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Rabbi Yom Tov Glaser: Practical Spirituality Deep Teshuva
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gentlemen welcome to practical
spirituality here in Asia tour in the
old city of jerusalem overlooking the
Temple Mount I want to just make one
announcement and that is that uh that
we've started my club I actually have a
club we have not yet figured out exactly
all the logistics but what I'm doing is
I were creating a club I'm not sure what
it's called either I think it's called
the yom tov club i think the young or
rabbi yom tov club ya rabbi Yom Tov Club
Y T Bobby ry t see yeah it's like the
ROTC with our ytc anyway the club is you
pay ten bucks a month you get absolutely
nothing for that ten dollars but being
part of that Club we are going to hire a
bunch of social network people and
videographers and like get get like a
lot more of the internet usage debt to
be so uh we can have a much bigger
effect out of the work I'm doing and and
the truth is is I would never leave
people flat if they paying ten bucks a
month that's gonna 120 bucks a year for
sure we're gonna do something cool I had
an idea by the way and tell me what you
think raise your hand if you like this
idea instead of ten bucks months it's 15
bucks a month and everyone gets to
submit projects everyone gets to submit
anyone in the club gets to submit
projects whoever submits project
automatically gets into a lottery to get
five bucks of the 10th 15 where we're
all gonna give so let's say we got now
5000 people at 15 bucks a month five
what's five thousand times five it's
$25,000 to start a project so that's
another idea because I'm really big on
helping young people get their life
started and I really believe it's ten
times easier than you believe and most
of that works inside of you and so and
so that wouldn't it be pretty nice to
get 25 grand out of nowhere just because
you're in this club so anyway that's my
original if you like the the extra five
bucks idea for the lottery raise your
hand if you think that's allows the idea
keep it at 10
okay I'll think about that okay we're
doing we're doing today's session and on
deep teshuva and let's think about it
for a second what does it mean exactly
to Shuba
so just repent level and I think we're
not really that aware of the levels of
tissue that there are so it's it's got
different levels and we're gonna have to
use red let's see so the different
levels is what number one is to to live
move right how would you call it if
you're actually like doing things right
live right that's right be good right
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what would you say like so what do you
call someone who's ignoring Jewish law
and me but knows he or she's ignoring
Jewish law and then they decide that's
it I'm gonna start keeping Jewish law
that's called someone who did to Juma so
what do you call that okay with it what
do you call that kind of tissue and
that's forget on that right anything
we'll see what I'm gonna write there I
so want to write something right now I
mean we got this marker I'm desperate I
got a right so so anyway that's one kind
of Trueba and everyone calls that belly
chuva those are called bow to shoeless
now here's the interesting interesting
thing is that ever since I've worked in
outreach which is now a lot of years you
know it's like longer than you most
you're alive
it's 27 years I'm I'm working like in a
full-time outreach and all these years I
meet these super holy people who are
Jerusalemites
and also people in Lakewood and Brooklyn
Muncie him
I'm meeting these holy people were
totally dedicated to
Torin mitzvahs and they always say to me
I'll tell you the in hebrew yom tov
Mattea Tahoes LD betcha chuva they say
Ianto when are you gonna bring me back
into Shuba meaning I have these super
holy hasita Minmei assure him it just
happened last night with all these drunk
fools on those Hanukkah party you know
last night of Hanukkah which of course
wasn't really the last night of Hanukkah
but we washed it before sundown and
partied for another six hours
so the with 96% alcohol and a live band
about six vocalists
it was so sloppy it was unbelievable
they finally moved this kid like he
looked about 15 they moved this kid he
could no longer hold his bodyweight up
from the enumeration so they normally
you don't put a kid with all the rabbi's
at the table you know tables lined with
rabbis and then the Rebbe sits at the
head you know and they they they so they
figured like he can't hold his own
bodyweight up so we'll just put him with
the rabbi's they put him with the rabbis
he lasted literally about maybe 10
seconds before he blew chunks all over
the Rebbe stables
it was so classic so and then they just
removed him again they just like took
him up he was like God he was like
totally limp it was like a curtain or
something you know and it was so funny
because 800 drunk men who were trying
very hard to keep their hat on you know
they're all jumping up and down the
whole time on bleachers
so like hats are just like and they're
flying onto the table and oh it was it
was really a great time this year was a
little more tame than usual normally
it's like insane what's going on in
there by the way there's a very sober
group we're not like Pro alcohol this
group doesn't even drink wine at kiddush
they drink grape juice all year long
they drink two days a year poor him and
the H candle clinica kind of the night
after you know but think of the the
Rebbe was so drunk that he took back his
life he took back his life cuz a lot of
Rabbie's are controlled by their
by the guidelines you don't realize this
but a lot of rebus are no longer there
really they're like it's almost like
they're on the other end of a stick and
their assistants are like running
everything with the rebbe like this and
we finally saw a Rebbe take his life
back from these assistants of his and he
stood up on his chair and started
dancing on the top of his chair and it
was the funniest thing to watch about
six or seven probably eight different
people try to convince the Rebbe to sit
down and you're watching this because
we're all in bleachers and there's the
Rebbe up on this you know stage with his
beautiful table and standing on his
chair going like this with everybody
like this you know and but every few
minutes someone comes in tap Simmons
like saying please sit down please sit
at revenue you need to be sitting down
right now and the Rebbe is just like
like this over two and a half hours he
would not be sitting on his chair he
only stood on his chair until they just
acquiesced they just you know with their
tails between their legs
what no no is the pins coming already
and you you should just just shared even
crazier story is one year the first time
I saw it he had just become Rebbe and I
saw him being controlled and I saw this
guy controlling everyone it's the main
assistant of the Rebbe I'm gonna leave
him nameless for all the people watching
this but he shows up at all you always
see him in every picture of the Rebbe
and all the Rebbe magazines I went and I
ripped him I ripped him off the Rebbe
stage and threw him under the bleachers
and then I pointed to him and I said
don't you dare come out of here until
the party's over and he just started
crying and and then I brought everyone
back up who were up there and have been
up there for less forty years you know
who were near the old Rebbe who he threw
off the stage it was a whole coup he was
up to and like everyone should just all
the people who've always sent to it sat
next to the Rebbe should get away from
him
get away from the new Rebbe I've brought
them back on the stage and it kept an
eye on him make sure he doesn't come in
2:00 in the morning I got a phone call
from him it's been such a love-hate
relationship and hurry to in the morning
I get a phone call I have no idea what
he's gonna say and he in the rib he says
the Rebbe made me call you to apologize
I'm like you're forgiven never let it
happen again
whatever whatever it is he did to me
anyway so these guys are always asking
me that they want to be valet to Shuba
they want to make me a ball to shoot me
you know what I've always answered them
I've always incident I don't think
that's possible because I'm kind of
taking a little jab at them like you're
never gonna be able to do too but you
know maybe you can do too but these
Hasee demand my assuring they can't do
teshuva
and when they say why not they're like
shocked that I would say that like why
are you saying that to me
and then there's shocked I'm saying that
to them and I say well the reason is is
because you're already fully observant
and you're very careful about go
observance so you're really like it's
kind of hard to have someone fully
observant to tissue of it and then they
were kind of whatever they took that to
mean whatever and they walked on other
conversations I had with them I said
well listen think about it someone who's
secular who like like jumps up to chuhwa
and now is living the lifestyle of a
Torah observant Jew somebody does that
that's such a big gap that there's no
way to take someone who's fully
observant and get them on that kind of
jump you understand
bump up their game on the level that
someone who was raised secular bumped up
her his or her game you can't take
someone who's fully observant and bump
them up to that level unless you're
planning on creating an angel because at
that point you got an angel on your
hands meaning they're already till all
of us if you followed around some of
these holy people that I get to rub
shoulders with and measuring there are
waiting pretty angelic these guys like
how could they take it up the level that
of all truth takes it up without
becoming total reclusive you know
ascetics - how could they bump it up
like that and there's actually a Rebbe
by the name of ruff Shalom shopping the
freedmen who's you know let's do a
little AC you want to hit the AC I think
it's a little stuffy in here
well studying the panel might help see
it up there yeah great
Oh was on Oh was on so just turn it down
a little maybe that's weird I don't hear
it it's on huh maybe it's on heat is it
on snowflake what's it got you on
snowflake there or no it's off forget it
don't worry Matt something's wrong we
don't need air
okay so does this Rebbe named Rashawn
schockner Friedman who's the Hornish
Tyler Rabiya and he's that there's two
hundred cyclo rabbits there's one in
Brooklyn and there's one in Israel and
they're from the torski family and this
Rebbe is so high up in his service of
God then he's like really about to shove
every minute like he's constantly moving
that way and he was raised observant but
he's constantly Bob Juba man now someone
on the his level of Terra should
naturally have a lot of followers but
he's been plagued with a lack of
followers no one wants to be anywhere
near him actually and he has very few
followers they're generally the same
followers all the ears and one thing all
his followers have in common is they're
either Bell Joshua or their converts
which is like really funny because he is
so far beyond but his followers in every
single aspect being raised in a Hasidic
Court you understand like this should
not be the people he has to deal with
all day meaning it's always cool to have
about you've in a convert hanging around
but not everybody is and there's only 12
of them and sometimes they drop out but
years we've studied this issue with the
Rebbe and we never could figure out
quite why it's like this and we're
talking about a man that sleeps only two
hours a day for the last 40 years and
not every day sleeps meaning Thursday's
he doesn't say Shabbos night he doesn't
say which is two days in a row so he's
now been up you know for 72 hours
he finally sleeps after the chillin but
who could stay awake after the join you
know he doesn't sleep after that John
and he's on a full speech fast from
Friday morning Friday morning he does
all this teshuva
and then he goes into a recluse into
seclusion till he shows up until you
guys a mikvah he does chuga all day
Friday you nobody does it true before he
does true before all the sins of the
week this guy hasn't sinned
at all so they gotta be like who knows
what it means for him to be doing tissue
of all day on Friday we I don't think we
could understand that but he stays in
his speech fast all the way till around
1:00 a.m. Shabbos night he won't speak
at his shop is typically there and
around 12:00 1:00 a.m. Shabbos night he
gives a DVAR Torah for about an hour and
a half after that he'll schmooze with
you but of course no one's around
Shabbos Day speech fast all the way till
3:00 in the afternoon when he's finally
been at the table for like two or three
hours
he gives another devour to her for about
an hour and then he'll speak to you till
he takes his nap then he's on a speech
fest until Saturday night where he does
like a three for our third meal and he
speaks the last hour and a half of the
meal and then he'll speak this persons
way out there but way out there
I was once I've had a couple Asia tour
guys hang around him a bit and so we
once had these three boys from each
hoping that window a little bit which is
good yeah keep that one anyway the I
once brought three boys from Asia to
write to him now you have to understand
Asia tour boys are now allowed to date
for a really long time
until they need like two and a half to
three years till they're ready to date
someone unless they want to get thrown
out of the yeshiva but and you may be
worth it but ladies but the but
otherwise they're not allowed to date
for like two to three years
why because unlike a girl if a girl
keeps Shabbos for like six seven months
she's basically gonna keep it the rest
of her life
a boy keeping Shabbos for six seven
months means nothing he needs to keep
Shabbos for like two and a half three
years before he can guarantee a woman
under the Hopa that he will be guarding
the Shabbos with her for their family
for the rest of their lives like that
kind of commitment for a man Shabbos is
very hard for men
emasculating men like to mark every
lamppost they walk by okay it bothers us
that no one's gonna know us a hundred
years from now no one's even gonna have
any clue who you ever were just like you
have no clue who anyone was a hundred
years ago in your own family line no
one's even in your own family no one's
gonna know anything you did you'll be
lucky they know your name and your yard
site lucky and how many how many of you
know your sites the date to say Kaddish
for people who lived in your own family
a hundred years ago meaning we're all
totally forgotten and that's an
important thing to know now because if
everything you're ever gonna do or in
this life is gonna be forgotten well you
better start living for the moment and
stop trying to be the big guy who's
somehow made a difference because it's
all like a it's a sandcastle whatever
you're gonna build just a sandcastle
when that tide comes in ie when you die
your goodbyes to the sandcastle it's
just gonna wash away so build something
beautiful now like living it now living
your life fully and that's the beauty of
Shabbos this job is you can't do any
more work you can't make your mark any
more like you once Shabbos comes in this
Sun hits the horizon your mark is no
longer so relevant and that's hard for
men it's very hard for men to let go of
his mark
I'm just I took a long pause I want to
get back to these three students came to
were fresh @h I mean you could like
literally the paint was still wet you
know they're keep us were like you know
they still the price tag and anyways so
the Rebbe says to me pulls me aside and
says young tough those three boys in
your who came to me they had already
come a couple weeks in a row so the
Rebbe was like getting a feel for them
not that he would talk to anyone he
doesn't talk to anybody but but he got a
feel for them and he said to me were
young tough tell those three boys to get
ready to meet their soul mates they're
gonna be getting married
and I'm like Rebbe they're adacia Torah
that's not gonna be possible you know
they're not that's not even within the
realm
these guys are barely you know they
barely become observant at this point
and the Rebbe says you know just tell
them and so I went up to the three boy
and listening to my Rebbe you know he's
the rivet so I go up to the three boys
and I said guys get ready today they're
like you're kidding I thought we can't
date for like three years rabbi and I'm
like listen this is what the Rebbe said
and so there was this whole discussion
once the three of them who would have
enough courage to ask the Dean of Asia
tour if they could just start dating and
one of them finally I guess they drew
straws one of them lost and went and
asked and there were just he just
laughed at them anyway
all three were married by the end of the
year all three boys no none of them
dated no time did each one who has a
crazier story than the other you know
wild stories and what how they perfectly
like met their soul mates happily ever
after amazing and so people got wind of
this story people got wind of this story
and a soldier in the south of Israel who
really wanted to get married he's a
young guy but he was desperate to get
married heard the story so I get a phone
call from this soldier and he says he
says I'd like to get a brother from the
Rebbe I said okay this is a drew
you know next time you're on leave so so
it turned out he didn't get another
leave what he did was he got enough of a
break that he he drove up he took a bus
up to Jerusalem two hours
went straight to the Rebbe couldn't find
his house got on a payphone and he's
asking you know is this the rabbi
Friedman's house and they're like yeah
anyway Wally's on the phone with him one
of the sons of the Rebbe walked by he
goes into the house he says Rebbe that
daddy there's a there's a soldier out
there calling you from the payphone like
right down our block you guys know what
payphones right they were there were
once payphones you put like some minute
and makes the calls so had wires anyway
so the Rebbe left his house went to the
payphone to see the soldier he says are
you looking for me he says your rabbi
Freeman he says yeah he says what do you
want he says well I want to I want to
get married I want to find my soul mate
and so the rabbi says okay should be
blessed to find your soul mate so he
goes back to the central bus station the
girl standing next to him in the line is
who he married at the center at the
central bus station amazing and I I know
this story intimately because the Rebbe
won't go anywhere he doesn't leave
anywhere besides where he sleeps where
he learns and where he prays like that's
it in the mikvah but it's no it's all in
one building so he never leaves there
and so he sent me for the wedding so I
had to make the proper for the Rebbe you
know like like standing in for the Rebbe
yom tov glazier
I didn't bring a guitar but I usually do
if I lead away anyway so we finally
realized why the Rebbe doesn't have any
students were raised observant and the
answer is is that is that he's
transforming his life every day he's
transforming life as we know it every
day and if you're already observant how
you supposed to transform your life I
that and so people can't deal with him
and so they just anyone grazed observant
who gets near the Rebbe lasts for a week
or two and then just never comes back or
maybe a few months but then they
disappear and this is that kind of high
person that it would take to be to be a
ball trouve on this level if you're
raised observant one time the Rebbe was
marrying off a child and and he needed
money badly and I took a wealthy guide
to his house who sold a property for a
profit of five million dollars literally
outside the Remy's door he's like hold
on I got a phone call we're going in to
learn like two for the Remy's class and
you hold on he says yeah okay it's fine
he was telling his people to sell it and
so they sold it clicked off the phone he
says hey I just made five million
dollars I'm like great so we go into the
house and I go to the Rebbe and I sent
to the Rebbe I mean I pulled him aside
before the class started as he was
walking and I pulled him aside I said
you see that Jew sitting in the table I
said that that guy that guy just sold a
house for five million dollars profit
like he was selling a box of peanuts
like please just connect with him like
translate more for him he the guy knew
knowing no Hebrew translate more it's in
English but not every words translate
you know you English so translate more
and the Rebbe looks at me with this look
in his eyes of a bit of anger and he
says to me it's idolatry that I would
treat him differently than anyone else
it's idolatry and and went on to totally
ignore the guy for like the next three
hours you like wouldn't even look at him
no eye contact with this guy it's
idolatry and anyway but this is the kind
of person we're talking about there very
few people like this but that's what we
mean by about to shul if you're raised
observant like it's really going all the
way like intense intense service like
that anyway I have many more amazing
Revis stories I'd be happy to tell you
more but I'd like to get to the meat of
the class I finally discovered how these
people can do tissue
I finally discovered it night just
dawned on me how did how they do teshuva
and the answer is inner tuba meaning
outer you're keeping the commandments
you're already doing that stuff so how
do you do
inner teshuva and that's what I
discovered is that there's a whole inner
teshuva
and what is that inner to Shula the
inner teshuva is when you realize that
you are a massive transgressor of the
laws of Lucian Hara when you if you can
realize that you are a massive
transgressor you are a URI I hate to use
this word it's kind of Christian but
you're a sinner when it comes to lush
and huh you're a sinner and if you can
do teshuva on lush and ihara you even if
you're raised observant can become about
to schule by just working on no more
lush in horror and also to be under than
one other thing
what other detail and that is to be
really truthful about who you are really
truthful meaning you have to stop
sinning with the use of lush and Hara
and you have to be really truthful about
who you are now what do I mean exactly
by this what I mean lush and Hara who
have we been speaking lush and her about
who have you been speaking legend or you
know you're always speaking legend or
always in fact during this class every
one of you has spoken loshon Hara yeah
excellent say latter who have you been
speaking legend har about yourself used
to be question to her about yourself
who's willing to stand up here right
here come up to the front of the class
and say the following words with all
your heart and like full you know
emotion and integrity and and and with
charisma and with absolute truth about
you that you are amazing and beautiful
and and powerful and and healthy and
God's gift to this world and you know
who's going to be that
full about the fact that you were
created in the image of God because this
is what you were created as meaning this
is who you are so who's willing to get
up here and state the truth about
yourself and stop bluffing everybody
with some other like plastic plastic
personality that you've created to cover
up your lush and Hara because deep down
everyone in this room has been saying
all kinds of stuff about his or her self
that's forbidden to say about anybody I
mean think about these words think about
like let's put up some words of things
maybe you'll help me a little bit one of
the things people might say about
themselves let's put up a few things
ugly everyone else I'm getting rid of
fat fancies nutty there are thin people
who think they're fat with it that's
like guy that's like you need a
psychologist bad ugly stupid weird bad
what else we got
insufficient I didn't hear what you said
oh yeah how about let's go right to the
punch one of the things we say about
ourselves
lazy maybe a failure and then we and
then we do lazy looks for nothing that
good-for-nothings worthless shallow come
on guys what else do we say you're
missing the big ones what do we want
more than anything else in the whole
world we want to be know we want to be
loved we think if we're pretty we'll be
loved we want to be loved so what would
be the thing we might say about
ourselves unlovable unwanted a reject
you know it just gets goes from bad to
worse you know unlikable connect can you
have good penmanship
I'm just write the rest of this guy's
keep it going I expect a hole at least a
whole other row while I go to the
bathroom
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Wow
okay unlikeable entire a pathetic week
boring bum mommy that's a nice way to
think dumb annoying emotions stable
deranged broken psycho a liar yeah and
the list goes on and the list goes on in
other words you're you're completely
crazy you know why because you would
never say this about the random person
you'd see on the street I mean if you
just saw someone on the street walking
by while you were like sitting on a bus
bench
you never come up with one of these
adjectives about that person unless of
course they were like dressed a certain
way that made you feel inferior oh we
forgot interior so unless you maybe felt
in fear but let's just say you didn't
feel inferior would you ever use any of
these adjectives about an immigrant in
person well there's 7 billion random
people walking around the streets and
none of them are these things so it's
statistically impossible that you are
rumors then since no one else is except
for you so you got to be crazy
meaning you're the one who's crazy and
you're the one who's schizo okay because
because remember yesterday we discussed
the definition of schizophrenia was was
when an imaginary imaginary thing could
be is seen as real and so it's
statistically impossible that this could
be true about you you understand none of
this could be true about any of us and
also another example is if I were
holding a little baby up like a little
sweeping you know the girls are and all
the guys are gone whose is it
and so I'm holding a little baby up and
and the would you guys say that about
this baby any of these adjectives
absolutely not
now it's two years old whole little
two-year-old toddler cutest baby in the
world
yeah and we're gonna say that no five
years old still super sweet cute
gorgeous five year old ten years old a
little harder to hold but I hope my ten
year old so I'm holding my 10 year old
yeah are we gonna say that about them
the 10 year old no okay now it's a 50
year I'm not gonna hold the 50 no but I
got my arm around a little 50 year old
cutie with the baby fat still on his
face or her faizan oh my goodness we
ever gonna say that about them no at
what point do at what point does the kid
become all this
at what point no the answer is the
answer is never never so it's not even
actually lush in Hara
did I say legend horror earlier sorry
there's a worse sin than legend her
Russian horror means speaking badly
about somebody but it's often a true
statement
what about a false statement in lush and
horror what's that called woodsy shame
ruff what's a shame Rus when it's a lie
that you actually purse merch a person's
reputation it's it's a it's called what
is it called when you destroy someone's
reputation it's called a slander but
it's no but there's a term for it okay
this is something it has done murder or
murder
so miss a summation it's called
character assassination
it's called character assassination
that's the term for it in law me cuz you
can go to even go to court for that
because you assassinate someone's
character and it now affected their
business you're you're gonna be liable
for that that's that's the court of law
and even in Western law that's a it's
one of the you know it's a legal term
character assassination and yet every
single person in this room has been
involved in
character assassination just under the
radar and we're not going able to take
you to court for that but you're
definitely serving time behind the bars
of these words because once you say that
about yourself good luck good luck with
your marriage good luck with your
finances good luck with your health and
you guys realize how much has to go
right for you over the next 30 years
pretty scary
a lot of variables out there you realize
how much needs to go right for you for
the next 30 years like a lot has to go
right a lot a lot of stuffs got to go
really well and there's tons of
variables I mean when I see all you
right now I mean you're all look
wonderful but all I see is question
marks because you know Raynaud's who
will I marry where will I live what will
I be professional at meeting what am I
gonna get good at and and how will I
make a living and you know how many kids
am I gonna and and etc it's all a bunch
of question marks and over the next
years of your life especially right now
that's what I'm telling you I want to
link really help young people because I
really help a lot of young people get
there get on their feet but what you're
gonna do over the next year's is you're
gonna make exclamation points instead of
question marks meaning you're gonna take
your question mark to a chiropractor and
you just kind of straighten straighten
out your spine into exclamation points
this is who I married and this is my
training this is what I'm good at and
this is how I'm making a living and this
is the city I live in and this is the
house oven is the car I'm leasing and it
everything is just exclamation points
everywhere you're gonna turn them into
exclamation points but a lots got to go
right a whole bunch of stuffs got to go
right and it there's no way it's gonna
go right saying all this stuff about
yourself which just puts you right into
the statistics of the people who are not
doing so well nobody wants that
and I know there are people thinking
about maybe going to yeshiva and like
becoming observing staying in Israel for
a while learning Tara but they're afraid
how it's gonna affect them financially
in their life meaning not using these
years for you know building themselves
financially they they don't realize that
this could be the very best thing they
could ever do because maybe maybe
they'll start being truthful about how
awesome they are
maybe they'll they'll start getting
truthful by living in a world of truth
around the Torah which is true with a
lot of Torah that's true and rabbis who
live true to themselves and people who
have done that inner tube and been true
with themselves and maybe that'll rub
off on you maybe you could become
truthful about yourself that would make
you very successful in all the variables
because those variables are waiting for
your inner core energy to be clean
because is this clean energy to have
this going on inside one's self is that
clean is that clean vibrational energy
you're putting into the world it's not
clean vibrational energy I'm not gonna
hire somebody who thinks they're in Tom
or unlikable or undeserving I'm not
gonna hire somebody who thinks they're
unwanted
I'm just not gonna hire that person I'd
rather hire someone who deep down has a
vibrational energy of amazing and
beautiful cool and when I say cool
meaning room meaning they're at peace in
their hearts with themselves like truth
so if you look at all these adjectives
what you'll realize is that you've got
an all other adjectives
besides these adjectives better the way
you cover up these adjectives because
who in the world can go through life
feeling pathetic or unloved or unlikable
or ugly or stupid nobody no one could go
through life like that so what do they
do they put on this plastic skin deep
personality that everyone should think
that they're really I don't know I mean
you guys tell me
beautiful smart normal holy
you know the most important needed
person in the whole community better
than everybody
you know superior you know whatever
overachiever workaholic miss Kabbalah
you know social butterfly you understand
how it goes it's there's a ton of other
adjectives that we use that is a full
bluff of who you are so no one gets who
you are no one gets to actually get you
all they get is your band-aid over a
wound that needs 50 stitches not a
band-aid but what we get is a whole
other list of things that you've been
saying you are to the world at large
that no one should ever know this about
you and so this is the inner Tuva this
is inner Trueba so now when people were
raised observant come up to me and say
rabbi Glaser will read for you
yom tov when will you when will you help
me do teshuva Matata Sayle bound to
Allah I have an answer for them that
it's an inner truth it's a true of being
truthful about yourself no more moti
shame run no more slander character
assassination on the negative no more of
that but on the positive is to be
truthful about how amazing you are like
actually it would be truthful about that
I mean how is it that you keep why do
you keep Shabbat I would say Emma's
we're gonna end with this and one say
Amos why do you keep Shabbat and there's
why do you brush your teeth all right
you two from fallout why do you go to
sleep at night I mean why do you eat
three meals a day
you're not saying Emma's was kind
okay why do you get some exercise and
this why do you keep kosher
why do you learn to read what are you
doing in Jerusalem meaning everything
you're doing is a mess except for what
except for who except for who you are
that's the one thing you refuse to be a
mess about I mean you'll be honest about
everything outside of you but when it
comes to you you're willing to
assassinate your own character and say
stuff that's not even close to true just
like the little baby grew up into a 20
year old there was no point where they
became this but boy did they become this
inside their own heart it's their own
little secret and this is where people
generate from this really sad and years
ago 17 years ago I started a seminar
just to get people out of this mess
called the possible you you can check it
out online there's some beautiful videos
to watch possibly you you can come to a
seminar to with the next three are in
Hebrew that's not for any of you people
but there is a gonna be a couple men's
ones at the end of winter schwa Dar
Allah Father base and then and they'll
be in February I'll be in New York so if
anyone's come in February I think every
10th through the 14th I'm in Muncie New
York men's and women's English tell them
everybody and please be really nice to
yourselves from now on who's teaching
the next class really love dating a
marriage in three and a half minutes