How do you know you’re right?

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anyway let's go so today we're going to discuss something that's so important and and please God I'll be able to free you free your mind and that is how do you know when you're right being right in general it's a major Topic in Human Experience human psychology um there's even a dissonance that happens inside our hearts when we know we're wrong and we're not discussing wrong and right right now um there's obviously a cognitive dissonance when you're doing the wrong thing like meaning going against your own morality that's not what we're discussing right now we're talking about how do you know you're on the right path and and it's it's also CRI or if you're in a discussion with somebody how do you know you're right if they're giving an opposing opinion like how do you know you're right and the other thing is that it's very hard we've been discussing motivation a bit the last few days and we Torah gives the secret Judaism gives the secret of motivation and that is that the word for desire is the word run and R is to run you only run for something when you really want it but you may notice that a lot of people are running and the reason they're not running is because think about it the FAS you go in the wrong direction the further away you are from where you want to be so you slow down you know you're driving down the highway and you know it's one of these like New Jersey 45 M hour highways and there's blocks you're passing and you've been carefully looking for a street but you took your eyes off the streets for like 20 seconds you passed like three blocks and you still and you're breaking this speing let's just say you're going 60 and 45 you still going 60 if you pass three streets without looking at that science and you may go another mile you're not go 60 because you're just your psychology says maybe it's back there and how many people are driving 30 you a 45 meaning in their life they're they're they're not really moving forward because what if what I wanted was back there and you'll notice it also in businesses where they're they're afraid to cut their losses they should be closing the business but they put so much into it but yet if you go into that business you'll see that it's lost its energy it's lost it's Mojo there that you can see everyone in the business is no longer um they're no longer motivated they're no longer on fire and you can see it's like affecting the the way they're they're doing business because they know that this thing is it's a for for forone conclusion that this business must conclude but no one's willing to conclude it because so much was put into and that's the key to success in growing businesses is to cut your losses when when you realize there's no way out of it that's where you break out and you whatever you lose you lose but it's better than losing everything so so how do you know when you're right like to start with arguments when you're in an argument someone and you're both trying to be right and this happens a lot in a marriage where you think you're right and your spouse thinks that they're right and and you in that moment feel the love get sucked out of the room and it's a very interesting thing to to just have love sucked out like that and and you and it's not just you could be in a chabas table where the host is in this like being right mode okay you don't find that too much at paciic tables but there's other tables out there where the host might go into some kind of being right mode about X Y and Z and if you're his guest at his table with every successive minute you sit there you're becoming more and more or feeling less and less love less like being there uh marking the marking that evening or that day in your heart as don't come back to this place this is not a safe place to be when we're in those kind of conversations and we're feeling dominated meaning when love is being taken out well why is it such a big impact on us why do we like no we never want to go back there and the reason is is because our deepest need is love that is our deepest need beyond anything else and isn't it interesting how people are so willing to give up their deepest need just to be right I had this issue a lot in um my years and outreaching ASA Toro back when we'd get you know a busload of 50 secular kids did I say a bus load how about bus Lo loads of 50 secular kids um multiple bus loads and we in charge of them for the next 6 weeks so there was a major issue what was the issue we're teaching Torah as if it's true we're teaching God as if he exists because that's our position they were coming in as if God doesn't exist and I mean he may or may not but certainly isn't for sure and the second and then there were many who said he doesn't and then there was Judaism is uh you know it's like Legends it's it's um mythology it's like the Torah is not actually god-given now what would happen is I'm teaching a class and I start to notice and I I developed a love meter or you could call it a warmth meter cuz I'm the only way for them to hear anything I'm saying I have to be very warm I have to be very connected so being warm being connective and making sure the stories and examples are all like right on their level you know I have a lot of Street credit and it's interesting some people have permanent Street credit because at this point in my life I should have no Street credit but yet every time I'm given you know 18y old kids 16 20 year old kids I prefer 18 and over but 16-year-old kids every time I'm given them I have instant Street credit with them before I even open my mouth like I don't even have to say anything cool you know it just comes which is very interesting that street crit I believe it's a vibrational reality that you develop and since every human being has a vibrational um receiver and emitter we emit vibration and we receive vibration that you can achieve a level of vibrational cleanliness that whoever you speak to just goes around it um anyway back to our topic is I have a warmth meter a love meter and what would happen is I noticed the room's getting cold why because the group's getting scared and weren't they getting scared about they're getting scared that the very underpins of their philosophical life because human beings are philosophical beings and for our lifestyle we all have to have a philosophy that underpins the Lifest but what's happening is I am literally unpinning their philosophical tenants that are what give them the ability to maintain their lifestyle and I feel it's they're getting scared it's getting cold there's no more love in the room and so let's say the topic was about you know how do we know there's a God not how do we believe how do we know this gu that was the topic and and I'm discussing how like the world can't come out of nothing or whatever you know and but they're starting to realize the whole first cause proof you know the famous first cause they're starting to realize oh my gosh there's a God you know then you just feel it getting cold and the love meter is going down at which point I completely changed the subject and I tell a story about a very vulnerable experience I had that you know really put me in my heart and my whole emotional system at risk when I was a child and it was a scary time and um and as I talk about that you feel the love me to come up and the Love's coming back and the warmth's coming back and then so they're just like it's almost like they want to jump out of the audience and hold me cuz I'm discussing me as a little kid it's almost like they want to jump out of the audience and hold and the second that love meter goes back to full when it hits full I immediately shift gears and say what do you think the World created itself and they're like oh back to that subject okay we're back to that subject and and and then I just go on that subject I'm giving a very strong example but but I'm doing this in every single conversation especially especially if I know they're holding an opposing view I'm not doing this to manipulate them by the way I'm not doing this to manipulate I actually would love an argument against me I my I also have a lifestyle it also has underpinnings of philosophy you know it's got a world view so if my world view is skewed fix it please fix me I'm looking for that but I'm not looking for you know defensiveness not based in real logic you understand which is when obviously most people aren't going to raise their hand to get defensive with a non-logical non logical reason behind it so it's like so they just sit there and get hammered by me but as I'm hammering the love Meer going n now if I come out right about God if I come out right about Torah if I'm right what's that make them what do they they're wrong does that make them winners or losers this is and then they so they left the door and they may never come back so there's a whole other whole other thing that's NE necessary in communication of right and wrong meaning who's right who's wrong and that is you have to also shift the discussion to how they win you understand you have to shift the discussion how this is a win well how would you shift in discussion for it to be a win well you'll notice that anytime I would be talking to one of those crowds I'm sure there's YouTube years of this that I will suddenly digress for 10 minutes on how let's say for we were discussing the example that how God's creating the world from nothing I will immediately do like a 10 minute thing on how your life goes turbo electric color like freak out electric you know the whole world turns into Disneyland like fulltime 24/7 Disneyland when you realize that you're being created now now now out of absolute nothing now into existence from absolute nothing and I can prove how that works exactly I can prove how you come into existence from absolute nothingness so I might give that proof but then 10 minutes on how awesome life is so what happens is I watch group and the group starts getting high they start moving into a high place so let me just put it very simply is that when you're being right and you feel the listener is going to be benefiting from you being right make sure make sure Express the benefit you know in other words you want me to be right you get that metime you want if we were having this discussion you want me to be right about this but they don't because they want me to be wrong and they want to be right but if I can show them the benefit of being right about it so then they're they're much more interested in it and this can go for anything like this could be anything could be a discussion about an ice bath you know using ice baths and this person's definitely scared of cold hates winter never had a cold shower never touched the cold Mi and I'm explaining the benefits of of uh sorry I'm saying go into the cold do cold showers especially in Winter because then it's really cold so you really get the benefits like winter is the best time for cold showers I focus much more on my cold showers in the winter than summer when water's not that but I will definitely speak about the benefits while doing that so that they not only am I right in the end about the cold shower but but they feel like winners in the end I didn't create losers I created winners now let's talk about your path in life or now before we do that we're going to talk about life decision so we spoke about arguments now we're going to speak about life decisions and then we're going to talk about life path okay so making decisions like how do you know you're making the right decision about anything you're doing so um one things one way of clarifying what's a good decision about what you're doing is which one will bring you will cause you to have a more meaningful life so anyone got an idea of two decisions one's less meaningful one's more meaningful I can give you a couple right off um I can watch more YouTube videos which I'm learning you developing you know learning on YouTube but maybe it's enough already for this hour or I can um or I can go pay a bill I'm growing I'm I'm YouTube I'm learning from Dr whomever you know Andrew hubman the neurologist and you know whatever that guy is I know I think he's neurology and eyes he his pH has two phds and so I can listen to another half hour of that or I can like go pay a bill so what do I do which one do I so what was the question what do I have to ask which one's going to bring more meaning um so now here's here's a great hint for when deciding between two things is the one that is a fulfillment of responsibility is usually the right one or the one that's harder is usually the right one that will bring you more mean so for example let's say um let's say two of you ask me to do you a favor and one of those favors is harder I know I'm going to want to do the easier one just knowing myself but I also know that the one that's going to be harder is going to be me S CL just turn the temperature a little bit more of free uh how do we do this I guess like that so the harder will will bring me more joy and this in general like this hard work that we do is an Energizer which is really weird because when the hard work comes we're what are we thinking we're thinking that this is going to like wipe me out but for some reason I tell you to do it I mean you may physically watch out but you just feel great you just feel great your energy level is much higher because you're active and you did what you had to do so there's harder there's responsibility what's more responsible learning more about your nervous system or paying a bill paying a bill yeah paying a bill is more responsible and you will somehow wind up feeling better about yourself and having more meaning in your life as being the guy who's responsible you you'll have more meaning in life by taking care of your Logistics and so you you got that decision again true things equal if they're equal go with the harder them I actually learned that from my father-in-law and he he says you know y whenever I'm in a situation where I can't decide what to do I've trained myself over the years always do the Higher One bring you much more pleasure and then a lesson I got from my father-in-law the so so that helps a lot with thises another thing ask ask someone a smart person makes his own mistakes no smart person learns from sorry does a smart person learn from his mistakes what's the answer yeah no smart person learns from other people before you do anything just ask I ask and ask and ask and ask to a ridiculous level ridiculous level but depending on the weight of the decision I'll ask more like for example when I was getting married um meaning when I was thinking of getting engaged to my wife I asked so many people I it was crazy because this the second biggest most important decision of your life like the second most important decision so I just flushed I I thought of like who are the 10 wisest people I can think of who've got high level emotional intelligence because it was IM mer it's a a relationship and so I just went from person to person to person and actually Med 10 said the gr which means I probably should have stopped at the first one or second one but I'm I'm like an Ask freak I I make basically very few decisions once they start getting important if it's like dinner or movie movie but if it's like you know milk lives or fles or it's like we go to that park or we go to that park to play Frisbee I have no problem making that decision um my general schedule throughout the day but the second I'm at a decision that's going to be much more consequential I never make that decision alone and I often ask multiple people now you do have to be a little careful because if you ask a lot of people and you're getting muching answers start slowing down with how many people you ask cuz you're just going to get totally confused yeah you wanted higher volume uh higher volume on the YouTube no problem the so to you got to be a little careful with asking a lot of a lot of advice but just because you might get a lot of conflicting answers and and wind up even more confused than you should be but the I personally asked a lot of people and continue to ask a lot of people I basically don't make any important decision on my own and the funny thing about that is is that if you're watching me right now if you're watching me right now if you're listening to me right now it's because you you actually think I have something to say I mean otherwise you wouldn't be listening so the reason you're listening right now is because you believe I have something worth saying but think about it the person you came to hear is the one who is the biggest beginner I'm one who's asking the most that should be enough of a hint to let you know that if you really if you let's say you ever dreamed of being someone that people considered you worth listening to with the the way you become the person worth listening to is by asking and asking and never stop never stop just keep asking which way to go and and you'll get great wisdom you'll get great advice and you will in the end when over the years people are going to be asking you and your your opinion will weigh in big time but how you become someone who opinion weighs in by asking you be the guy who's a true beginner um I just want to mention in case anyone's watching this from theic or mfish Community the blackhe Hat her community in case anyone's listening from that community and you're a young man I'm warning you that when you hit the real world meaning meaning the world of having to like make money and stuff like that so you got to interact with a lot of people who went to regular high schools and they got a secular education and many of those people even went on to get first degrees in University many went on to for Masters and sometimes you're dealing with people who have phds like lawyers and what can happen is um because your background was Torah all the years and notice I didn't say only Torah I could have said only Torah with no secular no Torah is like when you study Torah especially if you go through the whole sh in detail it's like it's like getting 30 phds it's like having 30 phds and getting no C for which is good cuz you stay humble but most people aren't studying that much of shot in detail and and many of you aren't studying at all much at all and anyway but what happens is you come out uneducated now how do I make sure no one knows I'm uneducated well very simply don't ask any questions just go toone just you know like constantly cover up the fact that you don't know what you're doing that's the way most people try to do it and so that's why you'll notice these and you can feel their vibration you'll notice these very insecure 18 19 20 year olds 21 year olds 22y olds you know what I'm talking about you meet these guys they're all over the streets of Jerusalem because they're like running wild ha on their while they're studying at the mirror you know and and which by the way I think is good it's very healthy for them you know the think about the the Amish not that we're here to learn from the Amish but I think the Amish are um they they're they're those people I don't know where they live but they live somewhere in America Pennsylvania and they they like won't use any modern technology or whatever and they're obviously very devout Christians they I think is that the group that sends them their kids out for a year or at least year something like that yeah they they have to like not be a Christian for year they have to like move to the coffee shop um neighborhood of Amsterdam for a year and um and then they can come back to be part of the community but I guess they figured out over the years that it makes for a healthier community so these these boys studying in Israel for the year or years it might be quite healthy for their for them and and really really quite healthy for our communities that they ran wild for a year or two and the reason is is because you you to live your life as a man those oh these boys how long do they run well till they get married meaning they they get to meet the parents it's arranged marriages so the parents find a woman for them and you meet them and they get married the uh but the thing is he's a boy to Israel when he gets married he's called a man and girls when they're single they called girls and then when they get married they become a woman and the you don't want boys married you want men married it's not good for a society to have boys being you know in charge of households and stuff like that men are in charge of households well how do you become a man well the way you become a man is is a couple ways one of them is C courage like what is a man a man is someone who faces danger with courage meaning when he feels fear he okay he checks the brakes just to get a feel for what he's going in getting into but he's not like pressing the brakes he's checking brakes you know he's Feathering the brakes get a glimpse of the world around him at navigate and then he hits the gas you know with courage into life and whatever is coming his way now when you have a very protected Society where every decision is made for you IE the community of growing up as a teenager where you literally don't make any decisions including who you married you know so like like the first Free Will exercise first real choice you made in your entire life was the day after Chev because you don't make any of your own decisions during Chev either which is the seven days of of festivities after the wedding so now it's the eighth day after the wedding they wake up the couple weeks up and they're sitting there and and he's like you know what do you want to do you know they got a whole day ahead of them you know because they take a little time off to be together what do you want to do which is by the way a sentence a man should never ask his wife don't ever ask your wife because you know what the real answer is nothing if you're leaving it up to me because I want you to throw me on the back of your horse and ride me off into the sunset like a western hero but how many men take their wives out for dinner you know she's sitting in the passenger seat in the driver's seat it looks like he's driving he's not driving how do you know if he's driving or not but just what he says if he says to her where do you want to go her answers I want to go back in the house cuz you're I'm taking you out you're taking me out what does it mean to be taken out what does it mean to be swept off your feet and the answer is this that there's a man in control there's a man who's making me feel safe there's a man who's taking me out to dinner yeah there's no wrong with asking her you know where she wants to eat that's I'm just using this as an example but but the overarching theme is that the man is taking the family on the journey and the wife is able to move into a full nurturing support role and not leadership no woman wants to leader her family um there are times in the D dynamism of a woman's system where leaving is fine but there's also times where it's going to be causing her to feel chaos and and instability and therefore it's always the man's job to be leading the family forward so in today's world where so many men have become feminized and especially the more intellectual ual ones the ones and especially the more spiritual guys who are like highly developed in their feminine side so they have to train themselves to be decisive and and the truth is as a woman will be perfectly happy to follow you to the wrong to dead end you know the wrong place she'll be had there's been a few times where I took my wife out to do whatever we had to do or to eat or whatever it was and we arrived in place was closed and I looked at her and I said wait a second you knew it was going to be closed didn't you and she's like yeah I know why do you say so she said I'd rather I'd rather I'd rather you lead me the wrong direction then we lead in the right direction yeah that rather you lead me to the wrong place and we have to be leading the family or leading us and that's just so important and I'll give you a little hint for shom Bas um this is going to sound a little strange but get your wife drunk and don't you drink a thing you can you know you know you can do you can use you'll drink ginger ale and she'll drink beer or you'll drink grape chip and she'll drink wine but she doesn't necessarily know you're drinking grape chip or you drink water and she's drinking vodka anyway as I mean don't get her drunk drk don't get her smash she's going to throw up or hurt herself anyway but what you're doing is you're compromising her ability to control meaning to control things control herself to control anything so you're you've you've compromised her her abilities and you've compromise and and by the way you don't have to tricker you can say let's have a few drinks you're going to that call I'm not but what you've done is you've allowed her to now go into her vulnerability and you are a rock you are a rock and as her world's rocking the only thing stable around there is you and this is um and for for many people this is a game changer the people who tried this exercise it's a game changer and you can even be straight out about it like you can say like listen I I want to be a rock fer and I'm going to be a rock fer and I know I haven't been and I'd like to do that as an exercise is to you know in a very safe environment compromise your your control and be a rock for you and just be here in a way that's powerful and and uh makes you safe in your most vulnerable state anyway something worth trying um I know it sounds kind of unorthodox to be getting your wife drunk but certainly permitted um and if she never drinks alcohol it's a matter of literally one drink CU someone who has no tolerance for alcohol which is someone who doesn't drink it's a glass anyway there's there's supposed women are supposed to be drinking wine four cups of wine every Passover so they're not supposed to be drinking grp juice so I imagine that traditionally women did drink wine because you can't just drink four cups of wine if you don't drink wine you need to be a Wine Drinker to handle four cups of wine and but there's nowhere in that permits a woman to drink grape juice if she's an able-body normal human being obviously people are infirm can drink grap juice you know elderly or someone who's allergic to alcohol and obviously there's permission to alcohol extend Crees if they're you know if it can ruin their lives or something um back to us is that we're talking about becoming a man and if your whole life controlled I didn't finish my skit after the he says what do you want to do and she looks at him she says what do you want to do what do you want to do what do you want to do it's like Ping Pop what do you want to do what do you want and just to bring it down in a principle you can't become a person of powerful Free Will Choice without lots of practice it takes lots of practice well how do you know you went the wrong way by the pain in your nose for having slammed into a wall there's wrong ways out there plenty of them and if you want to do it be a bad parent protect your kids from bumping into the walls and you want to ruin your kids protect them now obviously protecting them from serious harm the way you do it is basically based on their age you as they get older you release and release and release and release your protection so like how much protection does an infant need on a scale of 1 to 10 10 10 three-year-old 9.8 yeah 5year old 9.5 an 8-year-old 9 seven eight you know like but as they're getting it be 10 years old now they need like 8.5 and and another they're Bar Mitzvah B Mitzvah seven person now they need a seven protection now they're 15 16 oh down to five now they're 17 now get out of three and what's happening is as you release it they keep banging in stuff on they they're just starting to hit stuff and how do you know how much less to protect them as you go to make sure they're hitting enough stuff that's not causing damage Beyond like the beyond the immediate damage and obviously some boo boos take days to heal I'm not talking about physical boo boos could be emotional booos but your protection is a protection that makes sure they're getting h hurt if your kid ain't getting hurt man and this is how I raised my kids very carefully like this and boy they have good instincts they just have great instincts and I was so proud to see my oldest son with his baby and his baby was on a chair no one leaves babies at that age on a chair so everyone was like quick and were like jumping to like make sure the baby doesn't fall off the chair and he stopped them he said no this is where she's up to and we were like I was I couldn't breathe watching this kid on the chair and he says yeah this is where she's up to she's at the point now where she loses her balance she's able to break her fall with and she does lose her balance and I saw her fall but she he was right she bro she put on her hands and broke her fall and was fine she hit her head she get hurt nothing and he trained her that way I didn't even do that I didn't do that my kids aren when they were still in Weebles Weebles was an old toy when I was kids it's called Weeble W but they don't fall in yeah but they they were like these weighted little things that they B they don't fall out um but my kid like U me one and the famous story I tell is when um famous story I tell is when my um when my we were we were at a it was actually this time of year we were on b m and we went with a family that were close to the park place called G yosua outside benra and there's a lot of water there and um and about 3ot drop from the grass was the water and it's just a pond you know probably contaminated and we we each had toddlers we each had twoy olds and their toddler had to have two of their kids watching the toddler at all times and our toddler was free to be you know just following their siblings around and part of the game you know and and their toddler almost fell in the pond so many times you know they're T because fo drop into the pond so they were just constantly like they they had to keep switching guards because they were getting exhausted following a 2-year-old who keeps almost falling into the Pond was exhausting so they kept switching Meanwhile my wife and I were not even facing the pond we're like talking with our friends this couple who we kind of grew up with and we're she was with them the whole time and finally they brought they're toddler up to us they're like they're like aren't you aren't you afraid your kids going to fall into the pond and we're like have you seen her ever once like even lose her balance a little next to the edge of the pond and then like she's lost her guns a lot but never next to the edge of the pond she's good near the edge and which is the same thing for example in mountain biking I do half hardcore off-road mountain biking and I've gotten hurt mountain biking never near the edge meaning never doing something like for example the worst accident I ever had was when I broke my leg it was when I I was sitting on my bike paying no attention I wasn't pay P any attention I was sitting on my bike and I just I don't I tipped over and somehow my bike got flown up to the top of the top tube and locked under the bar which spun and I think something spun my bar so now my wheel was facing this way so the bike just tipped right over it rolled right over with the wheel facing this way but somehow my leg flipped up on top of the bike handlebar clamped it and then for my impact on my side it just went clean break tiia and Vivia it was horrific what a disaster if you saw the trail I was just coming down the trail I was just coming down you wouldn't go down it with ropes I'm sorry you wouldn't go down it without ropes it's something that people go down using ropes to get down and that's what I had just come down that's not where you fall you understand that's where you're on where every muscle in your body is locked in to the task at hand and the same was with my daughter on the edge of the pond whenever she got near the edge of the pond she would move into a different kind of mode a more instinctual self-protective mode anyway I then I said because some of their teenagers were there with us listening to us sh so I said to I said I said there's enough things to be afraid of in this world we don't have to put anything we don't have to add any fears into our kids at which point their 16-year-old faic boy with these beautiful red past he looks up and he says my parents put all of their fear into me and it was like like his eyes were tearing up and then he says I'm afraid of everything and the mommy goes like this it's very interesting the the mother and my wife spontaneously decided to run down a grassy Hill but was on a steep grassy Hill and the mother their mother tripped and face planted so hard and me like bam like total face PL meaning running down the hill was not a good idea for her and falling without the instincts of how to fall her fault should have been I me you have to decide and the body decides for you you don't have to know either you break your fall and get towards your feet again you know you may fall but you at least break your fall or if you're really going over you tuck and and roll tuck and roll it's the same thing in our mountain bikes and we're going fast you have to decide if you're going over those bars are you going to break your fall or you going to try to swing your feet out from under you so you can land on your feet are you going too fast to land on your feet so that's just going to send you launching again are you going so far over that you can tuck and roll like these aren't mental decisions these are from practice of falling practice of banging into stuff and the only way to build courageous people and safe people people who will be safe that'll have longevity because they they're they have Killer Instincts to protect themselves for our own self-preservation you got to make sure when you raise children that there's a ratio of safety to nons safety and do it smart so that they don't get hurt mean badly and when it comes to boys you really got to toughen up your voice which means hiking camping you know creating in conditions that there's some level of Survival cuz in my home I raised the mountain biking so if you can walk already you're back ready to ride so I get them a bike without pedals you know those push bikes so later they're a little bigger and get the pedal bike and if they can r a p like well who says you can't ride it offro you know put him in the trails so I bring my little guy to the trails and I mean within months they're really starting to learn how to right off from and I'll never forget this one time I've told the story a few times so I apologize it was a repeat for anyone but uh one time we're on pretty heavy thing and I go down first my next son comes down next next sun comes down next and by the way I have no problem writing with my girls but I they just never wanted to do this kind of riding and we we're we're doing technical downhill Trails really really steep Trails so and I'm obviously because I got the little guy at the top I'm not taking him down anything too crazy that but anyway this one Trail I was like I don't think he's going to make it but I did it anyway I took a risk and so I did it next son did it and wor the botom and we look up and there he is just like Head Over Heels his bikes just like he's all the way down and he gets down to us he's like crumbled on the floor crumbled on the ground like a like a little potato you know by the way I'm got full face then back to the protection it's it's it's calculated full face helmet uh elbow pads that cover the the forearms full finger gloves knee pads that cover The Shins hip pads tailbone pad you understand he's like he's bubble wrapped anyway I pick the little guy up I pick the little guy up I prop him up on the Little Rock that I found where we're sitting together and I'm he's on my lap I propped him up on my lap and he is like he's just like and like you know the post crying when he finally comes back to himself and he like can actually breathe oh he had the wind knocked out of him like the first hit already lost all the wind I don't know what it is about little kids but as soon as they hit their torsa but they he also has shoulder pads and chest Pad but anyway but as soon as the wind got knocked out first H you know just so he's like half unconscious while taking his you know 40 foot be down the mountain you know anyway when he finally gets his breath back I point to the top of the mountain and I say him back to the top and he just looks at me with like tears in his eyes and he's like and I'm like you got one way out of this Forest kid and that's down the trail but you're not continuing down the trail if you don't get back up there I'll carry your bike I'll bring your bike up you're getting down there on your bike and let me point out a few ways of getting down so that you can actually make it and I point out what he needs to do and where it needs to get off the brakes and it needs to be on the brakes obviously when you're hitting an obstacle you do not want to touch your front brake that's going to send you exactly what happened to Over the Bar the uh um on the other hand your back break you press it too tight it starts to slide in fish tail so you need to feather the back brake it'll slow you down but it won't stop you the only thing that will stop you down the mountain is your front brake that's your all your braking front brake but you got to realize that your front Brak is your ticket to going over the bars too if you press it too hard back breake press it too hard your fish can lost control anyway I showed him where to go exactly and he Nails it he Nails it he he just comes out and the feeling in his heart of Victory and the get back up there type of the get back on the horse ruggedness you know like I know the right word for courage to get back up you it's this is kids were trained you know it's this is between you and the mountain and the Mountain's not going to win you're going to leave this having having one this is why I'm saying that the the boys who come to study in Jerusalem who are running wild in the streets like I'll be coming back late at night from something kbits or something or like some family hired me to like you know this big hdic family wants to the family on the journey which is such a beautiful thing I this is one in one in a million families but there are these you know the giant pacific families with you know 10 kids or 14 kids or eight kids whatever and now they got all these marrieds and you know they have all these little grandkids and stuff they will have me come over fairly late when all the Todds are asleep and all the babies are asleep and make sure all they in all my sons-in-laws and daughter-in-laws are there and and I've come with candles and sage and my guitar and and take them on a total journey together even though the journey is more about the individual I can't tell you how connective it is for the whole family to experience such and even last night I drove out to B Shish to one of these classic families and it was so beautiful and I at the very last part of the meditation I had everyone hold hands in a meditation and the these are these are closest family members but holding hands with your eyes closed while I spoke about connectivity and family and how important it is and then I gave the mommy a chance to just share her love and she spoke so beautifully you she was like and I just want each child to know that I don't care who you are what you do or what's going on I love you unconditionally and the father got to speak as I speak like that just those words alone were I to hear that from your parents Your Love un and there was this beautiful family was like just every kid just was gorgeous long PA women on this side cish men on this side all the way down to their their 14y boy and I've done it for families words little little kids too like five six year olds who mature enough to be in there anyway the um those kids come to learn here I'll come home late at night from such an event like last night and I see these Mir guys in like T-shirt with the S this over it's 3 in the morning morning they're like coming up from the park gager the biggest park in town and just think you can see there's a there's a Swagger in their walk that wasn't there when they arrived and Swagger is a word that nobody knows but if you ever heard the word swagger but they develop a Swagger you know they develop a a confidence having bumped into enough stuff over there year or two years here three years here that that guy's a man he's become a man men have a Swagger there's a way they walk there's a demeanor that they have and that's exactly what a woman needs when she gets there she doesn't need a a sheep she needs a wolf and the um but back to our discussion about um the last thing is just heading another the path you're on is right so we talked about talked about um arguments being right we talked about making decisions and but then there's the path you're on how do you know you're walking the right path there's different ways to know one of the ways to know is um the is the path you're on for children and senior citizens if you're listening to this class and you are someone you love is on a path that is not at all something little kids could do and nothing seems would be interested get off that path so like for example today in our generation when I grew up it was hippies I grew up in the you know I born the late 60s GRE up in the 70s and and the culture that I was more attracted to was more the hippie culture but it always bought me where are the little kid hippies besides me where the little kid hippies and where the senior citizen hippies they don't exist because all the hippies when they turned 40 became yies and little kids don't get the philosophical underpinnings of hippie Hood today it's you know just today I went into an Apple Store not that Israel's Apple stce by the way I don't I don't know if this is true and I hope I don't get flaged for this but could it be that apple is in isra you you ever think about that we have no Apple Store we have no apple factories we have no Apple tech in Israel there iPhones kind my blue bag their iPhones they make them in Chinese factories because of Cheaper labor they they you don't you don't have I you don't have iPhone factories I wasn't discussing really so much the factories I was talking about more the T the um you ever thought about that where's the where's the Apple Store there is no Apple Store makes me think about it is when I dictating a Siri and I say the word Israeli and it it spells it with a z and I'm like not a word and Israeli is a word and the whole world knows that word and every AI knows that word and why do it come up with a z it stopped lately I don't know if people noticed and complained but but um it's really weird buts this all the other tech companies have major things going on with Israel not too it's more complicated than that because on an iPhone you can set up if you have iPhone any of English it will say like January 1 and then 11 T so there's certain things they do or don't accommodate it only takes one person in a company to be anti-semitic to just get that little thing to censor that aspect of but at the same time there can be 20 people above him that are more pro-jewish or talking about the top here um anyway but K Apple has some issue with Israel and the uh how I gotar we're to get something F today oh yeah so you you know you have to use these triple the price people were probably mail or it and the store is probably illegal and they're not paying taxes on their Imports but who knows what these stores are but when I went in there the lady had she had pink there and I was going to introduce her to my son in New York on video cuz he I needed a piece and like they could talk and she didn't want to be filmed and I I like it's not fil but anyway but she had that uh xenophobic aspect to her as well which is or gorob I forget what xenophobic what's the term xen what's the context afraid of people who are different or afraid of being watched or who knows I can't remember anyway um that whole woke Society where the little woke kids and where the woke elderly I mean there are such thing as woke elderly but only in politics I think only if you're you have to be an elected official to be a woke um senior citizen my point is is that it should cover all whatever a path you're on should be a path for all ages because for it to be a true path it has to be true for a Humanity so I think that's one one thing to watch for um to be able to be rebuked is important um people should feel comfortable telling you you're on the wrong path so if you set up your personality to be such that it vibrationally repels a person who might correct your path meaning if you've become less open to hear about it hear about your path so you're probably on the wrong path um I wouldn't trust yourself too much about right path um if your algorithms online or like reaffirming your path and you find you can't watch a YouTube video opposing your path you're probably on the wrong path like your your the path you take should be you know opposition proof that you should have what to answer for your path if it's if there are people opposing it your path should be a path that's been walked on many times like to know you're on the right path it should be a well walked path I mean the arrogance of thinking you're going to create a new path after you know I don't know what modern history says the history is but I guess they they probably say it's somewhere around 5 6,000 uh years meaning uh I don't know if you guys know it's kind of interesting that human history is is only as old as the Torah says it's such an interesting thing I mean they found fossils of homans that were date back you know but for some reason the only the only actual history we have of human beings the way we know them is exactly as the Tauruses thought about that I had sitting next to me once on an LL flight uh the head of anthropology at Hebrew University at Mount scus she was my next door neighbor there so so I fall asleep very quickly so I had to ask her a few questions quickly before I fall asleep one of them one of my questions to her was can you think on this whole globe if there's a a technological building built by human beings that dates backer than 6,000 years what I mean by that is it's a structure that a structure that you know like a twostory type thing like something that would be like you need some engineering for you understand the question like is there a structure that would require some engineering the way a human being today would recognize as engineering and she sat there quietly for a second she was kind of combing the globe in her studies and she looks at me and she says no that L this and I was like that's crazy and I I only thought of it on the Spotless question and she said you know it is crazy you know you're head of anthropology and there's no real technological engineering until post Torah post you know when the Torah says the world came post Adam har post Adam yeah the first man as we know man and uh it really interesting and that's kind of history so why am I talking about this about the right path oh is that if you think you're going to create a new path how do you know your path's wrong the fact is new and unw walked you know no one's trampled down this path now I know some people say like hey you know I want to be like the first one walked down the path I I want it to be my path well I got good news for you first of all that's your ego but I got good news for you when you walk down a path I you guys ever been hiking you know a rugged beautiful hiking Tria is it old or new if you've never walked in question right old it's old and while you're walking down it is it old or new for you it's new it's not you're never been on this Tri you're walking down that Tria so I'm going to finish with a song and it's a song written by um if I'm correct in that and the words are and the words are give me your hearts and I will lead you on A New Path a path that was already walked on by Abraham Isaac and Jacob but nevertheless It's A New Path got it [Music] be he de [Music] for for track with me together [Music] give me your hearts and I will lead you on a path that is new that was already walked on by Abraham Isaac and Jacob but nevertheless it's a new