Rabbi Yom Tov Glaser - Jewish Thought: Overcoming Suffering

today we're going to go on with our worry issues we've been talking a bit about how to get rid of worry I'm today we're going to discuss a little bit about one of the things that we we do worry about and that is suffering - our concern about suffering in life that you know we don't want to suffer now there are basically different ways that people suffer and I think the one that we have the biggest issue with is is suffering at the hands of others I think that's the one that really is the scariest of all there's obviously the suffering of natural disaster there's suffering of of illness and death car accidents these types of things but I think I think people are more or less more it and no one's at peace of it but we're more at peace with the fact that you know people don't live forever they got to die somehow most people die through natural causes then there's you know there's accidents natural disasters and and then there's but the worst is the harm caused by human beings that seems to really affect people in a major way and you'll find that most people are interestingly we'll have an issue with God when it comes to the people stop I personally think that if you won't have an issue with God it should be regarding natural disasters and and you know illness and things accidents things like that but uh but to have issues with God over human beings misusing freewill and it's a little dubious because we all know God put freewill into creation we all know there's free will we all have our choices and therefore others have theirs and you have parameters of choice from the good to the bad all of us do and so our issue with people making bad choices that can affect other human beings is certainly it is God's fault but only his fault for putting the free will in not the act choices made that clear it's God's fault for putting free will but on the other hand we would never want ours taken away so you see the hypocrisy of it all like we're complaining about free will yet we want to keep ours just get rid of everyone else's God no one else should every well just that just me I should be able to make bad choices but everyone else the issue really isn't with God the issue is really with people's choice that and therefore it's not so right for us to point our fingers at God that people make bad choices and I think that's a it's not really the way to go we can have issues with God but but it's really over the fact that God put freewill in all together what I'd like to discuss today though more than that is the is the issue of suffering in general and how to get rid of suffering as much as we can and understand suffering in general and pain in general and how we look at it as human beings and what should be our proper perspective of pain human beings generally avoid pain you'll notice that most of your motivations in your life of what you do are to get the pleasure and avoid the pain and for some reason you're all in this room right now thinking somehow you're gonna get more pleasure by being in here than not being in here now obviously that's not the kind of immediate pleasure of ice-cream or sports or something or a great concert or a great party it would be the you you must believe somehow that there's going to be some piece of wisdom you're gonna hear that's gonna bring overall pleasure in your life and therefore you've been willing to sacrifice other pleasures to be in this room right now but it's also to get rid of the misconception that the opposite of pain is pleasure it's important to get rid of that misconception because you'll notice the things that bring you the most pleasure are the things you put the most pain into it someone who gets a lot of pleasure to something usually put a lot of you know sweat and tears and perhaps even blood into they they put a lot into it what's your parents greatest pleasure Michael what's their greatest pain yeah the greatest pain is their greatest pleasure and that's what life is you know the stuff we put the most work into is where we get the most pleasure so it's important also regarding suffering is to know that there are things worth suffering for example ones pleasure they'll get out of having a child is worth the suffering of the pregnancy and birth experience that's somehow worth it for people if we want to spend our lives avoiding pain we're not going to get the ultimate pleasure in life you know you got to let go of it like if you really want a life of pure comfort and avoid all pain don't expect the great pleasures of life most people do they really choose the pleasure of life without the pain they don't go for the big fat pleasure they go for pleasure don't get the big stuff but you know they'll never know what it's like to I don't know perhaps have a marriage or have a child or watch your child get Bar about Mitzvah or or to marry a child off which I got to do this here I married a child uh you could imagine what that was like I was it was a mind-blowing experience but most people aren't my peers I mean they'll be there'll be ninety when they marry off a kid meaning the kids I grew up with in LA and you know in the beach community they're you know they all those who have kids are pretty little at this one they're not marrying off kids I mean no wait a long time to get that pleasure but these days many people aren't even willing to get married because there's so much pain involved and so and everything to go there's get the pleasure I'll get some pleasure but not the deep pleasures they come with although the real paint next is the so we've discussed two subjects so far because your minds are probably just spinning out while I'm up here talking just to tell you what we've discussed so far we've discussed the the ways that people suffer and how and we touched on how the way people that suffering at the hands of people is one of the major issues with God when it really shouldn't be because it's just people's bad choice and we don't want to lose heart free will remember that subject yeah so we can actually start chilling out you know we don't have to blame God for the Holocaust you can blame God for the Holocaust cuz there's a lot of bad choices made but only for the fact that God created choice that you could blame God for but even that's hypocritical because you like yours I want my choice so I should have chose when Nazis don't get choice they also get choice so blaming God for the Holocaust is it's not it's not God's fault because in the end we like our freewill then we discussed the the subject of pain and pleasure and how we're willing to forego certain pleasure and meaning to put the pain into certain things to get the ultimate pleasure to get the greater pleasure of life that we're willing to put the pain in for that have you guys ever been to a Shabbos table just as an example you've been Oh Shabbos table and you've seen a couple interacting in a beautiful way like you never saw before yeah you've seen that and everyone looks so happy yeah well guess what I'm not gonna say they're pretending it's real what what the what is that they've worked really hard that couples work during the arts you only get a snapshot of the Shabbos table you don't get to see what went into that couple and how much they've worked because we get married here knowing we're going to work we're not going for some pleasure honeymoon type of you know romantic ride here the way we look at marriage it's it's everything you could never have achieved in your personal growth single that's the way we look at marriage what I'm saying is that when you're single there's a certain amount of growth you'll get but you will hit a ceiling at a certain point and it's only through the the challenge of marriage through the the crucible of marriage and children that takes you to those next levels of growth and I'm not saying if someone lives single and if their whole life single and like went through everything in life besides marriage and child raising I'm not saying they won't get that growth eventually but the way God created human beings as you grow as a single person and then you grow as a married person and the marriage puts you in positions of challenge that are unlike anything that you could ever have as a single person and that bumps you up to your next stage so that you can get to your next and next and next and next levels of growth but again we look at marriages challenge and so when you get that snapshot of a couple at a Shabbos table don't think that a lot of hard work and a lot of Tears didn't go into into that couple to get them to where they're at now the next thing is is how to that how can we avoid suffering altogether so there's two types of suffering when it comes to suffering there are two kinds one kind is what I'd like to call just for your English let me use a eastern term for those who speak English how do you spell karmic anyway karmic like that yeah karmic suffering versus reincarnation suffering karmic suffering is the energy you put out in your daily life like what kind of energy do you have you have a positive energy if you have a scared image change you have a timid energy do you have an outgoing energy do you have a an energy of abundance or do you have an energy of scarcity what's the energy you put out are you the type of person who treads lightly on society and on this world or your person who's making this big footprint and you know taking everyone out with you use people as stepping stones leave your litter after the you know the picnic in the park you know what how do you live your life however it is whatever the energy is you have an energy field whenever that energy field is that you're putting out there is what people are going to be dealing with and that's gonna feed right back to you again whatever energy you put out there is gonna feed right back to give you an example at a student in yeshiva here who every I was teaching Talmud and Talmud class and every Sunday this guy would come back after the weekend our weekends are Friday Saturday so the guy would come in on Sunday every week with like either a black guy a broken nose he had a stab wound one week they literally had a stab wound with stitches and he'd been stabbed knifed every week and and every week he would say I don't know what happened I was just walking down the street and you know of course I asked the rest of the class have you walked down that Street before I know like sure anything I haven't you know I said I've been walking down that street for two decades another never happened to be had why is it every week you come back with another wound from another fight on another you know peaceful street of Jerusalem and anyway eventually I was able to show him that he's really a stinkbug and he's putting out this light punch me energy out there and that punched me energy causes guys who also like getting punched to smell it they smell it you know like dog hmm this could be a great way to to have some guile and a punch right my right in my head so some guy smells this guy and says hmm very time to get punched you're probably thinking great time to punch know this guy also wants to get punched and so the greatest way to get punched is to punch somebody right nope how do you get someone to punch you against a walk-up though you know punch me yeah he won't punch you you know there are people who just can't get punched because their energy is just unbundle have you ever noticed that victims of any kind of abuse usually or have it recurring ever known as that it's usually the same people who suffered a certain kind of abuse keep getting it back there's a whole bigger discussion I like to call it the satellite dish of life that we're all wearing a satellite dish over our heads and we don't see it and it's just pulling in like all kinds of garbage interaction right now we're discussing the garbage interaction of a kid in my shear Mike Moore sure would come in every weekend after the weekend he come in having been out and punched so anyway when you clean up that energy as this particular boy did the issues go away so when he cleaned up his energy his issue of getting clocked by people in town just disappeared because he cleaned up his energy the suffering went away okay again we're discussing suffering we're starting with the karmic energy that you emit and when you clean that up so trouble stops coming your way I do this work in a very very deep way I run seminars internationally I'm actually flying out next week to New York I'll be running it in Brooklyn for men and women actually have a women's seminar for the first time in ten months in Jerusalem I usually run it for many tourism and have a women's seminar first time in ten months being run between Russia Sean and Yom Kippur which is a tremendous opportunity but if I don't have enough sign ups by women online sign ups by a certain date I forget what date we gave then I'm canceling it because again we haven't ran went I don't know if we'd be able to market it in time but the whole point of that work is to is to transform your wave patterns transform the energy that you put out that the world and people keep feeding back to that's the point of the work I do yes the encumbrance of a reality it's not an idea it hits for reality so whether you call it karma core in Hebrew we call it me to connect meda meda connected me to measure for measure meaning whatever measure you're putting out there is the measure that you're gonna get back okay so however you want to say it it's it's like something you know like you can call a table Shu Han and Hebrew or a table in English that's what we're discussing is your energy field okay I only reason I put comics cuz people are familiar with the word okay now as far as reincarnation that's a different kind of suffering you could have the best energy in the world you're an amazing energy you're just full of abundance and love and caring and and like treading lightly on on this planet you know you're just so awesome in the way you deal with life here and nevertheless God just somehow like drags you over the coals in various situations raise your hand if you ever felt like you were just getting dragged over the coals in life everyone haven't you dragged over the coals more than half the room has felt like they're getting dragged over the coals now whenever you're being dragged over the coals the first question I ask is are you putting out an energy that the world's just feeding back to you and that's why you're dealing with this kind of suffering but the answer if the answer is yes clean up the energy if the answer is no then it could be what's called reincarnation what we'd call it cosmic dead or maybe you'd like to call it residue cosmic residue from previous lives when you live in this life here so you deal with your own life and your memory since you're a child growing up but you've lived many lives now stuff can bleed through into this life from previous lives most people don't finish off all their business when they're living their life they finish out the business of that life but they didn't necessarily finish off all their business and so there's residue they in it's been found in regression hypnosis in hypnosis therapy and regression those who believe in past lives and stuff who have done past life regression therapy that that most of the time when you're regressing a patient who is suffered abuse they find themselves in the previous life the abuser so often they are the buter sock to find that they're the abuser in a previous life yes yeah it's permanent yeah yeah mm-hmm yeah there was a major question that I was present for the whole adjudication of it like when some big rabbis were judging whether it was okay or not how it's done was more important to the rabbi's meaning they did not appreciate going to someone who's like you know you were a witch in origami and you're like which they that they don't appreciate but when it was done through hypnosis where the person themself is going into those lives and talking about what they see around them that they thought was kosher they believed was a kosher I think dude they weren't saying they agree with that as that it's the right thing to do or the wrong thing they're just saying it was kosher if someone chose to do it anyway but there has been there's an inordinate amount of people who had cosmic debt because they went back as victims and found themselves to be perpetrators in previous lifetimes over and over again over and over again because of this cosmic debt and so things are coming around from previous lives now you're probably wondering how do we fix that how do we fix that okay you I this one I can clean up my energy but how am I going to deal with the stuff that's just coming down the pipes from previous lifetimes I don't even know where to watch out I don't know how to watch out for it I don't know how I could avoid I don't know if I'm supposed to avoid it the answer is is that you don't you know you don't have to avoid it you know that's necessarily even supposed to avoid you got to go through what you got to go through but there is another issue and that's repetition it could come repetitively and that you can stop if you find that you're having a similar repetition of again we're not talking about because this guy is definitely gonna be dealing with a loop he's gonna constantly or she's gonna constantly be having these really lousy relationships or really lousy interactions that's all because they have not cleaned up their energy but I'm talking about someone whose Energy's clean but they're still going through stuff again you daft you have to embrace your life if stuffs happening to you in your life you can't resist that because that's like resisting your own life and resisting one's own lives is like it's lean way it's like cancer nobody's resisting life that's how I would like you see that people's actual bodies resist life that's the cell the cancer cells are resisting their own life that's you don't want to be resisting your life it smells too much like cancer and if stuffs coming your way that you have to go through you it's clear this it fizzes got your name on it you know you could go to the Federal Building and do a name change it's still coming you know it's got your name all over it okay then and you got that stuff happening and it's got your name all over it don't resist it is that clear yeah you can't resist it it's got to be something that's embraced and accepted it within you that okay let's you know let's get on our gear and get through this whatever it is I got to get through and you get through it and you'll notice you're gonna grow from it yeah you're gonna grow tremendously from it and you grow through it and you'll become a greater person as a result and you most likely will even look back at it and say you know I see why that was necessary I see why I had to go through that and and you may even get to the level as most people do is I wouldn't even trade it now now I'm on the other side I wouldn't have even traded it that's pretty heavy do not even trade it but what do you do when it's repetitive are you doing it keeps coming back like the deep a deep kind of suffering that's nothing to do with bad energy I got great energy yeah the person has great energy but it just keeps coming back and the answer is to get it to stop looping the reason it's still looping is because the person's still resisting and so the way to get it to stop looping is to come to acceptance again I already said that didn't I didn't I say to embrace it saying something else I'm saying when you're going through something embrace it I got it I'm gonna have to ride through this rough ride so you know put on the helmet and ride through it get people to support you get a support group get some family members there for you and you're gonna ride through it it's a great thing about being married is you have a a permanent in-house support group called the spouse and so I guess that's one of the ways you can figure out if someone would be a good spouse for you as if they're supportive in the way you need to be supportive people have different ways they need to be supported so anyway but and you whether this situation but if you find it keeps coming back it's probably because you've been resisting it and you haven't really come to accept that this is what God is sending you to fix you but when you come to acceptance it'll go away yeah and I'm not saying another thing won't come it'll but it'll be a different thing something about something else altogether is that clear so let's go back if you're having negative interactions or the world is not going your way because of bad energy clean up your energy how do you do that so it's different ways to do that I happen to train people on how to do that but there's you can certainly go seek it if your timing doesn't work with me cosmic debt reincarnation cosmic debt is whether it when you got it whether it just weather through the situation and if you find it repeating itself then you have to come to a deep level of acceptance and just say god I accept it and let's move on now like enough reruns on this similar situation I know a particular person who went through for reincarnation four whole incarnations lived a full life four times suffering the same exact stuff because every time he suffered it he resisted it and so he just came back and went through a whole life of repetition suffering whole life repetition suffering whole life repetition so yeah I wasn't discussing acceptance here yeah the karmic stuff I think my from what I found is most people love the feelings so much of clean energy living that they they're just they have zero tolerance for any more garbage in their lives usually when someone like for example cleaned up their diet you could probably predict that ten years later they're not gonna be like eating junk food you know they just you begin to love life from a clean place so you usually don't regress people do regress but most people don't if they're really coming from a true clean energy place they don't regress people do some do and you come to acceptance of this stuff yeah oh yeah that's what I was saying is once you've cleaned this up if you're still going through stuff it's probably stuff you have to go through and and that's great it's fine you know and you don't always go through it it might be two years from now you're gonna go through something and maybe five years for them now a couple more things one is a trick how to get out of going through your own stuff and that is help others one of the tricks of not having to go through so much suffering is you take on other people's suffering be there for people you be there for people so much so that God says wow you know this this person is so out there for people like so out there and like really putting himself or herself in the line of fire for people who are suffering in this way or the other way that I can't afford for him or her to be going through their own stuff I just can't afford it I need them like you got to become one of God's agents for other people's issues so that so much so that God just says you know what this person I can't have them lose any energy in their in their work so become a person who's about helping others and and then God will kind of you know lay off a bit on whatever the stuff you have to go through because you're you're here to do service for other people yeah mosha have you noticed this works in all over they're not for you no seriously have you noticed the Mo's motion Moses motion lives a life of service and and he's nice there's our first anyone else noticed this that they made their lives and life as a service and they just notice things got easier anyway try it try it make your son make your life a life of service so much so that God says this person is he it's too busy you know like I can't I can't have her or burdened my and the stuff that they normally go through because they're so busy helping other people through their stuff there yeah that's a God we'll just wash it clean yeah I would guess I would guess meaning if this lifetime was to go through that stuff but the person is just so busy and serving others that they didn't go they didn't go through I imagine that it's not gonna come back another life I meant again I'm not these aren't things we necessarily know so much about some stuff we know a lot of stuff we don't so maybe they are gonna get it in the next life I don't know I don't think so I don't think so this life if this life's too clean something up and we wound up not having to clean it up because we're so busy with everybody else I think we might ever get away with it now here's the other thing it's a major caveat I don't want to scare anyone away from having kids but when you have kids it's a whole new reincarnation that kids not really your kid okay this is this is God's kid who God has used you and your spouse to have a kid now that kids coming from his or her own reincarnation they've got their own things to fix they got their own lives to live and it's you know they may share your last name they may live under your roof but they got their own stuff they're gonna be going through and so before I was talking about how we can get rid of suffering how clean up your energy and come to acceptance over the stuff that you're dealing with your cosmic debt well easier said than done because once you have children you are directly linked to their lives yeah I did anyone here has kids kids kids kids are alright so you have kids yeah you noticed that if your kid comes home from school and something went wrong in there what it's their story but how is your how are you doing it becomes yours it just you live you guys know that you live totally linked to whatever your kids go through whenever your kids going through is what you're gonna be going through so it gets rather complicated now this is good reason if you're gonna have kids is to have like one two but in our world we have like you know we just keep going yeah yeah before for kids there and they anyway the and but you get like they're our fan we just were at a bris last week of a man who's older than me just made a he just made a circumcision of this new child they everyone said hey we're all heading out to the the bris of so and so and I'm like oh you had a grandkid and they're like no no it's his kid like he's still having kids this kid was born an uncle too like nieces and nephews multiple nieces and nephews because it was this 15th kid and he is directly linked he and his wife are directly linked to every one of those kids and whatever those kids are going through and their marriages have a bunch of them are married some are single you know who knows what's going on with all those kids over there and the you know kids are you know you can't predict what's gonna be with your kids you know all kinds of stuff's going on with each kid and so I imagine it's hard to sleep a little bit cuz yeah you're linked to those kids and of course the answer there it is again looking up to God and just saying like God you know you're the king of the universe and I trust that I'll make my choices as best as I can but I trust you're gonna handle the rest I'll do my best you do the rest please take care of my children please take care of those kids we have to take care of ourselves by the way so our parents can sleep okay any other questions at this point how we doing what okay of service to them yeah yeah for sure for sure but but again you're gonna go through whatever they're whatever they're going through yeah in general if you look at people people just go through so much like imagine how much you'll look on through from the time you're born till the time you're like like 80 I think I'm much you'll have gone through and yet we're all still trying to seek pleasure and avoid pain when in the end at the end when you get to 80 and you look yourself in the mirror you'll just be like whoa been through it all you know I just been through so much well when you look at it from that perspective eventually I have to say we're here to go through stuff life is not a picnic life isn't just you know isn't some walk in the park you know you're gonna go through all this stuff so so why don't we all just instead start saying I'm here to go through stuff like I'm here to go through stuff in my life and I'm not gonna avoid it not gonna resent God for it I'm not going to resist it rather I I will embrace life all of life and all that it brings and that's the place we all have to get to and now let's bring God back into it in a major way and that is that God's running the show we have to give God the the keys to the car you know no one likes to be a passenger but it's nice to know the one place I don't mind being a passenger so much is in cab drivers when I'm using a cab it's what he does for a living you know he's like he's always in that car he's always driving around with it if anyone's gonna do a good job it's him more than anyone else who's maybe drives more occasionally or they only drive to work him back cab drivers are driving everywhere they're on the highways on the streets they're in parking lots or reverser and go there you know there I like I can sit pretty well in a cab and relax except for of course telling them which way I think would be faster which when he just looks at me like shut up and the but who's really driving the car in our lives who's really got got his hands on the wheel of our lives and the answer is God the creator of the universe is driving this car which means that we should be the most relaxed passengers inside God's car we have to be the most relaxed passengers now you may ask the question of oh really I can just like should I just go to sleep in the backseat like I can just be that relaxed so it brings up the whole subject of well kind of God Drive in the car you should definitely be relaxed your heart rate shouldn't go up with God driving the car you should be nice and chill steady breathing feeling good the only issue is is that God expects you to do all kinds of things in life God wants you God created you to get there certain jobs done in life and those jobs that you got to do are responsibilities that are gonna include dotting your i's and cross your T's and dealing with all kinds of the deep all the details that come up with your life and if you think you're gonna kick back in the backseat and someone else is gonna handle those details I mean obviously if you hire someone to do those details they're done but but if you think you're gonna kick back and all the details of life are gonna get handled because God's driving the car well the car God's driving requires you to be at work you know busy at work and we've we've got it so there's it's a balance between what's called bit tough hoon and what's called Hesh toddlers and that's this is God's God's running the show that's running the show versus get to work meaning I can't just hang around and expect my bank accounts gonna fill up without me working I gotta get to work I can't expect that in the winter that somehow it's gonna be warm in my house if not if I don't either make build a fireplace chop wood or buy wood or get it get a heater or something I can't just sit there and expect God to heat my house for me it's that clear so I look and I can be very chill knowing God's running the show on the other hand I've got to be involved I got to be busy doing all kinds of things yet still remain taining my trust that God's running the show and this gets very very difficult and you'll see a lot of people will avoid life responsibilities of our hitch dad loosen life they'll be escapist who wanted to Oh God will do it God will do a gunnel do it God's gonna help reminds me of a joke of a boy was escaping life and he comes to you Shiva and he's learned about Hashem and now he says Bob Russian and all those things as Shemesh Miranda shemyaza and mere it's a shame and he's got it all wired yeah so he finally his father calls from you know Los Angeles or somewhere says son what's going on over there in Israel you're supposed to be back last week he says I've decided to stay and I'm gonna stay in your shoe this is Stan yeah what are you gonna do for a living and he's like Hashem will help and he's like what's the session he says because the father never heard the word he knows it word God he doesn't know where their attention you know I mean you know what do you how you gonna make ends meet ease as a I told you a Shem with hope you know what are you gonna wind up doing for a living as a shim will provide and so he finally hangs up the phone with his son is the wife is like what'd he say what'd he say he says I don't know but he keeps calling me Hashem so we have we we God expects us and how he builds us is by us engaging in this world and making ends meet and paying the bills and dealing with all the bureaucracies of life and you know him yes he's running the show but he's expecting us to get up in act and to do all kinds of stuff now in the end he's doing that too but he will he won't do it if you don't at least go through the motions and maybe that's the best way we have to look at it is we have to go through the motions I have to go through the motions of work I have to go through the motions of chopping wood to heat the heat the house with the wood-burning stove I have to go through those motions who's really chopping that wood God is God chopping that way yeah who's really doing all that work God's doing that work ok I'm going through the motions of work we have to get to that level of where we feel we really get to the point where we feel like we're just going through the motions that God's really doing through us and to know that it's really fashion and it's all hussion but again the only way we'll ever chill out in life is knowing that God's running the show that's the only way we'll get rid of worries to really get that into our blood and when I say knowing I don't mean knowing here I'm talking about integration to integrate the gods run in the show how how do we get integrated how do we actually get to that point I think one of the one of the things that's that's a nice idea is to journalize a little bit of how you got to where you got to in life to see then the end really God was running the show the whole time give you an example raise your hands if you chose to come to Israel on this trip okay well it's not true it's not true think about it for a second how many circumstances had the line themselves up for you to be here right now basically God's running the show okay he's run in the shop and God set up this and yeah this person had to talk to that person who had to meet that person that all these different circumstances got totally lined up something that only God could handle and then at the very last moment where is like hey you want to go to Israel like then God put the microphone in front of your mouth you're like sure and you're like they made a big choice there yeah you know the whole thing was set up well you think you've been drawn to Israel right God has drawn you here through all these circumstances that God had to totally line up for you so that's one way to integrate it is to just look back on your life and maybe break out a journal and just journal eyes like what were all the details that had to happen for this to have taken place and you'll see that God somehow thread a needle through all kinds of details all kinds of variables that had to perfectly line up for that needle to shoot right through it for you to have made the choices that you in the end made so that's very important to another way to to get it through your bones is to is to take some risks that are not dangerous non dangerous risks and practice with trusting God on those non dangerous risks what do I mean by non dangerous risks we're kind of risk where you're afraid of it but everyone else would say there's nothing to be afraid of and you just do it use do it I don't care if it's rock climbing rappelling skydiving you know but choose some kind of thing where you're gonna have to just trust you're gonna have to just trust and you got to just put it out there and just start playing with the trust the trust game in my house we call it the trust game you know when you fall into someone's hands and you gotta fall so they do it from chairs and tables and stuff you'll stand up on the edge of the table or the kitchen counter is even higher and they they just stand there they just go right into daddy's arms and I go rice them nice and low so they to just really freefall so they so that you know and if they do any of that stuff you know that kind of bracing themselves then they have to do it again and so we have to play our own trust game in life figure out different things in life that we're afraid of that are not really dangerous but we've created in our minds that it's dangerous and play that trust game another thing is to is to find out something in life where you're holding back find some aspect of life maybe professionally there's some area in life where you've been holding yourself back based on some fear and just do just choose five things or three things three action steps that you'll do towards it to see if God really you know makes it happen okay so something you want to do in life something you feel you should be doing in life but you've just been totally holding yourself back and just say you know what god I'm putting this all in your hands I'm gonna do a couple I'm gonna do these three action steps but you met you have to make it happen and see if God makes it happen for you anyone else want to put out there since we're on this subject other kinds of ways to build our integration that God's running the show anyone else got they've got something for us we can get it on through this little video here what yeah well Shabbat was built originally for that was that you're not gonna work one day a week how you're gonna survive without working a day a week today there's so much affluence is so much wealth but not working a day a week is not that big a thing although that people had to trust God for their physical survival by not working that one day a week today its social survival meaning for many of you telling your friends you're going to a Shabbos dinner instead of going out to party is literally putting your social life on the line so in a way Shabbos still as a major trust okay that's true but right now we're discussing getting involved in trusting that God's gonna take care of business okay anyone else gotta need trust examples I gave a few ways of getting this done any others well let's just all conclude with this and that is that we gotta have it if we want to be sane we've got to have it because life is too crazy there's so many open-ended aspects of life and to not have someone driving this car of our lives you know because God knows we don't want to be driving it you know being in the driver's seat of your own life is so precarious it's so dangerous and you see even the most solid person you'll ever meet in your life I don't care if he's got a billion dollars in his bank account he's dotted all his eyes crossed all his T's he's got every bureaucratic thing taken care of in his life he's got it all wired he's married his kids off everything's wired it's gonna have everything he owns ripped away from him when he dies all of us are gonna lose it all and he will become horribly paranoid of that day towards the last twenty thirty years of his life horribly paranoid it will it'll after a while it will he will succumb to a constant fixation on his death when it you will lose it all every person loses everything in the end and so anyway so I'm saying that you know the rest of us don't have a billion in the bank and we're gonna have to deal with all kinds of stuff to make it in life we're all gonna have to go through a lot that that guy was born into some rich family isn't gonna go through we're all gonna go through a lot in life to make it even our marriage or your wedding day is gonna be the scariest moment like you can dedicate your heart to this person forever you got to have God there there's got to be someone driving that car the day of your marriage you're gonna be having kids going through pregnancies pregnancies the scariest well what's gonna be at the birth you know you don't have a choice you're gonna you got arrived in Grand Central Station here ie the hospital and have the baby it's gonna be a c-section it's gonna be a natural birth this is gonna be you know it's gonna be three days labor is it gonna come out in the hallway you know there's so many options of what could possibly happen yet you can't there's nothing you can do you've got to get there and and it says and it's hard for the woman it's hard for the husband that someone's gonna be driving this car of our lives that we're gonna be suffering through this life and they're it's so important that we really get to trust we got to put it in our heart so we got to put in our brains we've got to put in our bodies or our whole being has to just be going through the motions of life because God's really pulling the strings and we're just doing if you got to go get a job you're just going through the motion God's doing this you put out those prayers before you go for the job interview and you gotta you know you got to put out those prayers on the way the hospital and you got to you know we got to trust how are we gonna do this if not totally trust in God if not recognizing God is driving this car that's the only way to keep your heart rate at a normal level going through your own life and going through life as a Jew and going through life here in Israel it's the only way we're gonna make it it's not something we can avoid we've got to work on trust kind of work on the trust and just to conclude what I already brought up is journalizing the past is since we've gotten this far we're gonna make it the rest like for example here's Sinai here's the end of days which is 6,000 years so you got word 5774 so so far God's like got a perfect track record we're right about here so you look God's always had a perfect track record meaning in your own life God's had a perfect track record in your life of in the end making sure things worked out I mean you did make it to Jerusalem I mean I don't know what what general but if we could go back one of the times you were suffering I know more than half you raise your hands that you've suffered before but imagine now that you just go back in exactly what you're wearing right now it exactly what age you are right now and you go back and you pop it into the scene there and you're like guess what I'm here from Jerusalem and you're gonna totally make it it's gonna be great you know you're gonna make it and the person's like oh my gosh you're me and you made it like you're on the other side learning Torah in Jerusalem Wow I'm gonna make it through this and you're like yeah you're gonna make it gonna be great you're like yes okay go away I can get through this because I know I'm gonna make it okay so you could do that at any point of your life you'd see that you could pop in and say ah you're gonna make it so know that now and know that tomorrow know that the next I know next week that whatever we're going through we're gonna make it and we're gonna be better for it and God's building us through it and and we're not here to avoid pain we're here to embrace life and to go through the lives that God has has given us both to clean up our energy and to and to go through whatever it is we have to go through in this lifetime this reincarnation to perfect ourselves in our beings and in in our in our lives let's get to the other side which is obviously you know stuff we don't know what it's all about but we'll be there and we'll understand that some will understand someday why does we have to go through what we go through she'll know everyone you