Imposter, you’re faking it!

Shalom and welcome to practical spirituality today is about faking it everybody's faking it and today is about the impostor syndrome and today is about how to get rid of the impostor syndrome so everybody's Faking It nobody's actually real and the reason why nobody's real I'm not going to prove that to you I'm just going to ask you to think about your own life who doesn't walk around realizing that they're faking it the whole time like we're all just faking it you know you look in the mirror you get your get your do sit up you know and you you know put on some clothes and and you walk out walk out there like you know what you're doing when you don't and not not only you don't nobody does and so and so you go out there and you kind of fake it and everyone else you know is fakeing and no one's really talking about the fact that everyone's faking it and hopefully you got pretty good at something so they'll pay you to fake it and and you know what after a while you make it you you fake it till you make it after a while you you're pretty good at what you fake and it's pretty good and what's really interesting is that you know these people go to school for years and years and years and years to become professional at something whether it's medicine whether it's Law whatever it is they're they're doing accounting you know it is important that they do know how to dot their eyes and cross their tees but we all know people who are making a lot more money than they are by just faking it and also those people all the people who are in those positions are going to be completely taken over by AI I AI Le AI reads legal documents much quicker than some guy who spent 10 years in law school you know AI does that way quicker and AI does all the medical research way better than any human being will ever do it and the uh not to mention the fact that people go into surgery these days you go to the top surgeon and he says to you are you sure you want me to do this like I came to you and he's like no meaning I I have a robot that I control so who do you want and then you're like well uh can you tell me the statistics of like what's better what's a better outcome and he's like well the robot's more efficient and more uh you know more precise by you know 30% more precise than I am this procedure so what would you choose you go for his robot you go for him what do you go for I want to be the subject I know right I was just watching a YouTube short yesterday not that I would ever watch YouTube shorts but I watch a YouTube short of a robot that sliced one piece of corn and then stitched it up per and stitched it with actual you know like a surgery Stitch like perfectly anyway the bottom line is we're all faking it everyone's faking it you're faking it I'm faking it and we're all scared to death of being discovered what a shame what a shame does that make any sense to be part of the8 billion fakers in the world and all 8 billion are wondering if they're going to get cut it's ridiculous you know you're going to actually like spend your time concerned whether you're going to be exposed that you have no idea what you're doing you know with in front of people who are worrying about whether they're going to expose for having no idea what they're doing why don't we just call a spade a spade why don't we just say we're all faking it and not to worry ever again of being exposed because who's going to expose you a faker they're not going exposed no Faker is going to expose you because they're faking it everybody's Faking It even even rabbis show me one Rabbi out there who when standing or if in front of his Rabbi or at least thinking about his Rabbi if his Rabbi passed away that he's not faking it he of course knows he's faking it there's a famous story of the the one of the greatest of last year's one of the greatest of last gener generation in America and on the Earth was a man by the name of Rabbi Yol titlean he was the SAT rebbi and he was kind of the post Holocaust father to the Jewish people in America and he was brilliant and beyond belief in every level of loving Israel and loving uh and just greatness and Torah and building a back of communities after the war I mean a real you know he was like the carach laav that time you know he was he preceded carak although they were contemporaries for quite some time but very close with labbi um maybe the labbi was maybe a little more of a realist about the state of Israel and the SAT rebbi was a little more of an idealist about the state of Israel because he wasn't so Pro the secular State whereas the theage rebbi was like this is this is what we got to do it's so let's just deal with it you know whereas the stman re might have been like no you know like we're we're going to ignore this reality you know because it's not based in reality if reality is Torah it's not based in reality we're going to ignore it anyway long story short is that in his later years there was a badan at a wedding a rebish wedding the Rees you know it's one of his grandchildren or great-grandchildren and the badan a famous bodhan I forget his name in your in America America the badan is the the U he's like a Jester he tells jokes he he gets everyone laughing it's whole thing he asked because he was this bad was very good at mimicking people but one thing he never did was he never mimicked the rebi never mimicked the rebi himself and he he decided I'm going to ask him so he leaves the stage he runs over to the re and he says Reby would you be okay with with me mimicking you and the RBI said go ahead so he gets up there and he does the best rendition of the SAT revi like he just does an amazing rendition of the rebi and and everyone is hysterically laughing he's doing everything exactly like the rebi does total caricature of the rebi when he finishes he looks over to where the rebie sitting and he sees the rebbi sobbing and he's like oh no like I just made the gut old door like Fall Apart with pain and he like he finished the night off ran over to the rabbi he's just like I'm so sorry like what did I do you know like I'm so sorry like well I don't know you said I could do it but I see I really upset you and the Reby looked at him through his tears and he said he said that uh as you were going I started to realize that maybe I'm a caricature of Me Maybe I'm mimicking me we're all faking it man and you're mimicking you every day waiting for someone to expose you that maybe you'll get exposed for for faking [Laughter] it so you ask who am I yeah we're going there don't worry it's not going to be a long class today this is a very to the point session here and so this is called the impostor syndrome the impostor syndrome is that you don't deserve to be where you've come to and some of the most successful people in world some of the most successful people in the world suffer the Imposter Sy in a major way why well think about it if you're really if you're one of the people who's quite good at faking it well you're going to rise up the ranks real quick but the thing is because you're because you're what's faking because you think you're Faking It by the way you think you're faking because you actually are getting good at stuff because otherwise people wouldn't pay you for it so you're clearly getting the job done but as you fake your way you're the only one with the deep down dark secret that you're faking it and you're just waiting for that exposure and it's pretty scary and sadly many of us will will put a very strong governance like a break to govern our expansion such that no one should ever tap us on the shoulder and say hey what are you doing in this section you belong up there you belong in the cheap seats you understand that how much are you actually governing your expansion as a human being how much are you curtailing it how much are you driving down the street Faking It with no one knowing that your left foot has snuck around to the brake you know your the brakes for the right foot right foot's gas and brakes but your left foot snuck around and it's just Feathering the break the whole time keep keep yourself keep yourself somewhat within the within the realm of uh of uh you know safe you don't want to get exposed and you certainly don't want to expose too big because if you're too big then it it's going to implode so don't get too big play small play small because uh if you get exposed for faking it when you're playing B that's going to be a big fall meanwhile you're faking it they're faking it no one's calling you out for faking it and when's when's the last time anyone in this room got called out for Faking It you understand no one would do that why why would no one call you out for fing it whis themselves yeah because they're fing bless our wives you know because they're just watching this whole thing you know if and again in the traditional sense obviously all the women were out there faking it but in our observant Community the women are more inside the men are the more outside and our wives are watching us fake it because they know us from the beginning they got the ball of clay when we got married and they know our wives know that we're still abolic CL but for some reason the rest of the world thinks we've created some kind of shape worth paying for and our wives are so kind to go along with the whole thing but they don't really go along with too much and that's why it's important to in our marriages as men to absolutely love bomb your wife while pretending to be leading the family to Victory because uh even though you have have no idea how to lead a family you at least do your best and love Mom her the whole rest of the time and she deserves it for for allowing you to play your game she deserves like if she's going to let you play that game out there without exposing you and without giving you too hard a time in the house so you just love bomber but let's get back to the impostor syndrom so the impostor syndrom is syndrome is a disaster it's that who the hell are you voice who are you to make a difference you know who were you to be that guy and of course Keeps Us small the question is how do you get out of all this how do you get out of all this and the answer is is that you it's Nike said it what did Nike say do it just do your thing man do thing okay you faked it but now you're doing it so I mean if I were to take one of you guys to Surf and teach you how to surf which I don't know how to teach someone to Surf which is because when I grew up the way you learned how to surf was by drowning and if you didn't drown you surfed but today today they uh they have surf lessons I never figure that out I know my kids hassled me though because they said why didn't you teach us you know the way the the way they did we'd know how to serve surf by now and I'm like I know I don't know how to teach someone how to surf but if I took one of you guys surfing what are you really doing what you're really doing is Faking it I'm going to show you all the Motions let's say I knew how to teach it but I would show you what the Motions are and then you just fake it if I were to teach you a song what would you do the first couple rounds you tried to sing it what would you do you fake it and then after a while you're singing the song At what Point are you not faking it anymore and so what you start to realize is just do it man just do it just do it now obviously there's deeper work to be done you know in the like if I were riding up an elevator and gave an elevator pitch for my seminar I would say that your whole personality is one big Faking It Bluff to protect you from having any negative beliefs exposed but those negative beliefs about yourself are purely circumstantial are not even real they're not true at all so your whole personality is really set up just to protect you from things that aren't even true to in the first place and so if you got rid of the whole stupid thing if you got rid of the whole damn thing so what would you be left with that was your question so who am I so what would you be left with and the answer is what you're left with is your actual being the actual being the real stuff inside what's the real stuff inside it's the portion of God in that you are it's the it's the image of God that's Viv vivifying your body that's vivifying your conscious experience that's who you are who you are is this eternal conscience meaning this eternal Consciousness that you're experiencing is who you are what you do with your body what you do with your personality all those different moves that's what you're fake but who you are is is eternal who you are is a is a giant unbelievable it's a nuclear power plant but here's the thing is all the stuff you've been faking all these years all the stuff you're faking all these years waiting for someone to tap you on the shoulder to say your seats are up there all these years you've been faking it listen carefully people sense that you're faking it they're faking it too but people sense you're faking it and you want to know something have you ever noticed there's like a class of very wealthy business people that no one seems to be able to break into too you guys ever noticed that there's like a class of business people like the high-end business people like the Range Rover guys it's hard to break into their class you know it's hard to break into that scene you know why why can't you just break in head on in there man fake Contin you make it you fakeing everything else why can't you fake that why can't you fake it they fake their way in there why can't you and the answer is is because the people who r into these Mega wealth positions are animals what do I mean by animals what I mean by that is they are extremely instinctual they're extremely instinctual they have Killer Instincts and people with Killer Instincts smell stuff a mile away they smell it and what happens is they have a combination of killer instincts Good Fortune they also have very high IQ even though all they care about really is you know making money you know they try try to teach them fish they just be like what are you talking about you know they're like and certainly you try to teach them the T with Bo they're just going to be uninterested you know they're brilliant but brilliant in the instinctual way in the body way in the understanding the markets understanding a uh the structure of a business of a aspect of the economy real estate or something the stock stock market movements and stuff usually not very educated a lot of these guys super brilliant not a lot of time in the classroom they got Killer Instincts and they can smell a mile away when someone doesn't belong in their Club they'll be very friendly they'll be very nice they're beautiful people they're but they'll smell if you're not in the club and they you will not be getting a lot of calls back you know that's just the way it is with these people what I want to share with you is that people not only do you hold yourself back but people smell that when you're doing your thing it's not clean people smell that when you're doing your thing it's not clean they'll play along with you just like everyone's playing along in this giant fictional agreement we call Society where everyone's faking it everyone's faking it you're faking it I'm faking it we're all faking it and everyone will play along with the game however if your whole game is a cover up for negative beliefs about yourself that aren't even true to begin with it's not clean you understand let's say the way I fake it is to be very popular at parties I'm fun at parties like if you're throwing a kidish you should invite me fun will be had by all you're throwing a kumzits send me an invite and it will go somewhere that you didn't expect it to go okay I I'm I'm fun at social events but what if my whole fun that I am at social events is really a coverup that I'm that I'm uh unwanted what if I became the fun guy at social events to cover up unwanted and where did I get unwanted unwanted is a coverup because what happened was there was a a custody fight when my parents my parents are married and regular people but imagine there was a custody fight over the kids what was the fight who gets them you get them you no one wanted me I grew up where the parents were actually fighting who could have less custody I mean there are people like this there people walking around like this and sometimes they're the funnest people at your party because everyone wants them around because they perfectly created some kind of digital fakeing it that would just be like the most fun person at the event but deep down it smells you get that smells and by the way the fact that neither parent wanted him does that make him unwanted or is it just circumstantial based on a divorce is he actually unwanted what do you think is he no no but any kid growing through such a thing where neither parent wants them is going to feel unwanted he's going to believe that about himself then he's going to cover it up and start faking it as the social guy that's going to start getting traction he's going to become the guy that everyone invites to everything he's a blast at every party except it stinks it's not clean and what we're doing at the what we do at the possible youu is we clean out the whole damn thing and then you go do your thing so if it's the party do the party if you're a guitar player do the guitar player if you're will start teaching Shir in Torah if you're if it's business the way you fake it if that was your move was becoming the rich guy go make some money man because now you're clean and guess what now that you're clean the Range Rover drivers will smell you and say roses this guy's with us this gu's with us bam just like that I just had a guy who's always wanted to be friends with a very wealthy guy who's uh owns a building in Jerusalem with a big pool and uh and this friend of mine he doesn't want much from the wealthy guy what he really wants is access to the pool because he loves swimming and he um but this guy this big building owner guy you know who loves swimming too is just unapproachable and he smells this guy a he smells this guy in his Shool a mile away that he's like the last person he would ever invite to come swimming in his pool he doesn't want him in the building he doesn't want to see this guy anyway this guy did the possible you cleaned up all his stupid garbage which means nothing and he just walked up last week to the guy in sh he says some I heard you love swimming the guy's like yeah I love swimming like well I also love swimming bet you I could beat you in a race that's all he said to and the guy's like you're on here's the code to the to get into the pool from behind the building I'll see him Friday and he went with him on Friday he went Friday went to this beautiful pool in this big building and and like wiped wiped the owner of the building clean on the pool like he just m much beat him and the owner of the pools just said like do you think you could teach me a little bit what you did and then and he says yeah yeah I'm sure sure he says so why don't we swim every Friday together like like that he went went from the least sh guy and by the way I happen to know the guy I would have told him to like wait a year before you approach him like like develop your clean energy for a few months at first he just went straight forward he didn't ask me by the way he didn't ask me but the the point is let's go back just now just to wrap it up everybody's faking it including everyone you're worried about exposing you no one's going to expose you because they're faking it too you spend your life keeping yourself small because what if someone were to expose you so it's much better to fall from a small place than a high place meanwhile no one's exposing you all you're doing is walking around with an impostor in I'm thinking any minute you could get exposed not true at all underneath all this fake is negative beliefs which are also not true purely circumstantial like the story I told about the divorce the things you do now that you got good at faking well do it man you see everyone's doing their thing the guitar player's doing his thing the rabbis is doing his thing the business is doing his thing but you know what happens if you don't get this clear your thing's doing you you don't do your thing your thing does you and it smells you can can smell that there things is doing that you can tell if the guitar players given a concert or taking it you can tell if the rabis is given a class or taking the class but the thing stays the same thing stays the same you got good at it so I still invite you to the what still hell yeah oh yeah once you're doing your thing but now you're doing your thing clean do your thing but do your thing clean because in the end just do it just do it stop with all the stupid stop with all the stupid you know uh self-examination of this whole thing and and just in the end you're creating the image of God that's your Consciousness you've got good at doing things by faking it well go do it but do it clean do it because it makes a difference do it because people need it should you do it do it as an act of service do it as a give instead of a take just do it do it is day please uh subscribe click a like or uh what all those things the Bell everything thank you