How to integrate experiences

the difference between growing and not because you can do all things that will be for growth if you don't integrate them you know did you really integration means it becomes you let's talk word integration first of all if you're listening to me now your ears are in watching me on a device so your device has me um when I take my and plug it in in my car my entire car stereo every the amplifier the whole mixer everything's my phone integration means the thing that is getting integrated becomes you it becomes that's integration and so the term for that in a character is integrity which is pretty scary to think meaning meaning if you have an Awakening you have an Insight self an Awakening about God or spirituality or an Awakening about and you don't integrate it do you lack as a character you lack integrity that's an Integrity issue which is pretty scary to think about integrity is Major responsibility integrate what you know with who you are you know that's like the next level of responsibility see most think responsibility means U you know brushing their teeth you know using shampoo so um other people have take all the way to like wrong and right taking responsibility for what's wrong or right where people take it to financial responsibility like to be able to be you know fiscal and pay bills financial responsibility responsibility is back to wrong and right like or all the way to dedicating your heart to and things like that responsibility for others which is you know life that are non-negotiable you know that you're the thing of you learning how to take responsibility for yourself is to graduate yourself and move on to others you will never get Beyond themselves which is you know that's the emptiness you might feel in life because I can take care of myself let's see if I can take care of some else and and that's marriage taking care of someone else kids someone else and kids next thing you know hey guest next thing you know you start your guests at your house you find out that they could use help and you just keep expanding your sphere of of surface of what you're capable of giving so so ination is like really really key and integration Super Key you have to learn how to integrate have to learn how to integrate become the person who gets integrated so who's the person who doesn't integrate the person who who sees himself as separ from experience you know like he's like viewing life he's a Voyer he's he's alute to what's happening around him he's he's psychological term is disassociated meaning he's he's he's the floating in the world heated you'll notice they're not really in their body so much they you don't can't hear their voice so much they're not really and that person would have trouble integrating experiences because they're not there experience now we could go into that depth why people disassociate and we're not going to deep in it but something's triggering meaning the entire world's triggering so you're totally dissociated or you're edged to dissociate because something Trigg you or you're ination that's just a dissociative situation for example um for example people's biggest fear is death so now you got to be in a funeral so you're going to cry or you're going to just kind of watch the watch watch the eulogies or you going to be fully Associated and and cry through the eulogies with the being family who were up at the it could be that in different situations different environments bring up stuff for you and it's better to just disate from them someone who Associated has to get back in their body they're what's called unbodied you can tell dissociated people in their body can sense they're not they're just not really res inside their own body hear it in their voice and sense it in language so of the ways to get embodied and to get Associated yourself is to get embodied to use your body use learning to sing be do screaming work um Primal uh uh excise be or whether it be cardiovascular exercise can can impact your body um and then there's the psychological way of getting her back into body is to to um meditation or other Altered States Of Consciousness to heightened States Of Consciousness to to work for example to to get yourself to uming out the trauma that disembodied you in the first place because because most people have anything from a big trauma disembodied them to little traumas which we call the little are often more Insidious you can't any one thing but it's little T traumas that disembodiment so you definitely got to be in your body and be totally and with life and you got to do your work if you're disembodied if you're disassociated you got to do your work to get back in it and but once you're in it now you can integrate experiences because now you're having now you're when things are happening actually fully experiencing those things and once you're ful experiencing now chance to integrate integration comes on a scale it seems with people I found with some people are better into than others so if we just remove from the equation disassociation embodiment but we say okay we embodied let's say all of us in this room are embod and we are an experience and we want to we want to integrate it after I have a feeling each one of us would have a level of integration some of us life's life is completely altered in fact I'm going to have to fit everything I call life into what I've just exped others of us will be compartmentalized the EXP and kind of on even though we want experience embodied we Sorry integrated want to that experience it's like I don't know how to do it because compartmental at night that we did all the breath work or was compartment to that amazing event that concert that amazing talk I heard or you know something or this amazing video I saw somehow compartmental so you'd find everyone would have a different relationship to integration amongst us here some people are like instant integrators and other people have to work really hard toate and think about it for a moment which one are you are you the compiz guy like I happen and then they end and then you're it's just in its own compartment and and now you got to work on inting are the kind of person who everything that you is not a compartment rather it's a download uh the person who I part with in getting this we're in right here um this office in here and this is like you know you had press a little code over there when you didn't go as if there was anything in you worth protecting but whatever there are family that also locked their door whenever they got home I would come at sometimes and knock I would knock and I'd come there and there are 12 men in here amongst all the women and everything at they have a lot of sons there sons-in-laws and I'm like who are you people exting that's going to come in here be dangerous in any way to either person or thing that you need to lock this door every time it closes anyway there's the alarm that was nothing in this in the deepest part of a that no one comes into it unless they're for an event the um but he why am I talking about my friend's oh best friend by the way I'm making he was my best friend and he sadly passed away and just us all in the Lurch where we no one's gotten over the it's some people die and no one ever gets over and he was the one that no one ever got over um his still in like it's been years already since um the integration why did I up download sometimes ah right thank you um wait it's ring it but oh once asked we we were hanging out we hung out every Daye but I once asked him was I in a few days I said I said um I I didn't see him on um I think it was I forg what it was maybe it was was I don't remember let just say was so I said and how was and he looked at and how was you mean how did it go in it's not we did a full it's in man that's in for the I personally every holiday down for the year you start with rashash and then is in for right that was your Russ with everything that's coming for the year all in there so but but you Kipper is kind of your relationship to CH for the year andus is your joy it's all going in ter is your joy of ter in the year and Hanukah is now in every time you look for the rest of the year it says in the Holy books every time you look lights the rest of the year you go back to Han straight back to that darkness that that light of the eternity of a sh we've been talking a lot about fires lately light also Burns things flammable but light represents Eternity for sukus or hanek represents eternity of hasem light that shines forever no matter what in the in the darkness the darkest place that will push it away the darkness it's funny because we what we were about regarding fire was never to have never believe in FL thing don't trust in anything FL and the your trust in hem in time that's where the light is Solstice it's where the light is and anybody you enter that light now you move you guys notice that on we say we don't just say we say paragraph after this whole long thing and then after that whole thing you say well you know what that means that means that every day the after after R the rest of the year say you know what it includes whole zip file okay where day of the year and I can go through all the things that God's name being made meaning of the human Humanity when we say it all those things remember the first paragraph is that's about the Gentiles and the next one is about the Jews and then and it's like it's all in there it's integrated in there every time you say integrate you're not going through each each shabas is going for you it's becoming you and when you have AAS and you have the every day that's alling in it's it's it's becoming you that's with everything everything's becoming you everything well what I'm talking about right now is full integrators we're in full integrators then people really com everything and they have trouble yeah yeah and actually explained in uh in Psychology that dreams are where you purge all the stuff that got integrated was peripheral the day or something that was painful or brought up stuff for you painfully that your dreams integrate that that's why people who don't go to sleep for many days they forced to stay generally get Paran czy Psych otic because they they have overload of um unconscious stuff integrated in their body and in their mind and they need to dream it out the dream state is a purging state of information that got in your emotion and uh you want to know a nice trick in some of my best class happen this was a day after an all night some of the best things were written after an all nighter some of the best poet some of the best books some of the best screenplays some of my best classic of is these classes and my best classes happened after all all night or why because that night give my brain the CH to urge everything in it so what happens over the next is your your whole un mind starts bleeding in you start bleeds into your conscious unconscious bleeding into conscious well all all art comes from the unconscious art does the it came from the conscious no one look it no one listen I can tell in a second a song written from the conscious or the unconscious this is why there's a millions of songwriters a few people actually hit your ears because they're the ones who who are accessing the unconscious for the song out songs come out it's a written song a song appeared that manifested very different thing and obviously the beauty of Highly High um uh talented in some rock music usually jazz music um highly talented Jazz are able to hit that real time and they're because they're highly talented they have the full use of fretboard or their guitar or their Bass keyboard with drums and you watch them go into what's called The Muse it's fancy word the it's called Muse M and called The Muse you get into the Muse which is that unconscious flow went out into your and it's coming through your thing Charles Wonder yeah were they would get into the Muse and uh I was just watching uh the bass player of Michael Jackson from the song the Bas song the base on thrill just keeps going like that and uh I mean it stops I think the No No it never stops never stops even when you [Music] go whole song yeah never goes away so it's a five minute song with um those notes so the interviewer interviewer asked this you know great place player uh did you Loop it you know did you play it four times and then Loop it he says no no not you know get a perfect of for bars and loop it you and he was like then then I groove he said he said don't take away my chance for five minutes in the groove saying is he he got into that unconscious place with boring you know which would put any white guy to sleep but he was in the groove and he don't take away his Groove yeah and I'd like to tell all of you guys especially if because you're Jewish is Jews can often wind up being talking head gets you know this is where they end there is a Groove and don't underestimate the power of the groove in your own life in your own life because it's a vibrational resonance that you can integrate I'm it can be anything like I'm going to be hiking in the desert today with well it's a very horizontal groove north has these very Mountain grooves and the down there the mountains of Israel in the north this energy vibr energy of our sages who seem to be every Ys each one's a Vortex of prayer my wife and I found a few hidden ones that are like our those are our spots and uh that's just I don't so and they if I tell you I got a kid I I would tell anyone priv but I'm not going to say online and um and there uh but then you go down to the horizontal vibrations of the desert the southern it's um it's a very different vibe it's very beachy ocean Vibe ocean horizontal Vibe and and but the desert Vibe is the forefathers if you go down Camp a few nights like we go down there sometimes in Winter spend a few nights you're in forefathers vibrate when you stand out there at night you look at those Stars realize those are the same exact stars that Abraham watching and thinking about life his the future of his people and which is the planet you know everyone's from you know you got the arals from Ishmael the Js from uh from the uh Indian all the Hindu and and Eastern are from the six children of his concubine married name her name was incense he sent her Eastward to the land of the East and that's a amazing thing and he gave them all gifts what were the gifts you know he gave everything to Isaac but to his six Divine he gave gifts and sent them away from Isaac e land of so much that one in the T about the entire Eastern Chans we left what's left just Aboriginal people in Africa and the Americans and the Chinese other than that ones from Abraham and the the Aboriginal culture these uh in the Americans and in Africa are are no's third child whose name was um son it was named ham means Instinct isot Instinct and he was the Instinct kid so those tribal cultures including China are instinctual people Y is that's the oldest son and the son is Shem and he's Shem is Shem semites and Shem means me oriented people and that's all people are meaning oriented well theed once you cross Europe cross the Mediterranean you get into Israel all of a everyone's in the me meeting go sit in a coffee shop in televis and watch what happens and you you'll be on the life within like minutes of talking to the most secular Israeli in it's all going to be meaning oriented and across Israel maybe to bridge Tel Aviv because there's also a lot of lot of inan you know 205 Hightech but once you cross there then things get very get to Jerusalem things are like extremely meaningful then you and then you just keep moving East it just gets more more meaningful till you you don't have to go Jordan once you're in Jordan you can already have people just live you know bed ones yesterday I was with bed ones like all day because Mountain bik Desert so do with BS and Shepherd dogs Shepherd dogs friendly dog you will ever meet there friend that you have to actually get off and pretend you're thr at them to get to like back off and don't PR meaning start with pretending fine rocks and and throw a few towards them Vin they know they know hit their dog with a rock and and the uh but we we had to do that five times crossing the desert because if you if you try to ride like you try to beat them you know about six dogs going as crazy AG ever seen a dog and these are built like to protect at the but they're they're used to M bikers in Israel sou Russia yeah I wouldn't want to meet the ones in but the ones in Israel you know it's kind of routine that we're in with it um that's why it's to be the first writer because if you can them you do poor guys behind you to suffer now so the um was funny when I found was sleeping a little so it had The High Ground so I was just like quietly like shooting by but I saw he was starting to open his eyes were not anyway I to the bottom of that area and my son's not with me anymore so You Catches Up I said what happened he said well the dog you woke up charged me completely Char me I had to stop as quick as I could and my bike between me and the dog till it ran away or until he let him walk away anyway the iess I'm just underestimate the the groove will tune your in it will help tune you and you need to be need to be in tune and you're in tune on a core level like when properly tuned to any Groove when it's prop tuned into of your environment or the sound of the music or whatever it is when you're properly tuned into the groove your instincts go up when your instincts because the groove pure Instinct you're you're resonating with a vibration which you're tuning your instincts you tune your instincts so then it's really hard to rip you off it's really hard to lie to you it's really to to uh and going forward because you canally relax you don't have because your instincts will pick up on stuff if there's something to pick up you will pick up because your your grooves well established anyway the um let's integration so so full integration would be that whatever happens to fully integrated and that's it what about we only semi- integrator non integrators so that brings us to Identity how do you deal with it if you want to be able to inate so the answer is identity human beings have no idea who they are we have no idea who have no idea who I am you have no idea who you are that's just the facts and the proof is anyone in a crowd of people even size Crow or anything ask anyone stand up and tell us who you are go ahead tell us with full confidence Who You Are and what you'll see is if you were to stand up and do your best I would completely deconstructed if I were leading this deconstruction mode I would deconstruct that that's who you are and so now who are you you see integration means that I'm ready to I'm ready to become whatever this is taking me to become I you I'm becoming I'm Not a Human Being I'm a human be becoming I'm becoming things which means I'm constantly letting go of of it you know um learning with my rebi Shalom Shak fredman the Hornish of reab he once when we were learning with him one night thees that was brought down in theim you know word Kish is the new idea that came came up in the learning we got this new idea it so blew everybody away that even the rebi was blown away so the Elder teaching us was blown out to the point where he couldn't even go on we all were just like and it's crazy I don't remember what it was but I don't remember what it was because it was so long ago well it went in obviously but I don't remember what it actually was so we were blown away and so the whole class had to pause to just like whoa like is that really what is that really Torah like Torah is telling us this when the redby finally got back to himself he looked at all of us and he said he says you guys look pretty blown away yeah we're all like yeah we're we're blown away man and and the rebi said you know what the difference between me and you is he said you guys are going to now integrate this new idea with everything you know I'm going to take everything I know and integrate it into this new idea for you guys you're adding for me everything I know now comes through this this Rabbi very few students very few and the he has are always either Bas or confence and no one could ever figure it out why has this guy why has this Reby with such a high C hasn't he why doesn't he have this huge following it should be like impossible even to get near him get batted off by gab his assistant and St you know and that going on so I I played it years till I finally realized the rebi is is flipping over his identity every single day he is re every learns is becoming his new reality of his how he L out from his eyes it's new setting everything he's Lear is a new for reality he's flipping his life over every day well who are the people who to him very few stick to the few that stick one do in common they've at least flipped their life over either the convert his life over and converted to Judaism or the Balu flipped his life and became observant from a non-observant back once flipped their life over but anyone else there who was raised observant and they're just it was interesting a little scary it's pretty scary to be with him you know was interesting scary but like it's not for me and the reason is is because he's like that identity is our issue you got to be willing to let go if you want to integrate a little you got to be able to let let go of your whole to anything flammable is definitely worth ident around and but it's not that it's structures of identity that this am and this is who I'm not because think about it if you think you are X Y and Z means you're not a b and c well it says who oh yeah that's where you end a b and c sorry X Y and Z that's where you that's the end of who you are so therefore you're obviously b Inc well guess what new thing that happened your life this new experience or this new relationship or this new T learning or this new that it's saying A and Z and what's going on is X Y and Z doesn't know where to put it I don't know how where's he for that I don't know how to run that program because is bringing myid into question you have to be willing to everything to be someone to gra to have integrity and live which is integrity you have be able to let of your identity which quote you can't accept the truth because afid go sometimes you accept the truth because you're too of let go of what you thought was yeah that's what we're talking about so how do you you ident there's different ways of doing it and we have a another subject just to me shortly is we all have something else called misy you see the stuff you want to to make your life better you have a comfort zone and you know this is possible you chapter in it's one of the 10es we go through in the possibly you and that is that you're you're kind of addicted to um you're addicted to a certain amount of misery in identity in your life how you see things in the whole world like you're used to that and things your misery comfort you will sabotage be able to identify we got two things in the we'll discuss both and then we'll call it a day things that get in the way of identity one is the uh sorry two things that get in the way of integre one is identity and the other is um comfort zone because because whatever it is you want to do in was going to make your life better you wouldn't know how to live with yourself if your life was better so the we'll handle both quickly the the way you let go of identity is to oh there's tricks so one is you a beggar and move far away from where anyone would ever recogniz I doubt anyone's going to do another way is you um in other ways you spend time alone in nature every without distraction and and preferably use your voice to God talk talk a good thing to do um because the the um the once you're n in a place called the mid Wilderness it's called the midar you hear another L Word in the word midbar mid mid is to speak so so much of our identity wrapped up in the identities of others in nature there is no other identities except the the birds and the others there are the trees and the the earth and the stones and and they don't say much so you able to clarify who you're not and who you're not is not all social socially constructed um sense identity is appears the rest disappear in the midbar and then you actually can maybe hear hear that still small side small voice of go of God that speaks to I'm not going to go into a whole I'm like it's like 12 years in India is getting rid of identity you know it's like kissing guru's feet so that you cany yourself at least before someone who's done his work to his which is not really necessarily the Jewish but um to go you know some toes the um I don't think that's our path but whatever I'm I'm not deep into this but but certainly anything you can to wipe SL wipe your slate clean of who you think you are let that go and another trick is whenever you find your in a situation where you're like not man you know I don't do dishes or I don't do I don't do whatever whatever you don't do go do it that you do that's what yeah whatever whatever there's nothing you don't do you don't because remember wherever Ed is identity if you don't so then you got identity and as a public I you know there way I'm kind of wherever I go so like I could easily fall into some identity and so I make it a point when no's looking you know sometimes do something really out of the box publicly like like for example I'm in market and the Casher cash what's the feminine of Casher what's the M male version same so the cashier said right back I have to go get I just be right back so I see there's a no know calling all shot just want with an amazing today hope you're having shopping experience and Lady Of course comes running back crabs the microphone anyway but I'll do those things I also will I come of service to people um I pick up litter glitter litter gar I pick up garbage in the street um and I also so once in a while I in the bathroom and coming out of bathroom see like a stall that's like someone must accident and I look are there other stall other place the bathroom and it's no there's only one you know there were couple and there was that one and I just just looking grabs so some paper tows some wash water and stuff and I look like a Jan was just there open back the door own hands and get out and anyway there little tricks you can do on the side just throughout your day little just little to do and they're good to do yeah just to tell you a quick on that one of the greatest rabis of this generation really big T with he instead of being a r study hall he ran a hostel a youth hosle that you had to be secular he had to be a non-observant to get your free housing it was called The Heritage House as a joke at ishor called it thetic house you couldn't you couldn't be observant if you Liv there had to be non-observant to live there what he would do there old he did this years and years but when I he was already 60s when I way he was in his 80s and but this is a man who he God listened and if you saw his just his posture in prayer I'm seeing him doing it right now Jim was up a little beard and it was like literally like he was holding God's throat when he prayed he was God's throat this guy was nuts he knew no he knew no limits he walk up to people like the coolest people you ever saw walking down the street you know in the old city or new city or down at the they're like cool guys walk up to him he complete introvert a introvert in the personality traits of introvert he was the introvert you felt awward when you talked to him with him for years I never talked to him where I didn't feel awkward he was that big an introvert normally an introvert's fun to talk to like they have so much in to share and let out of their you know when they're oneon-one but they're great he was like awkward oneon-one 10 times more Awkward on had two people in front of him he spent his day every free hour he had when he wasn't learning to to people saying are you Jewish if they said yes stay and they be like back with me depending how far they were the Heritage House would far he them but he can't can't talk with him because he was such a he couldn't talk with him so like the guy was thinking the whole time like who's this guy you know once the door now we're all the friendly people that he hired and make friends with the guy running dorm you know and like you know the head of the dorm which I call a dorm man and um and the get this full and you never hear you never hear from him again he once called me and he said don't to the uh named Justin and I'm like come on Justin like any other info he's like no that's all I remember I don't know is he says well we're reading reviews and he said that your class touched the most and he was you know they they dropped them in a tour in the morning you know class touched them the most okay great thanks for telling me Rabbi like never called me before okay great he says call him what do you mean call him in America is like Texas or something and I want you to tell him that I'm going to buy him a back his profile hits someone that it's worth it for me to buy like don't feel comfortable that I know somebody that I don't know was in my class I people in there I don't know which one was him and I certain talk to him he's like call him here's his number I didn't write there I'm not calling La of feel you know offend you know two weeks later he called said what Justin say like Rabbi I gotta be honest with that I'm not comfortable calling this guy he not hang up the phone until I said I would call him next in I'm knowing this number hi J it's Rabbi Glazer how'd you get my number I said listen Justin it's time to come home we're sending you a ticket we're send toet to come home and the time perfect he just kind of fired like some comment at work and he uh he was like this is amazing and came to is long short uh I get a call again from the rabbi saying Justice who's been Yeshiva and Ben abon for the last years or something married tonight and I thought maybe you should come with me to the and I'm like right jump in about when guys in the host walking out of the hostel backpacks you guys going you you're not allowed to leave you know you can check in time you want but you can never leave like where you guys going they're going we're going to tell you and he's like no no no no no no no we're leaving and they're like the door you said we're come so we're so they're back on this trunk and there guys in the back of the and one of the guys right as the the Gates of Jerusalem you know the the edge of the city the edge of the city one of the guys says Rabbi what's wrong with marrying a gentile anyway I hope he's asking me so that the rabbi can drive for this the rabbi drove to leave looking the back seat the whole drive I have my arm over here telling you gas almost crashed 100 I still don't know if there were crashes were spinning out behind us one point cars were spinning out behind us he didn't stop screaming at this guy the whole way was screaming this guy the whole this guy was like the RPP was like a freak of nature like just beating a Different Drum running on frequencies you know we made it to Tel when the wedding was over he was like okay let's go and I'm like I got a ride I took a bus back I'm not him I'm not going back it was just I know we' get there but I I was I can't my can't take it so anyway what I wanted to tell you guys was I a concert in The Old City on two in the morning one night I come out and it's raining dark it's freezing and I come around a corner and I see person in the in you know a lot of houses are up above coming through the tunnel and see there's a person so I'm like okay my instinct you know make sure it's safe and everything my other part of me was in this tunnel and middle of Life Frozen puddles everywhere and anyway see that he's bending down picking up and he's bending down and pick stuff pick stuff up and I just okay it's some kind of janitorial situation and so I just walked through the tunnel and when I got near him I looked you couldn't see so well but I L it was Rabbi Schuster this was Rabbi Shuster 2 in the morning leaning up the old city but pulling bags out of Muddy Puddles sticking them in the bag cups sticking in the bag another yucky bag and and I just walked he shouldn't see me this was him in the morning he was 80s it doesn't even you'll see he was up to Identity Let It Go zone is the amount of misery on a scale 1 to 10 how much misery to feel feel comfortable in your identity the way you deal with this you you um practice I love you Behavior practice you Behavior like when you hold food you hold the before we had s in these cups hold what do to do with my body this I love you or I hate you making a coffee white sugars very few only having one white day not a big it goes in your coffee but spoons that I love you I you is getting addicted to coffee feel it anymore is that I love your is coming home late without even calling up I hate you so what is you you um identify every interaction every thing you do throughout the day everything that happens to you ask see it as a fork in the I love you I hate you don't just go with I love you if you really enjoy white bread go bread and give and I hate you but maybe make a blessing with a Ben use the actual bener for your blessing after didn't I love you if you blow we say at the end prayers if you blow it off day like most most people are not words you can just tell by the time they say it you can't SE that fast so they're not saying all the words I love you spiritually to blow prayer that you're mening I hate you so if you're saying it three times a day open the book and say the words it's a big deal once a day so only do I love but practi I love you what you'll find is your misery Comfort starts going down and down as AER Comfort goes down you start integrating things that I love you things because part of the problem is what do people want to the things that and I love type of thing we want to that's love meaning love ourselves that we F ourselves that it caused self-esteem that it caused wellbeing what you want well how do you integrate that if you're always saying I hate you inside if you got a high miseries comfort zone and so by practicing I love you Behavior to the point of just having a plus at the end of the day like I don't care if you did 20 minus you're down minus build it back up finish day in the plus one's enough but finish your day at least plus one get cognizant of I love you and you throughout the day and what will happen is Comfort zones a nine you'll be at an eight very quickly you two numbers in about four or five months you can drop three numbers in about a year or two and as you drop those numbers by cognizant everything you do throughout the day everything you think about it you touch everything you say everything you eat is exercise not exercise is a fork in the road of I love you or I hate you choose choose I love you not not so often just enough enough enough 51% in your day and plus one's all you need already go down then you'll find that when you have an experience integrate it'll start integrating in you because you're the kind of guy who who loves and you know wants his life to be good thank you for joining me and practice spirituality subscribe to my channel not just the stations that I'm which is Rabbi y um just and hit the you know the Bell to get those reminders come on blessings