Chanuka Rage @rabbiyomtov

so here we are going into Kaneka and uh tonight's the first night I think all of us are feeling a special energy in the air compared to other years um why it is that this year feels different I believe is because there's this positivity in the air I don't think it's just the fact that Trump was was a reelected I think that um if you're Jewish you know and now we've got this like entire new Middle East happening but all of this to me started sukus time I don't know if raise your hand if you were here suus time anyone was here suus time did you notice that like there was an energy in the air that was like crazy like I've been here that was my 33rd sucus here and I've never felt the energy like that before and I kept getting clips of like all kinds of situations whether there were hidic situations or there were the nitty like there was a nitty keepa situation like the but there were like thousands of them and they were dancing their hearts out with Lula vs like Mish with their Lula vanesta dancing and dancing and dancing and dancing I had have this clip it you could feel like something's happening and then I get a clip showing people on the Temple Mount like face down hands forward feet out like flat on their faces on the Temple Mount I mean Jews were there were police just to watch Jews lips to make sure they don't pray and if they prayed they would get arrested but during sukus people are going up in the Temple Mount hopefully in permitted places because some areas are permitted and they were flat flat out one after the other after the other like no one was stopping them and it it feels like even the state of Israel you know which has been no friend to Judaism in many ways I mean obviously friendly in other ways but even the state of Israel seems to be getting a getting like Jerusalem fever you know they're getting like Jerusalem syndrome a little bit and I anyway I think some exciting in the air and Hanukah is the ultimate excitement and that's what we're going to focus on um today what we're going to work on is very not politically correct so I hope uh anyone watching this understands I'm not here to offend anybody and you know I I came to heal not to harm and to love and not to hate and to make peace and not war you know that's what I'm here for however however there is something that all of of us need to make get real clear and it's from King David and we say it every kabat Shabbat and that's oh Hashem those who love God must hate evil those who love God must hate evil there's no neutrality when it comes to evil you have to hate it with a consumate hatred if you say you love but you're neutral when it comes to the things that the Torah clearly describes as forbidden as the dark side as as evil if you're neutral about that you know if you have like liberal positions about like you know like Live and Let Live or free to be you and me or you know the you know like I'm doing my thing you do your thing you know and everyone does their own thing and uh or uh you know seeing seeing Judaism as one of the world's religions even you know that's that's wrong Judaism is number one not a religion and it's not one of a group we're not one of a group okay we're we we're a sheep surrounded by 70 wolves and some of those wolves you know some of those wolves are religious wolves but we are we are not religious people at all and uh and you'll just notice that even the people in this room would you ever consider yourself a religious person you the way Gentiles consider someone religious like you're a religious man oh you're a very religious man you know you're not and I'm like extremely not you know I what is a religious person like what does it even mean to be a a religious person you know I don't even I'm I'm personally I don't think I can even Define what that means but it's certainly not me it's none of the Jews I know my goodness the Jews I know are are wild and crazy and and and they're they're also very very you know just they're just into they're into God and doing the right thing and but re religion now I know this sounds a little weird so maybe we should Define religion religion religion means uh when you wish something were true and then you kind of align your life around it whereas Judaism isn't like some wish you know like some some fantasy wish that something you know were true it's not that at all and you can actually test whether or not there's a God you can test whether or not the Torah is man written or God written you can test the actual literally like Ben Ben son after sun from Mount Si all the way to 2024 of everyone's sitting in this room like we literally have our families lined up my family goes goes back like our family tree goes back like you're all of our family's trees go back thousands of years now you may not be able to name your great great great great great great grandfather but I promise you that your great-grandfather who you probably could name could name his great-grandfather who could name his great grandfather could name his great grandfather could name and it just goes all the way back till you're at the destruction of the second temple when we got thrown out into Europe and meaning the ashkenazim got thrown into Europe and the sarim obviously to other countries and and the but we're we're a direct line of that we're not religious people who wish something were true and that's why you'll notice in the evening prayers after shma we say what does it mean and this is all our faith and then it has a two dots which is a colon and it's a long paragraph about our history just what's our what's Aruna Aruna is our history what's the amuna of religion is the belief that some guy heard something in a cave or it's the belief that you know someone did X Y or Z and now he's the new uh the new Prophet or whatever you understand whereas whereas we're just saying we were three million people at bount SI 600,000 men between the ages of 20 and 60 and when you include the elderly the females and the children you're at 3 million 3 million people stood at a mountain you can't make that kind of stuff up it was only a few hundred years later that Israel's living in the land with King David we already we have his coins we have his we have stuff with we no one denies King David's rule no one denies the period of his Rule and yet it's it's a full Israel with full Judaism going on at that time and it's only a couple hundred years after Mount sin how do you fake that how do you how do you get something like that going because you can't tell everyone they were there if they weren't and they'll just say let me ask my Uncle Joe let me ask my aunt Edna you know were they there and so the me need the Tor should never have said everyone was there if it's a religion because you could easily just say we weren't I can't tell you I saw you in the supermarket in Tel Aviv yesterday because you weren't and you just say I wasn't you know and now just add people it only gets Works no N I see you I I saw all of you there he be like no you didn't well what if we had the room with a hundred people and I said okay it wasn't you it was your grand it was your grandparents or your great grandparents your great great grandparents your great great great grandparents you know however many it would take to get to King David's time in Israel you know what would you do you'd go home and say Grandpa we're great grandpa do you know anything about being in the market in Tel Aviv yesterday or do you know anything about being in some other place with a gigantic THX surround sound Omnimax 3D LSD Blow Away experience at Mount Si like you ever heard of that and they would be like we don't know what you're talking about that's that that's what would have happened if the Torah was made up it's not possible that anyone could have come to the people I don't know who the people would be but they come up to the people and say hi um you're the people is is he speaking to a group is he speaking to an individual and he walks up to you hi I don't know if you know this but you were um you're part of this three million group of people you be like what are you talking about you know I'm a pagan sheep herder you know and when what who was the person he would come up to to explain that he was he's the ancest he's the are the descendant of three million people the it's cuckoo there's there's only one way you could have such a claim as if it happened and no one would put that claim unless it happened because people would just laugh you out of the they would just laugh you away not to mention when you go into the actual Commandments and you start seeing genocidal Commandments do you know that there's genocidal Commandments in the in the Torah I'm not talking about wiping out am like I'm talking about wiping out Israel what yeah wiping out Amal wiping out the Canaanite Nations meaning you you were to offer them peace that they could leave peacefully or they could take on the seven the seven Commandments of the children of Noah and stay in the land or or not one man woman or child will be Left Alive Loa not one person can be Left Alive those are the three options they can leave peacefully they can stay and keep the seven Mitzvah Ben Noah or not one man woman child grandma or grandpa will be living because the Jews are going to wipe them out and but no I'm talking about Genesis we have Commandments that kill Israel kill the Jews you know what commandment kills the Jews the sabatical year it's absolutely forbidden to to gain your sustenance from the Earth every seventh year if I were if a man was writing the book If I writing the book I'd leave that one out why would I put that in there now the Torah says the reason it's in there is because if you been if the land's busy working every chabas well if you add six years of shabas it equals one year of the land resting because the land is even though you you we all think of the earth we all think of the earth as just land but the Earth also has a soul if it's the land of Israel the land of Israel has its own soul and the fact that it doesn't get to rest six years means it gets a year of rest at the end of six years you ever thought about that yeah that's why it's crazy it says and and what's the punishment of not keeping this rule the punishment of not keeping the rule it says very clearly in Torah the land will SP you out the L will eject you we we are the only country in the world with an eject button we are the only country in the world with we're the only land in the world that has a digestive system it either AB like absorbs the Jew and you become the land right because when you when you assimilate an Apple the Apple becomes you when you assimilate a piece of chicken the chicken becomes the Jew the land of Israel absorbs us it actually digests us and then you become the land of Israel and have you guys noticed since you've been living here that that the uh that you're becoming like more and more eral dick yeah anyone visited the US and said like what in the world's going on out here meaning visited Jewish communities and you're like what what are these people up to you hear what I'm saying that's religious Judaism by the way religious Judaism is being an observant Jew outside of Israel then you're a religious Jew here in the land you're you're when you're in the land of Israel you are in an organic dance you're in an organic dance with tah and mitzvas andil and aod and and you're you're you're I once uh saw a guy in La who's aam guy and I was teaching at UCLA for a few I was a young a and was teaching at UCLA my wife and I were doing our best to make chabas tables at the University and stuff anyway uh this this uh French Jew oh man what's his name he passed away he's a famous famous U movie writer and stuff I don't know why he son's his son's name is pakia saki H well he's a famous guy I don't know his name popped out of my head anyway ran into him and you know what he says Y what are you doing here and I said well I'm actually doing a little Outreach at UCLA and he's like no Y in Jerusalem you are like a prince here you are nobody I was just like oh man you know back to the campus another big sh is T but I I do believe that if if a Jew does leave the land to go do Outreach he's paying dues you know you're paying some dues there and I had to pay some dues out there and brard a lot of people who are observant today but the uh and by the way leaving the land of Israel is forbidden did you guys know that you're not allowed to leave here meaning meaning once it once you get digested you can't you can't induce vomiting you understand once you get digest there's no inducing vomiting you're you're in that's it that's it and the the Torah actually only allows um three reasons why you're allowed to leave Israel and there's kind of a fourth as well the three reason you're allowed to Israel is we learned them from the avos one is if there's a famine meaning you can't make a living you're going to die here okay you can leave another is that you um that you need to um you need to get married we know from the AOS that they found their wives in Syria so you're allowed to leave for a wife you know although Yak wasn't allowed to leave which is already a Simmon for some some of us and the third reason you're allowed to leave is for um for getting a teacher which is one I never understood that one I should give the real third one the real third one is Pigeon Shin is you're allowed to go out of land to um to uh redeem someone who had been kidnapped if a Jew gets kidnapped outside the land you're allowed to go outside the land to redeem that kidnapped person and then there's like a Mand that for your learning like if there's a teacher who could teach you Torah in a way that no one else could you could leave the land for that clear what happens if you don't have any of those what happens if number one to find us uh number one was a lack of food Israel is like teaching the whole world agriculture today like our Tech Technologies and making food no one can touch Us in that we're we're literally like like feeding the planet at this point with our Technologies and uh number two finding a wife I never seen so many Jewish women in my life they're everywhere number three is the uh the the leaving for uh for Pigeon Shu for uh kidnapped Jews yeah you can leave for that but you know the only kidna Jews we got right now are in um Gaza right now may they be returned soon and the um and finding a rabbi who could teach you Torah I would suggest coming to Israel for that if you want to find a rabbi who could teach you the Torah and you're unique in the way you would learn it so you need that unique Rabbi there's a there's like a I think it's a 99% chance that he's already in Israel whoever that whoever that guy is you know he's somewhere in the land of Israel meaning you can't leave here anymore therefore all of us who do get on planes to go which includes me I'm out out of the country every a couple weeks BR I get to be here for two months which I'm so excited about and uh I'm running a possi you seminar here in Jerusalem January something January something I think it's January 7th not sure but I think it's the 7th which is really exciting and I should be having my I'm not going to announce that I'm so ADHD saying way too I remember once I needed information from somebody and it was some kind of based in case and they bring me in to get information out of people sometimes so I need that information but I'm not just call a guy I got to do some background and find out like how how what's going to be my angle to get the information so some I called this first guy I said can you give me some information about this guy because because I need to I need to extract some information for Basin and and he was like oh he's ADHD he'll tell you everything he said you need nothing just call him and ask him whatever you want want and he was right two hours later I'm just like I got him on speaker phone writing out everything he wasn't supposed to say you know to give me all kinds of background information to uh take care of a little Justice that was necessary but yeah I'm also like announcing stuff I shouldn't be announcing so I'm I cut it right there um the next thing by the way I'm great at Secrets I just my own secrets I'm not so great at uh I'm from California you know in California you just say everything about yourself what's up guys welcome can you guys make a second row on either side of Benny over there because yeah the closer the camera closer in towards this camera meaning as far as latitude yeah oh my gosh we're talking about so many things at once so but but here's the thing guys yeah that's a good spot right there so here's the thing is um we're talking about there's no you're never allowed to leave Israel yeah no leaving Israel is that clear yes yeah so we're never allowed to leave this place and you have a phone call you need to go with a permanent intention or just you're not allowed to leave for any intention because you're not allowed to induce V vomiting Israel is the only country in the world that has a digestive system and so you're not allowed to just throw yourself out so um so here's what I want to say is for those of us who do have to leave CU some of us go yeah I go all the time I'm I'm outside the country all the time so when you leave the country you have to bring somebody like some random Jew closer to Judaism so let's say you're going for a wedding family wedding or you're going for whatever reason going for PESA you know and meanwhile everyone you see already keeps Torah so you can't be going for them because there's the of the three reasons allowed to leave Israel one of them is to return a captive uh prisoner well well Judaism tells us that someone who was raised without Torah a Jew raised by a family that didn't teach him Torah is the same as someone being born into captivity I mean we exist in our where are you right now you're existing in your own conscious experience right but your guys's conscious experience is completely embedded in the Torah view it's like you're you understand so you're there's a freedom there there's a freedom there you're you're in a a you may not feel so free right now but you are in a very free place because I promise you if you were raised non-observant and you are right now in your non-observant life you don't know olive bet you don't know there's a God you don't know Torah is real you don't know any of that you're completely imprison you're in jail and by you saying a good word to someone or inviting them to a shabas table or getting them started with a book or something when you're visiting America by you doing that you have you have made it that you didn't spit yourself out of land got it so you're so I have big reasons to leave Israel every time I leave big reasons leave but they're never The Big Three which are the ones you're allowed to leave for so I always make sure when I'm outside the country to reach out to somebody so I I'll be in whatever I'll be in New York or something and someone will say hey can you pop by can you pop by this place and speak to a group of Jews over there or or whatever or hey can you come out with lunch with me and my cousin I have a cousin who was raised non observant I know you're busy you know and I'm just like I'll be there and I make sure I go for that no matter how busy I am if someone offered that that's that's the only reason I could be outside of Israel is to have lunch with him and his cousin that was it you know um my wife flew for Thanksgiving to be with her family you know we weren't we were not raised observant so she flew for Thanksgiving where all her secular family is and she knows like like yes we're coming for Thanksgiving is one of the one of the heers of leaving Israel to go for Thanksgiving no but if you go there and you talk to with your family that works now um what we're talking about here is the consumate hatred consumate hatred of evil which is kind of interesting because if King David's saying that to love Hashem means to hate evil not at all Progressive not liberal not not you got to hate it you got to hate evil not only that Abraham what's Abraham known for which which character trait right except guess what Abraham's actual original character trait is not it's not kindness It's not hate it's worse it's worse than it it's hates its expression but it's actually the maybe the root of it is um it's um rage Haron which is hinted at by the fact that he came from kharan which is the word rage Abraham's actual attributes Rage that's his true attribute now tell me how effective would Abraham have been as this outraged guy what would you do if you came to a tent of a guy who's outraged well I would run the other way so Abraham was smart and he said he said I'm totally outraged and here com some idolators what if I just like take all that rage and just like Channel it into kindness what if I Channel it into kindness I'll share with you a little story I was I was once walking home from carlen shabas day with one of my neighbors who lives right behind this building and he's like he always screams shabus at the cars when we walk we walk by so I always know when I walk with him that every conversation will be peppered with a small Interruption when a car would drive by and he would have this blood curdling scream I mean you can see veins popping out of his for yeah he's not this guy's not a curling he's neighbor and his his neck's like you know swelling as he screams you know [Music] ja shaking his fists at the car you know meanwhile the car is all you hear in the car it's winter you know the windows are closed he's going down the road you know but you know he's doing his mitz for sh anyway over the years uh he finally said to me when we got to our neighborhood he said you know yum I know I know that your your rage over people not keeping shabas is way bigger than mine and I happen to know that too but he it was amazing this guy hopped it he said your rage is much bigger than mine can you sit on Benny's side over there yeah right there just pull that chair or Benny slide over a bit this way just so he has real your rage is much bigger than mine there's a guy screaming shabas at the cars said that my rage is bigger than his I never scream shabas at cars if anything if the window's open I'll try to get them to come for kiddish but I said oh yeah why is my rage bigger than yours he says I could never do the Cure of you do it's just not my style like I could never do cure of so I express my rage over them breaking chabas by screaming chabas I know that every time you get to your table you you got 10 15 20 guests all who were not raised observant you're spending hundreds of dollars per meal to feed these people and to explain to them T and explain to them shabas Etc and because that's the right way of using your rage and he couldn't be more right he couldn't be more right people who are serious Outreach personalities are we are outraged we are outraged we're coming up to Kaneka tonight you have to be outraged how did a little group of kohanim who have no business in war we not sending kohanim into war who how could a little group of konic Scholars Priestly Scholars throw a full Revolution against the already succeeding Greeks who they already have like Idols in our holy of holies in Jerusalem meaning we were done there was nothing left of us they they couldn't they couldn't like drum up any motivation in the Jewish people to even think to fight back there was no one left who wasn't thinking in Greek terms well it's no wonder it was them though if there was anyone to create the revolution it would have been the ones who are the holiest because the Holier you are the more outraged how do you express your outrage express your outrage well whatever is effective in this case what was effective was war the effective way to deal with being outraged is war in the case of having been completely consumed by the Greek people so this is what I want to say going into our first candle of Kaneka tonight is all of us should um what's that yeah oh yeah good morning yeah yeah yeah yeah you got to get your hania maybe worked out a little bit get your manora worked out um but I I think all of us need to do a little in inward thinking right now on um where are we where are we in a more liberal place in our hearts about like Live and Let Live and I'm okay you're okay and free to be me you and me and and you know to each his own all these things that just like you know it's like all of that that's the western civilization today the the the stone which is the Jewish people that that the that the builders hated who are the builders the builders are the westerners the western civilization the Americans the the Europeans the the Romans the Greeks they're the builders what do they do they just build and they they they come to a beautiful place and they're like build you know we come to a beautiful place we're like wow look how gorgeous like can like feel aim's presence here and these forests and the the lakes and the waterfalls like wow this is gorgeous you know when the when the westerners met the Indians in New York and they they wanted to Buy Manhattan from the Indians there and the Indians are like you want to buy buy land like you wa you think you could own land and they're like yeah we think you can own land they're like no no the we belong to the land the land owns us because the tradition of the natives was you come from the earth you go to the Earth like you know we're we the land owns US where're we belong to the land was that great song from the Indian tradition you have come to move me take me from my ancient home land of my fathers I can't leave you now we will share it with you no man owns this Earth we [Music] wrong now the wheels are R now now the wheels are rolling hear them howling Winds of War it's my destiny to fight and die because they knew they were goingon to die is there no solution can we find no the way Lord let me stay and then the endless sky and the earth below here I was born to live and I will never go home anyway the uh I whenever I hear those words I always think of [Music] us too bad I'm wearing a lapel mic because there's a chauffer blast going on out probably couldn't hear it the so they so anyway they I think they bought Manhattan for like $25 or anyone know what the price was4 $24 and GL inass be really and I mean think how much Manhattan's worth today so why are we even talking about this in the middle of preparing for the first candle what bu Builders yeah so in in Psalms in to Hill and we'll be saying it during during Hal every day the Jewish people throughout all of history well at least Western history because the westerners are the builders they're the builders and we were the stone that they just like can't find where it fits in the walls so get get these people out of here you understand like to me the most amazing day of this of one of the most amazing days of my lifetime was October 8th October 8th was an amazing day because I never for a second never for a second think that the Gentiles don't hate us I never for a second think that we're anything but a wolf I'll never for a second think that we're anything but a sheep surrounded by 70 wolves there are a lot of wolves and sheep's clothing I'll leave them nameless there's a lot of wolves and sheep's clothing and even if they want to say they love us they love Israel and I see teeth coming out of a little sheep's little sheep mask you know and what yeah I mean with the exception of those who are have done the deeper work there are those who've done some deep work and they get who we are meaning meaning they've they've really gone to the bottom of the barrel of the vibrational the the vibrational tribal significance of who the Jewish people are like they've they got they got it there are people like that they're usually individuals as soon as it's a group there's some other agenda if it's a group of people like that smell a skunk smell is com so October 8th was an amazing confirmation for me meaning while the rest of the world was like oh my gosh like is that an actual protest in honor of the of this genocidal death cult called Palestinians like is that an actual protest in honor of them not the Jews who were who just had the massacre and the and they're still massacring people over the next few days like are they they're not saying death to zionists at the Opera House in Australia the the place that represents Western culture Opera Houses the Western culture and the Opera House house is the famous architectural Marvel of of Australia and it's like no they weren't saying death to zus you know what they were saying they were the protest was screaming gas gas the Jews the day after the massacre that's the Jew so to me that day was an amazing day it's like why don't we all just like take off our costumes and real and this is why you know when it says never forget what does it mean never forget I the whole you know the whole Holocaust thing was never forget what do it never forget never forget that they're never going to forget who you are never forget they're going to hate this Stone because there's nowhere it fits in their building you understand it just no matter every angle they try to place it it just doesn't fit there it's not part of their building they're the builders westernism is Builders they're from yafet y it's an expander how do you expand well just keep building out but eventually you got to start building up because you run out of rooms the end of Manhattan Island you know can only go up which is why Manon is probably the tallest city in the world the builders but there's one rock that they just can't place can't place that one rock you know what that rock will be at the end of days the Cornerstone the roena what's the Cornerstone Cornerstone is what holds up the whole damn thing because if you look at an arch you know the arch comes around and you know when it gets near the top you know when it gets it gets right near the top you put in that Cornerstone and that Cornerstone up at the top holds the whole Arch together everything's leaning into the Cornerstone it is the found the Hing once you put that Cornerstone in then you can take down all the scaffolding and all the braces and everything that was holding the arch just by you know having that Cornerstone in there and the Cornerstone is the is what's holding up the entire world but the thing is the cornerstone's holding up the entire world all the time all the time and that's why oh wait one more thing keep your question is that because you ask before that the um there are Gentiles out there who know who the Cornerstone is meaning people who've done like deep work they know who the Cornerstone is and we're the Cornerstone all the time the stone that the builders hated has become the Cornerstone which will be the end of days you know don't think for a second that God is not going to fulfill the prophecies that we're going to rise up to be the clear Cornerstone of the creation God's not going to negate those all negative protheses negative ones like you shall not do this or else those don't have to happen because we can do chuva we can like God doesn't have to fulfill those but anything God says will happen has to happen and the fact that we're going to rise up again as you know that that as of will fall as of the West that westernism will go down because remember Jacob and ASF we can't be up at the same time it's a polarity either westernism is up and the Jews are down even though we're the secret Cornerstone or the Jews are up actually being the Cornerstone so until we light tonight let us all go deep into our hearts and and say to ourselves like where's my rage let's say to ourselves where's my my unfounded liberalism by the way I'm an extremely liberal um person like in my own personal temperament I'm probably the most liberal person in this room because I can outdo anyone in liberalism which is why I've reached out to so many people all around the world is because I'm they people know right away I accept them I don't prove necessarily of their behavior but I accept them 100% because I have such a liberal temperament I I get that anyone even doing the wrong thing thinks he's doing the right thing at that moment you understand I'm very liberal like that he's doing the wrong thing I don't approve at all of what he's up to how you B approval and acceptance you don't have to you shouldn't actually you should have high standards of approval high standards of your meaning your own approval your own personal Behavior obviously for your spouse you're in charge of that as well and your children so a high standard of approval um also if you're in a community like in someone's like messing up the community by by introducing standards that are not what everyone moved there for you you have to stand up and say something you cannot sit down and watch your property value just tank because you're afraid to stand up for your community you must stand up and um and it's not just property value meaning the whole value system is getting lost it's just that you'll see what happens to the property value a little later I just try to scare people more about their own pocketbook because it's gonna it will be affecting your property value if you don't stand up when someone's taking your community down and the uh high standards of approval but your acceptance level like accepting an actual human being for who they are not what they do because approval is based on Behavior it's what they do whereas acceptance is who they are you understand I don't know what you do during the week I have no idea what any of you do but I know for sure if I were you I'd probably be doing the same thing so I 100% accept you I'm glad I'm me I'm me and I do something else but if I were you I'd be doing that so I realize that you're the doing is some expression of some being and if the doings off probably the being's off give you an example if someone believes that they're the holiest person in the world what's his doing going to look like what I don't mean holy compared to others I mean he just feels so holy if someone feels so holy what's his doing going to look like his doing is going to look like uh probably look a lot like you know like the like the what the Tor what the what the Jewish law says you should be doing that's what his doing is going to look like but what what about a person who believes he's a shaggus what about a person who believes he's like he's just a piece of garbage what's his doing going to look like what will his doing look like probably yeah it'll probably be junk food eating because doing you can video right can can you video being no can't video being but the guy feels like a piece of garbage so you'll probably notice uh he's easily coaxed into eating junk food he likely smokes probably abuses other things as well um a guy who thinks he's a piece of garbage probably let's say tries to keep shabas but he's probably when push comes to shove maybe he breaks it you know you understand like his doings going to be reflective so if I see someone who's off in some way of in his doing I mean he's not holding very high standards so I know immediately that it's because there's some loss of being in there there's some negative being there because no one would do that unless they of course didn't see themselves ESP special as holy as as a gift from God as as um as worthy of love as worthy of of care and trust and all the beautiful things of life if if he's busy doing that kind of stuff chances are the beings a little off well if the being's off meaning if he sees himself as a piece of garbage well what's going to be my relationship to someone who feels like a piece of garbage the answer is compassion to be feel deep compassion for him my likely move with my arm is not going to be to punch him in the nose it's going to be put my arm around him and see how I can fan the Flames of his being and you'll notice if you fan the Flames of the being of a person they're doing starts to shape up pretty quickly because if the if you if the Flames of the Beauty inside of every person which is your Nisha if you fan the flame of the Nisha in a person they're doing just like shapes up you don't even have to bring it up you don't have to mention doing you all you have to do is fan the Flames of the being what's that of the being well love is usually the best like real genuine authentic love and you love bomb them and and you know love bomb you give him a lot of love and and the uh generally what happens once you give them a lot of love is they feel safer oh by the way when I say love I shouldn't use the word bomb um imagine a guy walks in here all strung out you know which happens sometimes in this place you see a guy coming in all strung out he looks like he's doesn't even have pigment in his skin cuz his Skin's all white cuz he's probably been on video games and who knows what else and and uh God knows where that guy's been but they come in here all strung out like that and then you come along to love bom what's he going to do he's going to run so obviously when I say love bmam you have to channel it in a way that's something he can he just at this point he could probably handle about a trickle like a maybe a Shalom there was a guy in the mikah today he was just sitting there like this and the changer got dressed and it was just you see that guy anyway so I'm getting dressed and I'm thinking I could just leave this guy alone or I could ask if are you okay and I chose are you okay those were my words he looked up and had absolutely no clear recognition on his face that I had even said anything but I very clearly said are you okay to him and he was I could see he was english- speaking from his the shape of his facial muscles so anyway he didn't say anything he was shaking too yeah anyway um so little something are you okay so eye contact but what happens is if they see you're very careful with them very careful and the only thing they're allowing in is like what's that little hole right there and you're like and you're really careful with the Contours of that hole you'll see the next time you talk to them it's more like that there go if you just if they see you're honoring that they'll open to that when they see that's being honored too they just that next oh you're giving a hug and then what happens is there's a lot of trust there so now that now there's trust once there's trust they can start opening up now I promise you if you the guy opens up and you start talking to him he's going to tell you some story about how he was drop kicked by somebody someone just probably his father maybe it was his mother maybe it was a teacher maybe it was a kid but at some point in life he was just like and and I don't mean literally abused but something happened because I've met people who were raised in nature homeschooled in the forest not with Judaism although the one I met his mother was Jewish I've met people really nice nice what's his first name forgot do do his grandson cool cool anyway I met this kid and this kid was like so beautiful he was so beautiful he was learning Judaism for his first time here in Jerusalem such a beautiful guy and and you know when I know something though he made everyone uncomfortable because he didn't know you're supposed to look away when you talk to somebody you understand like he didn't know about this that you kind of give people a little space and take your own I don't know if you guys know this but you look away when let's say you're talking like face to face someone notice that you'll both look away you'll turn your head sometimes and look back you'll take your eyes away and look back because the the eyes are projecting they they're intimacy projectors intim projectors which all the more reason to keep your eyes down you know when when it's not appropriate to be going for eye contact with certain genders and because your your eyes are intimacy projectors and anyway but he cuz he grew up in the forest he didn't know you have to look away he just I had to explain to him like like I'm cool with it but you're freaking everyone else out you know like like people are not like they people are wondering what's your agenda you know like look away a little bit so he actually learned a little bit how to do it so people weren't uncomfortable with him he did my seminar he did the Poss seminar and we're talking 20 years back the he oh he because he was raised so pure when he learned Judaism he was at asur he became like a massive today's a r and yeah he became a massive instantly like one of the fast he moved through arim what was supposed to take five years he was done in three he was the star of Asia and and he today he's a RV somewhere and anyway so what happened was at his third year where he was like you know the you know the acient Tor cover boy he um he did the possible you and during the possible U I don't want to give you guys too much information in case you're going to come in January but the point in the possible U where I suggest you don't have to do it but I suggest that if you harmed anyone in your life that you should probably call them take responsibility for it that's all and what I mean by that you guys are thinking like harm someone like stole from them or like you know like us you punched them out or ripped them off or or embarrassed them or something not what I'm discussing at all what I'm talking about is is that your father mother reaching out to you in the way they reach out and you didn't let them my D yeah like you didn't let them Reach Out or your older sibling who was so good at everything he ever did you know everything he touched turned to gold or a younger sibling even worse and you just felt like nothing whenever you're with him so ever since you felt that way you've been avoiding him so there's a point where I suggest you don't have to do it but I suggest in the seminar that you that you um give him a call say hey bro you know it was the craziest thing that I was too young to realize I did this but you know when I was six I was like wait till I'm eight I'm going to show him but the problem is when I was eight you were 10 I was like wait till I'm 10 I was 10 then you're were 12 like wait till I'm 12 then you're were a bucker you're 14 like I could never catch up so at a certain point probably when I was around 11 12 I just shut my heart to you and you notice that I we have I haven't said more than one word answers to anything you've ever asked me since we were you know you know now they're in their 30s you know since we were kids I just haven't let you in my life at all and it just became a pattern and I never knew how to break out of it and I'm sorry I'm sorry and I love you and the brother's like wow and I've had many stories with the older brother who this kid thought he didn't need him you know and meaning he thought his older brother didn't need him the first time that I got someone to do this was you know going back a lot of years over 20 years the older brother burst out sobbing and he couldn't stop saying I didn't know what happened I didn't know what I said I didn't know what I did I didn't all I knew was my little my sweetest little brother that I waited so long for because it was all sisters and then he had a brother like this older brother had a bunch of sisters and then he had a little brother and that little brother was his life it was his life and then when his brother turned around 10 years old he just shut out the light he just turned off the relationship not trying to he just couldn't feel like a he was becoming a a man while having such a man in his life anyway the older brother just burst out sobbing anyway those kind of calls so guess what the one guy in the seminar who didn't make any of his calls one guy the seminer didn't do it was him was this guy his name's yier yair was the only one who didn't do anything and and I was shocked because he was like the best student in the room I was like why didn't you do it so he was like I'm GNA do it don't worry okay so he comes up to me and Yeshiva where you know an a he comes up to me he says I bought a ticket I said oh yeah where you going he says he says I'm going to about six different States including Hawaii and the reason I didn't do the talks in the seminar is because I'm going now to do them in person with all the people I have ever known meaning because his his parents got divorced so as his father was in Hawaii and his and then he had there was a stepmom that was over in Texas and then this one was in California Northern California in the forest where he grew up and he actually went and did in prison a was ready to kill me the guy disappeared for like 3 months it was planned that he was going to take full responsibility for the way he had decided he was going to survive his life as a kid with all these people in this family that break keeps seeming to split like an adom you know he was going to survive that by you know making some moves which were probably Independence and stuff which BR brought him to age probably and found and but he did all these conversations in person why are we why are we even discussing this I have no idea why are we talking about conversation in person oh eye contact let's bring it back and then we'll finish this session I contact uh intimacy see openings up someone's once it's open then you then they will open about a story of what they went through at which point you can say hey can we separate the story sorry can we separate what you went through from the story you made it mean about you that's a deep thing I'm saying I don't know if you'll be able to can we separate the circumstances can we separate what happen happened from the story you let it mean about you our interpretation our interpretation but it interpret but it's a an interpretation about me you understand if I get embarrassed in class because I forgot to zip my zipper and now I'm back in class you know fifth grade or something you know 11 years old and and of course someone in the class goes XYZ you know and I'm just like don't you know the circumstances was I forgot to unzip I forgot to zip my zipper but the story about me might have been loser you get that and then it's been the rest of my life trying to make sure no one ever sees me as a loser and meanwhile I'm ignoring my wife ignoring my kids why so I can keep up the payments on my Range Rover by being a total workaholic and now I'm 58 years old and I'll tell you if anyone's got their zipper down it's that guy what I mean by that is that is that he he never left the classroom he's still playing the same story from some stupid forgetting of a zipper one time with one idiot in the classroom who was just making fun which is what he did because what happened to him is he now makes fun you understand it's it's just stories bumping into stories bumping into stories these are just stories that people tell based on circumstances so if you so let's go back if you give him some love right little love he starts to trust because he sees you you honor his you honor his vessel how much he can receive starts to open it when he gets it open he starts to share once he starts to share starts to tell you some difficult stories once he tell those difficult stories you can now introduce well maybe maybe we ought to separate the circumstance from the story you let it mean about you and next thing you know his being starts to spark it starts to ignite there's a haneka candle there's a flame and there's a little flame there and and then others starting to Flame and there's a bit of a coal and you can start FL Fanning in the Flames till the blame gets bigger and bigger next thing you know he's AIC meaning his doing is reflecting the being because doing always reflects being garbage being like you know I'm I'm a loser is exhausting doing like trying to make the payments on my Range Rover while ignoring my most important people but empowered being which comes from the Nisha that's inside all of us that you fan the flame of a person Thea if that's the being well it leads to inspired doing now your doing is inspired and you want to know something if you have empowered being that leads to inspired doing guess what you will never ever be tired you mean physically tired you could be but you will you will never feel depleted exhausted again meaning every time anyone ever sees you they'll see you're just m much like the most motivated person in the world because being leads to doing and if the being's Eternal which is your being your being is eternal if you're connected to the Eternal being and you're able to negate all the stupid stories you've made about yourself over the years but you like you just live from being and fan that flame well then all you're doing is just coming from the infinite source of motivation which is the the being and being leads to doing well if your being's empowered your doing is going to be on fire right if you're on fire the doings on fire and that's why you'll notice some people never Tire just go ahead