Is Torah for everyone?

highest pist on Earth which is the uh cotel Plaza Temple Mount area which is right out the window here and you know it's interesting that photographers I don't know if this is true but I've heard from photographers you know they have these light meters to know how to set their settings on their cameras that that every photographer knows around like the real pros around the world know that the highest light in the whole entire world is the Koto Plaza now it does make sense although it's all white stone you know and and once the sun moves towards the afternoon it's just like shooting into this like pocket of white stone and how many places have a white stone wall that is I don't even know how many feet it is does anyone know 200t maybe 150 ft it's high and with a big Plaza so it's like this Apex of light but I like it because it's the Temple area so it's cool that the temple area has the highest amount of light of any other place that you can find today we're going to discuss um an imbalance in um in the world and that imbalance uh is regarding the the the small amount of intellectuals in the world not the small amount of smart people because you know very smart people have built the phones we're using and and there were not intellectuals if you're an intellectual you're not building phones very smart people have built the cars that we enjoy in the airplanes that you know they were built by Geniuses basically the engineers behind them and none of them were intellectuals at all if they were intellectuals they would have been professors they were Jewish they become rabbis and they would have been involved in ideas which is what intellectuals love and these guys don't like ideas you know like I think the most famous engineer today is Elon Musk who's like a total non intellectual who's just fascinated by stuff not fascinated by ideas and you know when he uh although he's well read actually and he's very well read in the idea world but maybe it was a f when he was a kid but it didn't last very long and he's very into how things work you know physical stuff anyway so uh laute so Geniuses have nothing to do necessarily with with you know the world of ideas of intellectual property you know they don't they're not that interested in that so there's three types of people I call them ones twos and threes the ones are intellectuals it's about 10% % of people then there's 45% of people are people people and then there's the third type of person which is the instinctual people so they're the three eyes ones are called intellectuals twos are called interpersonal and the threes are called instinctual ones twos and threes and again there's only 10% of people who just want to start their belly button all day and think about what's out there or in there or wherever and whereas 45% of people really like being around people and another 45% like to uh be involved in stuff and so as you get to know yourself if you think about your life you'll realize that you have a certain order that you prefer things so there's people who are 132s it means they mostly like ideas then they like to do things physical then they like having people around in other words they generally don't like having people around the uh then you have three 312s they're mostly in the physical stuff then they would would like to open a book but they're a little uncomfortable socially that's not their favorite you got people like me 231s 231s are into mostly people and when I'm done with this class after I pray probably at the cotel I will be going mountain biking which is very three and I'll be by myself as usual um and that's that's a three sport you know all sports three no matter what the sport is it's three just dipping in water as I did yesterday in um in the Nal Prat which is the uh I was I was actually in a river uh and not just any River but it's called it's actually called n PR and what it does is it goes literally down from the Temple mount the Temple Mount is is a is a mountain that's part of a inin with the um kedron Valley I think it's called and then the I don't know what you call the San Valley entrance I forgot the name of it and then the third is called the gum the geham valley and it's it's actually a shin and that whole Shin meets up it goes down into um what's called the uh what we call today we call W kelt I don't know what the Biblical name of it is and it becomes it is just one of the more beautiful places on Earth um it's one of the only uh west east or east west however you want to say it um valleys because the whole country has these East West valleys and every couple kilometers there's another Slot Canyon like a deep deep deep deep Grand Canyon type Slot Canyon every couple every couple miles all the way down to a like these things things just keep going all the way down into the South but they're all dry till there's a flash flood and in the winter they can just like with big rains in the and the mountains anywhere from you know tiberious all the way down to south of hon all it takes is Big rains and those slot canyons just become rushing Rivers one of the only ones that always has water because it's spring based meaning the water that comes down it is because of Springs is called W Kel and that's this River now this River comes from the shin from the triple Canyons starts right outside the dungate here a sharb and then and then it it becomes the most beautiful deepest Slot Canyon like I mean it's a Slot Canyon if you're walking in the river so it's like walls coming up but then it's like giant mountains on either side and it actually ends in Jericho and the City of Jericho which is what I was overlooking yesterday while I have lunch and Joshua Battle of Jero Jero Jero joshuaa Battle of Jero and the B game tbling nice so anyway the um you could actually when the right winds and when the Levites which could thousands of singers and thousands of musicians would be go doing their thing they could hear it in Jericho so it's really something special to be in that Canyon because it's got a vibration and you feel the wind coming down the canyon as you're just in this delicious fresh spring water you can drink the water you swim in which is amazing um I don't suggest drinking it um unless you're at one of the spots and I know the secret spot where where the water's literally coming out of the rock into the river so I've I've just taken bottles I've run out of water down there it's hot you know in the summer you're in the shade though cuz you're in a Slot Canyon unless the sun's directly overhead and but there's even overhangs like yesterday we were there midday so there so we were just chilling under overhangs but you can literally take your water you're in a river take your water next the rock where you feel it's freezing and you just put your bottle up to the freezing part in the river and your bottle just fills up with spring water and you're set but when the water warms up a bit now you're in regular river water so who knows what animals are Upstream going to the bathroom so you might want to like that um why I'm mentioning this to you is because I'm a you know the fact that I was so fascinated to even discuss it is because the three of me that felt that freezing water and and and I had a little island in the river of of Pebbles I did I did yoga in that little island there with my wife we did yoga there while my my daughters were just cracking up and having a great time in the river and the uh there's also water slide there there's a spot if you have the courage to just go down a waterfall and it turns natural rock turn straight into a deep pool filled with fish there's fish everywhere r they're chomping on your on your calluses on your feet and I'm going to stop describing this but don't get me started cuz I'll just tell you all about mountain bike or I'll tell you all about going to sauna or whatever cuz I'm a 231 and the fact that I most people who like these places never talk about it cuz they're usually threes who like these places and they wouldn't feel the need to share well what I need to share whereas I'm not only love these places but I can't wait to talk about them and with people because I love people inner person and then there's ones and because I'm a 231 so you're fine generally the number year the least is your challenge so my challenge is opening opening up a book without falling asleep and when I open up a book I can read a few lines and then I just like just like that and it doesn't matter how fascinating the topic the fact that it's not three-dimensional in my face either human or um or some other sensory CU I'm a three I'm sensor so if it's not in my face if it's not people in my face and it's not sensory which is in my face I just literally like every lack of sleep I have in the world just goes and it shut off so the question is how did a guy who's a 231 become a rabbi and the answer is I found found a couple tricks I figured out very early on because if I was going to study any Torah I needed to know find tricks and I found very early on some tricks and I had two major tricks and I spent hours and hours and hours and hours a day studying like 12 13 14 hours a day studying using these two tricks one was um never sit now I can standing I discovered very quickly for long periods of time I can sleep standing and I so I figured out another amazing trick not too many people know this but if you have an ice cube in your mouth you can't F asle and so every morning I would come into the study hall I would go down to this ice ice machine in the basement and I would take a big like container cup like one of those like you know ler size ones and dig in the ice and put the ice there I would stand I would put use what's called a stender CU you stand while you're using it a shender and I put the shender on a chair so it' be nice and Tall why because I'm a yoga man I'm a three and yoga man don't put his head down like that okay yoga man keep head straight yeah because I want to have alignment and I want to I don't want to be I'm 510 yeah I don't want to be 5'4 just because of a lack of spinal alignment and um I'll never forget when my my kids started Yeshiva where all the kids are like kind of like they look like they use smartphones but they just use books you know growing up in our intense study halls so we when my kid was starting his first year in tourah study he was you know about 5 years old you know where he was really going to be hitting the books so we um we got him a shender so he would have proper spinal alignment he came home very embarrassed with a shender he brought it home and we're like what happened with a shender and he's like my rebi taught the whole class of lesson because of my stender and that is that you bring yourself to the Torah you do not bring the Tor to you please don't do me any favors the kid said please don't do me any more favors than very humiliating me in front of my class and becoming the teaching point of the day anyway but that's just another example a classic example first of all it's a very sweet teaching about life you know to bring yourself to T not Tor it's a sweet teaching but it's also a classic uh uh dysfunction philosophy I call them dysfunction philosophies where you create a philosophy around dysfunction and so that's a that's a dysfunction philosophy and on that subject you should know that every single one of us every single one of us has dysfunctional philosophies that we've built around usually trauma usually our dysfunctional philosophy are built around trauma for example for example the um if you ever you ever touch someone and they jump back and then you're like whoa you obviously there's some trauma with that person and I have a good feeling that it had something to do with touch but then the person says to me um yeah I I um I'm the kind of person right you know when someone says I'm the kind of person you know you know you're you're getting into their philosophy I'm the kind of person who like really needs to know someone before his touch you understand like they build they'll build some philosophy around it this is why um if you guys would like to really grow I'll give you a great ticket to grow one you had mentioned growth I don't but U um I think it'll really help you grow is um catch yourself when you're saying your philosophy catch yourself people have people build philosophy around their dysfunction so catch yourself when you're giving it over if you got a lot of rules that's your philosophy you understand if you have a lot of rules around you that's your stuff and it's surrounding some kind of dysfunction well think about it if you create a philosophy around a dysfunction you'll never get out of it you understand that's why the ticket one of the one of the great tickets to growth is to catch yourself with your rules with your little stories around the stuff that that you've meaning the the reasons you've added to life of why things have to be the way they have to be and when you do that you become also very humble because who the hell am I you know you know like i' I've ordered Burgers like my father my whole life medium well you know cuz that's how it should be cooked you know it should be really cooked nothing wrw on that thing and anyway um I was made fun of a few times just going like you know what they do to your burger you know you're missing all the flavor it's like drink you're eating like charcoal and anyway I made fun of a few times but eventually eventually uh they didn't cook my burger right so I took a bite of it and I saw that it was actually more on the medium rare side and my immediate Story of My Father which I'm going really part of right now I'm just saying because this is it we also have Stories We Carry from our parents our grandparents things we were told that just don't make any sense sometimes and and I think by the way I've heard this I don't know if it's true but the whole Jews eating their meat uh well cooked was a fear of eating blood because it's forbidden to eat blood and when you cook meat on a grill you actually don't all kosher meat has to be salted unless it's on a grill because the the fire will pull out all the blood so I think it was the fact that for probably Millennia Jews who didn't have access to regular cooking stuff would just cook the meat on fire and cooking the meat on fire means or maybe they didn't access to Assa I don't know they just couldn't they were going to use the fire to get rid of the blood and that might be where they wear this tradition in Jewish Jewish Society of having well cooked meat uh by the way everyone's no one's into that anymore all the young C see them like their meat you know according to their taste not according to how bad you can Pern it anyway but here I was with this rare Burger now my father has another thing that anytime his Meats a little rare he sends it back and he says the following words put a little more fire on it and the waiter's supposed to understand what that means and he takes the meat and he uh takes the meat and he barbecues it somewhere the but I had that rare burger and I just said I'm eating it you know I don't know if I'm going to get worms or what's going to happen to me you know am I going to die but i' I I'd rather die then live my life in some kind of crazy dysfunction with philosophies around so because that itself is death if you think about it I don't mean physical death but don't we all kind of die when when we're no longer Dynamic you know I understand why animals you know fish really need water they're not very Dynamic but you know they they got they got needs that you have to have but human beings other than love love said non-negotiable got have love but other than that just go with it we're great I mean we're unbelievably resilient and we can be in any situation but if you've become someone who can't be in any situation it's because you're you've metastasized you've you've uh yeah you're stagnant you're not you're stagnating because you've got too many philosophies built around your your built around your um dysfunction anyway so yeah go ahead I could also be that your philosophies are disguised in Torah and mitos and you know but exaggerated yeah um that's also the case how do you know your philosophies are masking something good as opposed to something bad uh masking something good well I I don't know let me start with his question but I don't I don't know if I would answer that necessarily because I'm not sure what it means to mask something good you'd have to give me an example but first let me answer that if you have a good example you then you'll tell me um yeah certainly the U someone can be masking dysfunction with for example um the her community the black attitude world is um rather stoic when it comes to um intimacy and you know they're pretty stok there you know it's a lot of postwar type of you know having been tortured and L and once you're disassociated by torture that what is the first thing we check when we find a victim of abuse or rape or anything the first thing you check is are they there maybe they checked out and the answer is of course they checked out you can't go through some abuse like that without checking out but how badly are they checked out meaning does this person need to go mental go to a mental Bo first just to come back to themselves nothing mental words are very helpful but the U anyway the that's called disassociation it is what happens when you have a dentist coming at you with a needle straight to your gums here we are constantly protecting our gums from anything painful even a bad hit with a toothbrush can be you know quite a wipe out to use a surfing term and um did I mention the professional tour is starting Thursday in uh in uh Fiji or is that unnecessary right now okay let's go back so the disassociation means that I lost my eye maybe for a second with the needle maybe for a few weeks with an abuse situation or some other trauma and maybe forever with the Holocaust well once I don't have an eye so if there's no eye there's no I love you I mean I may love you but I don't have enough eye to express it like like cuz uh it'd be pretty scary expressing love is one of the most vulnerable things you do so your eye has to be pretty good to do it you get that expressing love is one of the scariest most vulnerable things you ever do so you really have to work on your eye to have love in your life and um anyway so so the observing Community if you're in a full community of stoic people who don't have a lot of touch don't have a lot of words of Love um and who many of whom are stretched to the gills with kids so let's just say for an example let's just say um anyone here was raised observant okay you guys uh what number how many kids in your house how many kids you have three 12 12 okay we'll go with you 12 kids so let's just say we would give your uh let's just say we give your mother on a scale of 1 to 10 of how good she was loving you was a 10 but how good she was at loving you like specifically perfectly like just right in the zone of like a 10 you know she ain't getting a 10 because it's still very high I'm glad it was still very high but it was but I mean how many mothers are a 10 you know would my kids rap my wife a 10 would they rape me a 10 the actual loving like what would you rating you know so now let's just say so you said it was pretty high so high it's nice so you give it a six seven 8 n eight eight excellent now divide the eight up into kids she's not even at one at this point because you need actual not just quality you need quantity when you're a little guy how much does a kid need of his of his mother's love on a scale of 1 to 100% how much does a kid actually need 110 110 right they need 100% of the love 100% so here you are this young guy who needs 100% of the love and he's at best going to get it divided between all the 10 and he's also um she's also got other things going on you know her raising kids wasn't the only thing she was doing although it was probably most of what she was doing U but she's doing other things too and then then you got all the mothers who like you know and you're a farty so she's not a holocaust Survivor I can she's half as oh say no more anyway but I can tell you that the people growing up in the post Holocaust communities are like to give I've never heard maybe in my entire life of all the women I pulled and I pulled a lot of them never did I hear an eight ever that would have been a dream they probably wouldn't have even been in my program had their mothers given them an eight most of course their fathers were giving it to okay anyway um I'm going back to topic I just before I do I just want to close it with with the thought or the reality that being dynamic as a human being being really alive means being a human becoming like we're constantly flowing so if what is the words if if God sends this then eat this God sends peanuts eat peanut butter what if life gives you lemons make lemonade yeah life gives you lemons make lemonades if the burger served you know was served rare enjoy your first rare burger and to close it with my great teacher R shom Shak Freedman he uh two things from him one is that on rashash on rashash the you know new New Year you should eat something that you normally don't like ever heard that eat something you normally don't like and so let's say you don't like tomatoes so make sure you eat a tomato on Russ sh day and the reason why is because because to say you don't like to Tomatoes would be pulling last year's tomato aversion into this year who says you don't like tomatoes you got to take a bite of a tomato and if you still don't like tomatoes spit it out but don't come into the new year with last year's tomatoes tomato aversion and and then to take it really extreme we were once learning with him um in our normal Thursday night all night learning and we get to this point we get to this point where the most maybe the most mind-blowing thing in the last year was studed like we got to the most mind-blowing thing perhaps in the last year and we get to it and we're just like the whole room was like like the Emoji where half the heads coming up the whole room was like even the RAB Reby does not react a lot speaking of sto we were blown away all of us the Reby was blown after about a minute of Silence with every person just looking at each other going wow and this Itself by the way should blow it all away because every person in that room was a Taurus callar who had anywhere from a decade to Decades of intensive constant input of Torah and that you can get blown away by the Torah as if like like getting your mind blown in such an epiphanous moment inside a book written hundreds or thousands of years ago and said listen what Reby said Reby said something very deep when he finally came back to himself he spoke and said you know what the difference between you guys and me is he said you guys are going to fit you're going to fit this thought this idea we just read you're going to fit that idea into everything you've ever learned which we thought would have been a compliment you know he said I'm going to take everything I've ever learned and fitted into this stuff meaning I'm going to recalibrate every piece of Torah I've ever seen and into that thought that's going to be the new overhead transparency that everything shines through from now on yeah when you expect a younger person to uh be have it easier recalibrating everything they've ever learned as opposed to the Elder Reby uh the young person the the younger students who uh the rby said you're going to take everything you've ever learned and calibrate it into the opposite you're going to take you're going to put this into everything you ever I don't know how to answer that question sorry zero for two on me knowing how to answer your questions but but I like the way you think though thank you I just don't know how to answer your questions um the okay so now the Jewish Society at least the to the Torah Society in the last 200 years uh created a new a new system called Yeshiva 200 years years ago they created these first yeshivas now you might say well yeshivas aren't 200 years old yeshivas go all the way back to the Babylonians there were yeshivas there yes there were yeshivas where great Torah Scholars would gather together and pour over the the the laws of you know the Torah they were great tourist cols there's not a person probably any of us would have met including the greats of Our Generation ation that would have been let in there meaning meaning it could even be that the greats of Our Generation in 2024 would not have been admitted into the study hall because to be admitted into such a study hall you know cuz there's limited seats and the way to get in would have been because you were Beyond you know any any fathomable what we would fathom AS Scholarship you were beyond that and you were therefore in there um I'm not going to go and explain all that right now by of what kind of knowledge and wisdom the elders had throughout history and if I were to describe it I would be crying and the reason why I cry when I discuss it is because we're um very very very far we and and to for the eyes to have beheld or the ears to have beheld the heart to beheld what was considered normal in those days of the Jewish people to have people in your midst like this and I'm using the word people like maybe Loosely here cuz these were like Angels these people and by the way they all worked they were they were only Angels when it came to Torah they were they were working guys they were real characters and quite Crest in their interactions with each other there was no pump and Circumstance no powdered wigs you know no intellectual University Ivory Towers I these people were like super real you know and um anyway but we we miss them very much and and we're missing them and and it could be the confusion of the world is just because there's no no one pointing North like they were pointing at the times and they were part of the reason why anyone who lived 2,000 years ago which was right around the end of that era and that anyone who lived in those eras didn't have any um any um doubt that there was God that there was that Torah was true like you know all the modern atheism had to come with you know the Industrial Revolution Enlightenment all of a sudden that was like but there wasn't these human beings walking around what was the discussion between Plato and uh we just I just saw it the other day between Plato and uh I forget who who was Plato speaking to as one of the greats of the generation what it was Plato was I'm sorry he was speaking to one of the great Jewish sages yeah I forgot it was like the the biggest of all the sages anyway he was talking to him and the sage was crying over the destruction of the temple and the Plato come up to he like a man of your stature like crying over wooden Stones you know and Plato had a list of philosophical philosophical inquiries that he could never solve and the rabbi said please tell me your your inquiries and the rabbi told uh Plato told him like 10 kind of impossible paradoxes that just he was always stuck on he never got to get to the to understand them in other words he didn't have the ability to further distinguish the complexities such that they would decouple and understand them separately what's a paradox paradox when two things are conflicting yet seem true but it's probably because they're conflicting and so he had like 10 paradoxes that really bothered him that he could not get he could not distinguish anyway so the rabbi maybe someone's looking it up for me but the rabbi you found it no I'm looking the the rabbi solved all 10 paradoxes in 10 sentences and then he looked at the at Plato and he says now you know why I'm crying over the women stones and he says why he says because the wisdom all the wisdom that I've ever achieved in my life and that solved your paradoxes as well came from th that those wooden those that wooden Stone meaning it came because of the temple which is a very deep thought that the Temple's existence was the ability of wisdom to pour into the world wisdom poured into the world and when the temple was destroyed wisdom stopped pouring into the way it did in those days um 200 years ago the enlightenment one of the answers to the enlightenment was well the big answer to Enlightenment is something called the movement so if you're Gentile watching this um the word which I guess you could spell c h a r e i d i um it means to sh to shake before God like quivering before God it's it's actually considered very high level thing to achieve is to be a um I'm not discussing the movement I'm discussing uh actual like serving God is like you know you got Clarity if you're shaking if you're shaking you got Clarity on who God is but the it became a movement and the movement was to um protect whatever is left in Judaism for the future and it's a dynamic situation the situation is a dynamic situation what do I mean by dynamic in as much much as the enlightenment movement took off Judaism or traditionalism conservatism to conserve the past in as much as the enlightenment which was like throw off the Yoke of Europe and the church and everything they ever went through and freedom of expression and individuality whatever they took off they took it off slowly the put on so whatever they took off the so for example um the first the first president to ever not wear a hat in public was John F Kennedy who was you know a liberal it was in the 1960s and I forget who he took over for um what's Nix eisenh eisenh and he was the first ever to take off his hat but I promise you that theum that year they already wore black hats at that point but but and not maybe not everyone did but as soon as he took off his hat he gave permission to all the men in America to stop wearing hats to work the president doesn't wear a hat so why do you have to wear a hat and I know this sounds funny but every single man wore a hat you didn't have a hat you weren't a man and goam wor hats Jews wear hats but a real Fedora like a real hat you know and anything less was was a man who Lacks self-respect anything less you're just I mean plenty of those men lack self resect with that but it would be admitting it to go without ahead and you're just a weirdo and a stranger and a someone uh who's uh would be scrutinized for showing up with anyway Kennedy took his hat and went we don't need hats anymore and what we're dealing with today is just the the result of years and years of Po post post kedes taking off his hat you know now they're just taking off everything at this point and it's always funny to me because I live in a very observant community and when I um when I go out especially now that the country is on vacation so like last night I was in an art fair and I don't think any other observant je was thought that'd be a good idea to go to an art fair I don't know why but somehow all my you know keep up wearing compatriots were gone and I was in a full secular Israeli scene but what was happening simultaneously at the bottom of this art fair was a giant rock concert and I think it was 85% girls just from the volume of the singing it was louder than the band and this was a fullon outdoor Amphitheater with 30,000 people you know you can imagine what the sound system was like um the the singing was loud the singing of the the crow was L anyway but the um you know I had to definitely keep my eyes down the whole time of just getting around there because there was no sense there was absolutely zero sense of um what would be the word shame maybe yeah shame like if I were to be seen nude I would be ashamed you know that's that's the feeling I think now if I received n 10 times in a row maybe I wouldn't be a shame okay I can't help but tell the story I was teaching a class at asan ter and [Music] um uh one day I walk into my class my regular class and what had happened is they brought in another group that was uh was like a big group like 50 kids or something to um they had offered them to you know break out into different classes anyway what happened was they were on their way to the Dead Sea after the class so some of these girls they don't know Judaism they've never been to the old city they're they're like why don't we wear our bathing suits already if we're going to the Sea afterwards like why get dressed you know so we'll just wear our bathing suits till the class and and because it was a class lunch Dead Sea great well put on our bed and say some you know they they had their flip-flops on and um anyway I come into my class and there's three women in bathing suits in the class and here we are you know like they're literally we're overlooking the Temple mount in this situation I'm just like oh my gosh uh there was like they were so uncomfortable they looked like they want to fall through the Earth when I walked in that room they were uncomfortable very meaning even though they're obviously these girls were Way Beyond Shame Shame can get awoken when in the presence of people just like me in the presence of my rebi I am in a constant state of Shame when I'm with him I'm scared to death the whole time I'm feeling very exposed and I know he loves me and he has no judgment whatsoever he's crazy about me but I'm scared to death and full sh with anyway they look like I'm going to fall through the floor which meant I can't even start the class without making a funny comment I got to say something so I I forget what I said I don't know what it doesn't matter I said it was something like you know what lovely bathing suits you girls are wearing today you know whatever I don't remember but it was really funny and the it was funnier than that and the class you know they busted up the class busted up except guess what of the three girls one of them started crying and ran out okay guess something a little different with her but anyway but then the class was great they had a great time even those girls had a great time and at the end of the class I go down to our lunch in Yesa and I get a tap on the shoulder can I come down to speak to the management I've offended somebody so I go down to the man and they said yeah you know we have this group here and and you know we don't know what you said but you've offended someone in their group and we are expecting you to go to the the dining hall where they're in a across the old city and apologize so I'm like no problem so I go to the dining hall and I realized that word has gotten out for sure like this girl's probably made a stink about you know her being offended by a rabbi or so I decided I'm not going to apologize to her my apology has to be to every everyone because I've if I've offended her I've offended their group and so I get every once's attention and I said listen everybody I just want to apologize for having embarrassed this um this girl who was in my class that there was absolutely no intention to have offended her in any way and I'm sorry and I start walking out of the building at which point the girl who was already covered up said I guess she borrowed a scarf I don't know what she had but she had stuff around her and she says can we speak please and I said sure So we went to a room right next to the entrance there and and she bursts out crying and she says I don't know what I'm doing with these people but I was raised totally observant and I'm with this group of people who know one no one here even knows the Hebrew alphabet and you know she was raised like in Brooklyn and she said that when they said when my roommate said hey let's go in our bathing suits I was scared to death when you walked in the room then I was like I was ready to die and then when you made your joke I died and she's like I don't know what to do I'm like I thought I could be like them I thought I could just leave it all be behind like what's going on with me she was great she was amazing amazing and and I said to her listen you know you go out one day like this it might at the beach even in a mixed beached Beach like it would be hard for but to do it two three four five times you probably eventually be okay with it but are you sure you want to let go of it you sure you want to let go of that sense of modesty inside you're sure you want to just give it out you know and don't forget that anyone you attract any man you attract is highly highly suspicious of having been attracted to your to your body parts which is not the kind of guy you want raising your children so you you may want to think twice so she they went down to the Dead Sea and I don't actually know what happened to her that day but I did get word and it was from her a year later she came up to me after I think Shu class or whenever she came up to me and said that uh I I don't remember if she sent you into the Desi or didn't know the Desi but she was done like the trip ended for her right there she left the group and um and went to learn Tor in a regular girl school and um yeah fully observed so that was the offending someone day and and I want to mention to you guys since you're we on the top of offending people don't make it a hard rule never to offend people don't make that hard the uh and when I say offend I don't just mean offend don't make it a hard world not to rock the boat um some of the most beautiful observant families I know are my siblings and I rock their boats so wildly that like you could only fall out of it from the you know it was like a canoe and I was when I became observant so immediately who do I love the most because whever I love the most is the most important to me that they should they don't have become observant but to at least make a choice and the only way to make a choice is an in an informed Choice which means you need information and so I could not live with myself if the people I loved most were not at least exposed to Torah to judis so I basically swam up to their canoe and I just and they realized they're not going to be able to get away with this they're going to have to do it or they're never going to hear the end of it by the way the second day the second day acques second thing you know that I made them enough uncomfortable they went and exposed themselves to Torah but second they Expos himself to Tor immedately like now it's your life you know you exposed yourself to Torah no you have to make some choices and I got totally away from those choices so one of my brothers is a great Jewish leader who's modern Orthodox but like you know really modern Orthodox you more mod in Orthodox okay but he's but he's observant fully observant and he's a great um teacher it's like you ever been to Bar Mitzvah where there was more bar than Mitzvah so maybe more modern than Orthodox but you know there's nothing he can do though he's a he's a 321 and a 312 sorry and's he's just a total party animal he's a 312 and uh these people skills are very good though for 3 he's crazy about people but he's he's a musician he a three musician athlete you know his whole life is just music but he certainly loves ordering a beer and Sh whatever but at the concerts he goes to every night he actually got SM this year that's because he's 312 Believe Me No 3 21's getting SM you know and I'm I'm a fluke I didn't want to get sm smik if you don't know that word is means to become ordained as a rabit there's very few tws that are have Sni but it's a good thing for TS to get because they're the best at interacting with human beings listen um I know other people who now are observant for 30 years 30 years and their becoming observant has become a permanent point of contention in their immediate family for the last 30 years and I can tell you there was only one reason why it's been a point of contention for 30 years because they didn't Rock the Boat because there was some Unwritten rule speaking of rules some Unwritten rule that you don't mess with people and so he didn't mess with his family or she didn't mess with her family it's Live and Let Live Don't Rock the Boat leave people alone and it never goes away never goes away can you find whoever's causing this sound to happen to have it stop um sorry um good luck finding it oh it might be right outside the door probably but maybe uh press the buttons to get the door latch I anyway right from the office I don't think so it might be like the book Stars it's funny these little kids sing in Jewish music if you were raced in rock and roll that's just not you know no offense to anyone raised observant you know like having songs being led by a squeaky little kid with no understanding of singing Dynamics you know you think it's cuz you can't have girls you need like a high pitch yeah that also isn't that how they used to do Shakespeare little kids I don't know no no they had like boys playing women did they Shakespearean ensembles interesting interesting um yeah could so you got to learn you got to learn the there's a fine line between manipulation and agitation hey I got words today but there's a final you were my word gu there's a fine light between manipulation and agitation you should definitely make people uncomfortable if it will lead to their growth agitate them but do not manipulate people they they will in the end they'll turn they'll do another 180 if you manipulate them and they'll have a lot of resentment as a result of manipulation [Music] um part of the movement was to create theas part of the um more that bad man you went all the way you actually told the store to turn down the music the store it was a bookstore and then I did it you did it yourself and he didn't know how to do the uh you didn't know how to do it so that event last night I was shoing with my wife we had an important talk but there was a stand with two speakers lasting like dance music turned them off there were another 300 but at least we don't need the ones that were in our faces so um yes yes so they created yeshivas and yeshivas are where people sit and learn we didn't even handle this yesterday oh my gosh the root when you want something when you're motivated to do something something you run how do you know someone's motivated they're running right if you see someone running down the street you know they they want something serious that's the root is rats means to want root the word the root for wanting is RO and the it's twetter word ra means to run what's the opposite of running well scanning would be the opposite but there's even more oppos if you're stand you might be about to walk you might be about to run you might be about to sit I don't know but when once you're sitting you ain't going nowhere once you sit you're not going anywhere and you're in a you're you're sitting and once you're sitting you're contemplating now you're you know that's the position of of thought well what's good about that I'll tell you what's good about it what's good about it is when you sit and contemplate well one of the things you might contemp is what you want and if you contemplate what you want if you finally get up and start running towards it you at least can really run with determination and motivation because you've clarified what you want clarifying what you want by sitting is is the ultimate um Society has everyone running around kind of like chickens with their heads cut off looking for what they want but how many rocks you can over return to try to find what you want wouldn't it be better just to sit and think about like what do I want wouldn't that be the better way to do it meaning rather than shooting 100 arrows at 100 trees wouldn't it be better to shoot one Arrow at one tree care from let Sho to wouldn't it be better to shoot one Arrow at one tree which is the famous star game which I was heard a lot probably here but you know the famous St the Archer the greatest Archer ever oh great someone doesn't know that story yeah can't stop touching steel um the story of the greatest Archer the is that the there was a king walking through the forest and there was troops that were he was with his troops that were training in in shooting arrows and archery and they they kept coming upon trees that had Targets on it with the arrow like literally millimeter in the bulla like right there the blla and so they keep finding more of these and the King finally says there is some Archer that's the greatest archer in the world please find him so the uh soldiers comb the forest they found the Archer they brought him to the king the king says tell me what's your secret how do you get a bullseye every single time and so the Archer said it's very simple I pull back my arrow I shoot it into the tree and then and I take my paintbrush and I paint a Target around the arrow this is how most people are living their lives try this try that try this try that and eventually like something kind of works especially if you have a big Fair failure you're like just going to avoid anything that didn't work the first time but eventually something kind of works kind of and then you start spinning circles around it putting a Target and saying well this is what I always it's like Western dating what is Western dating if not shooting arrows into just shoot your arrows and until someone finally tells the poor fool that she loves him you know how many how many men and women in horrible relationships have I spoken to where when you know by the end of the hour what really happened was someone finally said I love you and they were like oh okay so I guess let's paint the target you know cuz cuz this person who's absolutely horrible for me said I love you you know I mean that's that's how far down self-esteem can go that someone would marry some because that person loved them even though it was really bad bad match Yeshiva is a place where you get clarity to figure out what you want life it's where you you get all the information and then you dial it in and then you pull your arrows and you start shooting and again I'd rather you shoot one Arrow where you want it to go than 100 arrows trying to figure out what where you want your arrow in your life um but but just end this thing is the uh the subject is that the ISA Community is very intellectual it's a it's a community based on the study of ideas in books and that's a very not nice way to call Torah but in the end if you were a scientist watching a video from a surveillance camera in the corner of the room what do you see human beings Books open discussing ideas that's intellectual well about one about 10% of society one attemp of society's intellectual and and they created 200 years ago as a result of the Enlightenment isas to protect the community to protect the gift of Torah and it's a big gift and lose Torah would have been a big deal but what was the price what was the price of isas the price of isas was that Judaism was no longer going to be for everybody now is Yeshiva Judaism no Judaism is always for everybody but for the first time they're going to Rebrand Judaism this this actual study of the Torah period that is Judaism it's the study of taret I've even messed with people I've walked up to Yeshiva Boys and said tell me what's the most important thing in the world they said ter so can you think of something else that might be close to it nothing in in I said so come on there's got to be something more important than T like they're like it's Blas me nothing's more important than anyway at which point I finally let them know the answer that God is more important than and God gave the Torah and wants us keeping the T it's certainly important let me share with you another interesting one if I had a white board it would be cool I think I do hold is it in there is there a pen in the tray oh had a room of uh 43s at a room of 43s like ever tell you this 43s in Lakewood these guys were like you know is there a pen there is there a pen in the tray 43 personalities no 40 personalities person people 40 people were all number threes and am I in the frame 40 people all with the personality of and and I put the board for them I put a vend diagram we had one circle like that and another circle like that and in the event diagrams where you blur things that should not be blurred right you wouldn't want your eye doctor to blur the parts of your eye in a surgery right you want them properly distinguished you don't want them blur you don't want your mechanic bluring parts your engine okay right you want your mechanic to know the difference between the things in there and you don't have to know but they do you want them distinguish we're over here we're just call we just call it car just take get in there and drive you know and we just see with our eyes we don't need to know what parts of the eyes are separate from each other now um I wrote on this side I wrote the number 612 and then the other Circle I put the number one and I asked these threes these instinctual guys I asked them tell me what's here um what what did I put on the board and they knew that it equals 613 they were not able to figure out much more than that because they're threes and threes you know as smart as they are thinking in terms of ideas and what I said to them was well what do you think the one is obviously if it's the 633 Mitzvah which Mitzvah is that one no that didn't go very well either um and then I said to him it's the most important Mitzvah which didn't help much either and then I finally said I finally said because they thought it was maybe you know I am the Lord your God the first of the Ten Commandments no it's not the first of the Ten Commandments it is the Torah commandment one of the 6113 is the study of Torah all right it's the study of Tor and and you can't really keep T if you didn't study it because you're not going to know what you're doing so it is very important it's it's considered like all the other Commandments because you can't really keep them if you don't study the T and know how to them anyway but what happened was that 200 years ago more than 200 years ago now during the Enlightenment period in order to keep Judaism going they made yeshivas this is where people study and all these Commandments become suddenly I don't know marginalized I guess in some way and this one commandment of studying the Torah because they made Torah study so big everyone started blurring Judaism because this is Judaism Judaism became Yeshiva Judaism became the study of Torah Judaism became the study of the Torah and the and so if you weren't good at studying Torah because you're a three and you you don't you don't you're not that happy with all these guys in the room and you're not that happy about staring at books all day cuz you're a three if that's your situation and that fails what else failed Judaism failed and so you're out but here's the amazing thing here's the the most cool thing is what are those 612 Commandments What are they all about are you asking else they're all for the threes the 613 Comm the 612 Commandments are about the threes do you know there's two Commandments regarding Torah one is to study it and there's another one that's totally for threes you know what it is forming no teaching to no it's to honor those who do ie3 Mr Range Rover with the construction sites and the buildings he's building and the you know send some money towards the guy studying the turet you know like which of course these days those guys don't want to send a penny to them they the Riva the head of the yesima calls they they you know they're sitting in their meeting okay who's got money from our students over the last four decades and like oh this guy made it big Mr Range Rover you know call him and the r yakob Ys yob Ys like who calls me that anymore he's like it's Jack he's like Jack okay Jack Jack it's your rosha Shiva from 30 years ago I've heard you've done very well and maybe you'd like that you and Jack's like Rabbi it's a miracle that I still keep Shabbat after what happened to me in your theiva click and meanwhile this guy had a major trauma that happened to him there he wound up off the path of Judaism uh for 5 years straight um completely lost lost himself into the impurities that a man could easily fall into for those 5 years and uh but miraculously like the right things happened the right times and someone brought him back you understand so meaning we're we're killing our own donors we're killing our own donors because threes are the guys who pay for yeshivas who pays for Yeshiva threes twos are too busy socializing threes are the ones which should be paying for the sh but we got to respect them and honor them and have separate programs in every achievement for the threes but think what are the 612 this it's like strapping leather straps around your like threes love leather yeah if if we're up to threes they'd be wearing leather pants you know they're sensory like they want leather you know strap and leather okay care like that you know building sukers three's like that you know the um do you know how many laws there are around in the Torah you know how many laws there are around sexuality well let's just say a lot you know and and and by the way threes should be only studying those laws if you want to keep if you do have a three in your Yeshiva well for heaven's sakes he should never leave s nashim his entire Yesa career he should always be in study of females meaning of sexual unions forbidden or not forbidden let them study this stuff but the opposite they they they they want to turn these Yeshiva Boys into Unix they give them the most complex subjects I'm talking only about the threes right now they're giving these threes the most compx subjects about things that would never ever happen they get so hypothetical to some of these discussions splitting hairs in the distinctions splitting the hairs of distinctions on the subject the three's ready to just throw himself off the edge of the building because he can't he can't take it anymore you know and it and none of this means anything to them it has zero application a three only said and any of you guys who are threes here if you've given up on tement study go right back to it and study in depth the the the the tractates of the T that are around anything having to do with sexuality and there's lots of them lots of them and anyway but back to this is that the 612 Commandments are attend the YouTube thank you I got it I I Told You So these 612 Commandments are all for the threes the only commandment that's for okay there's a few more but but I think I could even argue that the only commandment that's for ones is taist I think it might be the only one I was thinking maybe the Commandment to cleave to God but that would only work with kad's version of cleaving to God which is like so deeply connect to the highest cabalistic study of who God really is until you get so nullified in your own ego that you just merge with God and anyone who studied deep knows what I'm talking about I mean it's like you've done it you ever studied it it's something I mean it's addictive the it's really addictive like a drug of the cleaving the Commandment to cleave to God that you can achieve through going through the mind but I can just tell you guys straight out that threes are going to be the most likely people to get involved in meditation and just nullify the mind completely and to just be you forget all those studies just mify the Mind feel God pouring through your veins feel your heart feel God beating your heart your heart's a drum that God beats feel that you know feel the earth move under your Fe feet I feel the earth move under my anyway I feel me lose control right to my very soul and the uh you understand threes are probably the ones who are going to fulfill the Commandment of cleaving to God they can CLE to God just with a good glass of wine and nice stink you know they're feeling aam they're they're threes you know threes and they're right here in the creation you know so what's what's so interesting about is we took one/ tenth of humanity and we've kind of recreated Judaism in its image and left 9/10 of humanity nine10 of humanity disenfranchised I mean just like full of Shame for nothing they never ever ever for 3,2 3,100 years go now since Mount s it's been 3,336 years so for the first 3, 100 years a two and a three were perfectly you know upstanding Jews whereas now like if you're a two you're shmoozing on the balcony when everyone's in there studying because you're too busy with all the people or you're smoing with your study partner because you just love being with him or you're just a three who's done cuz you don't you're not that interested in choosing with people and you certainly don't want to have to be staring into a book so wouldn't it be cool if we could make a Yeshiva that's for one's twos and threes be one Yeshiva well the study hall is where all the ones are the twos stay in study but there's not a lot of sparm not a lot of books they have this much more loungy kind of you know likei yeah and it's like couches you know it's not necessarily Rashi either maybe not even inside this Farm the ones come to be with them and to get them started you know because all you have to do is get them started in fact they would probably be the most likely people to solve the ones could be the ones who are you know they get to you get to an impact you know you get stuck so what sort of imp like play's philosophical impass things they're not able to further distinguish the the point you because they're not interpersonal well it needs hashing out maybe with the interpersonal people so what they come and bring it to the twos the twos then talk it out by the way there's nothing to the brains so the twos could be actually smarter than the ones a three could be smarter than the ones we're not discussing IQ so they bring it to the twoos for are these high you guys who like smoo it out and get through it and then what do you do with the threes though I guess someone's got to make coffee and just Kidd what do we do with the threes what do we do with the threes the threes the threes thees they're on roolling solar panels or maybe they're just off off at se like Z right but we should have a place for the threes and Sh they're learning about women there could also be physical exercise no I'm saying what would a Yesa have for a three cooking for like like learning and making oh right right we put them in a giant Workshop like a big Warehouse style Workshop yeah they're building the models of the temple they're they're um measuring and cutting and and yeah we have no one who can do all those measurements absolutely no right all the crafts oh my gosh they have to learn the crafts of of the temple times because you know the the Temple's coming back to a Temple Mount near you so the temple instincts right over here yeah we got the temple Instinct and we got the temple right over there that's what they do they do that and they um and I imagine they can create charts really cool charts on like forbidden unions and who who is with who and who can't be with who and who knows I mean they could WR create great charts on all that and but you ready for this I'm going to throw a bomb on all this and then we're going to and then we're going to end ready for the bomb whenever I meet a three who never studied in Yeshiva who's now in Yeshiva and he comes up to me go I'm dying here just dying I'm like ready to kill somebody so you know what I tell them I tell the threes your job is to stay in Yeshiva as long as you can your days are numbered here so just if you can just eek out one more week of tour study get it done if you can do a month all the better yes I know you're suffering yes you're hating it yes you're getting more and more angry at Judaism but until you've gotten so resentful that you're going to throw the whole thing in the garbage until you're going to throw in the garage as long as you won't throw in the garbage but until you've gotten that resentful keep studying why because if you don't study you're not going to know what in the world to do and you're going to have kids and a wife and people who are like looking at you like what do we do daddy and you're not going to know and at least stay one whole year in your sh because then you know the whole yearly cycle what to do for the whole year like you've at least seen a year so now you know what to do seeing a Year by the way is is you'll see I know guys who only got to stay for like eight months they're excellent at eight months of the year you can see them 20 years later that for those four months they're just in you know ask the local Orthodox Rabbi what was the initials of that there was a ask your loli local Orthodox Rabbi l l so you understand like they don't have to ask anything of anybody for eight months four months they every year have to ask because they just don't know what they're doing because they've never experienced and they're already married with kids and they can't exactly go be at everyone's house see how do you do everything so it you ows yourself if you can't do the whole year in one SP in one spat so then do it in sections you know come for those three months but don't come for the same three months come to another three months till you've done it all um anyway but I tell them your days are numbered stay as long as you can if you're getting so resentful you're going to throw the whole thing in the garbage leave and there's one other thing if you oh no that's the thing and by the way they don't just throw in the car they'll just notice that things are starting to seep in like suddenly they find themselves loose clicking on the internet like I didn't do that before like where's that coming from like I was a pretty good boy in yiva and now all of a sudden I'm like loose clicking that's the Simmon that's the sign that the three has overstayed his welcome ini Miss so so this is this classic story so one of these guys I've told him like listen man he's such a three and this guy's you know he's he's in NFL ticket sales today there's a wealthy guy watch but at this point he's just a boy he's like I don't know was 20 21 22 cutest kid so total three you know nice threes often are a little more chubby they're like food you know they they although some threes are exercise freaks that's that's a very three thing my three is my body shap I have a very three body you're my my voice is like grounded I'm inod and you know my three so this guy was total three but on the chubby side and um Sports fanatic he um I told him listen your days are numbered but the guy ignores me and 3 years later now he's in full black hat you know he's yiva boy and he's playing the whole yiva thing and I'm just like I'm I'm basically too busy to stop this CU all I want to do is throw him out of his shoe I just want to throw him out cuz I knew he's going to go down hard if he doesn't get out of here quick but again I'm only seeing him in passing he's no longer in my classes he's like an upper level T class and he's a smart guy IQ guy so he's doing fine with the studies anyway I haden't seen him in a while cuz I you know I only saw him as much as I saw him but I I was in and they also they separated the basement build from the essentials building so I I wasn't really in there that much and I was really only coming in an hour day I didn't see a lot so check this out I'm driving back from my Rey's all night class and I'm bringing back all the H guys who would come with me I I had a nine-seater van I'd always fill it with all the H guys and get them to the class and then bring them back so I'm I'm driving them all back as I'm doing that left up to Joff gate you know the ramp going up as I'm doing that left there he is with some like ditsy drunk blonde who's like not dressed appropriately at all he's like you know we're in a baseball camp for a keep up and he's taking her The Old City meaning he's got a spot for for this you know where this is going and I imagine it was not the a storm rooms you know it wasn't going to be there but it was going to be somewhere and I perfectly I see them they're walking across and I perfectly time it that my window would come right up to them and I get to them I roll down my window and I'm not going to say his name obviously he's s something like hey Yankee girl's like Yankee and um he gave her his her his English name and uh I'm like hey and and I'm like who's your friend he's really drunk he has no idea what her name is and he looks at her he's like I don't know that kind of Whispers to me I'm like what's your name Young she you know whatever her name was Veronica Veronica or something you know and I'm like and I'm like so how long you known each other I'm just messing with him with this one he's drunk and anyway he is like a ghost he turns white he he what to do so I come in Sunday that's Thursday night's class I come in Sunday to a pulls me aside he says can we speak and I said yeah so I speak to him and he's telling me every excuse in the bo he's got a whole story around this you know and I just took sheet of paper took kind a pen and I wrote the first diploma in nation T's history a graduation diploma and I wrote it as formly as I could you know we at asan tour here by graduate you know Yankee Ben whomever you know like and at the end of the thing I wrote that if I ever see him in this basement Min again I will remove him publicly in humiliation this guy's been living here for 3 years he's got all his stuff in the dorms he's like this has become his life like he doesn't have another life at this point and I hand him the diploma and I say you walk out of here right now and go live a beautiful life and marry some awesome lady and bu a beautiful tour home or I'm going to start with the public thing this second and he grabs a piece of paper walks out went to his door took all his stuff out went to like I don't know where he went till he got a ticket to leave I don't know went to Tel and he took off and today has the most beautiful I mean I've spoken in this town he helped PID for me to be the scholar and res in the city he lives in which I leave nameless and um and you know I got to meet his wife and his kids and like he's a fully observant philanthropist to the Jewish world who caught himself as a three having overstay his welcome in Thea so the bomb is that three should spend as much time as is as they possibly can until they're ready to either blow up themselves or the and then they must get out and do their thing in the world which is what God the world was for God didn't create the world for Talking Heads he created the world so that there would be a Dwelling Place in this lower world that would relate to so thank um sir