Rabbi Yom Tov Practical Spirituality: Star of David and the Kabbalistic Unity of Couples

a shooter in the old city of jerusalem overlooking the Temple Mount today we're going to be talking a little bit about the Star of David hopefully this pin has some as some action uh do we have someone who's a bit artistic here someone willing to draw a Star of David cuz my star David is gonna come out a little strange I'd like it as symmetrical as possible please mayor it's here for my lovely assistant mayor later I'll be cutting him in half you did really good and if you don't mind please also is there another coat in the room excellent if you don't mind bringing in all those triangles inward so they all they should all meet perfectly in the middle I think we can just draw the lines [Music] [Applause] okay the this object is a seven sided object and seven sides are seven sides obviously including the center is is what's going on in the physical world the physical world is always working on seventh and sevens have six and then seven so star David is six points but they all when they all fold in it's the seventh it's the internal and sevens are really where everything takes place for example you're in the middle right now of the space of a seven one two three four five six meaning the walls and the ceiling sevens the middle you're in the seven so you're almost always in the seven you know there's bottles also the waters inside the seventh dimension here right this it's got sides seven sides in the middle the that's basically going on going on all the time also your own body has these seven planes going on in your inner self is the seventh seven is the internal and it is it is the truth meaning meaning this the center of this which is the seven the center of it if you look at the Star of David it's really just everything unfolded so each of those six is really unfelt unfolded but when they're all in an en folded when they're in folded into the middle so then you're you're in the seven this is uh this is also Shabbos Shabbos is is the center of it all you could call that the first day second day third day fourth day 56 day in the seventh we call every day of the week we call it Shabbos so you have hi ladies there's two seats here one there and one there if you don't mind sitting in those seats before someone else walks in and you have to move so sevens are we actually call each day of the week then we like today's Yom SHANY shall Shabbos the second day of Shabbos so that would be this day of Shabbos so it's right now we're in the unfolding of the second day of shadows and there's the third day of shadows and so each day's working according to to Shabbos now sevens are sevens are what happens in all of nature everything in nature is working based on the seven system the moon the moon works in sevens the weekdays are in sevens not arbitrarily - there's been societies that tried something other than a seven-day week and it did not work the weekdays and sevens the solar calendar works in sevens the reproductive cycle inside a woman works in sevens the rainbow is seven colors the octave of music is sevens as well one two three four five six seven one it's sevens also everything really in the natural world is sevens and the six which is the number of the days of the week before Shabbos ins also the the corners of the or the points of the Jewish star the six is an instance an unstable reality it is a it is in Hebrew the word for six of inches-6 is a it's a pure vector it's just a vector it's just a line and the Zion she calls this is the letter of completion when you put it together if you had another valve connecting above to Zion and you put another above there connecting it to each other so then you get the letter eight which is beyond nature supernatural and it's also the shape of a hoof so if you see yeah yeah so these that was my best rendition that's why I smeared me that's why I asked mayor to draw the star any but that's the couple under the hoop of which is the man male is six he's the vector and the female is that is designed which is the natural the grounded the completed and women represent that level of completion well as men are the are the vector and they're they're incomplete the the males wrapped seven times that's filling around their arms representing the the feminine and the completion men have all these different things that are to complete them and one of them is circumcision on the above the that part of a man's body is called the love of the man and that's the actual connection that's called above how he bore the love of connection and that connector is it requires completion through circumcision which is the covenant with God and the the the love is called the love of connection also because the letter actually means connection it's it means and the letter of love means and when you say zev is that means this and that it's the connector in the Hebrew and when you put them together and you put them together it equals thirteen which is the numerical value of the word which is love one plus five plus two plus five equals thirteen and which is by no coincidence the same letter the same numerical value of the word odd or too high this one plus eight plus four which equals thirteen which is a bob marley's on one line let's sing that so Marley is one is singing this song one love which has the same numerical value one and love so you can think about that when you say Shama and and you know anytime you're talking about like for example shmoney Esther you say la mancha moba of the Munch mo bhava means for the sake of his name in love bit uh hava in love so meaning we're asking God to bring Redemption for the sake of his name in love but it also could be in oneness in oneness bhava there's also the miracle of the word Baba's also in oneness we're asking me for the sake of the oneness why why his name and oneness because the whole world's made of his names but it's multiple names so yeah and you're they're all locked into physicality so you can't see you know since the name that's why we say when we're talking about redemption we say by Omaha who here has shemitah that Hashem will be one which is true he's one but what also when redemption comes not only will his name be what knowing would he be one which he's always been but also ooh Shmuel and his name Shmuel will be one as well Network Shamu Shamu his name which is 300 plus 40 plus 6 equals 346 that that'll also be one just like his will to create the world God's wrath song means we'll miss in his name you'll notice that redstone is 200 plus 90 plus 6 plus 50 close how much 346 which is God's will but God's will in creation well it gets broken up meaning his name gets broken up in the creation you can't you don't see Hashem in creation everything's everything is scattered out into the you know the different points of creation everything gets its separated out in the physical world which is exactly what takes place with us when we're in the the vectors of creation the six the vectors of creation so with meaning when we're spending our weekdays doing commerce and pressing buttons and doing emails and whatsapp so whatever so it's quite scattering it's quite a scattering they know ideally you'd be always acting externally based on your inner being that's its you know connection but people tend to get scattered out during the six days and what happens is we wind up you know scattered out just like God's name is scattered out you'll also notice that just like God's name gets scattered out will get scattered out God's will is not so scattered out but our will is very scattered out like if you just think about your own priorities and things you want in the world they're they're they're pretty confusing and and scattered in also have you ever figured out like your top four priorities and then looked at the hours of your day to see if they're matching up that you've got everything that was your day spent spent developing the priorities and have you ever even taken the time to figure out if your priorities are your priorities or someone else's like how do you know how do you know your priorities are your priorities maybe they're your parents priorities maybe there you know your your educational systems priorities or maybe they're a priority of society or community or government by the way there's nothing wrong with those they may be great but you do have to take the time to see how much you yourself identify and resonate with these things because if you're not resonating with if your priorities are scattered so then your desires are scattered and we and when are when that's scattered out if we don't have that focus and our schedule doesn't reflect meaning our time spent developing it doesn't reflect our main priority so then we must make a shift we have to shift things to make sure we're doing what's gonna be best moving us towards the goal of our lives no any questions no questions no there's a lot I'd like to say about the shape of this this but I maybe you guys know more than I do there there's something about that shape that is the ultimate balance of shapes it's the ultimate I wish I knew more to say about this I just you'd have to know physics and stuff like that to know why this shape is there but it shows up in the mystical state meaning if you were able to go into a deep meditative mystical state to the point of visions things would start showing up in the shape of the mug in daavid which is really bizarre but you'll notice that that this shape is a common shape to indigenous tribal traditions they didn't use it like we use I mean we use it as a icon like its iconic to us of the nation of Israel they'll use it more as a mystical symbol in their traditions it's not necessarily their their emblem but - oh yeah for sure for sure well they're also playing around with parallel worlds any any indigenous culture that has has mystical that they're going into a mystical state which includes the dark stuff you'll find this shape is going to be there meaning if you suddenly were in putting a trance into a visionary state you would immediately everything would move in that shape so you may be seeing something you could be walking in the forest you see the forest but the super imposed upon your vision of the forest would be this this shape there's so everything would be coming out in that maybe even thousands of them meaning you'd be looking at the forest with thousands of of muggin Devine stars upon it if you were in that mystical state so it's yeah that's what I'm saying I wish I could say more about it I don't know what else to say except that that shows up when you move into a mystical state you know it's just I just think that's really interesting because I grew up with that being that being nothing more than an icon you know nothing more than just okay he must be Jewish if he's wearing that on his hairy chest you know like I guess he's Jewish you know I'm proud of it so the you know when you wear a big gold Jewish star you get you automatically earn the right to like if you're a hairy man it is we get to it's like unbuttoned a few more buttons on your shirt you know and with that big Jewish star of yours so but I always thought of it as more than nothing more than a symbol and it turns out that that mystical traditions have it going on underneath everything when they're in their visionary States which is I just find that interesting another interesting thing is is that kaleidoscopes are built off of it as well if you look into a kaleidoscope it's always gonna come out Jewish stars you know it's gonna be it's gonna be a you know perhaps a breathtaking experience if it's a high level kaleidoscope um have you guys ever seen a high level kaleidoscopes like ones that cost lots of money you ever seen one of those so we we actually have a relationship with a guy who's a creator of high high end kaleidoscopes and he sells them every Tuesday not flat vineya minion in Tel Aviv which is a football with a crafts fair every Tuesday except tomorrow where it's supposed to be pouring all day but tomorrow yeah which is such amazing news if you don't ride a mountain bike because the because it's going to be good water for our country we need water that's why this the month of Kesh phone is considered that wasn't the joyous months the word Mar comes from the word Mary Mary means joy like to be Mary yeah and so the word meh so what if it's a guy named Mary so anyway the so the word Mary means joy and some people say that this month is called marques bun because it's bitter cuz it doesn't have holidays in it and but there's actually plenty of sources in Tara that say it's actually called joyous hush from the exact opposite it's called joyous - why because it hasn't rained if you live in Israel which is where the Jewish calendar was created for what it was created for if you live in Israel this is the joy we all lived as farmers everyone was farmers and we've just had six months plus I'm not a drop of rain and so the joy hits right after suckas when we hit Cashman and all of a sudden like you know every drop arrange money in the in the bank for supporting your family and carrying on the purpose of wire why you're here which is to have a meaningful life and nothing's more meaningful than then creating a home and that is the ultimate expression of meaning of having your own home at least internally external meaning obviously making an impact on the world but you're having a home this your most meaningful thing you can do this is why men who are young teens or early 20s who are afraid of responsibility are so stupid like that's where the joy is there such idiots like you're don't jump off a bridge about dealing with life it's dealing with life that makes life meaningful that's what's gonna bring you the most meaning and the most happiness so like love responsibility just love it takes time to love it if you're born narcissistic or maybe to a wealthy family it makes it harder to love the hassles of responsibility and in developing financial independence but but in fact that will be the that will be for most people the thing that makes life the most meaningful and this is a big message for men because women have enough meaning built in you know they're really built in meaning whereas men have a certain meaninglessness to them and and then the meaning comes from from going out there and this is why women shouldn't be upset about their man going out there to make a living and how you know women do suspect that there's something meaningful in his life besides me and that can create certain levels of jealousy and tugging him homeward which may be a good thing actually get that guy home in less trips to Vegas and the so it's not a bad thing that she tugs on him but but she also has to temper it with that that the fact that that he does want to leave the house is is where his deeper meanings going to take place beyond the relationship and because men have this deep meaninglessness that's only really it's only really healed by the fact that he can move his bag of bones around and somehow get paid for it you know like all of these pressing buttons on a keyboard programming computers or he's you know driving a trash truck quarries or he's working on stocks or other financial things or who knows what he's doing out there but he's moving his bag of bones around and someone's willing to actually pay something for that is it's very meaningful to men and it could be that the the advent of birth control made it so women wanted to have that same feeling too because the the built-in meaning and women is is the fact that you and you are a creator you're a partner in creation you can create and so your life's very meaningful by the very fact that you can create life men can't do that you can do that and that makes your life meaningful but once there's the delay and childbearing the once you got that delay so meaninglessness starts kicking him for women as well and therefore I want to move my the woman says she wants to move her bag of bones around and see if someone will give her money for that as well just like the men when really they had all the meaning built into their lives as as is just natural naturally meaningful living and so that's that's something you don't want to mess with too much like you don't to play around with God's settings God God created the world this way and don't play around too much well only listen your wife only listen to her wife marry you only listen your wife if what she's saying is is good you see Adam listened and gotten a lot of trouble but then she said something Sarah said something good and God says listen it may be Algrim didn't want to listen to Sarah at first because he was like Adam tried that it didn't go so well and gods like no listen to your wife Eve was telling you to do something against me Sarah's telling something that's you know she's got the instincts in the intuition to know that this is for me meaning she's doing this for the relationship with God to send you Schmo packing yeah that's nice you guys know it everyone knows that famous one about the spellings of man and woman in Hebrew you know that one yeah you know that famous you guys all know that one I should show you that one you know that one I'll show it quickly just cuz I mean we've gotten this far we might as well finish yeah so we've got each maybe I'll use this kind of writing yeah the word each and then that's for the man and then you got the word you shop just for the woman shot and that what they share is they ala finish in and what they don't share as he as the you and she has the Hey but the you wouldn't hate together it comes out the name of God you didn't hate is the name of God and so like like the word hallelu yeah which is the name of God so so they have the name of God between them like like Mayor was saying to grow together towards God towards God in life but but couples that don't have God in the mix they all that's left is isle of olive Shin means a fire H like a shot Ora the fire of Torah fire the Bible yeah so Aleph and Shin is the word fire and so you have fire and fire and the word fire in Hebrew means to shoot like it doesn't know in the Army you know they yell fire when they yell fire in the army they're not saying that something caught fire they're you saying shoot the gun so there's a fire and fire going on in in marriage when God's not involved now just to tell you on a very practical level we have a commandment in the Torah one of the 613 commandments is to cleave to God that's to be at one with God it's from the word it's the word de vivre a coat or duvet cose the word do Vegas is the word for sticking also like modern Hebrew the word devic is glue tape is also called Devon and and so it means to stick yourself to God is is debeikis to fuse some two things together is to make as you with God is called the vagus but the Rumba explains that a physical person a physical body cleaving to God becoming Davich to God is sometimes a tall order especially if that person is not involved in meditation so what's the next best thing is to cleave this what the Rambam says cleave to those who are cleaving to God cleave yourself in this thing is one of the foundations of having a Rebbe is cleave to someone who's made their way to the to be they have achieved cleaving to God cleave to someone who Cleaves to you again that's a very acidic perspective the Rambam sharing a couple hundred years before huh see do it but you cleave to the person who's cleaning and what's amazing about this that in marriage you're gonna have disagreements that's just part of married life you're gonna disagree when you disagree you can literally feel the shekinah disappear it's a weird thing but you feel the presence of God go away from the home it's really weird cuz you're not discussing God and you're not discussing anything spiritual you're just arguing about some point maybe something to do with the children or so it could be very important but you don't agree and whenever you disagree with a spouse it there's a weight over proportionate sense of loss going on in there which is weird because you can argue with a friend and is not that level of sense of loss when you argue with a spouse there's this emptiness that fills a space it also makes kids really nervous when they see parents are gay the kids get get nervous and it just is uncomfortable now here's the cool thing you call your Rebbe you get your Rebbe on the phone and you bring up the subject and let the Rebbe give his two cents on how to do it and really wise Rebbe ease will generally split this situation into further distinctions to show how you're both right like a wise Rebbe will say oh you guys think you're arguing you're not because in this situation you'd both agree and in this such meaning you'd both agree with her and in this situation you'd both agree with him so we just need to split this into a deeper or more distinguished subject or more distinguished subjects and then you'll see that you actually agree and there was actually a famous rabbi oh it's late I'll just finish with this there was a famous service sorry I'm marinating a question there was a famous rabbi that his name was papa yeah I just have to share this because I've already written so many things on the board it was a famous rabbi by the name of Papa nicknames most of the rabbis in the Talmud that's not their name a lot of people don't realize that his name was a really Popeye it was his nickname for the Talmud Rama's name no one named their kid raba and no one named their kid roebuck either okay these are not names of kids a Kiva's a name okay a Kiva's a name but uh but most of the names there are actually nicknames now the name Papa is he was a famous rabbi at a lot of kids and he was he was big I mean wide not tall he was he was kind of a chubby guy and rub Papa was not only chubby he was a he was a jolly guy and not only was a robust and jolly guy he was a beer salesman he actually made date beer and sold date beer that's how he made a living was selling beer and very interesting when you're learning a piece of Talmud and there's an arc particular page what you'll notice on that page of Tellman with her arguing oftentimes rub Papa shows up and it says wrap up Amara Papa or a Papa amar and what does he do he brings what's called a you came to you came to swear you state that what he's saying and what he's saying is not an argument you just need you didn't distinguish the cases whereas if you look at it in this case they're both gonna agree on that one and if you look at it in this case they're both gonna agree on that one and that's how he earned his nickname because the word fair means mouth and the other word means mouth pay pay etholon is one that when he's what his mouth his pet is saying and when his pen saying would his mouth is saying are really one and therefore it's really important when you have a marriage when you get married is to have a Rebbe that you can call when you feel that divine presence leave the home and everyone's feeling really uncomfortable it's just make that phone call and let the Rebbe distinguish and show how everyone truly agrees hello everybody [Applause]