeah you didn't do it that's right let's try it again one to the how much do I want this in my body cuz you are what you eat and that thing's gonna become you and and by the way I think you should eat a lot a lot meaning a lot of things just in very little quantity like for example I mean think about it if you are what you eat and there's a piece of there's it there's a little bird and it somehow winds up lucky enough to get slaughtered and eaten by me yeah so now that bird you know I don't know what you call it bird Helen Florence I don't know what you call it birds so the M anyway but little Helen over there has become rabbi Yom toasters because once she's digested and now in my bones my blood my arteries at my and my organs and like that chickens become me you know and and now I'm doing mitzvahs and I'm singing songs on Chavez I mean that bird before all I could do was you know what birds what our chickens make noise man ya know now it's like you know go so I know he I'm Chavez I'm is that me yeah so it's the birds now singing songs to God it's singing songs to God like that's what you want to do with that bird now how much you think you have to eat of the bird to get it singing the answer answer is like well little by little take one little bite of the bird I think you could probably get a piece of salmon singing just by poking it yeah now you poke it and put a little in Salmons good good food although you got to don't want to over eat it cause of mercury and stuff but me but definitely a piece of Sam and a little piece of chicken raised up you know you can get your vegetation singing to like eat an apple today and next thing you know your Apple is praying to God you know because you could be using that that's those simple sugars are gonna go right in your bloodstream and you're gonna go pray and and you've maybe you go to the western wall after you eat your Apple I would even think about maybe saving an apple just for the western wall and eat it right before you go and then let it let its juices pray to God through you but this is how Jews actually you should know this is how Jews historically saw themselves we saw ourselves as as conduits as as conduits to God that that by us fixing and we're really fixing that food I mean first we're making sure if it was grown in Israel that it's been tithed properly otherwise it's like being pork and what is the difference between eating an untied celery stick meaning it wasn't portioned out to the Kohen the priest and the Levite lady or the poor you got to tie this stuff but what is the difference between a celery stick and a piece of pork meaning an untied celery stick if you didn't separate out the other set a little portion that goes to the gifts by the way there's only produce grown in Israel but if you didn't tie that out what's the difference between that and a piece of pork you're basically eating pork and then next time you think like Oh wonder though if the hub what do they have to have kosher certificates on a vegetable stand you know people just see that and have no idea what's going on of it the answer is because we don't eat pork and we want to make sure that me tweet is from kosher animals and slaughtered properly and we also want to make sure our vegetation was tithed properly it was always funny when you get a Shabbos guest and he comes in with a bag full of fruit he's like here you go we're just kind of like holding a bag full of fruit really where did you buy this like what does it matter and we're like they have to understand if it's untied you can't even move it so you're gonna have to stand there the rest of Chavez now you can drop it squish and so it's like once or twice a year someone comes with a bag of fruit from like God knows where you know and they themselves I've no idea where they can't figure out why they're getting interrogated you know you bring a gift and you get twenty questions wine also you gotta be careful with wine so think how we live here thank God we're here now regarding your livelihood yeah you got to do something but you know you have to do much but with marriage you got to do a lot to get to be marriage marriage Abel there you got a push hard these are two instincts that we have survived on reproduction and when it comes to marriage you got to be like super diligent super diligent when it comes to earning a living since God never let you down any price not going to and lastly is if you want the blessing of the land of Israel is is if you come into this land small I'm back to your honor now because you made alia if you come into this land if you're coming to this land is a full commitment so you know just to hear God you know Schmoyer just to hear God and yo you will be blessed you'll be blessed financially and whatever you have is what you need you'll be just perfect God does keep the Israeli society unless you're in high-tech he does keep Israeli society pretty cool he keeps us pretty close to the bone here is it meaning God keeps us pretty close to the moon and but that's a good thing most people don't survive well I've just officially like stopped being mean to wealthy people because I realized it was coming from it wasn't coming from a good place I was being a little rough with wealthy people in them I finally realized that I was having my own reaction you know from my capitalist father you know and kind of taking it out on wealthy people but wealthy people are people too but what I have discovered is that some of my best friends are wealthy so what I haven't found those that wealthy people are some of the loneliest people and they're they're also some of the most fearful and their trust levels very low when your trust levels low you have no currency for relationship and the currency of relationship like the actual current is trust you all know that you'll notice you only open your heart with someone as much as you can trust they have they I think they've been on one too many exclusive vacations what's the word exclusive come from the word comes from the word exclude yeah you're gonna pay to play in those circles but after a while you find yourself and your own padded cell some of these people even wind up I've dealt with many of them that sadly have wound up with social social anxiety I'm pretty in a pretty big way like to the point of pathology almost and so God keeps the nation of Israel pretty close to the bone and it keeps us honest most people don't do too well with wealth it's probably been the worst thing that ever happened with the Jewish people you know we survived thousands of years of poverty as a nation as a tribe that was true to its ancestral heritage but you know after World War two when all that wealth hit American Jewry European Jewry the you know we've already had we've already had six million Jews the amount killed in the Holocaust we've already had six million Jews as of ten years ago disappear from calling themselves Jewish on the US Census you understand though as many died in the Holocaust have already disappeared from this census and not saying we can blame that all in wealth but it was a player big time because the American Dream is about wealth and the American Dream is the Jewish nightmare and one of the beauties of living the land of Israel is as God gives each person it's like man I like each family gets the right amount outside their door you know like the Jews in the desert everyone wound up with the right amount outside their door and it really works that way but it really works that way and you'll see strange things you'll like for example what's your name mark you'll be making more than anybody in your neighborhood one day and you'll still wind up with nothing at the end of the year and but you're you might have eaten nicer foods I don't know but you know and the guy next you also wound up with whatever he needed and he made a fraction and you both wound up with like everything equals zero at the end God just makes it tap in that way and it keeps you honest keeps you real you're still engaged with the world and the people around you and our nation stays united so no no such thing as exclusive here if there is some exclusive I get nauseous I just had had a student get married in a very exclusive wedding two weeks ago and I was just like I'm they live the guy is that the bouncers at the door of the wedding I'm invited to like literally look me up and down were about to bounce me but behind me my wife's a little short so I didn't see like right behind me waiting at the door she just filed him right behind me was my wife like totally decked out and they were just like they looked at me and they're like you know there they were you could see it was already reaching for like a UH a a taser gun or something you know let's just tase him before even thinks to come into this wedding you know and then they see my wife and they're just like go right ahead you can go to me you can go to you can escort her that kind of stuff makes me I'm is real high so not to lie oh sorry it's Thursday always for